How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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i’m 16 years old.
my dad used to drink and use drugs for about 40 years.
until recently he started going to aa (alcoholics anonymous).
he has been sober for about 2 1/2 years now.
everything with him is going pretty good..
except that my mom does drugs and drinks too.
every time she starts acting weird, me and my dad assume that she is on something. (it’s kind of obvious)
she used to do meth with my dad, but now that my dad is clean, we think that she is hiding it.
my dad is extremely stressed about this because he doesn’t want to go back, and he doesn’t want to see his wife like this.
he just wants to be happy.
also, my mom doesn’t work,
for about 10 years, she has been saying that she’s going to get a job, but she never does.
my dad is supporting her cigarette habits and is paying her child support. (i don’t know why)
my dad is just about done.
he wants a divorce but is scared that it might just make it worse.
we, my dad and i, both don’t know what to do.
i’m serious, please help.
also, i’m doing very well in school right now and don’t plan on doing drugs or drinking.
another this is that we have told my mom MANY times.
she always runs away from her problems.

also, her parents died when she was 12, so that might have something to do with it.
she doesn’t have much family to live with if my dad was to divorce her.

and i have absolutely no money, seriously.
my dad either.
he can barely pay our rent and the electricity.
i don’t have a job because i work my butt off at school.

Sorry…this is WAY long.

My wife and I are working through her long term affair with an ex-boyfriend and I have to thank YA responders for helping me while I figured out what was going on during her frequent business trips. I’m admittedly clueless about relationships because I’ve always been focused on jobs, education, and most recently starting my own business. I’m madly in love with my wife and won’t consider leaving her…no matter what a few responders suggested. Since we had the big talk where she admitted to the affair, we’ve been talking about it, and our relationship, every chance we get. We promised to put everything on the table…leaving nothing out…and it’s been enlightening to say the least. We’re both super busy, but we set aside Wednesday and Sunday nights for talking…about anything we want. She didn’t say anything at first, but it’s coming out that my lack of focus on her was a bigger deal than I knew. She knew I loved her, but I was neglecting her too…especially when I was starting my business about five years ago. The hours have been long and vacations non-existent, and looking back I can see her point. But I didn’t have a clue until she told me. As open as we’ve been, most of the talk has been serious and we’ve even danced around a few issues. Saturdays are “date night”, where we toally ignore the affair and serious talk and just have fun. She recently worked her butt off getting back in shape and has a whole new wardrobe to show off the results so she’s really loving these nights out. We laugh and cut up more than we’ve done in years and it’s definitely having a positive impact on both of us. I think the date nights are almost as important as the communication on other nights. We get drunk enough that we’re having the wildest, most uninhibited sex of our marriage when we get home. She’s looking hotter than ever when she’s out having fun like that, and I’m looking at her compleltely different…sexually speaking. The pillow talk on those nights has gotten decidedly close to her giving out personal details of what happened on her trips. I haven’t asked for that level of honesty yet, but in the heat of the moment we’ve both been teasingly risque about what she did. That only happens after our dates and we’re both slightly intoxicated. Are we on dangerous ground with that, or is it a good way to satisfy my curiosity without being accusatory?
donotbuy got a thumbs down for it, but she seems to understand more about us than most. Almost everyone is giving me a lot to think about though. It IS dangerous ground when you start delving into the sordid details, but aren’t we all curious to know…IF we keep our heads about it anyway.

My wife and I met in High School and “dated” for 8 years before getting married, and have been married 13 years.We have 2 kids in elementary school. We are both under 40 years old. My wife stayed home through the birth of our kids and then shortly after my second child, she decided to go back to school for her Masters degree, I helped out in every way I could while she went to school, I worked nights and took care of the kids during the day. This strained our relationship severely, but it was already not healthy. I feel my wife could be a “rageaholic” (she comes from an alcoholic family, as do I) and I had been dealing with alcoholism myself which seemed to get worse. Until now, I quit drinking 1 1/2 mos. ago. I don’t think I ever really “loved” my wife, and I think we’re in denial about WHY we married and whether or not we’re even in love. She said we should stay together “for the kids”, but I think this is not the best way. I hope someone has some insight or a story to share.
Schwinn…no girlfriend
Infritsk…I never said I was looking for another relationship
Janetrmi….My wife is religious, I am not
Sandie….What about her anger….that is still there, and she has made no apparent effort to resolve this issue
Paul M…What you say is basically what the book, Too Good to leave, Too bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum states, and I read the book cover to cover.
We have tried counseling several times and she never likes the therapists, I think she doesnt like hearing what they have to say.
In addition to all I’ve said already, I also do not get the feeling she really cares about me, unless she has a vested interest in the situation.

I am an IT professional and speak perfect Spanish. My wife and I have fallen in love with Spain and we are now interested in moving there, at least for a few years. How could I go about finding a GOOD professional job over there? I have read that prior to moving there, we must obtain work permits from the Spanish embassy/consulate. In order to obtain a work permit, we must present a criminal record of the country we’ve lived in, which is the US. I have had 2 DUI/DWI in the past 8 years and have a few speeding tickets…. all my other records are PERFECT! No felonies either! Will I be denied a work permit based on the DUIs/DWIs on my record? Thanks.
I’m coming from the USA (DC area) I’m currently working in IT/.NET and I’ve heard there is still demand for that profession over there. I do agree the economy is not good though. I’m planning to move there within the next 2-5 years. We’ll see. I have not yet been convicted on the 2nd DUI… hopefully it will be dismissed, but don’t know yet. I’m just concerned about having these ‘stains’ on my record… I’m clean everywhere else. Perfect credit, etc. Any ideas/suggestions will be highly appreciated. Thanks!
I have dual citizenship, US and Salvadoran

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