How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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About 5 years ago I met the man of my dreams 1 year later we married. He has 3 children and I have 2. One year after we married his youngest daughter decided that she wnted to live with us, everything was good for abou two months then i caught her smoking,doing drugs,drinking and having sex.. Now mind you that she was only 13 at the time. When I told my husband what was going on he asked her about it and she told him that I am a liar and I never caught her doing those things. And of course she is daddys little girl so he sided with her and told me that I need to quit attacking her with these accusations. I found her diary and showed it to him and in it she admits doing all these things and it also said how she was gonna make it miserable for me and my children so I would leave. And all he had to say was that she is only saying these things to make her feel cool in front of her friends. Now my husband is not a stupid man until it comes to her.
I asked him if she could start helping out a little around the house and maybe do dishes once a week and his response was that she is too young for responsibilities. My children who are 6 & 8 have chores. I dont think that I am asking to much for to do dishes.
Now she is about to be 16 and for the last 3 years I have had no say so in anything at all. She doesnt even have to tell me that she is leaving the house or where she is going. She doesnt even have to speak to me in my own home. And if I do try to ask her she tells me that I am only her dads wife. But I am the one who cooks, cleans,takes them to all the drs. appts.,buys her stuff but I am no one when it concerns what she is doing. but, that is bull because when she ends up pregnant or with an STD I am the one stuck taking care of it. I have tried to be the friend and I have also tried ignoring what she is doing but I can not take it anymore and I do not know what to do. If I tell her father that I want her move back with her mother he has already stated that he is not going to pick between me and his daughter. Where do I go from here?

I can’t stop thinking aboutngetting married. Sometimes, when I’m alone in my room, I get lost in my thoughts, twirling the air in my arms screaming, “I’m so glad you’ll marry me!” or standing by the bed, acting as if my “wife” is giving birth and “supporting” “her.” then I pick up the air like a baby, twirl it, and I can’t stop smiling and laughing and feeling so good inside. I csnt sleep in the middle of the bed, I always move aside as if to leave someone else room. And I can allays imagine myself with 4-5 children. I am NOT crazy, I am completely sane (my lowest grade right now is a 97%, I’m perfectly smart and sane) and I don’t do this in public, only in private. But I don’t know why

I am a 17-year-old male, virgin, never had drugs, never drank, and I have a girlfriend who I dream of marrying in about 6-10 years, and yet when I imagine my “wife” it’s never her. Why do I do this? I can tell you I’m not crazy because no one knows about it and they don’t suspect anything.

My wife had a son from a previous marriage. Her son was 13 when he started doing drugs. At age 15, he died from a drug overdose in May.

I blame my wife for his death and I have told her this hundreds of times. She didn’t know he was doing drugs. But as a mother, she chose to work instead of stay home but yet she still insisted on having me pay for things for him.

Now that Jacob is dead, she uses that as an excuse to get time off from work. But yet she wouldn’t keep her behind home when Jacob was alive. I don’t feel bad for him that he died because he did drugs and I don’t feel bad for my wife because she’s trying to drag me down into her misery.

Now she’s begging me to buy her counseling sessions, but I’m not going to pay some idiot $100 an hour to listen to my wife whine. I love my wife, I respect her, and for the most part, I have been faithful, but she’s is just going to have to accept the fact that she is no longer a mother and that Jacob is gone.

How do I convey this to her nicely? Should I write her a letter?

My boyfriend was married, and has a child with his ex. They both used to do drugs, but when they had the baby he stopped and got his act together. She didn’t, left him after the baby was about 4 months old. (so this was also only there 2 month of marriage they got married after they found out she was preggers). He basically hates her, and they never talk because she is still on heroin so she’s not allowed around her kid.

When we first met he showed me pictures in his wallet, some were of her preggers, and I didn’t mean to piss him off but I said she was pretty. Cause it was true she was really pretty, his daughter looks just like her. He got mad and took out every picture that had her in it and ripped it up (while we were at a restaurant) and threw it away, and told me thats how much he hated her that he didn’t want me to think about it.

I believe you have to really care about someone a lot to HATE them that much. If you only sorta like someone u don’t usually hate them..
Well twice now she’s poped into the picture while we were dating. The first time a mutual friend brought her into the picture, trying to help “clean her up” for her daughters sake. She would wait outside his work, basically forcing him to talk to her. Then this friend (not one anymore) would call me and tell me how much better she’s looking and that she still has feelings for him. So I started freaking out, worried that they might decide to give it another try. She’s beautiful and the mother of his child, and they were married. She couldn’t hack it though, and ran away and back to drugs.

Now my boyfriends aunt just died, and he gone (because they live 6 hours away). The problem is his dad (also a heroin addict) is dating his ex wifes mom, and his ex wife lives in his aunts house. So I know he’s going to have to see her again. The un logical part of me is so insecure that he’ll be so upset about his aunt that she’ll comfort him yaada yada you know where the stories going.
(active imagination I have). But the reality check part is telling me, he’s a good dad, and wouldn’t want anything to do with a girl whos not good for his daughter. He hasn’t gotten with her for almost 6 years why would he start now. Plus hes a good guy, he wouldn’t cheat in the first place.

So how do I get over this insecurity about nothing? I know its stupid, but I can’t seem to control my own thoughts

O.K. my sister has abandoned her family, including 3 kids, and only speaks to my dad because he gives her money. I am certain she is doing drugs. She is not a kid, 35, and used to be just fine; great mom, wife, sister, daughter. I just found out that she stole prescription medication, and money from my parents house. I’m looking for some website or group to show my dad that giving her money and bailing her out of her problems is not helping her, but actually hurting her in the long run. She needs help, but not the help my dad is giving her. Maybe I am wrong, but I truly believe handing money to someone on drugs for “groceries” or what not is not the best idea.

My wife picks the skin on her face all day long, some days she can have as many as 8 sore spots on her face (she covers them up with make-up). She says they are pimples, at first I thought she was right but after watching her for 3 yrs I know its not true. When I try to talk to her about it she says I should stop criticizing her and gets very defensive.
She also picks her forearms so much that she has actually developed a callus which looks like a corn and bleeds if she picks it too much. She treats all these “pimples” with acne creams every night, is it bad to put that on a wound and not a pimple. Trying to get her to stop is like trying to get a junkie off heroin. What should I do? Its getting so bad that I don’t like being in the same room with her. Its disgusting!
FYI…she’s not doing drugs, I just used that as an example. I’ve confronted her several times and she says accept me for who I am. She may be very lonely in the near future.

My wife picks the skin on her face all day long, some days she can have as many as 8 sore spots on her face (she covers them up with make-up). She says they are pimples, at first I thought she was right but after watching her for 3 yrs I know its not true. When I try to talk to her about it she says I should stop criticizing her and gets very defensive.
She also picks her forearms so much that she has actually developed a callus which looks like a corn and bleeds if she picks it too much. She treats all these “pimples” with acne creams every night, is it bad to put that on a wound and not a pimple. Trying to get her to stop is like trying to get a junkie off heroin. What should I do? Its getting so bad that I don’t like being in the same room with her. Its disgusting!

my wife left me because i had a drug problem that i needed help to overcome, i only asked her to love and support me the way i was always there for her. we have 6 kids and out of those 6 i know 1 isnt mine and i have doubts about another, but i never condemned her i stood by her through everything, all i needed was the same from her,but what she said and what she did were 2 different things,but i still love her ,during thanksgiving i visited her and my kids, and she told me how sorry she was, and that she loves me and that she wanted to work it out ,and we ended up in bed that night, well i had to come back 2 reno 2 wrap up loose ends, and after i gave up everything and was leaving, she called and said she changed her mind,and hasnt talked to me since what should i do?

I’ve have been having a bit of a problem with trying to stop shooting up Heroin. I hate the feeling and I’m afraid of getting caught by my family, wife and kids. I’m so not happy with myself and I wanted to try quiting 4 years ago but couldn’t stop. What can I do without going to a rehab place? I don’t want the attention from others and I hate feeling sneeky around my wife. It’s so hurtful. =[

I am a proud alcoholic and my wife accepts that. I am a good husband to her. I support her, I still screw her a lot and I buy her things. She always accepted that, but lately her friends have been telling her I should stop drinking and she is listening. I can’t forbid her from seeing them but it’s getting annoying. I am usually passed out by the time she gets home from work so we don’t fight about it. I still give it to her about 3 times a week so she isn’t showing anger but she has been hinting. How can I get her to stop listening. If it’s between her and drinking I’ll choose to keep drinking so I don’t want it to come to that.

OK in February i was intoxicated really bad, well i abused my wife really bad were she feared for her life really bad, the next day i woke up and was in a lot of pain and regret about all of it ,she went and filed a police report and no charges were filed, but she did get a restraining order against me . well it has been two months and we have seen each other a few times , spent weekends together and went walking , well all that was good, last week i found out the district attorney had picked up charges on me and filed them, so now not only do i not have i family but i have a a&b on file now also. well to say it all to my question, my wife now wants nothing to do with me at all and is saying we ever never going to get back together and she feels that way RIGHT NOW and do not worry about what the future could hold, but then again she says that we are never going to get back together ever, she can never trust me again, i have been doing all that i can under my own power to get her forgiveness from her and nothing helps i fail at it all. i do love my wife and i do understand at the moment i did all what i did , i was not showing love.
she has talked to me and she is very hurt, my wife seems to think that i have gone nuts these past two months, in a way i kinda am because one – who really knows what is in place for me and my wife but god, two – i miss my wife and i miss my kids dearly and now with what happened to me and me sitting here this past two months i have realized that my wife means everything to me and i did not love her unconditionally, BUT now that i know what i shall do for her,put my needs and wants aside , well its just really ruff for me because i do love her and i do want to spend the rest of my life with her showing my wife that i do love her and i want to show her for the rest of our lifes together she means the world to me, she wants me to stop trying and to forget about me and her as it never existed, but we both just cant do that, he both are 24 and have spent 7 years together and we also two boys under the age of six together. we have a great family together and to me as long as we have a relationship together for our boys, there can be room for forgiveness and room to grow with me and her. i miss her so much and i am sorry for what i did to my family , i dont know waht to do at all to even attempt to have them back
I am going to anger management and going to see a councilor on a weekly basis, i am not an alcoholic by no means what so ever. i am am taking credit for my actions that I have caused. BUT who are you to judge, mostly women, do you belive in christ the holy spirit, because there is not true judgment but my fathers.
I had made a mistake and majority of men my age in my feet, would have took off running scared years ago.

Just wondering how much people cared about theirs wives opinions

and I call 911.I am charged with assault on a female in my own home protecting my children on a school night.Then the deputies allow my drunk wife to drive her mother somewhere before bringing my wife back home.How can I be charged?Davidson county N.C.Shell is the name.

She is 46 years old.She has two arrests for DUI.The third one will be a felony and have jail time.She has a commercial drivers license she needs for her good city job.She will lose her job, her license,her house and her husband.Yet she just continues to party party party drive drunk when ever she feels like it.

I feel like I’m stuck in one of those bad lifetime network movies.

Hey , I’m not perfect, far from it but I never have had a DUI.My job does not require me to stay licensed.

We both have our own vehicles in our own names, so I can’t just take her car away from her.We make about the same amount of money so its not like I have any control.

I cant do a intervention, as there are not enough family and friends in state anymore.

What can I do? Can’t beat her with a stick.That rule of thumb is no good anymore.Should I leave?

How can I make it clear to her that this is unacceptable?I’m looking for people who have resolved this problem and/or legal advice.

Can I force her to get a Psych evaluation?

Sleepwalking in adults is a somewhat ‘different critter’ than sleepwalking in children.  The causes are generally different, and so are the behaviors.  Kids seldom exhibit dangerous behavior while sleep walking.  Adult sleepwalkers, on the other hand, are likely to perform very hazardous activities during their late night forays.  

It’s estimated that, as many as 30% of kids will experience at least one sleepwalking episode.  By the late teens, most of them will have stopped sleepwalking, although a small percentage of these children will continue sleepwalking as grown-ups.

Sleepwalking in adults can onset at any time, from the late teens, even up into the 70’s.  There are numerous possible causes for sleepwalking in adults…and once in awhile, adult sleepwalking can be diagnosed as idiopathic…NO!  That does not mean you’re an idiot, it’s a medical term meaning, “we were unable to determine the cause!” 
The #1 most common cause of sleepwalking in adults is stress or anxiety. Mental, emotional, even physical stress can trigger sleepwalking events.  I have suffered from occasional sleep walking episodes all my life.  A couple of my very most horrible,  dangerous, sleepwalk incidents occurred during one of the worst periods of stress in my life.  My boss (a doctor) had been arrested at the office in front of patients, thrown in jail, and we couldn’t get him out.  I was trying to be supportive of his wife and small children.  My job was going to be gone soon.  He left us with a horrible legal mess to untangle, while we had to deal with the FBI, CID of the Inspector General’s Office, and various other federal and state agencies.  An FBI agent following you around the office, while holding his hand on his gun…is more than a little scary! You get the picture…talk about being in the stress zone!  (And in case you wondered, no, I didn’t get in any trouble—he did what he did, four years prior, before I even worked for him!)

That whole ordeal dragged out for 3 or 4 months.  During that time frame, I had numerous sleepwalking episodes, some of them pretty serious.  One night, I placed a crossword puzzle book and pen in the microwave oven, and set it for 20+ minutes.  The metal point of the pen actually melted into the glass tray.  Another time, I burned myself with an overheated microwave heat pack.  On the funny side, there was the night I put several slices of bread in the bathroom sink, and filled it with water.

In addition to stress, many other things can lead to sleepwalking in adults.

Genetics are another common cause.  It is believed that individuals with close relatives who sleepwalk are about ten times more likely to sleepwalk than the general population.  

Hormonal Changes during adolescence, pregnancy, PMS, and menopause can be a trigger for sleepwalking.

Alcohol or Drug Use/Abuse often causes sleepwalking events, sometimes with strange or embarrassing behavior.

Sleep Deprivation is another common cause of sleepwalking in adults and children.

New Surroundings, such as visiting overnight with a friend or relative, staying at a hotel, or moving into a new home can cause a person to sleep walk.

Some medical conditions and medications are known to cause sleepwalking.  Quite often people who sleepwalk also suffer from other sleep disorders.

Sleepwalking in adults can be hazardous to your health, and life.  People have been seriously injured, even killed while sleepwalking.  In some extreme cases, sleepwalkers have committed serious crimes, even murder.

In many cases, it is possible to stop adult sleepwalking.  New treatments in recent years have helped many people who suffer from this disorder.

Stop smoking help centers, anti smoking pills, and other antidotes are all over the place today; and smokers wanting to quit the deadly habit are literally spoilt for choice. However, it has been seen that many smokers have not been able to stop smoking even after going through the entire range of products available. So what can you do with stop smoking help? For some new ideas and tips on stopping smoking that return you to the world of being healthy and on top of your game – read on.

Taking drugs is dangerous and is analagous with cigaratte smoking. If you want to quit the habit, you’re going to need more than just treatment. It needs immense will power to stop this habit, and if you don’t manage to put in all you have, it’s impossible to quit. Therefore, determination is the keyword if you want to quit smoking, because no matter how many treatments you try, it will get you nowhere without the determination to go the whole way to quit.

A treatment regime designed to help stop smoking will cover the medical aspects of your addiction. The emotional side of the treatment has to be handled by you. In the last point, it is important to have a determined approach towards the entire process of stopping smoking. You need to rationalize that the sooner you can stop smoking, the sooner you will get your life back on track.

The emotional treatment has various approaches. Like alcoholism, smoking is also termed a “family disease”, which means it affects not only you, but your entire family. The next time you want to smoke, think of your wife, your children, your parents or your girlfriend, who take in your smoke through passive smoking. Life will certainly change for the better if you can quit the habit forever, and you have to do it if you want to lead a better life, and care for your loved ones.

You can try one of the several remedies offered to quit smoking. Some of these are anti smoking gums, laser treatments, patch treatments or even shots. Of all these treatments, the shot is the most expensive, and also the most effective. A shot numbs the nicotine receptors in your brain, thereby preventing your brain from recognizing nicotine. As a result, your brain does not crave for cigarettes, for it ceases to know what it is.

Along with the medical treatments you receive, also try to think about what led you to develop the habit of smoking. Most people take to smoking in order to get away from stress. Maybe the stress wore off, but your habit stayed on. It’s important to contemplate on the initial reasons, because this will help you to stay away from any other addictions in the future, no matter how much stress you encounter. This introspection will increase your inner capacity to deal with stress, and not just succumb to smoking once again.

It’s important to stop smoking, especially when you yourself are the victim of this addiction. Before you begin treatment, do consult a professional doctor who will be able to guide you through the entire process.

Okay for a little more info….they have driven drunk with them in the car often. It scares my children endlessly, but they are afraid to say anything to them because when they are drunk they are belligerent. I have told my children to call me if they are afraid to get in the car with them or if they cannot get ahold of one of us, then to call 911. My ex is a detective and thinks he is above the law. I am definitely going to address the issue but do not want my kids to feel afraid the next time they go over there or get them in trouble for confiding in me. I just wish I could never let them over there again.

He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him out anymore which lasted for 1 week only and after that they keep calling him out.
I just dont understand why he has to go out and drink with his friends. I have tried to stop him by blackmailing him to choose which he wants.. his wife or alcohol.. but still after few days he is back to drinking.
Can someone tell me some trick that i can use on him.

My wife has a major cocaine problem what can I give her to get her off it to stop withdrwals she dosnt have in
She doesnt have insuranance; she is getting out of control i need help does any know of anything that will help her come off withdrawals; she looks like death; any help would be appreciated; thanks