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Is it too late for me to get married? Where can I find a wife?

admin — Fri, 20 May 2011 05:02:19 +0000

Basically, Ive always been average at everything, and rather ugly and shy around women, Ive been rejected all my life and ave neevr had a date or kissed girl. I turned 40 in january, 5 years ago approxmatley i got sick of not knowing and had sex with a hooker. I feel even worse, I mean I have to pay a woman to sleep with me….how can anyone be so undesirable that the only way they can get female contact is by funding some poor womans drug habit? I visited my mum yesterday, and I dont mean this in a sexual way, but t as the closest thing to marriage I have ever felt, a cooked meal, a woman who cared about me, leaving was the hardest thing I ever had to do and I nearly downed a bottle of pill when I got back to my empty cold flat. Im a doctor btw, I make a lo of money but what good are material possesions. My mum always thought I didnt get married because I was too busy wih my job, but thats not true, I try so hardt find love. i broke down in front of her and crie and blabbed about how lonely I was.
What can I do? Is it worth me spending my money on stuff like eharmony and match? Or should I just pay for some female company and acceptits the closest thing I’ll ever have

Is is right to ask your husband to choose between his wife & mother?

admin — Sat, 14 May 2011 17:00:50 +0000

I have been married to a man for 8 years. The rouphest years of my life! He had a terrible drug habbit which lead to other problems, from being verbally and physically abusive to stealing, you name it. On several ocassions I have had to call the police and have him arrested. I have thrown him our of my house and we have also put this man through several drug rehabs. Needless to say nothing had worked. He had tried getting back together with me but I finally had to put my foot down and say when you get a job, and you stay clean and I don’t have to support you then maybe ill think about it. He moved out of town to his parents home, which they have never liked me. They come from a very old fashioned traditional Mexican family who can’t accept me because I have children from a previous marriage. We have plans on getting back together since he has found a job and is going to start a vocational training, Only problem is he doesn’t want to move back into town because he says he will go back to his old ways. The kids and I are willing to move out of town once he is settled. The problem is… His parents dispice me. We went to visit him and we had to stay in a hotel because I wasnt allowed in his parents home and neither were my children. They had something for easter where the whole family was invited and our daughter was welcome as well as my husband. my childrend and I were never invited. My daughter also spent spring vacation with her dad and grandparents, my husband was working and my inlaws were babysitting while my husband was at work, yet when I was up there visiting she did not want to babysit so that we could go out. I don’t understand? My husband asked if he could have my daughter for the summer and when I asked who was going to watch my daughter while he was working and in training he said his parents would. So if they did not want to watch her for that one night that we wanted to go out, (they didnt have plans ) what makes me think they will want to watch her for the summer. I’ve mentioned to him that it bothers me that they exclude us and he just blushes me off. The three days that I was up there visiting his mother was calling him constantly.. He mentioned to his mother that he had plans on us getting back together again and she said that his sisters would not accept this. Im sorry my mom passed when I was very young and I have no siblings. Is this the way it’s supposed to be? Am I overexagerating or is it time for me to walk away? Can Somebody help?

Diary of a Viagra Wife?

admin — Thu, 12 May 2011 21:02:42 +0000

Day 1.

Just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary with not much to celebrate. When it came time to re-enact our wedding night, he locked himself in the bathroom and cried.

Day 2.

Today, he says he has a big secret to tell me. He’s impotent, he says, and he wants me to be the first to know. Why doesn’t he tell me something I don’t know! I mean, he actually thinks I haven’t noticed.

Day 3.

This marriage is in trouble. A woman has needs. Yesterday, I saw a picture of the Washington Monument and burst into tears.

Day 4.

A miracle has happened! There’s a new drug on the market that will fix his problem. It’s called Viagra. I told him that if he takes Viagra things will be just like they were on our wedding night. I think this will work. I replaced his Prozac with the Viagra, hoping to lift something other than his mood.

Day 5.

What absolute bliss!!.

Day 6.

Isn’t life wonderful but it’s difficult to write while he’s doing that.

Day 7.

This Viagra thing has gone to his head. No pun intended! Yesterday, at Burger King, the manager asked me if I’d like a Whopper. He thought they were talking about him. But, I have to admit it’s very nice – I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy.

Day 8.

I think he took too many over the weekend. Yesterday, instead of mowing the lawn, he was using his new friend as a weed wacker. I’m also getting a bit sore down there.

Day 9.

No time to write. He might catch me.

Day 10.

Okay, I admit it. I’m hiding. I mean, a girl can only take so much. And to make matters worse, he’s washing the Viagra down with whip cream and whisky! What am I going to do? I feel tacky all over….

Day 11.

I’m basically being screwed to death. It’s like living with a Black and Decker drill. I woke up this morning hot-glued to the bed. Even my armpits hurt. He’s a complete pig.

Day 12.

I wish he was gay. I’ve stopped wearing make-up, cleaning my teeth or even washing but he still keeps coming after me! Even yawning has become dangerous …

Day 13.

Every time I shut my eyes, there’s a sneak attack! It’s like going to bed with a scud missile. I can hardly walk and if he tries that “Oops, sorry”, thing again, I’ll kill the *******.

Day 14.

I’ve done everything to turn him off. Nothing is working. I even started dressing like a nun but this just seems to make him hornier. Help me.

Day 15.

I think I’ll have to kill him. The cat and dog won’t go near him and our friends don’t come over any more. Last night I told him to go and f… himself and he did.

Day 16.

The ******* has started to complain about headaches. I hope the bloody thing explodes. I did suggest he might try stopping the Viagra and going back on Prozac.

Day 17.

Switched the pills but it doesn’t seem to have made any difference… Christ! Here he comes again!

Day 18.

He’s back on Prozac. The lazy sod just sits there in front of the telly all day with that remote control in his hand and expects me to do everything for him. What absolute bliss!

My Sexy Angel wife says she needs “her” time…WTF?

admin — Wed, 11 May 2011 01:00:51 +0000

She had an affair last year. Still believes she “Loves” the goofy idiot. The know nothing about each other except sex. He is a drug addict, womanizer who wouldn’t be a husband for 2 minutes let alone 20 years.

We have stayed together so far. Im trying to forgive. I find her with messages professing love an longing for this freak. I still sleep on the couch (Well over a year), no wedding rings (She writes that we are “Separated”). No sex, no love, no ANYTHING.

We have 3 kids. They are the best. Wanted to work it out for them especially. But then I find this crap.

I am so tired of the lies. She says trust me, than sits around writing that crap. She finds out I am going to file for divorce. Last night she says we’ll work on it, wants to try counseling. Says she does not love him. Just venting, trying to come out of this “Sickness”. We had a good talk and decided we’d make an effort.

So this morning I ask her…”Are we married or separated” Because when she thinks she is separated she does/says things that are not good for this marriage. She stammers around and says “I just need some time for me”. I just walked out.

Wow. The last year and a half of running around “Sexy & Separated” sowing her oats while I starve to death.

So…do I put anymore effort into this? We are scheduled to start counseling…will it help? Anybody had any luck with that?

I still love her. I really do. But not enough to live as room mates, while she pines away for fiction and fantasy.

My Sexy Angel wife says she needs “her” time.?

admin — Tue, 10 May 2011 03:01:18 +0000

We have 3 kids. They are the best. Wanted to work it out for them especially. But then I find this crap.

Wow. The last year and a half of running around “Sexy & Separated” sowing her oats while I starve to death.

So…do I put anymore effort into this? We are scheduled to start counseling…will it help? Anybody had any luck with that?

I still love her. I really do. But not enough to live as room mates, while she pines away for fiction and fantasy.

My wife said she was unhappy, needed some space, and moved to her mom’s house.?

admin — Sat, 07 May 2011 09:01:05 +0000

When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old.

Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery.

I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together and arguments go both ways, she has a lot of negative energy and always picks out the bad in everything and is normally in a bad mood, but I’ve always put up with it.

Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left.

After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me.

We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy and I really don’t want to stress out the poor baby.

This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too.

I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since we were married. I don’t know what to do and I just want to move on because I don’t think she’s good enough for me anymore.

I know what it takes to keep someone happy now, but the sad thing is that she is still the same negative, mean, and pessimistic person. She never really appreciated me either. I got to thinking and I can’t remember one time that she said I was handsome other than the times if I asked her if I looked okay.

I know that she will probably never be happy in the long run and it hurts me to think that, but its true. She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s really headed down the wrong road and she will realize it too late. I don’t think anyone would put up with her as long as I have and she won’t talk to anyone about her problems. I just don’t know what to do.
The saddest thing is that I have all of this knowledge now and its too late. If I would have known everything that I now do before this tragedy, then it would have been avoided. I know she didn’t want this to happen, but she’s a weak person and didn’t fight hard enough to save our family. I was even willing to try and work it out after the fact that she cheated and she said she loved me and wanted to come back and then a few days later she decided that she didn’t think she should come back. She’s living with me still and we just kind of do our own thing, basically roomates that have a baby together. I had so many plans in store for us when she came back and its just too late. I know for a fact that I won’t have a problem finding another girl, but its just a shame that all my new knowledge will be used on them, instead of the woman that I married and promised to love and cherish forever.

My wife said she was unhappy, needed some space, and moved to her mom’s.?

admin — Fri, 06 May 2011 11:01:44 +0000

I know that she will probably never be happy in the long run and it hurts me to think that, but its true. She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s really headed down the wrong road and she will realize it too late. I don’t think anyone would put up with her as long as I have and she won’t talk to anyone about her problems. I just don’t know what to do.
Its sad to think that after all I have learned, I will not get to use it with my wife, the one I’ve always loved without question. Arguments and appreciation go both ways, we both argued and we both appreciated each other, but neither one of us really showed it to one another, which is the most important thing. Verbal and physical communication are key and we lost that somewhere down the line. Its sad to me that she never brought up how she felt, instead she just gave up, no matter how many times I asked her what was wrong. She just gave up, cheated on me, and split apart our family. I wish she were stronger minded and tried harder and I wish I wouldn’t have been the way I was, but I can’t change the past, but I do have power over the future. I just wish it wasn’t too late, even though I’m moving on and getting over it, it just hurts me to see where she’ll be in the next 5-10 years because I know I’ve given her so much and she’s given me so much and I know we could be happy.

My wife said she was unhappy and needed some space and left.?

admin — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 23:01:22 +0000

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings. When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old. Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery. I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together. Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left. After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me. We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy. This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too. I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since marriage. I don’t know what to do.

My wife said she was unhappy, needed some space, and left to live with her mom.?

admin — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 01:07:33 +0000

My wife told me she needed some space and left.?

admin — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 03:01:59 +0000

Husband asks wife to take naked photos to masterbate to?

admin — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 05:02:33 +0000

Let me set this up for you, so you know the real situation here…Our marriage is basically over. We have been fighting over things like Internet cheating, drug abuse, lying and stealing. I am done and he knows it. he is trying to get me back by begging me and promising me things will change, when he has already made the same promises and broke them. My husband claims he was getting online and searching want ads to look at pictures. He even replied to some ads (about 7 of them). He begs me to forgive him (each time is repeated for a total of 3 seperate occassions). The other night he walks up to me with a shit eating grin on his face and asks me if he can take naked photos of me. He said that way he won’t have to look on the Internet for women to masturbate to. How in the world is a woman suppose to feel after someone that tells you he loves and respects you?

im trying to let go of my ex wife?

admin — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 11:01:02 +0000

after 6 months of seperation, and my ex wifes impending re-marriage i am finally succeeding in letting it go. the problem is she keeps dropping small hints all the time,especially body language. on fathers day she dropped off my kids found me in the basement and basically undressed me with her eyes. For a second i thought she wanted a hug, but i backed away. She constantly is asking my older child how im doing amd must be questioning them about me cause she seems to know everything i do,EVERYTHING. There are so many issues involved with her from being extremely impulsive,former drug abuse,and breaking up with me and coming back like 4 times over 25 years.She claims she is happy,claims she wants me to be happy,but 2 weeks ago i confronted her about if she really was sure of her marriage and she said she couldnt answer, then last week she said she was sure, but asked me for my true feelings for her.After i told her i still loved her, she said she didnt and never thinks of me or us. ???

My Fiance’s ex wife called me tonight she told me they still see each other, who should I believe?

admin — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 13:01:22 +0000

He did tell me about her when we got together. He told me they were in an unhealthy relationship. He was 19 and she was 51. He was a crack head and she supported and enabled him for 20 years. He got sober 3 1/2 years ago and broke off the relationship.
When I asked him in the beginning had he ever been married, he said no. He claims now, he lied about the marriage because he was ashamed of the life he had, that he never loved her only used her to support his drug habit.He says he was embarssed to admit the short marriage of 5 or 7 years. He denies he meets with her. He says they are divorcd now. He says she called me to hurt him and try to break us up.She constantly calls leaving messages begging him to come back to her.He didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to concern me. He says he never responds.
We are not youngsters he is 40 and I am 55. He is the most loving, considerate and thoughful man I have ever been with.We have been togeher 5 months, daily. He has introduced me to his family, he is now back in their good graces. He would be my 4th husband. I am not rich, but do have more resources than he. He says he will always be there for me. I try to talk about the age difference and does he realize I will lose my beauty and could need care. He still insist his love for me is forever. Since there are no guarantees in life, I just want to live for today and hope he is sincere. I love him dearly and would be so unhappy without him. Just like her. I feel sorry for her. I want to believe in him, should I?

I am looking for best wife jokes?

admin — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 21:01:05 +0000

marriage is a contract between a man and a women where the man agrees to give up 1/2 of every thing he is worth in return for less sex.

a father and his son go into a drug store and the son sees a 3 pack of condoms and askes his father what are those for the father answers for high school 1 for fri night 1 for sat night 1 for sun night then the son asks what is the 6 pack for the father answers for college 2 fri 2 sat 2 sun. the son then asks what is the 12 pack for the father says oh the 12 pack thats for marriage 1 for jan 1 for feb 1 for march.

what do a 100 battered wifes all have in common ?
they don’t fing listin.

love is a disease only curable by marriage.

they are 3 rings in a relationship that ends in marriage.
the engagment ring the wedding ring and after the marriage the suffering.

honestly its all disneys fault from the time these girls are 2 disney fills there heads with the idea of meeting a prince
living in a castle happily ever after. Men just can’

My wife has been on Paxil for about 6 months now and hasn’t been the same since she started taking it.?

admin — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 23:01:15 +0000

After 15 years of marriage, she has gone off the wall and seems to be not living in reality. She wants to move out away from me and our two sons and live on her own. She appears to be tormented by things she did in her past, but she does not want to discuss. She has had an online relationship with a divorced father of 4 who lives 3000 miles away, and she really likes him. Within the last two weeks she got a cell phone behind my back so she could talk to this guy whenever she wanted. She does not want counseling, doesn’t want to work on the marriage, yet doesn’t want a divorce. She has no intention to move closer to this man, nor he closer to her. She also listens to heavy grundge music, wants to get a tatoo, and wants nothing to do with her family and friends. She says she knows what she is doing is wrong, but it “feels too good to stop”. I believe Paxil is to blame. Anyone with experience with this drug with advice is welcome to respond!

my wife left me and is now trying to date an old friend of minewhat do i say to her? if anything?

admin — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 01:10:33 +0000

i dont have enough room for the details. wish i could. basically, i was a drug addict. she stood by my side. helped me to get into a rehab in california. we lived in chicago. we then got married,her and my three kids moved out here while i finished my rehab but continued to talk to this guy. and she said she “just kissed” him about a month before our marriage. then continued to call him from in california. what do i do..? i want my kids?

Can my brother in law sue or have his ex -wife put in jail for falsely accusing him of punching her.?

admin — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 19:02:46 +0000

My brother in law was married to a girl I went to college with. She has always been good and playing this really nice Christian person and then turning around and taking drugs, drinking, lying and participitating in sexual acts with several men at one time. She was very wild in college and even after she got married. It’s just she was very sneaky about it. Her father is a very prominent pastor and comes from a fairly wealthy family. In college she tried commiting suicide or faking it several times and always wanted attention from the opposite sex. (Like fake falling, telling people she had been raped several times the day before when she was out with others the whole time) just really crazy stuff! One day she had scratch marks all over her face and she said a guy had raped her (for the 3rd time) and it just didn’t add up She would also have cut marks on herself at times. She would pass out and act like she wasn’t several times that she wasn’t breathing. The doctor at the ER said she was faking it and she had a psychological disorder. She was placed in the mental hospital several times.Well anyway she met my brother in law married him. (We tried warning him) and they had 2 children. She appeared to be better throughout the marriage and I don’t think she had any other episodes. They were married almost 10 years when abruptly she seperated from him. He found all kinds of emails that were very sexual that she emailed to a youth pastor at her church about there sex on the beach and so on. She of course denied it and went on with the divorce . She accused him of beating her. We told him to get a lawyer but he said that every lawyer he talked to didn’t seem to think he had a case so he just seemed to give up.I told him to take the letters to them. He never showed them in court. He then said that he believed her that the letters were just a joke. I think he was in total denial because it heard him to much and he would give her total access to the money too. He was just trying everything to get her back. She was lying to her parents too and they bought her a new car and apartment.They finally got a divorce a couple of months ago and she got full custody . Well he just recently emailed the letters to her parents and I guess she got mad. She went to the police with a black eye and accused him of hitting her. She is crazy enough in our opinion to have done it to herself for attention and revenge. He went to jail and is being charged. She still is very active in her church and plays the innocent church girl when she’s really a crazy and very wild person. The reason I am involved is because we have had to help him out a lot financially. We can’t afford to keep helping him. We have told him to get a lawyer but he
We told him to get a lawyer but he seems to be giving up.

What do you do if you’re starting to find out you and your wife aren’t compatable?

admin — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 23:01:11 +0000

I’ve known her for 7 years, we were best friends for 3 years and have been in a relationship for over a year and a half, 2 years in October. Now we aren’t actually married, we’re engaged. I proposed to her after like two months of dating because I had been best friends with her and had known her for long enough and WELL enough to make the decision to head on the path to marriage with her. We have been engaged the whole time and are planning to get married in December and move in sometime shortly before that. We both haven’t had any other relationships outside of this, I mean I’ve known her for 7 years And I guarentee about 5 and a half of those years I couldn’t do much else because I had to be pretty devoted to her. I mean my Fiancee’s a full time job one of the main problems is I’ve dropped all my friends, family, career EVERYTHING for her we will lose our virginity together, get married, have children, we planned our whole lives (And I’m most worried about mine) around our marriage.

I don’t know if she just wasn’t herself ’till now or what, I’ve been the same person the whole time I NEVER change. And I still have the next 2-3 planned around us moving in together, getting married, maybe fueling my dream career or her college I think it’s literally impossible to do anything else.

But I’m noticing little things, like today she sent me an email saying she’s going vegetarian. (no offence to vegetarians) But I HATE shit like that. I just started screaming at her saying that I’m not going to pay for her crazyness, we are college students we cannot AFFORD her wanting to become a vegetarian and as I knew her email is clogged with stuff from PETA and her house is probably filled with her new obsessive vegetarian stuff she already made some pledge not to eat meat for 30 days. Well then I guess she’s not going to be able to eat, because she needs nutrition and I’m going by money here and as always she acts like she has no brain.

It’s stuff like how she keeps dying her hair. She’s dying it so much it’s thin and ugly and probably falling out and she’s not telling me. I HATE shit like that too. It drives me beyond crazy.

It’s stuff like how one day she seems determined to have two jobs (like how I do) and take care of me and she’s doing everything and making all these plans so we can leave and be together sooner but what she plans usually make no sense (to me) because they don’t involve me, or she doesn’t do them AT ALL there’s some reason.

She promises me all these things and I say where are they and they don’t exist, what do they only exist in her head?

And another thing that she does is she acts REALLY naive, and innocent, and ignorant and helpless so I’ll do everything (I have no problem doing that) She can be the housewife and I can be the provider but THEN she gets cold and says she’s independant and doesn’t need me and it just happened and she has to go away and fix it now and has no explanation of why she’s completely changed.

She seems helpless, as to why she does so many stupid things but then she does whorish stuff (She almost wasn’t a virgin, I am a virgin and I will only marry a virgin) She’s only a virgin because I scared all her boyfriends to death so they wouldn’t touch her. Not like she wouldn’t've jumped in. We wern’t “together” together then she says. She seems so ignorant and lovely but then she wants to go to college (AND LEAVE ME she WOULD HAVE TO LEAVE ME TO GO) or have sex with people other than me! Or get piercings and tattoos or do drugs and drink or stay with her abusive mother, her mother is bipolar and used to beat her yet she says it’s her mother.

I would never love a mother that beat me.

She seems naive, but her actions make me want to leave her and never come back. I cannot treat her as naive when she becomes “independant” from me 3 times and able to “live completely without me” and has other people. Jesus Christ. I’m her Fiancee why would she do that? Why the hell would she tell me how unhappy she is and now she can live without me and that’s probably why she’s unhappy.

If you plan on hanging out with abusive people that do drugs and drink and ruin their lives you obviously aren’t so naive my love.

That’s how I feel.

You can’t be innocent and be with people like that, reguardless of friends, family, classmates.

Someone so sheltered and lovely wouldn’t be anywhere NEAR people like that. Someone so helpless wouldn’t be around people that use them for sex or take drugs because their friends do and they want to fit in. Or they hate themself. Someone so dark isn’t so innocent.

but she acts really, really stupid. Like innocent, ignornant, stupid. If you say you’re into BDSM you are NOT innocent by any means! Nor will I treat
Nor will I treat you as such!

I feel like you made your bed now lie in it.

I don’t know what to do. I’m on a crash course for marriage with this girl. I’m getting married in 5 and a half months.

I am seeing things, that yes, I can atleast say for the first 6 years wern’t there. I don’t know what to do. She just keeps getting more unattractive and more crazy by the day.

But she’s also the sucidal type. I love my Fiancee to death but there are these little ticks. I don’t know if there’s something wrong or what.

And I couldn’t even break up with her if I wanted to. Or make our relationship less intense, call off the wedding. She’d have a fit.

And she says she’d kill herself if I broke up with her.
I don’t doubt it for a moment.

I’m scared to even ask to get away from her because of that.

I just don’t understand.

I feel like there’s something wrong and I wish I had someone to talk to about it.
I most definately cannot marry her.

And she won’t change.

And
she won’t change.

And if I even wanted to call our wedding off, call everything off. Even for time, I fear the consequences. I’m sorry for how long this is but please read it thank you for the answers. I need them!

By the way, I am a girl and my Fiancee is a girl so please don’t tell me to be a man or something or say anything about her having me whipped. It will fall on deaf ears I’m not a man.
thank you

And we call each other our wives. Well I call her my wife, my spouse so I thought the title didn’t matter. :\

Help I am a 32 yr old mother and wife with parents of addiction?

admin — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 11:02:47 +0000

I have had parents with adiction my whole life! finally I am happily married for 4 years and have 3 beautiful children. I am suffering because my parents have always had some form of drug/alcohol addiction. Well now they are getting to thier lowest point (eviction, no money) and they refuse to work. They are only inb thier 50s. they only call when they need money or rides. A few weeks ago I gave in and gave them $50 for a “battery” for thier car and I took them to the “dr” only to find out the used the $ for RX drugs and the “dr” was a meth clinic. I can’t do this anymore I am afraid they are going to try to move in with me and I can’t let them because it WILL ruin my marriage and they will not clean up. I think I should cut ties with them. But I feel really bad I am thier only child. But the only thing they have done was cause me heartache my whole life. Now I finally have a good husband and life. Any advice would really be needed

How do i act with my wife we are in the middle of divorce?I am being nice and she is being aggresive with me?

admin — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 05:05:02 +0000

am 34y.and i am in the middle of divorce after 6 years of marriage and also have a baby girl who i love like crazy,but we are getting divorce because my wife hates my family and constantly puts them down which makes me feel very bad when i hear on the other hand my family does nothing but help in every single way.We had a big fight where she went crazy on me along with her parents and called a police when i told her to stop cursing my parents and me,after that incident i filed for restraining order as well as divorce.The problem is that deep in my heart i love her and I feel like she loves me too however she does not show it at all,she acts very cold to me when i pick up my baby and when i talk to her i get nothing but accusations,I just dont understand the fact that why would person disrespect their partner if they love them?We are now seperated and she has the child most of the time thats whats really hard for me,I told her that i would drop the divorce but she does not want to forgive me the fact that i filed so fast for restraining order against her as well as divorce,but she does not get it that the reason i did it is because it was not right to call a police on me for no reason,i am not a drug addict,alcoholic or abusive guy.I need your comments pls.write me.thanks in advance……
1 week ago

how do i explain to my wife that i need my space…away..from her?

admin — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 11:07:08 +0000

I just got out of rehab 2 weeks ago and i guess you could say I’m trying to work on my marriage. honestly i don’t think i had a problem in the first place so i was a little hesitant to go so i went just because everyone said i should. I felt like i didn’t even solve my “drug problem” all rehab did was make me realize that i had a horrible mother, and i’m very passive aggressive towards women because of her but that’s besides the point. my wife all of a sudden wants me to talk things out and she won’t get off my balls literally. If i say I’m going for a run she’ll want to go with me and i don’t want to be an a** and say i’d rather go myself, when i say i’m going for a run it’s to get away from her. how do i tell her that i need my space in a nice way of course, I still want to be able to have sex with her after that conversation?

My best friend’s wife treats him like crap. He seems unhappy. I would never interfere, but what can I do?

admin — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:08:50 +0000

My friend has never had much confidence with women. I’ve always tried to be supportive and was really pleased that he’d found someone he’d like to marry. I was proud to be his best man. I’ve never had a problem with any of his other girlfriends, but there was always something about this person that didn’t quite click with me. Until recently I felt guilty about this: thinking the problem was mine and that maybe subconsciously I was judging her for her troubled past – drugs, prison, prostitution etc. But after staying with them last weekend and seeing their marriage close-up I couldn’t help but feel that he’s made a mistake in marrying her. She gives him no warmth or support; she’s incredibly lazy in terms of rearing the children/sharing household chores; she’s a bully and says things that are designed to be vindictive. I’ve noticed a change in him for the worst.
Do I wait for him to approach the subject?I can’t even get him out on his own to talk over a drink.
Many thanks for your time

How To Get Through My Wife and Tell Her This?

admin — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 17:00:54 +0000

I love my wife very much f but I’m very angry with her right now and she doesn’t understand why. I just found out that the last 5yrs she is being saving 10% of her monthly salary for college for our 8yr son. So now she has about 40K saved up, I don’t like that fact that she didn’t tell me. However, I asked her to give me some of that money as my 17yr daughter from previous marriage needs braces and books for her college class next year . Her response was braces aren’t necessary college is and you and her mom should pay for it not our 8yr. What should I do? I understand that my family shouldn’t pay for my past mistakes however my ex she is alcoholic and drug addict so she won’t help.

My Wife Wants A separation. I dont. so she leaves me alone and takes the kids to her parents can she do this.?

admin — Wed, 02 Mar 2011 09:01:18 +0000

Ok. so Im not perfect. But I will admit. Ive been smoking the green stuff. for a while not around my kids . never.she knew who I was before we got married and had kids. she’s telling me to stop seeing my friends and drugs. I understand. the drug part but my friends that i knew before she did is not fair. she can hang with her friends and I never complain why is that? well after 3 years of marriage she tells me she wants a separation. Here is the thing my first important question is what to do with the kids. I mean she wanted the separation. but why is she taking my kids to her parents leaves me in the apartment all alone with all the kids stuff. which is killing me inside because I love my kids. cant she do this. if she wants separation shouldnt she leave and let me take care of my kids in our own house there food is here there toys crib and bed. I stay at home dad. please someone help what do? I want her back too. and the kids as a family.
Isnt she the one abandoning the house we live in. and taking my kids with out having a normal wife and husband conversation before she takes my kids i consider kidnapping. there is no violence in my home.
these friends never come around my kids. kids are sleeping when i make my decision to go out and have smoke. I dont come home wasted. its not meth or heroin here. its and herb thats gives you 1-2 hour high then its gone. the puff puff is once in a while also. its not every day here guys. second there is more to this bashing of me. so im going to spill the beans. her brother smokes pot also in the house that she is staying right now. so its ok to go to and environment where the pot can be smelled when you walk in. but she wants me to stop smoking but her brother can be around my kids like that right?. hmm. she is not being fair here. she wants me to stop cigarrettes and drinking. but then again her DAD a 2 time DUI car operator can be drunk and smoke cigarretes in front of them is the picture clear here guys im trying to save my marriage but im not going to let the fingers fall all on me.

i am a wife and mother of five girls, i left my husband?

admin — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:05:43 +0000

I left my husband in July, for having an affair with the town drug dealer, he then turned around and pressed a dv order against me. He was given full custody and all our property. He was very abusive in our marriage, then he turned around and told the courts that i was poisoning him with street drugs, since he got a dirty UA, they believed him and now he continues to come around and treat me bad. how do i get him to stop coming around me and stop the courts from hurting me.
my husband, knows the judge, he drinks with him out at their friends house, and he also rents a house from him, thru his work. This is crazy. I didnt do nothing to deserve this. and i am sorry for him , because God knows all and will deal with them, i will follow some of your advise tho and stay calm, with Gods help

Husband’s ex wife can’t move on for the better of their child?

admin — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 15:06:58 +0000

My husband’s ex wife refuses to get over the fact they are no longer together and refuses to respect our marriage. She is constantly threatening him that he will lose his son because of me. She whines how she wants to “share moments” over their son. She tries constantly to bond with him over their son. She has drug my name and my husband’s name through the mud for the last 4 years. She has been diagnosed bi-polar but unless you are harmful to your child custody is still split. She has made up lies saying I beat her child to gain sympathy from others. To us she rears her ugly head with demands and threats but to everyone else she plays the victim. How do we react? My step-son is with us 50% of the time yet she tells him this isn’t his real home. That he can only have one real home and it’s with her. He is young and wants to please his mother; unfortunately he is now carrying around this burden. Has anyone been through this and what did you do?
I did not have an affair. Let me just add that she constantly tells their son how I will never love him and how she wishes he wouldn’t come to our house because she is all alone when he does and misses him so much she cries.
I would be all for the 3 of us going to counselling together to see if we can do what’s best for this little boy we all love. She won’t do it. She thinks I don’t need to be involved at all and that I am nothing to this boy.

Is my wife setting a bad example for our son?

admin — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 19:02:14 +0000

My wife stopped talking to her mom it’s been a few months now. She has done this before to her for three years. She has banned our son from seeing or talking to my mom, it’s going on three years now. And no my mom is not an alcoholic , drug user, child molester etc…..I feel that I have taken huge strides the past 3 months to make this marriage work, but she got angry when I asked her about a videogame my mom had bought our son 3 years ago. Apparently soon I discovered she has been throwing away toys and clothes my mom had given him. I told her instead of throwing it away. I will give it to someone that can use it. I told her it’s important that our son see that as adults we can resolve our problems and reach a compromise. On top of it she goes out of her way to treat my stepsister nice but at the same time she does things that is tearing us apart. She made a threat once and told me “no secrets with your sister”. Thanks for your time and sorry this is my only outlet.

My wife doesnt want me to meet her friends?

admin — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 05:03:37 +0000

ok, before me and her got married, she was kinda into drugs. well she stopped all that cause she said she loved me and knew i didnt approve of that. and she said she stopped seeing and hanging out with her drug buddies. i know she has cut her ties with most of them but she says she still has sum friends who dont do that, drugs that is. so she hangs out with them a couple of times a week. but when i ask if i can come, she always has sum kinda exuse like, she wont be out long anyway so i should just stay home. its like it annoys her when i ask to meet sum of her friends. it raises suspicion but she assures me that nothing is going on. she even gets defensive at times, like there is sumthing she doesnt want me to find out. the point is, if nothing is going on, then y cant i at least meet her friends once? isnt everything supposed to be shared in a marriage? is it just me or should i be more assertive about this??

What are your thoughts, recommendations, diagnoses, etc on this wife?

admin — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 07:00:44 +0000

FIRST: THIS IS REAL, IT IS ALSO REALLY FRIGGIN LONG! However, for all those lovers out there, I appreciate being able to talk with you and maybe get some insight. SO….

I wanted to get some feedback, some input, some insight per se. I wanted to know who would actually, truly, deal with a person such as my wife. You see, I love her more than the sun, moon, blah blah blah. You get the picture. However, who would stay in a one-sided marriage when they constantly felt ignored, belittled, degraded, and got yelled at because they couldn’t make enough money right away, or they couldn’t completely kick a smoking habit right away, or because they longed to enjoy their ravishingly beautiful stunning bride in every manner possible?

During our courtship we had some spiffs about me being tattooed, about her expectations of income, etc. I thought we had the understanding of simply no more tats (fine, if you love someone you will give them that aspect of your life if you follow Christ, which I proudly do), and an understanding that finances don’t just create themselves overnight (the average HOUSEHOLD income in America is roughly 40g a year, PERIOD). In my opinion, her entire demeanor gradually reverted to solely the way her family raised her, the lessons her family and first husband had taught her, shortly after we got married (I lost my job, but it only paid $10 a hour which is a far cry from 40g a year anyway). However, by this time I had already committed to invest a great deal of time in this marriage, in this lady, and in her four pre-existing children (really cool kids, just hope they can break the chain of family ignorance before it’s too damn late).

Despite what many would consider some serious issues, CarrieBeth is a lady that I respect greatly, when she’s on target, compassionate, and nurturing of a marriage and not egocentric. However, between the life lessons she has had (her controlling, manipulative, drama-filled family and her first husband who couldn’t keep his willy at dock) she has seriously grown to be perhaps the most self righteous, insecure, pompous jack rabbit that I have ever met. Nonetheless, a commitment is a commitment, and love is love, WHICH, in all actuality, leads us to this point: Tough Love. It was a tactic that was utilized back when Kiss was getting bestowed hatred for being “Satanic” and the drug “epidemic” started becoming considered a problem. I’m at my wits end, I love this lady, I believe in her, she has had moments where she seriously encourages me to be a better person. I am a proud husband! On the flip side, she’s much further across the line of rational, secure, and loving in how she deals with her marriage, and in my opinion, her true pertinent issues. Everything is always blamed on me, and you know, I have some faults too, but what person couldn’t see that when someone says they will email you and can never actually discuss the problems that perhaps the problem is within the person that should recieve said email (several times I have told her I would email her what I felt, what I thought, and what I needed to make it work out, but I can’t because it’s not like she cares to listen unless I can tell her that I make 40g a year right now). I have emailed her a couple times but it’s always somehow boiled down to my fault, my expectations of wanting to have meaningful conversations and time together being wrong because, well, I’m not making the kind of finances she expects her husband of less than a year to be making. I’m to the point where I can’t put my thoughts down without fear of being belittled time and again, or even yelled at. I got to a point where I wouldn’t spend any time at home because how often I would get yelled at, belittled, and the best way for a man to deal with his anger is to avoid the situation until the time he can calmly be heard. Now, I’m not even living in the same state as things grew progressively worse, yet she insists she doesn’t want a divorce, but you know, I don’t want to live feeling like a wife is this way when I know better.

What I would like is for your input, your opinions, and your regards towards CarrieBeth. This is my last resort at trying to get her to pull that beautiful head with sparkling eyes, a ravishing smile, and delightful complexion out of her ass. If you’re cool with it, thank you. However, please don’t flag this? I believe there are some people who have insight, who have encouragement, and who have the ability to break through the toughest walls of egocentric behavioral problems. Unfortunately, it’s just not me I guess.

THE AD IN MENTION:

Hello, my name’s CarrieBeth and I’m pleased to meet you online here. I’m a 28 year young single Mom of four and one on the way. I’m a devout Christian, and in order to get with me you must be a Christian as well. I live to keep my house clean, cook meals, work for my Dad (I’m a Scopist), and tend to my kids. I’m interested in quilting, gardening, and eventually moving away f

WIFE MOVED OUT AND IS HOME AGAIN>>>?

admin — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 09:02:36 +0000

Ok, I AM 49 YEARS OLD AND IN GREAT SHAPE AND LOVES LIVE. I HAVE A NICE HOME AND A COOL DOG AND 2 BOYS AND ….WELL A WIFE.

WE HAVE HAD OR ISSUES OVER THE YEARS , MOSTLY MONEY AND SEX. MY WIFE HAS NEVER CARE ABOUT MY NEEDS , BUT HAD AN AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER MAN ABOUT 6 YEARS AGO THAT LASTED 1 YEAR. SHE TOLD ME IF SHE COULD CONTINUE SEEING HIM, WE WOULD HAVE GREAT SEX AGAIN. SHE MOVED OUT WITH THE KIDS 5 YEARS AFTER THE AFFAIR BUT ASKED TO MOVE BACK HOME JUST 3 WEEKS AFTER MOVING OUT. I TOLD HER WE COULD JUST LIVE AS A FAMILY AND WORK ON THE HOME AND FAMILY AND SHE WAS HAPPY WITH THAT. BUT NOW SHE IS HOME AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT TO WORK ON THE MARRIAGE AT LEAST FOR 1 YEAR AND JUST THE KIDS AND FAMILY . SO NO SEX. SHE ALSO COMPLAINS ABOUT THE MONEY SO MUCH WHEN WE ARE DOING GOOD WITH THE BILLS AND MORTAGAGE. SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT ME TO HAVE ANY DRINK OF BEER OR WINE, BUT I NEVER HAVE ABUSED IT EVER. IF WE GO OUT TO DINNER, I CAN NOT EVEN ORDER A GLASS OF WINE. SHE IS VERY CONTROLLING . SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME SO I ASK WHY DID SHE COME HOME/ SHE SAID BECAUSE I TOLD HER WE COULD WORK JUST ON THE FAMILY FOR AWHILE. I DID NOT THINK SHE WOULD RUN WITH IT…………… I TOLD HER WE NEED TO GO TO COUNCELING AND SHE SAID OK BEFORE SHE MOVED BACK AND NOW SHE SAYS NO.I DO ALOT AT HOHE, CLEAN THE HOUSE, FOOD SHOP, THE YARD, DISHES , TAKE OUT THE TRASH… YOU NAME IT. I TREAT HER VERY GOD, BACK RUBS AND ALL AND AS SOON AS I WANT TO GET SOME LOVE, SHE BACKS OFF AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME BECAUSE OF MY WAYS. I DRANK BEER WHEN SHE MARRIED ME AND SO DID SHE AND I NEVER OVER DO IT. THEYE ARE OTHER THINGS SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ABOUT ME BUT WHEN I TELL HER WHAT I WOUD LIKE TO SEE HER DO, SHE WONT LISTEN AND DOES NOT CARE. NO GIVE AND TAKE.

HOW CAN I HANDLE THIS SITUATION ?? I AM SO UPSET WITH ER AND NOW SHE HAS DRUG THE KIDS INTO IT. ????

If a guy has been with a ton of woman, will he compare them to his wife?

admin — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 15:04:17 +0000

If a guy has always lived in the fast lane and gone to all kinds of parties and had the hottest girls around him…when he gets married, will he not get bored with the calmer life of marriage and just one girl? I mean hes not some drug addict with no job, he actaully comes from a very good family, educated, and he is respectable. But his social life is pretty intense and he surrounded by a huge group of friends and hes invited somewhere every week. if he were to get married, would it mean that he wants to put all that stuff behind him. Will he always compare his wife to the hot dancers hes used to seeing at clubs. basically am i wasting my time trying to make him like me?

What can i do against my wife?

admin — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 03:01:10 +0000

i live in the us and i married an haitien young girl ( she is 21).we have a 15 months old daughter and my wife is really irresponsible. i do everything at home( insurance, bills, cook, clean, drop her anywher she want to go,even drop the baby top the babysitter before a i go to work myself) she watch tv all the time and work in a kitchen a the hospital.i fought for this relationship to work. a cherish my wife and anybody that wanted to go against her even my family , knew not to because i would of step up. everything was ok before the baby until her family started to hate me because i refuse to take car of them financially specially when we don’t have the money. everything we have is because i manage the money for us to have in a long amonth of time so people look us like we got whil it is not.when my wife was pregnant i was alone . her parent that live in our state refuse to help so i brought my mom all the way from africa to hel my wife ..so me and my mom even hold her legs during the delivery while her mom was sleeping home when i called her. my wife didn’t want no baby i had to cancel the insurance in order for her to don’t have an abortion. my wife wanted my mom to go with the baby in africa with the support of my dad and other friend. my wife point was that she couldn’t take care of a kid and taht she needed to go out and travel and other thing . i was the only one that refuse because i wanted to see my first baby grow and call me dad.so i did everything to show people that i can do it. my wife don’t even know how much a diaper cost or a formula. i done it all. recently she wanted to go for a month in haiti soon as the terrible heathqueak happen ..i refuse because she was going to abandon me and the baby and her parent got even more mad they told her that she should divorce me because they like me and since she love her parent she decide to do so. she pretend not to love me anymore so she sleep in the living room and me a the master with the baby.i tried to make her understand the importance for a kid to be raised with both parents since i grew without both of my parent i know how hard it is..i told her that i was even willing to give her watever she want if she try to make this work. but she decided that she will live next month. we haven’t divorce yet . recently she call the police on me because i was complaining that she left the baby in the room alone to play with electical material plug in. while once again she was hocked on tyra bank show.so as i was yelling for my baby i accidently broke a glass and when the cops came she ask the press charge. so i was arested for assault due to reckless endorgement child ( sth like that).i spend 8hours in jail. for the first time. Ever since she got me arested and that i have now a file and that the court made me understand that i cannot yell at her and that i finally understand that woman have so much power in america, my life turn into hell. she goes out wit the baby and comes home after midnight.i am sitting in the living room hurt because taht baby was suppoz to be home and in bed by 8pm..i start having panic attack and everytime it hapopen to me i cannot breath or move and she is ther sterring at me ..sometime laughting .i begging HELP PLEASE..she take the phone and go away from me .i telling her what about the marriage vows .isn’t she suppoz to at least give help when i am sick . i had done it for her my whole life. my treat me now like and peace of S*** . she yell at me . never tell me where she put the baby when i am not arround . and her parent told her to leave me and take the kids because the government will help her.an d because that’s the only way they will hurt me ..my only kid..SO I AM asking you people . brother and sisters.What can do against my wife?.can i sue her for anything? can i get custidy of my kid.? please help me ..they said the only is to prove that she a prostitute or a drug addicted which she isn’t.my baby don’t deserv to be with someone that cannot event respect what i sacrifice for her. she doesn’t even have money in the bank to be able to raised ta kid..last time i went to the hospital she left the baby alone in the room and went to work , thank god i came back at 8am my kid was crying in her crib. please what law can use i am hopeless..i write everything but my number if you car is 978 569 47 97 .please do use it or give me a solution..thanx

Does anyone know a wife who allows her husband to cheat?

admin — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 13:06:53 +0000

when I was a kid, I had a childhood friend who’s Father had an affair (on his wife) with my Mother. It was passionate and went on for a couple years. It ended when his wife became pregnant. However, he was famed sex addict and stand up comic, also a drug user. He eventually died of drug abuse years later, when I reunited with my friend over facebook.
I remember telling him, how his mother enabled his behavior and how I would never be with a man like that.
then I met another gentlemen friend, (around his sixties) who recently got married. Everytime I hang out with this guy, he hits on me. I asked him what his wife thought about his philandering ways and he said and quote: Im like a kid in a candy shop. Theres no shortage of lonely women. I party and do whatever the fuck I want and she lets me”

I met this women, shes very nice later and very in Love with this man.
I know so many people that cheat it DISGUSTS me.
It doesnt seem right….
anyways, would a marriage like that work out. Giving your man his freedom??
As long as he comes home to YOU ,right????
because I MIGHT end up with a guy like this…..and I judged my friends mom so harshly( shaking head) Ironic huh??…

Doesn’t my wife owe me something more if she wants to keep me?

admin — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 15:02:00 +0000

My wife, after seven years of on and off the bottle, cheating, drug abuse, hospitalizations for everything under the sun, and knowing she had nothing to offer me, gave me a green light to have sex outside of the marriage. Late this past summer, she got clean and began doing very well, and she asked me at that time to forego the green light and to give her another chance. (I gave her a last chance last year/we are only together for the kids and finances) Well, I reluctantly gave in, but as far as I am concerned, since then, she has shown me nothing. She never initiates affection, refuses sex, and is still on an emotional roller coaster, and still plays the victim whenever I give the slightest criticizm. I aam about to tell her just forget the whole thinga nd be friends and turn the green light back on. Don’t you agree that if she wants more that its her who has to make the effort? (Believe me, my efforts have been endless)

Mom favors soon-to-be ex wife over son.?

admin — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 17:02:15 +0000

My wife and I are separated with two kids. She is very friendly with my mom. So friendly I think they are more like girlfriends than in-laws. The thing is she has started dating men online and she talks about her sex life with MY MOTHER and sister.

I cheated 3yrs into the marriage because of her lack of interest in sex, partying, and occasional drug use. Later down the road she admitted of having an affair 3 months into the marriage and 10 months prior to admitting her infidelites. When I called to talk to my mother about this she was like “she knew and it was not important how long she has known”, WTF! I don’t get my mom. When we were arguing alot, my wife was thinking about moving to my moms state and she was going to help her get set up there and everything. Why is she more supportive of my wife and not her own son?
My dad abrused my mom and I saved her butt many times, Souljatrick, oops, girl.

Wife was cheating and doing pot, cheating stopped – how to get her off pot??

admin — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 23:00:55 +0000

My wife started doing pot and cheating behind my back. She says the cheating has stopped (maybe I believe her?) But refuses to give up the pot… We have been married over 17 years and she only started doing pot in last 4 months same time as her cheating started. She was banging guys she was getting pot from.
She still wants to associate with one guy she was fooling with just as “friends” so she can get pot from him. I somewhat trust that she is not looking to cheat at the moment but I am afraid that this guy will prove to be to much of a temptation.
I am against drug use and she knows it but refuses to quit. She has even started growing it in places over the yard. I have killed some.

I am trying hard to make marriage work as we have a child together and I do still love her.

I have threatened to leave but she calls my bluff because she knows I do not want to.

Is this a hopeless situation? Any ideas on how to get her to stop doing pot?
In answer to one thing yes I do think that some of this is “practicaly spitting in my face”. She has literaly asked me why I do not leave her. I think maybe this was because she doubted me and my interest in her. Things had been sour for years with bitterness and anger on both parts. I am looking at this as a cry for help and for me to prove that I care. I think we have resolved a lot of the bedroom issues and anger that was there – now to get her to stop doing pot for two reasons, for our child(who she is the stay at home mom) And because we don’t make much money and cannot aford the habit (so she in my opinion is likely to sleep with the guy supplying it to her to get it for free as she was before)

Child is disabled so leaving would be extra tough plus I think we made some progress and it is just the pot standing between us and a good marriage… Maybe

No sex, affection, interest from wife?

admin — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 05:05:35 +0000

We are best friends who for the first 28 years held hands, kissed, called each other just to say I love you, held each other and talked about our fears, hopes, dreams. Then she stopped everything, first she no longer wanted oral sex from me then told me to just hurry up and finish with no passion or intimacy involved. Along with this our oldest has just completed back to back deployments to the middle east as a combat infantryman in the Army where he had way too many close calls with his life. Our youngest had an awful drug problem where he went from a star athlete to a drug addict being held in jail and charged with murder. I have always tried to be the best husband any woman would want and a good father. I remember all special occasions, send flowers, leave love notes, do chores around the house regularly. Choose my wife over sports everytime. My family always comes first. I have never wanted to cheat and never gave my wife to worry. I am very affectionate; hugs, kisses, holding hands, body massages, scratching her back and just trying to be a loving understanding, caring husband. I always volunteered to help out at school and any other events my family were involved in. We are not rich but now that both of our children are out of the house we are doing fairly well financially. I recently retired and we had always planned on traveling together. However with us in our late forties my wife is not interested in anything and has no time for me. I must initiate all kissing, holding hands or hugs yet when I do she just stands and makes me feel like I am kissing, holding a cold dead fish. She has put on alot of weight and constantly complains about it. I have always told her that she is beautiful, she is my queen, my love. I tell her how sexy she is to me and how much I am attracted to her. Nothing gets through to her. She wants to sell our house and move, I think it would be good to get away from our small gossipy town but with the economy so bad selling a house is not so easy. I do not know what to do since she will not go to counseling, she hates to talk to people especially about something personal. She is not close to her side of the family it has always been she and I that talked and discussed problems. Now it is like I have an acquaintance sharing my house with me. In the last four months we have had sex twice and none in the last three months. Even then it was her saying just pull my pants down and hurry up and get it done. No soft special touches, no kissing, no loving words. I was sick to my stomach afterward with fear that our marriage was over. I am a good looking forty something man with two grown children and it appears a wife that has no interest, no affection, no love for me anymore. I do not want to stay this way for ten more years and then be old and alone. I just want my best friend, my lover, my wife back to ride our horses, travel go out to eat, see a movie, joke, have special secrets that are just our own, I want to make passionate love with my wife where we both enjoy the experience. I miss my friend/wife what can I do, what should I do. I have always wondered when someone knows it is time to quit the marriage, time to get a divorce. I just never thought I would be asking myself the question on whether it is time for divorce.

My wife is begging me not to leave her for my mistress, is she only doing this because she’s desperate?

admin — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 09:01:22 +0000

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME AND CALL ME EVERY “PIG” AND “DOG” IN THE BOOK, please know that my wife Valerie and I haven’t been in love for a very long time now. She admitted it first and I admitted the same YEARS AGO. We are 55 years old, we’ve been together since high school and our wedding followed a month after our high school graduation. 37 years of marriage to be exact. We have a 35 year old son, a 31 year old daughter, a 29 year old son, a 23 year old son and 21 year old twin daughters. And let’s not even mention how many grandchildren we have.

Like I said, our love fizzled out maybe 10 or so years ago. But we were so busy wanting to impress and brag to our family and friends that we were a rare black couple who raised six kids(neither of whom turned out to be thugs, whores or drug addicts) and held down jobs throughout it all. Valerie and I had our share of jealous folks, but the truth was, our marriage was just for show after a while. We haven’t been in love in long time. We had sex last week…..that was the first time we made love in 2010! I’ve been seeing my mistress Anne for 3 years, THAT’S who I love and feel the marriage for. Anne treats me like a king and the fact that she’s only 41 years old(14 years my junior) is not an issue. Valerie has been playing “sugar momma” to some 32 year old man for about a year now.

She allowed her heart to get involved and the young man gave her the boot when she started discussing commitment with him yesterday. So, now she’s telling me not to leave her for Anne and she wants us to be husband and wife for real this time. I am her HUSBAND, not her “backup plan if something doesn’t work out with another guy”. She will not ruin my happiness with Anne or ask me to break Anne’s heart for her own selfishness. I kept Anne waiting for three years and it’s not fair to HER. If my wife can PROVE that she’s still in love with me after 37 years of marriage, I may give it a 2nd thought. What should I do?

got a divorce. ex-hubby is now freaking because wife now has boyfriend. calls all the time.?

admin — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 13:01:47 +0000

he won’t leave her alone. cries to her family and is turning them against her. talks bad about her new guy to their kids. the ex-hubby was no angel… drugs, gambling and immaturity + a few flings in their 20+ year marriage.

what should she do to get him to understand their marriage is OVER!!

My Crazy Wife is Taking My Boys and Leaving State! How can I cope?

admin — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 07:01:45 +0000

I have been married to my wife for about 4 years now. We have 2 boys (3 1/2 and 1 1/2). Both were born by either condoms with poked holes or by complete flukes. My wife was abandoned as a child and has a HUGE set of issues. She constantly during the marriage threatened to take my boys away even though I watched them constantly while maintaining an overnight software position. She became worse and worse through marriage..partying, spending less and less time with boys, minor drug use, and habitual flirting – guy trouble. She had her first affair with an ex boyfriend in Arizona. She begged for my forgiveness and we tried to work past it. We moved to Ohio, because her mothering was horrendous and I needed to be nearer to my parents to get some kind of help for the boys. I told her if she made this giant move with me I needed to see a huge effort to change on her behalf. However, she did not. She met some new guys at work and was quickly staying out til all hours of the night. I finally confronted her when she came home the next day from a party and she told me it was all playful flirting and nothing serious. I said, I WANT A DIVORCE. She said GOOD, CUZ I MET SOMEONE ELSE. In the time to follow divorce proceedings were getting underway, she was seeing someone else and I met a single mom who was extremely strong herself and had dinner with her. Jen (My Wife) caught wind and began to beg for me back. One night when she was coming to VISIT with the boys who were with me FULL TIME, she basically threw herself at me. Said if I didn’t come back to her she would ruin my life. (4 days before she was in hot tub and wrestling with girls..had small bruise on upper arm from party..”war wounds she said..”) She stepped back from me that night, laughed, and dialed 911. She immediately began to cry. She said I dragged her 40 feet down hallway, and hit her. I was arrested, booked, charged with domestic violence. I was later found not guilty, yet the trouble continued with Jen. She continued to beg for me back. Meanwhile, after the arrest she SWOOPED BACK INTO the apartment and began watching OUR boys. Every time I try to return back home she will call the police and say she fears for her life. I cannot even go around this girl! I have little proof of what she IS. I have journal entries, etc..but besides this..nothing concrete. She is a terrible mother. Puts her sons barefoot into snow..allows them to play with curling irons while on..etc. She has NOW threatened that if I don’t come back to her she is taking boys 2000 miles away and will never see them again. She has made it so that I really cannot have a QUALITY life and have my kids in it. I love my kids so very much! Yet, I have already stayed in a terrible relationship for the boys sake for 3 years now. Please help!