How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Basically, Ive always been average at everything, and rather ugly and shy around women, Ive been rejected all my life and ave neevr had a date or kissed girl. I turned 40 in january, 5 years ago approxmatley i got sick of not knowing and had sex with a hooker. I feel even worse, I mean I have to pay a woman to sleep with me….how can anyone be so undesirable that the only way they can get female contact is by funding some poor womans drug habit? I visited my mum yesterday, and I dont mean this in a sexual way, but t as the closest thing to marriage I have ever felt, a cooked meal, a woman who cared about me, leaving was the hardest thing I ever had to do and I nearly downed a bottle of pill when I got back to my empty cold flat. Im a doctor btw, I make a lo of money but what good are material possesions. My mum always thought I didnt get married because I was too busy wih my job, but thats not true, I try so hardt find love. i broke down in front of her and crie and blabbed about how lonely I was.
What can I do? Is it worth me spending my money on stuff like eharmony and match? Or should I just pay for some female company and acceptits the closest thing I’ll ever have

I have been married to a man for 8 years. The rouphest years of my life! He had a terrible drug habbit which lead to other problems, from being verbally and physically abusive to stealing, you name it. On several ocassions I have had to call the police and have him arrested. I have thrown him our of my house and we have also put this man through several drug rehabs. Needless to say nothing had worked. He had tried getting back together with me but I finally had to put my foot down and say when you get a job, and you stay clean and I don’t have to support you then maybe ill think about it. He moved out of town to his parents home, which they have never liked me. They come from a very old fashioned traditional Mexican family who can’t accept me because I have children from a previous marriage. We have plans on getting back together since he has found a job and is going to start a vocational training, Only problem is he doesn’t want to move back into town because he says he will go back to his old ways. The kids and I are willing to move out of town once he is settled. The problem is… His parents dispice me. We went to visit him and we had to stay in a hotel because I wasnt allowed in his parents home and neither were my children. They had something for easter where the whole family was invited and our daughter was welcome as well as my husband. my childrend and I were never invited. My daughter also spent spring vacation with her dad and grandparents, my husband was working and my inlaws were babysitting while my husband was at work, yet when I was up there visiting she did not want to babysit so that we could go out. I don’t understand? My husband asked if he could have my daughter for the summer and when I asked who was going to watch my daughter while he was working and in training he said his parents would. So if they did not want to watch her for that one night that we wanted to go out, (they didnt have plans ) what makes me think they will want to watch her for the summer. I’ve mentioned to him that it bothers me that they exclude us and he just blushes me off. The three days that I was up there visiting his mother was calling him constantly.. He mentioned to his mother that he had plans on us getting back together again and she said that his sisters would not accept this. Im sorry my mom passed when I was very young and I have no siblings. Is this the way it’s supposed to be? Am I overexagerating or is it time for me to walk away? Can Somebody help?

Day 1.

Just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary with not much to celebrate. When it came time to re-enact our wedding night, he locked himself in the bathroom and cried.

Day 2.

Today, he says he has a big secret to tell me. He’s impotent, he says, and he wants me to be the first to know. Why doesn’t he tell me something I don’t know! I mean, he actually thinks I haven’t noticed.

Day 3.

This marriage is in trouble. A woman has needs. Yesterday, I saw a picture of the Washington Monument and burst into tears.

Day 4.

A miracle has happened! There’s a new drug on the market that will fix his problem. It’s called Viagra. I told him that if he takes Viagra things will be just like they were on our wedding night. I think this will work. I replaced his Prozac with the Viagra, hoping to lift something other than his mood.

Day 5.

What absolute bliss!!.

Day 6.

Isn’t life wonderful but it’s difficult to write while he’s doing that.

Day 7.

This Viagra thing has gone to his head. No pun intended! Yesterday, at Burger King, the manager asked me if I’d like a Whopper. He thought they were talking about him. But, I have to admit it’s very nice – I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy.

Day 8.

I think he took too many over the weekend. Yesterday, instead of mowing the lawn, he was using his new friend as a weed wacker. I’m also getting a bit sore down there.

Day 9.

No time to write. He might catch me.

Day 10.

Okay, I admit it. I’m hiding. I mean, a girl can only take so much. And to make matters worse, he’s washing the Viagra down with whip cream and whisky! What am I going to do? I feel tacky all over….

Day 11.

I’m basically being screwed to death. It’s like living with a Black and Decker drill. I woke up this morning hot-glued to the bed. Even my armpits hurt. He’s a complete pig.

Day 12.

I wish he was gay. I’ve stopped wearing make-up, cleaning my teeth or even washing but he still keeps coming after me! Even yawning has become dangerous …

Day 13.

Every time I shut my eyes, there’s a sneak attack! It’s like going to bed with a scud missile. I can hardly walk and if he tries that “Oops, sorry”, thing again, I’ll kill the *******.

Day 14.

I’ve done everything to turn him off. Nothing is working. I even started dressing like a nun but this just seems to make him hornier. Help me.

Day 15.

I think I’ll have to kill him. The cat and dog won’t go near him and our friends don’t come over any more. Last night I told him to go and f… himself and he did.

Day 16.

The ******* has started to complain about headaches. I hope the bloody thing explodes. I did suggest he might try stopping the Viagra and going back on Prozac.

Day 17.

Switched the pills but it doesn’t seem to have made any difference… Christ! Here he comes again!

Day 18.

He’s back on Prozac. The lazy sod just sits there in front of the telly all day with that remote control in his hand and expects me to do everything for him. What absolute bliss!

She had an affair last year. Still believes she “Loves” the goofy idiot. The know nothing about each other except sex. He is a drug addict, womanizer who wouldn’t be a husband for 2 minutes let alone 20 years.

We have stayed together so far. Im trying to forgive. I find her with messages professing love an longing for this freak. I still sleep on the couch (Well over a year), no wedding rings (She writes that we are “Separated”). No sex, no love, no ANYTHING.

We have 3 kids. They are the best. Wanted to work it out for them especially. But then I find this crap.

I am so tired of the lies. She says trust me, than sits around writing that crap. She finds out I am going to file for divorce. Last night she says we’ll work on it, wants to try counseling. Says she does not love him. Just venting, trying to come out of this “Sickness”. We had a good talk and decided we’d make an effort.

So this morning I ask her…”Are we married or separated” Because when she thinks she is separated she does/says things that are not good for this marriage. She stammers around and says “I just need some time for me”. I just walked out.

Wow. The last year and a half of running around “Sexy & Separated” sowing her oats while I starve to death.

So…do I put anymore effort into this? We are scheduled to start counseling…will it help? Anybody had any luck with that?

I still love her. I really do. But not enough to live as room mates, while she pines away for fiction and fantasy.

She had an affair last year. Still believes she “Loves” the goofy idiot. The know nothing about each other except sex. He is a drug addict, womanizer who wouldn’t be a husband for 2 minutes let alone 20 years.

We have stayed together so far. Im trying to forgive. I find her with messages professing love an longing for this freak. I still sleep on the couch (Well over a year), no wedding rings (She writes that we are “Separated”). No sex, no love, no ANYTHING.

We have 3 kids. They are the best. Wanted to work it out for them especially. But then I find this crap.

I am so tired of the lies. She says trust me, than sits around writing that crap. She finds out I am going to file for divorce. Last night she says we’ll work on it, wants to try counseling. Says she does not love him. Just venting, trying to come out of this “Sickness”. We had a good talk and decided we’d make an effort.

So this morning I ask her…”Are we married or separated” Because when she thinks she is separated she does/says things that are not good for this marriage. She stammers around and says “I just need some time for me”. I just walked out.

Wow. The last year and a half of running around “Sexy & Separated” sowing her oats while I starve to death.

So…do I put anymore effort into this? We are scheduled to start counseling…will it help? Anybody had any luck with that?

I still love her. I really do. But not enough to live as room mates, while she pines away for fiction and fantasy.

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings.

When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old.

Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery.

I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together and arguments go both ways, she has a lot of negative energy and always picks out the bad in everything and is normally in a bad mood, but I’ve always put up with it.

Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left.

After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me.

We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy and I really don’t want to stress out the poor baby.

This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too.

I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since we were married. I don’t know what to do and I just want to move on because I don’t think she’s good enough for me anymore.

I know what it takes to keep someone happy now, but the sad thing is that she is still the same negative, mean, and pessimistic person. She never really appreciated me either. I got to thinking and I can’t remember one time that she said I was handsome other than the times if I asked her if I looked okay.

I know that she will probably never be happy in the long run and it hurts me to think that, but its true. She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s really headed down the wrong road and she will realize it too late. I don’t think anyone would put up with her as long as I have and she won’t talk to anyone about her problems. I just don’t know what to do.
The saddest thing is that I have all of this knowledge now and its too late. If I would have known everything that I now do before this tragedy, then it would have been avoided. I know she didn’t want this to happen, but she’s a weak person and didn’t fight hard enough to save our family. I was even willing to try and work it out after the fact that she cheated and she said she loved me and wanted to come back and then a few days later she decided that she didn’t think she should come back. She’s living with me still and we just kind of do our own thing, basically roomates that have a baby together. I had so many plans in store for us when she came back and its just too late. I know for a fact that I won’t have a problem finding another girl, but its just a shame that all my new knowledge will be used on them, instead of the woman that I married and promised to love and cherish forever.

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings.

When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old.

Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery.

I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together and arguments go both ways, she has a lot of negative energy and always picks out the bad in everything and is normally in a bad mood, but I’ve always put up with it.

Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left.

After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me.

We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy and I really don’t want to stress out the poor baby.

This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too.

I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since we were married. I don’t know what to do and I just want to move on because I don’t think she’s good enough for me anymore.

I know what it takes to keep someone happy now, but the sad thing is that she is still the same negative, mean, and pessimistic person. She never really appreciated me either. I got to thinking and I can’t remember one time that she said I was handsome other than the times if I asked her if I looked okay.

I know that she will probably never be happy in the long run and it hurts me to think that, but its true. She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s really headed down the wrong road and she will realize it too late. I don’t think anyone would put up with her as long as I have and she won’t talk to anyone about her problems. I just don’t know what to do.
Its sad to think that after all I have learned, I will not get to use it with my wife, the one I’ve always loved without question. Arguments and appreciation go both ways, we both argued and we both appreciated each other, but neither one of us really showed it to one another, which is the most important thing. Verbal and physical communication are key and we lost that somewhere down the line. Its sad to me that she never brought up how she felt, instead she just gave up, no matter how many times I asked her what was wrong. She just gave up, cheated on me, and split apart our family. I wish she were stronger minded and tried harder and I wish I wouldn’t have been the way I was, but I can’t change the past, but I do have power over the future. I just wish it wasn’t too late, even though I’m moving on and getting over it, it just hurts me to see where she’ll be in the next 5-10 years because I know I’ve given her so much and she’s given me so much and I know we could be happy.

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings. When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old. Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery. I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together. Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left. After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me. We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy. This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too. I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since marriage. I don’t know what to do.

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings. When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old. Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery. I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together. Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left. After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me. We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy. This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too. I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since marriage. I don’t know what to do.
It just sucks because now I know what I need to do to make her happy and I wouldn’t be making it up, it would be truly how I feel. She’s willing to see if this guy will change for her and quit drinking as much and quit doing coke, but she isn’t willing to give the man who loves her more than anything in the world and the father of her child another go. She just doesn’t want to try and it makes me just want to give up and move on, but my love for her is so deep, that I don’t think I can give up. I want to just move on so badly, I know I can find someone else to love the new me, I have no doubt it my mind that I will make someone happy, but I just want it to be her. I’ve never wanted anyone else, just her, she’s everything I ever wanted in a woman and now that she’s gone, I don’t know if I can take it.

Turns out she was unhappy and told me so, but I had asked her in the past couple months if it was because of me and she would always say, no its not you, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. She wouldn’t open up to me, she’s very secretive about her feelings. When she said she needed some space, she was drunk and told me all the things that I did that she hated and it made me feel terrible and beforehand, I just kind of dismissed her unhappy thoughts as post partum depression or baby blues. Our baby is 10 months old now, but when she left, she was about 8 months old. Then I find out through the grapevine that she was cheating on me and started cheating on me about a month before she finally left. While I’m sitting at home killing myself over this situation and worrying about her so much, thinking she’s at her mom’s house all depressed and lost and lonely, I find out she’s been seeing this lowlife guy that nobody likes except her. I confronted her about it and she lied at first but finally admitted the adultery. I still love her so much and I know that I drove her away because we had not been getting along very well. We argued all the time and said mean things, but I didn’t really realize what it took to keep a marriage together. Instead of thinking all the the things I thought, I should have told her how I felt about her and told her how much I appreciated her. She’s a great mother and did so much for me and I didn’t realize how hard she really worked until she left. After hundred of dollars in programs and doctors, I’ve finally figured out what it takes to make a woman happy and I’m not nervous about giving compliments anymore. I always just figured she knew I thought she was beautiful and I figured she knew I appreciated her vacuuming and cleaning the house. We’d argue and I’d end it with saying something mean to her or her saying something mean to me. We worked very different schedules, she worked 1st shift and I worked 2nd shift. I told her I would forgive her and we should try to work it out because I have so much love to give and I know I could make her happy. This guy is no good for her, he’s a drug addict or was, he’s a bad alcoholic, he has a shitty job, a shitty bachelor pad/apartment, and 8 year old kid he only gets every other weekend and is behind on child support and about 25 people have told me that he for sure has herpes and has given it to a couple other girls I talked too. I need to get over this, but I can’t stop loving her and wanting her back. I’ve always loved her for the person she is and I guess I didn’t know how much until she was gone. It hurts because everything I’ve learned about life and love has made me a better person and I know I’d never make the same mistakes twice. I just can’t get over the fact that she cheated on me without trying harder to save our family. I’ve always thought of her as the glue the kept me in line and I’ve always been faithful to her since marriage. I don’t know what to do.

Let me set this up for you, so you know the real situation here…Our marriage is basically over. We have been fighting over things like Internet cheating, drug abuse, lying and stealing. I am done and he knows it. he is trying to get me back by begging me and promising me things will change, when he has already made the same promises and broke them. My husband claims he was getting online and searching want ads to look at pictures. He even replied to some ads (about 7 of them). He begs me to forgive him (each time is repeated for a total of 3 seperate occassions). The other night he walks up to me with a shit eating grin on his face and asks me if he can take naked photos of me. He said that way he won’t have to look on the Internet for women to masturbate to. How in the world is a woman suppose to feel after someone that tells you he loves and respects you?

after 6 months of seperation, and my ex wifes impending re-marriage i am finally succeeding in letting it go. the problem is she keeps dropping small hints all the time,especially body language. on fathers day she dropped off my kids found me in the basement and basically undressed me with her eyes. For a second i thought she wanted a hug, but i backed away. She constantly is asking my older child how im doing amd must be questioning them about me cause she seems to know everything i do,EVERYTHING. There are so many issues involved with her from being extremely impulsive,former drug abuse,and breaking up with me and coming back like 4 times over 25 years.She claims she is happy,claims she wants me to be happy,but 2 weeks ago i confronted her about if she really was sure of her marriage and she said she couldnt answer, then last week she said she was sure, but asked me for my true feelings for her.After i told her i still loved her, she said she didnt and never thinks of me or us. ???

He did tell me about her when we got together. He told me they were in an unhealthy relationship. He was 19 and she was 51. He was a crack head and she supported and enabled him for 20 years. He got sober 3 1/2 years ago and broke off the relationship.
When I asked him in the beginning had he ever been married, he said no. He claims now, he lied about the marriage because he was ashamed of the life he had, that he never loved her only used her to support his drug habit.He says he was embarssed to admit the short marriage of 5 or 7 years. He denies he meets with her. He says they are divorcd now. He says she called me to hurt him and try to break us up.She constantly calls leaving messages begging him to come back to her.He didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to concern me. He says he never responds.
We are not youngsters he is 40 and I am 55. He is the most loving, considerate and thoughful man I have ever been with.We have been togeher 5 months, daily. He has introduced me to his family, he is now back in their good graces. He would be my 4th husband. I am not rich, but do have more resources than he. He says he will always be there for me. I try to talk about the age difference and does he realize I will lose my beauty and could need care. He still insist his love for me is forever. Since there are no guarantees in life, I just want to live for today and hope he is sincere. I love him dearly and would be so unhappy without him. Just like her. I feel sorry for her. I want to believe in him, should I?

marriage is a contract between a man and a women where the man agrees to give up 1/2 of every thing he is worth in return for less sex.

a father and his son go into a drug store and the son sees a 3 pack of condoms and askes his father what are those for the father answers for high school 1 for fri night 1 for sat night 1 for sun night then the son asks what is the 6 pack for the father answers for college 2 fri 2 sat 2 sun. the son then asks what is the 12 pack for the father says oh the 12 pack thats for marriage 1 for jan 1 for feb 1 for march.

what do a 100 battered wifes all have in common ?
they don’t fing listin.

love is a disease only curable by marriage.

they are 3 rings in a relationship that ends in marriage.
the engagment ring the wedding ring and after the marriage the suffering.

honestly its all disneys fault from the time these girls are 2 disney fills there heads with the idea of meeting a prince
living in a castle happily ever after. Men just can’

After 15 years of marriage, she has gone off the wall and seems to be not living in reality. She wants to move out away from me and our two sons and live on her own. She appears to be tormented by things she did in her past, but she does not want to discuss. She has had an online relationship with a divorced father of 4 who lives 3000 miles away, and she really likes him. Within the last two weeks she got a cell phone behind my back so she could talk to this guy whenever she wanted. She does not want counseling, doesn’t want to work on the marriage, yet doesn’t want a divorce. She has no intention to move closer to this man, nor he closer to her. She also listens to heavy grundge music, wants to get a tatoo, and wants nothing to do with her family and friends. She says she knows what she is doing is wrong, but it “feels too good to stop”. I believe Paxil is to blame. Anyone with experience with this drug with advice is welcome to respond!

i dont have enough room for the details. wish i could. basically, i was a drug addict. she stood by my side. helped me to get into a rehab in california. we lived in chicago. we then got married,her and my three kids moved out here while i finished my rehab but continued to talk to this guy. and she said she “just kissed” him about a month before our marriage. then continued to call him from in california. what do i do..? i want my kids?

My brother in law was married to a girl I went to college with. She has always been good and playing this really nice Christian person and then turning around and taking drugs, drinking, lying and participitating in sexual acts with several men at one time. She was very wild in college and even after she got married. It’s just she was very sneaky about it. Her father is a very prominent pastor and comes from a fairly wealthy family. In college she tried commiting suicide or faking it several times and always wanted attention from the opposite sex. (Like fake falling, telling people she had been raped several times the day before when she was out with others the whole time) just really crazy stuff! One day she had scratch marks all over her face and she said a guy had raped her (for the 3rd time) and it just didn’t add up She would also have cut marks on herself at times. She would pass out and act like she wasn’t several times that she wasn’t breathing. The doctor at the ER said she was faking it and she had a psychological disorder. She was placed in the mental hospital several times.Well anyway she met my brother in law married him. (We tried warning him) and they had 2 children. She appeared to be better throughout the marriage and I don’t think she had any other episodes. They were married almost 10 years when abruptly she seperated from him. He found all kinds of emails that were very sexual that she emailed to a youth pastor at her church about there sex on the beach and so on. She of course denied it and went on with the divorce . She accused him of beating her. We told him to get a lawyer but he said that every lawyer he talked to didn’t seem to think he had a case so he just seemed to give up.I told him to take the letters to them. He never showed them in court. He then said that he believed her that the letters were just a joke. I think he was in total denial because it heard him to much and he would give her total access to the money too. He was just trying everything to get her back. She was lying to her parents too and they bought her a new car and apartment.They finally got a divorce a couple of months ago and she got full custody . Well he just recently emailed the letters to her parents and I guess she got mad. She went to the police with a black eye and accused him of hitting her. She is crazy enough in our opinion to have done it to herself for attention and revenge. He went to jail and is being charged. She still is very active in her church and plays the innocent church girl when she’s really a crazy and very wild person. The reason I am involved is because we have had to help him out a lot financially. We can’t afford to keep helping him. We have told him to get a lawyer but he
We told him to get a lawyer but he seems to be giving up.

I’ve known her for 7 years, we were best friends for 3 years and have been in a relationship for over a year and a half, 2 years in October. Now we aren’t actually married, we’re engaged. I proposed to her after like two months of dating because I had been best friends with her and had known her for long enough and WELL enough to make the decision to head on the path to marriage with her. We have been engaged the whole time and are planning to get married in December and move in sometime shortly before that. We both haven’t had any other relationships outside of this, I mean I’ve known her for 7 years And I guarentee about 5 and a half of those years I couldn’t do much else because I had to be pretty devoted to her. I mean my Fiancee’s a full time job one of the main problems is I’ve dropped all my friends, family, career EVERYTHING for her we will lose our virginity together, get married, have children, we planned our whole lives (And I’m most worried about mine) around our marriage.

I don’t know if she just wasn’t herself ’till now or what, I’ve been the same person the whole time I NEVER change. And I still have the next 2-3 planned around us moving in together, getting married, maybe fueling my dream career or her college I think it’s literally impossible to do anything else.

But I’m noticing little things, like today she sent me an email saying she’s going vegetarian. (no offence to vegetarians) But I HATE shit like that. I just started screaming at her saying that I’m not going to pay for her crazyness, we are college students we cannot AFFORD her wanting to become a vegetarian and as I knew her email is clogged with stuff from PETA and her house is probably filled with her new obsessive vegetarian stuff she already made some pledge not to eat meat for 30 days. Well then I guess she’s not going to be able to eat, because she needs nutrition and I’m going by money here and as always she acts like she has no brain.

It’s stuff like how she keeps dying her hair. She’s dying it so much it’s thin and ugly and probably falling out and she’s not telling me. I HATE shit like that too. It drives me beyond crazy.

It’s stuff like how one day she seems determined to have two jobs (like how I do) and take care of me and she’s doing everything and making all these plans so we can leave and be together sooner but what she plans usually make no sense (to me) because they don’t involve me, or she doesn’t do them AT ALL there’s some reason.

She promises me all these things and I say where are they and they don’t exist, what do they only exist in her head?

And another thing that she does is she acts REALLY naive, and innocent, and ignorant and helpless so I’ll do everything (I have no problem doing that) She can be the housewife and I can be the provider but THEN she gets cold and says she’s independant and doesn’t need me and it just happened and she has to go away and fix it now and has no explanation of why she’s completely changed.

She seems helpless, as to why she does so many stupid things but then she does whorish stuff (She almost wasn’t a virgin, I am a virgin and I will only marry a virgin) She’s only a virgin because I scared all her boyfriends to death so they wouldn’t touch her. Not like she wouldn’t've jumped in. We wern’t “together” together then she says. She seems so ignorant and lovely but then she wants to go to college (AND LEAVE ME she WOULD HAVE TO LEAVE ME TO GO) or have sex with people other than me! Or get piercings and tattoos or do drugs and drink or stay with her abusive mother, her mother is bipolar and used to beat her yet she says it’s her mother.

I would never love a mother that beat me.

She seems naive, but her actions make me want to leave her and never come back. I cannot treat her as naive when she becomes “independant” from me 3 times and able to “live completely without me” and has other people. Jesus Christ. I’m her Fiancee why would she do that? Why the hell would she tell me how unhappy she is and now she can live without me and that’s probably why she’s unhappy.

If you plan on hanging out with abusive people that do drugs and drink and ruin their lives you obviously aren’t so naive my love.

That’s how I feel.

You can’t be innocent and be with people like that, reguardless of friends, family, classmates.

Someone so sheltered and lovely wouldn’t be anywhere NEAR people like that. Someone so helpless wouldn’t be around people that use them for sex or take drugs because their friends do and they want to fit in. Or they hate themself. Someone so dark isn’t so innocent.

but she acts really, really stupid. Like innocent, ignornant, stupid. If you say you’re into BDSM you are NOT innocent by any means! Nor will I treat
Nor will I treat you as such!

I feel like you made your bed now lie in it.

I don’t know what to do. I’m on a crash course for marriage with this girl. I’m getting married in 5 and a half months.

I am seeing things, that yes, I can atleast say for the first 6 years wern’t there. I don’t know what to do. She just keeps getting more unattractive and more crazy by the day.

But she’s also the sucidal type. I love my Fiancee to death but there are these little ticks. I don’t know if there’s something wrong or what.

And I couldn’t even break up with her if I wanted to. Or make our relationship less intense, call off the wedding. She’d have a fit.

And she says she’d kill herself if I broke up with her.
I don’t doubt it for a moment.

I’m scared to even ask to get away from her because of that.

I just don’t understand.

I feel like there’s something wrong and I wish I had someone to talk to about it.
I most definately cannot marry her.

And she won’t change.

And
she won’t change.

And if I even wanted to call our wedding off, call everything off. Even for time, I fear the consequences. I’m sorry for how long this is but please read it thank you for the answers. I need them!

By the way, I am a girl and my Fiancee is a girl so please don’t tell me to be a man or something or say anything about her having me whipped. It will fall on deaf ears I’m not a man.
thank you

And we call each other our wives. Well I call her my wife, my spouse so I thought the title didn’t matter. :\

I have had parents with adiction my whole life! finally I am happily married for 4 years and have 3 beautiful children. I am suffering because my parents have always had some form of drug/alcohol addiction. Well now they are getting to thier lowest point (eviction, no money) and they refuse to work. They are only inb thier 50s. they only call when they need money or rides. A few weeks ago I gave in and gave them $50 for a “battery” for thier car and I took them to the “dr” only to find out the used the $ for RX drugs and the “dr” was a meth clinic. I can’t do this anymore I am afraid they are going to try to move in with me and I can’t let them because it WILL ruin my marriage and they will not clean up. I think I should cut ties with them. But I feel really bad I am thier only child. But the only thing they have done was cause me heartache my whole life. Now I finally have a good husband and life. Any advice would really be needed

am 34y.and i am in the middle of divorce after 6 years of marriage and also have a baby girl who i love like crazy,but we are getting divorce because my wife hates my family and constantly puts them down which makes me feel very bad when i hear on the other hand my family does nothing but help in every single way.We had a big fight where she went crazy on me along with her parents and called a police when i told her to stop cursing my parents and me,after that incident i filed for restraining order as well as divorce.The problem is that deep in my heart i love her and I feel like she loves me too however she does not show it at all,she acts very cold to me when i pick up my baby and when i talk to her i get nothing but accusations,I just dont understand the fact that why would person disrespect their partner if they love them?We are now seperated and she has the child most of the time thats whats really hard for me,I told her that i would drop the divorce but she does not want to forgive me the fact that i filed so fast for restraining order against her as well as divorce,but she does not get it that the reason i did it is because it was not right to call a police on me for no reason,i am not a drug addict,alcoholic or abusive guy.I need your comments pls.write me.thanks in advance……
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