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Without giving some long story about all the things that have lead up to this, I really need advice on how to stand up for myself and get out of this relationship. I am 40 and my wife is 38. We have been married for 1.5 years. She had four kids and I had two. She is a recovering alcoholic and drug user. I knew this in the beginning and she was ok. When we got married she totally started to change into the meanest, self centered person I have ever meet. It is always a two way street I know. I have helped with all responsibilities so I do not want to hear that I need to do that. She is irrational and everybody that looks at her the wrong way or says something the wrong way is an a-hole or a B**** and she does it to me also. All the kids in the house, including hers, avoid her at all cost. I have started to worry about my kids coming to our house because I do not want them around that. To add to this she has been taking Vicodin and Xanex and Ambian for the past 3 months but, I am not allowed to judge her on this actions.

I need some advice on how to grow some man berries and tell her that it is over, and take my lumps since it will be all my fault in her eyes anyway. The children that are in this house do not deserve this and I feel like I am letting them down but, I need to be comfortable in my own house and that is not possible with her.

Help! I am young mom and wife I have 2 kids, no job or car I am in college and I go to church, I have an abusive husband, who I have left 3 or 4 times, now he has came from a abusive family, he has a history when he was a teen of abuse, he was a bully in school, but he always acted like he was a protecter not a abuser, he has held weapons to me, and he used to hit me on my arms and say he never did I cry for hours and he would just laugh at me, and he has emotionally hurt me for years, well some of that has stoped the hitting , except he is very verbally abusive and puts me down allot, he screams at me for everything now ,he wont work and is really mean to our kids he says he isn’t but he is my son is 5 and he is really scared of his dad my husband is a big guy. i am scared of him to, i love him though and i forgive him, but some things I cant handle like my sons which are his too afraid of him ,my oldest loves his dad, but is afraid when he gets mad, he has never changed a diaper or feed them its only been me, he says he loves me and he is trying to change I am really confused I dint want him to hurt our kids emotionally, I dint understand I cant do anything right with him he dont drink or do drugs his family thinks that its all me, my parents didnt want they was always having affiars and they drink and do drugs they gave me to him literally when I was 15 and he was 17 ,he hid me from his family , and took care of me for a long time before he became this way to me I was really mistreated by my mom dad and some of my dads family, I dint have support from friends, or my family, but now he makes me jump to his every com and and if I dint he will try to argue with me, I feel like a paddle ball with him One minute he hugs me the next he is cussing at me flip pin me off, he plays xbox360 all day and night then blames me for the house not being spotless, I am trying to wean my 1 year old from breast fading because I keep having panic attacks and they want me on anxiety meds and meds to slow my heart rate down he says I am a good wife and he loves me but he wont ever let me talk if i do he says I am starting, or to shutup or whatever or Just cuss at me, his family hates me they are mean to me when he is not around but he makes me give my oldest son to his mom for weeks and I am not aloud to say anything, he is a carpenter he has had past charges on him for assault with a deadly weapon on me, and i have been to demos tic violence shelters its weired because when me and my husband are not together I always feel so good about myself and have Alto of cofidence and don’t get aggravated and I feel like I am accepted by people not with my husband though, I feel worse he says I am pretty but then he says well not like in high school or well your not ugly I have 1 beauty awards I don’t understand he makes me feel good then bad does anyone think that I should leave I need help really! I am a christian so he always says sum bit to me and if he messes up he says hes sorry but then blames me. I don’t know what to do I feel like saying enough, I keep praying but my husband doesn’t see his problems, i have went to consolers but he wont go, he says that he is going to take my oldest son is we get divorced, I tell him that,then he says well go and get one like he doesn’t care! I am afraid that since no one now believess me and he seems so nice to everyone else what if hemight to take my kids I could not handle him having them they are my angels I love my kids there dad would just do that to hurt me I am afraid that he would just eventually turn tagainstanst me. if i leave him. I love him nothing I do please my husband only when I am his sex slave or waitress then is my husband happy , somtimes I pray that he would just get tired of me and leave. what should I do should I just stay for my kids and keep sumbting to him, or should I leave I feel like my heart has been chipped away so much by him I cant forget everything. I would not say anything that is false i would not sit up when he is asleep at 7:30am just to cry I am sorry about missspellings and punction errors i am tired havnt sletp in 20 hours and he was yelling so loud earlier he woke up our baby. he said he is trying to change but I dont see it,
does anyone think that this guy might love me at all ? I dont know when I think of when he is being nice and how he has helped me its not so bad, but then he can change in the blink of an eye, i stayed because i thought i could change him, and i am afraied

A friend of mine got married and bought a house about a year ago. The Marriage in its first year hasnt gone well, the biggest strain being that as soon as the house was bought he was bombarded by his wives family.

His now Step daughter, her husband, their daughter. Also his step son all moved into the house. None of them have jobs and dont pay board, food or utilities. The deal was that they needed help and would stay there while they looked for work, unfortunately noone is doing that. My friend leaves for work shortly before 9am and noone is out of bed. He also suspects light drug use in the house from the step daughters husband.

He’s discussed the situation with his wife and got nowhere. Money is getting tight and he’s contemplating divorce.

I’m not familiar with Georgia law. Does he have a legal foothold to stand on to either get the people out of his house or seperate from his wife or is he probably screwed?

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME AND CALL ME EVERY “PIG” AND “DOG” IN THE BOOK, please know that my wife Valerie and I haven’t been in love for a very long time now. She admitted it first and I admitted the same YEARS AGO. We are 55 years old, we’ve been together since high school and our wedding followed a month after our high school graduation. 37 years of marriage to be exact. We have a 35 year old son, a 31 year old daughter, a 29 year old son, a 23 year old son and 21 year old twin daughters. And let’s not even mention how many grandchildren we have.

Like I said, our love fizzled out maybe 10 or so years ago. But we were so busy wanting to impress and brag to our family and friends that we were a rare black couple who raised six kids(neither of whom turned out to be thugs, whores or drug addicts) and held down jobs throughout it all. Valerie and I had our share of jealous folks, but the truth was, our marriage was just for show after a while. We haven’t been in love in long time. We had sex last week…..that was the first time we made love in 2010! I’ve been seeing my mistress Anne for 3 years, THAT’S who I love and feel the marriage for. Anne treats me like a king and the fact that she’s only 41 years old(14 years my junior) is not an issue. Valerie has been playing “sugar momma” to some 32 year old man for about a year now.

She allowed her heart to get involved and the young man gave her the boot when she started discussing commitment with him yesterday. So, now she’s telling me not to leave her for Anne and she wants us to be husband and wife for real this time. I am her HUSBAND, not her “backup plan if something doesn’t work out with another guy”. She will not ruin my happiness with Anne or ask me to break Anne’s heart for her own selfishness. I kept Anne waiting for three years and it’s not fair to HER. If my wife can PROVE that she’s still in love with me after 37 years of marriage, I may give it a 2nd thought. What should I do?

For the past seven months, my mom has been dating a man and I dislike him very much. He does all kinds of drugs. I know he does meth, drinks alcohol, smokes PCP and cigarettes and uses heroin, but there’s a few more (I don’t know them). He is verbally abusive towards my 9-year-old sister. He yells at her and calls her nasty names. I found out he is a registered sex offender. When I told my mom, she said, “There’s no need to worry. Nothing will happen.”

My mother could leave him. I know that for sure, but she chooses to stay. She says she’s in love with him. To be honest, I think she’s just being ignorant. My wife and I are taking care of my sister. She already has a hard life. She’s blind, she uses a wheelchair, she can’t talk and she has asthma. My mother is paying little attention to her and I know she’s very afraid of our mom’s boyfriend. He has smoked around her, which, of course, is bad for her asthma.

Is there any way I can talk my mother into leaving this man? I’m scared something will happen if she doesn’t.

Short story: I am a snoop…he lies a lot.

Here is the long story: I moved in with b/f 1.5 years ago. Initially I told him I wasn’t ok with porn (my issue) he said he would take it off the computer and no more. I checked and found it. Trust started to decay. He said I could check when i wanted and it wouldn’t be an issue. A few months later I was looking at pics of us on his phone and saw a nudie pic of another woman. I got mad. He started locking his phone from me. His behaviors were strange, so I checked on drug use. Found heroin. Got caught looking. He said never again. I found it again. Then one day, I saw in a reflection his ex wife’s name on a text on his phone. He denied talking to her and said she sent him a text he never replied to (I wouldn’t have cared if he had been honest). A few months later I pulled phone records cause he was acting distant and kinda strange. He had been texting quite often.

I moved out. 3 months later, reached an understanding that no more lies about drugs, exes etc. Two months later, found drugs again. One month after that found drugs again the day after he lied to my face that it would be no longer.

I asked him to lock phone records so I couldn’t look cause I wanted to just trust him. He said if I ever asked to see texts he would show me. Then, two months ago he was looking at cleavage, suggestive pics of an old friend that he had saved on the computer. I looked at what he was doing since he didn’t come home that night and I couldn’t find him. When he got home, I asked to see in his phone. He refused even after I stopped moving. Then, after he deleted everything, he gave it to me. He still won’t tell me why the phone was an issue. He tells me his ex got remarried and it will never be an issue again, but I found she never got married, so I don’t know why the lie.

He works a lot, comes home at 2 AM most days after working all day at another job. Falls asleep on the couch 5 out of 7 nights. We do enjoy hobbies together sometimes and I am in love with him for some reason.

So, in order to work it out, I want to pull phone records again with his permission so I can try to figure out where he really was the night he didn’t come home and I want to see in the phone since it is always locked. Is it worth it?

this is a legal question I am posting. I came home from work to find all of my wife and child’s belongings gone. She moved out of state, several states away in fact, and took my daughter with her. I need to know what my legal recourse is here and whether or not it was in fact legal to kidnap our daughter. To answer any obvious queries: No, I do not have a problem with drugs or alcohol, No, there was never any abuse whatsoever happening in our marriage. She just wanted out and took my kid with her. I need to know what I can do. And is there any way I can get her and the child to come back to WA and not have to move all the way out to where they are just so I can see my daughter???

I have been married for nearly 6 years now. I am very unhappy! I believe in my heart that my husband has a drinking problem. He lies to me and his mother, sisters, etc about his drinking. I know when he has been drinking because his behavior changes dramatically, yet he denies it. I guess he thinks that he is putting one over on me or something? Naturally he gets very defensive when I try to talk calmly to him about it, it’s just impossible! There have been MANY occasions over the years where he has left our home alone to go out and “cool off” and has been gone all night drinking! He has gotten arrested for public intox once before. I can’t even tell you how many times he has come home from one of his drinking binges only to argue with me and than pass out in bed until noon or one the next day. When he wakes up he either doesn’t remember anything, or refuses to talk about it! His mothers, sisters etc……are getting fed up also and are starting to see exactly what I have been dealing with for nearly 7 years now. Fortunately we do not have any children and in all honesty, I refuse to have kids with someone who drinks! That is NOT the way I would want my kids to have to grow up. I am starting to feel like by constantly accepting his apologies, that I have basically let him think that his drinking is acceptable. I KNOW I don’t make him drink, but he sure does try to blame me sometimes. There have been a couple of incidents where he has really lost his temper and either hit a door or wall or gotten a little physical with me (twice in 7 years). He curses and yells at me when he is drunk and now he is even starting to do it to me in front of my in-laws! I really don’t want to be married to him anymore. I have to get my financial ducks in a row before I can leave. This is not meant to sound shallow, but I put my whole life with him as an Army wife first, and neglected to establish a career or get an education for myself. BIG mistake!!! I really need some solid advice here. This is not an easy situation! Should I stick it out and encourage him to go to AA or get out now? This is really a sad thing, because I know my marriage is on the brink of ending.
By the way, I am 36 years old, and feel like my life is just passing me by and that I am wasting my time!

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I was moved by the story of Mason’s family and how the head of this group was able to manipulate them into submission to him. do you find similar behavior in the history of your group?
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Free Manson ‘family’ members haunted by horror
By LINDA DEUTSCH, AP Special Correspondent Linda Deutsch, Ap Special Correspondent Sun Aug 9, 2:20 pm ET

LOS ANGELES – Forty years ago, they were kids. Vulnerable, alienated, running away from a world wracked by war and rebellion. They turned to a cult leader for love and wound up tied to a web of unimaginable evil.

They were part of Charles Manson’s “Family” and now, on the brink of old age, they are the haunted.

“I never have a day go by that I don’t think about it, especially about the victims,” says Barbara Hoyt who was 17 the summer of the Sharon Tate-LaBianca murders. “I’ve long ago accepted the fact it will never go away.”

The ones who aren’t in prison are scattered across the country. Some live under assumed names to hide their past from friends and business associates. Some have undergone surgery to remove the “X” that Manson ordered them to carve on their foreheads, showing they were “X”ed out of society. Some live with endless regret.

Those who escaped taking part in the spasm of terror that snuffed out at least nine lives would seem to be lucky. But their lives have been linked forever to one of the craziest mass murders in history.

“Manson made a lot of victims besides the ones he killed,” said Catherine Share, who once lived with the Manson Family under the nickname “Gypsy.” “He destroyed lives. There are people sitting in prison who wouldn’t be there except for him. He took all of our lives.”

It was 1969, the summer of the first moon landing. War was raging in Vietnam. Hippies were in the streets of San Francisco, the last bastion of the waning counterculture movement.

For many, that summer is remembered for one thing — the most shocking celebrity murders to ever hit Los Angeles. Mention of the Sharon Tate murders or the name Manson four decades later is enough to make people shudder.

On the morning of Aug. 9, a housekeeper ran screaming from a home in lush Benedict Canyon. She had discovered a scene of unspeakable carnage. Five bodies were scattered around the estate.

The most famous, actress Sharon Tate, 26, the pregnant wife of director Roman Polanski, had been stabbed multiple times. But there were four others that day and two more the next.

Abigail Folger, 25, heiress to a coffee fortune; Jay Sebring, 35, celebrity hair stylist; Voyteck Frykowski, 32, a Polish film director and Steven Parent, 18, friend of the caretaker, were found stabbed or shot in a bloody scene.

On the front door the victims’ blood was used to scrawl the words, “Death to Pigs.”

The city was thrown into a state of fear. If that was not enough, a similar murder scene was discovered the next night.

Wealthy grocer Leno La Bianca, 44, and his wife Rosemary, 38, were found stabbed to death in their home across town. A killer had carved the word “WAR” on Leno La Bianca’s body. The words “Helter Skelter” were written in blood on the refrigerator.

“These murders were probably the most bizarre in the recorded annals of American crime,” said Vincent Bugliosi, the former deputy district attorney who prosecuted the killers and wrote the book, “Helter Skelter.”

It would be more than three months before the name Charles Manson was linked to the crimes. And then the story became even weirder.

The discovery of Manson’s clan living in a high desert commune opened up the astounding story of an ex-convict who had gathered young people into a cult and ordered them to kill. His reasons still remain a subject of debate. Some say he wanted to foment a race war; others say it was senseless.

“It was a real-life horror story,” recalled Stephen Kay, who also prosecuted the Manson Family. “Manson is the real-life Freddie Kruger.”

The former prosecutors worry that Manson, 74, is becoming a folk hero to a new generation. He is the subject of several Web sites, and Manson souvenirs are sold online.

“Evil has its lure and Manson has become a metaphor for evil,” said Bugliosi.

Those cult members lucky enough not to have killed for Manson on Aug. 9-10, 1969 have spent decades trying to bury their past and free themselves from his grasp.

Some never succeeded. Sandra Good and Lynette “Squeaky” Fromme committed crimes later that they said were for Manson and went to federal prison.

When Good, 65, was paroled she moved near the maximum security prison that holds Manson, reportedly so she could “feel his vibes.” Fromme, 60, is due for parole this summer after serving 33 years for the attempted assassination of President Gerald Ford.

In 1969, there were perhaps 30 of them, a ragtag band of runaways and dropouts living on a movie ranch in the San Fernando Valley, all loyal to a sha

my wife and i have been married for 5 and a half years, and have a three and a half year old son. i recently found out that she had a 3 month affair 2 months in to our marriage. the only reason she admitted to it is because i found out from someone else and she could not lie anymore. also during this period of her affair she was sexual with another man who provided her with drugs. she swears that they never had intercourse but admits to other sexual behavior.
whats your opinion? forgive, or leave?
thanks

Should I stay with my wife and kids in the cold Midwest or go by myself to Florida?
My wife and I have been married for a three years. We have been together for six years. She has two young children from a previous marriage. Ages 7 and 12. The kids get on my nerves a lot, but I do love them. My wife and I have had a lot of issues over the past year. The problems caused by me and include: talking with other women online behind her back which include a woman who my wife had a threesome with at a party and emailing an ex-fiancee, smoking marijuana, and talking about moving to Florida even after she had told me she would never leave our home because her family lives here.

I believe my desire to move to Florida is the biggest issue currently. Right now I own a home in the Midwest (mortgage is under my name only) where we get 70+ inches of snow every year. I have recently been offered a job in Tampa which is where I have always wanted to live. The job pays 9K more than I make right now. I do like my present job (in the same field) but the job in Florida appears to offer more challenging work which would boost my career. I have been vacationing in Florida for years and I have a brother who lives there. When I was drunk recently I told my wife that I was moving to Tampa and I wanted her and the kids to come too. She got very angry and told me to go. She said she wasn’t moving because her family is here and she doesn’t want to leave them. That is the first big issue that has occured recently. The second thing I did to hurt our marriage further was to begin smoking a “legal” pot that is sold at head shops. I smoked some last week and became so high I couldn’t even stand up. My wife knew something was wrong with me so I told her what I did. She then kicked me out of the house. After a week of living apart she has agreed to give me one last chance. We have been going to marriage counseling together (twice) and I have been attending NA meetings.

My question is this. Should I stay here in the Midwest and try to make my marriage work or should I move to Tampa? The marriage counseling seems to be helping me more than my wife. She feels that the counselor is on my side and making excuses for my bad behaviors. She has said that I should go by myself and there is no reason for her to go there. She did however say that she will continue going. She also says that I open up to the counselor and people at NA meetings, but I don’t talk to her. Lately I have been trying to be more open and honest with her. The problem is though that the more I tell her the more mad she gets and the less she trusts me when I tell her about things I have done in the past. For the past week I have been a good guy with no drugs, lying etc. As I said I am trying now, but it may be too late.

I have reservations about leaving. They include: losing a wife I love, losing the only kids I have ever known as my own, having to most likely foreclose on my house, possibly taking a job that appears better but in reality is not. My desire to leave comes from the beliefs that: my marriage may be too far eroded to save, I hate the gloomy Winters here, more opportunity in the new job. Please provide any advice that may be helpful. Thanks.

We have been married for 9 years (together for 13). We have one child together and she has two from a previous marriage (13 and 17). Recently (over the past year) she has refused to talk to me regarding the problems with her kids. The older one was pregnant and miscarried, smoked, did drugs and drank. The younger one is drinking and doing drugs. I have asked my wife to look into to this and do something about it. I am not allowed to discuss this with her kids and when I try to talk to her about it, she tells me ‘I don’t want to talk about it’. I am frustrated and I don’t want my child growing up around this kind of environment. HELP!

MY estranged Wife left me saying that there were issues that were my fault, but I still don’t understand, we had issues just like any other marriage, but I never raised a hand in anger, I don’t drink and don’t drugs, and never cheated on her. She cheated on me and left me without an asnwer. How do you cope with that kind of lose?

(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

and I call 911.I am charged with assault on a female in my own home protecting my children on a school night.Then the deputies allow my drunk wife to drive her mother somewhere before bringing my wife back home.How can I be charged?Davidson county N.C.Shell is the name.

Ive been married nearly 27 years and have 2 great kids. The kids are still living with us although they are adults. I see them moving out in a year or so.

Throughout our entire marriage I have been unhappy with the relationship. Communication is poor and I’ve always wanted more interaction between us. I’ve brought this up countless times over the years and have always been told “I’m” happy. Our sex life has always been lacking, and she has admitted, she withheld sex purposely for the first decade of our marriage as a way to control. Although I wanted out of the marriage long ago, I would never leave my kids. Now they’re adults.

My wife has developed an alcohol problem and recently confided that it goes back nearly 10 years. It took me a long time to fully grasp how bad it was. She hid it very good. She was always proud of her petite physique but now she has an alcoholics look, skinny legs and arms, big torso and behind. Not too attractive. The entire family has found hidden bottles and other evidence of her alcoholism. She has lied more times then I can remember about her drinking.

Ive warned her for the last couple of years that I will leave if she can’t get a handle on this. Ive tried to bring her into rehad but she needs to want it herself.

I keep thinking Im abandoning her and the family if I leave. But I just dont think anything will change, and in fact, they will just continue to deteriorate.

Im still on the fence, but wonder if I should be. I would appreciate any guidance, suggestions or helpful words. Am I on the right track here?

Unhappy in marriage.
Ladyren, you hit the nail on the head. I dont believe Ive ever experienced the “four biggies” in my marriage. Also, FYI, I was married before I reached the current drinking age, so Im not over the hill yet. I also compete in a sport at a national level that allows me to build and maintain an amazing physique. However, my wife has never once said I look good. Although this is very difficult for me, I know whatI need to do.

Married for over one year now, I have come to realize that my wife is not what she seemed. She is immature, irresponsible and and overspends. I had to take away (my) credit cards finally. She had a hard time finding work so I supported her ( and her kids). The first year was really hard for all of us, but my wife became a drunk and I had to send her kids to live with her parents while she sobered up. Now she is sober and is working making some money but its not enough to support her own bills. Kids stayed with grandparents cause I literally could not afford her and them. My wife decided to stay with me instead of her kids. She does not get along with her folks and has no job prospects where they live. She says that she wants to stay with me until she gets her education for a better paying job and then raise the kids. Needless to say, we are having problems. The biggest one for me is that I cannot believe that my wife is such a terrible mother. When we met, it did not appear that way. Them we married and I saw how much of a truely inactive parent she was. Truth be told, I kinda jumped into this marriage. Fell in love too quickly without knowing the person. Stupid. And I am no kid! I do love her but her abhorrent parenting skills and the money thing and the stint with alcoholism (she went to rehab) is too much. I go back and forth but ultimately I do not respect her anymore.