How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Well I do, because I just say an advert with him promoting Heineken!

And (correct me if im wrong) doesnt beer kill more people than all the illegal drugs combined. and (again correct me if im wrong) isn’t beer responsible for half of the violent crimes in our society? and doesnt it ruin families, and make men beat their wives?

And arent most of brad pitts fans 12 year old girls? so wont it be them who is gonna want to buy the products that he promotes? So isnt he liek one of those guys who sells crack outside the school gates!

Dont get me wrong on this im not singling out brad pitt im just using him as an example!

But heres the REAL question here…do yuu think Beer is the worst drug in the world? and whys it legal when…other drugs like heroin and cocaine, drugs that dont do half as much damage as alchol, and drugs that have positive medical benifits are illegal?

thanks for reading
the reason they steal to get money for crack is cuz its illegal….if it was legal it would be just as cheap as beer and crime would half over night!

R. Kelly, R&B singer charged with child molestation rebounded quite well, with multi-platinum selling records during and after his trial. Sell-out shows on tour.

Mike Tyson, world-renown boxer, spent 6 years in prison for rape and he’s still making money throough film and book deals. If any of us were convicted rapists, could we even get within 500 yards of a movie set?

Robert Downey Jr, actor. Here’s an idea, let’s line up all the heroin junkies in America to audition for the lead role in the next summer blockbuster.

Kobe Bryant, NBA star. Charged with rape. Seems like it’s been all-but-forgotten. Hey, he did get the Lakers another ring last year and he’s the best player in the NBA!

O.J. Simpson, ex-NFL star and small time actor. Hm. Can’t call this one, but something tells me he still has access to luxuries the average murderer doesn’t.

Mickey Rourke, actor. Seems to be getting a lot of big movie roles for an alcoholic who has beaten his ex-wives. Wonder if my employers could overlook arrests for domestic violence.

Curtis “50 Cent” Jackson, rapper and small time actor. Ex-con? Ex-drug dealer? Worth $300 million+, working with movie legends like DeNiro and Pacino? Not bad.

Eminem, rapper. Skirmishes outside night clubs, violence against the mother of his child, weapons charges. Sounds like a winner.

Tim Allen, actor. Yep, Tim “The Tool Man” Taylor spent 28 months in federal prison for cocaine trafficking. Still love the guy.

Paris Hilton? Lindsay Lohan, anyone?

I understand they can afford top notch attorneys to get out of the situations they find themselves in, but is there really a stigma associated with being a criminal or do we just dislike poor people? Some of the lists did the time or were accused before the fame, Tim Allen. What do you think? I mean, would you pay to watch a film starring the local sexual predator the next block over? Would you let a convicted rapist within 50 yards of your home?

R. Kelly, R&B singer charged with child molestation rebounded quite well, with multi-platinum selling records during and after his trial. Sell-out shows on tour.

Mike Tyson, world-renown boxer, spent 6 years in prison for rape and he’s still making money throough film and book deals. If any of us were convicted rapists, could we even get within 500 yards of a movie set?

Robert Downey Jr, actor. Here’s an idea, let’s line up all the heroin junkies in America to audition for the lead role in the next summer blockbuster.

Kobe Bryant, NBA star. Charged with rape. Seems like it’s been all-but-forgotten. Hey, he did get the Lakers another ring last year and he’s the best player in the NBA!

O.J. Simpson, ex-NFL star and small time actor. Hm. Can’t call this one, but something tells me he still has access to luxuries the average murderer doesn’t.

Mickey Rourke, actor. Seems to be getting a lot of big movie roles for an alcoholic who has beaten his ex-wives. Wonder if my employers could overlook arrests for domestic violence.

Curtis “50 Cent” Jackson, rapper and small time actor. Ex-con? Ex-drug dealer? Worth $300 million+, working with movie legends like DeNiro and Pacino? Not bad.

Eminem, rapper. Skirmishes outside night clubs, violence against the mother of his child, weapons charges. Sounds like a winner.

Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter, rapper and entertainment mogul. Jay-Z was charged with stabbing a man and pleaded down to a lesser charge and was given 3 years probation. But, he’s rich now. Would you overlook my attempted murder if I became big and powerful, too? Would you let your kids around me? Well, apparently beautiful women don’t mind, do they Beyonce?

Tim Allen, actor. Yep, Tim “The Tool Man” Taylor spent 28 months in federal prison for cocaine trafficking. Still love the guy.

Paris Hilton? Lindsay Lohan, anyone? The list goes on..

I understand they can afford top notch attorneys to get out of the situations they find themselves in, but is there really a stigma associated with being a criminal or do we just dislike poor people? Some of the lists did the time or were accused before the fame, Tim Allen. What do you think? I mean, would you pay to watch a film starring the local sexual predator the next block over? Would you let a convicted rapist within 50 yards of your home?

My husband’s ex-wife is a Christian. At least in the sense that she goes to church and actively believes that I am going to Hell for black hair, tattoos, and witchcraft books. She was really mad about using temporary Halloween hair dye on my step-daughter (Allie). And a few weeks back Allie told her mom about a magic book and she flipped out before finding out the whole truth and went to bad mouthing about me and my husband. It was a magic book about card tricks and Allie can’t even read yet. For a while Allie was scared that we were evil people.

I think that appearances are the only thing that this woman feels that she can hold against us. She overdosed on narcotics a month ago and was sent to a psych hospital. Her face is littered with scars from her heroin use. She never held down a job longer than a week with one exception which lasted maybe two months. She also has a bad attitude problem and curses frequently. Allie sees her rarely and only on her good days.
I also use to be an active Christian and written for my church newsletter. I just felt the need to move on religiously. Morally I am still the same. I don’t like the main curse words starting with f, c, and b. Especially the combination of m and f. I wouldn’t ever let my kids read my personal books or be influenced in that direction. They go preschool in a church and my son is morally and emotionally stable. Allie acts out a lot after being with her mom for any length of time. She has good days and bad days.

Think of these two movies:
The Notebook
And coming soon; ‘Its complicated’ (meryl streep, alec baldwin, steve martin)

In the notebook, that married woman finds that her ex-lover or whatever is back and he rebuilt a house…so she goes on a hormonal binge and makes out with her ex lover and they end up having sex. and what do women say? “awwww thats so cute”…hm, seems to me that if the roles were reversed and a man cheated on his wife (yes i know it does happen in other films but this film is based on the idea of that being sweet and touching) im sure women would be furious.

and now this new movie ‘Its Complicated’, coming out this christmas, deals with a divorced couple and the woman has remarried, she ends up sleeping with her ex and having an affair with him and its supposed to be a comedy? what is up with that? many marriages and families have been ripped apart because of unfaithful spouses and were supposed to just laugh it off because its a woman?

is this the trend of the times? or am i thinking into it too hard?

Marijuana doesn’t make you beat your wife or start a fight or kill someone will driving intoxicated. It does the exact opposite. There are studies, proving Marijuana does not kill braincells and the government’s “test” on the monkey to prove it does kill cells was completely unfair. They gave the poor guy almost 5 minutes worth of a drag.. OF COURSE NO ONE CAN HANDLE THAT!

Marijuana is used to help treat cancer or HIV symptoms. It is proven to have a lot of medical value in it. It is proven to be even less harmful than a cigarette. Please don’t give out this “it’s a gateway drug” theory, because I have never been tempted to use any type of power drug, ever. I don’t even consider Marijuana a drug, it’s a plant. Just like how Tobacco is a plant. I know my body is the soul representative of the Human Race, bit I have a lot of other’s who can agree with me. Making Marijuana illegal is in fact increasing crime. It’s giving criminals power. It’s giving them money from selling weed on the streets. If pot was legalized and regulated and legally allowed to be distributed by local farmers or store owners, people wouldn’t have to buy it from the Gangs. They wouldn’t need to.

I already know why it’s illegal. I want to hear your input or opinion as to why Marijuana is illegal.
Pardon my typos.
Oops! I didn’t realize I pretty much said “driving while high is perfectly safe”! DRIVING UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ANYTHING IS VERY ILLEGAL AND VERY DANGEROUS!

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

I’m not in the military so I wouldn’t know. I have had this friend for seventeen years. In fact, he and his children reside in my family’s home. His ex-wife-a neglectful mother can’t seem to get over their ended marriage, and started BCT the other week. Two and a half years ago, she requested a divorce the day he came home on leave from Iraq, seven and a half months later, three days after the end of his tour, she left a suicide not out(in her mother’s home) overdosed on pills was found and had to go to the emergency room. Then she left the note out for days for her divorcing spouse to see it(conveniently enough). She used to physically attack him and call the mps when they lived on base-she harassed me multiple times out of paranoia. She was on depression meds before and she concealed the entire pregnancy with their second child, getting no prenatal care, attempting to do things like exert herself during the last trimester to force a miscarriage and binge-drink vodka a bunch of times in the last trimester at Ft. Stewart in front of her husband who didn’t know she was pregnant(but she did). Maybe this belongs in psychology. I haven’t had anything to say about the extreme absurdity of the situation. He is like a battered woman though-he is so used to the extreme violence(chasing with a knife, wrapping a cord around his neck while laying in bed, punching in face,etc.) that he doesn’t see these other things as big deals-like her returning his children dirty and un-bathed(even though she seldom has them). When I say she concealed an entire pregnancy(which less than 1% of women do-this is more infrequent than child molestation), she even moved back to Ca during his deployment and didn’t tell her identical twin with whom she is close and lived with about the pregnancy-just popped out a baby one day, and he was forced to explain this to his commanding officers. I’m not going to talk about the other things, but do you ever see this in the Army? People that appear to have mental health issues and history of violence, joining the military for attention? It just seems a little scary, but again, maybe this ? is better in Psychology? She calls him crying about her job, her sad, childhood, her sad life, etc. Do people like this make it through Boot? Does the Army help get people the emotional help they may need un Basic? I used to help with the children but I had to quit because the whole thing started seeming a little weirder and weirder.
Oh, and we don’t know who the father of that baby is(who poor thing, now had major behavioral problems maybe from the alcohol) because the pregnancy followed an adulterous affair she had while spouse was deployed.

I decided to get information on what a separation means from an on-base attorney. My husband has threatened to cancel my debit/credit card to our joint account if I leave and I wanted to make sure I would be financially ok for our kids. My husband was supposed to have gone with me to speak with him because I wanted my husband to know his rights too, but at the last minute he didn’t want either one of us to go and was upset with me when I went anyway. When I got home he told me there’s no way he’d let me have the kids and he’d fight tooth and nail to keep them. I asked why he didn’t think I would be able to take care of them and he said, “I don’t. You’re a great mother. But you will NOT get them. I’ll fight until you lose them.” I don’t have a job or money of my own because we had decided that I would stay home with our kids. I plan on getting a job if we separate because I don’t want our kids to grow up the way I did, pretty much in poverty. It’s a fear of mine. He’s in the military and deploys a few times a year. He’s admitted he’s an alcoholic but refuses to get treatment. He’s not emotionally stable and has a terrible temper. He’s trying to get counseling through our church because it’s anonymous though, but even they said he needs to seek a higher form of counseling. I’m going to counseling as well, and we were going to counseling together but he doesn’t want to go back because he says he’s picked on and made to feel evil.
I don’t hate him, actually I love him very much I just can’t live with the drinking, lies and anger. This is tearing me apart, and I don’t want him to come across as only the things I’ve mentioned. He’s a good father when alcohol and depression isn’t involved, actually, he’s a good husband then too. He just isn’t getting help and it’s wearing on me and the kids too. I’m sorry if I come across as a terrible wife.

My wife is working on overcoming a sleeping pill addiction need advise. I told her that I wonted a divorce that I could no longer live with the lye and deception. She told me she would do anything to keep me. I told her I wonted her to go to a 30day rehab program she agreed. We set up a meeting with her therapist for later that day. The therapist did not think that she would qualify because she was not currently using and that her problem was not to that level. I said the I would like her to do an out patient program and make some big life changes and relay work on this addiction problem. She said she should start going to 12 steps AA meeting. So my wife stated this she has been going for two weeks 3 meeting a week I wonted her to do 90-90 but after the next therapy session with her therapist she said that in our rural are it is nearly imposable to go to that many meeting that 3 meeting a week would problem b
During this time she has been going to the same concaler, I have had regular conversation with this therapist about what has been going on. In December when she was abusing the pain killer I wonted to send her to a 30 day rehab program but she did not agree for 2 reasons because all the pills were gone, and because she didn’t feel that it was that big of a problem “just a little slip up”. In the process of this recovery my wife has made me a list of thing she would do to improve our life and get it back on track on of witch would be to finish her resume and apply for a few jobs (She is currently work as a privet preschool teacher but with no benefits so I would like her to get a public school job). Well she fished her resume and cover letter and sent it to my sister in-law to correct and it was all stolen off the net. This was the last straw for me I confronted her about it and she showed her who she had copied it from on the internet she still denned that she had copied it.

My wife is working on overcoming a sleeping pill addiction need advise. I told her that I wonted a divorce that I could no longer live with the lye and deception. She told me she would do anything to keep me. I told her I wonted her to go to a 30day rehab program she agreed. We set up a meeting with her therapist for later that day. The therapist did not think that she would qualify because she was not currently using and that her problem was not to that level. I said the I would like her to do an out patient program and make some big life changes and relay work on this addiction problem. She said she should start going to 12 steps AA meeting. So my wife stated this she has been going for two weeks 3 meeting a week I wonted her to do 90-90 but after the next therapy session with her therapist she said that in our rural are it is nearly imposable to go to that many meeting that 3 meeting a week would problem be enough. She also thinks that I am trying to hard that I just need to back of my wife and let her do what she feels she needs to do. I wont this to be the most important thing she has ever done I don’t feel that we can get on with our life until this is delt with. I don’t wont to be with her if I cant trust. I feel that is the bases for a successful marriage. Her therapist thinks I am way off the mark and she has been telling my wife that I am to involve in the process and need to back off. I think that the therapist treatment isn’t the most beneficial for the process (she is using unconditional positive regard) due to the relapse that my wife has had. How do I deal with? Is it OK to question what she is doing? I don’t feel that my wife is giving it her all. How do I find the balance of pushing to get results and giving up and walking away? Have you ever been hear? What are your experiences? I am frustrated, confused and tired any advice would be nice

how do i celebrate?.. fattening breakfast at the cafe?.. $1,000 tattoo?.. mid-day binge drinking?.. suggestions?.. suggestions?..

by the way, i took the day off work so i could go to the closing… i just wanted all of you who are working right now to know that…

My wife and I met in High School and “dated” for 8 years before getting married, and have been married 13 years.We have 2 kids in elementary school. We are both under 40 years old. My wife stayed home through the birth of our kids and then shortly after my second child, she decided to go back to school for her Masters degree, I helped out in every way I could while she went to school, I worked nights and took care of the kids during the day. This strained our relationship severely, but it was already not healthy. I feel my wife could be a “rageaholic” (she comes from an alcoholic family, as do I) and I had been dealing with alcoholism myself which seemed to get worse. Until now, I quit drinking 1 1/2 mos. ago. I don’t think I ever really “loved” my wife, and I think we’re in denial about WHY we married and whether or not we’re even in love. She said we should stay together “for the kids”, but I think this is not the best way. I hope someone has some insight or a story to share.
Schwinn…no girlfriend
Infritsk…I never said I was looking for another relationship
Janetrmi….My wife is religious, I am not
Sandie….What about her anger….that is still there, and she has made no apparent effort to resolve this issue
Paul M…What you say is basically what the book, Too Good to leave, Too bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum states, and I read the book cover to cover.
We have tried counseling several times and she never likes the therapists, I think she doesnt like hearing what they have to say.
In addition to all I’ve said already, I also do not get the feeling she really cares about me, unless she has a vested interest in the situation.

What Mike Vick did was not right, but Leonard Little killed someone(drunk driving)..Lawrence Phillips almost killed his college girlfried and then was drafted like 6th by the rams..Chris Benoit killed his wife and kid and it was in the news for about a week..Is everyone going F#&*ING crazy???

First, I’m not defending to the cigarette…

But I think the alcohol produces more victims than the cigarette. Many people kill when are drunk driving a vehicle, fighting under the effects of the alcohol, or hitting drunk to her wife and children. Also, a lot of people die by cirrhosis.

I don’t know somebody has caused an accident to smoke, or the cigarette motivated somebody to fight and to kill another person, or somebody hit savagely his wife and children to be under the effects of the cigarette…

I think the alcohol is worse than the cigarette. However, every year, more billion dollars are spent in campaigns against the cigarette than against the alcohol…

Why to pander to the alcohol? How many trillion dollars are moved behind the industries of the liquor and the beer?

It’s a double moral.

An university professor said: “The alcohol is necessary in the society because it’s the drug that brutalizes… the governments need to govern brutalized people.”
NOTE: When I use the term “brutalize”, I mean to make to somebody idiot.” Please, excuse me if my translation to English is not the correct one.

Forgive my long post, but this is a huge crisis for me. What a day for it to blow over! Merry Christmas to me.
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I’ve been with my husband for 23 years, 21 of those married. We were happy together until recently when he started to change. Red flags of an affair started popping up, but I didn’t want to act rashly just in case.

Yesterday I was in his office looking for some batteries when I found a briefcase with a brand new iPod Touch, a Teddy bear, and an expensive watch (at least $400). We are not rich. Our kids don’t even have this much.

I’d been suspecting the affair for awhile now, and my daughter had previously found the facebook account of some woman named “Diana” she claimed was his mistress. It was credible, but again, wasn’t much concrete. Even when I confronted him, he denied the claims.

Christmas came and it didn’t take long to find out those extravagant presents weren’t for me or our kids. After he went to sleep, my daughter, being curious as she is, went into his room to look for them (I’d told her I’d found them). She came out awhile later with bills & the perfect paper trail to his infidelity, plus the itouch. She took out the itouch and we saw an engraved message on the back, for the Diana woman my daughter had found on facebook, with “lots of love” from my hubby.

I pretty much cracked then and confronted him about it well at 4am in the morning. I smashed the iPod (wish I hadn’t) & ripped up the Teddy bear (unfortunately I didn’t get to watch on time, which I could have kept & sold).

He ended up leaving and hasn’t come back since (he didn’t deny the affair). This is obviously the end of our marriage. I’ve had to put up with so much of his sh*t over the years (his alcoholism, dug abuse, and couldn’t keep a job longer than a year), but this is something I can not and will not forgive. He would be nowhere without me. Absolutely nowhere.

Yet, even after all I’ve done for him, he can’t afford to even give me a Christmas card. Even at least as the mother of his kids.

I’ve invested so many years for him and this is the biggest slap in the face he could ever give me. I’ve been through him during stages where any sensible person would have left him.

I don’t know what I can do to continue living. I have 3 kids to maintain, and I don’t earn close to enough solo to maintain them all. Even with child support, it would not be enough.

If I have to take court action, I will. I have countless of bills that prove to his infidelity (plus condoms i’ve found in his bag, and I had a hysterectomy more than a decade ago).

What should I do next? What about his mistress (who is probably some gold digging slut)? What do I have to do NOW? Eventually I’ll have to sell our house, as neither of us can pay it by ourselves.

I will never forgive this but all I hope is that in the future he will come to regret this moment. His regret is all I want, because there is no other woman out there who will do for him what I have.

Even when we were dating, he never gave me even HALF as much as he intended to give this woman.

according to him.He is seeing me when he isn’t at work or with his kids.they have no sexual ties at this time for about 6 months now so all of the sexual things in his life is coming from me.Every time he tries to touch her all she says is don’t touch me.Am I wrong for giving him the loving that he is seeking?Keep in mind he was honest about being married.

I have been with my wife for almost 15 yrs. We have been separated for 6 weeks now. We have 3 children together, 10 8 and 6. I have been sober for over 12 yrs but have been a dry drunk and she doesnt want me anymore. She says she wants a divorce but I want to try to work it out. The kids like the “new daddy” as I have been in several support groups and intensive therapy. I feel like I just came out of a “12 year fog” and didnt realize how much I was hurting my family. I just want to make it right and be a true family for the first time. I asmit there has been a lot of verbal abuse in the relationship but I am willing to give anything I have to make it work.

In 1989, Cindy McCain became addicted to Vicodin and Perocet after back surgery. To keep up with her daily need of 10 to 15 pills, she stole the drugs from the medical services charity that she began a year earlier. In 1993, the Drug Enforcement Agency uncovered her thefts after an audit of the charity for the drugs it used. To avoid prosecution, Cindy McCain agreed to a plea bargain with the Justice Depart in which she submitted to drug testing, paid a fine, joined Narcotics Anonymous, and perform community service in a soup kitchen. She was also ordered to close her medical charity.