How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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The last couple years have been a mess for my marriage and my wife. We have been married 8 years and have a almost 6 year old. A few years ago my wife was in car accident and had some back problems. She took pain pills for a while then I thought she had stopped since no longer saw the bottle around. But she had become addict to pain pills and was still taking them but buying them illegally. Things seemed ok but about 6 months ago. I came home from work and she was not home. She disappeared for about 4 months tell I got a call one late night from police that she was in jail. Come to find out that was arrested for prostitution and they believed she was strung out on drugs as well. When she was released we spoke and I got her into a inpatient drug rehab which she should be out of in a couple more weeks. I have been so confused and thus not contacted her much at the center but understand she is doing very well.

I still love her and both daughter and I miss her very much. But do not know where to go from here. Am confused, angry, upset you name it my emotions run the gambit.

Registered Sex Offender I have read his case. He was charged with statutory rape when he would NOT give up his parental rights. The victim of the age of 15 was his legal wife with her mothers consent. My children are not his children their fathers don’t do anything for them. this man has served 8 years in prison and no one can give that back to him. When people hear that he has to register the first thought is he is a molester. They print the charge but not the report of how the case was built. My daughter father has drug and gun charges but after he serves his time no one else has to know. What about Killers that kill kids they do not have to register if they do their time. The Law is now getting to be so confusing.

I have been married for 20+ years. This is a wonderful woman that I took advantage of.For the last few years I have paid not alot of attention to my wife. I have never berated her, hit her,I do not drink or do drugs. I thought life was good until about three weeks ago. I was slammed in the face hard. She told me she had a boy friend and was in love with him.The only lucky thing is that I changed my ways about a week earlier before she told me. I have a hard time controling all these new found emotions. I keep pushing her away but it is very hard to control. I think she is going to move in with him. She may never move back either. She said she wants to see if she misses me. I need advice. I have always loved her with all my heart, but now I love her so much more! What do I do? Do I let her go and see if she comes back? Or do I break it off completely and sell everything that we have? Lost in california
There is allot more 2 this. My kids and their drug habits played a big roll also. My lack of attention to her was not done on purpose. It was a very slow in coming. I also tried to get things back in order from time to time but was not very successfull. I am trying everything in the book that is truthfull and honest. Today she said in a sad voice that she would be willing to come back and throw out the other guy. But then I asked her if that is what she wanted. She said she was not sure at this time. Right now she is so much up in the air over things. The good thing is that we never have had yelling anger at each other even now. We sit down allot and talk things out weather they are good or bad. Thanks for all the advice. I do take total responsabiltiy for all that has happened. I just hope it is not to late. I am giving her all the space I can give her.

My wife’s friend is 23 and is pregnant with her first baby.

Her father has been married 5 times, he has many DUIs due to his alcholism, has been in jail a lot and he is violent with women.

Her mother had boyfriends who beat her up, she was an alcoholic and drug user since her daughter was 1 and died of a herion overdose when her daughter was 20.

My wife’s friend has had many engagements with men she knew only weeks, and married a guy after 5 months of knowing him. They hate each other, she cheated on him after 6 months of marriage, and she asked for a divorce 3 months before she got pregnant on purpose. She parties all of the time and has had a drinking problem for the past 5 years.

My wife tries to help her friend, but her friend says she doesn’t have any problems and will be a good mom despite her plans to continue her lifestyle after the baby is born.

Do you think that she will be a good mom once the baby is born?

my son is addicted to heroin and a couple of weeks ago he got so desperate that he actually ordered some drugs over the internet. he sent someone he didn’t know from adam and who lives on the other side of the country $1500. needless to say, he never got the stuff in the mail. i found out about this because he went to my wife crying and said he got ripped off. i know my son needs help and ive been trying for years, but is there any legal action that can be taken? or because of its illegal nature, must this whole ordeal remain hush hush? im just wondering, but either way, he wont see a dime from me.

Does the person filing for an annulment have to be the one with the “unsound mind” or can one file after realizing that their newlywed husband or wife has an “unsound mind?”
Also, does “unsound” mean drunk or under drugs or does it mean psychologically challenged?
Would the court rule against a person if their spouse showed signs of insainity before the marriage?

My husband of over 20 years has been good and bad to me. He has taken care of me financially, other than micro-manage my money. He does really nice things for me, but is sarcastic to me in front of others. He can’t go 1 day without talking about me behind my back. I beg him to stop, but he can’t.

Since we first got married, he ran to his parents about any kind of fight we had. They lived next door to us, what a total nightmare. After 4 years of this we moved away, and things got better.

Fast-forward to 8 years of marriage. We move close to his mommy and daddy, but not next door or anything. Once again, any kind of disagreement and he tattle tale’s on me like a baby. They ofcourse pamper him. His dad passes away. Things arn’t as bad, but his mother thanks I’m the skum of the earth still.

1. I don’t drink or smoke.
2. I have never cheated on him.
3. I have devoted my life to my husband & son whom is 19 yrs. old
4. Our son is now addicted to drugs, and my hubby keeps bailing him out of trouble hiring lawyers which doesn’t solve anything.
5. Before our son’s addiction, when my son would hide and smoke a cigarette for ex., my husband would punish him by not speaking to him for weeks to months on end.
6. My husband went overseas. His father wrote every time I would go anywhere, how long I was gone, etc. He would talk horribly about me to my own son. My son just stopped visiting b/c it hurt him to bad. Then his dad would go through my trash and report to my husband if he found something that I had bought that for ex. was in a box. Like a blower for the driveway, electric screwdriver, etc.
7. We do not have any debt what so ever, have a large amount of equity in our custom-built home, own every vehicle in our yard. Obviously I’m not so terrible with our money.

My friend says I just need to pack my things and leave for a few days, or weeks.

I’m contacting a lawyer. I know he loves me, but he also takes everything out on me. I’m the only one he has. When he gets over his temper tantrums he tells me I’m a good wife & he just has problems.

Where does this hell stop?

so two years ago I married the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. We get married, I get pregnant and come to find out he wasn’t the person I thought I was marrying. He is an alcoholic and over the past two years of our marriage has had alot of issues, jail, lieing, stealing, you name it. but being the supportive wife I was I supported him. Last year in July he left me and our girls and left the state to his moms because being away from his drugs and alcohol was getting to hard so he left, went on one of his binges, became incarcerated and I moved on. Come November we started talking again and he promised he was done and wanted to make it work with me and the girls. So he moves back and of course I carried a grudge on my shoulders for he had done and it was hard, I still didn’t trust him when he came back but I tried. I found him a job, supported his recovery, and not to mention he didn’t have a license so I made sure he was where he needed to be 24/7 even if it meant dragging our kids out at 12 midnight. I did so much and come to find out since he’s been back he has been cheating on me with little teenage girls?? He’s 25…..so I kicked him out last weekend and already he is with his little girlfriend. he hasen’t called, nor checked up on his daughter. I call my father in law and he totally switched it around saying that if I would of just trusted him and gave him a clean start when he came back and forgot what happened in the past and don’t be down his throat so much he wouldn’t of left and now this is my bed to lay in. I am just hurt, for almost three years I have taken care of him, supported him and yeah it has been hard because of the emtional rollercoaster he put me through, but I feel so low. How can I get over this, he is scum and I know my life was going no where, but the fact he lied and just moved on with his new girlfriend and showed no remorce or emotion what so ever??? What can I do, and I have no way of contacting him, his dad said he dont want me knowing where he is at or to contact him anymore and i have filed for divorce, but how can I get over the emotional state and just move on and stop thinking about what he did and is doin??

For over half a decade this freak who used to be

married to my mother has stalked me indirectly

through other people by calling up every store near

where I live, leaving his number and telling them

to report on everything I do. He calls up the

landlord of my apartment and tells them I am a drug

addict (even though I don’t even know what drugs

look like much less use them aside from some pot I

smoked in college) so when I get back to my

apartment I find that all of my things have been

searched through and moved around. There are

hundreds of other things this man has done

including gain access to my bank accounts, had my

mail screened and read by the P.O., read my e-

mails, called up my isp to see what sites I search.

He’s even had (possibly paid) strangers come up to

me and try to have sex with me or sell me drugs.

Literally thousands of notices have been sent out

wherever I go and it is the most humiliating

process. I have zero expectations for any success

with a restraining order since the last time the

police got involved (5 years ago when I told this

freak I was leaving) they arrested ME because he

very cleverly placed HIS name on the title of my

car when I purchased it. MY lawyer was the best

friend of his wife and the “judge” was also their

friend so I was sentenced to “rehab” because they

found a legal prescription bottle for

antidepressants prescribed by my psychiatrist and

an empty pot pipe (I had smoked some pot because I

was depressed at the time). I don’t want to talk

about the place that I was sent to but they were

apparently directed to prevent me from leaving this

freak. I’ve basically tried anything you can

possibly think of to escape from this freak

including leaving the country (apparently passport

information can effortlessly be accessed using

social engineering). The entire police force of

mexico and every toll booth between cities was

given a flier with my information so that he could

find me. I tried several lawyers who told me that

they would help me get a restraining order only to

find that they stop responding to my emails after

they check on the information that I give them. The

social engineering tactics which I am aware of that

he has used include: I’m on drugs, I was on drugs,

I’m selling drugs, I’m a rapist, I am a child

molester, I’m an alcoholic(I don’t even drink

alcohol), I am a psychiatric patient who is very

dangerous etc…
So here are my questions:
1. If I try to file a restraining order myself

would it cover this sort of behavior?
2. Since everyone with any real power in this world

hands over my information to him, is it likely that

this could even be enforced considering filing the

order would give the courts my location who may

just hand it over to him to continue doing this?
3. Would this prevent the DMV, state department,

banks, and pretty much everyone on the planet from

reporting on my activities or harassing me?
4. Even if a judge grants it, how would would a

piece of paper stop this considering he could

continue doing it and just say he wasn’t? He tells

everyone he calls to pretend like he hasn’t called

and isn’t responsible for their behavior. (That’s

probably the most unbearable part of the harassment

is all the lying). Even the police force has joined

in on the harassment. Until I gave up on getting a

cellphone he had the police at the local station

give him direct access to my location 24 hours a

day using my number which he used to call up every

person I interacted with to ask what I was doing

and everything I said to them.
5. What is the possible motivation for this? Has

anyone ever heard of someone doing this before? If

it’s sexual he knows I’m not gay and he’s 30 years

my senior. If he wants to be my friend, he already

knows I hate him. If it’s parental why does he not

do this with his biological son or any of his

current step daughters? If he actually believes any

of the things he’s saying why does he not have

police try to prove any of it so I can serve

multiple life sentences in a prison (where I might

actually have some form of existence which would

allow me to escape from this).
I’ve gone through hundreds of motels, dozens of apartments, several states(by a factor of 3000 miles in difference) and three countries. Nothing seems to work when you can use mass communication to send out fliers, faxes, and phone calls to likely destinations. Even if I just live in my car I only have enough money to survive for about three more years, after which I will have to get a job which will reported to the irs along with my social security number. ANY Solutions are welcome because my plan is to jump off a bridge in three years.
I’m 27 and he’s no longer married to my mother. He has remarried and for some reason has a sick obsession with me. My only goal is to get the creepy harassment to stop. I tried three more lawyers yesterday and none responded.
Also, he’s tried to get me to do that (go to some form of counseling with him) several times. Let me make it very clear, I’m not gay, he’s not related to me or in any way connected to my relatives (my father and he have never spoken), and I have absolutely no clue what purpose that would serve. He’s just some weird older man who was married to my mother 7 years ago.
I’m not letting anyone get anything from me without my consent. When I found out that he got a copy of my photograph I considered hooking up caller id to one of the store phones near where I live and paying him a little visit. As it is, I don’t even know where he lives.

’14 months ago my spouse asked for a divorce, and I told her that it was the first time since in a long time where we agreed on something. So I spent the better part of 3 months preparing to leave and I was ready. I sell a product with residual commissions and made enough money in those 3 months to keep the income coming to her the same as when I lived there. So I was waiting until late January 09 to leave, and was waiting to tell the kids about the divorce until it was certain. Then my wife tells me she is 3 months pregnant. Then economy got really bad, and my boss made some decisions that cut my income to where I spent all year trying to prevent bankruptcy. The baby was born, but had some medical problems, and had to be sent to a separate hospital for a month. I did not leave the the baby’s side. She is very happy and very healthy today.

She also hid gasoline in our bedroom and got this weird habit of lighting matches all of the time. Then she had to be hospitalized for alcohol withdrawl. I found out she was binge drinking at night after we were all asleep. Then she was caught trying to take my kids for a planned trip in the car right after getting drunk.

So I forced an intervention, pushed her to treatment and have told her I will call the police the next time she does anything. She has been in control for the last 3 weeks, and she has been so manipulative over the years, I question if this is just some huge manipulation…. I have to stay here for my kids saftey, I am just scrimping by financially, and I need to work, so I can not take the kids most of the time. But, I am going insane living with this woman.,, Any suggestions? This is frigging killing me…..

Edgar Allan Poe’s short story “The Black Cat,” is presented as a first-person narrative using an unreliable narrator. The darker side of human nature is clearly involved in “The Black Cat” as it involves sadistic actions and even murder. The narrator writes that he has been fond of animals, but yet later on he hurts his cat Pluto. Poe’s gothic tale The Black Cat was written trying to achieve an effect of shocking insanity. In this first person narrative the narrator tells of his decline from sanity to madness, all because of an obsession with two (or possibly one) black cats. These ebony creatures finally drive him to take the life his wife, whose death he unsuccessfully tries to conceal. This short story easily achieved the effect that Poe was looking for through the use of description of setting, symbolism, plot development, diverse word choice, and detailed character development.

The narrator tells us that from an early age he has loved animals. He and his wife have many pets, including a large black cat named Pluto. This cat is especially fond of the narrator and vice versa. Their mutual friendship lasts for several years, until the narrator becomes an alcoholic. A decent, animal-loving man takes to drink and suffers a change for the worse. One night, after coming home intoxicated, he believes the cat is avoiding him. When he tries to seize it, the panicked cat bites the narrator, and in a fit of rage, he seizes the animal, pulls a pen-knife from his pocket, and deliberately gouges out the cat’s eye. From that moment onward, the cat flees in terror at his master’s approach. At first, the narrator is remorseful and regrets his cruelty. “But this feeling soon gave place to irritation. And then came, as if to my final overthrow, the spirit of PERVERSENESS.” He takes the cat out in the garden one morning and hangs it from a tree, where it dies. That very night, his house mysteriously catches fire, forcing the narrator, his wife and their servant to flee.

The next day, the narrator returns to the ruins of his home to find, imprinted on the single wall that survived the fire, the figure of a gigantic cat, hanging by its neck from a rope. At first, this image terrifies the narrator, but gradually he determines a logical explanation for it, that someone outside had thrown the dead cat into the bedroom to wake him up during the fire, and begins to miss Pluto. Some time later, he finds a similar cat in a tavern. It is the same size and color as the original and is even missing an eye. The only difference is a large white patch on the animal’s chest. The narrator takes it home, but soon begins to loathe, even fear the creature. After a time, the white patch of fur begins to take shape and, to the narrator, forms the shape of the gallows.

Then, one day when the narrator and his wife are visiting the cellar in their new home, the cat gets under its master’s feet and nearly trips him down the stairs. In a fury, the man grabs an axe and tries to kill the cat but is stopped by his wife. Enraged, he kills her with the axe instead. To conceal her body he removes bricks from a protrusion in the wall, places her body there, and repairs the hole. When the police came to investigate, they find nothing and the narrator goes free. The cat, which he intended to kill as well, has gone missing. On the last day of the investigation, the narrator accompanies the police into the cellar. There, completely confident in his own safety, the narrator comments on the sturdiness of the building and raps upon the wall he had built around his wife’s body. A wailing sound fills the room. The alarmed police tear down the wall and find the wife’s corpse, and on her head, to the horror of the narrator, is the screeching black cat. As the narrator words it: “I had walled the monster up within the tomb!”

‘The Black Cat’ is a tale that leaves the reader somewhat perplexed. Edgar Allan Poe wrote that the single effect was the most important aspect of a short story, which everything must contribute to this effect. In most cases, the setting is usually irrelevant to a story, but The Black Cat relies on this element. This tale could have occurred anywhere and can be placed in any era. This makes the setting the weakest element of The Black Cat. Next, symbolism is always an integral part of any Poe story. The most obvious of symbolic references in this story is the cat’s name, Pluto. This is the Roman god of the underworld. Pluto contributes to a strong sense of hell and may even symbolize the devil himself. Another immensely symbolic part of The Black Cat is the title itself, since black cats have bad luck and misfortune. The most amazing thing about the symbolism in this story or in any other of Poe’s is that there are probably many symbols that only Poe himself ever knew were in his writings.

OKAY I GOT A 60 ON THIS AND NEXT TO PARAGRAPH 2 , 3 AND 4 THE TEACHER WROTE WHAT ELEMENT IS THIS CALLED SO CAN SOMEONE FIX IT PLE
im enrolled in ashworth high school college prep, and i need help i need to pass so can someone tell me what elements are those…? please 10 points

Can someone please make this video for NORML I think it would be pretty persuasive.

Starts off with title saying Weed VS Alcohol

A – It shows a husband coming home drunk and beating the wife for not having food ready and the kids looking on in horror.
W – It shows a husband coming home high with a bag of take-out food for the whole family and the children hug the dad for bringing home food.

A- It shows a drunk man being insulted and beating the shit out of the offender
W- It shows a stoner man being insulted and the stoner responding by saying “chill out dude”

A- It shows a man binge drinking and the friends having to take him to the ER for over doing it
W- It show a man taking a monster rip and showing the men just chilling watching TV afterwards.

A- It shows a alcoholic being told by the doctor he needs a new liver
W- It shows a man being prescribed medical marijuana by his doctor.

Please add to the idea or recommend changes. I think it would be persuasive if this was made into a commercial.

My marriage began to fall apart about 1 1/2 years ago. The main reason and still to this day I cannot even finish a sentace without being cussed at, snapped at, or him coming to an early conclusion of what I was about to say. There was no emotional support and I was not treated the way a woman wants to be treated. I ended up taking the kids and leaving in dec 2005. Recently, I found out he has been selling/doing drugs. Now, I am kind of furious because I believe this was the cause. Can someone please tell me other things that drug users/dealers may do behind thier wives backs. I am really upset about this and he will not listen to me about anything I have to say. It always seems to be my fault, or all I am doing is thinking about me so he says. Please help.
I assume he is also selling because he seems to get alot of private calls from people to get drugs for them too.

I’m a recovering alcoholic who has been going out with a guy for 2 and a half years. I’ve been in the program seriously for 1 and a half years. We are very much in love, and he doesn’t drink around me, but when he is not with me he will drink, and once in a great while smoke pot. We are not kids, I am 53 and he is 43. He also has been in an abusive (wife abused him)relationship for 22 years, and never has gotten help for the affects its had on him. What should I do? I really want our relationship to work, but he has had anger issues in the past with me, says he is willing to get help, but we can’t go any farther in our relationship until he gets help, or somehow quits smoking pot and drinking. What can I do? Please help me

Here is the issue. My soon to be ex husband lives a 1000 miles away and communicates with the kids though phone and skype (webcam). Lately he has not been setting up times to do this on the scheduled days. Then he text me saying Him and I need to work on our communication for the sake of the kids. ( seriously how do I need to help him, I use to text him to set up times but my counselor told me I need to stop doing that and that he needs to take the responsibility) He says a lot of things that do not make any since and is just all over the board. One week things will be fine for contact with the kids then the next week it is not. His behavior just really weird. I asked my counselor if he is just stupid or if he is crazy.
side notes
-his dad became an alcoholic after he left his wife
-he has totally screwed up his life by everything he has done in the last 7months
So, my question is how can I tell if I never see him or I am never around him. Obviously the only reason I care is because of our kids one is 3yrs and other is 6months. They have no way of telling me something is wrong with daddy.
it is in the court order that he skype and or talk to them twice a week. My parents keep telling me I need to cut him off and tell him no. Oh, and he did not move away he is in the military and we lived there and he told me to move out and go live with my parents. (man what an ass, looks horrible when I type it!)
I do not want my kids to hate me because I cut their father out but it seems like he is causing more harm then good.

my grandma gave my uncle her house and he got hooked on drugs and lost his job and the house….he can keep a job and he ows people money…..both is parents passed away last may…..and he lives on a lake that just flooded and he lost almost all his stuff……his daughters mom wont let him see her and he is really depressed….he told his wife that he was going to kill himself when he got to work and she found a big knife under the floor mat of the car….he got drunk and was poppin pills the other night and he went to the bar looking 4 a fight……..he got sent to madison to one of then detox places and he is back home….i want to talk to his to let him know that he isnt a screw up he just has to get his life back on track and that we still live him and that nothin is his fault……wat should i say?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months. He is 36 and I am 21. His “best friend” is someone he dated 3 years ago for about 2 months, they met in AA. He broke up with her because she relapsed, and he couldn’t be around her. They stopped talking for a little while and now they’re “just” really good friends.

She lives 2 hrs away and the last time he’s seen her was when he took her as his date to his cousin’s wedding, this was when we first started dating. I just found the pictures from the wedding and they look a little bit “over-friendly” if you get what I’m saying.
About a month ago he told me he was going up to see her and take her out to lunch, but I didn’t feel comfortable with it, especially never having met her. I asked if he would take me with him to meet her. He got SUPER deffensive and told me he didn’t want me to go and I’m “not invited”. He ended up not going.

He is CONSTANTLY texting her right in front of me, for long periods of time, every single day.. and won’t tell me what about! If I ask he says “you’re not my mother, and you’re not my wife, so it’s none of your business.” And then he deletes the texts just in case I decide to go through his phone!! WTF. And there’s several pictures of them together on his phone! Not to mention when he took me to meet his family his 13 year old nephew came up to me and said “you must be Justine!” (that’s her name). Are you kidding me????
And he goes up north (near where she lives) almost every weekend yet claims he’s not seeing her. Not like he’d tell me if he were… because he knows Id freak out.

Even though I honestly don’t think he’s sleeping with her, I just feel like there’s this closeness between them, maybe “unfinished business” from 3 years ago.. and it is definitely more than a friendship.

Opinions, please??!!

In my book, there is a young girl, about 11 years old that gets abused by her dad. She us getting abused because her dad gets stressed out and becomes an alcoholic after his wife’s death. So he takes it out on his daughter. I need the abuse in her older brothers point of view if that’s possible. And I would like it to be in detail because that would grab the readers attention.
Thank you so much for the help:)

My husband is currently in a ugly custody battle, last week his ex wife was arrested in a town near by with a passenger holding 2 grams of heroin in the car. Her two kids were in the car with her as well. Everyone was taken in to the station. What kind of charges could she face, besides the obvious Child Protcetive Services investigation?

I think my wife has an addiction to Prescription pain drug. I found a pill bottle and five minutes later it was gone and she acted like it wasn’t even there, and has has once in the pass done this to me, we have talked about this but i was ok. see today when i found those pill i didn’t think anything about them at all, i just thought she loss them and i put them back in the pill draw and it was ok but five minute later they were gone and she acted like she didn’t know what i was talking about. i wasn’t mad if she would of told me that they were their because her dad or maybe she loss them it would of been cool, see my wife has bad back problems and headaches and other issue and i love her to death but it scares me bec she didn’t need to hide those pills bec i know she had them but it she did. please give me some advice. could she just be scare that she would think i think she could be addicted or scared of what i would think? bec if she is totally open with me on her medical needs i am good and i will do what i can.