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So my parents r getting a divorce, my mom doesn’t want to, but my dad says he has never really loved my mom like a wife, and the marriage just won’t work out. I at first was really upset, but then I thought about it and realized that my dad could move closer to my friends, and I could see them more, so the divorce isn’t as bad for me. Its still bad though. But I’m worried that my parents will start drinking or doing drugs, or will be suicidal and depressed, especially my mom because she really loves my dad. Can u help me somehow?
my dad still loves my mom, just not as a wife… so maybe they can stay friends…

My wife has been using heroin, iv user for about a year now. in april of 2008 i left her and took the kids ages 2 and 4. We both have had substance abuse issues in the past. She became unhealthy for the me and the kids, cause she uses constantly and brings drugs around. in august i was awarded custody, and she supervised visitss with her mom. she started coming around the house cause she wanted to see more of the kids in late aug and sept. saying she was on suboxone and all was well. she is also bipolar manic depressive. takes her meds on and off. she did seem fine, almost like when we first got together. so i did not mind, in sept she moved her stuff back in. she had been living with her illegal alien b/f in some ghetto. Of course she began to use (prob never stopped)immediatelyy. so back to the old behaviors, and when the kids where away at my parents house i ended up relapsing with her, not iv user but none the less. from there i knew she had to go. i also found out, she had a suicide attempt before she came back, had to go to hospital by ambulance the whole nine. THEN, before i threw her out again, sheODDD in front of the kids and myself. i called 911 performed cpr on her until the paramedics and police arrived. i was not letting her take the kids anywhere by herself and kept driving from my office to our place to make sure all was well. she could not get up, so i put the kids back in the daycare i had them in. she did leave, however now she wants the kids every other weekend. she said he manipulated me, brought drugs around so she could get me to relapse and get the kids. just looking for opinions on what i am in for. she has had 5 address changes since july, the suicide attemt, the OD, does not do anything for her bi polar disorder and can not hold a job. but puts on such a good show. i have been the kids primaray care taker, and financial supporter since she started with this whole mess. i am no longer even speaking to her at this point, because she is just too unhealthy for me to be around. i aske her for some child support, via text msg, and she just texted me back that i am a Jew. cause i have been paying the bills

My wife and I are getting a divorce because she treats me bad and even hits me sometimes. The reason her attitude had changed after we got married is because I found out she was smoking black tar heroin. We have only been married for two months. I have supported her for more than two years before we got married even. The divorce is going to be finalized in about 20 days. We don’t live together anymore and I even got a restraining order on her because she is crazy. I’m just ready to move on. So in your opinion is it wrong to go out on a date with other women?

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

My nephew got his girlfriend pregnant. Her home environment is horrible. She has an open protective services case due to physical abuse from her step father, as well as neglect from her mother, who is a recovering heroin addict. My brother and his wife want custody of their sons girlfriend, but how do they go about doing so? The pregnant girlfriend is still too young to go through emancipation in the state of Michigan.

Is Jeb’s daughter still robbing pharmacies for drugs?
Has G.W.’s wife killed anybody else while drinking and driving since the last time? We never hear about the familiy anymore.

My ex wife was pulled over while taking our 5 year old child to school for a dui here in california. Her bac was .381 5 times the legal limit. She also had an open container in the vehicle and was charged with I believe felony child endangerment. She has had to go thru a drinking/ drug program when we got divorced in order to get 50/50 custody of our child. She did and now this. She has proven she is inadiquate to be a good mother and I want to get full custody of my daughter and all parental rights. What are my chances?

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Also during this time she was using my car which i gave her money to make payments and buy gas so she could come visit and drive our daughter places. But of course she used the money for something else (going out to the bars) and i had to make the payments again myself.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before.

Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

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While the majority of women want bigger, fuller breasts, let’s face it: most men don’t. Few men are comfortable with a womanly bosom – unless it belongs to their wife or girlfriend – and passing a a big ole pair of man boobs off as “large pecs” just doesn’t cut the mustard.

So if you’re among the estimated 20 – 30 percent of men who would like to get a least a little something off their chest, look no further. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life wearing layer upon layer of clothing on the beach or taping down your secret assets. There are ways to make your man boobs disappear, forever. Let’s just hope you don’t miss them when they’re gone…

What is Gynecomastia?

Gynecomastia is the medical term for the condition of having man boobs, or male breasts, which is characterized by either excess glandular tissue, fat or a combination of the two. The reasons for this phenomenon, which interestingly can occur in one or both breasts and can even cause milk secretion in newborn boys, are many. They include:
Puberty. Boys in the throes of puberty often have what they fear is a pert pair of man boobs, but what is actually just a normal aspect of male development. So if you’re still a teen don’t fret: 75 percent of teens with man boobs (boy boobs?) will have flat chests by the time they reach adulthood, and probably won’t find themselves furtively shopping for a bra at Wal-Mart in a few years.
Prescribed medications. Side effects of specific drugs, from anti-depressants to even some allergy pills, can sometimes cause male breasts to swell.
Hyperthyroidism, a thyroid condition when too much of certain hormones are produced.
Steroid abuse. Ever wondered why some bodybuilders have what is referred to as “bitch tits”?
Deficiency of testosterone, the male hormone.
Smoking too much marijuana (no, really!).
Gilbert’s Syndrome. This is a relatively harmless disorder of the liver and man boobs are just one symptom. You would need to undergo blood testing to determine if you have the condition.
Klinefelter Syndrome. Men with this condition have an extra XXY chromosome, instead of the usual XY. Its characteristics also include infertility, wispy facial hair, small testicles.
Aging. Our age plays a big role in how we look, including drooping and sagging of the skin, which is why about 30 percent of older men have man boobs. Hopefully, by the time you develop age-related male breasts you’ll be old enough – or mature enough – not to care. If Jack Nicholson can parade shirtless to the paparazzi, can’t you?
Genetics. Ever wondered why your relatives always said you resemble your Great Uncle “Betty” so much?
Kidney failure.

Saying Goodbye to Your Moobs Naturally

There are two medical classifications of man boobs. Breast tissue in men due mostly to obesity, or even being mildly overweight, is termed “pseudogynecomastia”, or male lipomastia. This type of gynecomastia can usually be resolved by reducing total body fat and/or doing exercises which target the chest area, aiming to improve the pectoral muscles.

Here are some tried-and-tested natural methods to get rid of man boobs that are a result of pseudogynecomastia:
Eat a diet that is low in sugar and fat.
Steer clear of certain of certain oily fish which contain high levels of estrogen, such as tuna and mackerel (some, people however, say this will have no effect).
Do cardio-aerobic exercises as well as weight-lifting, press-ups, bench lifts etc, which concentrates on the pectoral muscles.
Avoid any supplement containing artificial zinc.
Drink plenty of water, but only mineral water that is free of hormones.

Note: There are many herbal supplements on the market today that promise to target the fatty cells in the male breasts, or what often makes man boobs man boobs. The jury is out about whether they work or not, so buy at your own risk.

Saying Goodbye to Your Moobs Through Surgery

If your man boobs are still perky and proud after following a dedicated exercise plan and a healthy diet, you might want to try surgery. The most widely used surgical intervention for pseudogynecomastia, is liposuction.

This procedure is fairly straightforward. Your surgeon will make several small incisions in your breast and use a thin tube called a cannula to suck away the excess fat, which is removed through a suction-pump type device (if you think it sounds nasty, you’re right). Lipo can be done using either a local or general anesthesia, depending on what you and your surgeon together decide. Always use a board-certified surgeon with plenty of experience minimizing male breasts for best results.

However, if your excess breast tissue is composed primarily of glandular tissue, then you have what is called true gynecosmastia. This type of man boobs usually occurs due to excess hormones or genetics. Remember, however, that even true gynecomastia that starts at puberty will probably reverses itself within a few years, so if you’re 15 and sporting a pair of knockers that will comfortably fill a DD-cup, wait a few years before you panic.

If your male mammaries are the result of excess glandular tissue and are not going away on their own or through diet and exercise, excision may be your best choice. In this case, the surgeon must remove the glandular tissue by cutting it off, as opposed to through liposuction, because it is too dense and fibrous to be suctioned away as fatty tissue.

Excision is also preferable when there is a lot of excess skin to be removed, in addition to the glandular tissue (in order for the breasts to appear natural, it may be necessary to reposition the nipple, or reduce the areola). Occasionally, however, excision is done alongside liposuction as well. Be prepared for scars, although they usually fade in time.

Learning to Live with Man Boobs

While the vast majority of us are unhappy with something about the way we look, some people find that what they consider to be a physical defect starts to take over their lives, chipping away at their self-esteem and making them unhappy with their existence in general.

If you’re finding that turning into a Dolly Parton lookalike is hindering your love life or impeding your job prospects, it may be time to visit a surgeon. Think long and hard before making the step, as it may be worth making an appointment with a therapist first. Some men with man boobs learn to embrace and love them for what they are, as they make them, well, unique. And think of all the tips you could get if you land a job at Hooter’s!

Thanks for the mammaries…

The information in the article is not intended to substitute for the medical expertise and advice of your health care provider. We encourage you to discuss any decisions about treatment or care with an appropriate medical professional.

Don throws up all over himself.

‘Oh, no… Now my wife will kill me!’

Bob says, ‘Don’t worry, pal. Just tuck a twenty in your breast pocket and

Tell your wife that someone threw up on you and gave you twenty dollars

for the dry cleaning bill.’

So they stay for another couple of hours and get even drunker.

Eventually Don stumbles home and his wife starts to give him a bad time. ‘You

Reek of alcohol and you’ve puked all over yourself! My God, you’re disgusting!’

Speaking very carefully so as not to slur his words, Don says, ‘Nowainaminit, I

Can e’splain everythin. Itsh snot wha jew think. I only had a cupla drrrinks. But

Thiss other guy got ssick on me…he had one too many and he juss koudin hold hizz

liquor He said hes was verrry sorry an’ gave me twennie bucks for the cleaning bill!’

His wife looks in the breast pocket and says, ‘But this is forty bucks..’

‘Oh, yeah… I almos’ fergot, he shhhit in my pants, too.’

I am about to leave my family I can’t do it by myself no body is helping me and I can’t take it any more.

If your loved one is suffering from alcoholism, you may feel like you are alone, like your loved one is a completely different person when they’re drinking, and your relationship has been strained so much it might break if they don’t seek help.  Getting help for your loved one may seem difficult, but you don’t have to do it alone.

One way to get your loved one to get help is to coordinate with your family and friends so they are aware of the problem if they aren’t already and so they can help you and your loved one.  Your friends and family can help you by providing someone to talk to when you don’t know what to do, or they can talk to your loved either one on one or by having an intervention.  While it may be difficult to talk about your loved one’s alcohol problem, having the support of friends and family can make a big difference.

While your friends and family will pay a roll in getting help for your loved one, your loved one is going to need professional help to deal with his or her alcoholism.  Your loved one is going to need counseling, behavioral therapy and other help they can only get through an Alcohol Rehabilitation center.  It may be scary to have your loved one enroll in an inpatient or residential program, but it is the best way to deal with alcoholism.  Inpatient and residential programs will take your loved one into a controlled environment where they can deal with their alcoholism head on without having to worry about the stress and triggers for their behavior life throws at them.  Another reason why inpatient and residential programs are so successful is that they remove alcoholics from places where they will have access to alcohol and give them the coping skills they need to avoid alcohol before it becomes a temptation to them.

Your loved one may fight you and resent that you want them to seek treatment, but it is important to remember that it is only their denial talking.  Once your loved one goes through treatment successfully, they will realize that you only want what is best for them and they will appreciate the new lease on life that you have helped them receive.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR :-

Nathan Humpherys lives in Arizona with his wife and is a strong advocate for Alcohol Rehabs and believes that an Alcohol Rehab Center is the best way for an alcoholic to kick destructive habits.

While every person who struggles with addiction often deals with similar patterns of addiction, each of their stories is different.  Each person who struggles with addiction is different, and they’re not just “addicts” who are all the same.  So if everyone is different, then their struggles with addiction are going to need different responses and methods in their treatment for addiction.

Some people may need to have inpatient or residential treatment program to treat their struggles with alcohol, prescription drug or street drug abuse. Drug Rehab programs vary, but every treatment program should include psychological counseling as well as treatment for physical withdrawal.  Treatment programs may also provide exercise or holistic treatments to help patients cope with withdrawal and help them feel healthier and more in control of their lives.  It is important for people who want to enroll in a rehab facility to look into the success rates of different programs to make sure the programs they are considering use proven methods.

There are several ways for people struggling with drug and alcohol abuse to find the right treatment center for them.  One of the best ways is through a counselor or an advocacy organization that helps people find places in treatment centers.  It can help those struggling with addiction and their loved ones to do research on rehabilitation clinics on their own as well to check out recommendations that people give them to make sure the treatment facility is a good fit for them.  Most facilities and treatment centers are provide a number of different programs to fit different people’s needs, so patients need to be sure to research the different programs within each facility as well so they can enroll in the right program at the right facility.

Once a person picks a facility or program to go through, it is important that they commit to going through the program and see it through to its completion.  Kicking addiction isn’t easy, but if a person makes the decision to commit to a program and see it through because they want it for themselves, then they are much more likely being successful in their recovery.  Treatment facilities and programs can make a big difference in addiction recovery, but if the person enrolling doesn’t commit to the program, then it doesn’t matter how good the program is.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR :-

Nathan Humpherys is a journalist who writes about Drug Rehab and Addiction Treatment.  He lives in Phoenix, Arizona with his wife and family.