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I’ve done a lot of things in my past that I’m ashamed of. well to get to the point the woman that I married all she ever dated was married men or drug dealers.She is 41 and I’m 37. The married men she dated was either 48 to 60 and she dated some about her age before.Me and her started off as friends we came best friends and then we became lovers. she was in a relationship with kids father for like 20 years and she had 3 kids by him he sold drugs and he constantly cheated on her so she left him alone and moved on her with her life and he moved on with his.I feel he really damaged her and after that she just went down the tubes. A lot of the men she was involved with either married or single drink liquor and that’s all she does before we got married and when I was just her friend I use to try to encourage her to find her own man and tell her she didn’t have to settle or drink all of the time. She use to party and hang out with her friends all of the time. These married men use to give her money take her shopping and take her out of town on trips.She use to lie to one of them and I can never understand it even till this day why did she have to lie to a married man about her seeing someone else when he was married.I remember 1 time we went to church on new years eve and she told me she was ready to stop dealing with her ex who is still married she wanted to get out of it but she didn’t know how to so I would listen and try to give her advice. she always wanted to get married and she know that she’s getting older.Like I said before she has 3 kids by the same guy and he is a drug dealer but they both moved on their kids are 24 19 17. The 24 year old is married and out on her own the 19 year old is out on his own so the 17 year old and the 5 year old are living with us but the 17 year old is pregnant.Her fourth child is 5 years old and by a older married man that passed away.Me and her use to live next door to each other but I never noticed her like that because I was married but me and my ex was separated I knew with all of my heart and soul that my marriage was over with my ex I was married to her for like 16 years and I was with her for like 2 or 3 years before we got married and I have 3 kids by her. But like I said my current wife noticed me when I was with my first wife she thought I was attractive and she liked the way I took my family to church and that I was young I own my home I worked and that I had my own car. like I said she never tried to approach me and I never did the same until my 1st wife left our home and later down the line we was strictly friends because I was hurt over my 1st wife and that was all I could think and talk about.I wanted and tried to save my marriage but my first wife told me that it was over.So that’s when I started talking to my my current wife who was my next door neighbor.Since me and current wife been involved she has slowed down with the drinking she don’t hang out or party with her friends anymore if she does we do it together and that’s every once in awhile. she goes to my church and I go to hers we are best friends we are always together.I love her and I know she loves me.She gave up her house because she was renting and I own my home I have my own car so does she and we both have good jobs we have her two daughters staying with me and I love them like my own and my kids gets along with her kids. I feel I’m a good guy like I said I’m not perfect I go to church I work have my own car I don’t run the streets I want us to be happy and I want this marriage to last till death due us part.But her past bothers me it’s like how do I know she won’t do to me what she did to those other guys.Her mother and her daughters feel that I’m good for her because they seen the type of men that she has been with and they feel that I’m what she needs but I’m scared to death because I don’t wanna get hurt.Does my wife see the difference between me and the other men that she dealt with? Has she been out there to long to realize what she has in me? Am I wrong for throwing her past in her face? It also bothers me I’m close with my parents so I told them some things about her past.They don’t like it or her especially my dad he says that she is a street woman and a alcoholic he doesn’t want me with her because he feels ever since I been with her that I started drinking more and that I’m not the same person any more since I’ve been with her and that bothers me because shes my wife and they are my parents but she comes 1st. They felt the same way about my 1st wife because of the things that I told them about her.So they stayed in my 1st marriage and now they are trying to do it again so I don’t talk to them as much now and don’t keep them in my business like I use to so I guess that’s the reason I guess they don’t like her.

My wife and I have been married for 7 years and I have a small problem with coming to fast during sex so I have to fore play and that’s fine I love to fore play but I would like to stay longer inside her so that she enjoys more of me and I know I will also enjoy it to. Is there something that I can buy at the drug store over even at your local Wal-Mart? I have no problem getting it up that’s not the problem its coming to soon. Now this doesn’t happen all the time honestly it happens when we go without it too long like me waiting until her period is over then I get it back. And I do Not Rush Her during her period I wait with I kind heart til its done I just hate when I come to quick. I also would not mind Like I Need it but we men have one thing on our body women got 3 things on there’s any way I would not mind it changing the size because I know bigger is better. Me pleasing my self before hand makes her mad and if I ask her that makes her mad so that has to be a surprise when she feels like it. And if we do it more then once she gets a yest infection or a UTI then its hell to get rid of it so we can enjoy. What can I take that will work? I have tried Viagra it works with getting you up which again I have no problem with but it does not work with me coming too soon. Just in case my wife is 28 and I am almost 30 if that helps.
okay I do not go fast and I have tried a condom it does not work it makes her dry out faster. If I go too slow then its less enjoyable for her. That’s why I would not mind being bigger please help me please. By the way during her period was her idea it hurts too much and I hate the shower I do it but hot water don’t last long. She bleeds A LOT. For 3 days then light. And another thing I am not giving her yeast infections that she gets because of not enough lube and if we do it more then once I have to wait a week because she is too darn sore. I can only have 2 to 3 times a week that’s why I want to last longer!!!!!

Sorry the spelling is so bad I am dyslexic. I have been separated from my wife for 4 months now and we have been trying to work thing out, The background of our problems is that she has an addiction to sleeping pills and spends money uncontrblaley. I know what you are going to say she had these problems before we got married. I never knew just like I never knew about her bankrupsey she had. So I have some very large trust issues with her. She has gone in to concealing for the drug problem it has got better I believe. She just recently agreed to start living on a budget and not spend every daller she makes. But with all the promises she makes she never seams to follow threw on them and I am left trying to put a life back together and cant move on in other direction because of this stale mate in our marriage. I know we said for better or worst but I don’t feel that she is giving it her all to receiver from the drug problem and fix her money troubles. When do you cross that line that enughff is enughff. Any advice would be great.

For those who haven’t seen the email… As Ed McMahon would say “This represents every possible known way to tell if you’re a Taliban.” I bet Johnny Carson could think of a few more, how about you?

1. You refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to liquor.

2. You own a $3,000 machine gun and $5,000 rocket launcher, but you can’t afford shoes.

3. You have more wives than teeth.

4. You wipe your butt with your bare hand, but consider bacon “unclean.”

5. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.

6. You can’t think of anyone you haven’t declared Jihad against.

7. You consider television dangerous, but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.

8. You were amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.

9. You have nothing against women and think every man should own at least four.

10. You’ve always had a crush on your neighbor’s goat.

1. You refine heroin for a living, but you have a moral objection to beer.
2. You own a $3,000 machine gun and $5,000 rocket launcher, but you can’t afford shoes.
3. You have more wives than teeth.
4. You wipe your butt with your bare left hand, but consider bacon “unclean.”
5. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.
6. You can’t think of anyone you HAVEN’T declared Jihad against.
7. You consider television dangerous, but routinely carry explosives in your clothing.
8. You were amazed to discover that cell phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.
9. You’ve often uttered the phrase, “I love what you’ve done with your cave.”
10. You have nothing against women and think every man should own at least one.
11. You bathe at least monthly whether necessary or not.
12. You have a crush on your neighbor’s goat

when I was a kid, I had a childhood friend who’s Father had an affair (on his wife) with my Mother. It was passionate and went on for a couple years. It ended when his wife became pregnant. However, he was famed sex addict and stand up comic, also a drug user. He eventually died of drug abuse years later, when I reunited with my friend over facebook.
I remember telling him, how his mother enabled his behavior and how I would never be with a man like that.
then I met another gentlemen friend, (around his sixties) who recently got married. Everytime I hang out with this guy, he hits on me. I asked him what his wife thought about his philandering ways and he said and quote: Im like a kid in a candy shop. Theres no shortage of lonely women. I party and do whatever the fuck I want and she lets me”

I met this women, shes very nice later and very in Love with this man.
I know so many people that cheat it DISGUSTS me.
It doesnt seem right….
anyways, would a marriage like that work out. Giving your man his freedom??
As long as he comes home to YOU ,right????
because I MIGHT end up with a guy like this…..and I judged my friends mom so harshly( shaking head) Ironic huh??…

Ok I need a few guys and girls opinion on my issue.

I am married to a great women I love for about 4 months now and I just happen to catch her on a couple lies and not sure if I should approach her.

Today while my wife was out of the house I was borrowing her laptop since my is in the shop, when I went online I hit the wrong website from the drop down screen which was her “cafemom.com” website profile, and being both curiouse because I wanted to see what her profile looked like and also because let’s be honest people are generally snoopy. I started to look around and notice 3 Q&A posts she made before her had even met at which time she was briefly married to a very abusive and drug doing man.

She had posted these three things during their marriage which I had recently inquiring about before I found these post today which are in direct contradictory to what she told me, IE lied.

1. She was asking other mothers on the site about early pregnant symptoms because she had just gotten off the pill and that her and her then husband were trying to conceive. It stated that she was having and was hoping to be pregnant. They never did get pregnant. Now fast forward to our marriage we are also trying to conceive and a few weeks ago I asked her if her and her ex husband had ever tried or thought they were pregnant she sad no they never tried . Which is an obvious lie after today’s findings.

2. Another posting was on an adult issue of her just getting a brazilian wax and asking the mothers how to take down the swelling and pain from it she did it for her ex honeymoon. Now fast forward to last summer of 2009 we got into a discussion that I have never experienced that and wanted to and she said she has never done it and does not want to because she sad it would hurt to much. So here I am catching her in another lie. And I guess what also makes me mad is that she was willing to do that for a very abusive man on their honeymoon but did nothing but lie about it to me and on top of that we had a very unromantic honeymoon, I guess it just adds to the fact that she was willing to do something sexy for him but not me.

3. The last post which of course me being a man which hurt my ego as well as another lie, was she posted a question trying to figure out what the average mans penis size was because her then husband said that he read the average was 4.5 inches and which she also adds a comment “he is nearly twice that size” and has a “whopper” in his pants. Any man smaller then that of course would have his ego hurt, since I am not small and I differently larger the average closer 7, but she has said when I asked her what the biggest she has had ever been with that she said she could not remember and that mine was. Again a lie and I know the 99% of women most likely do lie about this to save face. But I personally want honesty, and give honesty when asked questions. So I feel lied to and not even remotely interested in having sex with her because this ex husband had a huge penis she was bragging about and was getting a Brazilian wax .

Thanks for hanging in there, but my question is after finding out about these lies should I approach my wife about them? I know I was in the wrong for looking at and snooping through her profile and it will start a fight just based on that.But she has me second guess ever thing she has ever told me. I have caught her in 3 lies and want to get them off my chest, but what good will it do? Will it? Was she just blocking out those times because she did not want to remember them because he was abusive and she always said it was a mistake marring me?

Help I need guidance from both sexes please.
Thanks for the huge responds,many different view points.

I guess the reason why I did not bringit up right away is becuase I do not want to fight about it but just have a simple talk about it. Which I may still do.

I am normally not in insure man but I guess I have a lot of hard feelings towards her exhusband for doing the things he did to my wife who is the love of my life. So I guess stumbling upon her old posts just made me upset she lied and that that puke bag of an exhusband was large and she was willing to wax for him.

I would never want her to do anything she would not want to do. And she knows that.

And at the end of the day we have a wonderful marriage and I know she does not like even talking about him at all. And wishes it never happened. So I kind of think that is why she did not tell me the truth, she does not want it to be the truth and puts it out of her mind as such.

I guess I will sit on it for now and think about it. I did break her trust with snooping.
Also a correct I made a typo “she always said it was a mistake marry him” not “me”.Sorry

I am nottrying to bring up the past and hold her accountable becuase God knows we both have done stupid things. But just wondering why I cannot get the truth when asked.

Thanks

Before I met my wife,I had gotten someone else pregnant.she was a world of trouble come to find out.well my wife and i have been married over 3 yrs.we finaly got my daughter from her mother.she was bad on drugs and kept leavingmy daughter.well i haven’t gotten her before because my wife and i ,well i guess hate each others guts.i work and pay all the bills,and she constantly tell s me how worthless i am.she badgers me to her best friend all the time.I just cant take it anymore.But now I have this other daughter that is mine and don’t want her raising.We have had a son together, hes 2 yrs.hes my life.It kills me.I work out of town and when I get home I have to get a hotel to get rest.She has made me want to hurt her but i leave.She calls me a coward.I would rather leave than the kids hear or see bad things.I have never hurt her, verbaly maybe,but not physicaly.I just need help on what to do.Quit and change jobs might be my only answer.I have to raise my daughter.

First of all I’ve never been married but I’ve had my share of roommates that are troublemakers. One would come home drunk and get into fights with the other renters and keep me awake all night.
It seems like when you live with someone (roommate or wife, husband) if that person has problems drugs, alcohol or is just crazy your life ends up being hell. If you are married to that person it’s worst because you love them and so you stay and try fix things.
Thanks for all the great ans. I’ll be choosing the best one in a few days.
I think we have to choose our partners and friends by looking at their hearts. We might meet someone who’s beautiful and want them, but are they someone we can live with and get along with day to day?

So… Amanda and i were dating for almost three years… I have a trust issue… My whole life i have been let down… My father turned into a Heroin addict when i was 15 and beat me regularly before that. My mother abandoned me when i was only 4. My grandparents took in my little brother and halfheartedly took care of me. I have a trust issue! I have never been able to trust people, i try to but my mind races with negativity. I love Amanda very much and do not want to lose her forever! Am i doomed to be alone forever! Am i a victim of my upbringing? We have dealt with many different issues in our time together. I got into a fight with a friend of mine who also knew my girlfriend, he went home told his wife and she began sending me messages about some guy that my girlfriend supposedly hooked up with in some romantic way. I asked her about it and she denied it… I tried to leave it to that. A week or two ago, we got really drunk and in a huge fight… Well i stole her phone and wrote the guy a message. The message was written to try and look like she wrote it… It said, ” I told john everything what do i do?” So i never gave her the phone back or told her that i did that… She checked her phone records and found out that i did have her phone and she asked me about it… I told her that i did take the phone and that i did not know where it was… She shows up at my home and packs all of her stuff while i am at work… I get home at 2:30a.m. and she is asleep in my bed… I woke her up and she broke up with me! We are on some weird break right now and i do not know what to do! She told me last night that if someone were to ask her on a date that she would go! I have begun talking to a therapist and working on my trust issues. I feel like such an idiot because i feel like i had the greatest woman on earth and i threw it all away due to my trust issues! CAN ANYONE HELP ME~

I am a 16 year law enforcement officer. After a 10 year military career. I married my second wife after meeting her at the job 12 years ago. I have been upset over only three things in our marriage. Frequency of sex, her lack of cleanliness in the home, and how she spends money. She retired from the job from 2002-2009. She has just returned to work and she argued with me over something very trivial yesterday. I have felt since then that I would rather be alone. She is a decent woman just lazy.I cook, I wash clothes and clean. My imperfections are that I get angry if a week goes by without sex. I do not talk much about matters that I think are trivial. (winner of dancing with the stars etc) A few others but since I won’t address all of hers in this forum I will minimize my own details. My children are taught from a spiritual standpoint and parental authority is absolute in my mind. She calls her mom by her first name often. I can handle our differences but the trivial matter we argued about was that I spent 40 dollars of her money inadvertently. I pay 600 per rmonth for her car every month since 2007. I pay the mortgage, cable,phone,gas, electric,1/2 food, and insurance. This has incensed me and I daydream of my own condo, my big screen and peace of mind. The company of a woman is a simple matter for me yet I do not cheat, ever. I would rather end a relationship and pursue a woman freely than sneak around. We have three children and it will cause damage to them for sure. She is behaving just like her mother and I do not care for her too much. I do not want to bring up a whole bunch of faults because I can actually deal with those. The laziness is tough because the reciprocal value is non existent. Saturday I cooked, I had the kids clean the house along with me. I took the kids to the park and I even had my daughter’s friend over to make it 4 kids to work with. yet when she arrived home she had to do nothing but sit on the couch and watch her favorite shows on a 65 inch tv on a reclining couch. I even washed, and folded her clothes. It was this day she decided to bitch about 40$ spent. when I apologized she kept asking why I did it and why did’nt I think or let her know.
Any women out there in need of 6’5 256 lb, all male, who cooks, cleans, works full time, makes 110k a year, no gambling, moderate drinker, non smoker, no drugs, faithful, spiritual ( no church but a lot of bible), non-yeller, never has hit a woman, plays bingo with mom type of guy?

My fiancé and I are saving up money to hire an attorney to attempt to gain full custody of his 8 year old son from a previous marriage. I love my fiancé and his son, we also have a baby on the way in August and I know the best situation for his son would be to live with us. His ex wife screwed up his credit and somehow got full custody of their son while he was away in the coast guard. They were supposed to get joint custody and he signed some papers before he left, but somehow she got full custody and now he only gets his son every other weekend.

His ex wife is a stripper now, parties a lot, does drugs and is very selfish. She has no interest in spending time with her son or teaching him anything and has even hit him in the past, but wants custody because of the child support she gets (which I’m sure is not spent on her son because we have to buy him everything and spend what little precious time we have with him helping him in school because he’s falling behind, instead of getting to spend quality time doing fun things with him.) Their son doesn’t even live with the ex wife; he lives with her sister and mother. She refuses to stay in contact with my fiancé, we never know where she is and she even tried to move to another state a while back without telling anyone.

I want to know what I need to be doing now in order to have a solid case against his ex and prove she’s an unfit mother when we take her to court. I recently found out that she has not even been claiming the child support she’s been receiving for like 6 months in order to continue to get welfare benefits. His son needs to finish his childhood years in a healthy environment with loving parents and I’m worried that we might not win the case because I know his ex will fight it just because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself and is a child. Her sister, which is taking care of their son now, is a good person and doesn’t even like her sister so I think she might testify for us in court and I think she’d agree that it would be best for the son to be living with us. We haven’t talked to her about this yet because I don’t want it to get back to the ex wife what we’re planning until we can actually afford to make it happen.

(We take sour sips
From life’s lush lips
And we shake, shake, shake the hips
In relationships)

Stomp out this disaster town
You’ll put your eyes to the sun and say,
“I know you’re only blinding to keep back
What the clouds are hiding.”

And we might’ve started singing just a little soon
We’re throwing stones at a glass moon

[Chorus}
Whoa oh, we're so miserable and stunning
Whoa oh, love songs for the genuinely cunning

Whoah-oh...

We keep the beat
With your blistered feet
And we bullet the words
At the mockingbirds singing
Slept through the weekend and dreaming
Of sinking with the melody
Of the cliffs of eternity
Got postcards from my
Former self saying:
[The Carpal Tunnel Of Love lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]

“How’ve you been?”

And we might’ve said goodbyes
Just a little soon
(Stomp out this disaster town)
Whoa, Robbing lips and
Kissing banks under this moon

[Chorus] [x2]

Ohh…

(It was ice cream headaches and sweet avalanche!)
(When the pearls in our shells got up to dance!)
(You call me a bad tipper of the cradle!)
(Tired young fawns on hunter’s lawns!)
(We’re the has-beens of husbands!)
(Sharpening the knives of young wives!)
(Take two years and call me when you’re better!)
(Take tears that are mine, find yourself wetter!)

[Chorus]

Woah..ooo!
We’re so miserable and stunning
Whoa oh, love songs for the genuinely cunning

Man Eli I hate U.
And when I think of U.
I think of U as a monster.
And when I do I go eat at Red Lobster.
Trying to keep my mind clean.
Man Eli u were so fuc*** mean.
I’ve had it with all those abuses.
U beat me up so bad and u left me bruces.
Remember that time U asked me to be your wife.
I said no and u threaten to cut my throat with a knife.
Man Eli I was tired living that life.
I was at the mall and I hear my cell phone ring.
I dont answer your call so u can hear my voicemail sing.
Just leave a message after the tone.
I didnt call u back because I didnt like your tone.
When all u cared about is your friends and illegal drugs.
Thats why I didnt like your stupid friends thugs.
When Weed and Heroin made u paranoid.
After that u wanted a steroid.
In our relationship there were emotional and tears.
I was so stressed out I had to drank me 6 beers.
Time goes so fast but I have to let go the past.

Everyone around her including her own family can see that she is destroying her life and the life of her 2 children. She blames everything on the husband but she can not tell him what it is that he has done to cause her to want out of the marriage. She has disconnected herself from her children and asked for a divorce. She does seem to think that by asking for a divorce and having the husband served with papers is painful and destructive to him. It is as if she is a totally different person that he married. The body is the same but the spirit living in the body is someone that he does not know. No history of marital problems no drugs no abuse nothing at all just one day the wife up and asked for a divorce and said tha she no longer wants to be married. What can be done besides let her go, sell the house and move on, knowing that one day she will hurt very bad for what she has done but she can not see it.

I met my wife 4yr a go while i was in army. She was 18 i was 28. Wellshe came to US with student visa i married her we didn’t have church wedding we just got married in court. Anyhow, i was in terrible marriage before and my ex was 6th grade drop out addicated to drugs and spending all my money. And my new wife was young educated sweet and hot she is from Brazil also she did everything i asked her to do she was so sweet the she was the one who was commuicating with my ex so i could keep good relationship with her for the seek of our daughter. Now that she finished college got job at this Bank she changed she says i should deal with the ex ’cause that’s my problem also she says that i’m to conroling since i don’t let her wear whatever she wants and spend hours in hair salon. I was always like this she never had problem with why now. BTW she didn’t use me to get creen card she already had one.
Now she applied for it before we got married and she had before we got married so she didn’t use me that way.
Every American person meets her tell her to leave and that ihave to many bages and that i’m too old for her, but hat was always and it didn’t change her bef.

My friend, “Kim,” and I were at a mutual friend’s birthday party. According to our mutual friend, “Tony,” (who was married but his pregnant wife was out of state visiting her parents) Kim “is an alcoholic,” and “has a drinking problem.”

Tony then bragged to everyone about having “wore that ass out.”

He tried to take Kim out another two times but she showed no interest in him and told me she was “not attracted to him” and blamed the night on “alcohol.” She said she “wished” that I had stayed with her that night.

I do not approve of Tony’s actions, but he is one of my best friends, as is Kim. But, I’m irritated that Kim continues to place herself in such situations.

Should I confront Tony and tell him he is a jerk for intoxicating a friend and taking advantage of her?

Kim claims “nothing happened that night” b/c when Tony took his shirt off, she found his manboobs, excess skin, and hairy chest and back to be extremely unattractive.

I have feelings for Kim and she and I recently began seeing each other but her alcoholism and bad decision-making (as in the scenario above) make me hesitant to want to be with her in the long term.

What should I do?

Kim was going through a lot in the past year-both her parents were drug addicts who had committed suicide within months of each other, her BF had been cheating on her, she had lost her job and her apartment, and she was living with friends.

Tony stopped drinking but kept pouring drinks for Kim. She became extremely intoxicated and Tony asked me to leave and said that he would drop off Kim in the morning (I had been her ride to the party). I looked at Kim and she complained that I was pressuring her to leave (it was around 3 AM) and that she just wanted to stay and kick it.

So, I left, thinking that she wanted to be intimate with Tony.

As I drove off, Tony tried to grab Kim but she walked away from him. Some days later, I found out that Tony had kept pouring drinks for Kim and she had become even more intoxicated.

If you are looking for a clean and Christian alternative to the hedonistic R&S prom, you should consider attending our party tonight at my church.

A lot of you have expressed a desire to meet my 8 year old daughter Mirela. The amazing thing is that most women on this board will actually learn something from HER!

Also, my beautiful weaker half Nermina will be there as well. She is in charge of making the goodies, and I think you will find her baking delicious. Every day she proves that a true European national is the best wife a man can have.

There are a few rules that we will ask you to abide by. First, only one alcholic beverage for all persons over 21. I would encourage those of you with kids to let them at least have one night with you where you are not intoxicated. It will do wonders for your relationships.

Also, if you are married we ask that you actually bring your spouse to our party. Although I’m sure swinging is very exciting to most of you, we will stick to the biblical definition of coupling.

We will also have a fire hose on hand for those that decide to engage in over enthusiastic displays of affection. How about showing a little decorum, for just once in your life?

You have all been nothing other than altruistic and sweet natured towards my family, and we look forward to providing you some leadership and a night of fun.

Blessings,

Kermit

Don’t know any other section to put this in, so here goes….

Anyway – married for 12 years, 2 kids. Wife has had an alcohol problem in the past. She has gone to treatment (AA and other groups). This was about 5 years ago. For the most part its all good.

However, she seems to have a “fall-off-the-wagon” incident about once every 12 to 18 months. EVERY time it happens, I get the same “I’m sorry, it’ll never happen again…. I’ll do anything not to loose you….” speach. She gradually rebuilds the trust in our marriage until the next binge comes along.

Most recent one was this past Sunday at a neighborhood cookout. I didn’t even really know she had been drinking (thought it was just Coke – without the Captain…).

Anyways – I’m tending the grill and all of a sudden she is stumbling all over the place in front of many of our friends and neighbors ! I get her cousin to help me get her into the house and put her to bed.

I am left to “explain” that she’s not feeling ..
well to our friends and our oldest son. Also left to attend to the kids and clean up after the cookout / etc…. OK, whatever.

As we are finishing the clean-up (me and a couple neighbors) – who comes stumbling down the driveway?…. I quickly got her turned back into the house and into the bedroom.

After I got the kids in bed, I went to check on her…. There is blood on the floor and in the master bath ! From what I can tell she got up to either use the bathroom or to puke and ran herself nose first into the door-jam ! I just leave it for her to clean up the next day.

Bottom line – I don’t know if I can forgive this last episode. She has already lied to her family, our son and some friends about how she got the busted lip, black eye, and scrape on her nose !

She gave me the whole, “Never do it again” B.S. the following day and for the past 2 days.

I feel like it only happens about once a year, but also like ….
I’m with a spouse that cheats (with alcohol, not another person)…. then promises never to do it again, yet ALWAYS does it again.

I love her dearly, but no longer trust her… her words have very little meaning b/c I’ve heard it all at least 4 to 5 times before.

Does ANYONE – know of any couples that have overcome something like this?

Any ideas? Or am I just putting off the enivetiable by not leaving now?

I’m afraid to leave b/c of the kids…. her abuse is not frequent enough, nor severe enough for me to have a chance in hell of getting full custody.

So, she’d likely get the kids AND the house and I’d just be F’d in the end anyways by the family courts….

Just wondering what to do ?!?!

I’m just going to do heroin and klonopin everyday til I die. I have nothing leave for I can’t get a wife, or even a gf, and I’ll never have kids. Is anyone else in my situation and doesn’t know what to do!??