Need some serious advice. I got married this year May end and it’s hardly 6 Months of Arranged marriage now. To be very true, these 6 months has been horrible for me and my wife. I can feel from her gestures that she is very unhappy because of this marriage and she does not even trust me. She feels in-secured and she says that she would prefer her job over me. Please read ahead for details.

My marriage was not so good, in fact from my wife’s point of view it was horrible and thanks to my relatives. On the night of marriage my hopeless relatives found a reason to create a scene or war like situation in marriage hall. One waiter refused to serve them water and they made a mess of it. So much so that my useless relatives scolded my Wife’s father and her brothers in front of every body. They went on to use abusive language for them. All this was done right in front of my wife. Finally my father intervened and he fell in feet of my relatives to stop making mess in my marriage. They realized that me and my parents were completely against them and so they abused my father also and then they left the hall. But all this had a terrible effect on my wife and you can make out what it could be.

Also before marriage there was some guy who uses to call my wife and say all sorts of rubbish things about me. He introduced himself as my close friend and said that I have affair with several girls and I am drug addict and I smoke and also I am abusive, Arrogant and what not. He even said horrible things about my family. But some how my marriage went on as planned. But all this had a negative effect on my wife about me. I am not arrogant and definitely not a multi-timer or a drug addict. But she had trouble accepting me initially. I came to know about all this issue after marriage. Even my Honeymoon was overshadowed by all this issue. Honestly we never enjoyed our honeymoon. She was frightened to death and never tried to come closer to me.

Also there were some small issues which were blown to proportion. My mobile had a network problem and it some it hangs in between. I never realize it until I try to see why is other person not responding to my questions. Now this happened in my In Law’s house and she thought that I am pretending to talk to some one.

Again once when my friend call me I asked him when he was going to get married and he said very soon. I greeted him and said to enjoy the married life. And guess what, my wife comes to me as soon as I kept the receiver and says that I am the greatest liar of all time. I do not deserve to say this line. I have screwed my relationship with her and now I am pretending to be happy. She said that you are the biggest liar of all time and you must be rewarded for it. She even said that she fell into this marriage trap with eyes open and that is reason why she is paying dearly for her fault. She said that she is convinced that our marriage will never work. I loose my temper very often now. I stay depressed due to all this and could not concentrate on work. I keep getting feeling of a failed marriage and a failed relationship with her. I keep getting a suicidal tendency now. I love her and I do say that she is a good girl by nature. But some thing is missing among us and I could not figure out what exactly is it.

Then comes the biggest shock of all. Professionally I am very much respected for my quality of work but my luck has never favored me. After struggling for more that 2 years and going through all sorts of rough patches at work place, I finally got on decent opportunity. But timing could not be more wrong. Just 2 months after staying together and trying to settle down and make some thing of our horrible marriage, I was offered to go abroad alone for a good project. This is some thing I wanted to prove my self as professional and I could not afford to loose this one. So as soon as this came to me I said yes. I accept that I did not consult her. She when came to know about this said that she has a strong feeling that she and her family has no value in my life. She even went back her old ideas and she now strongly believes that she is the most in-secured person on earth and she can not give away her job for me. She feels in-secured and she does not trust me any more. She even believes that I am a liar and I never say true to her. She says this line almost every day.

Now I am in fix. I am in USA for 6 weeks and for all these 6 weeks she did not even talk to me. She said there is nothing between us to talk. We do not deserve to talk about any thing.

Please help me. How do I get her back?

I was raped by a relative who is about 5 years older than I. We were drinking at a family party with other family members, and he had insisted on taking me home afterwards since he hardly drank and was busy making some sick plan in his mind to rape me.

Anyways, he did not take me home but took me to a motel instead where he repeatedly had sex with me while I was very intoxicated. In the morning upon waking up sober, he forced himself on me even though I kept telling him no and begging him to stop!

He wouldn’t listen but threatened me that he would tell everyone that I came onto him if I were to tell anyone. He spent a great deal of time convincing me that I had no choice in the matter and that we were now lovers whether I liked it or not.

He then took me home, but continued to call me all hours of the day to check on what I was doing and to make sure that I did not talk to anyone.

Here’s the worst part of it, he is already married and so am I. Our spouses had no idea what had happened and I was too scared to tell anyone, I felt disgusted and dirty.

Well I became pregnant and it is against my beliefs to abort an innocent life, so I kept the child, which made my then husband leave me. So I became seperated with my husband and ont he other hand was stalked by my cousin!

To make matters even worst, he is not only just a cousin, but my first cousin! He had cheated on his wife for so long with so many other women, but the difference is that I am his cousin!!!!!

His wife gives him the boot, around the same time I was patching things up with my husband. (Whom bless his heart, still loved me enough to care for another man’s child!)

In all of the goings on, the father of my baby moves himself into my home, telling me that he needs my help and wants to marry me. He tells me that I should do it for the sake of our child, etc.

The problem is that I am fearful of him because I am a very tiny person and he is a big man. I am intimidated by his size and his temper.

He really forces his way and his life upon me and I feel like he is ruining life and tearing it apart, trying to make me feel guilty for everything! Including not helping him!

My husband and I were not able to get together like we had planned, since my cousin has forced his way back into my life! Don’t get me wrong, I have attempted 3 times to kick him out of my home, but he keeps coming back and asking for another chance.

I am so miserable and I do not even love him like a wife should! In fact, each day I wake up to look at him, I think of a brother!!! I do love him for the fact he is the father of my child, but it’s just not right!!!!

I am so sicekned by all of this, but am too afraid to try anything else and don’t want to be abused or worst by him.

Can a relationship with a cheater who also happens to be your first cousin ever develop into anything more? I would also lie to mention that our child is not deformed or retarde in anyway, infact he is very smart for his age and progressing above average, so please no incestuous jokes or remarks about that.

This is a serious problem and I need to find a peaceful way out of this and how can I explain to my husband whom I love that I really want to be with him and not the crazy lunatic who is living in my home?
thank you for all your answers! I appreciate every single one of them! I am trying very hard to be strong, because this is not a relationship at all! I am so miserable and am trying to get out, but it’s my home he is in! Which makes me realize that I have to involve the authorities.

He didn’t speak to his mother for over a year after she kicked out his grandchildren over issues that involved control of grandchildren a few months after he got out of the Army. When this happened she focused her anger on me. She looked up my court history that was more than ten years old and mailed it to his ex. She spoke hatefully about me in a verbose manner in an e-mail she sent him and she made sure the pre-school his children attended got a copy of this. His (now) ex-wife had cheated on him and physcially abused him. She also assumed we were romantically involved when we weren’t when he was married and she sent me vulgar, hateful text messages and a year later starting harassing me via crank calls over a two day period. His mother had physically abused him as a child. I helped him care for his children and eventually he had to rent an in-law from my parents. His wife concealed an entire pregnancy from him and binge drank vodka when she was pregnant, and sought no medical attention. This was in part because of the fact she cheated -she didn’t know who the father is-we still don’t know and that child is almost 4. His children are troubled and he can’t see it. She is a very under-involveld/neglectful mother and yet he is supportive of this and intolerant of me. I feel that I am the only “safe” person to take his resentment out on. I no longer speak to him, but I find myself very angry at him for mistreating me. I am currently seeking counseling. I don’t worry about harming either one of my children. I just find myself withdrawn. I have read about emotional abuse and trauma. I have read that emotional abuse is sometimes more psychologically damaging than physical abuse because of its frequency. He was often so ugly and he would needle and needle and needle and I would finally say something hateful and ugly back to him. I don’t want to be that kind of person. My older child is fairly well adjusted. She is academically gifted, adults just love talking to her and she is personable and happens to be a successful child model. I gave a lot of attention to her when she was small-I nursed extensively and spent a lot of time bonding with her. I brought her to counseling when her father was no longer in our lives-the therapist was amazed at her vocabulary by three and after some time felt my daughter was ok to move on. I was always a single mother. She is now ten. I want to be able to give attention to my baby somewhat to the degree that I did my first child(which is impossible because now I have two). I feel as if I stayed there I would be further diminished with nothing left to give my children or myself emotionally. I don’t think it was wrong of me to leave the father of my child in another state. He wanted to get married-I said No. I just find myself so angry at him for mistreating me after knowing me so many years. Is it normal to feel this way?

The event has caused outrage across a wide spectrum of the public, including Black groups, religious organizations and entertainers, chief among them Gibson himself. “Richards’ outburst is completely unacceptable and despicable,” said an emotional Gibson. “There is nothing funny about the difficulties that the Blacks have endured over the years. Now the Jews, that’s another story. Wait… I didn’t mean that. You didn’t record that did you? Give me your tape recorder!”

After a brief scuffle Gibson yelled, “I don’t want to go back to sensitivity training! Those rabbis scare me!”

“Why are they all slurring their words? Maybe if we pay for the racists to get some good speech therapy, the world would be a better place.”

When asked to comment, Richards’ friend and former co-star Jerry Seinfeld released a somewhat strange statement saying, “What’s the deal with racial slurs? Does every racist have a speech impediment or something? Why are they all slurring their words? Maybe that’s why they are all so angry. Maybe if we pay for the racists to get some good speech therapy, the world would be a better place.”

Richards has found at least one Hollywood friend who has remained a supporter despite the outburst — and an unlikely one at that – O.J. Simpson. After having his recent book “If I Did It,” about the murder of his former wife and her friend Ron Goldman, pulled by Fox, Simpson said, “People should just stop falsely accusing Michael of doing something he didn’t do. He did not make any racist comments whatsoever.”

When shown a video of the incident, Simpson responded, “This has obviously been doctored by the Los Angeles Police Department. Look how blurry it is! Mike, I’ve got a message for you — if the tape is blurry, no need to worry.”

Rumors have begun to circulate that Simpson will be penning a book with Richards to capitalize on the incident titled, “If I Made a Racist Outburst.” Explained Simpson, “Now I am not saying that Michael Richards made those racist comments, but buy our book for $39.95 and we will tell you exactly how he would have done it.”

Simpson aside, industry colleagues were in no hurry to accept Richards’ apology. Veteran publicist Michael Levine said, “I’ve never seen anything like this in my life. To be honest, I think this is going to be a career ruiner for him. I don’t think there is one job in Hollywood that Richards could get right now.” Insiders however say that Michael Richards already has a lock on a post in an upcoming project — he is set to direct the sequel to “The Passion.”

‘Oh, no… Now my wife will kill me!’

Bob says, ‘Don’t worry, pal. Just tuck a twenty in your breast pocket and

Tell your wife that someone threw up on you and gave you twenty dollars

for the dry cleaning bill.’

So they stay for another couple of hours and get even drunker.

Eventually Don stumbles home and his wife starts to give him a bad time. ‘You

Reek of alcohol and you’ve puked all over yourself! My God, you’re disgusting!’

Speaking very carefully so as not to slur his words, Don says, ‘Nowainaminit, I

Can e’splain everythin. Itsh snot wha jew think. I only had a cupla drrrinks. But

Thiss other guy got ssick on me…he had one too many and he juss koudin hold hizz

liquor He said hes was verrry sorry an’ gave me twennie bucks for the cleaning bill!’

His wife looks in the breast pocket and says, ‘But this is forty bucks..’

‘Oh, yeah… I almos’ fergot, he shhhit in my pants, too.’