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I moved in with her 10 years ago because I loved her and she needed help financially. She had only food stamps at that time and she stopped her house payments through a mortgage program so she didn’t have to pay it until she got on here feet. I paid the electricity and other utilities for about 6 months and cut the grass and fixed thing around the house.She used her food stamps to feed us.She cooked , cleaned, packed my lunch and liked having sex a whole lot and she still does all these things but sometime she goes on drinking binges and starts nagging me to start paying her something to help out with the bills, I have a full time job and make okay money,not lots,but she is now paying all the bills, unless there is a shortage of hers because she bounces a check every once in a while so I give her whatever bill she needed help on. Now she says she is tired of being broke all the time and wants me to pitch in once in awhile. This makes me mad she wants money from me because I cut the grass, fix guy stuff around the house and take her to dinner once in awhile. She is on disability because she has a bad back and has gone through 3 surgeries in the last 2 years yet she can still do everything for me and pay all the house bills(The house is in her name so she should) Why does she say it makes her feel used by me. I don’t think I am using her. Do you and do you think she has the right to be angry when I don’t help out to live with her? I would love some answers tonight because she wants me to move out if I do not help her out. She wants $300 a month and it cost her $1,000 to run the place. She can do it so why is she wanting to kick me out?
In her defence Banana she worked all her life then had a horrible car accident and almost died. They put her spine back together with rods and bolts. It took her 2 years to be able to walk again. Now she is having trouble with the hardware in her back detereating. Don’t speak of her like she’s nothing as a matter of the fact do not speak about anything unless you ask about how she ended up that way
Snoot, good name. Your man seems to be used by you. You’re the kind of women that make other women look bad. So I guess you got a sucker to take care of you. I’m so happy for you. He should run from you!

about 3 weeks ago after having 5-6 light beers at the night she had dizziness , headache and fast heart beat which I thought probably was normal because of the alcohol.since that time she has not drunken anything alcoholic but at least once a day she has this extreme dizziness , headache and fast heart beat.i measured her blood pressure but everything seems to be ok. is it something serious?

Abusive wife gets 7 1/2 to 15 for husband’s death
Robert Potter’s final years were “hell on earth,” a Lancaster judge was told Thursday.As Potter tried to help his wife, Tonya, cope with her mental illness, alcohol dependency and cocaine abuse, prosecutors said, she responded with violence.In May 2009, Tonya Potter stabbed her husband repeatedl…

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We have only been married 18 months and she is very controlling and abusive. She wants to spend all of her time in the bar. It also doesn’t help that she works in a bar as a bartender. I could handle it at first but now she gets very mean. I tired to get her into counseling a year ago and she refused. For a while, she got a lot better and now she has relapsed again.
Yesterday she worked an eight hour day shift and I showed up right after she was done to pick her up. She wanted to hang out for a while so we ran into some friends and were having a great time. Then our friends left and she demanded that we stay for four hours even though I hadn’t eaten at all that day and it was now after 10pm. Then on the way home, I started getting screamed at and she hit me. She then kept screaming at me to give her the money she had given me and told me under no circumstances was I to give her the money. She was so drunk she fell trying to hit me again and then said “I made her fall”.
She has had a rough life and went through things as a baby and child that no kid should have to. She constantly ditches me for the bar. I drink too, but not near as much or as often as she does. I cried my eyes out most of the night and told her today that I wanted to separate. She then asked if we could finally try counseling. I really love her and want to find the woman I love again. She refuses to go to AA and refuses to even acknowledge that there is a problem. If I mention anything, I’m nagging and have to get off her case or get screamed at. Do you think counseling will even help? She is also very jealous and has driven away 90% of my female friends, yet she is allowed to have as many male friends as she wants. She does not drive, so often I am her ride and have to stay at the bar until she is ready to go no matter how tired or hungry I am.She can be very sweet and has had a hard life. I know if I do leave, she will be crushed. What do I do? Sorry for such a long post.

Forgive my long post, but this is a huge crisis for me. What a day for it to blow over! Merry Christmas to me.
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I’ve been with my husband for 23 years, 21 of those married. We were happy together until recently when he started to change. Red flags of an affair started popping up, but I didn’t want to act rashly just in case.

Yesterday I was in his office looking for some batteries when I found a briefcase with a brand new iPod Touch, a Teddy bear, and an expensive watch (at least $400). We are not rich. Our kids don’t even have this much.

I’d been suspecting the affair for awhile now, and my daughter had previously found the facebook account of some woman named “Diana” she claimed was his mistress. It was credible, but again, wasn’t much concrete. Even when I confronted him, he denied the claims.

Christmas came and it didn’t take long to find out those extravagant presents weren’t for me or our kids. After he went to sleep, my daughter, being curious as she is, went into his room to look for them (I’d told her I’d found them). She came out awhile later with bills & the perfect paper trail to his infidelity, plus the itouch. She took out the itouch and we saw an engraved message on the back, for the Diana woman my daughter had found on facebook, with “lots of love” from my hubby.

I pretty much cracked then and confronted him about it well at 4am in the morning. I smashed the iPod (wish I hadn’t) & ripped up the Teddy bear (unfortunately I didn’t get to watch on time, which I could have kept & sold).

He ended up leaving and hasn’t come back since (he didn’t deny the affair). This is obviously the end of our marriage. I’ve had to put up with so much of his sh*t over the years (his alcoholism, dug abuse, and couldn’t keep a job longer than a year), but this is something I can not and will not forgive. He would be nowhere without me. Absolutely nowhere.

Yet, even after all I’ve done for him, he can’t afford to even give me a Christmas card. Even at least as the mother of his kids.

I’ve invested so many years for him and this is the biggest slap in the face he could ever give me. I’ve been through him during stages where any sensible person would have left him.

I don’t know what I can do to continue living. I have 3 kids to maintain, and I don’t earn close to enough solo to maintain them all. Even with child support, it would not be enough.

If I have to take court action, I will. I have countless of bills that prove to his infidelity (plus condoms i’ve found in his bag, and I had a hysterectomy more than a decade ago).

What should I do next? What about his mistress (who is probably some gold digging slut)? What do I have to do NOW? Eventually I’ll have to sell our house, as neither of us can pay it by ourselves.

I will never forgive this but all I hope is that in the future he will come to regret this moment. His regret is all I want, because there is no other woman out there who will do for him what I have.

Even when we were dating, he never gave me even HALF as much as he intended to give this woman.

A 31-year-old illegal immigrant living in Tyler was sentenced to 10 years in prison Thursday for driving while intoxicated.Pedro Rivera Rodriguez pleaded guilty in 7th District Judge Kerry Russell’s court for his third driving while intoxicated charge.

A jury also ordered Rodriguez to pay a $10,000 fine.

Rodriguez was arrested Feb. 28 following a three-vehicle crash at the intersection of Front and Lyons streets.

Karen Ream, a forensic scientist with the Texas Department of Public Safety, said she tested the blood alcohol content of a tube of blood collected from Rodriguez after the crash.

The analysis showed that the blood had an alcohol content of .32, four times the legal limit.

“Anything above .08 is legally intoxicated,” Ms. Ream said.

Murry Ballard, testified during the three-day trial that he and his wife were stopped on Front Street waiting for the light to turn when a van, driven by Rodriguez, crashed into their 2004 Chevrolet Tahoe.

“It was a terrible explosion sounding thing,” Ballard said adding that his 65-year-old wife still has back problems from the crash. “It’s a scary thing. Now all you worry about is someone running into you from behind.”Later in the story Rodriguez’s wife, Maria Ochoa, said through a translator that her husband only drinks beer and typically on the weekends.

Mrs. Ochoa said that during the 2008 DWI arrest, her husband was at home caring for their 4-year-old daughter when she asked him to take her out for something to eat.

“I know that maybe it was a mistake for her to have been in the car,” Ms. Ochoa said.

Ms. Ochoa said she would agree that her husband has “an issue” with drinking and would benefit from counseling.

She testified that the only time she saw her husband drink and get behind the wheel were the two times he was arrested.

“The first wreck was because the girl wanted something to eat. The second wreck was because his friends called and he left,” she said.

Ms. Ochoa said she was aware attending drug/alcohol counseling was a requirement of her husband’s December 2008 probation, but that the family could not afford it.

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But can afford to go out and eat, buy beer, why would a wife want her husband who been drinking caring for their 4-year-old daughter when she asked him to take her out for something to eat when he has been drinking ? Is this an indication immigration does play a part in what and how to comply with our laws

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Falls man gets 20 years for molesting 8-year-old girl
LOCKPORT — Niagara County Judge Sara Sheldon Sperrazza sentenced a Niagara Falls man to 20 years in prison Friday for molesting a girl for as long as four years.

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EXCLUSIVE: Brooke Mueller Will Keep Twin Sons As She Gets Professional Help
Charlie Sheen’s soon-to-be ex-wife doesn’t waste any time. On the heels of inking a multi-million dollar divorce settlement, it emerged Brooke Mueller will go back to getting professional help for her addiction problems. And RadarOnline.com has now exclusively learned that this help comes with one major benefit — access to the couple’s twins.

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She only weighs 90 pounds, lets her 18 year old son screw his 16 yr old girlfriend in my home. and smoke pot in my home. I told him to leave because he woke me up at 3 in the morning drunk, and his girlfriend yelled at me so I called her a Bitc* then he hit me so I beat him up. For you people that think I was wrong to call her that just remember that they disrespected me first In my home and I have a first amendment right to the freedom of speech and that includes my opinion. The police made me leave my home that is in my name only because her credit is screwed. I filed for divorce and would like to know what you think my chances are of getting custody of our 5 year old daughter that doesn’t need to be raised by an Alcoholic mother that will not discipline her children at all and lets them get drunk and drop out of school and stay up all night and steal and blames me for her drinking. I do have bank statements that show how often she goes to the liqueur store and witnesses as to her drinking also some pics of her family and all of them are with alcohol. to show the lifestyle she grew up in and what she thinks is normal. Do you think I will get my 5 year old daughter in court next week or am I screwed because I am a man.
Jillian the 18 year old boy is hers not mine
Hey love read a little closer he hit me for saying that HE HIT ME FIRST in my own home
Hey Love as far as the first amendment is concerned I never said they didn’t but maybe you should also read the 14th amendment to the right of privacy in your own home and please reread the question cause you got it backwards

or be around drunks. I like to drink, but I’m quite happy just to have a couple and get a little buzzed. When she gets to the point where she doesn’t want to stop we always get into a big fight. So now there are times when I start worrying from her first sip, because I’m afraid that she is going to drink too much. I will try and say slow down, but then we’ll fight about that. How do I get her to understand why I worry and why I don’t want to be around her or anyone else when they’re drunk?