How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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The short version is they were mad at him over losing the lawsuit over the rights to his name and they wanted to show Bret Hart if he didn’t come back for the DVD, they would trash one of their best people so they did it. Most of that DVD was BS as fans who have followed wrestling closely know.

They are begging him to come do the HOF this year. They are under a microscope after the Benoit tragedy and even more Wrestler deaths since: Test, Umaga, etc. And Warrior has adjusted to life after wresting better than any other wrestler. He got out of the business at the right time and now he is financially comfortable with a beautiful family, is still married to his first and only wife, no drug problems, and he still is in great health and even still has a killer physique. Compare that to guys like Jake the Snake or Billy Jack Haynes who’s lives are a total mess, and they are lucky to be alive. Hell, look at all the marriage, family, and financial problems Hulk and Flair have had over the last 3 years!

Anyway, Warrior has a house in Arizona where the HOF is taking place and they still don’t have a headlining main eventer to go in this year. They’ve contacted him, they’ve put him in the WWE opening montage, HHH referred to him in a promo with Shemus, etc. Looks like they are really trying to put him in.

My bro has 2 children w/ his wife. Both recovering drug addictics (oxycontin). They’re marriage is in severe trouble. I seem to be the only one that any of the parties (him, her, & each family) can open up and talk calmly to about it. No1 else can talk to each other without screaming. I heard my mom talk to my sister in-law today and say the most hateful things that I never thought she was capable of. I’ve heard my sister in-law (who has been a great friend for over 10 years) say hateful things to and about my bro & family. I’ve had my bro tell me that he’s getting better, then his wife calls me 1hr later & says he’s about to commit suicide. My bro (18.5 months older) is my best friend and few siblings in the world r as close as us or have been through as much together. Every1 inside the situation is losing it & all think I’m the best 1 to talk to him, her, mom, or anyone. But every1 is telling me “the truth”, but all truths conflict with each other & what I see 1sthand. What can I do?
the children are young – 1.5 and 3. I went down there to watch them last summer while my bro was in rehab. My sis-in-law is going through treatments now getting pills called suboxin… they are both so unstable and my bro is so freaking manipulative of everyone, but everyone somehow thinks they are above his manipulation.
He got committed to the hospital tonight, but I’m afraid she will make things worse for him while he’s there. I know she wants well for him… but I know that, if she’s not on OCs, she not far from them. I HATE OXYs WITH A PASSION!! SO MUCH!! John, your high school sounds like mine. I graduated in 02 (my bro in 00, sis-in-law in 01 – we were all in the same crowd), and I know that she’s so unstable and might be going around spreading her instability to other addicts, and then the oxy-addict grapevine gets started and worse and worse and worse… but for now, I just found out he’s in the hospital, so that’s a relief.
Its so hard to tell someone the cold, harsh, truth when you think it will drive them to suicide, especially when the only other person they have is their drug-addicted wife (who is recovering but is INCREDIBLY UNSTABLE). And it’s like the two families are pitting themselves against each other. And her family and my family have been intertwined long before children were born or my brother got together with her in the first place. Her cousin was my brother and me’s best friend since middle school, and he’s a drug addict too (I’m not POSITIVE about that, but pretty sure – I do know that he’s an alcoholic). So each family is convinced that the other is crazy, and each one sees me as the only stable mediater. It’s too much pressure… everyone has a different version of the truth… everyone wants to know what someone else said to me because they know I went to talk and help someone else… I don’t know how I made it out of that circle w/o becoming an addict and still loving all those ppl

He did tell me about her when we got together. He told me they were in an unhealthy relationship. He was 19 and she was 51. He was a crack head and she supported and enabled him for 20 years. He got sober 3 1/2 years ago and broke off the relationship.
When I asked him in the beginning had he ever been married, he said no. He claims now, he lied about the marriage because he was ashamed of the life he had, that he never loved her only used her to support his drug habit.He says he was embarssed to admit the short marriage of 5 or 7 years. He denies he meets with her. He says they are divorcd now. He says she called me to hurt him and try to break us up.She constantly calls leaving messages begging him to come back to her.He didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to concern me. He says he never responds.
We are not youngsters he is 40 and I am 55. He is the most loving, considerate and thoughful man I have ever been with.We have been togeher 5 months, daily. He has introduced me to his family, he is now back in their good graces. He would be my 4th husband. I am not rich, but do have more resources than he. He says he will always be there for me. I try to talk about the age difference and does he realize I will lose my beauty and could need care. He still insist his love for me is forever. Since there are no guarantees in life, I just want to live for today and hope he is sincere. I love him dearly and would be so unhappy without him. Just like her. I feel sorry for her. I want to believe in him, should I?

I’ve been using Vicodins at night because I’m nursing an injury, and last night the dreams were bizarre.

One was that my wife was seeing someone else, per an agreement we made to “open” the marriage,” and he and his whole extended family moved into the house, moving beds around and such, and, while I was larger than this guy and felt that I could easily “take him,” I felt powerless to enact any change.

The second was an old girlfriend was in on a meeting with a former female boss and I, and the boss was very aggressive sexually while the old girlfriend was crying. I had to leave on a business call, but when I got back, the old girlfriend was beside herself and felt “raped,” and, again, I was powerless to help. The old boss was very cold, saying to her that going to authorities would cost this former girlfriend her job. I felt really sorry for her.

The third was, at the last second, a student for a university I work for asked me to give an impromptu speech at an awards dinner, introducing her and others. But midway through the speech, I started feeling ill and fumbling names, and had to excuse myself. When I got back, the speeches were over and my coworkers were telling me how unprofessional I was and how my performance could be “career-threatening.” Again, my attitude was that I didn’t have the inner strength to fight back.

Now, in real life, I’m a bulldog, but perhaps the injury and the Vikes and my crazy work schedule are taking their toll?

I have always been the poster child for the “perfect mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend….”. My marriage went sour b/c my husband is an alcoholic. We had a lot of problems. I left. Still a good mother, friend, sister, daughter… Sunday school teacher, christian school, homeless shelter volunteer… you name it.. Anyway, I met a man that I fell in love w/ while separated. Our relationship didn’t work out b/c he was so jealous and controlling. I decided I would go back home and try to make my marriage work since my husband would not leave me alone and cried everyday to my children. I went to a severe depression. Well, as bad as it is, I have started seeing the other guy again. I know, I’m horrible. Well, my question is- My mother has had numerous affairs w/ no emotional ties, she’s abused drugs and alcohol, she was never there for me and my siblings (I raised them), her and my stepdad partied all the time and fought (physically) and I sheltered my sisters from it.
My sisters have turned out to be wonderful mothers and wives themselves. I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety disorder and my therapist says it’s b/c all the trauma in my childhood. I suffered the brunt of we went through and hid most of it from my sisters. I never had a teenage life. Now, today, my mother and my sister called me and told me what they thought of my situation and it wasn’t very nice. They never call me and they live in the next county so I never hear from them. They called me bad names and told me that I was F###ed up. Well, who are they to judge? If I am all of those things..then I learned from the best. Do they have the right to judge me just b/c they are my family? I’m 33 years old and had 2 serious relationships in my life. I’m certainly no wh*re. I’ve only been w/ 2 people. I’ve tried to be the perfect person and one time I thought of myself and did something bad. Who are they to judge?

1. Do you refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to liquor?

2. Do you own a $3,000 machine gun, but you can’t afford shoes?

3. Do you have more wives than teeth?

4. Do you wipe your butt with your bare hand, but consider bacon “unclean?”

5. Do you think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide?

6. Can you think of anyone you haven’t declared Jihad agains?

7. Do you consider television dangerous, but carry explosives in your clothing?

8. Were you amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs?

9. Do you have nothing against women and think every man should own at least four?

10. Have you always had a crush on your neighbor’s goat?

11. Is cousin is president of the United States?

1. You refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to beer.
2. You own a $3,000 machine gun and $5,000 rocket launcher, but you can’t afford shoes.
3. You have more wives than teeth.
4. You wipe your butt with your bare left hand, but consider bacon “unclean.”
5. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.
6. You can’t think of anyone you HAVEN’T declared Jihad against.
7. You consider television dangerous, but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.
8. You were amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.
9. You’ve often uttered the phrase, “I love what you’ve done with your cave.”
10. You have nothing against women and think every man should own at least one.
11. You bathe at least monthly whether necessary or not.
12. You have a crush on your neighbor’s goat

Okay so for the past several days I’ve been asking you guys questions about commitment ceremonies, and weddings and marriage and here’s another question, I’m really struggling with marriage because my parents were pretty bad at their marriage. I’m 26 and this is the time in life that I’m thinking about getting married and what I want for the long-term.

My mom had 2 marriages under her that ended badly, and 2 boyfriends afterwards that I didn’t care for. One of them was a drug junkie and he went to jail for it. I was always worried and paranoid that I’d make the same mistakes that she did. Growing up I told her once how her drug junkie bf wasn’t a good guy and she just ignored me.

So I always had this fear that I would be bad at love and relationships like my mom was. btw I’m happy to say that she finally learned how to pick men, she found a nice man she’s going to get married to, about time she’s like 55. Third time’s the charm, lol. Anyway.

So I’ve been struggling with the fact if I should get married or not, or what should I do. I realize there are long-term couples like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell and other Hollywood couples. I really want to be with someone who I love and who is my best friend in life. It seems to me that no matter what, even if you don’t get legally married the law in many states in America considers you married…

as in common law marriages. I don’t know, I’ve been thinking, isn’t it better to just get married legally…I mean if you live together, share your life together, and then just do everything together and if the government considers you common law husband and wife then isn’t it a good idea to get married?

I also was thinking I don’t want to get denied legally if something happens to the guy I love, like what if they won’t let me into the hospital because I’m not legally his wife, just his partner. What then? That would make me upset.

Also there seem to be many men whom are against marriage, I mean is there any hope for those of us women who want to get married? btw I’m still going to have a career and earn my own money if I get married. I’m not rushing to get married because I want to take my time. I really do. If I have to wait until I’m 40 to meet the right person for myself then I will. I just don’t want to be like my mom about it.

I don’t want to be one of those people who gives up on the dream of a wedding and a marriage just because the guy doesn’t believe in them.
btw a lot of guys are scared that marriage will be the end of sex, the end of fun, the end of anything good. how can I convince a good man that it won’t be the case with us?
I’ve been realizing marriage is more than just a piece of paper and I’m not interested in my bf’s money, he doesn’t have any money, he just has a normal job and I do too.
its not just about a wedding either. I want to elope to hawaii and have a wedding there with my groom, just the two of us

either that or a very small family wedding with our immediate families and close friends. Maybe at most 20-40 people.
Tyed…thank you so so so much….I still want to keep my last name though, lol ;-)
Bella…no I can’t live with that anymore. I used to not want to get married but I’ve changed my mind and I can’t be with someone who doesn’t have the same life goals that I do.

Thanks. :-)
thanks again tyed, you are awesome, and to you too bella…yea I want to get married for lots of reasons. hehe. I’m going to take my time finding the right person.

I just felt so frustrated before with the guy not wanting the same things that I did. I realize I have to let him go because our life goals are not the same.

Okay ladies and gents. I have a simple thing to say that is on my mind after reading other women’s hurt-felt thoughts on porn with their husbands. If you are married or in a long loving, trusting relationship DO NOT BRING IT INTO THE MARRIAGE! It only destroys your relationship and makes things worse. I read a lot of articles where men said “Well if my wife would be a little bit more whorey in the bedroom and let me try new things I might not look at porn or smut so much.” I got news for you a lot of women do put themselves out for their men and do things beyond ones imagination. I am a wife of 5 years and my husband and I had a wild sex life for years I welcomed everything and anything, EXCEPT hardcore porn. We make our own porn, yes video tapes and pictures. We have fun with it. I do things that most women wouldn’t dare dream of doing. But hey as long as it’s between my husband and me it’s perfectly fine, it only makes us stronger. Or so I thought! Now he just started recently looking at porn in the last 6 months I could never figure out why or how. I do everything for him that most men would die for. I am very open in the bedroom. I just do not welcome porn because it destroyed my last marriage among other things. My ex was a horrible abusive S.O.B. with a drug and alcohol addiction along with his sex addiction and cheating. Needless to say it was a nightmare. My current hubby knows all of this and the hell I went through. I had no problem with porn before I met my ex until I experience the hell for myself only then did I understand what other women were going through. I used to model. So I don’t think I’m bad looking but it sure does make me feel blah when my current husband looks at this smut. I don’t get it I offer him a whole lot more than they can. What is the deal? Sorry men but you cannot use the excuse “well my wife needs to be more slutty in the bedroom” because I am a slut in the bedroom for my husband, his every desire is met. And still it is not enough. Is he gay? What the heck? You betcha I’m pissed I have bent over backwards for him and this is what I get in return?
By the way I do not take this out on him or even let him know that this actually makes me upset I try to be as understanding as possible and he did not know about my history with my ex till we were a few years in. He just started this 6 months ago.

A very nice meek depressed man left his not so nice wife after 15 years of marriage. He married her because he wanted to give her a better life because her “trailer white trash roots”. She lived with poor me syndrome, binges without health concerns, double-standards, no friends, no families, no hobbies who desperately became pregnant (without his knowledge) fear of being on her own. A child didn’t save their marriage. He feels guilty for leaving and promises her that no matter what she is member of the family, she is never pushed out in the cold. A year later he met a new woman, he hopes the new girl will accept his prior arrangement with the old girl still hangs around but in reality the new girl is not accepting. He has a hard times reversing his promises to his old girl because he feels sorry for her. He says the new girl is his love and priority but he feels bad pushing the old girl out.

What would you do if you were in my situation of a new girl? Help! I love him but…

Sipping lemonade, yellow like the sun, yet
Why must He steal away all of my Glory?
Kissing upon every glade and flowing river
Might by these I pass, by these I write my story
The fish cease to swim, lilies cease to grow
He enlightens all but mine soul and heart
Despair, hate for all living things, sinking low
Mirror images, two of one, yet one apart
My heart cannot hope to set like this
Into a horizon of happiness, give life to thee
Never to feel the prosperous man’s bliss
Nor bring joy to a feminine sea, nor be
My failure is forever inscribed upon the strife
I can only hope to run away from the light
To take this blade, plunge within, take my life
My blood turning red rivers of the night
I do, said I, I do, said she, death, my wife!

My hands are cupped like woven fruit baskets
Collecting fruit raining from above shades of color
Rain bowed reflections hatched by a timid Sun
Playing peek-a-boo with the verdant valleys gem
My tongue rakes through the leaves of droplets
They taste like a lake I dreamed of while sleeping
You were high, chirping, in an evergreen tree
Little brown birds cried for your attention
You fed them, bathed them, you comforted them
As you once did for me, in yet, my only love
Another, nestled at this warming nest so soft
Your feathers ruffled a nod towards the parting sea
My heart sank like a ship; I knew this tree was his

My heart found peace where sunlight never left
Rolling brown hills appeared greening lush
Graying clouds felt my pain and solemnly wept
Then an angel robed in white sparked a blush
She sang melodies dark upon the hills white
As the wind picked an azalea gleaming stark blue
My soul faded away into the depth of night
This love felt familiar, I knew it had to be you
Tears like misty dew fell upon an eyelash lawn
Hand trembling under the weight of the past
The angel embraced the reddening dawn
Our spirits emerged, now we are free, at last

Which one do you like best? These are dedicated to my girlfriend Mikaela. each tell of a story. Can you decipher what they are about?

Thanks for all critiques!

I just don’t get it, am i missing something? is religion not the cause of %95 of bloodshed in the middle east?

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http://www.theonion.com/content/node/51849

JERUSALEM—As an uneasy truce between Israel and Hezbollah continues, millions of average men and women in the Holy Land are turning to the one simple comfort that has always seen them through the darkest days of their troubled history: the steadfast guidance of their religious faith.

“I take solace in knowing that my faith is a sanctuary, an escape from the bloodshed and turmoil,” said Haifa resident Yigal Taheri, who last week lost his wife and newborn daughter
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am i missing something? is religion insanity i.e. doing the same thing over and over expecting different results?

I am puzzled because in our normal life husband and wife are possessive so how they can manage when they see their partner making love if he or she is a heroin or hero.

He is more self centered and secretive I think than while he was drinking. He goes to AA chairs a meeting as well and still hasn’t done half of the steps especially apologizing to the wife who stood by him all this time. Help

My wife is the daughter of an alcoholic and her mom was the wife. Her mom is really bad is there any support group for them. They live in Brownsville texas 78520

I went to a concert while on the medication Chantix to quit smoking. I drank two beers and the next eight hours I can not tell you what happened. I got busted eight hours later for DWI. This was just the start of my problems. After I got out I called my work which I have to use a company vechile. I lost the job after 4 years of nothing but high marks on everyone of my performance reviews. I filed for unemployement and am disquailifed for 8 weeks. I talked to the bank and was working out some options to keep my house but now my sewer backed up. To add to all the pressure now my wife’s sales have fell below guidelines and she is getting fired in the next few days because of everything I have done. I have 3 teens at home and my savings have been drained with lawyer fees, court cost and just general expenses. I put in a hundred resumes to jobs I am well suited for all the way to jobs that ask if you want fries with that. I am going to lose everything and possiblly have to file bankrupty on top of it. My question is has this ever happened to anyone and is there any hope of anything in the future. I am having a hard time seeing it.

My wife and I had a small party at our house the other night. I went to bed early and My wife and best friend stayed up . My wife came to bed in the wee hours of the morning completely trashed. I took care of her and got her into bed. After waking up she had a horrible feeling that something bad had happened. We drove to my “friends” house and confronted him. He confirmed that something had happened. I am completely disgusted and disappointed. My wife and I have an awesome relationship and no problems. I just dont understand how this could have happened? And now I dont know what to do.

My husband and I have a 8 month old daughter, I won’t let my husband or my daughter see his mother. I have a gut maternal feeling that tells me not to. Im not sure if he loves us the way he should, he’s more concerned iwth his family than he is with his wife and child. His mother has taken babies out of carseats, she fed my baby 16 oz of milk when she was a month old, which is way to much even though i asked her not to she won’t listne to me and he won’t either. He says if the baby cna’t see his mom he is going to leave. Should I let him leave?? I cannot go against my maternal instincts, or I know something trajic will happen and I will never fogive myself. There’s more thngs she’s done wrong, to much to explain. She took my child and went and got her husband some beer and drove around with him drinking, she said she was driving but I always see him driving. I know he was driving drunk with my child, I’ve caught her in too many lies to believe that. He always takes up for her

Barney” had a few too many at the company cocktail holiday party and is intelligent enough to realize that he is in no shape to drive. But “Barney” does not want to leave his car at the office so he calls his wife “Betty” and asks her to drop off their son “Bambam” (who has a provisional instruction permit) at the office. The plan is for “Bambam” to drive “Barney” home.

On the way home, “Bambam” is pulled over for a minor traffic violation and the officer discovers that “Barney” is over the legal limit.

There are obvious moral and ethical issues here that could be argued for days, but what are the legal ramifications.

Could “Barney” be cited for drunk driving? Could “Bambam” be cited for some violation of the provisional permit?

Since it is the man’s job to drive, what are some appropriate times to let the woman drive? I was thinking when the husband was sick or drunk. What do you all think?