How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Ok, I posted about this a couple days ago but I am going to state all the truth from what I know..My wife and I were suppose to go to a tavern halloween party just a couple blocks from our home,I got sic the nite before and did not attend,she asked me if she could go with her brother who is staying with us for now,I told her go have fun and be careful,all was good until her son came over to watch tv with me that nite and told me he seen a biker halloween guest and a other women dressed up like a pirate (thats what she was)in the parking lot of the tavern kissing,I did not think to much about it at first but later I did, they both came home together around closing time they were there roughly 5 hrs.she was not heavily intoxicated and seemed happy.she did win best costume.I was upset that she did not bring her cellphone with her so if anything went wrong I could pick them up etc. We did talk about the couple in the parking lot me and her son,she said she did not go outside and said WHAT! you dont trust me! to be expected I know,but she did not talk about the party much at all either the nite she came home,or the next day. I feel there is things not mentioned that occurred by her or her brother. we have been married 7 yrs, I know i got insecurity issues but something here dont feel 100% ok. I guess will see how the next few days go.

My husband is a wonderful, wonderful man. He’s a great father, he treats me like a princess, BUT he’s an alcoholic. I left him about 6 months ago (drove 2,700 miles cross country) because he wouldn’t get help and it was getting out of control. I didn’t want to stay in an environment like that with our 2 small children. To make a long story short, he ended up going to rehab, and getting sober. He wanted to be in WA with us, so we agreed he’d stay in a “sober house” for a while first, then if he stayed sober he could come home. All that was great. He’s been sober about 5 months now. The roles are totally reversed now, I work 50 hours a week at a job I love, and he stays home with the kids and works part time. He hasn’t been loving staying home, so we have been talking about him working again. No pressure from my end, financially we are ok now. This morning he was extra grumpy, but we brought kids to day care, I got a few new things for work, then went to work. He was supposed to pick up the kids since I worked till 8. well, at 6 I called to say hey, he was drunk, kids left at daycare. I had to leave work and go get them. I cried and cried and tried to talk to him, but no use talking to a drunk person. I told him to get dressed, and we dropped him off at an AA meeting. He looked miserable and mad. gave him a kiss, said I’d pick him up in an hour. I went back, some guy told me they tried to talk to him, he didn’t want to talk, took off walking. There’s a huge fair downtown tonight where the meeting was, a million people out, so I just came home and put the kids to bed. He hasn’t called. I looked at the search history on the computer, he was looking at “amtrack” this morning when I was still home, from WA to TX. He’s from TX. And he had my phone today, he called his Dad who lives in TX. So, looks like he’s been thinking about leaving. He told me he went to Tacoma to find out about the local electrical union, which he was in before. He did go, he’s got some guys cards. So it seems he wants to get a good job again, and everything should be fine. But he got drunk and didn’t go pick up the kids (who have never been picked up late ever before, and it was embarrassing because day care called him, he didn’t even bother to call, and he lied and said he was having car trouble and would “be there later”) I’m FURIOUS!!!!! But I’m not taking it out on him, just trying to figure out what the real problem is and help him. I realize that I can’t. And I’m not going to live my life with an alcoholic, lying, irresponsible husband. I deserve better, I am a good wife, I work hard, I’m a good mom, and I really freakin try. Our love life is fine, everything was just fine (I thought)…so I guess my only real option here is divorce. I’ll never fully trust him again. Where do I go from here? I mean, should I start looking for a room mate? I don’t know how I’ll manage without his income, and all the help is is to me. I just don’t know what the heck to do…I know I have to keep going foreward…what’s the next step?

My wife, who I am separated from and divorcing. Is in rehab for alcoholism and will be going to jail for 3 months after completion of rehab. Over the past year and a half she has cheated with 2 or more different guys, lost 2 very high paying jobs, totaled 2 cars, rammed her vehicle into my vehicle, driven drunk with my son, crashed a truck into my new apartment, attempted suicide, and…and… and….. Anyway, she has been gone for almost a month and my son who is almost 3 is more and more frequently asking where his mommy is. I have been telling him mommy is at work but I think he’s has figured out that people that go to work eventually come home. I don’t think he believes me anymore. I know he’s only 2 but I really feel like he knows im lying. What should I tell him? Is “mommy is at work” an acceptable answer or am I doing more harm than good?

My in laws and I did an intervention on my wife a few days ago for her alcoholism. The rehab facility that she was taken to faxed a Doctors note to my wife’s employer stating, “she will not be available for work for the next 6 weeks she is in Doctors care.”

My wife’s employer called me today stating that she will be fired if she is not back within 3 weeks. Can they do this?

The federal labor law states…
Family and Medical Leave Act

Covered employers must grant an eligible employee up to a total of 12 workweeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons:

to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.

I did not list the others because they do not apply

Would alcoholism be considered a serious health condition?

My ex wife has a court date on 6/4 for probation violation for a o v i .She has been drinking worse than when she was caught and has stayed with six different people since it happend she does not see the kids or call them .When she found out that she had a court date she went into rehab to dry up for court. This is her fourth time in rehab in twelve months ,every time she gets in trouble she goes in to look like she is trying to sober up but it is all a show . She recieved her o v i in Morrow county and lives in Cuyahoga. She has never been tested for alcohol the year that she has been on on probation and has a year left . Does anyone know what i can do to get the court to start testing her ? She has no fear of getting caught . When she was caught she had my daughter and niece in her van and blew a 3.1but got off on the child endangering charge. I would like to see her get help so my children can have a relationship with her again even if it means her going to jail to dry up.

After having multiple negative pregnancy tests, and then missing her period, (now 3.5 weeks late) latest test shows my wife’s pregnant. We identified a few nights (3-5) with multiple drinks 1/2 bottle of wine, etc etc (birthdays, anniv,) as well as going into the jacuzzi 4X. We were careful to test for pregnancy before the outing and thought it was ok.

Could this have an effect on the baby/pregnancy? Hopefully not…

The footage of him playing is all in black and white, so he was playing some time ago. He cheated on his wife a lot and had children by a few women, and I believe he even hit his own child with a car due to drunken driving.

What will my wife learn in the 12 step program?
I dont drink or do drugs. I am wondering what is taught in the 12 steps.