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I was reading an article, and I found it really sad. A man marries his wife when she was over weight. They have 3 kids back to back, and she gains even more weight. He says he use to LOVE her at her heaviest and didn’t want her to lose any weight. She’s so heavy that she now has high blood pressure, and becomes diabetic. Well she decides to take matters into her own hands, and loses 200 lbs with a strict diet, exercise, and herbs to detox the body. She then has a tummy tuck and a breast reduction (against her spouses wishes). After the weight loss men notice how attractive his wife is. He becomes jealous and insecure. After a very nasty argument he tells his wife he didn’t love her anymore, because she was no longer “fat enough for him”. He moves out and files for divorce.

My question: Would you risk your health to keep someone like that husband happy?

I know I wouldn’t. What’s your opinion?

When I was going to my university, I kept thinking “If a man goes to college and gets a degree, somebody still decided he makes only X number of dollars a year, so his wife probably has to work and help him out !” . I was going to a psychologist at this point, and he decided I was absolutely, positively, against my wife working and making a paycheck . In reality, I was absolutely, positively, against my wife being a stay — at — home housewife . I kept asking myself “Who says I’ll be able to afford a housewife ?” .

I have to wonder — how much does a man have to make before he can have a stay — at — home housewife ? I imagine a doctor or a lawyer makes enough money to where his wife doesn’t have to work .

My cousin’s third husband was a counselor at an alcoholism treatment center, and he was the only chance my cousin ever had to be a housewife . Was it possible that he really made that much money, or was he just absolutely, positively, against his wife working and making a paycheck ? I once knew somebody whose father had a stay — at — home housewife, and I doubt if he made a lot of money .

The point of Yahoo ! Answers is to ask questions, so here I go — How much does a man have to make before he can have a stay — at — home housewife ? What kind of a job pays that much ? Thank you in advance for your answers .

We have only been married 18 months and she is very controlling and abusive. She wants to spend all of her time in the bar. It also doesn’t help that she works in a bar as a bartender. I could handle it at first but now she gets very mean. I tired to get her into counseling a year ago and she refused. For a while, she got a lot better and now she has relapsed again.
Yesterday she worked an eight hour day shift and I showed up right after she was done to pick her up. She wanted to hang out for a while so we ran into some friends and were having a great time. Then our friends left and she demanded that we stay for four hours even though I hadn’t eaten at all that day and it was now after 10pm. Then on the way home, I started getting screamed at and she hit me. She then kept screaming at me to give her the money she had given me and told me under no circumstances was I to give her the money. She was so drunk she fell trying to hit me again and then said “I made her fall”.
She has had a rough life and went through things as a baby and child that no kid should have to. She constantly ditches me for the bar. I drink too, but not near as much or as often as she does. I cried my eyes out most of the night and told her today that I wanted to separate. She then asked if we could finally try counseling. I really love her and want to find the woman I love again. She refuses to go to AA and refuses to even acknowledge that there is a problem. If I mention anything, I’m nagging and have to get off her case or get screamed at. Do you think counseling will even help? She is also very jealous and has driven away 90% of my female friends, yet she is allowed to have as many male friends as she wants. She does not drive, so often I am her ride and have to stay at the bar until she is ready to go no matter how tired or hungry I am.She can be very sweet and has had a hard life. I know if I do leave, she will be crushed. What do I do? Sorry for such a long post.

I was charged with DWI last week on my family vacation, and will need representation to try and mitigate my punishment. The legal fees and fines that I am facing, total $1500-$2000. I am already on an extremely tight budget and have challenged credit, but need decent representation, so that I can keep limited driving capabilities to take my daughter to school in the morning, and drive to and from work. I am far too embarrassed to ask for help from my extended family, because this is a problem that I created for myself and my wife, and I refuse to make my issue their burden. Does anyone have a good idea on how to obtain funds for legal fees for those who are having trouble financing it? If anyone has any experiences with this, or ideas, please let me know. Thanks!

I’m 15 almost 16.
I have 13 Misdominors.
2 Felonys.
I have been in and out of lock up since I was 14.
I have been to 3 different treatment programs.
I have A.D.D./Manic Depression/ and social anxiety.
Was raped when I was 14 and police were unable to do anything about it because they found out while i was locked up that he went back to mexico, and he was 34 years old with a wife and kids.
I have an physically abusive dad that abused me and my older sisters whom are now out of the house.
I have trust issues, i cant trust any guys my last boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls.
My mom cant afford counceling or medication.
My sister is in and out of jail too, she has two kids and an abusive husband and they are both addicted to pain pills- Methadone, and alcohol.
My brother has AIDS from a dirty heroin needle and refuses to take his medication because he wants to die, he is addicted to heroin. The say my sexuality is out of control because i will do it when i get really messed up with 3 guys at once doing it 10 times and letting them ejaculate inside of me..
my current addictions are- cough medicine, alcohol, cigarettes, unprotected sex and weed.
I dropped out of school because I cant do it. My A.d.d is too severe. I am on probation so i have to have some form of school so they put me in adult ed. and I havent been going at all for 3 months and my mom doesnt know i havent been going, and once my judge finds out i will have another charge for violation my probation, but i just cant do it. Cutting my arms with scissors or punching the wall calms me down.. The only people i hang out with are people who like to do bad things because “Im that girl your parents told you to stay away from” I grew up in a home with my older sister always being in trouble, getting pregnant at 16.. While I was growing up my parents never EVER said “I love you”… im in tears right now just from typing that..

My court date is March 18th and they will be putting me in community placement, im not sure what that is but it sounds like foster care!

i dont have any good friend to talk to about this and i cant talk to my mom or meth-addicted dad about any of this… i need help.. please?
i am also a theif, big time. i steal money from anyone and my theft charges are stealing cough medicine. i drink alcohol a lot and i always end up drinking too much.. that ive woken up and my friends told me that i had slept with multiple people in one night. i will do any drug i can get, and do multiple drugs at once..

My wife and I are weighing in on whether to adopt from this birthmother.. We’ve been through infertility treatments for 2 and half years. This is a tough decision.. We are aware of the potential for low birthweight and addiction..

Medical effects of too much sex

Is it well documented that too much sex (e.g. overdose of pornogaphy/masturbation or sex with a high frequency) can cause an overdose of brain pleasure chemicals and affect normal brain function? For instance is this more or less parallel to what happens in drug addiction?

Is this an argument against (too much) pornography? Yes.

The poor afflicted creatures are caled ‘teenage boys’.

The results speak for themselves.

But then, to a teenage boy, even linoleum counts as pornography. </xander> Anything that involves a lot of endorphines can become addictive.

“Too much” sex can also result in reduced sex drive and sore “parts” as well, but that’s kinda obvious. sex is good for the prostate gland. when you’re older, you should be having sex quite frequently. if not, your wife is trying to kill you. Overdose of everything is detrimental. The Pleasure mechanism is based on the chemicals called neurotransmitters and the sensitivity of their respective receptors.

Usually in oragasmic pleasure response, The neuro transmitter called Dopamine is involved. Also other chemicals involved are Oxytocin and Vasopresin. These chemicals usually stimulate the pleasure response in the emotional part of brain OR lymbic system. Also the memory links are created due to the effect of these chemicals on the cells called Astro-cytes, which guide the axon to form a new link. As we all know the memory functions on the basis of neuronal linkages.

The Threshold of stimulation is one of the important facet of every biological pathway. There are always positive and negative feedback mechanisms involved in controlling almost every bio-chemical process going on in the body.

Thus Over-sex causes extra stimulation of this pathway and increases the threshold level rquired for the stimulation of that pathway. that is, If level ‘ X ‘ stimulus is required for the stimulation of pleasure pathway OR pleasure cascade in brain in terms of sex, then that level increases to ‘ Y ‘, which is usually higher than ‘ X ‘.

Secondly, the negative feedback of the brain, especially, hypothalamus-pituitary-penis pathway is affected.
In normal circumstances, the sexual stimulus causes the hypothalamus to secrete Vasopressin which causes the blood vessels in penis to first relax and then contract, thus trapping the blood in the penile tissue, making it erect. After certain level of mechanical movements, this stimulation reaches to a certain level which inturn causes hypothalamus to secrete oxytocin. It causes the feeling of Orgasm and cause the smooth muscles in testes and penis to contract rhythematically. At the same time, the neurotransmitter called Dopamine is released in the brain’s lymbic system area.
All these chemicals working together in hormony and right order result in experiancing of Orgasm.

Over stimulation of this pathway causes temporary decrease in sensitivity of sexual stimulus. It is evident in Males with the lapse period after ejaculation.
This is one of the mechanism which is affected by too much of sex. The period of latency increases.

Thirdly, too much of Sperms are wasted. One sperm takes about 72 days to mature. ofcourse there are billions of them. But according to Ayurveda, The sperms are related to eyesight. Too much of sperm wastage MAY affect the eyesight in long run.

Dunno about overdose of pornography. It is strictly emotional. Unless it is acompanied by vigorous masterbation, with very high frequency, these efects cannot be noticed.

Sex is good for prostrate glands. But Not too much of it.

Also, it may decrese the sex drive of an individual. Quote: Originally Posted by Jesse Are you saying this is a permanent effect, or just a short-term effect of too much sex in a given time period? If you’re claiming it’s permenant, are you basing that on any studies? Again, are you saying this is long-term or short-term, and if you’re saying it’s long-term, what is the evidence for this? It is easy to find the reference for these pathways. Refer to any Physiology book. I like Guyton’s physiology.

The effects that I described in my post are ofcourse temporary. However, I feel that the cumulative effect of these temporary effects adding up may result in long term implications. The body returns to its normal activity after some time of latency. However this latency period increases with time.

The second reason is purely psychological. Mind does get bored when any activity becomes a routine activity. A person who has too much of sex, it becomes a mechanical act for him. Hence the inclination to do that decreases with time. Mind is linked with brain. The decrease in sex drive is ofcourse related to brain.

Quote: Originally Posted by Jesse According to this page Ayurveda is an “ancient Indian system of holistic health”–have any modern scientific studies suggested a link between “sperm wastage” and poor eyesight? Are you saying “too much” sex can be bad for the prostrate gland, or just that the beneficial effect levels off at a certain point? Ayurveda is a holistic apporach of medicine. Instead of treating a specific cell, it treats entire body. becoz According to Ayurveda, other parts of body cannot remain un-affected due to disease in one part. Hence it emphasises on treating whole body.The basic emphasis is given on Balance of everything.

Quote: Originally Posted by emphryio I also know that for a man, ejaculation causes a rise in testosterone in the short term. But it depletes the body of zinc. An average ejaculate has about 5 calories/1 gram of protein.
Personally I’ve found that what Bundini Brown said was true (he was one of Ali’s trainers) to get an erection and not ejaculate can increase physical strength. How much it does so, depends at least on the body part. Hamstrings/gluts are greatly affected, personally, vertical leap can increase up to 6 inches with repeated stimulation without ejaculation over the course of a week or so. Deadlift can improve by 35%. (Went from 395 to 485) Finally ejaculated and then couldn’t do 405.
The idea of abstaining for men to improve physical activity only works if the man is still getting erections. Furthermore there is a delayed effect. You can have sex the night before the big game. It’s the next day that the body will have a marked decrease performance. Also the fluctuation in strength can vary for different body parts, and surely does for different people also. I agree with that. The pleasure is accompanied by sudden relaxation of muscles. To attain this sudden relaxation, it is essential that the body must be primed to extreme work and stress. Everybody who has had sex will agree that there is tremendous stress involved before reaching climax.

This stress sucks lotta energy. Ofcourse it is essential to maintain the good mindset. But over-sucking of energy is detrimental.

The effect on mind are quite different from the effect on body. After a healthy sex, a person feels fresh and relaxed. He finds the mind at peace. I have no idea that what are effects of over sex on health of mind. The only thing that strikes me is decrease in sex drive due to the mechanical nature of the act. Quote: Originally Posted by premjan Is it well documented that too much sex (e.g. overdose of pornogaphy/masturbation or sex with a high frequency) can cause an overdose of brain pleasure chemicals and affect normal brain function? For instance is this more or less parallel to what happens in drug addiction?

Is this an argument against (too much) pornography? It would be an arguement if there were any real case presented.

Its a problem of people not understanding cause and effect. They see someone with a “sex addition” who had lots of sex, and assume that the sex is the cause, in spite of any scientific evidence!

A true “sex addict” is simply suffering from a specific Obsessive Compulsive disorder. OCD can take many forms. The common thread is that the need to do somethng is uncontrollable. The need will overcome any social or potential injury, the need becomes an imperative. When acted on the result is often described as intense near orgasmic relief. Probbaly the best account I can refer you to is an article written by David Sedairis about his compulsions from childhood through college. Anyway, this type of compulsion is the same regardles of if your brain is tellig you to lick the lightswitch, spin 23 times, or masterbate compulsivly. There are also varying degrees to the disorder ranging from debilitating to a minor annoyance (Ratey’s Shadow Syndromes is a great read).

Now, what are some causes? In children at least it has been shown that some forms of OCD are autoimmune problems associated with subclinical Step infections. The antibodies the body produces against the bacteria cross react with some proteins in the nervous system. a common treatment for children with OCD is a a throat culture and course of antibiotics. In adults it has to do more with GABAnergic systems rather than the dopamanergic systems inolved in addiction. With sexual desire you can also have a hormonal imbalance.

I don’t know of any credable study linking having frequent sex with becoming a “sex addict”. However because of cultural views when sexual activity is involved people make up all kinds of entertaining things.

In fact many studies show the exact opposite. Take a look at any psychological studies on women involves in the sex industry. many of which are addicted to other substances. You would think that they would be the most susceptable. But the end result is genreally sexual burnout and reduction of libido.

Anyway, here are the real things you need to worry about with sex and masterbation (in excess).

1- STDs. Even if in a regular monogomous relationship. Turns out that nearly 30% of reported cases of STDs in men may actually be caused by bacteria that is natural in some women’s mouths (medline iirc has a write up ont he article). Very low chance of getting the infection, but can happen to anyone.

2- Bruising, rugburns, etc. Use your imagination.

3- Blistering (if solo all the time, get some lube).

4- The very very rare very nasty stuff from accidents that involve a trip to the emergency room right away. (example, you can “break” an erect penis if bent with enough force.)

Other than that, don’t worry about it.

I like to drink whenever I can. My wife says that I probably have a drinking problem. It’s kind of depressing I must say. So in order to deal with this depression I have been trying to drink lots of booze. So far it is working alright. My wife is definitely a lot happier that’s for sure. But occasionally the alcohol wears off so I’m wondering exactly how much should I drink to get over this depression while still somewhat functioning?

I drink just a little bit. I am a social, light weight drinker. Not a heavy weight. Just enough to make it merrier.
What kinds of drinks???? Maragaritas, wines, beers, etc.
For right now, I drink bud light or Miller lite or Natural light in a glass with ice cubes. Thanks guys

I’m originally from asia but currently live in the US and met the love of my life. I swear this girl and I were made for each other and have so much love for each other. We both want to get married but…I would like to raise my kids to be non drinkers (and she agreed to that but i expect her to not drink, at least at home or in front of them) and would like the possibility of either moving overseas or possibly even to another state, but she is completely refusing to even entertain the ideas. Will I ever move? I don’t really know, i just want to know that she would be ok with it.

All i really want to do is know that my future wife or wife when she is is willing to do whatever it takes and is willing to do anything for her husband and family, is that too much to ask? I must point that she is very close to her family, as i am close to mine but that is a big reason why she would not want to move, naturally.

Any and all thoughts are most welcome, thanks in advance.

The Application of Gender Roles within “Much Ado About Nothing” and

“The Taming of the Shrew”

In his works William Shakespeare exploits many different themes to uncover the message of the works, impress reader and make a narration more vivid and colorful, sophisticated and interesting. The treatment of gender roles plays an important role in the plays under analysis being an integral part of plot and characters development. In Much Ado About Nothing and The Taming of the Shrew, William Shakespeare attempts to portray a more positive and accepting view of how women should be regarded and treated.

Shakespeare constructs gender role according to characters functions in the play. “In Much Ado About Nothing”, most of the male characters is depicted as brave soldiers. Leonato, Claudio and Benedick. They are courageous and clever men. For all their concentration on mundane details, Shakespeare’s novels depicts survival, heroic adventures of social mobility in which individuals single-handedly confront and conquer a host of adverse circumstances. In “The Taming of the Shrew”, the major characters Petruccio and Lucentio are joined by friendship. Despite the apparent crudity of their narratives, Shakespeare’s novels are animated by a quality more usually identified with a more self-consciously sophisticated form of gender relations. In both plays, women characters are depicted loving and sympathetic, nevertheless very proud and ambitious.

In spite historical epoch and predetermined gender roles of woman as subordinate, Shakespeare underlines that gender role between women and men are not so important as considered to be.

“Now Kate, I am a husband for your turn,

For by this light, whereby I see thy beauty

Thy beauty that doth make me like thee well” (The Taming of the Shrew, p.272).

In contrast to men, the function of women is to be a good wife and mother. In “Much ado about nothing” he writes that: “They say the lady is fair. ‘Tis a truth, I can bear them witness. And virtuous’tis so, I cannot reprove it. And wise, but for loving me. By my troth, it is no addition to her witnor no great argument of her folly, for I will be horribly in love with her” (Much ado about nothing, p.204).

Gender roles are stable in the plays in spite of the changes in appearance of the characters. From the very beginning in “The Taming of the Shrew”, Shakespeare portrays changes in the statuses of the hero. Sly is dressed as a lord, and a pageboy dressed in women’s clothing: “Am I a lord and have I such a lady? Or do I dream? Or have I dreamed till now? I do not sleep: I see, I hear, I speak”. (The Taming of the Shrew, Induction, Scene 2, lines 28-30). In the other play, Claudio and Hero decide to play a game, and force Beatrice and Benedick to fall in love. Their changes in appearance are successful helping Beatrice and Benedick to stop arguing. In “Much ado about nothing” the main hero says “What should I do with himdress him in my apparel and make him my waiting gentlewoman? He that hath a beard is more than a youth, and he that hath no beard is less than a man; and he that is more than a youth is not for me, and he that is less than a man, I am not for him” (Much ado about nothing, p.28). Contradictions like these – and there are many other celebrated examples in the plays – have often been taken as evidence of a slap-dash approach to the gender roles. Yet the pattern of these contradictions, in which characters preach like moralists yet act like ruthless opportunists, goes to the heart of Shakespeare plays. In any case, these heroes preserve their identity as males and females. These changes in the appearance, do not influence the status of woman in the society and do not humiliate them. Judgements like these derive from the tendency to identify Shakespeare with the narrators of his plays.

Exploiting the ambiguities of female function, a subdued creature and a strong and loving person, Shakespeare portrays complex female characters from positive side. For instance, in “The Taming of the Shrew” ill-tempered Katherine is contrasted to her “lovely” and calm sister Bianca. ‘Katherine the Curst’ A title for a maid, of all titles the worst” (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 1, Sc. 2, Lines 130-131). Shakespeare portrays Bianca as: “‘Tis deeds must win the prize, and he of both hat can assure my daughter greatest dower

Shall have my Bianca’s love.” (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 2, Sc. 1, Lines 361-365).

In general, Shakespeare’s reputation contributed to the stereotype of the moral author.

Plays which conformed to social mores were more widely acceptable as serious literary plays. The strong gender roles system made a clear distinction between the aristocratic lady as a graceful accomplishment, and the woman who went against the nature of sex.

Although the terms of the relative judgement has sometimes altered, the temptation to draw comparisons between male and female. High morality of women is underlined throughout the plays. The morality of Shakespeare is based on a simple antithetical contrast; natural instinct versus social hypocrisy, goodness of heart versus cunning of head. Part of the satisfaction of the plays comes from the combination of the formal symmetry of role structure with the apparent freedom and randomness of some episodes. At the end of the play, Katherine declares, “Thy husband is thy lord, thy life, thy keeper, Thy head, thy sovereign, one that cares for thee, And for thy maintence commits his body To painful labor both by sea and land” (Act 5, Sc. 2, 162-180). Using this episode, Shakespeare contrasts female characters underlining that women are treated according to their behaviour and character, which has little to do with gender roles. “I cannot be a man with wishing, therefore I will die a woman with grieving.” (Much ado about nothing, p. 224).

In both plays, women voices construct great psychological complexity. In its treatment of the contradictions between ‘virtue’ as reputation and virginity as an extension of moral integrity, Shakespeare highlights the social hypocrisies where the marriage market puts a price on maidenhood. Shakespeare urges the conventional solution of marrying the seducer, but Katherine follows the path of self-imposed martyrdom. The play depicts simplistic morality, based on eternal virtues and justice.

“I am ashamed that women are so simple

To offer war where they should kneel for peace” (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 5, Sc. 2, Lines 361-365).

This quote provides a notable contrast to the male treatment of female characters. It was the development of the female characters. By creating an distance between the heroines and the heroes, Shakespeare uses this theme to make a social comment on women’s nobles focusing on their good and bad sides.

“Sigh no more, ladies, sigh no more,

Men were deceivers ever,-

One foot in sea and one on shore,

To one thing constant never” Much ado about nothing, p.101).

Shakespeare uses the narrative of a woman asking readers to decide what is good and what is bad. He shows an intelligent but naive men tricked out of a woman virtue (Bianca). In drawing attention to the dangers faced by the good- natured but ill-advised heroine contributes to the social debate on the status of women, using the play as an entertaining medium of discussion. This is the way to kill a wife with kindness (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 4, Sc. 1, Lines 201).

Attempting to portray positive image of women, Shakespeare underlines that it is a man who helps women to survive. Women do not have a possibility to interfere into life of men, nevertheless they do so in the plays. Women decide what is good for them and choose the ways to “reach a man”. For instance, Bianca ask Lucentio to be her tutor. Also, Claudio impulsive vitality is made acceptable by the artful manipulations of the narrator’s tone.

Women’s life, their destiny defined and depended upon the men, and, particularly, upon the their marriage. Although men had an influence on women’s behavior and exaggerated them in many life situations: “”That a woman conceived me, I thank her; that she brought me up, I likewise give her most humble thanks; but that I will have a recheat winded in my forehead, or hang my bugle in an invisible baldrick, all women shall pardon me.” (Much ado about nothing, p. 221).

Shakespeare describes that female characters are strong, as physically so mentally, because their life status requires a masculine strength, but all female characters copes with it perfectly. Shakespeare uses mainly masculine adjectives to underline thier strength.

And do you tell me of a woman’s tongue,

That gives not half so great a blow to hear

As will a chestnut in a farmer’s fire? (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 1, Scene 2, lines 200-209).

The main characteristics outlined are not independent, separate qualities of women but are all mutually interrelated while having an inter-dependent essence in each case. They serve to summarise and unify all characteristics inherent to women. Their character features appear as a guideline or norm that helps women to judge what is or is not right or good in their life. Feeling and practicising care, seeking peace of mind, holding to truth and desiring justice are intrinsic aims. That is, the degree of realisation of positive values in thought and action depend on the nature of the accumulated tendencies of a person interacting with others.

“Such duty as the subject owes the prince,

Even such a woman oweth to her husband” (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 5, Scene 2, lines 12-13).

With the help of Hero, Shakespeare points out the readers’ attention to virtues of conciseness, strong, clear imagery, symbolism, understatement, humor, and irony. These fluctuations reflect the tragic tension within males: Claudio is at once too ambitious to allow his conscience to stop behaving his way and too conscientious to be happy with himself. At the end, Shakespeare depicts Claudio as a man whose character lacks strength, because of ambition. Women attempt to prove that their are strong enough to live in a masculine world, but they reach this through men’s love:

“O Hero! What a Hero hadst thou been

For thee I’ll lock up all the gates of love,

And on my eyelids shall conjecture hang

To turn all beauty into thoughts of harm,

And never shall it more be gracious” (Much ado about nothing, p. 271).

Even if Shakespeare portrays women from a positive side gender roles in the plays are limited. Wmen’s life and their destiny will be defined and depended upon the men, and, particularly, upon the their marriage. Although men will have an influence on women’s behavior and exaggerate them in many life situations. To look deeply into the problem it is possible to say that women have fought to be independent and be equal to men, but they have no rights. On the one hand marriage connects with ideology and sees as the state intervention in marriage and a abuse of rights. Women are treated as wives and mothers primarily.

“Lord! I could not endure a husband with a beard on his face: I hath rather lie in the woolen” (Much ado about nothing, p. 211).

In any case, woman represented in the plays of Shakespeare do not suffers because their role as wives. This a positive moments in treatment women. The old-new conservative approach to marry a prosperous person (a man or a woman) comes to nothing when the love is taken into account. In contrast to epoch represented by Shakespeare, marriage means love and happiness. Nevertheless, the existence of institution of marriage, in which men played the dominant role and wielded control, determine the gender roles, and placed women at the mercy of their male counterparts. Katherine says:

“My mind hath been as big as one of yours,

My heart as great, my reason haply more,

To bandy word for word and frown for frown;

But now I see our lances are but straws” (The Taming of the Shrew, Act 5, Scene 2, lines 140-144).

Some day women attempt to put an end to the long-established meaning of women’s roles and became feminists who were ready to fight against men. Women could move beyond the constrictions of the ideology.

It is possible to conclude that both plays embody functional division of gender roles: women are wives and men are husbands. Nevertheless, Shakespeare goes far beyond this simplistic representation of genders portraying that women can perform men’s functions successfully. This style of writing revels in its own vivacity and wit, offering its readers a rich and varied interpretation of gender roles and gender relations together with literary sophistication. Gender roles are based on moral introspection and psychological insight dramatizing the dilemmas of individual social choice. Love as care does not refer to an emotion or a state of mind so much as to a human faculty of identification with others, sympathy with all beings. Female’s sympathy seeks many and various channels of realisation. It is developed through experience and gradual self-realisation. Women’ poetic nature helps the reader to understand that female characters have a natural charm so attractive to others.

With its tone, both plays are a brilliant indictment of a society in which gender roles has abnegated the natural ties of humanity and love.

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I did it, I packed my crap and moved in with some frineds. For details on that, go to my past questions in my profile about my wife drinking in bars with other guys. She did text me that night from the bar and said she would be home at 1130. She didn’t invite me and didn’t call. When I called her and told her come home she said no. When i told her I am you husband and dont like you drinking in bars with other guys she said she wasn’t doing anything. So I said I am going to leave you. With that, I hung up the phone and packed my crap and left. I didn’t hear from her til the next day and she was begging me to come TALK about it. We have been talking about it 2 months and nothing has changed. I ignored all atemps to talk to her. She showed up at my work crying and telling me lets work it out she don’t want to loose me. I told her if she wants me back she is NEVER to go out drinking in bars with guys I dont know again. If she didn’t aggree to my terms, I want a DIVORCE!
What u think

He comes to my house to try to hash out his life, not a happy child up bringing and still dealing with a lot of issues. He does see a therapist, on a weekly basis, I dont know if I should tell his wife about his drinking. She probably already knows, there is no drinking at his home.

or be around drunks. I like to drink, but I’m quite happy just to have a couple and get a little buzzed. When she gets to the point where she doesn’t want to stop we always get into a big fight. So now there are times when I start worrying from her first sip, because I’m afraid that she is going to drink too much. I will try and say slow down, but then we’ll fight about that. How do I get her to understand why I worry and why I don’t want to be around her or anyone else when they’re drunk?

My wife drank when I met her but not that much. Since then she has become very alcohlic and has caused problems in our marriage and our family. She is mean when she’s not drinking and worse when she is. Sh has called my job in a drunken tirade and made me look like an ass in front of my boss. There are many, many episodes besides that. About four years ago I had had enough and checked in to a rehab clinic myself. She went through it and we thought everyhting was okay. She was still as mean as ever though, what they call a ‘dry drunk’. About a year ago I would find marijauna butts and wine bottles hidden around the house. I don’t drink and neither does my son. I knew she was drinking again but was in denial. My son would call me a t work ( I work at night) and tell me she was at it again drunk. I have had the cops come to my house because of her and she has accused me of things I haven’t done. I love her but i don;t like her like this. I’m tired and wonder if I should go.