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I’m talking about Frankie Lymon if you’ve ever seen the movie “Why do fools Fall In Love” or heard the song in the 50′s.I heard that Frankie Lymon got into heroin at the age of 15 in 1957 he was introduced to it by a 40 year old woman and he even liked older women that were like 25.When he was 14 in 1956 he started sleeping with Zola Taylor who was 18 at the time,why would an 18 year old sleep with a 14 year old.The other boys in “The teenagers” the group he was in didn’t do that stuff they were being normal teen boys Frankie was the only messed up one and he was the youngest in the group and they kicked him out.In 1961 he met Elizabeth Waters an 18 year old who got married at age 16 to a guy had a child being raised by her parents never divorced and in 1964 they married but soon separated cause of drug problems then he married Zola Taylor in 1965 but soon separated then he was drafted into the army and in 1967 he married his third wife Emira Eagle in Augusta Georgia and their relationship was good.
The movie was based on a true story it is infact true with some stuff altered!
Back then you became an Adult at 21 in the 1950′s

Think of these two movies:
The Notebook
And coming soon; ‘Its complicated’ (meryl streep, alec baldwin, steve martin)

In the notebook, that married woman finds that her ex-lover or whatever is back and he rebuilt a house…so she goes on a hormonal binge and makes out with her ex lover and they end up having sex. and what do women say? “awwww thats so cute”…hm, seems to me that if the roles were reversed and a man cheated on his wife (yes i know it does happen in other films but this film is based on the idea of that being sweet and touching) im sure women would be furious.

and now this new movie ‘Its Complicated’, coming out this christmas, deals with a divorced couple and the woman has remarried, she ends up sleeping with her ex and having an affair with him and its supposed to be a comedy? what is up with that? many marriages and families have been ripped apart because of unfaithful spouses and were supposed to just laugh it off because its a woman?

is this the trend of the times? or am i thinking into it too hard?

I grew up in the wild and hairy 70′s in which women celebrated the bushines of their beavers. Today the women I sleep with are uniformly shaven or adorned with either a pubic landing strip or a gross imitation of a Hitler moustache. Even my wife, who has a splendid expanse of lush, dark pubic hair, insists on shaving it to the root. I find the unshaved pudendum to be objectionable because it evokes visions of immature development. I am sorry, but when I think of a woman, I think of a nice, hairy, juicy pudendum. I do not think of a farcical parody of a ten year old schoolgirl. Are there any men out there today who can side with me?

Before my wife and I get busy, I like to have a couple of drinks. To me it makes sex more intense and inhibitions are lower. Of course, like most women my wife takes everything personal. She thinks I have to drink so that I can make myself have sex with her. That is not the case at all. It is so far from the truth. So my question is, does anyone else’s husbands like to have sex while moderately intoxicated? Do you? I personally think there is no other way. What say you drunken married women?
I need a woman’s perspective.

I’ve always been curious. My wife has limited exposure to the many men’s colongnes. I want to find one that a lot of women think is sexually intoxicating.

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

his life after about 2 years because i moved away and traveled for my job and we are starting to see him now and I’m trying to get joint custody of him but i owe the mother back child support would they still look at me as a bad father if i was trying to get him back into my life and had a stable home and job ..and the mother is living off the government and she got arrested for heroin and child neglect with injury and the child was sexually abused while he was in foster care and they wouldn’t like me take my child because he was in wv and i was in tx i would have had to quit my job and move back up here and never would have found a job here or a house in that amount of time so he stayed in foster care for 7 months while she was in rehab just getting a slap on the wrist..so what do you think my chances are of getting joint custody I’m trying to make everything rite
and for the record for those of you that think i left my x for a nother women because im just a dead beat your wrong because I didn’t she was abusive to me mentaly and physicly and what was i suppost to do when all she ever did was fight with me infront of my child and leave me when he was 6 months old and went with a drug addict that i didn’t know about untill she went to jail for narcotics so there for im not the bad one and i have had it ruff the past 2 years every job is dead end she went to court stating i made 2700 a month when i was in texas and i was only making 1200 a month and they exspected me to pay her 500 a month so i dont know how that works but yeah!

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

I dated my wife for a year before she became pregnant. She was a young, hot, 105 lb cheerleader when I met her. Naturally after our first child she put on alot of weight. It happens. We had another child and she gained more weight. Never really bothered me. I love her very much, and although we have had our struggles and have very different personalities we have a pretty good relationship.

However in the last year or 2 (which would be many years after having children so that is no longer a viable excuse), she has gained an enormous amount of weight. She weighs more than I do now. It is entirely her fault because she refuses to exercise and will not give up the baked goods and soda (which she binges on). Obesity and heart disease runs in her family, (especially her mother) and I feel like she is on a fast track to just that. I am more worried for her health, self esteem, and quality of life than anything.

However what makes it a little worse is that I have become gradually better looking and getting in better shape since the day we met, while she has gone the complete opposite. I’m a bit of a nutrition and fitness freak, and I have tried literally every approach to involve her and get her motivated. I’ve even broken down and told her that I NEED her to be a part of my hobby because I have no workout partners and I just want to spend time with her more than anything…still nothing. I’ve tried cooking healthy for her, I’ve tried being nice and upping her self esteem telling her she looks great, and I’ve also tried the polar opposite which neither made her budge. I want HER to be happy more than anything and I know she is not happy with herself, yet she chooses to do nothing about it. This brings me to my next issue. The fact that she is basically turning into her mother, who to the extreme has no regard for her own health, is what has lowered my attraction to her. This makes sex completely undesireable for me.

I have 3 options now:

1.force myself somehow to change my feelings about the situation and just have not so good sex with her for the rest of my life or until she somehow miraculously decides to change.

2.look at porn, which I have been doing because it does keep me from choosing option 3 to an extent, although I feel like I am addicted to it and I’d rather not look at all.

3.I have been bartending for years @ nightclubs and on a weekly basis have very attractive women give me their numbers or invite me home with them, and believe it or not even after everything I have NEVER cheated. But I fear that the longer my marriage goes on like this, I could give in to this option.

So how do I stop the porn AND avoid option 3?!?!?
Yeah its def not baby fat, that was 5 years ago. She gained about 60lbs, 30 of it being in the last year or so. I’m worried for her health. Physically I was never turned off by her weight, its only now because of her mentality that she will not change anything, i have no respect for that.

Yes I am married with kids and I bartend at a nightclub, but this is my career that I have been doing for years and I have never strayed. I also do contract work but the economy is not so good right now and I have to do what I have to do to support my family. And you ask me what I’m doing with my brain? I’m what some people might call a muscle geek. I build computers and play video games, I teach music lessons, there is actually ALOT that I do thank you. Healthy eating/exercise is just a passion of mine because it’s something that completely changes the way you live and experience life and something I think EVERYONE should experience. So it hurts when I know the person I love most wont.

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

My question is, since I can’t seem to meet anyone by telling the truth, should I just lie about my alcoholism?

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve been going to meetings for 3 years but I have still yet to find a single close friend. Lots of people know my name, but I’ve never been invited to a party or asked out for coffee.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

My question is, since I can’t seem to meet anyone by telling the truth, should I just lie about my alcoholism?

Peace officers are a noble breed, daily risking their lives to protect and serve the rest of us. They are what separate the evil of the lawless from us.
Two weeks ago on a dark, cool misty Texas night, Needville, Texas, Independent School District Chief of Police Ernie Mendoza, was coming home from his job. He had been supervising a basketball game at one of the local schools. As chief of police of Needville Independent School District, it was his job to protect students during school and during events.

However, on the same road was 29-year-old construction worker Guillermo Paniagua. Guillermo was drunk and driving his pickup truck. He was headed toward the chief’s car. And within moments Gulliermo’s truck crossed the center stripe of the road, slammed head first into the chief of police’s vehicle. The crash instantly killed this dedicated police chief.

The chief had devoted 25 years of his life as one of Texas’s lawmen. It was something that meant a lot to him. He was proud to serve his country as a peace officer. He was a 1983 graduate of the Waco Police Department where he worked in this small central Texas town.

Then he moved on to the big city of Houston, Texas, where he worked with the Houston Independent School District Police Department, one of the Nation’s largest school districts. And then in 1996 he accepted the position with the Needville ISD Police Department where he became chief of police.

ISD police officers have the responsibility to protect children and teachers while they are in school. They maintain law and order and discipline. They keep the kids safe from day to day. And Chief Mendoza was one of the best. He strived to be a positive role model for the kids he protected, and he made peace officers look good.

He took the time to talk to kids and was well liked throughout the school. But it all ended a mile from his own home and the indifference of a drunk driver. Like most drunk drivers, Guillermo had only minor cuts and bruises. He was not injured. But those bruises did not keep him, the coward, the killer, from running from the scene in the darkness of the night.

He was quickly captured by the Wharton County, Texas Sheriff’s Department, and now he faces first-degree felony murder charges, and failure to stop and render aid.

You see, when you drink and drive and kill somebody, that is a felony, as it ought to be. Chief Mendoza’s wife and four children are now deprived of

their husband, and father for the rest of their lives. The kids of the Needville school system have lost a good protector.
But this was not Guillermo’s first rodeo. You see, he has a total of four intoxication convictions in the United States, two in Texas and two in Georgia. In Texas he was given probation for a DWI, but that was revoked when he was rearrested. And then when he got that second DWI, he only spent 3 days in jail and got 18 months probation and his license was suspended.

This drunk should never have been given his driver’s license back at all. His four DWI convictions proved that the system is not holding him accountable for being a drunk driver.

But the most disturbing thing about Guillermo Paniagua is he is illegally in this country. So why is he still here? How did he get a driver’s license in the first place? Why was his immigration status not checked by the police officers each and every time he was picked up for drunk driving? He should have been deported the first time he was arrested.

Police Chief Ernie Mendoza was killed at the hands of an illegal, a drunk driver. And this could have all been prevented. He and his family have become more victims of the U.S.’s inability to secure the border and protect its citizens.

Chief Mendoza was a real person. The Needville ISD and the great State of Texas have lost a fine lawman. And the casualty list continues to mount in the U.S. by those lawless insurgents who are illegally occupying our land.

This government should be as concerned about the homeland casualties as it is about those casualties killed in lands far, far away, or there will be more Chief Mendozas killed.
sorry lose. since I know you will attack a type.

How do you tell a wife that her husband is a monster and goes on EF tours to get drunk and sexually harrass women? This is an AP European History teacher that takes kids on tours to get drunk and make sure they see as little as possible. How do you tell his wife without letting the monster know it was you that told her- he’s that scary.

My husbands ex-wife has just had a baby and was addicted to meth. Will she lose that baby, and my husband has 2 other children with her that he has custody of she gets them every other weekend will she lose them to.

I was looking up at her, struggling to understand what was happening. Her mouth was moving but I couldn’t hear . . . the noise was loud . . . so loud. She was pretty, with blonde hair loosely pulled back from her face. I could see directly into her eyes which were clouded with concern. She lifted my head up, her hands cool to the touch . . . bent down to meet me, and spoke directly into my ear. “You’re going to be fine. I’m going to put these headphones on you now to muffle the sound. You’re in a helicopter . . . stay with us . . .” I then felt the jostling as we were lifted up to the sky. That is the last thing I remember before my world turned to black.

It’s been three years and I’m still here! In remembering that Saturday morning I continue to be amazed. My symptoms had in no way sent out warning signals of an impending heart attack. I was just tired . . . ! I had been working a lot so it was perfectly explainable fatigue. My upper arms ached a little bit, but again, explainable, and nothing that a nice hot shower couldn’t cure.

I am an interior designer and had been installing furniture in a model home that week, so my “symptoms” all made perfect sense. They made perfect sense to me, that is, until about 4:00 A.M., Saturday morning, when I woke up from a sound sleep for no apparent reason. Within minutes I became nauseous, short of breath, and was sweating profusely. I knew that I was in it . . .I just didn’t know what “it” was! I was young, healthy, never had any chest pain, jaw or neck pain, no pain shooting down my left arm . . . even still, I knew that I was in real trouble, as in call 911 kind of trouble. It all happened so fast. Seemingly, without warning, I had entered into a world of terms and conditions that were foreign to me. Terms like LAD and RCA, angioplasty, septic shock and stents . . . words I knew existed, but for someone else. Certainly not for me.

Because life’s biggest changes rarely give us an advance warning, I was caught unprepared in knowing how to react. In the days and months that followed, I experienced a myriad of feelings. I felt thankful . . . to God for answering the multitude of “beggy” prayers that had been offered up on my behalf . . .to my care givers whose compassion and giving hearts were such a gift . . . to my ‘never-say-uncle’ family and friends who held vigil by my bedside for days, refusing to give up on me. Yes. . . thankful, fearful, hopeful, wanting answers, NOT wanting answers . . . often engulfed in waves of anxiety and fear. Thankful I had seemingly beaten the odds, but angry that I was now included in a statistical bank I never asked to be a part of in the first place!

Though I didn’t realize it at the time, the roller coaster ride of emotions I was experiencing was very common. My life had been interrupted, my innocence stripped away, I had been forced to suddenly come face to face with my own mortality . . . and mourn the loss of my health!

I am well aware that I am not the only one who has experienced a life altering, totally unexpected event in their life . . . but when it is you going through it, right or wrong, you feel very alone. In reality, my heart attack affected not only me, but family and friends alike. They too had been traumatized. Each of us had to find our own path, in our own time, that would take us to a place of understanding and acceptance of what had happened!

I completed a cardiac rehabilitation program and received a bright red T-shirt which announced to the world that I had indeed stayed the course. Most days, pen in hand, I transferred my inner most thoughts into my red leather journal. I poured onto those tear stained pages my feelings of gratitude along with fears and frustrations, all the while praying that I didn’t die before destroying the evidence that I had so nakedly revealed. I searched unsuccessfully for articles from people who had undergone a similar experience to mine . . . looking for reassurances that I would be able to regain my life, that the feelings I was experiencing were normal, and that no, . . . I wasn’t going crazy. I was on a perpetual quest for answers. As a ‘surviver’ I wanted to know why I was still here? What was my purpose?

I once read that when we need it the most, God’s grace will come to us like tiny stitches in torn fabric. In March of 2005, nine months after my heart attack, there was, splashed across the front page of newspapers around the World, the controversial details of the Terri Schindler-Schaivo case. All were asking the same question. Should they, or should they not remove her life sustaining feeding tube. The Schindler family had been locked in a decade plus long legal battle with their son-in-law over the care and custody of their then, 41 year old daughter. Terri had suffered massive brain damage when she suddenly, at the young age of 26, collapsed at her home from what was described as a mysterious cardio-respiratory arrest for which no cause was ever determined. She was not on life support, she was not brain dead, but she was in a severe vegetative state from which, according to most doctors, she more than likely would not recover. Opinion polls were being taken. Individuals as well as special interest groups and religious organizations were getting involved, demanding that their voices be heard. It seemed to be the number one topic around water coolers across this country, and elsewhere. Conservatives and liberals alike were impassioned, taking staunch, unwavering positions.

I was vacillating back and forth between the parents views and the husbands position. That is until I happened to read what later proved to be, for me, life changing words from a newspaper interview with Rick Warren, author of the book, ‘The Purpose Driven Life’. When asked his opinion on the Terri Schiavo case Rick Warren answered without hesitation. “The answer for me is clear,” he said. “I am firmly against the removal of the tube. God put each of us here for a purpose, and that includes Terri Schiavo. We may never know or understand what her purpose is, but she has one. We all do. We are all necessary pieces of God’s very large puzzle coming together in order to complete his plan. It’s not about us . . . it’s about him.”

That March day was life changing for me. After so much searching I felt I had finally found the answer I had been looking for. It was alright if I didn’t know my specific purpose in life, or how my ‘piece’ would eventually fit into God’s overall puzzle. The self inflicted burden of responsibility I had been dragging around for so long was suddenly being lifted. What a tremendous feeling of relief!

It has been over two years since I happened upon that interview. Since then I have continued to make strides in regaining control of my life, no longer feeling like a victim. I view my heart attack as “a very significant event in my life”, but no longer allow it to be the “main event.”

Do I have the luxury of assuming that a headache is just a headache? That muscular aches, nausea or fatigue are just that, nothing more? Unfortunately no, . . . and the reality is that I probably never will again. But today I’m happy, healthy, and would like to think much wiser than I was three years ago. Many of the things I once felt were important aren’t . . . and vice versa. I don’t forget to tell the people I love, that I love them, and I do remember to thank God for each new day. I have learned how to not say yes when I want to say no, and I burn the designer candles and drink from the good crystal whenever I want! All of these are benefits I’ve awarded myself through age and the sum of my experiences . . . all of them.

The issues surrounding women with heart disease is very REAL. Sobering statistics have shown that one in three women will die from cardiovascular disease. Because their symptoms present themselves so differently, and so often go undetected, more women will die from heart related problems than from the next seven leading causes of death combined. I, like so many other women, had heard these statistics in the past, but obviously had never “HEARD” them!

Thankfully, great strides and many successes, have recently been made by the American Heart Association in an effort to significantly reduce disablity and death from cardiovascular disease. Our legislative leaders, most of which have been personally touched by this issue . . . either through a wife, mom, sister, daughter or friend . . . are now standing together and agreeing that heart disease research, prevention, and treatment for women needs to be a top priority!

THE FAILURE OF THE MACHINERY OF GOVERNMENT

 

TO CURB ATROCITIES AGAINST WOMEN

 

                                                                                     –By—

                                                                            K.Akshay kumar,

                                                                            L.L.M,

                                                                            ML(FS&CM),

                                                                            NALSAR & IIRM.

“Hunger is not just malnutrition. Hunger is rape,molestation,alcoholism,dowry,female infanticide and foetacide”

 

                                                            –Mohini Giri

                                                               Former chairperson of national                           

                                                               Commission for women.

 

At a time when Andhra Pradesh ,and Hyderabad in particular, is attracting hundreds of women software professionals from all over the country, the state has earned the dubious distinction for crime against the fair sex.

 

The latest statistics of the national crime records bureau(NCRB) for 2007 reveals a telling tale of increasing crimes against women in the state, much more than any other part of the country. Of the 1,85,312 crimes against women in the entire country in 2007, 24,738 cases, or 13.3 percent, were reported from Andhra Pradesh.

 

Even more disturbing is the statistics pertaining to Hyderabad and its outskirts. A comparison of crimes against women in 35 cities across the country shows that Hyderabad stands second,next only to delhi. While 4,331 cases (17.5 percent) were registered in delhi, Hyderabad came second with 1,931 cases (7.8 percent). Vijaywada topped in the number of eve-teasing cases by accounting for 11.3 percent of the total cases in the country.

 

“ if the police is strict in dealing with the offenders, things would not have come to such a pass. One of the reasons why there are more crimes against women is that law enforcers do not deal with the offenders firmly”,says  G. Sucharitha, joint director,gender programming, centre for world solidarity.

 

Interestingly, Andhra Pradesh , which has 7.2 percent of the country’s population has reported 13.3 percent of cases of crimes against women while uttarpradesh, which has 16.6 percent of the country’s population, reported 11.3 percent or 20,993 cases.

 

According to NCRB  figures, crimes against women in general in the country have been increasing every year. In 2003, there were 1,40,601 cases, in 2004- 1,54,333 cases, in 2005- 1,55,553 cases and in 2006 there were 1,64,765 cases.

 

Another disturbing trend is that the rate of crime has increased against women. While the overall, rate of crimes against women increased marginally from 14.7 percent in 2006 to 16.3 percent in 2007 , for Andhra Pradesh in particular , it has been bad.

 

The crime rate against women increased by 30.3 in Andhra Pradesh, which is almost that of tripura at 30.7 percent which is at the top.

“women in andhra Pradesh feel unsafe because the government is also not sincere in ensuring their protection” said women’s rights activist Noorjehan siddiqui.

 

What made situation more difficult in Andhra Pradesh was the fact that the Andhra Pradesh womens commission has been without a chairperson since she was caught on camera, in September 2007, allegedly demanding a bribe of Rs.50,000 to help a women victim.

 

In 2007, Andhra Pradesh had the dubious distinction of being ranked fourth worst with respect to atrocities against dalits. According to the NCRB, 3,383 cases were reported in this state of which 46 were cases of murder and 105 were rape cases.

 

According to statistics published by some newspapers about the criminal attacks, husband and in-laws harassment and other tpes of violence those took place in five states during 2007 year. Especially Andhra Pradesh has occupied number one rank in harassment on women. I produce these published statistics.

 

 

 

According to the report published by the NCRB during the year2007 cases registered on:-

 

(1) Dowry deaths:

 

Uttar Pradesh state-2076; bihar-1172;Madhya Pradesh-742;Andhra Pradesh state-613.

 

(2) Kidnapping:

 

Uttar Pradesh – 4478; bihar – 2530; rajasthan – 2177;

Andhra Pradesh – 2097.

 

(3) Immoral behaviour:

 

Madhya Pradesh – 6772; Andhra Pradesh – 4406.

 

(4) husband and in-laws harassment:

 

Andhra Pradesh – 11,335; Bengal – 9900; Rajasthan – 8170;

 Uttar Pradesh – 7650; maharashtra – 7356.

 

(5) Sexual harassment:

 

Uttar Pradesh – 2714; Andhra Pradesh – 2411; maharashtra – 984; Tamil nadu – 852; Madhya Pradesh – 762.

 

The total number of cases on violence subjected to women during the year 2007 in five states are 79,147.

 

Apart from this regular crimes on women such as sexual harassment, husband and in-laws harassment, immoral behavior, dowry death, rape,molestation,kidnapping and abduction, new crime known as acid attacks on women are on rise these days. “The reason for the rise of acid attacks may be sexual jealousy, faction fights, dowry harassment, rejection of love or marriage proposal” as told by chairperson of state human rights commission B. Subhashan Reddy and member E. Ismail , said acid attacks had become rampant and in most cases the victims were women.

 

Taking the statistics in Andhra Pradesh with respect to brutal violence on women as per computer search and reports in news paper:

 

(1) On 29-10-1999 one by name subhani attacked a lady student by name prasanna laxmi of J.J.C college of guntur and separated her head using sharp knife in her classroom for refusal to accept his love. He was imprisoned for life.

(2) On 21-6-2004 in vijaywada one by name manohar killed srilaxmi in  her classroom for the same reason. She was doing her MCA.

(3) On 10-8-2005 in karimnagar one by name madhu killed a 7 th class student mamatha by giving poison  for her refusal.

(4) On 23-9-2005 in karimnagardistrict one by name gangadhar killed a 15 year girl for her refusal.

(5) On 21-6-2006 in the capital of Andhra Pradesh, Hyderabad one by name kanniah singh cut the head of rani with a talwar(knife) for her parents settled her marriage with another man.

(6) On 11-2-2007 one by name Chandrasekar killed laxmi sujatha a television news  reader in vijaywada for her refusal to marry him.

(7) On 19-2-2007 one by name T.Ramesh killed parvatamma an eighteen year old women since her parents settled her marriage with another man.

(8)On 4-7-2007 in chitoor district [china gottugallu village] one by name muni Krishna attacked rajitha an inter student with grass cutter.

(9) On 18-7-2008 in khamman city one by name M.Pasha cut the throat of S.Sumera(18) with the knife for the same reason.

(10) On 4-9-2008 one by name sandeep attacked meenakumari an engineering student with a knife.

(11) On 27-12-2007, ayesha meera(19) was raped and murdered at her hostel in ibrahimpatnam of vijaywada.

(12) In November 2007, a college lecturer in srikakulam district threw acid on BSC final year student for spurning his advances.

(13) In april 2008, in kurnool a spurned lover attacked an intermediate student with knife.

(14) In april2008, an engineering student in vijaywada slit the throat of his college mate after she rejected his love.

(15) upcoming actress bhargavi of ‘Ashta chamma’ fame was stabbed to death by her live-in partner Praveen kumar who later committed suicide in december2008.

(16) On 13- 12-2008 k. swapnika and t. praneetha  were attacked with acid by the former’s spurned lover and his friends. They were gunned down by the warangal police.

(17) On 21-4-2009, a trader and an independent candidate sprayed acid on the additional district sessions judge,causing him minor burn injuries.

(18) On 1-1-2009, in chagallu village in west godavari, a farm worker sustained grievous injuries when his wife allegedly threw acid on him.

(19) On 17-6-2009, in guntur, one s.k.nabi, threw acid on devineni lakshmanma. The bottle missed her, but the contents fell on her and two other women anjamma and balika lakshmi tripatamma resulting in minor injuries.

(20) On 20-6-2009, In guntur, basha , threw acid on padma. The accused was said to be her lover.

(21) On 20-6-2009, in guntur, one jangala venkateswara rao,38,hailing from darsi prakasham was brought to the government general hospital for acid burns. He was allegedly attacked by three of his known rival.

(22)On 28-6-2009, in guttikonda village village in guntur one M.venkataramanamma was injured in acid attack.

(23) On 1-7-2009, in bapatla , one jhansi an intermediate student consumed pesticide with her lover Icumarthy Veerendra , a photographer died while undergoing treatment in general hospital in guntur.

(24) On 2-7-2009, in guntur, a farmer attacked his wife and their two year old daughter by throwing acid on them.

(25) On 26-6-2009, in Hyderabad, one vinod(28) stabbed reshma for spurning his proposals though he made several requests and stabbed her mother who rushed to her daughter rescue.

(26) On 2-7-2009, in Hyderabad, one sudhakar student of electronics and communications branch attacked a girl student of computer science branch of TRR polytechnic college at meerpet with a sickle injuring her seriously.

(27) On 2-7-2009, in Hyderabad , one m.shravan kumar, a second year  intermediate student had his fingernails cut and pulled out by four of his classmates because he was friendly with a junior student. The incident took place at sri chaitanya junior college at bachupally campus.

(28) On 2-7-2009, in mylavaram mandal in Krishna district, two police constables were arrested following an allegation by a women that they and their friends repeatedly raped her after blackmailing her with cell phone clips.

(29) On 5-7-2009, in tirupati, one peddireddi(50) attacked prameela (45) and her son venkatesh(7) with a blade inficting deep cuts on their throats.

(30) On 8-7-2009, in nandyal(kurnool), one china alias bujji attacked a girl suchitra with a knife for spurning his love.

(31) On 9-7-2009, in karimnagar one woman home guard bukya bharati(32) was found murdered at her rented house. Police found her decomposing body with its throat slit.

(32) On 10-7-2009, in guntur, a home guard palaparthy ramesh(30) poured kerosene on a women and tried to set her ablaze in anguluru village ,puru mandal in guntur district. The victim suffered 70% burns.

(33)On 11-7-2009,in vizianagaram ,the CI who was annoyed when the complainant went to higher official, allegedly bent her up severely. The complainant was m.padmavathi of kanapaka area.

(34) One, uma Chandra kala was allegedly burnt by her husband , venugopal and in-laws as she did not give money to purchase gas cylinder.

(35) On 9-7-2009, in tirupathi , a 19 year old daily wage earner from bairagipetteda area in tirupati lodged a complaint with the police that three of her uncles had sexually exploited her for the last few months.

(36) On recently a father and son duo, both judges, were arrested in a dowry case.

(37) In Hyderabad ,one radhika agarwal ,the daughter-in-law of an influential businessman m.l.agarwal committed suicide following dowry harassment.

 

These are the few cases which are highlighted in the newspapers. There are many cases of violence against women which are not reported.

 

While the human rights activists allege police inaction, the police complain about lack of manpower and increasing crimes across the state in addition to the extremist and terrorist problems.even as the blame game continues , there seems to be no end to atrocities against women in a state where women is now the home minister.

 

As per computer search ,news from press trust of India ,mon-mar02,2009:

Acid attack: centre fails to come up with clear stand:

 

the centre on Monday failed to come up with a clear stand in supreme court on the issue of framing a new laws or making amendments in the existing ones to deal with acid attacks, which are on rise, as a specified offence.

 

When the matter came up for hearing before the bench headed by chief justice K.G.Balakrishnan, it was informed that the centre has not filed counter affidavit on the petition.

 

The court was hearing a PIL filed in 2006 by a Delhi based minor girl Laxmi whose arms,face and other body parts were disfigured in an acid attack.

 

Laxmi,through her counsel aparna bhat ,has sought framing new laws or amendment in the existing criminal laws like Indian penal code,Indian evidence act and the Criminal procedure code for dealing with the offence and has also sought compensation which has not yet been provided.

 

The court during an earlier hearing had expressed displeasure over the reluctance of the state to provide compensation to a victim of acid attack and had termed the act as “worse than murder”

 

When the matter was heard last on dec18,2008 the counsel had drawn the attention of the court to the incident of acid attack on two college girls in Andhra Pradesh to buttress the contention for a ban on free sale of acid which has emerged as a weapon of attack.

 

“A ban on free sale of acid and a law to regulate and restrict its sale should be considered”, bhat had argued.

 

The centre ,which was also asked to consider a law similar to the one in Bangladesh to regulate and restrict the sale of acid to check its use as a weapon ,had said such a step would not be a practical and it would lead to “Inspector Raj”

 

“centre has said suggessions for adding a new section 326A to IPC after existing section 326 were also made”- it had said.

 

During the hearing april 28 last year , the court had said that the centre was not “serious” on framing a new laws to deal with incidents of acid attacks which had increased manifold in the past few years.

 

In shivpuri,feb20, raj(22), accosted nidhi and her friends jyothi and puja at a roundabout in the heart of shivpuri town on Wednesday and threw sulphuric acid ,leaving her with severe burns.

 

The national women’s commission and the law commission have recommended tougher laws to curb acid attacks. A draft bill by the women’s panel has suggested a maximum sentence of life imprisonment for throwing acid and causing deformity or disability.

 

The prevention of offences (by acid)bill,2008 has also proposed that the centre should constitute a national acid attack victim’s assistance board and form monitoring authority in states to help victims get quick medical treatment and counseling.

 

Any victim incase of death, a legal heir would have to approach the board. The board would prima-facie study the application and if satisfied release an interim amount of Rs. 5lakhs to the victim from the fund within 30 days of appeal. The board can release up to another Rs. 35 lakhs to a victim for medical and legal expenses against bill product.

 

The bill, however, is stuck in a bureaucratic tangle and is not likely to see the light of day soon.

 

The law commission has suggested a minimum 10 yearjail term and a maximum of life imprisonment.

 

In december2008, a Supreme Court bench had scrapped a Bombay high court judgment that reduced mallappa sangramappa mallipatil’s sentence to a mere 35 days from the three years imprisonment ordered by the trial court.

 

The apex court took exception to the high court ruling that showed leniency to an acid attack accused.

 

In Bangalore, on april20,1999,19 years old haseena’s life changed for ever, when joseph Rodriguez decided to avenge haseena’s rejection of his offer of a job by flinging two litres of concentrated sulphuric acid on her.

 

In august 2006, the Karnataka high court sentenced her attacker to life imprisonment. He was  asked to pay Rs.2 lakhs as compensation to victim. The division bench comprising Justice S.R.Bannurmath and Justice Subhash B.Adi said,”one would shudder to look at her damaged face”. It said haseena could not walk on the streets and had , thus become prisoner in her house”. The court said it “ could not shut its eyes to the growing and obnoxious tendency of the youth to use corrosive substance such an acid, causing not only severe physical damage but also mental trauma in the victims”. In case the acid victim survives, it will only be as a grotesque disfigured person,wholives with mangled flesh and suffers a fate worse than death, the bench said.

 

It also directed the state government to expeditiously provide special help and rehabilitation for victims of acid attacks. It took note of the fact that restorative surgeries cost a fortune, and they were not affordable to ordinary people.

 

In the wake of a spurt in acid attacks on women, the Andhra Pradesh state human rights commission has recommended to the government to introduce a specific provision in the Indian penal code for tackling such offences with an iron hand and introduce a bill.

 

An SHRC order, issued ina case taken up suo motto by its chairperson B.Subhashan Reddy and member E.Ismail, said acid attacks had become rampant and in most cases the victim s were women.

 

Referring to the latest acid attacks on two married women merely because they spurned the advances of two men, the order said “there is no specific provision in Indian Penal Code dealing with acid attack. Because of the spurt in such crimes, there is a necessity to deal with the said offences with an iron hand by introducing a specific provision in the IPC which can act as deterrence”

 

Noting that such cases were being tried under sec.326 of Indian Penal Code, the order said introduction of a specific provision was imperative and that both the union and state government could legislate.

 

The commission recommended to the state government to incorporate sec.326-A in IPC by introducing a bill.

 

The only requirement is to seek presidential assent after the assembly and the legislative council passed the amended bill. It directed the principal secretary (Home) to take steps by placing the matter before authorities.

As per news paper report acid attack victims have asked the state government to bring an ordinance immediately to prevent the deadly acid attack on women.

 

Though the state government has announced that it will table a separate state act in the coming assembly sessions to prevent acid attacks on the line of the prevention of attacks(by acid)act,2008 , the acid attack victims insisted on a quick ordinance to make the offence non- bailable and also bring in measures to control acid sale.

 

Ms.Anuradha , one of the acid attack victim’s,said: “ I have been suffering for 13 years. There were 10 surgeries done on me. I still need 20 more . I fought in the supreme court against the state government which had said  the attack in a public place is not  its concern. An ordinance should be brought in.

 

The home minister,Ms.Sabita Indra Reddy ,said that Andhra Pradesh is the first state to respond to the center’s proposed acid attacks offences prevention bill. She also added that the state government would control acd sales.

 

Soon after state government announcement that it will table a separate state act to prevent acid attack on July 14, the tiruchanur police arrested a youth sudhakar(19) for threatening to throw acid on a school-girl manjula(15) if she spurned his love.

Atleast now the state government should act soon to curb the atrocities on women by enacting a separate sate act to prevent acid attack and by incorporating sec.326-A in IPC and by controlling the sale of acid in the state. The law enforcers should also perform their duties properly inorder to curb atrocities against women.

 

Inspite of constitutional guarantees to all Indian women equality{Art.14}, no discrimination by the state{Art.15(1)}. In addition , it allows special provision to be made by the state in favour of women and children {Art.15(3)}, renounce practices derogatory  to the dignity of women{Art.51(A)(e)} and some special legislation made exclusively for women like Dowry Prohibition Act and Domestic Violence Act, the Violence against women is increasing tremendously in Andhra Pradesh.

 

Time has come for the entire machinery of the government of Andhra Pradesh to act to curb the atrocities against women by taking all necessary steps to curb atrocities against women the most particularly the acid attacks which found its origin in colleges. The college authorities should strictly implement the rules mentioned in the “Andhra Pradesh prohibition of ragging in all educational institutions rules-2002” to have control over this menace.

 

No leniency should be given to the criminals who does such criminal acts because  the attitude of the criminal is just like demon     and the government either at a state or central they are the avataras to curb their acts by passing suitable legislation and imposing sentence of death whoever found guilty.

 

Preventive measures:

 

1)uniform dress code should be introduced at college levels also for alls tudents of the institution.

 

2)juniors and senior students college timings should be so fixed that they could not meet each other during college timings.

 

3)parents should take care of their children

 

4)the college authorities should warn the students if found guilty and inform it to their parents and what action could be taken for such act.

 

5)in coeducation strict discipline should be maintained. Any misbehavior  by any student should be punished as per law.

 

 

 

 

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