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Ours was a forced marriage and neither my parents thought of taking my concerns seriously nor her parents took her concerns into consent.

Need some serious advice. I got married this year May end and it’s hardly 6 Months of Arranged marriage now. To be very true, these 6 months has been horrible for me and my wife. I can feel from her gestures that she is very unhappy because of this marriage and she does not even trust me. She feels in-secured and she says that she would prefer her job over me. Please read ahead for details.

My marriage was not so good, in fact from my wife’s point of view it was horrible and thanks to my relatives. On the night of marriage my hopeless relatives found a reason to create a scene or war like situation in marriage hall. One waiter refused to serve them water and they made a mess of it. So much so that my useless relatives scolded my Wife’s father and her brothers in front of every body. They went on to use abusive language for them. All this was done right in front of my wife. Finally my father intervened and he fell in feet of my relatives to stop making mess in my marriage. They realized that me and my parents were completely against them and so they abused my father also and then they left the hall. But all this had a terrible effect on my wife and you can make out what it could be.

Also before marriage there was some guy who uses to call my wife and say all sorts of rubbish things about me. He introduced himself as my close friend and said that I have affair with several girls and I am drug addict and I smoke and also I am abusive, Arrogant and what not. He even said horrible things about my family. But some how my marriage went on as planned. But all this had a negative effect on my wife about me. I am not arrogant and definitely not a multi-timer or a drug addict. But she had trouble accepting me initially. I came to know about all this issue after marriage. Even my Honeymoon was overshadowed by all this issue. Honestly we never enjoyed our honeymoon. She was frightened to death and never tried to come closer to me.

Also there were some small issues which were blown to proportion. My mobile had a network problem and it some it hangs in between. I never realize it until I try to see why is other person not responding to my questions. Now this happened in my In Law’s house and she thought that I am pretending to talk to some one.

Again once when my friend call me I asked him when he was going to get married and he said very soon. I greeted him and said to enjoy the married life. And guess what, my wife comes to me as soon as I kept the receiver and says that I am the greatest liar of all time. I do not deserve to say this line. I have screwed my relationship with her and now I am pretending to be happy. She said that you are the biggest liar of all time and you must be rewarded for it. She even said that she fell into this marriage trap with eyes open and that is reason why she is paying dearly for her fault. She said that she is convinced that our marriage will never work. I loose my temper very often now. I stay depressed due to all this and could not concentrate on work. I keep getting feeling of a failed marriage and a failed relationship with her. I keep getting a suicidal tendency now. I love her and I do say that she is a good girl by nature. But some thing is missing among us and I could not figure out what exactly is it.

Then comes the biggest shock of all. Professionally I am very much respected for my quality of work but my luck has never favored me. After struggling for more that 2 years and going through all sorts of rough patches at work place, I finally got on decent opportunity. But timing could not be more wrong. Just 2 months after staying together and trying to settle down and make some thing of our horrible marriage, I was offered to go abroad alone for a good project. This is some thing I wanted to prove my self as professional and I could not afford to loose this one. So as soon as this came to me I said yes. I accept that I did not consult her. She when came to know about this said that she has a strong feeling that she and her family has no value in my life. She even went back her old ideas and she now strongly believes that she is the most in-secured person on earth and she can not give away her job for me. She feels in-secured and she does not trust me any more. She even believes that I am a liar and I never say true to her. She says this line almost every day.

Now I am in fix. I am in USA for 6 weeks and for all these 6 weeks she did not even talk to me. She said there is nothing between us to talk. We do not deserve to talk about any thing.

Please help me. How do I get her back?

I moved in with her 10 years ago because I loved her and she needed help financially. She had only food stamps at that time and she stopped her house payments through a mortgage program so she didn’t have to pay it until she got on here feet. I paid the electricity and other utilities for about 6 months and cut the grass and fixed thing around the house.She used her food stamps to feed us.She cooked , cleaned, packed my lunch and liked having sex a whole lot and she still does all these things but sometime she goes on drinking binges and starts nagging me to start paying her something to help out with the bills, I have a full time job and make okay money,not lots,but she is now paying all the bills, unless there is a shortage of hers because she bounces a check every once in a while so I give her whatever bill she needed help on. Now she says she is tired of being broke all the time and wants me to pitch in once in awhile. This makes me mad she wants money from me because I cut the grass, fix guy stuff around the house and take her to dinner once in awhile. She is on disability because she has a bad back and has gone through 3 surgeries in the last 2 years yet she can still do everything for me and pay all the house bills(The house is in her name so she should) Why does she say it makes her feel used by me. I don’t think I am using her. Do you and do you think she has the right to be angry when I don’t help out to live with her? I would love some answers tonight because she wants me to move out if I do not help her out. She wants $300 a month and it cost her $1,000 to run the place. She can do it so why is she wanting to kick me out?
In her defence Banana she worked all her life then had a horrible car accident and almost died. They put her spine back together with rods and bolts. It took her 2 years to be able to walk again. Now she is having trouble with the hardware in her back detereating. Don’t speak of her like she’s nothing as a matter of the fact do not speak about anything unless you ask about how she ended up that way
Snoot, good name. Your man seems to be used by you. You’re the kind of women that make other women look bad. So I guess you got a sucker to take care of you. I’m so happy for you. He should run from you!