How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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after 6 months of seperation, and my ex wifes impending re-marriage i am finally succeeding in letting it go. the problem is she keeps dropping small hints all the time,especially body language. on fathers day she dropped off my kids found me in the basement and basically undressed me with her eyes. For a second i thought she wanted a hug, but i backed away. She constantly is asking my older child how im doing amd must be questioning them about me cause she seems to know everything i do,EVERYTHING. There are so many issues involved with her from being extremely impulsive,former drug abuse,and breaking up with me and coming back like 4 times over 25 years.She claims she is happy,claims she wants me to be happy,but 2 weeks ago i confronted her about if she really was sure of her marriage and she said she couldnt answer, then last week she said she was sure, but asked me for my true feelings for her.After i told her i still loved her, she said she didnt and never thinks of me or us. ???

i dont have enough room for the details. wish i could. basically, i was a drug addict. she stood by my side. helped me to get into a rehab in california. we lived in chicago. we then got married,her and my three kids moved out here while i finished my rehab but continued to talk to this guy. and she said she “just kissed” him about a month before our marriage. then continued to call him from in california. what do i do..? i want my kids?

My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years and she’s not been pregnant during our marriage. She has a daughter from a previous marriage and the military gave her a depo shot and she’s not been pregant since. We’re considering fertility drugs and surgery and all that but for now we’re going to keep it simple. We’re trying a fertility cycle where we have sex when she’s ovulating etc. One problem we may have in trying to get her pregnant is that after I release inside her, the sperm leaks out of her vagina. Is this normal? If it isn’t, does this mean she can’t get pregant? If not, is there a way she can keep the sperm in?

Okay..I have a friend that is applying for a green card
Through marriage to his wife….amongst many other
Issues…

We’ve been thinking of any issue that could potentially
Get his adjustment of status denied.

I read some info about ‘drug trafficking’ and its effect
On his eligibility. He himself didn’t get charged for
The offense but the head of his household was convicted of
The crime this past year.

I’m trying to understand the law in regards to this crime and the effect
That it may potentially have on his ppwk.

It says something about any benefit from drug trafficking in the
Past 5 years will make him ineligible.

Will the fact of the head of the household where he lives got convicted
Of drug trafficking ruin it for him?(because he did benefit
From it)

Or does he have to be the one to have committed the crime himself?

Oh yeah…the one in his home that committed the crime is
His bro in law.

Hello! I have been with my husband for 5 years together and married 3 out of those five years. My husband has two children from a previous marriage ages 12 (girl), 7 (boy). I have a daughter from a previous relationship age 8 (girl). Well to make long story short my “step-daughter” told her mother first of something she “found” in my drawer and her mother called my husband and said you need to call your daughter so when he did she told him what she found in my drawer. Which then in turn caused a big war almost divorce. The something was of a grassy substance she said that she found and he believed her. We talked and I thought everything was worked out. But then last night he tells me that “He is losing interest in me” & “he does not love me.” He also was me to take a drug test every 30 days to make sure I am not doing drugs. And he treats his children better than my child and I understand those are his children and my daughter is the step daughter to him but I treat his children the same as if they were my own children. SO should I keep hanging on to this marriage or should I just walk away. Please help and any advice would be appreciated. Believe me I love my family and I have told him I am Deeply sorry for not being “the perfect wife.” and I am not doing “what I am told.” So please help.

My parents are getting a divorce, and me and my have always been close. That is, until she started popping pills. She became a huge prescription drug addict, then an alcoholic, and now, she’s living on her own and seems perfectly fine and happy. I can’t help but wonder, she keeps calling and wanting to meet up and wanting me to stay over at her new apartment. My dad told me to watch out, because apparently she gets double the amount of wife support if I’m living with her, and, when the other day I visited, she kept on taking pictures of me in her new place.

Anyways, I’m not entirely sure what to say to her. She keeps wanting to hang out, but, I’m skeptical. We haven’t been close since the 5th grade, after which all of her addiction issues happened. She’s estranged from my two other brothers, and it seems like she’s either using me to make up for being a bad mother, by being all nice, or trying to manipulate me into getting more money from my dad.

I’m really confused, as my dad says one thing, and she says another, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by rejecting her all the time. But, I have to wonder why she’s being all “nice and perky”. Any advice?

I’m 17 and entering my senior year, I’ve tried to keep this whole entry concise, but I could really go on forever. It’s complicated.

(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

and she is going to counseling to.She cheated on him with her boss out of state at a meeting. He is in AA for alcohol due to stress and them both losing a bussiness. He has never cheated in his marriage and she says he is a good husband and father and she forgives him. But today she told him she wants to stay seperated and may want to see other people. She wants him to come home Saturday night to stay overnight with his 2 young children while she stays with her mother and goes out with her girlfriend dancing and drinking. She says she needs time away from the kids and needs a night out. They have been married for 10 years and at the begining of their marriage took in her young sister and brother for 2 years because her mother had issues. In the last year her father had a stroke and now lives in their home with them. What do you guys think about this relationship and is there hope?
Thanks everyone for answering me I am staying out of it as much as possible but she put him on my door step. Things are so hard right now because his step mother whom he loves dearly just died at 4:30 this morning.

OK in February i was intoxicated really bad, well i abused my wife really bad were she feared for her life really bad, the next day i woke up and was in a lot of pain and regret about all of it ,she went and filed a police report and no charges were filed, but she did get a restraining order against me . well it has been two months and we have seen each other a few times , spent weekends together and went walking , well all that was good, last week i found out the district attorney had picked up charges on me and filed them, so now not only do i not have i family but i have a a&b on file now also. well to say it all to my question, my wife now wants nothing to do with me at all and is saying we ever never going to get back together and she feels that way RIGHT NOW and do not worry about what the future could hold, but then again she says that we are never going to get back together ever, she can never trust me again, i have been doing all that i can under my own power to get her forgiveness from her and nothing helps i fail at it all. i do love my wife and i do understand at the moment i did all what i did , i was not showing love.
she has talked to me and she is very hurt, my wife seems to think that i have gone nuts these past two months, in a way i kinda am because one – who really knows what is in place for me and my wife but god, two – i miss my wife and i miss my kids dearly and now with what happened to me and me sitting here this past two months i have realized that my wife means everything to me and i did not love her unconditionally, BUT now that i know what i shall do for her,put my needs and wants aside , well its just really ruff for me because i do love her and i do want to spend the rest of my life with her showing my wife that i do love her and i want to show her for the rest of our lifes together she means the world to me, she wants me to stop trying and to forget about me and her as it never existed, but we both just cant do that, he both are 24 and have spent 7 years together and we also two boys under the age of six together. we have a great family together and to me as long as we have a relationship together for our boys, there can be room for forgiveness and room to grow with me and her. i miss her so much and i am sorry for what i did to my family , i dont know waht to do at all to even attempt to have them back
I am going to anger management and going to see a councilor on a weekly basis, i am not an alcoholic by no means what so ever. i am am taking credit for my actions that I have caused. BUT who are you to judge, mostly women, do you belive in christ the holy spirit, because there is not true judgment but my fathers.
I had made a mistake and majority of men my age in my feet, would have took off running scared years ago.

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

· If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re

“exotic, different.”

· Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American

story.

· If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

· Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

· Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

· Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well

grounded.

· If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the

first black Presiden t of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter

registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years

as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator

representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of

the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years

in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people

while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs,

Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you

don’t have any real leadership experience.

· If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city

council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000

people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people,

then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking

executive.

· If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while

raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re

not a real Christian.

· If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your

disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a

Christian.

· If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including

the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.

· If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no

other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your

unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very responsible.

· If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position in

a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city

community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values

don’t represent America’s.

· If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one DWI

conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until

0A age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession

of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

OK, much clearer now.

He had a New York or similar accent, looked Italian, thin and in good shape. Made a lot of jokes about drinking, alcoholism and his relationship with his wife. Including a joke that went something like this… “I walked into my surprise birthday party and for a split second thought”, “oh crap, is this an intervention?”, “then when everyone yelled surprise thought”, “cool we’re drinking”… Also another joke about his wife not letting him eat ice cream past 10 o’clock.
He had a New York or similar accent, looked Italian, thin and in good shape. Made a lot of jokes about drinking, alcoholism and his relationship with his wife. Including a joke that went something like this… “I walked into my surprise birthday party and for a split second thought”, “oh crap, is this an intervention?”, “then when everyone yelled surprise thought”, “cool we’re drinking”… Also another joke about his wife not letting him eat ice cream past 10 o’clock.

Someone replied Rich Vos… Its not him but he kind of looks similar to him… a little younger though.

My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years, and from the very get go we have had problems with his ex and wanting to change his visitation he currently only gets her half during christmas and between 4-6wks in the summer if his lucky, in this time that we have been together she has increased his child-support and tooken him to court for visitation several times. She states that he makes bad descisons and I guess she is trying to say I am one of them because I have a criminal background such as DWI about 7 yrs old or more (how would she even know this stuff) well she is using in court. I feel awful about the whole situation Iam not a bad person sure I made some bad choices when I was younger who hasn’t but Iam 29yrs old I work at a Catholic Church I have two daughters of my own (who are my world) and I just can not see why a mother would want to put such a strain on her daughters relationship with her father. In my book he is a great guy and a wonderful father whom loves his daughter very much, but unfortunatley shares his daughter with this women that makes him feel like she is trying to turn his daughter against him and take the little time he has with her away. Even when she is here, her mother is constianly on the phone fighting with him and making their daughter feel bad she just about always cries after getting off the phone with her, but how odd on the days she dosent speak to her mother on the phone their is no crying. His daughter is 13yrs old and I just believe that maybe she just wants to spend more time with friends in the summer but even so, he just wants to see his daughter without all the problems from the mother before she is all grown up.

He got a DWI and lost his license. What kind of trouble can I get in?
I don’t think it is a great idea but my wife feels bad for him.
What do you think you would do?

My wife and I are trying to get pregnant and I was wondering if having a few drinks one night before we conceived would hurt the baby?

My wife passed away just this year, December 1st due to alcoholism and I am having a hard time coping with the guilt and the disrespect I am having.

We had been married for 10 years, she was older than me, but that didnt matter. She had a still born son before we met, who I feel that she never really got over as she would speak his name at times and begin to cry.

I tried everything I could to get her to stop drinking, but nothing worked, she would say she needed help, I would try and find her some, then she would make me stop. I would be on the phone to councellers, but she would make me hang up. Should I have just dragged her out and taken her to a clinic or get her some help even though she didnt want it?

She was ommited in september for 4 days for alcoholism, and was told to stop drinking or it will kill her. She stopped….for 1 week, then went back. I tried evertying, but in the end, I feel that I may have given up as this was tearing me apart.

I miss her.