How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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You can be positive if …….

1.. You refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to liquor.

2. You own a $3,000 machine gun and $5,000 rocket launcher, but you can’t afford shoes.

3. You have more wives than teeth.

4. You wipe your butt with your bare hand but consider bacon “unclean.”

5. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.

6. You can’t think of anyone you haven’t declared Jihad against.

7. You consider television dangerous but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.

8. You were amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.

9. You have nothing against women and think every man should own at least four.

10. You’ve always had a crush on your neighbor’s goat.

1) You refine heroin for a living,

but you have a moral objection to liquor.
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2) You own a $3,000 machine gun

and $5,000 rocket launcher,

but you can’t afford shoes.
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3) You have more wives than teeth.
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4) You wipe your butt with your bare hand,

but consider bacon “unclean.”
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5) You think vests come in two styles:

bullet-proof and suicide.
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6) You can’t think of anyone

you haven’t declared Jihad against.
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7) You consider television dangerous,

but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.
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8) You were amazed to discover that cell phones

have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.
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9) You have nothing against women

and think every man should own at least two.
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10) You’ve always had a crush

on your neighbor’s goat.

About a year ago, I was married to a man who lived his life on the outside as if he were a bible thumping god fearing holy man, who, within the confines of his wall cussed, drank, used drugs, and talked as if the world owed him something. He blamed all of his transgressions on others or on his parents even though he has no idea what it is like to truly be abused like I was. I couldn’t take it after about 5 years of marriage because not only could I not stand the jekhyl and hyde persona, he would also try to tell me that the failures in our marriage was because I was not a good “godly” wife, and that if I would ask anyone in our congregation, they would tell me that it was my duty to obey him and wait on him hand and foot. I would take care of the children and keep them out of his hair completelly, I would clean the house and cook for him, bring him his food to the couch where he camped whenever he wasnt at work, which every 8 months, he would get fired because of his attitude, and it would take him another 6 months to find a job. He did quit using drugs 3 years ago when we found out that the child I was pregnant with was going to have severe problems., but the anger and selfishness didnt go away with the use. When I finally started trying to ask the women in my congregation what I should do, he would get pissed because he didnt want me to tell them about how he calls me name or about how he threatens to physically hurt me, or about the times that he actually did put his hands on me. He only wanted me to tell them about the very few times that I would get so mad that I would throw whatever was in my hand in his general direction. Not that that made it right, i was still in the wrong. I finally go so depressed and anxious that I developed OCD, and eventually began talking to a friend that he didnt approve of, not that he approved of many. That finally led to our divorce and I am happy, but im sick about the church and how they all turned their back on me and hail him as a saint. His best friend is a deacon and is a known coke addict. My ex has slept with many women within the church and they all just seem to be blissfully happy with the corruption within the church walls, while Im not only rejected, but also talked about amongst them, infront of my children, as if I were a whore and a wild, reckless drug abuser. I will admit that I smoked pot for a brief period of time, and have since developed a loving, functional relationship with the friend that I was not allowed to have. I do not attend church because I dont want to take part of something that is so obliviously self centered just so that I can feel better about my eternity one day a week. The way I see it, if I live my life within my morals and boundaries, then I shouldnt worry, because I know who I am and I know that I have nothing to be ashamed of. I have asked forgiveness for my wrongs, and feel that I have nothing left to answer for. Should I just not worry and continue on with my life?

I love my sister but she is a nightmare when she has drink taken. She didnt drink for 2 years but she fell off the wagon at the weekend. mainly what she did was text and phone my other brothers inlaws and accuse my my brother and his wife of being basicially unstable – she also told a good few family secrets to these people who no one gets on with. She is now very upset, crying all the time – hates herself and is in dispair about her drinking especially after doing so well for so long. she is back at her AA meeting today. what can i say to her honestly that will help her. i hate her on one hand know she cant help it on the other and feel sorry for her. help please. ps when sober she is the nicest person one could meet. thanks all
is there anything i can say to put it all into perspective for her – she is so upset- and she hates herself so much. it was an embarressing stupid thing to do but she sure is suffering for it now thanks

1. Alcoholics Anonymous

2. Sodaholics Anonymous

3. Masturbators Anonymous

4. Still Using Q-Tips To Dig Too Deeply In My Ears Anonymous

5. Husband Beaters Anonymous

6. Wife Beaters Anonymous

7. Nose Pickers Anonymous

8. Procrastinators Anonymous

9. Couch Potatoes Anonymous

10. Eating the Same Old Things For Breakfast Anonymous

If so: would an online series of free audio mp3′s and books/articles for download be of some help, or is there enough “stuff” on the web already?

This is a “sore subject” with many family members and spouses, so please let me explain further:

I am a recovering alcoholic (sober 5 years). Before that, I put my family through “heck” (that’s not the word I want to use, but there’s this “community guidelines” thing Yahoo has…).

I am lucky to still have my family and life. Period.

I am a strong believer in the 12 step method and AA.

I was just wondering if there is anyone who would want something “positive” to help you or your family.

AA and counseling deal with the addiction.

What I can offer (ok: my wife has a lot to contribute as well…), is the same advice I’ve learned over the years about the other part: getting your life back.

A lot of “AA’ers” tell you: “Your life won’t be the same – get used to it.”

There’s some truth to that: there are marriage breakups AFTER the spouse gets sober: the person changes.

I am very thankful to MANY people who helped me change… for the better! Not “get used to it”, but “get over it.” Back into a better life than it was before. Links to their work, teachings and advice, all on one site, would have benefited me. Perhaps I can “give back” to just maybe help someone else.

Or, is there just so much “junk” out there on the web, no one would see or care?

My brother is a permanent residents to states. He has a wife and children back home, apply for citizenship but was deny because of criminal record. He recently apply for his wife and children to come to the states. Will he be deny that too? Which i hope he will! Can’t stand him! I heard that if you petition for certain family members to immigrate to the United States as permanent residents, you have to have high income , at least a driver license (which he doesn’t DWI) , car, exc. Which he doesn’t have ANYTHING. If he does get approve how long will it take?
Not a citizen of the untied states travel home every November ! Winter hes back home summer hes in the state

Hi. I’m looking for pointers on what to research to get help. Over the holidays my older brother went quite a bit crazy. Really, we almost called 911. He was very drunk, and exhibited depression, aggression, anger. Oddly though, before it got really bad, he kept bringing up mundane subjects repetitively. (He questioned a phone call I made asking him what his kids would like for xmas, at least 6 times, and increasingly angry about it. It was very odd. His wife said he does this often now. She accidentally gave him the wrong directions and he badgered her about it for hours — after she apologized.)

His son has an undiagnosed speech disability. Could my bro be the carrier of Aspergers, or is this simply depression/anxiety or alcoholism?

It’s bad, and I’m worried about his 2 young children. He doesn’t think he has a problem.
Thx.
It’s new behavior. He was always socially immature, inappropriate jokes, overly loud talking, etc. Things he should have matured out of. His youngest child is high-needs, and this has added stress to their marriage. Maybe it is alcoholism. You have to practice to drink as much as he did on Thanksgiving — about 3+ bottles of wine.

He left the seen with the three children & went home. The wife stayed behind & took te blame.
I recived a phone call & went to the house & found my nephew with cuts all over his face & my niece had a gash in her head. The baby was still in the car seat. I washed the children in the tub as they were coverd with muddy water from the rain water in the ditch.When I finished with the 2 & 4 year old, I got the baby out of her seat. She is two months old & only weighs 7.3 pounds, her little outfit was soaking wet. I washed & fed her, as my family member sat & drank beer. This is common with this family member to be so careless, & I feel I need to step in some way. They have been warned by the local police twice before. How do they explain cuts all over these children? I am scared to turn them in & tear the family apart. I know the right thing to do i to turn them in, but I don’t think I can.

We think she may be using Meth, but she isnt exibiting any of the signs. We did how ever find some little baggys that we think may be Meth. She isnt the type of person you would think would do this kinda thing, and she isnt exibiting any of the signs. We are thinking that maybe someone she knows tried to get her to try it and she just never did .She did have a brother that died from meth use, and we can not see her doing something like this. What do you all think we should do?