How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I have been married to a man for 8 years. The rouphest years of my life! He had a terrible drug habbit which lead to other problems, from being verbally and physically abusive to stealing, you name it. On several ocassions I have had to call the police and have him arrested. I have thrown him our of my house and we have also put this man through several drug rehabs. Needless to say nothing had worked. He had tried getting back together with me but I finally had to put my foot down and say when you get a job, and you stay clean and I don’t have to support you then maybe ill think about it. He moved out of town to his parents home, which they have never liked me. They come from a very old fashioned traditional Mexican family who can’t accept me because I have children from a previous marriage. We have plans on getting back together since he has found a job and is going to start a vocational training, Only problem is he doesn’t want to move back into town because he says he will go back to his old ways. The kids and I are willing to move out of town once he is settled. The problem is… His parents dispice me. We went to visit him and we had to stay in a hotel because I wasnt allowed in his parents home and neither were my children. They had something for easter where the whole family was invited and our daughter was welcome as well as my husband. my childrend and I were never invited. My daughter also spent spring vacation with her dad and grandparents, my husband was working and my inlaws were babysitting while my husband was at work, yet when I was up there visiting she did not want to babysit so that we could go out. I don’t understand? My husband asked if he could have my daughter for the summer and when I asked who was going to watch my daughter while he was working and in training he said his parents would. So if they did not want to watch her for that one night that we wanted to go out, (they didnt have plans ) what makes me think they will want to watch her for the summer. I’ve mentioned to him that it bothers me that they exclude us and he just blushes me off. The three days that I was up there visiting his mother was calling him constantly.. He mentioned to his mother that he had plans on us getting back together again and she said that his sisters would not accept this. Im sorry my mom passed when I was very young and I have no siblings. Is this the way it’s supposed to be? Am I overexagerating or is it time for me to walk away? Can Somebody help?

I have had parents with adiction my whole life! finally I am happily married for 4 years and have 3 beautiful children. I am suffering because my parents have always had some form of drug/alcohol addiction. Well now they are getting to thier lowest point (eviction, no money) and they refuse to work. They are only inb thier 50s. they only call when they need money or rides. A few weeks ago I gave in and gave them $50 for a “battery” for thier car and I took them to the “dr” only to find out the used the $ for RX drugs and the “dr” was a meth clinic. I can’t do this anymore I am afraid they are going to try to move in with me and I can’t let them because it WILL ruin my marriage and they will not clean up. I think I should cut ties with them. But I feel really bad I am thier only child. But the only thing they have done was cause me heartache my whole life. Now I finally have a good husband and life. Any advice would really be needed

I left my husband in July, for having an affair with the town drug dealer, he then turned around and pressed a dv order against me. He was given full custody and all our property. He was very abusive in our marriage, then he turned around and told the courts that i was poisoning him with street drugs, since he got a dirty UA, they believed him and now he continues to come around and treat me bad. how do i get him to stop coming around me and stop the courts from hurting me.
my husband, knows the judge, he drinks with him out at their friends house, and he also rents a house from him, thru his work. This is crazy. I didnt do nothing to deserve this. and i am sorry for him , because God knows all and will deal with them, i will follow some of your advise tho and stay calm, with Gods help

My wife’s friend is 23 and is pregnant with her first baby.

Her father has been married 5 times, he has many DUIs due to his alcholism, has been in jail a lot and he is violent with women.

Her mother had boyfriends who beat her up, she was an alcoholic and drug user since her daughter was 1 and died of a herion overdose when her daughter was 20.

My wife’s friend has had many engagements with men she knew only weeks, and married a guy after 5 months of knowing him. They hate each other, she cheated on him after 6 months of marriage, and she asked for a divorce 3 months before she got pregnant on purpose. She parties all of the time and has had a drinking problem for the past 5 years.

My wife tries to help her friend, but her friend says she doesn’t have any problems and will be a good mom despite her plans to continue her lifestyle after the baby is born.

Do you think that she will be a good mom once the baby is born?

For the past seven months, my mom has been dating a man and I dislike him very much. He does all kinds of drugs. I know he does meth, drinks alcohol, smokes PCP and cigarettes and uses heroin, but there’s a few more (I don’t know them). He is verbally abusive towards my 9-year-old sister. He yells at her and calls her nasty names. I found out he is a registered sex offender. When I told my mom, she said, “There’s no need to worry. Nothing will happen.”

My mother could leave him. I know that for sure, but she chooses to stay. She says she’s in love with him. To be honest, I think she’s just being ignorant. My wife and I are taking care of my sister. She already has a hard life. She’s blind, she uses a wheelchair, she can’t talk and she has asthma. My mother is paying little attention to her and I know she’s very afraid of our mom’s boyfriend. He has smoked around her, which, of course, is bad for her asthma.

Is there any way I can talk my mother into leaving this man? I’m scared something will happen if she doesn’t.

I have a 14 year old son and a 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We ended our relationship shortly after the birth of our second child and soon then after I met and married my current husband and have been married to him for the past 11 years. My ex was not actively involved in the childrens life for the first few years. And I had to constantly pursue him so that he spend sometime with them. In 2000 I found out that he had a heroin problem and limited the time he saw them of which was very little because he never came around. as of recently past six years maybe he has been slowly stablelizing himself and married someone himself although she did enforce his visitation of them from time to time during past couple of years he has dissappeared on both me and his wife. But all in all he has been a stable dad for the past 3 years. We have had a freindly relationship between all involved parties as well and I have made it a point to involve him as much as possible in his childrens lifes. As of recently he has been demanding without consideration of how it will disruppt my household and home, (I do have a child with my current marriage, which these two children are a very important part of.) additional time with his children. When I informed him that I could not just say yes take them without seeing what I can do as far as who is going to watch over my younger child during the time that their older brother watches them, he proceeded to call DYFYS (Division of youth and family services) on me making tons of absurd not founded allegations on me. May I add he did these anonymusly however admitted it to my son when he questioned him on it. The only reason he gave to my son for calling Dyfis was that he was tired of me being the only one who has a say in their lifes. The children are angry with him for what he did and are not ready to talk to him although I everyday tell them they should, it has now been three weeks since the allegations where made by him and he has not even as called his kids. He is requesting joint custody in court and is demanding unreasonable times he is requesting he gets them tuesdays and thursday over night during the school year with e/o weekend starting from Friday to Monday. And during school vacation he wants them every other week. I am not against my children spending time with their father in fact I have always encouraged it, but I feel what he is requesting is not reasonable and he doesnt see how for the past 12 years I have build a life and family with them and my younger child and this will cause a huge detremental impact to all my children not just his. I am afraid of what a judge would say because for the latter years he has been a responsible father except for the fact that he never paid me child support. I dont want to keep kids from him I just want to have a stable home where I do not have to be afraid that he will take me to court at a whim just simply because he wants more time with them. Any suggestions can anyone help me.

My wife and 2 year old child moved in with her mom, 2 miles away, about a year ago. She has colon issues and was having a flare up and needed help, she was put on steroids and other drugs that made her moody, she wouldn’t ever admit it though. Our marriage suffered as a result. Well now she found a drug that is working for her colon, and is feeling better but not 100%. And i also discovered she is on an antidepressant as well, and our relationship has been better the last couple months too. How do I get her to move home? We hang out and talk daily, but every time I mention her moving home it turns into a argument. Should I discuss it with her mother?

I have been married since april and my wife hates the way my mother calls me constantly about family issues and wanting me to come drive stuff all over the place. Now, I come from a very rough family background and things like drugs, prison time and violence and even sexual abuse have run its course through various members of my family, but my wife comes from a more high class family background that have morales and respect runs deeper than in my own, they are even more wealthy than my family. But I just cant seem to bridge the two together. On one hand she say things like “I never tell my mother no when she asks me to do stuff”and etc. I’ve even stopped doing stuff for my family and telling them i cant do things for them anymore and she still gets into these moods that are very depressing and hard to deal with whenever my mother calls. I even recently called my mother and told her to stop calling me, of course it kinda hurt but I just didnt want this to continue anymore with my wife, Its starting to affect my marriage and I dont really know what to do. Thanks for any input.

my ex wife let my son stay with her alcohlic mother today i was realy upset because we have both talked about this and thought we agreed that it was not safe for him at her place. this women has been an alcoholic for years and in the past four to six months gone to the crisis center at least twice and i think a thrid for sucide watch during a binge the last time this happened just a little over 30 days ago,and this time had to be escorted by police, my ex wife thinks because she has been on medicne and ok for 30 days and just a phone call away our son will be fine,(this is not the first or second time she has been ok for 30 days but many times over the past several years) my probelm with this is that not only has our son gone through some tough emotioal times recently and if he saw anything happen to his grand mother it would cause him great emotional harm but god forbid if she went off the deep end took my son in her car and got him hurt myabe worse. i dont think because u dont want to hurt someone’s feelings or what ever the case may be that she should put our son in arms way am i wrong to worry ?

OK, so my wife and I have been married for 15 years. We have a 14 year old boy and a 12 year old girl… Well about two years ago, my wife began doing heroin. Now, she is not a full blown addict and still gets the house work done, and still is a good mother… She is essentially just chipping…

Now our children don’t really know, although the oldest may suspect… My wife and I both teach them, not to do drugs…

Well being that it was her b-day, I had my two children chip in, and told them that I was taking mom to an all day spa… Well instead, I figured she would enjoy it much more, I could arrange for a day to get her “fix.”

So I took her to the local heroin den, and paid the guy enough money to keep her high all day… She of course loved it… And no one was none the wiser.

I mean when she came home she threw up a few times and fell asleep during dinner, but we told the kids it was part of the spa treamtment.

Now her mother, had suspected what had happend, got mad and left during dinner, causing this big scene… Upsetting her daughter and her grandchildren… Frankly I don’t think that she is a fit influence for the kids! If I gave my wife enough “junk” do you think she would side with me and get her mother out of our lives?

My ex-wife Penelope is a sturdy, thick-set, no nonsense woman who left me due to a gambling and heroin addiction, both of which i have mostly recovered from.

I have now become aware that she may be polluting the minds of our two children, telling them both that i am no good, i’m a womaniser and racist, and an abuser of women and children, (all of which is mostly untrue).

How do i convince them their mother is lying to them? Both my children are 43 years old.

So this is a long and bizarre story.

I have known this guy for seventeen years an prior to our romantic involvement that started less than two years ago, I had no interest in him although he has always liked me.
We are in our thirties now. I have a 10 yr. old from a previous relationship. We have always been friends however had huge gaps in our correspondence because I had a child, he went away to college, worked nightshift and got married.
When we were 27(we are the same age) he got a seventeen yr. old girl pregnant and married her. It turned out to be a tumultous marriage. She physically abused him while he was in the military and living on base. She would hurt him and them call the police. She drank heavily, partied, cheated on him(even took out a loan for a lover putting up the family car for collateral). The biggest deal though was that she hid an entire pregnancy from him. They had already been married, had one child (who was 20 months old at siblings conception), and one abortion they both participated in. He was deployed part of the time. She didn’t even tell her identical twin or mother(with whom she is close) that she was pregnant even though she moved back home to live and work with him during part of the deployment. She sought no medical attention even though it was free. Her first baby had been born via emergency C-section. She told no one she was pregnancy and also did not seek alternative care. She also binge-drank vodka on several occasions. In fact she came back home w/him when she was seven and a half months, and attended a large party thrown by his parents for her older child, surrounded by multiple relatives and told nobody. Two months later he is in one of his training classes and is pulled out by a superior and told his wife is going into labor. He is not sure if this baby is his, she looks NOTHING like her sister but he raises her as his own.
She assumes he is involved with me one day(which he isn’t) and sends me multiple harassing and vulgar text messages.
Anyway, after the delivery, 14 months later he comes home for a three week leave on a fifteen month tour and she tells him she doesn’t love him anymore and wants a divorce. He is devastated but eventually relents. He and I are not involved at this point. She makes harassing phone calls to me. He asks her about it. She denies it.
They are now divorced. In 2008, they arranged a custody agreement for him to have the children five days a week. They come back from their mother’s home disheveled and often dirty. They look tacky(but she doesn’t), their hair is unbrushed and their nails overgrown with dirt underneath. This is amongst other neglectful behaviors.
His mother becomes very angry with the ex daughter in-law because she has taken them on weekends when he is in Iraq and witnesses their commonly unacceptable appearance and mannerisms. When son returns(after leaving military for good to be with his children), he and his mother have a huge falling out due to his renewed relationship w/his children now that he will no longer have to be away from them. His mother have previously hated his ex-wife due to the wife squandering thousands(of husband’s and mother-in-law’s money), hateful, disrespectful language from the ex-wife, and continued neglect of the children. His mother decided to have bad will against me because I was an emotionally supportive friend of his and as he spent more time with his children, she seemed to become angrier.
Well, I became pregnant. He and I now live together and have a child together. His ex-wife repeatedly calls her ex-husband for trivial matters even though she continues to neglect the children. She also repeatedly invited him for dinner. We reside in the old neighborhood in which I grew up. She invited him to go trick-or-treating with her(but didn’t invite me) and said to him she would love to go trick-or-treating in my neighborhood but didn’t want to run into me. He said nothing to her about this. She also has said disrespectful things about me to the children. He has said nothing about this. I have continually cared(meaning I take care of them)for her children by him in spite of the ugly way she has treated me. I have given them baths, have done their hair, dressed them, taken them to different activities, read to them. I don’t expect praise. I just know that all children need to feel loved. I also do not speak poorly about her to the children. It is clear she is emotionally unstable though.
The year where his mother stopped speaking to him, she then decided to like his ex-wife again.
I now have a baby with him(I know). I decided to let bygones be bygones and let her meet her grandchild. His mother trivializes the abuse the wife has enacted against her son and overlooks the neglect she enacts towards the grandchildren.
His ex-wife told him about the last time she had sex, how she was pregnant last year. It i
Blending a family is an investment, right? I have my problems with this guy(who I am planning on leaving). We have are own problems. However if he was hitting her, it would not be trivialized as just a “flaw”. When CPS, was called on her, the case was closed. People don’t like to think of women as abusers. I can see, as an abuse vitime, he appears to be relating to her the same way as in marriage-as a vitime-walking on eggshells. However I think he sends her mixed messages and he thinks he doesn’t. He spent Thanksgiving in her family’s home, he attended a birthday party with her, went to his child’s school event with her. I understand, that it is important to get along for the sake of the children, but she uses the children to have a relationship with her. She gets irritated that he doesn’t spend more time with her. How is telling him the last time she had sex have anything to do with the children? His mother abused him, so it isn’t surprising he stayed with a woman who did
I mean she uses the children to have a relationship with him. He doesn’t see it as inappropriate to text her at an odd hour or talk to her late at night, unrelated to the children. Also, he said when it comes to his mother offering her to spend the night, it is “none” of his business even though his Mom told him to tell it to her. Also, less than 1% of women conceal pregnancies to that degree, so it would appear to be more than just simply a “flaw”.
He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning.
He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning.

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

so yesterday was mother’s day and we moved into with my dad who left my mom 12 years ago and have only been in contact with us this past christmas, his wife and his three other little kids. I’m not saying my mom was any better than my dad because she was a drunk who didn’t care about us this past 12 years. my brother dead at the end of January and he was the greatest. he was the one who took care of us this past 12 year even though he was only two years older than me. He would have turn 18 this past april. anyways my dad wanted us to celebrate our step mom. i like my step mom but i barely know her. she is nice and everything but still our dad left us 12 year ago because she was pregnant. i’m not forgiving them for that. i don’t know but i just blow up on them. my little sister was all nice and cozy with them but i’m not. i can’t forgive them. my brother is just like the in between, so i called up my mom who live in a different state with my two other sibling because they decided that they want to live with her. we talk for a long time and she has really changed. she is loving and she listen. ever since my brother died she been going to aa meeting and changing her life around. but i don’t want to forgive her too for what she put us through the last 12 years. she told me that she loved me and she was sorry. i just hanged up the phone on her. My step mom came in she told me that she understand that she wasn’t my mom and she would never try to be my mom. she said all she want was to be my friend. I don’t want to be bitter and angry anymore but i can’t forgive them. What should i do?
my brother who died wanted us to be a family and he forgave our parents for what they did. he had it the worst out of all the kids but i can’t understand how he can be so forgiving. i want to be like him but he was a much better person that i was.

I need a song about a father (preferably an alcoholic) who hits his wife for an assignment im doing. I have to make a soundtrack for a book I’m reading.

I really need to know what to do here because I can’t seem to get the proper help from the state or from other places I’ve called. Main problem is money as well as the mothers ability to lie and deny.

The problem is me and my wife were married for 3 years, together for 5. We were on oxycontin for a year and I got off of it because I didn’t want to stay on them and continue being sick. I just got medicine and quit, and she was going to do the same. She did not, but she also had legitimate back pain and had a prescription. She did say she was weening her self down.

A year later she is still doing them and even more than before. she had resorted to shooting them up for a while. She then supposedly went into the ER twice, once in each county near here, for drugs because she ran out and then spent 3 days in a rehab type place because she was going through bad withdrawals before her prescription was filled. She was then removed from the pain meds in march she told me and had to go cold turkey and one month after that she is now back to shooting them up, but says she’s not addicted and is doing them recreationally. She has physically shown me the track marks on her wrist, not her bicep. They are on her wrist and totally visible if you look at them. Her own mother even seen and felt them.

Now I’ve called DCF twice on her about this because she will leave the child at home with her grandma and not say anything, or leave notes before the child wakes up. She spanks her with a 5 gallon paint mixing stick because she said last time she used her hand that she broke a blood vessel in her pinky. She lives in a bad neighborhood now and has told me that she knows the 2 people across the street deal drugs (surprise! she knows and I wonder why) and that she has heard 2 times of the back door handle being jiggled like someone trying to break in. She loans her car out to drug dealers because it’s about to be repossessed and she figures that if they get arrested in it and it’s taken who cares, she scored pills or money. I could go on for a while but this is the more severe stuff. Her grandmother is upset that she leaves the child with her and that she will loan her car out.

Now the problem is that she is a great liar and good at deception. I’m really starting to think she’s a sociopath for her behavior over the last year. I dunno if she was always this way but she has gotten worse over the year. She had me and her mother arrested for battery. With me she thought I was cheating on her because of her own cheaters paranoia and attacked me. The arrest is gone, never went to court because my lawyer dealt with the state attorney. She lies about stuff she has shown and told me because she’s so paranoid I’m recording everything in person or on the phone. She swore I had our house bugged before we moved out of it and wouldn’t speak of anything unless we went out in the yard that she could get in trouble in court for like lying in court or her drug use.

She told my best friends gf she was still doing the drugs and that if we broke up again she’d tell the state I molested my daughter. She did try it but it didn’t work. She lies and lies and lies some more and always seems to get away with it.

When she was on drugs and dealt with dcf, she had a prescription but did way more so she always had a reason for having it in her system. Now she’s clean and I know she’s shooting up and she still shows up clean but she also isn’t getting it as much but craves for it like when she first got hooked and said the other day to her mom she almost sold some GI pills that looked the same because she was desperate. However now that she isn’t addicted where she will get sick, she still has visible track marks on her but nothing seems to be done by the state about it and the state always seems to rush things and doesn’t let you tell them the whole story in detail as I can do here.

My 4 year old daughter never wants to go back to her mother when I bring her back. She immediately gets depressed looking and says I don’t want to see mommy, I don’t love mommy, mommies mean, mommy hits me, etc. She will not really talk about it with me much because she just gets really quiet when I ask or starts saying what she sees trying to change the subject. The most I ever got her to say was “Mommy is mean and she hurts me when she hits me and I don’t want to see Mommy” It’s a struggle to give her back to the mother and always results in me staying for hours to calm her down because she doesn’t want me to leave. My wife has admitted to hitting her at least every 3 days because she acts up.
She has even called her own mother and said that she doesn’t know what to do with the baby and I would only do things like go get groceries or take a trip to best buy.

Really the list goes on and on but this is a good summary of the situation. I’ve tried to
What can I do? nothing seems to work. DCF doesn’t ever do Sphit and the courts don’t seem to care without video proof. But I have about 50 pictures of her passed out all over from her drugs. She refuses to admit she has a problem still and says she’s a good mother. She has moved 3 times in under 3 months because of her drugs and being kicked out. No one can see this but me and her close family and I was told a march-man act won’t work because she can’t be proven a danger to herself or others. I’ve tried once with a baker act for her behavior since she admits to me she was bi polar. I really am clueless on how to stop her and get her help. I don’t want to take my daughter from her, she did it to me for a few months and it wasn’t a happy time. I just want to have at least 50% custody like now but have her a normal mother who isn’t running around for smack.
I am not with her, we got back for 2 months and that ended with the arrest because she was STILL on drugs and I confronted her about it.

The only reason the divorce isn’t active is because of how she lied to get more custody so I stopped that dead in it’s tracks and proceeded to get more evidence, which the judge didn’t care about. Pictures to a judge I was told don’t seem to work because it shows a small moment of what is going on. But the pictures of her passed out over months time span I guess don’t show she’s an addict passing out sitting up all the time and sprawled across the bed funny.

As I said the biggest part right this moment is the money. I’m so broke I can barely get by because of saturation in my market. I want to get a PI and find out. I would love to tell the cops about the drug dealings but I dunno if they’d stake her out for that. friend of hers called once and told them where she was once and they couldn’t pull her over cuz she drove perfect.
I am also not letting my daughter go back because I have to be tough and tell her to get help. I know at this point if I gave her back that she wouldn’t let me see her for a while.

It’s funny she can tell me no but I can’t say no.

She uses my daughter as a pawn claiming she’s all she has left. The truth is she has nothing because what I didn’t take in the split she sold and spent the money and then wants me to pay her more. Most of the stuff she sold was mine anyway while I wasn’t there.

Would Letterman make joke about the fact that Obama’s mother was “knocked up” by a polygamist who was a drunk?

Would Letterman make a joke about the fact that Obama’s father that he worshiped, even though he only saw him ONCE, cut and ran on Obama to return to Kenya to his OTHER wife and die while driving drunk?

Hi
My husband and I have a three week new baby boy. It took us a long time and effort to get pregnant – we both wanted this child for a long, long time (been married 10 years). Now that the baby here I can’t believe how my husband is acting….He still works late, still enjoys relaxing with a few beers and then wants to handle a newborn – not drunk but he’s not himself. I find this behaviour shocking – didn’t he think his life would change? After 3 weeks he finally felt he was ready to change his first diaper but I wasn’t allowed to help…..I listened to my baby cry for 2 mins. before I forced my way in….he wont let me suggest anything. Not sure how to get through to him – he’s driving me crazy (even more crazy than the usual hormonal crazies I’ve been feeling ie. very protective of my new baby). Or, is it me? Do other husbands act like this? Feeling worried and nervous about this whole situation.
thanks for any advice

Mother is in a mental institution for a five-day evaluation. According to my mother, my brother informed her of his intention to send the baby home to be taken care of by my father, my husband and I and my mother while he is working (he’s a Coast Guard and has to be on the boat).

It has already been established by my brother and my father upon his arrival that the mother (19 years old, diagnosed with depression with suicidal tendencies and alcoholism, who has been hanging with people affiliated with gang members and my brother thinks she may have joined because is wearing their colors) is unstable and unfit to care for the child.

My brother also caught his wife cheating after coming home a day early from the boat.

She drinks Hennesey straight out the bottle and uses marijuana (we fear she may be on other drugs because she weighs about 85lbs – was always slim but now it’s very gaunt)

Question: Legally, can my brother send the baby to Michigan from Missouri?