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I do it at the end of every year in my journal. I didn’t have money to re-subscribe to ‘people magazine’ so I am in the dark this year as I don’t have a good memory.

Can you help? Maybe if you have a favorite celebrity in the news that had something come up like:
Births, deaths, marriage, divorces, sex scandals, drug use, pregnancys, hospitalization, ingagements, rehab….. Just anything.

Dates are awesome, but I can look them up myself.

Here is what I have so far:
Zac and Vanessa splits
Jeremy London abducted, forced to do drugs
Miley Cyrus Bong hit
Fishbourne Porn
John Travolta & Wife expecting (DID THEY HAVE THE BABY?)
Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon Expecting Twins
Ricky Martin announces he is gay (We ALL knew!)

Yeah, I NEED HELP!
I’ll right it down and research further if needed.

-For those that are confused, I have seasonal depression and need things to keep me busy this time of year. Plus I have done this the past 2-3 years. THANKS SO MUCH!

So my parents r getting a divorce, my mom doesn’t want to, but my dad says he has never really loved my mom like a wife, and the marriage just won’t work out. I at first was really upset, but then I thought about it and realized that my dad could move closer to my friends, and I could see them more, so the divorce isn’t as bad for me. Its still bad though. But I’m worried that my parents will start drinking or doing drugs, or will be suicidal and depressed, especially my mom because she really loves my dad. Can u help me somehow?
my dad still loves my mom, just not as a wife… so maybe they can stay friends…

Without giving some long story about all the things that have lead up to this, I really need advice on how to stand up for myself and get out of this relationship. I am 40 and my wife is 38. We have been married for 1.5 years. She had four kids and I had two. She is a recovering alcoholic and drug user. I knew this in the beginning and she was ok. When we got married she totally started to change into the meanest, self centered person I have ever meet. It is always a two way street I know. I have helped with all responsibilities so I do not want to hear that I need to do that. She is irrational and everybody that looks at her the wrong way or says something the wrong way is an a-hole or a B**** and she does it to me also. All the kids in the house, including hers, avoid her at all cost. I have started to worry about my kids coming to our house because I do not want them around that. To add to this she has been taking Vicodin and Xanex and Ambian for the past 3 months but, I am not allowed to judge her on this actions.

I need some advice on how to grow some man berries and tell her that it is over, and take my lumps since it will be all my fault in her eyes anyway. The children that are in this house do not deserve this and I feel like I am letting them down but, I need to be comfortable in my own house and that is not possible with her.

i am 20 i’m am single have been for a bout a month i split from the father of my children to better there lives and mine. Well my ex has a friend who i’ve had a crush on for long time me and my ex were together for 4 yrs. ( our kids are 3 and 17mnths) Well his friend got one of my friends pregnant and her dad forced them to marry they were together for a year then split she went on a drug bienge and lost there daughter. Then they were getting together just to have sex and she got pregnant again by him. He got with her cuz they are still legally married and he is a good guy and it was the right thing to do. She hates him and he lost all feelings for her long time ago. He started talking to me and we finally confessed our true feelings for each other. We are in love but are not sure how to go about making it public. She is due to have the baby anyday. He doesnt want to be with her he wants a divorce but ( by the way she is 20 and he is 22 ) doesn’t want to leave her as a single mom no job a 2yr old and a newborn because he is a really good guy. He loves his children very much and is scared she will start smoking crack again if he leaves and doesn’t want his kids around that. She holds them above his head all the time says if he ever leaves she make his life a nightmare. He is miserable with her and can only see me a few times a week because we are still sneaking around. We are tired of sneaking around we are in love and don’t think its right he has to be with a woman he hates and who uses his kids against him. I love this man very much, we have had feelings for each other for over a year but never said or did anything about it because he is my ex’s friend and i am friends with his wife. I already know that this will ruin mine and hers friendship but she is a backstabbing friend and it wont be that bad of a loss to me. I want to be able to be with him and were not sure how to go about telling her we are in love…. help
ok… her dad made to much money for her to get on soonercare to pay for the doc. and hospital bill while she was prego she was under age he wasn’t her dad pretty much was like marry her or go to jail….. and i was still in the puppy love stage with my ex at the time it wasn’t until after she had there daughter that we started devolping feelings for each other so when he said i do he probally wasnt thinking of me cuz he was probally thinking about how good a jail cell would look !!!
yeah let me put it this way her parents have had custody of there kid for the last yr he just got custody of his daughter back…. i’m pretty sure we know what were doing she is phsyco last month she got mad cuz he didn’t take the trash and and she treatend to cut the baby out and make him watch it die…. And so what if we have kids…. my life was wrecked my a homewrecker my kids aint seen there day in a month hes to busy with her at least we give a shit bout our kids and as for taking care of my kids i’ve been taking care of my kids since i was 16!!!!!!!!!

My wife and I have been married for 7 years and I have a small problem with coming to fast during sex so I have to fore play and that’s fine I love to fore play but I would like to stay longer inside her so that she enjoys more of me and I know I will also enjoy it to. Is there something that I can buy at the drug store over even at your local Wal-Mart? I have no problem getting it up that’s not the problem its coming to soon. Now this doesn’t happen all the time honestly it happens when we go without it too long like me waiting until her period is over then I get it back. And I do Not Rush Her during her period I wait with I kind heart til its done I just hate when I come to quick. I also would not mind Like I Need it but we men have one thing on our body women got 3 things on there’s any way I would not mind it changing the size because I know bigger is better. Me pleasing my self before hand makes her mad and if I ask her that makes her mad so that has to be a surprise when she feels like it. And if we do it more then once she gets a yest infection or a UTI then its hell to get rid of it so we can enjoy. What can I take that will work? I have tried Viagra it works with getting you up which again I have no problem with but it does not work with me coming too soon. Just in case my wife is 28 and I am almost 30 if that helps.
okay I do not go fast and I have tried a condom it does not work it makes her dry out faster. If I go too slow then its less enjoyable for her. That’s why I would not mind being bigger please help me please. By the way during her period was her idea it hurts too much and I hate the shower I do it but hot water don’t last long. She bleeds A LOT. For 3 days then light. And another thing I am not giving her yeast infections that she gets because of not enough lube and if we do it more then once I have to wait a week because she is too darn sore. I can only have 2 to 3 times a week that’s why I want to last longer!!!!!

me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have two boys we both have drug problems i left her last year to quit i went back in hopes she would to but she hasnt since then we have had a terriable time seems we fight about every thing and i always have to be the one to swollow my pride and just make changes to make her happy and she does very little and expects me to be excited over it she said she is affraid to let me in her heart again because i left is she just trying to control the situation or what she is still using and said i am tryin to control her by manting her to stop
I am clean and sober and keep my kids away from her drug use the best I can she said she wants to work it out but wont quit only reason i stay is for my boys

Ok a few days ago I posted a question about getting temporary custody of my step-children. I’ll sum it up real quick. My husband still has 30 days in jail due to getting overly stressed about ex wife doing drugs and not being able to prove it to DCBS, police or the judge. He got drunk and pushed me around. At the time I didn’t know that it was his stress taking over ( the doctors told me a week later that they think he was “sleepwalking”) I told him I wasn’t going to take that and turned him in. I told him that he needed to suffer his consequences and work on other ways to handle his stress about her and not get drunk and hurt me, then we could work on his marriage. I immediatly tried to fight for his 2 children because I know their mother is unfit and I have been the only mom figure that they have had, I wanted to take care of them until he worked through his issues and got out of jail. I lost due to the fact that I am the step-mom. The mother won temporary custody and we finally got the judge to agree to random drug screens after 3 years of fighting. Well, last week she showed up positive for cocaine. Giving DCBS the right to charge her with 2 counts of neglect. Her parents can’t get custody of them because she lives in their house and they have been covering this up and letting her do it. My husbands parents can’t get custody of them due to some serious medical issues. My husband can’t get custody for another 30 days. They are not charging him with anything due to the fact that the children did not see this and don’t even know that it happened. I talked with my lawyer today and he said that since I am the only person left that has a very close relationship to the children then I should get temporary custody until my husband gets out of jail. Here’s the problem he wants me to try to find as much info and past cases were a step parent gained custody or something that I can bring to the judge to show that I have the right since I am not a blood relative. He charges me alot less than normal because I always due most of the research myself, but I have been on the internet all day and can’t figure out where to start. So I was hoping that someone here could help get me started. Here’s the info. We live in Kentucky. I have my own house that social services has already been in and approved. I have a full time job where I get all my hours done over the weekend and I am here with the children all week. We had the children every other week before she got temporary custody a month ago, therefore I have a very close relationship with the boys. I also have parent teacher conference notes with my name on them because she wouldn’t show up. I will do every thing in my power to get these boys, but DCBS makes it sound like they just need to go into state custody for 30 days. I don’t want this to happen. Could someone help me find some info that I can use to make sure the boys come home and not to a foster home. They don’t need that, they have already been through so much.
I have 1 week to get as much info as I can.

I have had parents with adiction my whole life! finally I am happily married for 4 years and have 3 beautiful children. I am suffering because my parents have always had some form of drug/alcohol addiction. Well now they are getting to thier lowest point (eviction, no money) and they refuse to work. They are only inb thier 50s. they only call when they need money or rides. A few weeks ago I gave in and gave them $50 for a “battery” for thier car and I took them to the “dr” only to find out the used the $ for RX drugs and the “dr” was a meth clinic. I can’t do this anymore I am afraid they are going to try to move in with me and I can’t let them because it WILL ruin my marriage and they will not clean up. I think I should cut ties with them. But I feel really bad I am thier only child. But the only thing they have done was cause me heartache my whole life. Now I finally have a good husband and life. Any advice would really be needed

I have been married for 20+ years. This is a wonderful woman that I took advantage of.For the last few years I have paid not alot of attention to my wife. I have never berated her, hit her,I do not drink or do drugs. I thought life was good until about three weeks ago. I was slammed in the face hard. She told me she had a boy friend and was in love with him.The only lucky thing is that I changed my ways about a week earlier before she told me. I have a hard time controling all these new found emotions. I keep pushing her away but it is very hard to control. I think she is going to move in with him. She may never move back either. She said she wants to see if she misses me. I need advice. I have always loved her with all my heart, but now I love her so much more! What do I do? Do I let her go and see if she comes back? Or do I break it off completely and sell everything that we have? Lost in california
There is allot more 2 this. My kids and their drug habits played a big roll also. My lack of attention to her was not done on purpose. It was a very slow in coming. I also tried to get things back in order from time to time but was not very successfull. I am trying everything in the book that is truthfull and honest. Today she said in a sad voice that she would be willing to come back and throw out the other guy. But then I asked her if that is what she wanted. She said she was not sure at this time. Right now she is so much up in the air over things. The good thing is that we never have had yelling anger at each other even now. We sit down allot and talk things out weather they are good or bad. Thanks for all the advice. I do take total responsabiltiy for all that has happened. I just hope it is not to late. I am giving her all the space I can give her.

A friend of mine got married and bought a house about a year ago. The Marriage in its first year hasnt gone well, the biggest strain being that as soon as the house was bought he was bombarded by his wives family.

His now Step daughter, her husband, their daughter. Also his step son all moved into the house. None of them have jobs and dont pay board, food or utilities. The deal was that they needed help and would stay there while they looked for work, unfortunately noone is doing that. My friend leaves for work shortly before 9am and noone is out of bed. He also suspects light drug use in the house from the step daughters husband.

He’s discussed the situation with his wife and got nowhere. Money is getting tight and he’s contemplating divorce.

I’m not familiar with Georgia law. Does he have a legal foothold to stand on to either get the people out of his house or seperate from his wife or is he probably screwed?

have been married to my one love, whom I believe is the person God had put on this earth for me, however I’m starting to doubt whether or not he will love me just as true as I do him and if staying with him is worth the heartache in the longrun and if I’m just holding out for something that may be just in my mind and not reality.
We have 2 daughters and 14 wks pregnant with another. Due to my military obligation, we were living apart for four years, now we’re living together, but a lot has happened in the last year. Just a year ago he had an affair with a co-worker, which I found out through text messages from her to him and emails. Then I do more digging, and it looks like he was cheating on me with various other girls and via online dating sites throughout us dating and marriage. When I confront him with all, he denys and wouldnt admit the truth until almost dec 08.
We decided to move and start fresh four months ago, he moved 3 weeks before me. Then I find out that just before I went down here, he was going bar hopping with some (male) coworkers, but they would flirt with other women and there was a number in his phone, we’ll call Jill- he says it was to hook up Jill’s friend with his, who is female-shy. I call Jill and she says that’s the truth but my husband didnt act married and was very flirtatious. I asked him to go with me to marriage counseling, he said no until we found out that I was pregnant and that was only because he hoped the counselor would convince me that having the baby was not a good idea- ie get an abortion and I believe that I would be murdering an innocent baby. He has stated things like “I wish I didnt have the stress/ responsibility of a family at this age” and “I wish I was able to do things like every other 25 yr old.” etc (Im 25 too) I have asked him to reassure me that he didnt mean those comments and he side-steps my request, and acted like he didnt understand. So I get mad, and throw a “girl” tantrum and say if you dont understand by now what I need, I dont know how else to tell you.
I just feel like, hes the one who keeps messing up, and I’ve told him and WROTE him things that I need to feel reassured, and if I keep telling him that I need reassurance, etc. or what to do to make me feel better, than its more of me telling him what to do and nagging, than for him to really realize okay I screwed up and need to do that so I can show how apologetic I feel for keep on messing up and to be sincere. For example, I asked him to show me affection in a non-sexual way and remind me that he does love me, he jokes about it by saying at the end of the day “did I meet my I love you quota for the day?” I still feel like he just gropes me and push away when I think he’s going to far (sexual undertone) and not just showing affection.
My own self-esteem has also plummted because I am very different from all girls he’s ever dated. I’m asian, I’m athletic built (size 8) from soccer and rugby, conservative with strong religious beliefs, and after 2 kids in 2 years with the stretch marks and 10 lbs baby weight left over and now getting bigger with baby 3. His other girlfriends and the girls hes cheated with/talked to were white (blonde), size 4/6 petiteness, and they were all party girls with the drinking/ piercing/ high school rebellious drug/party/drink stage, which he has in common with them. I think he makes me the “bad” guy to all his friends/family because they notice my insecurities/ calling him when hes at work and they think I’m trying to control him, but he doesnt mention the whys of it all and just say something like “yea, the wife is clingy.” The new baby- he said that I’m forcing it upon him since he doesnt want it, and I wont get “rid” of it. Within the last week, hes been more involved with my pregnancy and asking me how the baby’s doing.
He says he loves me since I am so different and he sometimes wants to “keep his cake and eat it too.” His version of moving on/ helping is by pretending everything he’s done has never happened because then I’m “dwelling” on it and it’s not doing anything productive to move past it.
My mind- I love him, simple, because it wasnt all bad. Until his affair, I thought everything was perfect, but it was just one bomb after another isnce. We never had a chance to really be together as a family and I have to give it a chance to see if it will work, if not for myself then at least for my kids. But I get my doubts and think was I loving who I thought he was, and not who he really is? Does he really love me because if he did he wouldnt keep doing this to me? Wouldnt he try to understand where Im coming from and help me out instead of always doing things his way? And it breaks my heart every day thinking about this because I dont feel like I’ve gotten any closure/ healing from even last year so how can I deal with whats going on today and last month? I got out of the army, moved, dont have a job, I dont have any family to lean on, but I do have 2 be
To Jason, you will not go to Hell for getting a divorice in cases of abuse or adultery. I went to my pastor and he has told me so himself and showed me passages. Maybe you should read the Bible more thouroughly.

Now, as you are reading this, I want you to picture a barren world, where no-one and nothing exists but pain and isolation. I am 20 years old. All through my life I have been mistreated and abused by others. You name it and has happened to me. I was sexually abused as a child, not by my family thank god but by someone I held dear to my heart. I had a rough childhood, and I’ll give you another example of that. I never knew my father at all. I only know 4 things about him – He drove a bus for a living, he was of Greek origin, his name was Nick and when he met my mother he already had a family. He had a wife, kids you name it. I have never seen a picture of him, never heard his voice, nothing. In fact, with father’s day coming up, I can think of nothing but death and destruction.

The second thing is that although she is clean and stuff now, my mother was a chronic drug abuser. Whatever drug comes to mind, chances are she took it. Speed, dope, heroin the list goes on. I was neglected by her, as she would spend her money on her dirty filthy habits. There is more that could be put here, but this is probably not the place to put it. So, when I was 12, I walked out on her. During school no less. I went to live with my grandmother, who I have come to have a lot of apathy for.

What makes this sordid tale worse is that I had pretty much no support network at this time. Basically, all I had were my grandmother, and a plucky school counselor. Anyway, the next few years were pretty uneventful, until I finished high school a few years ago. At this stage, I was still withdrawn and while I am no longer this way, it was debilitating because I had no friends because of my introverted lifestyle.

Flash forward a few years, I STILL have no friends, no “female” friends, nothing. I have a job now (I started a course to be whats called a PSA worker in the hospital system), and I do try to go out and try new things as much as possible, but I have no one at all to share my feelings with, nothing. I especially would LOVE it if I found a girlfriend and that, but there is a slight hitch…I can’t perform the act of making love. A few years ago, I was involved in a minor road accident (No-one was killed, but I got injured pretty bad) and as a result, I got nerve damage that prevents me from…well, you can figure out the rest from there. That means that I cannot physically perform that act. Now, finding a relationship is going to be a B^*&h because who is going to fall in love with a guy that can’t “do it?”

I have been diagnosed with depression (and considering that what I have told you all thus far has only been a fraction of the story, wouldn’t you be?), and it has reached a stage where nothing matters at all. In fact, I don’t care if I was having a stroke or a heart attack. The reality of it is, if I was having one of those two things, I would not even call the paramedics because I don’t care if I live or die. Any suggestions on how to get out of this? I thought that metal health would be the best place to post this question.

We’ve both been divorced,been married 2 years,hubby former meth addict,wife slighty overweight,hubby angry,overprotective and EXTRMELY distrustful and accusing.Wife is faithful and genuinely in love.Hubby has been with mostly thin and attractive women.His sexual desire is nearly nonexistant.Could this honestly be due to his emotional and probable physical problems due to the drug use or is he not attracted to his wife?Sexual problems started around the same time as he stopped using.Was he only attracted because of the drug and now that its gone,he realized he doesn’t want her?Or is it something he can’t help.He swears he’s in love and only wants her.
Please help. This situation is ruining their marriage and she has tried everything.

me and my wife been together for about 5 years and we have a one year old son well we haven’t really gotten along well for a long time ..we have our moments like usual but my wife has lied to me about doing drugs in the past,lying about guy friends on the phone,she hits me and not affectionate,lazy, i have to work all the time bc she cant work full time shes to lazy to find a real job..I really want to get out of this relationship bc I want to finish school and find someone better well couple days ago this girl emailed me on face book we have been talk in and text in and i told her that i was single and had a baby and tryin to go through a divorce but I dont know what I should do is like i need a fresh start but then again what about my son i dont want another guy rasing him or something..
but my question is should i tell this new girl that wants to hang out and see if we click to date tell her that I am married and i am goin through a divorce or what should I do please help ?

My wife is an addict and alcoholic. I know in the past she has cheated on me. Whenever she gets around alcohol or drugs she turns into a totally different person. She will start yelling at me and tell me she is cheating on me I guess just to get a rise out of me and to drive me away. And I also basically raise our son by myself. We have been going though this for about 3 years now. I just don’t feel I can keep trying to help her. If anybody has a clue what to do I would appreciate it

We’ll I’m into the third chapter of the book I’m writing. It centrals around a girl named Audrey Fawcett, who just so happens to be a telepath. Her father a heroin addict takes all his anger out on her and worst she can hear what he’s thinking. I’m at a point where Audrey has to do something to stop her father’s abuse. There located in Mashpee, Massachusetts where not much takes place. Here’s some ideas I had pick one or maybe throw in a little idea or something.

1. John (her father) will commit suicide because he’s still not getting over his wife’s death. Thus leading Audrey into the foster system where she will meet Astrid (I was thinking of making him a telepath). Then let things play themselves out.

2. Audrey makes an attempt to poison her father. If she succeeds she will leave Mashpee. And meet Astrid somewhere in her travels.

How’s this?

Hi, I’m trying to remember the name and author of a book I read as a teenager.
It was set in London and the country and was about a 17 year old girl who is a brilliant artist and is living with her brother, a policeman, and his wife, Mary. She meets the lead singer in a famous band, Dev (Devlin), who has moved in next door. He’s fascinated by her but things go awry. She goes off to art college but realises she’s pregnant. She’s talked into marrying Dev and has the baby but feels stifled and runs away to paint in a dodgy bedsit. They eventually get back together and then there’s a sequel – can’t remember that one either!
Other characters I remember are:
Janey, a singer who leaves pop to train as a classical opera singer.
Jaybird, who dies of something – car crash, heroin?

Ring any bells? Thanks!
Brilliant. Thanks Gormenghast. Liz Berry is the author which helped me track down the books I was thinking of – Easy Connections and Easy Freedom. I’ll check out the Janey books as well though.
Thanks

My wife and I have bee n married 10 years and she has a son who I’ve grown to despise he lays around all day and plays video games and does drugs and eats like he’s at a buffet and does no house work and when I confront him on it he finds his Mom grabs a nipple and I always end up the bad guy. I can’t stand him and am begining to feel that way about her what should I do.

I don’t know what to do… I can’t be happy anymore.
I’m not really asking a question, just venting… And looking for a bit of help.

But i started cutting for almost a year ago. I moved, all my friends stopped talking to me. And it seems like all the peple here don’t like me at all. Even the youth paster at my church told everyone i was satanic, so no one will talk to me. So i quite going, i was sick of being stared at like there was something wrong with me.

I started with scissors, The only person i’ve EVER told was my boyfriend (A drug abuser & dealer) and he just told me to stop. I tried. I told him i stopped. But he never checks, or asks me about it… so i just wear a wrist band, or cut somewhere other then my arms.

I’m so stressed out, i’m a senior in highschool, but i can’t go to school since i can only keep 6 of my credits… i’m homeschooled, so i never leave the house, and i’m stuck at home with my always drunken mother and her boyfriend who screams at me and my little sister just about everynight. My little sister is having a hard time with school (she goes to a public school) So i have to help her with that, i get up every morning by 5am, and i can’t ever sleep at night. I’m tring to help my boyfriend quite using heroin… And fix my best freinds boyfriend problems. I’m falling apart, but i still have to hold everything, and everybody else togeather.

I can’t stand being here anymore, so i called my dad. I asked him if i could move in with him and his new wife. but all he said was “I don’t think so, your staying with your mom” Even after i told him what she does.

I feel like cutting is the only thing i have control over… My mom has even seen my scars, and she didn’t care. My boyfriend told my best friend about my self-harming and she never said a word to me about it… Even if i wanted help i couldn’t get it. But the sad thing is i don’t know if i want to stop. I’ve been thinking suicid, ending it all might be the only way out of this.

.Casey.

My fiancé and I are saving up money to hire an attorney to attempt to gain full custody of his 8 year old son from a previous marriage. I love my fiancé and his son, we also have a baby on the way in August and I know the best situation for his son would be to live with us. His ex wife screwed up his credit and somehow got full custody of their son while he was away in the coast guard. They were supposed to get joint custody and he signed some papers before he left, but somehow she got full custody and now he only gets his son every other weekend.

His ex wife is a stripper now, parties a lot, does drugs and is very selfish. She has no interest in spending time with her son or teaching him anything and has even hit him in the past, but wants custody because of the child support she gets (which I’m sure is not spent on her son because we have to buy him everything and spend what little precious time we have with him helping him in school because he’s falling behind, instead of getting to spend quality time doing fun things with him.) Their son doesn’t even live with the ex wife; he lives with her sister and mother. She refuses to stay in contact with my fiancé, we never know where she is and she even tried to move to another state a while back without telling anyone.

I want to know what I need to be doing now in order to have a solid case against his ex and prove she’s an unfit mother when we take her to court. I recently found out that she has not even been claiming the child support she’s been receiving for like 6 months in order to continue to get welfare benefits. His son needs to finish his childhood years in a healthy environment with loving parents and I’m worried that we might not win the case because I know his ex will fight it just because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself and is a child. Her sister, which is taking care of their son now, is a good person and doesn’t even like her sister so I think she might testify for us in court and I think she’d agree that it would be best for the son to be living with us. We haven’t talked to her about this yet because I don’t want it to get back to the ex wife what we’re planning until we can actually afford to make it happen.