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I love my wife very much f but I’m very angry with her right now and she doesn’t understand why. I just found out that the last 5yrs she is being saving 10% of her monthly salary for college for our 8yr son. So now she has about 40K saved up, I don’t like that fact that she didn’t tell me. However, I asked her to give me some of that money as my 17yr daughter from previous marriage needs braces and books for her college class next year . Her response was braces aren’t necessary college is and you and her mom should pay for it not our 8yr. What should I do? I understand that my family shouldn’t pay for my past mistakes however my ex she is alcoholic and drug addict so she won’t help.

Wondering if you might be a terrorist yourself ?
Do the Terrorist Test here;

YOU MAY BE A TALIBAN IF…”
1. You refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to beer.

2. You own a $3,000 machine gun and $5,000 rocket launcher, but you can’t afford shoes.

3. You have more wives than teeth.

4. You wipe your butt with your bare left hand, but consider bacon “unclean.”

5. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.

6. You can’t think of anyone you HAVEN’T declared Jihad against.

7. You consider television dangerous, but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.

8. You were amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.

9. You’ve often uttered the phrase, “I love what you’ve done with your cave.”

10. You have nothing against women and think every man should own at least one.

11. You bathe at least monthly whether necessary or not.

12. You have a crush on your neighbor’s goat.

Alright so I’ve never had a good relationship with my dad. He lives about 10-15 driving hours away, and is…well, a jerk. And a heroin junky. I haven’t seen him in over a year, because each time I’ve tried to make plans to visit him, he’s cancelled. For reasons like getting fired from his job, to splitting up with his wife, to going away and “getting clean”(which he says all the time, and never really does). In May, I turned 16 and got a job. I have quite a few things going on this summer that I need to ask for time off for, which I hate doing as a new employee. Well, things have started to “settle down” for my dad, and he now wants me to come visit. I told him that I wasn’t sure when I’d be able to get the time off, which immediately turned into a screaming fight over the phone. He feels like “everything I do is more important than visiting him.” I have a job! He’s had 14 months to get his shit together. Now he is calling just about every week to see if I’ve got time off, and I keep
telling him that I’ll call him when I have more information, but he keeps calling anyways. Honestly, I’d rather tell him to fuck off and never see him again.

This might just be me venting, but I would appreciate some advice.
My dad also has a personality disorder. Borderline, I think it’s called.

In Oct of 2005 she had my son and our marriage councilor diagnosed post partum depression. When my son was 3 months old she began partying like when she was single. This includes going out two to four times a week until 7 to 8 in the morning. In the Fall of 2006 her mother and drug addicted father moved in with us, into a 2 bedroom house, with my wife, myself, my son and step daughter. This was supposed to be temporary. Three months later the father had left the mother. Both mother and daughter were getting drunk at least weekly. They decided to take my wife and mine tax return of $4,000 and go to California for a vacation instead of paying off some judgments that my wife and I agree to pay with the money. Two weeks after they got back I left. In the following month she said she would change and things would be better. I came back. A month later I had to force the mother in law out of the house. My wife continued drinking eventually she got a DUI.
I went away on business and she wouldn’t even skip a drinking session to pick me up from airport when I got back. If see doesn’t have money to go out and drink she will borrow it from her mother. We spent 6 weeks going to a marriage councilor, but ignored the councilor’s recommendation in regard to the post partum depression. To top it off the councilor said she didn’t think my wife had a problem with alcohol.At times she displays remarkable paranoia. She has even gone so far as to try to use the kids to spy on my conversations between my parents and me. (She bribes them and will even use her step daughter to interrogate my son from a previous marriage.) Now she says she is pregnant, but she went out with her friends again last night (says she didn’t drink but came home at 1 am and immediately showered). The time frame for conception is “wrong” too; it was during a time when I was away for work.
PS. She offered to got to church counciling to “straighten me out”, but when I took her up on it she dropped it like a hot potato. She argues that I don’t help enough with the kids and house work. I work 10 hours a day, am pursueing an MBA, and come home to watch kids, do the dishes, maybe a load of laundry, and cook dinner. She works maybe 30 hrs a week, wakes up after 9 am or 10 am, and stays up till midnight even if she isn’t getting drunk at the bar. Before I met her I had a house 3 vehicles and good credit. Now we rent own 1 running car and have been through bankruptcy and our credit is still bad.
What is your impression of the situation?
What would you do?
She has also put on about 50lbs from when I met her. Do you think she would be able to cheat on me?

The World Today
—————————–

Mentally unstable governments fall apart
Certainly not able stubborn politicians
Trying to sweet talk us into war like a girl
Trying to sweet talk me into her little world
Does the damn government remember the great man
The great freedom fighter who was left on a cross
Nails in his hands he died for our debaucheries
Why do we just keep sinning that’s all I damn see
Did he die just in vain? Did we enjoy his pain?
Did you ever think that rain is God sad crying
Cuz he reluctantly knows we’re going to hell
Kids going to jail for a bite they had to steal
For the bare necessities we sin to survive
Survive to sin today I get negative vibes
I will sin I know it today it’s part of life
It’s live or die and still suffer eternal strife

[Hook]
The world today is pretty fucked up
Everything to me is like Kryptonite
Cuz last night I got into combat
With my fist even though I live above that
I usually do lyrical combat on a mic’
I don’t care I say what I like
So let me say this now

Guns, drugs, death, disease the whole world is on it’s knees
The day we all die is here we’re gonna have peace
Judgment day is on the horizon do not run
I’m no prophet but these are the visions I get
I’m not religious but this is real shit today
Kids running away from parents that abuse them
Then they find pot, and heroin and start to use them
Needles break in there skin look at the world we’re in
STDs, disease, viruses are all in us
Spreading from one to thousands in every human
Underage pregnancies leading to abortions
Every damn women today can be a whore man
I don’t care what you say what you do it’s damn true
We are all animals with the basic instincts
To just damn feed, mate, kill and finally repeat
Humanity is gone since we lost our sanity

[Hook]
The world today is pretty fucked up
Everything to me is like Kryptonite
Cuz last night I got into combat
With my fist even though I live above that
I usually do lyrical combat on a mic’
I don’t care I say what I like
So let me say this now

I’ve seen things in front of me they’re hard to believe
Murders saying abra-cadaver when they stabbed her
Only questions no answers after they found her
Ashes to ashes bastard and bastards everywhere
How many wars will finally quench your thirst for blood?
Father like son that’s what they say maybe it’s true
I really don’t know but it is for you
He wanted a war then you made it more and more
You attention whore “Daddy Daddy look at me!
“I made this war you wanted no matter what the cost”
“Look at it now daddy I made it a holocaust”
You dictator your no leader we damn hate you
You’re just like Adolf Hitler, or a wife beater
I’m delighted your rain is almost over
I’m gonna have to go with Barack on this one
Because he will be way better when your gone
You may not want to steal these I’ve copyright them before I posted them on my copyright site. So if you do I can bring you to court and sue.
Ok man sorry I went crazy. I just don’t like people saying that stuff. Kidding or not that a subject I will go crazy about.

does the music you listen to dictate your actions/behavior?

I live in NH and the big thing here is the Mt.Vernon attack (look it up,,,sick),, some kids went to a random house ,, broke in,, used a machette and hacked up the 2 people they found,, the mom was murdered and the daughter was maimed by self proclaimed “juggalos” for the sake of “see’n how it felt”,<-their words not mine..
but instead of the focus be’n on the crime its on the kids choice of music,, the dumb “rules” they have and so on,,,
i remember Slayer, Judas Priest, Ozzy, getn sued for kids killing themselves but why put yourself into a group now known and hated for this crap??musicallyy i think icp blows,, but do i think icp is responsible?? F no,, no more than Ozzy or Slayer made sum kid put a gun in their mouth,
i listen to thrash and deathmetal mostly and i dont go around killing people,, worshiping satan or anything like that,, all it does to me is mess up my hair !,,
so for me no,, music does NOT dictate my actions,, but for some its leaned on as a legitimate scapegoat for the parents or guilty party,

Cyclone Temple said it best in the song Why…

“so dont blame sum heavymetal record to cover your own neglect”

listening to Queen does not make my wife gay,,
listening to Obituary does not make me burn churches down,,
listening to Ozzy does not make me want to bite heads off of small flying animals,,

makes no sense to me,,

i guta go now,,, my wife wants to listen to Alice in Chains and Nirvana and i have no idea where im guna get the needles and heroin from,,

Sorry So Long But Please Read!

I am 21 years old I have a almost 2 year old son. My son’s father is a police officer he is 39 years old now. When I met him I was only 18 I was young dumb and made some bad choices. I ended up getting pregnant at 18 I had my son when I was 19. It was all fun for my son’s father to have a “young pretty thing” until I got pregnant then he was no where to be found. He refused to support me threw my pregnancy and decided to go with denying my son was his. When my son was born he didn’t come to the hospital because his ex wife’s friend works there and he didn’t tell his teenage daughters ex wife or any other family and friends about my son. I paid for a DNA test because he wouldn’t and when my son was 2 weeks old it came back of course he was the father. He still didn’t tell anyone about my son till he was a month old. And now that my son is almost 2 I am still involved with a child support battle with him and I just recieved my first payment a few weeks ago. He only see’s my son once every week or two for a few hours each time. He says horrible things about me to his daughters mostly all lies. He has told them he was intoxicated and I took advantage of him (yeah with my 18 year old little self). I do have a good relationship with his ex wife though so alot of the lies he tells them can be straightened out.
So to my dilema there is a bar around the corner from my home. My significant other and I have a date night ever 3 weeks or so and usually stop in there before heading home to see some friends. To my surprise the other night my son’s father walked in the bar. I have a RO on him so he can’t speak to me but he kept his distance just talking to the bartender. I found out they are in the beginning stages of dating she is young to I would say no older then 23. I was in there last night and she looked at me like I was the devil. Should I say something to her about how he is? I wish someone would have told me before I got myself wrapped up in the hell that is him. Or let her figure it out on her own?

heres his description
agressive,he can get crazy over a little thing,is a
“pathological”jelous-huband, he thinks his wife is cheatin, he dont trust nobody, he always thinks people want all bad for him,lets say “little bit” paranoid.he was in jail when he was a teenager for stabbing someone who died because of it.he is taking drugs (heroin etc.).he grew up without a father but his childhood wasn´t bad (had his mom always behind him).people are afraid of him (even his mother) particularly when he is drunk. he was beating his mom when he was drunk, his wife (because he was jelous).teaching his children to fight the enemy, to be violent when it comes to fight for right.he looks like a monster when he is angry, his eyes are demonic/satanic dunno how to describe it.
-he is very inteligent, plays guitar, sings, wrote poems,loves his wife & son,he reads much,he is very smart.people love him, hes a “wunderkind”.
CAN this kind of person have a mental problem?
sorry 4 my bad english.
Big Thx To Lina For Putting Her Soul Into The Answer.
But At One Point We Have To Forget He´s Using Heroin.I Mean As A Person.
How He Was, How He Was For his People, People Who Knew Him, He´s…Very Smart Person..He Has Answer On Evry Question..I Never Saw A Charmed Person Like Him. He´s Unique.The Way He Talks, Walks….Forget About I Mentioned He Is Using Drugs.Just Tell Me Of A Person.Can Be There A Mental Problems?

Damn…He Is My………

I spent the weekend hanging out with a bunch of friends that I have known for years. There are 2 married couples and one couple that isn’t married. After their wives and girlfriend left, I witnessed these guys (who I considered friends up until this point) cheating on their wives. They were highly intoxicated, but to me there is absolutely no excuse for their actions. The worst part about it is that I personally think they were taking advantage of girls that were so drunk, they may have not known what they were doing at the time. I was certain to give them a piece of my mind right there, and told them that I was very upset that they had put me in the position I am now in. I have to see their wives and girlfriend, and pretend like nothing happened? I am so livid that this happened, and refuse to keep them as “friends”. However……… I know what happens when people tell their friends about a cheating husband/boyfriend. I know that I would want to know, but I don’t want to cause a ton of drama in my life, and am worried this would bring a storm my way.

What do you think I should do?

I saw this movie yesterday,in where this one chick,had a crush on her teacher,she cast a spell on him and many of her class mates,that had pranked her,buried her alive after she fell
and hit her head on a table.Every time she touched someone’s face,they experience what she had experienced,then after that,each person is under her spell,and they do what ever she commands them to do.Near the end of the movie,she made to guys that were friends make out,she caused the girlfriend of one of those guys to binge a lot of food,including her finger tips.Then she commands those guys that were making out,to kill her teacher’s wife.Her class mates that were under her spell,find out a lot it,and they do everything they can to try and stop her,and learn that she did all this,from casting a spell from magic,and a missing page that came from a magic book.I can’t remember the name of the movie,I want to buy it,but I don’t know the name.I saw half of it at a friends house,then over slept threw the rest.

Here is the issue. My soon to be ex husband lives a 1000 miles away and communicates with the kids though phone and skype (webcam). Lately he has not been setting up times to do this on the scheduled days. Then he text me saying Him and I need to work on our communication for the sake of the kids. ( seriously how do I need to help him, I use to text him to set up times but my counselor told me I need to stop doing that and that he needs to take the responsibility) He says a lot of things that do not make any since and is just all over the board. One week things will be fine for contact with the kids then the next week it is not. His behavior just really weird. I asked my counselor if he is just stupid or if he is crazy.
side notes
-his dad became an alcoholic after he left his wife
-he has totally screwed up his life by everything he has done in the last 7months
So, my question is how can I tell if I never see him or I am never around him. Obviously the only reason I care is because of our kids one is 3yrs and other is 6months. They have no way of telling me something is wrong with daddy.
it is in the court order that he skype and or talk to them twice a week. My parents keep telling me I need to cut him off and tell him no. Oh, and he did not move away he is in the military and we lived there and he told me to move out and go live with my parents. (man what an ass, looks horrible when I type it!)
I do not want my kids to hate me because I cut their father out but it seems like he is causing more harm then good.

My ex-wife Penelope is a sturdy, thick-set, no nonsense woman who left me due to a gambling and heroin addiction, both of which i have mostly recovered from.

I have now become aware that she may be polluting the minds of our two children, telling them both that i am no good, i’m a womaniser and racist, and an abuser of women and children, (all of which is mostly untrue).

How do i convince them their mother is lying to them? Both my children are 43 years old.

My boss went out of town and asked me to take his wife out to dinner – just good company, friends, etc.

The problem is when we got home… there was this awkward chemistry between us – I thought we might even hook up. She went to fix us drinks, I went to the bathroom to urinate… that’s when the problem started.

She found my heroin in my pocket (madman stuff, from the Hartz Mountains of Germany) and mistakenly thought it was cocaine. So she snorted it up her nose and immediately blacked out – death was almost certain.

I took her to my friend Lance’s house and ended up giving her a shot of adrenaline directly to her heart which, luckily, caused her to wake up and snap out of it.

Anyway, everything is back to normal now, but do you think I should tell my boss what happened?

I slept with my friends husband. We were both intoxicated and it just happened. We both agreed that we would not speak of it again, but he now says that he feels guilty about it and wants to tell her. Him and I have been friends since High School and over the years I have become good friends with his wife. Technically, he initiated it. Yes, I know I’m still equally at fault. It was an alcohol induced incident, it wouldn’t have happened otherwise. It wasn’t premeditated on either part, I’m not out to steal him from her, I don’t want him, I don’t have feelings for him and as far as I know he feels the same way. I feel terrible, I have never done anything like this.

We agreed not to tell anyone about this, hence why I’ve turned to Yahoo answers. He wants to tell his wife, he says he feels guilty. I don’t think that he should tell her about it. He feels guilty, so he just forget about what happened and dedicate himself to being the best husband ever and never do anything like this again. Right? Telling her isn’t going to to do anyone any good, especially if plans on never cheating again. My nephew who I’ve adopted and his son are best friends, they’re five. This would just make everything awkward. Yes, we should have thought about this before, but we obviously were not thinking. He said he wouldn’t tell her if I feel this strongly about it. Am I committing a double crime by telling him not to tell his wife? I just think it’s unnecessary, he’s sorry, I’m sorry and it’s never going to happen again.

My wife and I have been married for 6 yrs. We have one child together. The truth is though we don’t get along. We haven’t for just about all 6 yrs. It seems like things changed when we got married. We have each had an affair on eachother once a few yrs ago. I never cheated on anyone before her. She always accused me of it from day one and I was always good to her. I finally got sick of being in trouble for something i didn’t do and did it. It was wrong. I admitted what I did. So she left me in the middle of the night and cheated on me with some guy and didn’t come back for months. Took my child too. It’s been a couple of yrs now and I feel like the love is gone. I think I stay with her outta guilt and because I don’t wanna miss time with my daughter. But My wife drives me nuts on a daily basis. She always wears REALLY short skirts even when I ask her not to, always tells me what I don’t do for her. She refuses to work even though she “says” she’s looking. And spends my money. I developed a habit when I got with her that I’m not proud of with substances. I just do enough not to get sick. And when I every time I do through detox and almost make it, she helps me relapse. She always plays both sides of the fence. She’ll try to get me to buy that substance and then say well, u don’t have to. So when I tell her she’s not helping, I wanna get away from it; She says “well I told u that u don’t have to do it. I’m supportive.” Financially she won’t help and she puts us in the hole all the time, but won’t help. I’m miserable. Is the grass greener on the other side, being alone or with someone who cares about me and isn’t pretending. I don’t think we’re good for each other. She’s gorgeous, but I need more. More than good sex. I need someone who truly loves me doesn’t wanna fight all the time and someone I can trust. Should I keep on trying to make this thing work or split. And by the way, I’m asking anybody to MAKE my decision. I just want advice. Thank You.
Keep the answers coming please and thank you so much for those who’ve answered. Ur so caring. I’m 25 and she’s 24. And when she left with my lil’ girl the first time, I filed for divorce and fought for my girl for 50-50custody. She was trying to get Full custody. We since then ended the papers for divorce and tried to make it work. She always tries to take my daughter when we fight. She’s loud and screams and makes a scene. We keep it away from my daughter, well try, but my wife is so loud when we argue. We’re both good looking so I’m sure we can find other ppl, but I wanna do what’s best for my daughter. I feel happiest when it’s just my daughter and I. I hate to say that , but it’s true. If anyone has any more advice, please give it. Sorry this is so long. You’ve all been so kind and helpful
oh and last thing. She gets SUPER jealous if there’s a pretty girl even close to me in the store. She talks to guys and my guy friends, but I can’t even THINK about talking to other girls. It seems a lil’ funny. Not haha funny either. She kicks me out when we disagree on things and treats me like dirt. When I nicely tell her I think we’re better off taking a break, she blows up. So aggressive. Thanks again. I just want to know this isn’t how my life HAS to be and that I can be happy and give my daughter a great life.

This past weekend, we had a bachelors party for a friend of mine, we got really intoxicated and we ended up passing out in the hotel room [four of us]. Well I was awoken by the groom with one of his hand down my underwear and the other rubbing my chest, at first I thought it was a dream but I opened my eyes after a bit and it was him, I ddint say anything but I did ejaculate. The next day he acted as if nothing happened. They are getting married on Saturday. That was all that happened but I dont know if I should tell the wife he has those sorts of tendencies.

We used to be so close, like friends,ya’ know.I’m afraid I’m loosing my mind,and she needs to cut me loose.But she is torn because of our history.How ,in a 16 yr./friendly/marriage way,do I tell I git/get it.sHE NEEDS TO BE FREE OF MY /ME.Without making her feel bad or responsible to get what she needs to bring sanity to HER life?She’s worried how this 42 yr. only child will survive.She should be free because I’ve been drunk since she meet me.12 days ago I left detox.She’s had children since she was 18.Then ..ME…….How I telln “Her i’t's time to be You????

Last night my wife came home at 9 pm. She gets off work at 5 pm and has to pick our son up by 5:30. I called the house many times up until 8:15 pm and there was no answer. She always answers.I left 3 messages throughout the evening and finally called again, checked the messages that I had left,and then erased them. I had a plan. I finally called back at 9 and she picked up. She sounded intoxicated and I could hear my son crying in the background. Calmly, I asked her what she had done this evening. She said that she had picked up our son and come home and played trucks and buses with our 2 year old. I responded, again calmly, with “well, I have been calling for the past two hours and you didn’t answer.” She avoided the question by talking to our son in the background. I let it go. She also said that she had heard my message, however, I had erased all of my messages and the one that her friend left saying what a good time they had at happy hour. What do I do. I have so much to lose.Help

Scott Gardner was killed by a drunk driving illegal immigrant in 2005. His wife was left severely brain-damaged, unable to walk or speak. She is now being cared for in a nursing home for the rest of here life. Their two kids who were in the car at the time of the accident, are now being raised by Scott’s parents. One moment in time, that has totally altered the lives of the Gardner family, forever.

The illegal alien drunk driver who caused all this had been arrested 5 times previous for DWI and was deported twice only to come back and cause this terrible tragedy of an American family. Why was this allowed to happen?

http://www.immigrationwatchdog.com/?p=5334

Well yes she is my ex wife but we are starting over after a 5 month break. We have been going back out for about 3 weeks now.

After this break we had we both understood what each other doesn’t like. So I thought we were both determined to make each other happy. Well before the break up she never got drunk or even drank at all. But she always used to talk about how she used to get messed up before. Drugs and drinking. Then she met me and Im such a square( never dranked,smoked, did drugs) that ” I ” feel like she felt that I was holding her back. If I was, I wasnt trying to but when you have 3 kids in a marriage I belive its time to settle way down and set a good image for the kids.
Any way, since the break up 5 months ago she has been living it up. She said no drugs but there was plenty of drinking. She also said no driving drunk either but I find that very hard to belive cuz she used to brag about it all the time. Well now that we are back together I told her that dinking makes me uncomfortable and I dont even like hearing about it. All I asked her to do is if she is drinking dont call me or tell me about it( maybe I went over board) well tonite she went out with her girlfriend and went drinking both of them. She called me and said she loved me and she misses me and such( she is in another city visiting some friends right now) but she was so drunk it made me feel hurt than happy that she was having fun. I just dont know what to do. I dont want to sound controlling but I really wish she would stop drinking and partying. We have 3 kids at a early age and its hard enough as it is. Should I leave her( I dont want to) or should I just suck it up and live with it?

I am 23 and she just turned 21 on christmas eve. Yes I know she has been drinking for a while under age.and our 3 kids are ages 3,2,1 years old. please help.