How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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My marriage is just one month old. My in-laws have heard a rumour that I am a drug addict which I am not. I told them I am ready for any kind of test. But still they have not sent their daughter to my house. Now that they have even asked me to stop talking to her on phone. My wife has confidence in me and believes me.

My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. I love her dearly and would be completely lost without her. We’ve been together for nearly ten years and I can’t imagine my life without her. The problem I have is with her family. They all have serious personal issues that they won’t do anything about.

Her mother suffers from depression or has bi-polar or something, but refuses to acknowledge she has a problem and therefore won’t seek help. She has tried to commit suicide before, but refuses to go to any couselling, get help or take medication. The reason being – “I don’t have a problem, everyone else has the problem” Whenever she visits I have to be watchfull of everything I say, so as not to upset her or make her feel unwelcome. She has constant mood swings and is a very difficult person to be around.

Her father is an alcoholic. He drinks heavily every day and has numerous medical ailments, but that won’t stop him drinking. Last month, he had another surgery and now has a colostemy bag. He was told by his surgeon to stop drinking but he won’t. His drinking is one of the main reasons his marriage ended to my wife’s mother.

Her older brother is a border line alcoholic who has become violent when he’s drunk. He has also started using drugs occasionally.The violence and drug taking has only started since his relationship with his girlfried ended. Before that he was a great person.

Her younger brother is a supposed reformed drug user/dealer. I haven’t had much to do with her younger brother because he lives the furtherest away, but the time I have spent with him makes me feel uneasy. I simply don’t trust him.

The main problem I have is that we have a young son and I don’t want him exposed to the lifestyles and problems of her family. Unfortunately my wife’s childhood with her family and their relationships since then have always been tumultuous and full of drama, but she is still desperate to have any kind of relationship with them that she can. She regularly will turn a blind eye to things that happen with them. I am not so forgiving or understanding.

I want my wife to know that I love her dearly and understand how important her family is to her, but at the same time I need her to know that my top priority is protecting my family and I will do anything to do that, even if it means upsetting hers. How can I let my wife know this without upsetting her or making her feel like I don’t want her to have contact with ther family. I’m happy for her family to be in our lives, but not at the cost of affecting our son’s upbringing.

My new in laws are addicted to weed total alcaholics and the grandmother abuses prescription meds and sleeping pills while drinking heavily. I married my wife and have a step son now we decided to pull him away totally and have no contact. My wife is suffering separation Anxiety but my son seems to be doing fne. did we do the right thing? should we continue this separation? and also she and my new son lived with these people for 5 the childs whole life. he is 6 years and autistic