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My 17 year old brother in law lives with me and my husband in our rented house during the school week because his parents moved into a different school district and he wanted to stay at his school. As a result I tend to have deal with teen boys all week. Well naturally I have no right to complain about this as he was already living here when me and my husband got married back in November and I am the newcomer. But my husband has a six year old daughter from a previous marriage (his first wife died in a house fire) and I wander about the negative influence teen boys can be on here.

The boys are all respectable for their age and don’t do things like drugs but you boys are boys and talk about things that I fear six year olds shouldn’t hear. My husband says its all reality and if she overhears she will just learn life lessons. He says she always occupied with her toys anyhow and isn’t interested. Tonight, since their is no school tomorrow (Good Friday) my bro in law has eight others staying over and they are staying in our attic. They have been hanging in the living room watching old movies and are loud. My stepdaughter has been in there with them, eating popcorn and soda too, and has since made comments on the film. The film has had women in swimsuits, blood scenes, and screams.

I told my husband I don’t think its a good film for her to see but he says if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t watch it. He said life is in there and we can only play mother hens for too long before she has to learn how life is and not suger coat.

Really my husbands point does make a little sense ot me but still I feel wrong about it in ways the whole thing? What do you all thing about this whole situation, teen boys hanging around with a little girl in the house, watching such a film with her in the room with them, and eating unhealthy snacks they do like pizza rolls and popcorn?
bada bing, me and my husband worked through all that. things still arent 100% back to normal but our marriage is surviving!

My 17 year old brother in law lives with me and my husband in our rented house during the school week because his parents moved into a different school district and he wanted to stay at his school. As a result I tend to have deal with teen boys all week. Well naturally I have no right to complain about this as he was already living here when me and my husband got married back in November and I am the newcomer. But my husband has a six year old daughter from a previous marriage (his first wife died in a house fire) and I wander about the negative influence teen boys can be on here.

The boys are all respectable for their age and don’t do things like drugs but you boys are boys and talk about things that I fear six year olds shouldn’t hear. My husband says its all reality and if she overhears she will just learn life lessons. He says she always occupied with her toys anyhow and isn’t interested. Tonight, since their is no school tomorrow (Good Friday) my bro in law has eight others staying over and they are staying in our attic. They have been hanging in the living room watching old movies and are loud. My stepdaughter has been in there with them, eating popcorn and soda too, and has since made comments on the film. The film has had women in swimsuits, blood scenes, and screams.

I told my husband I don’t think its a good film for her to see but he says if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t watch it. He said life is in there and we can only play mother hens for too long before she has to learn how life is and not suger coat.

Really my husbands point does make a little sense ot me but still I feel wrong about it in ways the whole thing? What do you all thing about this whole situation, teen boys hanging around with a little girl in the house, watching such a film with her in the room with them, and eating unhealthy snacks they do like pizza rolls and popcorn?
Yes, i asked this yesterday but deleted accidently trying to pick a best answer.

My wife and I have bee n married 10 years and she has a son who I’ve grown to despise he lays around all day and plays video games and does drugs and eats like he’s at a buffet and does no house work and when I confront him on it he finds his Mom grabs a nipple and I always end up the bad guy. I can’t stand him and am begining to feel that way about her what should I do.

OK, How can anyone say with a sound mind that they believe that this man Jose Luis is JESUS CHRIST??? He was featured on the CBS show called the INSIDER. “This self-proclaimed Son of God is a 60 year old former heroin addict and convict. The divorced father of 4 was born in Puerto Rico and now lives in South Florida with his second wife.”

Nowhere in the bible does it say that JESUS will come to earth in the form of some filthy, low life, money grubbing, erogant, drug & alcohol using scumbag! He literally has this whole community in south Florida graveling at his feet.

Would this ever be something that the real JESUS CHRIST would say “I don’t have one Rolex,” de Jesus Miranda said, “I have 3 because they want to give it to me. It’s like that woman that came to Jesus with the expensive perfume and put it on his feet. He didn’t reject it, so when someone gives me a watch or a gift, I receive it. I like them too, they’re nice”

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Chapter One
1968,Tommaso Buscetta stood in the court room with a sincere yet respectful grin on his face, as he was being burdened with queries about the Tom Hewitt murder case. Tommaso Buscetta was an average height man but a very stocky build. He had dusky olive coloured skin which was well suited to his greasy Black hair which strode finely down his polo shirt collars. Buscetta was wearing a navy Blue pinstripe suit made out of wool, with a golden chain hanging down his torso with a locket attached to it. The gold-silver plated contained a picture of his wife and youngest son who he loved dearly.
Tom Hewitt a New York prime newspaper publisher was murdered December 1962 just after peace had been made after the first mafia war-Which had been caused by the tension due to the missing Heroin shipment which was coming into America. The heroin was to be shared out between the families who had contributed their assets into a 3.5 million dollar drug deal with some Columbians producing and distributing narcotics in the Caribbean. The mafia families didn’t take kindly to their assets been lost and floating around in the Pacific Ocean. Most of the families who had been involved in the Heroin deal were either part of the Irish mob that had come to America to ensure they had retained profit from this deal for future events that their family would go through or the families were part of the notorious Cosa Nostra. Overall there were seven families involved in this deal and they had all lost their money because of some disturbance which had occurred on the Caribbean borders.
The war broke out in New York in 1961, it was the first ever mafia war to occur in America since the olive oil war( massacre of Caruli family in Brooklyn Olive factory)-rumoured to of happened because they had not paid payments they owed to the Bastani loan sharks which protected the Caruli empire for years.

I’m just going to do heroin and klonopin everyday til I die. I have nothing leave for I can’t get a wife, or even a gf, and I’ll never have kids. Is anyone else in my situation and doesn’t know what to do!??

his life after about 2 years because i moved away and traveled for my job and we are starting to see him now and I’m trying to get joint custody of him but i owe the mother back child support would they still look at me as a bad father if i was trying to get him back into my life and had a stable home and job ..and the mother is living off the government and she got arrested for heroin and child neglect with injury and the child was sexually abused while he was in foster care and they wouldn’t like me take my child because he was in wv and i was in tx i would have had to quit my job and move back up here and never would have found a job here or a house in that amount of time so he stayed in foster care for 7 months while she was in rehab just getting a slap on the wrist..so what do you think my chances are of getting joint custody I’m trying to make everything rite
and for the record for those of you that think i left my x for a nother women because im just a dead beat your wrong because I didn’t she was abusive to me mentaly and physicly and what was i suppost to do when all she ever did was fight with me infront of my child and leave me when he was 6 months old and went with a drug addict that i didn’t know about untill she went to jail for narcotics so there for im not the bad one and i have had it ruff the past 2 years every job is dead end she went to court stating i made 2700 a month when i was in texas and i was only making 1200 a month and they exspected me to pay her 500 a month so i dont know how that works but yeah!

we have three daughters together and our youngest is 4 years old. I’ve been clean for about 8 years and I haven’t really looked back on it, Heroin is good stuff and I’m not saying Im immune to it because I can easily fall back into that old habit but I choose not to for my kids. I never told my kids about my drug problems ever, I was planning on telling them when they were a little older. We haven’t gotten into an argument like that in front of the kids since we divorced 3 years ago, she said something and I said some things that weren’t exactly nice and she said really loudly “I liked you better when you were shooting up heroin, now you can’t blame your stupid decisions on being “high” I left as soon as she said that and when I went to pick my daughters up from school my oldest asked me if I did drugs when I was younger and I told her I did and I dropped it. In reality I wasn’t that young, I was 27 and she was 7 years old when I stopped. I’m suprised she didn’t remember her mom and I getting into it when I came home at 5 in the morning high out of my mind. I haven’t really explained to her the full details do you think i should? I kind of have to , she’s getting to that age where drugs are the “cool” thing to do and I don’t want her to go down the same road I did. what should I say, oh yeah I did drugs for 4 years straight and I only stopped because your mom threatened to never let me see you and your sister if i kept doing it?

In late 2006, I had my car breakdown, and the father of one of my friends said that he would pay for it. He told me I just needed to do some lawn work for his wife. A couple months later, after I had been doing lawn work for awhile, I had a girlfriend who lived in Virginia who had become pregnant. So I left my home here to go care for her. In the time that I was gone him and his wife divorced. Then when I came back I was told by her daughter that she was irritated I left so soon, but eventually that passed. I had even been over to the house numerous times and she never said anything about wanting me to do more lawn work or giving her any money. Now that her daughter is trying to jump out of a lease with us, because her mother got hooked onto heroin and other drugs, blew all of her money, then tried to kill herself; and we are no longer friends, her mother is trying to say that I owe her $450. There was never any mention that I would pay any money back for his assistance, and if there was I would have refused it.

In addition, the other night, after she was yelling at my pregnant wife, she brought it up and I told her I would pay it back, just to get her to leave us alone because she was upsetting my wife so much that she was having early contractions and shes only 7 months pregnant. I don’t think that matters at all, but my wife was worried.
Here’s the thing, I make $700 a month and am going to have to find a new home, while I have no money for a security deposit or rent. I was never asked to pay the money back until now, and HE paid for the parts, not HER and they’re DIVORCED now. She has had plenty of time to ask me to do more yard work or pay, seeing as I’ve been back in Florida for 9 months now and over to her house numerous times, including living with her daughter for the past 3 months. If I would have known they would be wanting the money back, I never would have accepted the help. I believe it’s not fair to tell me I dont have to pay, it’s all right, then later, demand the money. When it’s none of her business.

We split because I lied to her about having done drugs. It was casual use, and it was wrong. I’m not trying to justify my crime, but I didn’t spend the rent money on it. Since the split, I have gone to councelling, etc. There has been no further use, and there will be no future use. My wife and marriage are worth far too much to me. I was wrong to do it at all. I love her with all my heart and wish to reconcile very much. 7 months ago, I was served with a TPO for harassment. I found that when your spouse hangs up on you, and you call to ask why, it’s harassment. Because I cannot call, or communicate in any way with her, I have no idea whether she’s divorcing me, just needs time, hates me, or anything else. She also has all of my possessions. The TPO only allowed me 1 trip to our storage to get my things, but was already empty. I do not want a divorce. I have never been unfaithful, even during the split. I believe in her, but I’m not sure how to deal with this, emotionally or legally.

my wife left me because i had a drug problem that i needed help to overcome, i only asked her to love and support me the way i was always there for her. we have 6 kids and out of those 6 i know 1 isnt mine and i have doubts about another, but i never condemned her i stood by her through everything, all i needed was the same from her,but what she said and what she did were 2 different things,but i still love her ,during thanksgiving i visited her and my kids, and she told me how sorry she was, and that she loves me and that she wanted to work it out ,and we ended up in bed that night, well i had to come back 2 reno 2 wrap up loose ends, and after i gave up everything and was leaving, she called and said she changed her mind,and hasnt talked to me since what should i do?

how do i celebrate?.. fattening breakfast at the cafe?.. $1,000 tattoo?.. mid-day binge drinking?.. suggestions?.. suggestions?..

by the way, i took the day off work so i could go to the closing… i just wanted all of you who are working right now to know that…

I’m going back to school for my bachelor’s degree.. my first choice is in Criminal Justice and want it to lead to CSI. I’ve always wanted to be in Law enforcement (following my father) but I was a little wild in my youth and made some mistakes (3 DWI’s back to back, the third is considered a felony.. this was 15 years ago).

Can I still become a CSI with out becoming a police officer and applying from w/in?

Now before you judge me to quickly.. please consider my felony was 15 years ago, I’m all grown up now, I don’t drink or even smoke and haven’t in a very long time (pretty close to just after that 3ed DWI). I’m also married and own my home. I consider my self a very responsible, honest and caring person.

So please don’t just post a big fat “NO” and dismiss me so quickly. Really just trying to make a big life decision…

Stuff to add: I have my license to carry firearms, I’ve considered the Army but my wife isn’t to keen on the idea

-thanks in advance =)
I can’t have a Mass felony expunged.. but I can have it sealed, I know sealing it wouldn’t help to become a police officer but do they dig just as deep for something like CSI?

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Also during this time she was using my car which i gave her money to make payments and buy gas so she could come visit and drive our daughter places. But of course she used the money for something else (going out to the bars) and i had to make the payments again myself.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before.

Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Should I invite her into the tavern and buy her a beer? I think she is getting bored sitting in the parking lot.

I made a wish this year – not a resolution, but just a wish. I asked god if he could find me a wife.

The problem is, I’m unsure what a wife or a potential wife would want from me. I’m 45, a little overweight, a recovering alcoholic and have had lots of girlfriends in my life. I wanted to marry the last one, but I screwed it all up by drinking and cheating on her. I never want to go back there again.

I’ve never been married before, and find alot of women are looking for a second or third husband and think that there is something wrong with me.

I did start a multi-million dollar software company, which failed in 2003, but I’m trying again. (I started it in 1987 when i got sober the first time)

What do you think is wrong with this picture. Do you think I’d never find a wife? That’s what I want most from life.

What can I do to make myself attractive enough so that some woman that I’m equally attracted to will marry me?

My wife, who I am separated from and divorcing. Is in rehab for alcoholism and will be going to jail for 3 months after completion of rehab. Over the past year and a half she has cheated with 2 or more different guys, lost 2 very high paying jobs, totaled 2 cars, rammed her vehicle into my vehicle, driven drunk with my son, crashed a truck into my new apartment, attempted suicide, and…and… and….. Anyway, she has been gone for almost a month and my son who is almost 3 is more and more frequently asking where his mommy is. I have been telling him mommy is at work but I think he’s has figured out that people that go to work eventually come home. I don’t think he believes me anymore. I know he’s only 2 but I really feel like he knows im lying. What should I tell him? Is “mommy is at work” an acceptable answer or am I doing more harm than good?

It just came out 3 years later. In 1999 I suffered a head on collision with 18 wheeler due to narcolepsy. After years of rehabilitation I got addicted with pain medication. Well when I was released I was already hooked and started on hard drugs and pharmaceuticals . I had severe head trauma and not to make it a cop out and excuse for what happened. I have been to 3 sleep therapies and EEG and nothing could be found. I have also been prescribed Mirapex for RLS and Lexapro. I am also prescribed xanax, somas, and hydrocodone. When the alleged incident happened I was asleep and according to my wife I have sex with her while I was sleeping so the children do not sleep with us…after some research I may have sexsomnia which is a parasomnia which I suffer the majority of the symptoms. I take my medication at night and do not recall any of the events that have happened. She said I raped her, bathed her, and dressed her. She is about 200 lbs and would have been to practically impossible for to not notice. While I was sleeping she stole some of my xanax which she is saying I gave her. Now here background is not so clean. She was on drugs and also dates older men which is illegal. I am terrified because I know that I did not rape her. Our family had communication with here and up till recently she babysat our daughter and would come visit. Now that I get arrested she is not going to sign an affidavit
that nothing happened but she added more things that could not have been possible. When it happened she was coerced by her then boyfriend. I am terrified. I am happily married, have a good job, and a 2 and 6 girl. Also since after my wreck is when I started using drugs and about to enter drug treatment and possible psychiatric help. I want my wife to enter but she refuses and I know it may help my case. Also sex toys were found when I woke up and believe she used them. DNA was taken and after 3 years then arrest me. I don’t have any evidence until arraignment. I am afraid that I may get many years. Also a little background on me, after starting drugs I have been arrested on drug and theft charges, but nothing violent. The bondsman said that if she would sign an affidavit stating that I did not commit the crime that it may be reduced or dropped. I need some advice or criticism. But since my daughters were born and got married I calmed down alot other than the occasional meds which I want to quit. Please give me some advice.