How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Hello, I am a 27 year old man who is having major issues with binge eating. My weight fluxuates between 185 to 230 a couple times a year as the problems come and go. I’ve always been a heavy eater but never gained weight until college. A few years ago I dropped down to 185 and that is when the rollercoaster began. My wife, whom I met a little under 3 yrs ago is Bulimic. She has fought the disease for over 10 yrs and is only 24 yrs old. As of now we are binging multiple times per week and cannot seem to get control of it. I find myself spending upwards of $10 per day at the snack machine. We are consuming close to 10k cal each per day we binge. There is much more to this but not enough char. to type it all. She went a whole year when we found out she was pregnant but it recently started up again. Our son is 6 months old and this is hurting us both emotionally and financially. I’m worried about my son’s future. Drs. have not been able to help. Suggestions please. Thanks
There is much more to this situation. I suffer from social anxiety. I take cymbalta for it and when I miss a couple days the urge is uncontrollable. My mind WILL NOT focus unless I binge, this does not mean 3 Lean Cusines but for example chineese take out, two cokes, four pop tarts, and a piece of bday cake ~4″x10″. All gone in less than 10 minutes. My wife is a fitness instructor and their is constant conflict regarding food. This goes much deeper but not going into it. I also suffer from depression Want to stop bad but much easier said than done. When the urges come they take over, you lose control. Control that does not come back from counting to 10, or snacking on something healthy but an annoying hyper, itchy, can’t focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard you try feeling – until you eat until you cannot eat anymore. I have to satisfy feeling this at work to do my job (IT). Then I feel like I’ve taken a step back. Also self concious over weight. 6’1″ 230lbs.
My wife and I both hide this well. We are both very attractive people, her body looks great, mine is slightly overweight. We both always concerned about our looks. We’re both very nice to everyone we meet and very well liked but it feels like we are wearing a mask. People think we are these perfect people but we hide our secrets very well. I know this sounds like I’m tooting my own horn but I’m just repeating what we’ve heard from others. I’m reaching out here because I’ve exhausted all avenues and am very desperate. As my son gets older he will begin to pick up our behavior. I’m confident if we can begin to gain control over this we will be able to start improving our relationship, financial situation and other areas of our lives that continue to degrade.

My husband and I have a 8 month old daughter, I won’t let my husband or my daughter see his mother. I have a gut maternal feeling that tells me not to. Im not sure if he loves us the way he should, he’s more concerned iwth his family than he is with his wife and child. His mother has taken babies out of carseats, she fed my baby 16 oz of milk when she was a month old, which is way to much even though i asked her not to she won’t listne to me and he won’t either. He says if the baby cna’t see his mom he is going to leave. Should I let him leave?? I cannot go against my maternal instincts, or I know something trajic will happen and I will never fogive myself. There’s more thngs she’s done wrong, to much to explain. She took my child and went and got her husband some beer and drove around with him drinking, she said she was driving but I always see him driving. I know he was driving drunk with my child, I’ve caught her in too many lies to believe that. He always takes up for her

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this
> straight…..

> * If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents,
> you’re “exotic, different.”

*Growing up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American story.

*If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

> * Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

> * Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
>
> * Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating,
> you’re well grounded.

> * If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer,
> become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create
> a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend
> 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as
> a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people,
> become chairmanof the state Senate’s Health and Human Services
> committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of
> 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs,
> Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you
> don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the
> city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less
> than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only
> 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become the
> country’s second highest ranking executive.

> * If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years
> while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant
> churches, you’re not a real Christian.

> *If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left
> your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a
> Christian.

> * If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education,
> including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding
> the fiber of society.

> * If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence
> only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s
> school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re
> very responsible.

> * If your wife is a Harvard graduate laywer who gave up a
> position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her
> inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your
> family’s values don’t represent America’s.

> * If your husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one
> DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote
> until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the
> secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely
> admirable.

I don’t like either candidate so no whining about the bias in this question.

AJ, I have not seen this question asked on here, if it has, missed it, as for the question, look at the BIG BOLD letters at the top.
Prof. b, you are on the right track, but the last statement is true, knowing that how would you answer this question? Seems everyone else would like to take this question and turn it around on me, but no one has even come close to the essence of this question. Oh and R.M, I haven’t lived in Selma for 8 years. My trolling days are now far East of there.

Married for 10+ years. Spouse developed alcoholism, quit regular job, & for the last couple of years, spends most of his day either sleeping, or drinking at the computer in chat rooms (mostly with gay priests) & generally has been unsupportive of me (emotionally, financially, physically, sexually). I’ve asked in the past for him to seek help for his drinking, & told him of my needs/desires, & mostly he changes for a couple weeks, & then slides back after he feels the heat is off. I’m tired of this. He claims he loves me, but I think he loves having a wife paying 85% of the bills, keeping house, providing health insurance, etc. I told him 1 month ago that’s it, & he wants yet another chance, & for the month, he’s stopped drinking & picking up after himself. I told him I can’t say I love him anymore, & I don’t want a marriage of convenience. He wants to keep trying, but I feel I don’t want to try anymore – I’ve been jerked around enough. How many chances is “fair”?

Why is Marijuana illegal? There are so many other legal drugs that do a lot of worse things to your body. I was thinking about thins in my World Affairs class today. I personally do smoke cannabis and I’m not some idiot in all skills classes.

Let’s compare cannabis(slang for Marijuana) to any alcoholic beverage. Cannabis doesn’t give the user the “addictive” mind set that alcohol does. Cannabis doesn’t give you the mind set to go spend all your money of your money on it and lose your family and house. Look what alcohol does to most users. It takes control of them and turns them into monsters that beat their wives and family and tears them apart. Does cannabis do that? NO. I’m not trying to say that we should ban alcohol because prohibition didn’t work once and it won’t work again.

Look at Barack Obama. When he was a youngin he used to smoke cannabis everyday! He’s the god damned president now! So the argument that “it makes you dumb” is dumb itself. Cannabis smoke doesn’t give you cancer like cigarettes. I’m sure everyone knows who Bob Marley is and how he smoked cannabis about 5 times a day. If you don’t know how he died, he died of a tumor on his toe which he refused to get removed because of his religion. 8 months later the cancer spread to his stomach, lungs and heart. The weird thing is he lived with the cancer for 8 months with no treatment. His survival for that long has been linked to his constant use of the Hemp plant. If it can help cure or fight cancer ,why is it illegal?

The plant the bud grows on has been proven to remove 4x the amount of Carbon Dioxide from the air than every other plant, and since global warming is a big thing now, I think that could be a big help in fighting it(if it’s real).

Now I bring up the subject of drug dealers. In California alone an estimated 14 million USD is used for the purchasing of cannabis. Now think of how much money is used to purchase cannabis in the U.S alone. The problem is all that money is going straight into the drug dealers pockets. If cannabis was commercially sold in stores and taxed a lot of money would be going to the state which would put a lot more spending money on the table to help public schools struggling with budget cuts and what not. Not to mention less money would be going to criminals. The selling of cannabis would also start up a lot new companies and job creation to run the cannabis farms and such. In these times that would be a big help to all the unemployed people filing for welfare.

I am happy to hear other sides of the argument if you wish to post your opposing opinion.

i have a friend who’s husband drinks about 8-9 beers every evening after he comes home from work. Although it seems to have no effect on him, his tolerance is very high.

My ex-wife, who likes her wine, doesnt drink every night, but when she goes out, about once or twice a week, she ALWAYS gets drunk, sometimes to the point of throwing up.

Both alcoholic? Or one just a binge drinker?

Worried, cuz kids are half the time with her

I have a relative who is addicted to Oxycontin. He started taking it for a back injury and it developed in to abuse. He says that when he tries to quit he freaks (shaking, sweating, vomiting) and can’t function in any normal manner. He spent two oe three weeks at a well known clinic for detox, came home and started using again. He then spent another 4 days in a different detox situation. (I don’t know what happened there) Now he’s home and using again.
This isn’t the kind of man you expect to this. He’s got a beautiful home, three small girls and a wife. He’s just hooked on these pills and he’s destroying his life and family. As his relative I want very much to help him somehow. Can anyone offer advice? Inpatient treatment for a longer period of time is possible, but other than that? Anyone here ever recovered from this type of addiction? Please help if you can…
He HAS threatened suicide because he says he feels so bad when he’s NOT on the medication…His kids need him.

In 1989, Cindy McCain became addicted to Vicodin and Perocet after back surgery. To keep up with her daily need of 10 to 15 pills, she stole the drugs from the medical services charity that she began a year earlier. In 1993, the Drug Enforcement Agency uncovered her thefts after an audit of the charity for the drugs it used. To avoid prosecution, Cindy McCain agreed to a plea bargain with the Justice Depart in which she submitted to drug testing, paid a fine, joined Narcotics Anonymous, and perform community service in a soup kitchen. She was also ordered to close her medical charity.

Basically, I need help thinking of people who are dead and

1. cheated on wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend
2. Spends all time either commentating on sports, watching it, etc
3. Addicted to fashion/appearence
4. Addicted to drugs
5. Addicted to Smoking
also, someone with a huge ego