How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I’ve been married for 2.5 years and we have a 2 year old, last may ’09 my wife had a flare up with her colon (she has ulcerative colitis) I knew she had the disease when we married but never experienced the flare up. She was is tons of pain and I have to work mon-fri, so she moved home with her mother who lives a few blocks away. She was put on steroids and other drugs and we began fighting mostly due to the fact I felt she should be home with me. I mean we married through sickness and health right? But her condition has fluctuated greatly in the past 9 months, we speak everyday 3-4x, but she says that she has no interest in moving home until she is feeling 100% better. I feel I have been very patient throughout and have not always acted the right way or said the right things but I have been here for her. Her 2 sisters live with her mother also and help with the baby because she doesn’t feel good, and I feel I can’t compete with this, I mean there are 3 extra sets of hands over there and I am only one man. Additionally her father passed the year before our wedding and I feel she likes being over there to make sure they aren’t alone (she’s the oldest) and bring joy to their lives (our son). The doctor said she is on the verge of getting better, but I have been hearing this for a year. So basically I am tired and wore down, we did go to a marriage retreat in October which has improved our relationship, but she still wont move home……should I give her an ultimatum? Move home or lets move on? Oh and also she won’t let me come and pick up my son and hang with him alone, she thinks I won’t watch him close enough, but I do see them both 5-6x a week.
i did ask the question twice to simply obtain more answers, i have never asked a question before and it appears people only answer in the first 10-15 minutes, thanks again

(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

The house was once used as a meth house and when it went up for auction I purchased it. Now my son and his wife have lived in it for 3 or 4 years now, but keep feeling run down, and sick. Could it be the meth is causing the problem, if so can we fix the problem?