How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I just got out of rehab 2 weeks ago and i guess you could say I’m trying to work on my marriage. honestly i don’t think i had a problem in the first place so i was a little hesitant to go so i went just because everyone said i should. I felt like i didn’t even solve my “drug problem” all rehab did was make me realize that i had a horrible mother, and i’m very passive aggressive towards women because of her but that’s besides the point. my wife all of a sudden wants me to talk things out and she won’t get off my balls literally. If i say I’m going for a run she’ll want to go with me and i don’t want to be an a** and say i’d rather go myself, when i say i’m going for a run it’s to get away from her. how do i tell her that i need my space in a nice way of course, I still want to be able to have sex with her after that conversation?

My friend has never had much confidence with women. I’ve always tried to be supportive and was really pleased that he’d found someone he’d like to marry. I was proud to be his best man. I’ve never had a problem with any of his other girlfriends, but there was always something about this person that didn’t quite click with me. Until recently I felt guilty about this: thinking the problem was mine and that maybe subconsciously I was judging her for her troubled past – drugs, prison, prostitution etc. But after staying with them last weekend and seeing their marriage close-up I couldn’t help but feel that he’s made a mistake in marrying her. She gives him no warmth or support; she’s incredibly lazy in terms of rearing the children/sharing household chores; she’s a bully and says things that are designed to be vindictive. I’ve noticed a change in him for the worst.
Do I wait for him to approach the subject?I can’t even get him out on his own to talk over a drink.
Many thanks for your time

I love my wife very much f but I’m very angry with her right now and she doesn’t understand why. I just found out that the last 5yrs she is being saving 10% of her monthly salary for college for our 8yr son. So now she has about 40K saved up, I don’t like that fact that she didn’t tell me. However, I asked her to give me some of that money as my 17yr daughter from previous marriage needs braces and books for her college class next year . Her response was braces aren’t necessary college is and you and her mom should pay for it not our 8yr. What should I do? I understand that my family shouldn’t pay for my past mistakes however my ex she is alcoholic and drug addict so she won’t help.

Ok. so Im not perfect. But I will admit. Ive been smoking the green stuff. for a while not around my kids . never.she knew who I was before we got married and had kids. she’s telling me to stop seeing my friends and drugs. I understand. the drug part but my friends that i knew before she did is not fair. she can hang with her friends and I never complain why is that? well after 3 years of marriage she tells me she wants a separation. Here is the thing my first important question is what to do with the kids. I mean she wanted the separation. but why is she taking my kids to her parents leaves me in the apartment all alone with all the kids stuff. which is killing me inside because I love my kids. cant she do this. if she wants separation shouldnt she leave and let me take care of my kids in our own house there food is here there toys crib and bed. I stay at home dad. please someone help what do? I want her back too. and the kids as a family.
Isnt she the one abandoning the house we live in. and taking my kids with out having a normal wife and husband conversation before she takes my kids i consider kidnapping. there is no violence in my home.
these friends never come around my kids. kids are sleeping when i make my decision to go out and have smoke. I dont come home wasted. its not meth or heroin here. its and herb thats gives you 1-2 hour high then its gone. the puff puff is once in a while also. its not every day here guys. second there is more to this bashing of me. so im going to spill the beans. her brother smokes pot also in the house that she is staying right now. so its ok to go to and environment where the pot can be smelled when you walk in. but she wants me to stop smoking but her brother can be around my kids like that right?. hmm. she is not being fair here. she wants me to stop cigarrettes and drinking. but then again her DAD a 2 time DUI car operator can be drunk and smoke cigarretes in front of them is the picture clear here guys im trying to save my marriage but im not going to let the fingers fall all on me.

I left my husband in July, for having an affair with the town drug dealer, he then turned around and pressed a dv order against me. He was given full custody and all our property. He was very abusive in our marriage, then he turned around and told the courts that i was poisoning him with street drugs, since he got a dirty UA, they believed him and now he continues to come around and treat me bad. how do i get him to stop coming around me and stop the courts from hurting me.
my husband, knows the judge, he drinks with him out at their friends house, and he also rents a house from him, thru his work. This is crazy. I didnt do nothing to deserve this. and i am sorry for him , because God knows all and will deal with them, i will follow some of your advise tho and stay calm, with Gods help

My husband’s ex wife refuses to get over the fact they are no longer together and refuses to respect our marriage. She is constantly threatening him that he will lose his son because of me. She whines how she wants to “share moments” over their son. She tries constantly to bond with him over their son. She has drug my name and my husband’s name through the mud for the last 4 years. She has been diagnosed bi-polar but unless you are harmful to your child custody is still split. She has made up lies saying I beat her child to gain sympathy from others. To us she rears her ugly head with demands and threats but to everyone else she plays the victim. How do we react? My step-son is with us 50% of the time yet she tells him this isn’t his real home. That he can only have one real home and it’s with her. He is young and wants to please his mother; unfortunately he is now carrying around this burden. Has anyone been through this and what did you do?
I did not have an affair. Let me just add that she constantly tells their son how I will never love him and how she wishes he wouldn’t come to our house because she is all alone when he does and misses him so much she cries.
I would be all for the 3 of us going to counselling together to see if we can do what’s best for this little boy we all love. She won’t do it. She thinks I don’t need to be involved at all and that I am nothing to this boy.

My wife stopped talking to her mom it’s been a few months now. She has done this before to her for three years. She has banned our son from seeing or talking to my mom, it’s going on three years now. And no my mom is not an alcoholic , drug user, child molester etc…..I feel that I have taken huge strides the past 3 months to make this marriage work, but she got angry when I asked her about a videogame my mom had bought our son 3 years ago. Apparently soon I discovered she has been throwing away toys and clothes my mom had given him. I told her instead of throwing it away. I will give it to someone that can use it. I told her it’s important that our son see that as adults we can resolve our problems and reach a compromise. On top of it she goes out of her way to treat my stepsister nice but at the same time she does things that is tearing us apart. She made a threat once and told me “no secrets with your sister”. Thanks for your time and sorry this is my only outlet.

ok, before me and her got married, she was kinda into drugs. well she stopped all that cause she said she loved me and knew i didnt approve of that. and she said she stopped seeing and hanging out with her drug buddies. i know she has cut her ties with most of them but she says she still has sum friends who dont do that, drugs that is. so she hangs out with them a couple of times a week. but when i ask if i can come, she always has sum kinda exuse like, she wont be out long anyway so i should just stay home. its like it annoys her when i ask to meet sum of her friends. it raises suspicion but she assures me that nothing is going on. she even gets defensive at times, like there is sumthing she doesnt want me to find out. the point is, if nothing is going on, then y cant i at least meet her friends once? isnt everything supposed to be shared in a marriage? is it just me or should i be more assertive about this??

FIRST: THIS IS REAL, IT IS ALSO REALLY FRIGGIN LONG! However, for all those lovers out there, I appreciate being able to talk with you and maybe get some insight. SO….

I wanted to get some feedback, some input, some insight per se. I wanted to know who would actually, truly, deal with a person such as my wife. You see, I love her more than the sun, moon, blah blah blah. You get the picture. However, who would stay in a one-sided marriage when they constantly felt ignored, belittled, degraded, and got yelled at because they couldn’t make enough money right away, or they couldn’t completely kick a smoking habit right away, or because they longed to enjoy their ravishingly beautiful stunning bride in every manner possible?

During our courtship we had some spiffs about me being tattooed, about her expectations of income, etc. I thought we had the understanding of simply no more tats (fine, if you love someone you will give them that aspect of your life if you follow Christ, which I proudly do), and an understanding that finances don’t just create themselves overnight (the average HOUSEHOLD income in America is roughly 40g a year, PERIOD). In my opinion, her entire demeanor gradually reverted to solely the way her family raised her, the lessons her family and first husband had taught her, shortly after we got married (I lost my job, but it only paid $10 a hour which is a far cry from 40g a year anyway). However, by this time I had already committed to invest a great deal of time in this marriage, in this lady, and in her four pre-existing children (really cool kids, just hope they can break the chain of family ignorance before it’s too damn late).

Despite what many would consider some serious issues, CarrieBeth is a lady that I respect greatly, when she’s on target, compassionate, and nurturing of a marriage and not egocentric. However, between the life lessons she has had (her controlling, manipulative, drama-filled family and her first husband who couldn’t keep his willy at dock) she has seriously grown to be perhaps the most self righteous, insecure, pompous jack rabbit that I have ever met. Nonetheless, a commitment is a commitment, and love is love, WHICH, in all actuality, leads us to this point: Tough Love. It was a tactic that was utilized back when Kiss was getting bestowed hatred for being “Satanic” and the drug “epidemic” started becoming considered a problem. I’m at my wits end, I love this lady, I believe in her, she has had moments where she seriously encourages me to be a better person. I am a proud husband! On the flip side, she’s much further across the line of rational, secure, and loving in how she deals with her marriage, and in my opinion, her true pertinent issues. Everything is always blamed on me, and you know, I have some faults too, but what person couldn’t see that when someone says they will email you and can never actually discuss the problems that perhaps the problem is within the person that should recieve said email (several times I have told her I would email her what I felt, what I thought, and what I needed to make it work out, but I can’t because it’s not like she cares to listen unless I can tell her that I make 40g a year right now). I have emailed her a couple times but it’s always somehow boiled down to my fault, my expectations of wanting to have meaningful conversations and time together being wrong because, well, I’m not making the kind of finances she expects her husband of less than a year to be making. I’m to the point where I can’t put my thoughts down without fear of being belittled time and again, or even yelled at. I got to a point where I wouldn’t spend any time at home because how often I would get yelled at, belittled, and the best way for a man to deal with his anger is to avoid the situation until the time he can calmly be heard. Now, I’m not even living in the same state as things grew progressively worse, yet she insists she doesn’t want a divorce, but you know, I don’t want to live feeling like a wife is this way when I know better.

What I would like is for your input, your opinions, and your regards towards CarrieBeth. This is my last resort at trying to get her to pull that beautiful head with sparkling eyes, a ravishing smile, and delightful complexion out of her ass. If you’re cool with it, thank you. However, please don’t flag this? I believe there are some people who have insight, who have encouragement, and who have the ability to break through the toughest walls of egocentric behavioral problems. Unfortunately, it’s just not me I guess.

THE AD IN MENTION:

Hello, my name’s CarrieBeth and I’m pleased to meet you online here. I’m a 28 year young single Mom of four and one on the way. I’m a devout Christian, and in order to get with me you must be a Christian as well. I live to keep my house clean, cook meals, work for my Dad (I’m a Scopist), and tend to my kids. I’m interested in quilting, gardening, and eventually moving away f

Ok, I AM 49 YEARS OLD AND IN GREAT SHAPE AND LOVES LIVE. I HAVE A NICE HOME AND A COOL DOG AND 2 BOYS AND ….WELL A WIFE.

WE HAVE HAD OR ISSUES OVER THE YEARS , MOSTLY MONEY AND SEX. MY WIFE HAS NEVER CARE ABOUT MY NEEDS , BUT HAD AN AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER MAN ABOUT 6 YEARS AGO THAT LASTED 1 YEAR. SHE TOLD ME IF SHE COULD CONTINUE SEEING HIM, WE WOULD HAVE GREAT SEX AGAIN. SHE MOVED OUT WITH THE KIDS 5 YEARS AFTER THE AFFAIR BUT ASKED TO MOVE BACK HOME JUST 3 WEEKS AFTER MOVING OUT. I TOLD HER WE COULD JUST LIVE AS A FAMILY AND WORK ON THE HOME AND FAMILY AND SHE WAS HAPPY WITH THAT. BUT NOW SHE IS HOME AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT TO WORK ON THE MARRIAGE AT LEAST FOR 1 YEAR AND JUST THE KIDS AND FAMILY . SO NO SEX. SHE ALSO COMPLAINS ABOUT THE MONEY SO MUCH WHEN WE ARE DOING GOOD WITH THE BILLS AND MORTAGAGE. SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT ME TO HAVE ANY DRINK OF BEER OR WINE, BUT I NEVER HAVE ABUSED IT EVER. IF WE GO OUT TO DINNER, I CAN NOT EVEN ORDER A GLASS OF WINE. SHE IS VERY CONTROLLING . SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME SO I ASK WHY DID SHE COME HOME/ SHE SAID BECAUSE I TOLD HER WE COULD WORK JUST ON THE FAMILY FOR AWHILE. I DID NOT THINK SHE WOULD RUN WITH IT…………… I TOLD HER WE NEED TO GO TO COUNCELING AND SHE SAID OK BEFORE SHE MOVED BACK AND NOW SHE SAYS NO.I DO ALOT AT HOHE, CLEAN THE HOUSE, FOOD SHOP, THE YARD, DISHES , TAKE OUT THE TRASH… YOU NAME IT. I TREAT HER VERY GOD, BACK RUBS AND ALL AND AS SOON AS I WANT TO GET SOME LOVE, SHE BACKS OFF AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME BECAUSE OF MY WAYS. I DRANK BEER WHEN SHE MARRIED ME AND SO DID SHE AND I NEVER OVER DO IT. THEYE ARE OTHER THINGS SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ABOUT ME BUT WHEN I TELL HER WHAT I WOUD LIKE TO SEE HER DO, SHE WONT LISTEN AND DOES NOT CARE. NO GIVE AND TAKE.

HOW CAN I HANDLE THIS SITUATION ?? I AM SO UPSET WITH ER AND NOW SHE HAS DRUG THE KIDS INTO IT. ????

If a guy has always lived in the fast lane and gone to all kinds of parties and had the hottest girls around him…when he gets married, will he not get bored with the calmer life of marriage and just one girl? I mean hes not some drug addict with no job, he actaully comes from a very good family, educated, and he is respectable. But his social life is pretty intense and he surrounded by a huge group of friends and hes invited somewhere every week. if he were to get married, would it mean that he wants to put all that stuff behind him. Will he always compare his wife to the hot dancers hes used to seeing at clubs. basically am i wasting my time trying to make him like me?

i live in the us and i married an haitien young girl ( she is 21).we have a 15 months old daughter and my wife is really irresponsible. i do everything at home( insurance, bills, cook, clean, drop her anywher she want to go,even drop the baby top the babysitter before a i go to work myself) she watch tv all the time and work in a kitchen a the hospital.i fought for this relationship to work. a cherish my wife and anybody that wanted to go against her even my family , knew not to because i would of step up. everything was ok before the baby until her family started to hate me because i refuse to take car of them financially specially when we don’t have the money. everything we have is because i manage the money for us to have in a long amonth of time so people look us like we got whil it is not.when my wife was pregnant i was alone . her parent that live in our state refuse to help so i brought my mom all the way from africa to hel my wife ..so me and my mom even hold her legs during the delivery while her mom was sleeping home when i called her. my wife didn’t want no baby i had to cancel the insurance in order for her to don’t have an abortion. my wife wanted my mom to go with the baby in africa with the support of my dad and other friend. my wife point was that she couldn’t take care of a kid and taht she needed to go out and travel and other thing . i was the only one that refuse because i wanted to see my first baby grow and call me dad.so i did everything to show people that i can do it. my wife don’t even know how much a diaper cost or a formula. i done it all. recently she wanted to go for a month in haiti soon as the terrible heathqueak happen ..i refuse because she was going to abandon me and the baby and her parent got even more mad they told her that she should divorce me because they like me and since she love her parent she decide to do so. she pretend not to love me anymore so she sleep in the living room and me a the master with the baby.i tried to make her understand the importance for a kid to be raised with both parents since i grew without both of my parent i know how hard it is..i told her that i was even willing to give her watever she want if she try to make this work. but she decided that she will live next month. we haven’t divorce yet . recently she call the police on me because i was complaining that she left the baby in the room alone to play with electical material plug in. while once again she was hocked on tyra bank show.so as i was yelling for my baby i accidently broke a glass and when the cops came she ask the press charge. so i was arested for assault due to reckless endorgement child ( sth like that).i spend 8hours in jail. for the first time. Ever since she got me arested and that i have now a file and that the court made me understand that i cannot yell at her and that i finally understand that woman have so much power in america, my life turn into hell. she goes out wit the baby and comes home after midnight.i am sitting in the living room hurt because taht baby was suppoz to be home and in bed by 8pm..i start having panic attack and everytime it hapopen to me i cannot breath or move and she is ther sterring at me ..sometime laughting .i begging HELP PLEASE..she take the phone and go away from me .i telling her what about the marriage vows .isn’t she suppoz to at least give help when i am sick . i had done it for her my whole life. my treat me now like and peace of S*** . she yell at me . never tell me where she put the baby when i am not arround . and her parent told her to leave me and take the kids because the government will help her.an d because that’s the only way they will hurt me ..my only kid..SO I AM asking you people . brother and sisters.What can do against my wife?.can i sue her for anything? can i get custidy of my kid.? please help me ..they said the only is to prove that she a prostitute or a drug addicted which she isn’t.my baby don’t deserv to be with someone that cannot event respect what i sacrifice for her. she doesn’t even have money in the bank to be able to raised ta kid..last time i went to the hospital she left the baby alone in the room and went to work , thank god i came back at 8am my kid was crying in her crib. please what law can use i am hopeless..i write everything but my number if you car is 978 569 47 97 .please do use it or give me a solution..thanx

when I was a kid, I had a childhood friend who’s Father had an affair (on his wife) with my Mother. It was passionate and went on for a couple years. It ended when his wife became pregnant. However, he was famed sex addict and stand up comic, also a drug user. He eventually died of drug abuse years later, when I reunited with my friend over facebook.
I remember telling him, how his mother enabled his behavior and how I would never be with a man like that.
then I met another gentlemen friend, (around his sixties) who recently got married. Everytime I hang out with this guy, he hits on me. I asked him what his wife thought about his philandering ways and he said and quote: Im like a kid in a candy shop. Theres no shortage of lonely women. I party and do whatever the fuck I want and she lets me”

I met this women, shes very nice later and very in Love with this man.
I know so many people that cheat it DISGUSTS me.
It doesnt seem right….
anyways, would a marriage like that work out. Giving your man his freedom??
As long as he comes home to YOU ,right????
because I MIGHT end up with a guy like this…..and I judged my friends mom so harshly( shaking head) Ironic huh??…

My wife, after seven years of on and off the bottle, cheating, drug abuse, hospitalizations for everything under the sun, and knowing she had nothing to offer me, gave me a green light to have sex outside of the marriage. Late this past summer, she got clean and began doing very well, and she asked me at that time to forego the green light and to give her another chance. (I gave her a last chance last year/we are only together for the kids and finances) Well, I reluctantly gave in, but as far as I am concerned, since then, she has shown me nothing. She never initiates affection, refuses sex, and is still on an emotional roller coaster, and still plays the victim whenever I give the slightest criticizm. I aam about to tell her just forget the whole thinga nd be friends and turn the green light back on. Don’t you agree that if she wants more that its her who has to make the effort? (Believe me, my efforts have been endless)

My wife and I are separated with two kids. She is very friendly with my mom. So friendly I think they are more like girlfriends than in-laws. The thing is she has started dating men online and she talks about her sex life with MY MOTHER and sister.

I cheated 3yrs into the marriage because of her lack of interest in sex, partying, and occasional drug use. Later down the road she admitted of having an affair 3 months into the marriage and 10 months prior to admitting her infidelites. When I called to talk to my mother about this she was like “she knew and it was not important how long she has known”, WTF! I don’t get my mom. When we were arguing alot, my wife was thinking about moving to my moms state and she was going to help her get set up there and everything. Why is she more supportive of my wife and not her own son?
My dad abrused my mom and I saved her butt many times, Souljatrick, oops, girl.

My wife started doing pot and cheating behind my back. She says the cheating has stopped (maybe I believe her?) But refuses to give up the pot… We have been married over 17 years and she only started doing pot in last 4 months same time as her cheating started. She was banging guys she was getting pot from.
She still wants to associate with one guy she was fooling with just as “friends” so she can get pot from him. I somewhat trust that she is not looking to cheat at the moment but I am afraid that this guy will prove to be to much of a temptation.
I am against drug use and she knows it but refuses to quit. She has even started growing it in places over the yard. I have killed some.

I am trying hard to make marriage work as we have a child together and I do still love her.

I have threatened to leave but she calls my bluff because she knows I do not want to.

Is this a hopeless situation? Any ideas on how to get her to stop doing pot?
In answer to one thing yes I do think that some of this is “practicaly spitting in my face”. She has literaly asked me why I do not leave her. I think maybe this was because she doubted me and my interest in her. Things had been sour for years with bitterness and anger on both parts. I am looking at this as a cry for help and for me to prove that I care. I think we have resolved a lot of the bedroom issues and anger that was there – now to get her to stop doing pot for two reasons, for our child(who she is the stay at home mom) And because we don’t make much money and cannot aford the habit (so she in my opinion is likely to sleep with the guy supplying it to her to get it for free as she was before)

Child is disabled so leaving would be extra tough plus I think we made some progress and it is just the pot standing between us and a good marriage… Maybe

We are best friends who for the first 28 years held hands, kissed, called each other just to say I love you, held each other and talked about our fears, hopes, dreams. Then she stopped everything, first she no longer wanted oral sex from me then told me to just hurry up and finish with no passion or intimacy involved. Along with this our oldest has just completed back to back deployments to the middle east as a combat infantryman in the Army where he had way too many close calls with his life. Our youngest had an awful drug problem where he went from a star athlete to a drug addict being held in jail and charged with murder. I have always tried to be the best husband any woman would want and a good father. I remember all special occasions, send flowers, leave love notes, do chores around the house regularly. Choose my wife over sports everytime. My family always comes first. I have never wanted to cheat and never gave my wife to worry. I am very affectionate; hugs, kisses, holding hands, body massages, scratching her back and just trying to be a loving understanding, caring husband. I always volunteered to help out at school and any other events my family were involved in. We are not rich but now that both of our children are out of the house we are doing fairly well financially. I recently retired and we had always planned on traveling together. However with us in our late forties my wife is not interested in anything and has no time for me. I must initiate all kissing, holding hands or hugs yet when I do she just stands and makes me feel like I am kissing, holding a cold dead fish. She has put on alot of weight and constantly complains about it. I have always told her that she is beautiful, she is my queen, my love. I tell her how sexy she is to me and how much I am attracted to her. Nothing gets through to her. She wants to sell our house and move, I think it would be good to get away from our small gossipy town but with the economy so bad selling a house is not so easy. I do not know what to do since she will not go to counseling, she hates to talk to people especially about something personal. She is not close to her side of the family it has always been she and I that talked and discussed problems. Now it is like I have an acquaintance sharing my house with me. In the last four months we have had sex twice and none in the last three months. Even then it was her saying just pull my pants down and hurry up and get it done. No soft special touches, no kissing, no loving words. I was sick to my stomach afterward with fear that our marriage was over. I am a good looking forty something man with two grown children and it appears a wife that has no interest, no affection, no love for me anymore. I do not want to stay this way for ten more years and then be old and alone. I just want my best friend, my lover, my wife back to ride our horses, travel go out to eat, see a movie, joke, have special secrets that are just our own, I want to make passionate love with my wife where we both enjoy the experience. I miss my friend/wife what can I do, what should I do. I have always wondered when someone knows it is time to quit the marriage, time to get a divorce. I just never thought I would be asking myself the question on whether it is time for divorce.

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME AND CALL ME EVERY “PIG” AND “DOG” IN THE BOOK, please know that my wife Valerie and I haven’t been in love for a very long time now. She admitted it first and I admitted the same YEARS AGO. We are 55 years old, we’ve been together since high school and our wedding followed a month after our high school graduation. 37 years of marriage to be exact. We have a 35 year old son, a 31 year old daughter, a 29 year old son, a 23 year old son and 21 year old twin daughters. And let’s not even mention how many grandchildren we have.

Like I said, our love fizzled out maybe 10 or so years ago. But we were so busy wanting to impress and brag to our family and friends that we were a rare black couple who raised six kids(neither of whom turned out to be thugs, whores or drug addicts) and held down jobs throughout it all. Valerie and I had our share of jealous folks, but the truth was, our marriage was just for show after a while. We haven’t been in love in long time. We had sex last week…..that was the first time we made love in 2010! I’ve been seeing my mistress Anne for 3 years, THAT’S who I love and feel the marriage for. Anne treats me like a king and the fact that she’s only 41 years old(14 years my junior) is not an issue. Valerie has been playing “sugar momma” to some 32 year old man for about a year now.

She allowed her heart to get involved and the young man gave her the boot when she started discussing commitment with him yesterday. So, now she’s telling me not to leave her for Anne and she wants us to be husband and wife for real this time. I am her HUSBAND, not her “backup plan if something doesn’t work out with another guy”. She will not ruin my happiness with Anne or ask me to break Anne’s heart for her own selfishness. I kept Anne waiting for three years and it’s not fair to HER. If my wife can PROVE that she’s still in love with me after 37 years of marriage, I may give it a 2nd thought. What should I do?

he won’t leave her alone. cries to her family and is turning them against her. talks bad about her new guy to their kids. the ex-hubby was no angel… drugs, gambling and immaturity + a few flings in their 20+ year marriage.

what should she do to get him to understand their marriage is OVER!!

I have been married to my wife for about 4 years now. We have 2 boys (3 1/2 and 1 1/2). Both were born by either condoms with poked holes or by complete flukes. My wife was abandoned as a child and has a HUGE set of issues. She constantly during the marriage threatened to take my boys away even though I watched them constantly while maintaining an overnight software position. She became worse and worse through marriage..partying, spending less and less time with boys, minor drug use, and habitual flirting – guy trouble. She had her first affair with an ex boyfriend in Arizona. She begged for my forgiveness and we tried to work past it. We moved to Ohio, because her mothering was horrendous and I needed to be nearer to my parents to get some kind of help for the boys. I told her if she made this giant move with me I needed to see a huge effort to change on her behalf. However, she did not. She met some new guys at work and was quickly staying out til all hours of the night. I finally confronted her when she came home the next day from a party and she told me it was all playful flirting and nothing serious. I said, I WANT A DIVORCE. She said GOOD, CUZ I MET SOMEONE ELSE. In the time to follow divorce proceedings were getting underway, she was seeing someone else and I met a single mom who was extremely strong herself and had dinner with her. Jen (My Wife) caught wind and began to beg for me back. One night when she was coming to VISIT with the boys who were with me FULL TIME, she basically threw herself at me. Said if I didn’t come back to her she would ruin my life. (4 days before she was in hot tub and wrestling with girls..had small bruise on upper arm from party..”war wounds she said..”) She stepped back from me that night, laughed, and dialed 911. She immediately began to cry. She said I dragged her 40 feet down hallway, and hit her. I was arrested, booked, charged with domestic violence. I was later found not guilty, yet the trouble continued with Jen. She continued to beg for me back. Meanwhile, after the arrest she SWOOPED BACK INTO the apartment and began watching OUR boys. Every time I try to return back home she will call the police and say she fears for her life. I cannot even go around this girl! I have little proof of what she IS. I have journal entries, etc..but besides this..nothing concrete. She is a terrible mother. Puts her sons barefoot into snow..allows them to play with curling irons while on..etc. She has NOW threatened that if I don’t come back to her she is taking boys 2000 miles away and will never see them again. She has made it so that I really cannot have a QUALITY life and have my kids in it. I love my kids so very much! Yet, I have already stayed in a terrible relationship for the boys sake for 3 years now. Please help!