How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have two boys we both have drug problems i left her last year to quit i went back in hopes she would to but she hasnt since then we have had a terriable time seems we fight about every thing and i always have to be the one to swollow my pride and just make changes to make her happy and she does very little and expects me to be excited over it she said she is affraid to let me in her heart again because i left is she just trying to control the situation or what she is still using and said i am tryin to control her by manting her to stop
I am clean and sober and keep my kids away from her drug use the best I can she said she wants to work it out but wont quit only reason i stay is for my boys

Ok a few days ago I posted a question about getting temporary custody of my step-children. I’ll sum it up real quick. My husband still has 30 days in jail due to getting overly stressed about ex wife doing drugs and not being able to prove it to DCBS, police or the judge. He got drunk and pushed me around. At the time I didn’t know that it was his stress taking over ( the doctors told me a week later that they think he was “sleepwalking”) I told him I wasn’t going to take that and turned him in. I told him that he needed to suffer his consequences and work on other ways to handle his stress about her and not get drunk and hurt me, then we could work on his marriage. I immediatly tried to fight for his 2 children because I know their mother is unfit and I have been the only mom figure that they have had, I wanted to take care of them until he worked through his issues and got out of jail. I lost due to the fact that I am the step-mom. The mother won temporary custody and we finally got the judge to agree to random drug screens after 3 years of fighting. Well, last week she showed up positive for cocaine. Giving DCBS the right to charge her with 2 counts of neglect. Her parents can’t get custody of them because she lives in their house and they have been covering this up and letting her do it. My husbands parents can’t get custody of them due to some serious medical issues. My husband can’t get custody for another 30 days. They are not charging him with anything due to the fact that the children did not see this and don’t even know that it happened. I talked with my lawyer today and he said that since I am the only person left that has a very close relationship to the children then I should get temporary custody until my husband gets out of jail. Here’s the problem he wants me to try to find as much info and past cases were a step parent gained custody or something that I can bring to the judge to show that I have the right since I am not a blood relative. He charges me alot less than normal because I always due most of the research myself, but I have been on the internet all day and can’t figure out where to start. So I was hoping that someone here could help get me started. Here’s the info. We live in Kentucky. I have my own house that social services has already been in and approved. I have a full time job where I get all my hours done over the weekend and I am here with the children all week. We had the children every other week before she got temporary custody a month ago, therefore I have a very close relationship with the boys. I also have parent teacher conference notes with my name on them because she wouldn’t show up. I will do every thing in my power to get these boys, but DCBS makes it sound like they just need to go into state custody for 30 days. I don’t want this to happen. Could someone help me find some info that I can use to make sure the boys come home and not to a foster home. They don’t need that, they have already been through so much.
I have 1 week to get as much info as I can.

I got divorced about 10 years ago, at the time my daughter was 12. I had a very good marriage until my ex starting making bad friends and doing drugs. She started sleeping around and we obviously got divorced, she had no interest in working out the marriage, getting clean or her kids.

Since then she has gotten better and then fallen on bad habits, been married and divorced twice (mostly because she sleeps around), is sleeping with a new guy every week and everytime my daughter gets her hopes up that her mom will be okay she throws it all away on her ex that she still sleeps with or falls back onto drugs.

Not to mention that my ex’s second husband used to beat my daughter and the ex did nothing about it. My daughter gives her mother money, tries to buy stuff for her 3 little brothers (from the ex’s second marriage), tries to be there for her but it is tearing her up and I hate to see it.

My sons have long given up but my daughter just keeps trying and getting hurt. More..
She scams my daughter out of money, puts guilt trips on her if she doesn’t do everything for her, calls her at 3am 2 or 3 times a week to say she is too drunk to drive home and needs my daughter to come get her, is verbally abusive telling her that she is fat (my daughter is 105 pounds and has gone through an eating disorder because of the ex’s abuse) and tells her she is a bad daughter even though she spends half her time and money trying to help her.

I just don’t know what to do anymore and I’m at my wit’s end. My daughter just recently got an apartment and doesn’t have the money to pay all her mom’s bills and from what I hear the ex has been non stop calling her and telling her that she is a bad daughter and that her little brothers are going to starve because she won’t give her money.

My daughter is smart, successful and a sweetheart. She took care of her mother since she was 12 and worked hard all her life. Her mom is tearing her down, how can I help her?
I did get custody of my daughter, but she would go to the ex’s on weekends. I didn’t know she was being beat until several years later when she was older and told me.

I didn’t want to keep the kids away from their mother, I had loved her and I knew at some point in her life she had been a good person and I hoped for her sake and my kids that should would get better but she never did.

I wasn’t going to tell my kids they couldn’t have contact with their mother, the boys eventually gave up on her but my daughter won’t. She is a good person and the ex takes advantage of that. Just going to the ex and telling her not to call won’t work, because my daughter still thinks that she can help her.

In Oct of 2005 she had my son and our marriage councilor diagnosed post partum depression. When my son was 3 months old she began partying like when she was single. This includes going out two to four times a week until 7 to 8 in the morning. In the Fall of 2006 her mother and drug addicted father moved in with us, into a 2 bedroom house, with my wife, myself, my son and step daughter. This was supposed to be temporary. Three months later the father had left the mother. Both mother and daughter were getting drunk at least weekly. They decided to take my wife and mine tax return of $4,000 and go to California for a vacation instead of paying off some judgments that my wife and I agree to pay with the money. Two weeks after they got back I left. In the following month she said she would change and things would be better. I came back. A month later I had to force the mother in law out of the house. My wife continued drinking eventually she got a DUI.
I went away on business and she wouldn’t even skip a drinking session to pick me up from airport when I got back. If see doesn’t have money to go out and drink she will borrow it from her mother. We spent 6 weeks going to a marriage councilor, but ignored the councilor’s recommendation in regard to the post partum depression. To top it off the councilor said she didn’t think my wife had a problem with alcohol.At times she displays remarkable paranoia. She has even gone so far as to try to use the kids to spy on my conversations between my parents and me. (She bribes them and will even use her step daughter to interrogate my son from a previous marriage.) Now she says she is pregnant, but she went out with her friends again last night (says she didn’t drink but came home at 1 am and immediately showered). The time frame for conception is “wrong” too; it was during a time when I was away for work.
PS. She offered to got to church counciling to “straighten me out”, but when I took her up on it she dropped it like a hot potato. She argues that I don’t help enough with the kids and house work. I work 10 hours a day, am pursueing an MBA, and come home to watch kids, do the dishes, maybe a load of laundry, and cook dinner. She works maybe 30 hrs a week, wakes up after 9 am or 10 am, and stays up till midnight even if she isn’t getting drunk at the bar. Before I met her I had a house 3 vehicles and good credit. Now we rent own 1 running car and have been through bankruptcy and our credit is still bad.
What is your impression of the situation?
What would you do?
She has also put on about 50lbs from when I met her. Do you think she would be able to cheat on me?

We’ve both been divorced,been married 2 years,hubby former meth addict,wife slighty overweight,hubby angry,overprotective and EXTRMELY distrustful and accusing.Wife is faithful and genuinely in love.Hubby has been with mostly thin and attractive women.His sexual desire is nearly nonexistant.Could this honestly be due to his emotional and probable physical problems due to the drug use or is he not attracted to his wife?Sexual problems started around the same time as he stopped using.Was he only attracted because of the drug and now that its gone,he realized he doesn’t want her?Or is it something he can’t help.He swears he’s in love and only wants her.
Please help. This situation is ruining their marriage and she has tried everything.

me and my wife been together for about 5 years and we have a one year old son well we haven’t really gotten along well for a long time ..we have our moments like usual but my wife has lied to me about doing drugs in the past,lying about guy friends on the phone,she hits me and not affectionate,lazy, i have to work all the time bc she cant work full time shes to lazy to find a real job..I really want to get out of this relationship bc I want to finish school and find someone better well couple days ago this girl emailed me on face book we have been talk in and text in and i told her that i was single and had a baby and tryin to go through a divorce but I dont know what I should do is like i need a fresh start but then again what about my son i dont want another guy rasing him or something..
but my question is should i tell this new girl that wants to hang out and see if we click to date tell her that I am married and i am goin through a divorce or what should I do please help ?

I need prayers. My son (who has assaulted me in the past) left my home last Friday and then, came home Sunday. After admitting many multiple drug uses and dealing, I told him he could no longer stay here. I was firm, but not yelling. In a nutshell, police came, family services came and called this week and now, I may be charged with child neglect. He is 17.5 years old. I have been dealing with bad things with him for 9 months, mostly with me allowing it. Therefore, indirectly it is my fault becasue I allowed it. But now, he hates me and blames me for whatever, I don’t know. We counsel with our Pastor and he told me to hang strong. Let God tell you what to do. So, I am. Very tough love. I love my son and want him home so I can help him, but he says he does not need help. He’s been on acid, pot, heroin and who knows what. I told the cops and family service he needs to change himself, I can not do that for him. They keep saying I have to take him and I say no. I am a recovering addict of 17 years (recovered before he was born) and I have told him this. I love him very much and want him home. This is killing my wife but our church is behind us. What do you think?

Does the person filing for an annulment have to be the one with the “unsound mind” or can one file after realizing that their newlywed husband or wife has an “unsound mind?”
Also, does “unsound” mean drunk or under drugs or does it mean psychologically challenged?
Would the court rule against a person if their spouse showed signs of insainity before the marriage?

Hi, I’m trying to remember the name and author of a book I read as a teenager.
It was set in London and the country and was about a 17 year old girl who is a brilliant artist and is living with her brother, a policeman, and his wife, Mary. She meets the lead singer in a famous band, Dev (Devlin), who has moved in next door. He’s fascinated by her but things go awry. She goes off to art college but realises she’s pregnant. She’s talked into marrying Dev and has the baby but feels stifled and runs away to paint in a dodgy bedsit. They eventually get back together and then there’s a sequel – can’t remember that one either!
Other characters I remember are:
Janey, a singer who leaves pop to train as a classical opera singer.
Jaybird, who dies of something – car crash, heroin?

Ring any bells? Thanks!
Brilliant. Thanks Gormenghast. Liz Berry is the author which helped me track down the books I was thinking of – Easy Connections and Easy Freedom. I’ll check out the Janey books as well though.
Thanks

My fiancé and I are saving up money to hire an attorney to attempt to gain full custody of his 8 year old son from a previous marriage. I love my fiancé and his son, we also have a baby on the way in August and I know the best situation for his son would be to live with us. His ex wife screwed up his credit and somehow got full custody of their son while he was away in the coast guard. They were supposed to get joint custody and he signed some papers before he left, but somehow she got full custody and now he only gets his son every other weekend.

His ex wife is a stripper now, parties a lot, does drugs and is very selfish. She has no interest in spending time with her son or teaching him anything and has even hit him in the past, but wants custody because of the child support she gets (which I’m sure is not spent on her son because we have to buy him everything and spend what little precious time we have with him helping him in school because he’s falling behind, instead of getting to spend quality time doing fun things with him.) Their son doesn’t even live with the ex wife; he lives with her sister and mother. She refuses to stay in contact with my fiancé, we never know where she is and she even tried to move to another state a while back without telling anyone.

I want to know what I need to be doing now in order to have a solid case against his ex and prove she’s an unfit mother when we take her to court. I recently found out that she has not even been claiming the child support she’s been receiving for like 6 months in order to continue to get welfare benefits. His son needs to finish his childhood years in a healthy environment with loving parents and I’m worried that we might not win the case because I know his ex will fight it just because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself and is a child. Her sister, which is taking care of their son now, is a good person and doesn’t even like her sister so I think she might testify for us in court and I think she’d agree that it would be best for the son to be living with us. We haven’t talked to her about this yet because I don’t want it to get back to the ex wife what we’re planning until we can actually afford to make it happen.

I have been married for 6 months now and now I feel like I didn’t know anything about my husband…. Ok so before I say anything I know that I am far from perfect and I’m not trying to put all my blame on my husband…

With that being said I will tell you alittle bit about our lives. Well my husband and I have been fighting a lot lately and there seem to be 3 big reasons that start the argueing. a lot of the fighting happens when we either get his daughter from a previous marriage. He doesn’t discipline her and when she cries she gets what ever she wants. And he feels like that is ok. When he ask for advice I give it to him but he gets mad and thinks that I am just being mean. I told him that he has to be consistant or it will not work. I underdstand he doesn’t want to hear her cry but she uses her cries instead of words to get whatever it is that she wants. She is very smart and knows what she wants and how to get it. I have started to keep distance when she is here at the house because of our fighting, I don’t feel right for her to see us always fighting, but he brings her where ever I am and starts yelling at me telling me I am a bad step mother and what not.

Secondly there are some of his friends. Let me start off by saying my husband got a possesion of marijuana charge last dec and has been sober since. I am very proud of him. But he has friends still that do it and he gets mad when I choose not to be around that. I don’t do drugs and really don’t want them around me. I am a recovering alcoholic and being around curtain people that also enjoy drinking daily or several times a week just doesn’t sound like a place I need to be. And when ever he gets around his friends they always ask us to drink, go out drinking or him and his friends talk about getting high. I know he doesn’t do drugs or want to but still to be around that. He has a daughter to think of for christ sakes.

And third, his brother that he just met about 3 months ago. He’s a nice guy and everything but he worries me when he is around chris. He lies to his wife about poping pills when his older brother was down from dallas. And chris sees this as ok. Should I worry? Since my hubby met him whenever we are around him I think he feels like he has to impress him and changes completely towards me. He becomes hurtful and feels like he does it to prove that he is man and I am woman kind of thing….

Ok so I forgot to metion everytime anything goes wrong he calls his mother. And she yells at me at times and always gets in the middle of everything.

Oh and when ever we are having problems he thinks that it is ok to invite people over. Or even just having family time.
Its to the point that I cry at least once a day or feel like I am not important to this world.

I need only serious answers please..

does the music you listen to dictate your actions/behavior?

I live in NH and the big thing here is the Mt.Vernon attack (look it up,,,sick),, some kids went to a random house ,, broke in,, used a machette and hacked up the 2 people they found,, the mom was murdered and the daughter was maimed by self proclaimed “juggalos” for the sake of “see’n how it felt”,<-their words not mine..
but instead of the focus be’n on the crime its on the kids choice of music,, the dumb “rules” they have and so on,,,
i remember Slayer, Judas Priest, Ozzy, getn sued for kids killing themselves but why put yourself into a group now known and hated for this crap??musicallyy i think icp blows,, but do i think icp is responsible?? F no,, no more than Ozzy or Slayer made sum kid put a gun in their mouth,
i listen to thrash and deathmetal mostly and i dont go around killing people,, worshiping satan or anything like that,, all it does to me is mess up my hair !,,
so for me no,, music does NOT dictate my actions,, but for some its leaned on as a legitimate scapegoat for the parents or guilty party,

Cyclone Temple said it best in the song Why…

“so dont blame sum heavymetal record to cover your own neglect”

listening to Queen does not make my wife gay,,
listening to Obituary does not make me burn churches down,,
listening to Ozzy does not make me want to bite heads off of small flying animals,,

makes no sense to me,,

i guta go now,,, my wife wants to listen to Alice in Chains and Nirvana and i have no idea where im guna get the needles and heroin from,,

so two years ago I married the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. We get married, I get pregnant and come to find out he wasn’t the person I thought I was marrying. He is an alcoholic and over the past two years of our marriage has had alot of issues, jail, lieing, stealing, you name it. but being the supportive wife I was I supported him. Last year in July he left me and our girls and left the state to his moms because being away from his drugs and alcohol was getting to hard so he left, went on one of his binges, became incarcerated and I moved on. Come November we started talking again and he promised he was done and wanted to make it work with me and the girls. So he moves back and of course I carried a grudge on my shoulders for he had done and it was hard, I still didn’t trust him when he came back but I tried. I found him a job, supported his recovery, and not to mention he didn’t have a license so I made sure he was where he needed to be 24/7 even if it meant dragging our kids out at 12 midnight. I did so much and come to find out since he’s been back he has been cheating on me with little teenage girls?? He’s 25…..so I kicked him out last weekend and already he is with his little girlfriend. he hasen’t called, nor checked up on his daughter. I call my father in law and he totally switched it around saying that if I would of just trusted him and gave him a clean start when he came back and forgot what happened in the past and don’t be down his throat so much he wouldn’t of left and now this is my bed to lay in. I am just hurt, for almost three years I have taken care of him, supported him and yeah it has been hard because of the emtional rollercoaster he put me through, but I feel so low. How can I get over this, he is scum and I know my life was going no where, but the fact he lied and just moved on with his new girlfriend and showed no remorce or emotion what so ever??? What can I do, and I have no way of contacting him, his dad said he dont want me knowing where he is at or to contact him anymore and i have filed for divorce, but how can I get over the emotional state and just move on and stop thinking about what he did and is doin??

Chapter One
1968,Tommaso Buscetta stood in the court room with a sincere yet respectful grin on his face, as he was being burdened with queries about the Tom Hewitt murder case. Tommaso Buscetta was an average height man but a very stocky build. He had dusky olive coloured skin which was well suited to his greasy Black hair which strode finely down his polo shirt collars. Buscetta was wearing a navy Blue pinstripe suit made out of wool, with a golden chain hanging down his torso with a locket attached to it. The gold-silver plated contained a picture of his wife and youngest son who he loved dearly.
Tom Hewitt a New York prime newspaper publisher was murdered December 1962 just after peace had been made after the first mafia war-Which had been caused by the tension due to the missing Heroin shipment which was coming into America. The heroin was to be shared out between the families who had contributed their assets into a 3.5 million dollar drug deal with some Columbians producing and distributing narcotics in the Caribbean. The mafia families didn’t take kindly to their assets been lost and floating around in the Pacific Ocean. Most of the families who had been involved in the Heroin deal were either part of the Irish mob that had come to America to ensure they had retained profit from this deal for future events that their family would go through or the families were part of the notorious Cosa Nostra. Overall there were seven families involved in this deal and they had all lost their money because of some disturbance which had occurred on the Caribbean borders.
The war broke out in New York in 1961, it was the first ever mafia war to occur in America since the olive oil war( massacre of Caruli family in Brooklyn Olive factory)-rumoured to of happened because they had not paid payments they owed to the Bastani loan sharks which protected the Caruli empire for years.

me and my wife have been going thru some rough times. i have been using and selling drugs to make bills. she smokes weed and drinks on the weekend as do i but i also do coke. she has asked me to stop doing coke and to stop selling or she was going to leave. well she left and now that she has i have stopped everything and have been sober for 3weeks and going to chruch every sunday with are son thats 8. i have been baptised and trying to make the right changes for myself and my son , but so badly want my wife back. i have also been doing na meetings. i am 29 , shes 28 . we both love to party but by her leaving has inspired me to change my ways i just hope its not to late. oh we have been together for 9yrs married for 2 . she says she is for sure filing for divorce and has been living with her dad for the last 3weeks. she says she needs her space but why cant i leave her alone. i am man enough to say i **** up. with all of that said am prepared to make all the changes to get her back. i asked to push the divorce off for six months to show i will change becuz in the past i sd i would but never did. now i willing to show it and just talk it. i need advised to give her her space. before marriage we both cheated but neither have since beening married but those thoughts still linger when doping and drinking. she smokes pot and drinks but hates the coke i do. this is mainly my fault i know but what i need from everyone is what to do to get her back not smart remarks. i already know im wrong . are two biggest issues she said was trust and the drugs. i need your guys help.

Manorbier

Perched high above a peaceful beach,
with splendid views across the coast,
come visit Manorbier with me,
a castle haunted by old ghosts.
Baronial home of Norman style,
it’s stood the test against the gales.
A treasured gem in Pembrokeshire,
much loved by Gerald, son of Wales.

The masonry of limestone built,
crafted by twelfth century hands,
its turrets, towers, round and square
though aged and wind-worn, upright stand.
Tall, strong and crenelated walls
unspoiled by Medieval gloom,
no savage blows by evil foes
have turned this place to silent tomb.

A quiet solitude pervades,
it captures mood of years gone by.
The chapel and the gatehouse near
and inner ward has view of sky.
On cloudless days this spread of blue
can fall to greet a crystal sea
and from the heights your eyes can roam
to cast themselves on lush country.

The laid out borders edge the green,
bedecked in glorious summer bloom.
The colour lifts the whole display
and air is filled with sweet perfume.
I’ve stood and felt enchanted here,
looked back to times of toil and strife,
heard pluck of strings on soulful harp
and mused on being Baron’s wife.
The Genuine Article: You gave me 8 out of 10 for this when it was last posted: check your records!
Excuse me, that’s why I’ve re-posted it to get some help on improving it further

ignore the logic.
just help me to check it pelase,
thanks advance
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was imperative,so he contributed a handsome sum to the society,and it was a
stunning business in his thinking,he had a virtuous gril friend,so he felt
dreamlike sometimes,because it was not easy to have such a girl as a girl friend,he
cherished her so much,he wanted to choose a dreamlike venue to hold a
wedding,ceremony.
he found out the place.and hosted many people,he lavished so much money on the
wedding ceremony.it was on the tranquil island,after the reception,his wife and him
lied on the beach,the frothing waves were smashing against the seashore and
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of climbing trees when he was a young boy,they were in a tropical rainforest,the
swaying trees and the flying birds complemented each other.
it maybe was the exclusive landscape in the world.
he felt he were in the paradise,the hotel which catered a wedding banqueit for them
was a grand hotel,there was assorted living things in side.they help customers to
manage their wedding ceremonies,and make out the best ambience of wedding.
it was good for couples who wanted to have a luxurious bash at their wedding
ceremony the hotel was enough to accommodatefour thousands guests.
they hired all the rooms which in the top level.
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their hotel was buit with the medieval chinese style,and combined with some western
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spactacular waterfall and the whole edifice were inimitable
thanks advance:D

My family and I moved into a house in March. The grass was beautiful and we were told it was called Texas Turf 10. It;s a very thick, lush lawn that needs to be cut short and looks like turf. I know from reading the small amount of information online that it doesn’t need a lot of water at all. But over the summer, my lawn has been overrun by weeds and is very light in areas. I know it’s that time of the season that lawns begin to turn yellow (I live in West Texas) but I was told that the lawn stays green throughout the year and when we were looking at the house before buying in February, it was green. I’ve found a lot of the weed killer, fertilizer, etc on the market doesn’t work on this grass and I found that it actually made it worst. Does anyone have any suggestions? My wife has spoke to some green houses and they’ve gave some suggestions, but I wanted to come on here and see if anyone has this type of grass and what they use on it. Thanks in advance!

My problem is very complicated, but I will try my best to explain it as best as I can.

I was raped by a relative who is about 5 years older than I. We were drinking at a family party with other family members, and he had insisted on taking me home afterwards since he hardly drank and was busy making some sick plan in his mind to rape me.

Anyways, he did not take me home but took me to a motel instead where he repeatedly had sex with me while I was very intoxicated. In the morning upon waking up sober, he forced himself on me even though I kept telling him no and begging him to stop!

He wouldn’t listen but threatened me that he would tell everyone that I came onto him if I were to tell anyone. He spent a great deal of time convincing me that I had no choice in the matter and that we were now lovers whether I liked it or not.

He then took me home, but continued to call me all hours of the day to check on what I was doing and to make sure that I did not talk to anyone.

Here’s the worst part of it, he is already married and so am I. Our spouses had no idea what had happened and I was too scared to tell anyone, I felt disgusted and dirty.

Well I became pregnant and it is against my beliefs to abort an innocent life, so I kept the child, which made my then husband leave me. So I became seperated with my husband and ont he other hand was stalked by my cousin!

To make matters even worst, he is not only just a cousin, but my first cousin! He had cheated on his wife for so long with so many other women, but the difference is that I am his cousin!!!!!

His wife gives him the boot, around the same time I was patching things up with my husband. (Whom bless his heart, still loved me enough to care for another man’s child!)

In all of the goings on, the father of my baby moves himself into my home, telling me that he needs my help and wants to marry me. He tells me that I should do it for the sake of our child, etc.

The problem is that I am fearful of him because I am a very tiny person and he is a big man. I am intimidated by his size and his temper.

He really forces his way and his life upon me and I feel like he is ruining life and tearing it apart, trying to make me feel guilty for everything! Including not helping him!

My husband and I were not able to get together like we had planned, since my cousin has forced his way back into my life! Don’t get me wrong, I have attempted 3 times to kick him out of my home, but he keeps coming back and asking for another chance.

I am so miserable and I do not even love him like a wife should! In fact, each day I wake up to look at him, I think of a brother!!! I do love him for the fact he is the father of my child, but it’s just not right!!!!

I am so sicekned by all of this, but am too afraid to try anything else and don’t want to be abused or worst by him.

Can a relationship with a cheater who also happens to be your first cousin ever develop into anything more? I would also lie to mention that our child is not deformed or retarde in anyway, infact he is very smart for his age and progressing above average, so please no incestuous jokes or remarks about that.

This is a serious problem and I need to find a peaceful way out of this and how can I explain to my husband whom I love that I really want to be with him and not the crazy lunatic who is living in my home?
thank you for all your answers! I appreciate every single one of them! I am trying very hard to be strong, because this is not a relationship at all! I am so miserable and am trying to get out, but it’s my home he is in! Which makes me realize that I have to involve the authorities.

My beautiful highschool sweetheart of 15 years left me for a teacher where she works at 2 months ago. We are now divorced becuase she did’nt want to work on our marriage. I was a good husband didnt drink cleaned house cooked ect. My ex is now 31 and this guy is 32. He is a real party guy and a heavy drinker,my ex wife did’nt like to drink much and now she is turning into a lush.We have two small boys 7&9 and I have them every other week with her,I love my boys very much.My problem is this-We live in a very small community 80 miles from the largest town in central oregon. It is getting very hard to hear how my ex is turning into a highschool party girl and being very childish. I think its just a phase and I hurt sooo much right now:( I want to get out of here and and start over so i dont have to face the pain everyday. But I cant leave my boys they need me as an anchor in there life right now. I moved my family here 5 years ago for the quality of life and now I’m divorced and stuck here
She acts very cold towards me to and is not the same person that i fell in love with. Every body in our community cant believe what is going on. She works in the kitchen at the school and was seen kissing him at the school and she is acting like she is 16 again! How in the heck do I move on I dont even sleep anymore. I t is tearing me up and i am tearing up just writing this very sad deal. What wuold u do thank you