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admin — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 01:08:58 +0000

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years we recently got married in Feb of this year. My husband has a 13 year old son from a previous marriage.In December of last year his ex wife got messed up on drugs and his son lived with us from December until September full time and she was still receiving child support during this time. We don’t have the money to hire a lawyer but she is spending the money on herself rather than my step-son.My step-son comes over daily since september and asks us for money to do stuff with. his mother lives with a man that pays all the bills and she recieves food stamps for 3 kids which two of them she doesn’t have custody of because their dad take over her rights when she was on drugs.$4 hundred dollars a month in food stamp which she sells.I don’t want to keep my step son from his mother its just i’m tired of having to support her.

How to get away from a sociopath ex-wife?

admin — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 15:00:51 +0000

My husband’s ex-wife is a narcisstic sociopath.
Her favorite drug of choice is court. In the 4 years I have known him, she has filed 62 motions, complaints, and warrants against him in 5 different counties. She Judge shops, much like a pill addict pharmacy shops.
Sometimes she loses, most of the time she wins, because 1) she is female, and GA is not in any way a father’s rights state, and 2) she is very wealthy and can afford court at her whim.

She cries and lies to the court, and her own children attempting to alienate them from their father.
Her husband follows and verbally attacks my husband at the kids school and sporting events regularly, as does her alcoholic father.

We are not wealthy by any means. My husband works 2 jobs, one for us, one to pay ex-wife 50% of every dime he makes for child support.

I don’t have the time or the space to tell you all the spiteful, vindictive, downright evil things this woman has done to my husband.
BTW – SHE divorced him, filed in 2003, final in 2004.
She married him because he was a lawyer – not for love, she wanted his money and status.
When they were married, she was so verbally abusive that he became clinically depressed and had to take Zoloft. He became addicted to gambling as an outlet for his frustration, and lost several thousand dollars. He was no longer useful to her, so she divorced him.
She moved from the West coast to the East, and he moved here to be with his children. She is a flight attendant, so my husband raised them practically alone since birth.
His moving here enraged her to the point that she is trying everything she can to get him out of the boy’s lives – to the point of forbidding them to visit (we live 3 miles from her), telling them he doesn’t pay child support (he pays her $1,000 a month), and filing child abandonment charges against him (the Prosecutor refused to charge my husband; she knew ex-w was lying) to harassing his employer and getting him fired, getting him behind in child support, and filing Contempt charges and having him put in jail several times (filing in different counties).

I am at my wits end!
My husband, like I said, works 2 jobs – sometimes I don’t see him for several days – just to pay child support. When I do see him, he’s exhausted, cranky, and stressed out because of her putting the kids up to calling and spewing her lies, or he got a nasty letter from her or her lawyer, or he has to prepare for yet another court hearing (FIVE in 2010).

This is why most second marriages fail!
My husband is a wonderful person, and an amazing father. He certainly does not deserve any of the childish, hateful, cruel treatment of this woman he once loved. It wasn’t until after the children were born that he realized that she only loved herself, she isn’t capable of loving anyone else.

Seriously, I cannot take this anymore! I’m ready to divorce him because the nonsense drama goes on and on and will not stop!

How does a sociopath stop targeting one particular person?
(She is remarried to a wealthy man and lives in a gated country club. She SHOULD be happy!)

Is there a certain reverse psychology I need to know about.
It is not as simple as “get away from her”. I can’t do that. She is the mother of my husband’s children – whom he dearly loves, and she knows it. She uses it against him in every way.

How can I fight back? I have no money, so I can’t do it in court.
How can I get her to back off and leave my husband alone??
HELP!!!!!

What can I do to stop my manipulative step daughter from ruining my marriage?

admin — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 17:01:05 +0000

About 5 years ago I met the man of my dreams 1 year later we married. He has 3 children and I have 2. One year after we married his youngest daughter decided that she wnted to live with us, everything was good for abou two months then i caught her smoking,doing drugs,drinking and having sex.. Now mind you that she was only 13 at the time. When I told my husband what was going on he asked her about it and she told him that I am a liar and I never caught her doing those things. And of course she is daddys little girl so he sided with her and told me that I need to quit attacking her with these accusations. I found her diary and showed it to him and in it she admits doing all these things and it also said how she was gonna make it miserable for me and my children so I would leave. And all he had to say was that she is only saying these things to make her feel cool in front of her friends. Now my husband is not a stupid man until it comes to her.
I asked him if she could start helping out a little around the house and maybe do dishes once a week and his response was that she is too young for responsibilities. My children who are 6 & 8 have chores. I dont think that I am asking to much for to do dishes.
Now she is about to be 16 and for the last 3 years I have had no say so in anything at all. She doesnt even have to tell me that she is leaving the house or where she is going. She doesnt even have to speak to me in my own home. And if I do try to ask her she tells me that I am only her dads wife. But I am the one who cooks, cleans,takes them to all the drs. appts.,buys her stuff but I am no one when it concerns what she is doing. but, that is bull because when she ends up pregnant or with an STD I am the one stuck taking care of it. I have tried to be the friend and I have also tried ignoring what she is doing but I can not take it anymore and I do not know what to do. If I tell her father that I want her move back with her mother he has already stated that he is not going to pick between me and his daughter. Where do I go from here?

Do a step-parent, and adopted children have custodial or visition rights with a child from prev. marriage?

admin — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 13:02:14 +0000

I have a situation where my ex-husband who is newly remarried, and chose to adopt his new wife’s children, has petitioned to increase visitation with my daughter 60/40 in his favor because of his “new family”. He is away from their home 50% of the year (6 months of twelve), and this would put her in their home quite often while he is away. I am a fit, and consistant parent with no alcohol, drug or criminal history, employed full time, and up until this point the custodial agreement has been written 60/40 in my favor. Does her step mother have “rights”? or am I dealing with “control” issues.

Can’t move on from my ex-wife and angry at myself?

admin — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 11:04:25 +0000

I was with my ex-wife for 10 years. I was in love with her, but we had a rough relationship. The entire time we were together I was lying to her about my feelings toward other men. She always knew I was bi, but deep down I suspected I was gay. She tried to get me to open up about my sexuality but I always resisted. It was a huge struggle for years and led to drug abuse and addictive behavior on my part.

After 7 years of marriage I started meeting other men online and sneaking around behind her back. I didn’t hide my tracks very well and she found out everything. She left me and filed for divorce. At the time I had convinced myself that I was gay and that this was the right thing for me. I told her and my family that I was gay. I admit I treated her badly, both before and after she left me. For that reason she refuses to talk to me anymore. It has been 2 and a half years.

Now I have come to the realization, after having relationships with men, that I am not gay — I am bi, just like I always thought. Maybe I am more attracted to men (mostly gay), but nobody compares to my wife. I miss her and the life we had, every day. I am so lonely and so angry at myself for messing that up. Everyone I meet I compare to her, and nobody compares. I know now what a great gift I had and I threw it away. I don’t even have her as a friend anymore, and she was once my best friend. Her family, who I was once a part of, now hates me. The worst part is, she is still very close with my mom and other relatives, they all love her and are angry at me for what I did. So even though I don’t talk to her, I still hear about what’s going on in her life, how well she is doing, and it hurts.

I have attempted to get her back, but she wants no part of it.

How can I force myself to get over her and move on?
How can I stop myself from comparing everyone (men and women) to her?
How can I get over the feeling that I have wrecked my life for good and there is nothing left for me anymore but loneliness?

sorry for the long post, thanks for reading and giving me your opinions.

BHO: is obama hiding his past. is obama running away from an ugly past.?

admin — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 03:06:56 +0000

known: cocain, heroin user.

known: abandoned by father at age two.

known: father had 4 wives.

known: Brother George Obama lives on $1 per day in kenya.

known: three years in senate

known: No military experience.

known: great speaker, No achievements.

No sex, affection, interest from wife?

admin — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 05:05:35 +0000

We are best friends who for the first 28 years held hands, kissed, called each other just to say I love you, held each other and talked about our fears, hopes, dreams. Then she stopped everything, first she no longer wanted oral sex from me then told me to just hurry up and finish with no passion or intimacy involved. Along with this our oldest has just completed back to back deployments to the middle east as a combat infantryman in the Army where he had way too many close calls with his life. Our youngest had an awful drug problem where he went from a star athlete to a drug addict being held in jail and charged with murder. I have always tried to be the best husband any woman would want and a good father. I remember all special occasions, send flowers, leave love notes, do chores around the house regularly. Choose my wife over sports everytime. My family always comes first. I have never wanted to cheat and never gave my wife to worry. I am very affectionate; hugs, kisses, holding hands, body massages, scratching her back and just trying to be a loving understanding, caring husband. I always volunteered to help out at school and any other events my family were involved in. We are not rich but now that both of our children are out of the house we are doing fairly well financially. I recently retired and we had always planned on traveling together. However with us in our late forties my wife is not interested in anything and has no time for me. I must initiate all kissing, holding hands or hugs yet when I do she just stands and makes me feel like I am kissing, holding a cold dead fish. She has put on alot of weight and constantly complains about it. I have always told her that she is beautiful, she is my queen, my love. I tell her how sexy she is to me and how much I am attracted to her. Nothing gets through to her. She wants to sell our house and move, I think it would be good to get away from our small gossipy town but with the economy so bad selling a house is not so easy. I do not know what to do since she will not go to counseling, she hates to talk to people especially about something personal. She is not close to her side of the family it has always been she and I that talked and discussed problems. Now it is like I have an acquaintance sharing my house with me. In the last four months we have had sex twice and none in the last three months. Even then it was her saying just pull my pants down and hurry up and get it done. No soft special touches, no kissing, no loving words. I was sick to my stomach afterward with fear that our marriage was over. I am a good looking forty something man with two grown children and it appears a wife that has no interest, no affection, no love for me anymore. I do not want to stay this way for ten more years and then be old and alone. I just want my best friend, my lover, my wife back to ride our horses, travel go out to eat, see a movie, joke, have special secrets that are just our own, I want to make passionate love with my wife where we both enjoy the experience. I miss my friend/wife what can I do, what should I do. I have always wondered when someone knows it is time to quit the marriage, time to get a divorce. I just never thought I would be asking myself the question on whether it is time for divorce.

Soon-to-be-wife insists on her massages from male therapist. How should I handle this?

admin — Sat, 22 Jan 2011 21:01:46 +0000

Some people think jealousy and possessiveness are at the root of my visceral reaction to my girlfriend / fiance / wife being massaged by a male massage therapist (masseur). I disagree. I think part of the sanctity of marriage is that the body is proprietary and confidential between a husband and wife. In this crazy world, shouldn’t we fight for at least that much?

I put my feelings on this matter under quite a microscope. Really, I did. As someone with a research degree in Psychology, I did the requisite soul searching. As a social philosopher, I examined the Brave New World in which we live. You know — the one beginning to resemble the vision of Aldous Huxley more by the day, where babies are grown in mechanical incubators rather than in uterus and where the government controls its population through world consensus textbooks and some pleasure drug called “Soma.” There is no coupling in this world — no marriage. This is a world where public service announcements inform the citizenry that “promiscuity is your duty.” The instinctual foundations of human nature have for all intents and purposes been domesticated — if not anilhilated — by this antiseptic civilization that could almost pass for a sequel to any one of the four major Invasion of the Body Snatchers flicks.

I feel at this moment much like I am living in such a world.

Enough with the pseudo-literary foreshadowing …

My fiance said I wouldn’t find any measure of validation — and not much more sympathy — for feeling distressed by her 17-year relationship with her male massage therapist. She was right.

I don’t know what it is exactly, but I guess when you get down to the heart of the matter, I just believe I am entitled to exclusive access to my fiance’s body. This is what I feel I will be entitled to as her husband, and naturally she is entitled to the same exclusivity where my body is concerned. Her body is proprietary and confidential. In a world in which control of anything is hard to come by — and when things are constantly changing and our position constantly being challenged — a spouse is supposed to be that one person we can count on. Do I feel I own her? Hell no! But is it too much to ask that I be allowed to feel that she and I belong to one another and one another only? This is part of what I think makes marriage both sacred and delightful. Marrying the right woman should bring me both love and peace, and while I know there is love here, peace is a hard thing to come by when I have to pop a Xanax when I know she is being serviced by another man.

It’s not so much that I am distrustful and fearful that my fiance’s quasi-professional relationship with her handsome male massage therapist will morph into something more intimate. He’s been kneading her flesh for some 17 years now — all as a married man until recently — and there’s never been a sexual aspect to this relationship. But I am the kind of guy who doesn’t like to get into that murky business of finding the line between clinical and sensual touch — sensual and sexual. At least half the people I have talked to want to bully me into pathologizing my own feelings, which I refuse to do. I believe my feelings on this subject is one thing that makes me a better lover and all-around significant other, and this aspect of my personality cannot be surgically resected from me without causing serious damage to “normal adjacent tissue.” And my feelings are this: touch is touch. And if my female significant other is to derive any sort of pleasure (or relief) from touch and from knowledge of her body, than it should not come from another man.

When I touch her body in any way — when I hold her hand or when I slide my palms up and down her sides as part of the 2-3 hour massages I give her every night — I feel something electric. I maintain an erection throughout the whole thing. I am sensitive that way and she benefits from my having that kind of tactile compass. So I feel I am being cheated or robbed — that a man is stealing the jewel of my soul — when he touches her. I feel violated whenever she derives some kind of pleasure at someone else’s hands. Touch is communication. Touch is a way of knowing the person you’re touching. Something passes between two people who are in these forms of contact. Touch is an important part of foreplay. You just can’t convince me that over the course of these 1-4 hour massage therapy sessions with this male massage therapist — that the sustainment of touch and the menagerie of tactile sensations both tenderly caressing and forcefully pressing — doesn’t hit some high notes in her every now and then. By what authority incidentally was it determined what is acceptable in a professional massage? I wasn’t consulted on this. I know the breasts and buttocks remain off-limits but who decided that no other part of the body can be an erogenous zone? For me, the area around the base of the neck and especially in front of the body, is very
To answer some of your comments:
1. I researched a same-sex therapist. She would have none of it.
2. Happy ending after all. I massage her 1-2 hours every night, and since then she has not seemed to need this guy. I think she realizes it would bother me too much for her to enjoy the massage.

I, m currently separated from my wife,i want to be with her,but I’ve done a lot of bad things what do i do

admin — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 19:01:50 +0000

I used drugs throughout the duration of my marriage.I’ve cheated,stole from the house.I was not a good husband,but i truly love her and miss her so much.

On what grounds can a father take shared custody or full custody of his children from their mother?

admin — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 07:10:02 +0000

I have a 14 year old son and a 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We ended our relationship shortly after the birth of our second child and soon then after I met and married my current husband and have been married to him for the past 11 years. My ex was not actively involved in the childrens life for the first few years. And I had to constantly pursue him so that he spend sometime with them. In 2000 I found out that he had a heroin problem and limited the time he saw them of which was very little because he never came around. as of recently past six years maybe he has been slowly stablelizing himself and married someone himself although she did enforce his visitation of them from time to time during past couple of years he has dissappeared on both me and his wife. But all in all he has been a stable dad for the past 3 years. We have had a freindly relationship between all involved parties as well and I have made it a point to involve him as much as possible in his childrens lifes. As of recently he has been demanding without consideration of how it will disruppt my household and home, (I do have a child with my current marriage, which these two children are a very important part of.) additional time with his children. When I informed him that I could not just say yes take them without seeing what I can do as far as who is going to watch over my younger child during the time that their older brother watches them, he proceeded to call DYFYS (Division of youth and family services) on me making tons of absurd not founded allegations on me. May I add he did these anonymusly however admitted it to my son when he questioned him on it. The only reason he gave to my son for calling Dyfis was that he was tired of me being the only one who has a say in their lifes. The children are angry with him for what he did and are not ready to talk to him although I everyday tell them they should, it has now been three weeks since the allegations where made by him and he has not even as called his kids. He is requesting joint custody in court and is demanding unreasonable times he is requesting he gets them tuesdays and thursday over night during the school year with e/o weekend starting from Friday to Monday. And during school vacation he wants them every other week. I am not against my children spending time with their father in fact I have always encouraged it, but I feel what he is requesting is not reasonable and he doesnt see how for the past 12 years I have build a life and family with them and my younger child and this will cause a huge detremental impact to all my children not just his. I am afraid of what a judge would say because for the latter years he has been a responsible father except for the fact that he never paid me child support. I dont want to keep kids from him I just want to have a stable home where I do not have to be afraid that he will take me to court at a whim just simply because he wants more time with them. Any suggestions can anyone help me.

i say rate each joke from 1 to 10 :D

admin — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 13:08:13 +0000

what do you call threatening and organized bankers = banksters !

what do japanese power plants create = yenergy :D

what is a hearse drives personality = a hearsonality

what did the hippie say at a war memorial say = “o free heroin ”

what did the kid playing real live tetris on a building site become= tetrisaplegic :D

what does bill gates have during sex = a microsoft .. :D

what did the hit man say to the employer when he finished someone of with a knife = i ceasered him

what did the anorexics name the astro turf = a gastro turth

what did the welsh wife wife say to her welsh husband when she found him in bed with a sheep = YOU WERE SHEEPING WITH HER!!

yush your entilted to your opinions (Y) FTW

and i respect what your all saying
good to give me some feedback :D

but hey my jokes portray a
random sense of humour (Y)
it’s pretty evident the majority of you hate randomness all but a few :D better than goat clippings :D fair play to you

..ok so you would think id choose these ppl no . im leaving this fecal matter down to teh voters :D

im not one sided and predictable as ye shall see (Y)

From Prohibition to AA

admin — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 08:17:41 +0000

An interview with Dr. Stanton Peele. Produced and directed by Patrick and Andrea Bergin. Copyright First Vision Productions 2003.

Help..marriage proposal from two guys?

admin — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 03:00:57 +0000

I am 29 and have dated my share of losers. I have recently had two marriage proposals but am uncertain on my decision. Neither one of the guys seem like the perfect one. However, I do not have any family( no brothers or sisters and my Grandparents and Mom died to cancer when I was 25) I don’t want to be too picky for my own good because lets face it no one is perfect or 100% a perfect match.
The two guys that proposed each have their problems. One is 29 and is easy going and extremely sweet. We have dated for about a year now. He relocated and bought a house I liked and is very generous with me. He never yells at me and is a gentle person. The downfall is he has a dog that barks all day long and has bit me ( even after dog training) a mother that calls 50 times a day and tries to run his life even though he’s 29 , lives on his own, and pays all his own bills. He doesn’t talk much or have a backbone. He is not extremely affectionate and doesn’t take an interest in health and working out. He already has diabetes,slightly overweight, asthma and high blood pressure. His Mom is an alcoholic and pushes liquor on him and because he doesn’t have a backbone he will drink even though he knows he shouldn’t be. He doesn’t do yard work or much of anything around the house. On top of this I really want to be a stay at home Mom and just found out he has no sperm. He has never got a job on his own and has worked for his Dad for 11 years with no paid vacation or a retirement which does concern me.
The other guy I dated for three years. He is financially stable and affectionate. The problem with him is I question if he has too much baggage which could be a problem for the future. He is 12 years older than me and has a 19 yr old daughter that lives with him. She steals my clothes, etc which can be very annoying. He also has an 11 yr old boy that stays every other weekend. He has been married twice.. the first wife died. He was a meth addict and alcoholic for 10 years but has been clean for three years. I have never done drugs and do not understand the drug addiction. He also smokes which I find disgusting. However, he is motivated, ambitious and high energy which I really like. On top of his business he owns he is also selling legally medical marijuana at his home and has his daughter helping him which I have a problem with. He feels because it’s legal there is no issue.
Do either one of these guys sound like potential or do both of them sound like Schmucks?

How do I keep myself emotionally unattached from a married man?

admin — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 11:13:58 +0000

I am in need of some help from ladies and gents! I am in my early 20s, and recently took a new job where I found myself instantly attracted to my boss who is in his late 30s. He has always been kind of flirty, which makes things harder, and nothing was more disappointing then learning he was married with kids. I let go of the idea right away.

One night when everyone went to a loud bar for after work drinks, he admitted to me (slightly inebriated) that he and his wife had been having problems for years now. He wasn’t wearing his ring and neither did she anymore. This kind of intoxicated me, but I still dropped the idea. After all, he is MARRIED and about 15 years older then me.

Just recently, we had been kind of flirty again. His wife drives me crazy. She calls the office 14 times a day demanding to speak to him and fighting with him. We have this inner-office instant messaging system and him and I constantly talk on it. I have felt very close with him because we are so much alike, and even tho he is my boss, I can tell him anything and everything about me and he hasn’t been judgmental or held it against my work.

We went out one night for drinks and I got very drunk, and on the car ride home I confessed to him that I has the hots for him since day one, and that I fantasize about him. We made out, did a little heavy petting and then I went home. The next day he had asked if I had regrets and I didn’t. We have been dirty talking, extra flirty, and he even told me how he and his wife haven’t had sex in 7 months (which I feel bad. I am a firm believer that men run on sex, and as long as they work hard, they deserve as much as they want. If the dude is unemployed bum who plays video games, no sex. haha). So, I feel bad and I want to be able to give him all that stuff he is missing out on. I like him alot, but when I think about it, we are in different stages of our lives and if he were single I don’t think I would date him. We have agreed to be friends with benefits, and neither of us has done something like this before. He told me he is slightly worried my feelings will get hurt, which they will, but I do really want that side action from him.

So my question is…. how DO I keep myself emotionally unattached? Especially when he seems to actually like me as well.

Christians, remove him from this land?

admin — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 23:04:57 +0000

Read this article and thought, wow… wonder if they (being you Christians) ever thought like this too?

Remove Him from this Land
by Muhammad Alshareef

In the book, Muslim Judges of Andalus, Abu Al-Hasan Ibn Abdullaah Al-Maaliqee recounts a story about a great scholar of our Ummah: Muhammad ibn At-Tayyib Abu Bakr Al-Baaqillaanee (d. 1013). Let’s spend a moment in his sandals, so that we may feel the power that Islam had in the hearts of those Muslims.

Here is a passage from when the Khalifah of the Muslims sent Abu Bakr Al-Baaqillaanee to the Roman King. Ibn Hayyaan says:

The transgressor (the King of the Romans) invited Abu Bakr Al-Baaqillaanee to a Christian banquet, and on the appointed day, Abu Bakr Al-Baaqillaanee arrived. The hall was lush with Christian noblemen, the walls and tables dazzled in decorations. At that moment, the King beckoned Al-Baaqillaanee near, sitting him a step down from his throne and complimenting him with flattering questions. All around the King sat noblemen and those most nearest to his counsel.

Then the Batrik (the High Priest) entered the banquet hall with his entire splendor; the final guest, the chief of their religion. Swarming him was an assembly of lower priests; each reciting the Injeel (Bible) and carrying lanterns of incense, all of them dressed in their most finely hemmed

garments. When the Batrik found himself in the center of the hall, the King stood glorifying the Batrik. He bowed his head and rubbed both hands on the Batrik’s shoulders. Then to his immediate right, the King sat the Batrik down on a throne marvelous in its own right.

After the moment had passed and the crowd had focused on the stage in that castle banquet hall, the King turned to Al-Baaqillaanee and said with a sniff, “O Faqeeh! The Batrik is the chief of our religion, and the guardian of the flock.”

Al-Baaqillaanee turned to the Batrik with the warmest smile and the gentlest of words. He asked the sweetest and most loving questions, then Al-Baaqillaanee said something to the effect of, “So Batrik…how are the kids and wife?”

Remember, the popes would practice celibacy. At this question, the hall fell silent. Blasphemy! The King was shocked. The Batrik was outraged. Brows cringed, decorations dimmed, disgusted faces shaped on all.

Then Abu Bakr Al-Baaqillaanee said, “O people, listen to me. You dislike that this mere mortal could have a wife and children ascribed to him, and you deny any allegation to the contrary. Yet, when it comes to your Lord, Glorious and most High, you do not feel the same disgust; you attribute to Allah both the wife and child that you would never allow your Batrik to be associated with. Suddatan lihaadha ar-ra’y! (Perished be your claim! How clearly wrong it is!)”

These words fell in the Christians hands and they had no answer. Fear and nervousness shook their hearts. Quickly the King turned to the Batrik and whispered in his ear, “What shall we do?”

He replied, “Treat this man honorably, complete the dinner, then expel this Iraqi trouble maker from your land; today if you can. Otherwise, you shall not be safe from his mischief.”

The King did as he was advised. Al-Baaqillaanee was sent back to Iraq, back to the Khalifah, with gifts and the release of many Muslim prisoners.

This is a true story that took place in the year 1002 CE. May Allah handsomely reward those that preserved it for us.

From http://www.khutbah.com/en/sahabaa/land.php
Seriously I was hoping for INTELLIGENT answers…
if u don’t wanna read, fine! your own laziness and take your business elsewhere please, I’d like serious people to answer ONLY!!!… ah….
This takes less than 5 minutes to read, what do u want? And I have the question clearly posted up there (can you read? try reading carefully)
Thank you clockwork_faerie, probably the closest to an answer I was looking for! (good to know there are some intelligent people out there…) sorta anyway
Kindomchild07, I am asking regarding the idea that preists (and all the other postitions) and nuns are not allowed to have a family. It’s unnatural and yet you feel like it’s okay that you give God a kid?! WHY???

WHY??? the question is WHY people!? Can someone please answer me!
angeltress, again try to understand what i am asking…
I know quite well the miracle of Jesus (Isa PBUH)’s birth and honestly I believe Muslims have more respect for Mary (Maryum AS) and Jesus (Isa PBUH) than you do…

again angeltress, I am asking regarding the idea that preists (and all the other postitions) and nuns are not allowed to have a family. It’s unnatural and yet you feel like it’s okay that you give God a son?! WHY???

WHY??? the question is WHY people!? Can someone please answer me!
See, you said they can since Peter did… but why don’t they? Why has society (which the story makes clear) disapproved that a high priest (and others) cannot have a family. And therefore inflicting serious damages in the man’s nature (and possibly the reason now that there’s so many “accidents” happening in the church). And besides why isn’t there ever a married nun? kids, husband??? And yet you decide God should have a son???

The story SHOWS the wisdom of Al-Baaqillaanee and his logic. He didn’t mean it as an insult (which they took), rather he made it a clear point which they themselves couldn’t address!!! And because they knew he was correct and that he had a good point that could show the other people their weak and fabricated religion the decided to expel him and to make sure that it wasn’t a show of power or hatred they sent gifts back with the knowledgeable one… I’m sorry you and others could only see this point and fail to recognize the main point of the story!!!!

What Discovery Chanel show from years ago…?

admin — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 01:04:29 +0000

Years ago, I saw this discovery channel series that was amazing. The show showed you, through actors who acted out the situations, what happens to your body in certain situations. One was a man who was going on a diet and dropped lots of water weight at first. Then, after starving himself, he went on a binge and ordered a large pizza. Another one was about a man who had Salmonella poisoning after his wife didn’t cook a chicken thoroughly. Another one was about a woman who was allergic to bee stings. The last one I remember was about teenagers who were experimenting with sex. Please help me figure out what show this is!!

Help! I have the in-laws from hell, but my wife is amazing!?

admin — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 13:01:14 +0000

My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. I love her dearly and would be completely lost without her. We’ve been together for nearly ten years and I can’t imagine my life without her. The problem I have is with her family. They all have serious personal issues that they won’t do anything about.

Her mother suffers from depression or has bi-polar or something, but refuses to acknowledge she has a problem and therefore won’t seek help. She has tried to commit suicide before, but refuses to go to any couselling, get help or take medication. The reason being – “I don’t have a problem, everyone else has the problem” Whenever she visits I have to be watchfull of everything I say, so as not to upset her or make her feel unwelcome. She has constant mood swings and is a very difficult person to be around.

Her father is an alcoholic. He drinks heavily every day and has numerous medical ailments, but that won’t stop him drinking. Last month, he had another surgery and now has a colostemy bag. He was told by his surgeon to stop drinking but he won’t. His drinking is one of the main reasons his marriage ended to my wife’s mother.

Her older brother is a border line alcoholic who has become violent when he’s drunk. He has also started using drugs occasionally.The violence and drug taking has only started since his relationship with his girlfried ended. Before that he was a great person.

Her younger brother is a supposed reformed drug user/dealer. I haven’t had much to do with her younger brother because he lives the furtherest away, but the time I have spent with him makes me feel uneasy. I simply don’t trust him.

The main problem I have is that we have a young son and I don’t want him exposed to the lifestyles and problems of her family. Unfortunately my wife’s childhood with her family and their relationships since then have always been tumultuous and full of drama, but she is still desperate to have any kind of relationship with them that she can. She regularly will turn a blind eye to things that happen with them. I am not so forgiving or understanding.

I want my wife to know that I love her dearly and understand how important her family is to her, but at the same time I need her to know that my top priority is protecting my family and I will do anything to do that, even if it means upsetting hers. How can I let my wife know this without upsetting her or making her feel like I don’t want her to have contact with ther family. I’m happy for her family to be in our lives, but not at the cost of affecting our son’s upbringing.

Is there any LEGAL way to have my wife removed from my home in Georgia?

admin — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 09:02:50 +0000

For the past year to two years my marriage has been on a steady downhill slide. We have been married for almost eight wonderful years but my wife has seemed to let the verse “bad associations spoil useful habits” take control of her life. The problems started when she started associating with a group of people that have ALL been in trouble with the law for drugs and possession of drugs. I could see the trouble on the horizon and asked, begged and demanded that she pay close attention to where she was headed but to no avail. We have two children, ages 3 and 7 together and for the past 3 months she has quit all of her wifely duties from cleaning to sexual relations. When we (I) discuss it she blows up and refuses to discuss it, only stating over and over that she wants a divorce. I can not leave because I am the only one working but she wont even try and find work. Is there anything I can do legally to get her removed at least until she is ready to be married again or we divorce?? HELP!

In the book I heard the Owl call my name is keetahs husband the man that takes the mask away from the village?

admin — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:06:35 +0000

In the book it says that Keetah comes back to the village, but when i was doing a little more research it says that a man and his soon to be wife leave the village and go to vancouver. It also says that she becomes a prostitute and dies of a heroin overdose. HELP I’M CONFUSED!!!!!!!

how to stop my dad from helping my drug addict sister?

admin — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 09:08:18 +0000

O.K. my sister has abandoned her family, including 3 kids, and only speaks to my dad because he gives her money. I am certain she is doing drugs. She is not a kid, 35, and used to be just fine; great mom, wife, sister, daughter. I just found out that she stole prescription medication, and money from my parents house. I’m looking for some website or group to show my dad that giving her money and bailing her out of her problems is not helping her, but actually hurting her in the long run. She needs help, but not the help my dad is giving her. Maybe I am wrong, but I truly believe handing money to someone on drugs for “groceries” or what not is not the best idea.

My wife gave birth to our 1st child(Together I have 1 from a previous marriage)?

admin — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 09:04:40 +0000

my son(her step son) is 5 he went to his moms this weekend, my ex called and said he wasnt feeling well and asked me to come get him. I went and got him and he said he felt fine. he told me that his mommy had a guy over and they were smoking something in this galss pipe that spelled funny and that mom sniffed powder up her nose. Anyhow he also said “Mommy says that now that you have a new wife and baby you wont want me there so I mite come live with her.” I asked him if that was why he wanted to come home. He said “Yea I told mommy I felt yucky and wanted to go home” I have custody but she has visitaion every other weekend. She is BEHIND WAY BEHIND on child support and is a heavy drug addict.. I want to take ehr rights away..can I just stop sending him when its ehr weekend, She also calls here while I am at work and harasses Carrie, and did so every since Carrie found out she was expecting
my current wife has been so wonderful to Cayden(my son) he hugs her and tells her he loves her and ask if he can call her mommy instead of Carrie. She says she loves him too and wants me to just take all rights from my ex.

How do i know if my son’s reoccurring bloody nose is not from babysitter being on heroin or any other drugs?

admin — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 11:08:06 +0000

My son has been having reoccuring bleeding from the nose at night and sometimes in the day. Me and my wife have rarely bleed from nose so i know it can’t be passed down. But in the other hand our “babysitter” has been having the same, bloody noses and i have found lots of q-tips in the bathroom trash can full of her blood. One time i caught her with q-tip up her nose and said “my nose was bleeding , and i don’t know why”. This raised red flag in my head but what is also bodering me is that almost everytime we make contact with her she always has the “sniffles” like whipping her runny nose on her hand and if she really sniffs drugs this will make contact with my son. This is why i think that my son has a reoccuring bloody nose. In fact i know for sure she is a heroin user back in her old days, but once a user always a user. there is much more i want to say but please can anyone help me? im thinking of drug test, but how can you when the babysitter is mother-in-law? i know you are saying “this is your son you are talking about” but what if i’am wrong i would feel bad. But what if i’m right? I’ll send her to jail or rehab program. and never let her touch my baby again untill i know she is fully CLEAN! I NEED ANSWERS!

Am I wrong for finally wanting to detach from my mom and my brother?

admin — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 13:05:44 +0000

See they are both addicts. My brother an alcoholic my mother to prescription medications. They have both hurt me emotionally time after time. I have worked hard in my life to overcome my past. I was a teenage mom who finally earned her Master’s degree in Sp. Education. I have 3 daughters who I am trying to provide a good safe home. We had to commit my brothers wife for drugs. She had several car accidents last month with her 11 month old daughter, my niece. Her aunt and my mother have came after me with words. They say I am holier than thou and that I think I am better than everyone else. I just tried to save my sister in laws life along with her daughters. My mother constantly bashes me to other people. I can’t be around this kind of negativity any longer. I had to tell her to stay away from me and my family husband and daughters. Was I wrong There is so much more she used to leave me for days when I was a kid. She told me she was going to kill herself.

Can an irregular heart beat prevent me from going into Military?

admin — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 09:00:34 +0000

I’ve been having an irregular heartbeat for over a year now. I have just recently planned on going into the military to finish paying for college. Right now, I’m skeptical. I currently have a holter monitor on me trying to find the cause and treatment for it. Hopefully, it can be cured so I can. But my future wife is afraid of me going to the military, so I don’t want to upset her.

When I was younger, my heart fluttered like once a month. Then last year they got a whole lot worse. I was taking 3 different pills last year to help me study for my exams and to do a research paper. I was taking Co-Enzyme Q10, Detox 7 ( a bowel cleanser) and OneADay Mens Energy. Plus I was drinking a cup of coffee every morning almost.

i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?

admin — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 01:03:58 +0000

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

Why does my wife go from a raving shrew to a kind, gentle woman after I give her one of my expert lovemakings?

admin — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 23:10:54 +0000

I’m really talented in bed, but I don’t necessarily enjoy sex all that much. Like once a week is fine by me (I also have a mistress who I deliver to a few times a month). But my wife isn’t really all at talented herself in bed, and is quite large now, so I often consider it a chore.

Anyway, my wife, while she won’t admit it, seems to get really crazy as the week progresses. She’ll start calling me names, cursing all the time, flying off the handle. She gets mad if I even look at another woman. Then I finally give in and put on one of my shows. She is totally calm after, like a heroin addict getting a hit; she even seems to joke about the tawdry women I seem to attract.

But, meanwhile, my wife won’t actually ASK for sex, and pretends it’s just a bodily function. But her mood changes so dramatically after I decide to take her not-so-subtle hints.

Is your spouse like this?

Can a will keep my parents from taking custody of my daughter if I die?

admin — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 01:05:40 +0000

We haven’t been able to find a lawyer that will talk to us about this without wanting to charge for a simple answer to the question… “Can we do this?”

My wife and I want to keep my parents and her parents from getting custody of our daughter should something happen and we die. We have people picked out to care for her should something happen to us.

I’ve heard that this is common, for the grandparents to get custody (we have no other family members) Neither of them have arrests, or anything that would pointedly show they are unfit. However, her parents are abusive and her mother is a prescription drug addict. My parents are neglectful, my father is an “functional” alcoholic and my mother is flat out crazy but has never been diagnosed (we suspect she is majorly bi-polar) and she abuses prescription drugs to an extent as well.

We have no documents, or major proof other than our experiences with them. We have Godparents chosen, but don’t know if a Will would set this in stone, and keep them from getting custody.

We are letting my parents visit on occassion, but we never leave them alone and they only stay for a day at a time. Her parents we have no contact with whatsoever and they don’t even know our daughters name (but they are spiteful and vindictive enough to try and get her if we passed away).

Basically, our parents are shitheads. My father is an attorney so I’m worried he would be able to find a way around whatever we try to do.

We haven’t been able to find a lawyer that will talk to us about this without wanting to charge for a simple answer to the question… “Can we do this?”

Emotional Abuse From an Alcoholic?

admin — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 07:03:04 +0000

Well 2 years ago, my mum and my step-dad broke up, and not too long after we made friends with this guy Jeff and his son, who lived two doors down from us who had also broken up with his wife. He was a total alcoholic (still is) and it wasn’t long till he moved in with us and his son and my sister hooked up, so they’re living down at Jeff’s old place. Anyways ever since he’s been living here he’s made my life a living hell. He calls me names like I’m stupid, worthless, lazy and tells me I’ve got nothing to live for. Last time we had a fight he was all “I’ve got more money than you”. And so I replied, “So you should, you’re 58.” and so he said “I’ll always have more money than you.” So I laughed and said, “You wish”. I went outside and he followed me (aka stalked), with his fists balled and started yelling at me about this crap. I told mum and she keeps telling me he’s gonna leave soon, but he never does. What can I do to ignore him till I can get the money together to rent a house?

How do you pull away from a relationship when you know its not right?

admin — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 01:03:21 +0000

Hi,to cut a long story very short i married a guy,thought i,d finally met the one after my first husband had an affair .Everything was great,we had fallen totally for each other got married and had three beautiful kids together.Downside,he got depression and anxiety,hasnt worked for 3 years because of this and i financially supported him even working two jobs when i was pregnant,wanting to do anything to help him get better.He would when on a bad day go out alone buy a bottle of vodka from local shop and get very drunk.probably in the end at least one to two times a month.We tryed AA, but both thought he is not an alcoholic just misuses it when low.Antidepressants didnt help either.He tried training for a new job that hasnt been able to get work,i guess people are wary of his history.We have beeen separated for six months after he became impossible to live with,being needy,saying i didnt show him enough love and attention,totally draining me .i was walking on eggshells in the end,he takes things the wrong way often,I am very loving and affectionate but it has never been enough.My family and friends say i could not have done anymore to help him,that most would have left him years ago.But i cant break away. i wish i didnt love him so much but i do,he has been the only man to smother me with love and affection and beautiful words and is also very loving with our kids. The truth is i feel as his wife responsible for helping him,he has no friends to speak of as he stopped making the effort,his family only ring once every two months,i,m all he,s got.He has said himself that i probably should have left him.He was in a relationship years ago with an alcoholic and spent 3 years trying to help her and people told him to leave the same way they are telling me,he says he cant believe he has turned into what she was with me,and understands why people say you cant help him.So what do i do? i feel stuck in a hole,a no win situation,miserable with him or without.He is trying to get a job and going to college again ,everyone says i,ve heard all this before.He goes on about dreading the day i find someone else and that he still feels i,m his wife and he still loves me madley. An old male friend has contacted me through facebook and has split from his longterm wife and wants to meet up,he says we could help each other through,.I would never have cheated on my husband,if i met this man even though we are separated i would feel a cheat and i know the wasy my husband thinks,he would say i,ve cheated.Help me please,how do you finally tear away from someone you love so strongly when they seem to have this hold over you.This other guy is a real gent,i have known him since we were kids,would we be wrong to meet up?guess i,m scared of being alone with four kids too…thank you so mch for reading my crapxxxxx
This has been going on for four years now ,how much do you give and for how long?We have split 3 times and always end up here.i am feeling resentful now.
i feel i have given him more than a fair break and that loving him is ruining me.the other guy has been separated a long time from his wife as i have ,we are both good honest people who have given everything.i am confused,i am not about to sleep with this man its just a shoulder to cry on if i need it.

how do i get my wife to stop running from her feelings for me, and make our 13 year marriage work?

admin — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 05:00:52 +0000

my wife left me because i had a drug problem that i needed help to overcome, i only asked her to love and support me the way i was always there for her. we have 6 kids and out of those 6 i know 1 isnt mine and i have doubts about another, but i never condemned her i stood by her through everything, all i needed was the same from her,but what she said and what she did were 2 different things,but i still love her ,during thanksgiving i visited her and my kids, and she told me how sorry she was, and that she loves me and that she wanted to work it out ,and we ended up in bed that night, well i had to come back 2 reno 2 wrap up loose ends, and after i gave up everything and was leaving, she called and said she changed her mind,and hasnt talked to me since what should i do?

My husband has three children from a previous marriage. His ex wife has poisoned the children’s minds to the?

admin — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 11:03:05 +0000

point of their hating me. I have been pushed, called a b**ch on numerous occasions, excluded from conversations by being told that what they are talking about is none of my business. My husband just lets it go on. Not too long ago I asked one of them if he even loved me a little bit, he answered I want to stick knives in you. My husband drug me out of the room and said it was my fault for asking. My reply to his son was, hay! Lies are being told to family and some of them have been alienated from us because of this nonsense. It is hard to defend yourself against what you don’t know is being said. I had a mild stroke last weekend because of this stuff. My husband chose to use a blind eye and not see what was happening. I have always been healthy and fit, so a stroke is really a surprise. He has taken his children to an expensive hotel this weekend to talk to them. He only saw that what was happening was happening because of an email sent to my daughter by one of them and by some very cryptic messages from his ex. He has only called me one time since he left work at 1 yesterday. I am home alone and still not 100%, he usually calls me several times a day to chat – I don’t know what to make of this stuff. I honestly don’t know what to do. Any help is welcomed here.

I’m in drug court, how do i fight a sanction for a false positive from eating poppy seed bagels?

admin — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 02:02:50 +0000

I’m in drug court in Michigan. I have been sanctioned with a week in jail for producing a false positve urine test from eating bagels that contained poppy seeds. The judge said I had extremely high levels of codene and morphine in my system the day of the false positve. However the following morning I tested clean. The judge will most likely count this as a relapse and I will then have to repeat a whole phase all over again.

I know i did not relapse, my probation officer and my counseler both strongly believe that I did not use any drugs. I am in a bind because in drug court I have given up my rights to seek any counsel. Is there a way for me to legally fix this. I am seriously afraid to eat because I do not want to go back to jail.

I want to know if I can move back to Chicago. I feel that this whole drug court is ruining my life. It is keeping me from succeeding. I have a little over a yr left in college I’m getting a BS in IT/programming, I have 2 kids and a wife. The economy is terrible here in Michigan there are no jobs. I feel like drug court has made my life worse instead of making it better.

I have never missed a drug test, i was only late twice. I have made every AA meeting, and attended every counseling meeting. What should I do?
I also have the reciept of when i bought the bagels which was the night before i tested positive for opium in my system.
ok let me clear a few things… the program is called sobriety court it deals mostly with alcohol misd. offenses. most call it drug court because it’s shorter and there are some cases with people with MIP’s short for minors in possession.

1. the reason I am in SOBRIETY/DRUG court now is because of 2 alcohol related offenses. i blew a .13 BAC and the second offense that lead me to this program was a .09 BAC.

2. i do not use drugs unless prescribed by my doctor.

3. do some research people!!!

4. Please i would like real and intelligent answers. Do not respond to this if you are here clearly to just judge. I was looking for more of a legal loop hole, to seek representation to fight a false positive while in drug court but i can’t
it doesn’t even matter anymore, cuz i squared everything my name is clear. TY for a complete waste of time and showing me that majority of people that formulate answers here speak without a validity, mostly just hot air out of their mouths.

Detoxing from methadone response. Please help. pt 2?

admin — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 02:02:49 +0000

So with the pain management doctor got all the way up to snorting 10 80′s a day and then finally one day he said, “I think you are abusing these and flat out cut me off” Talk about death. I am a 36 year old with a good accounting job with no prior history of pain med addiction. Learn to snort from internet. So after a day or two of hell, I went to the Methadone clinic. Got put on 35 up to 70 for 8 months. Ended up losing my job because I was late so many times. Now 9 moths later couldn’t afford to pay and got admin detox. 3 weeks from 70 to 0. Now I’m 9 days into detox and I’m feeling worse everyday. No sleep for 9 days and that’s why I took the perk 5′s and Vicoden to try to get one moments rest. House now in foreclosue and wife and child left thinking I’m a drug addict. All from one accident and what I think was some irresponsible medical treatment.
Any advice please. As I am losing my mind and am freezing, sleepless, and completely depressed. Cry often

Have you had a traffic accident? How did you react? What did you learn from the experience?

admin — Sat, 14 Aug 2010 15:17:29 +0000

Last Friday morning I rear-ended what was probably a stopped vehicle on an interstate highway. It was dark, I crested a hill and didn’t see the vehicle until it was too late to stop or swerve around him.

After the accident the vehicle I hit left the scene and I never found out who he was. My vehicle was most likely totalled, but I was completely uninjured. My airbags didn’t even deploy.

I was disoriented for a few minutes, but called 9-1-1, my wife and my insurance company in that order on my cell phone. I’m glad to be okay, and I’ve been putting things together and I think I was pretty much aware of what was going on prior to the accident and was basically in the right.

The driver I hit was likely intoxicated, or engaged in illegal activity, or uninsured, or an illegal alien or all of the above.

Have you had an experience like this? Share your experiences with any accidents you might have had. I hope we can all learn from them.
It was about 6 a.m. Friday morning, CDT, and dark. The pavement was essentially dry, although there had been some morning dew.

My speed was most probably about 60 mph, but could have been as low as 55 and as high as 65. The vehicle has no cruise control and I drove it mainly by engine sound, and usually was within 5 mph of my preferred nighttime driving speed of 65.

I was southbound on I-37. The vehicle I struck was an older sedan, probably from the ’70′s or early ’80′s. Its taillights were on, but were dim. The vehicle was either stopped or moving very slowly, and my impression was that it was stopped.
My comments about illegal aliens are totally fair. We have a lot of them in this part of South Texas, and a lot of them drive vehicles just like the one I hit. This driver obviously wanted nothing to do with Law Enforcement. And–as I always do–I was wearing my seatbelt with its integrated shoulder harness. I believe that was the main reason I was unhurt. My impact speed was low enough to not deploy airbags.
Right now I am sitting in a radio station newsroom listening to police scanners. Five miles north of where my accident took place tonight there was a major theft bust involving at least five or six people. Along that same interstate in the last two years there have been probably at least a dozen drug busts and there have been numerous dumpings of dead bodies. So there is plenty of illegal activity, and my time of day was absolutely the right time for some of that to be taking place. So my comments about illegal activity, intoxication, illegal aliens, et. al. are totally within the realm of possibility and one of them at least is highly likely. And I am not profiling or being racist. I know a number of good people who happen to be aliens, most of them legal. I am against illegal immigration but I believe in compassionate treatment for illegal aliens who are otherwise obeying the law. My comments are based on (1) my knowledge of the area, and (2) experience as a newsman.

What can my friends wife take from him should he file for a divorce in Florida.?

admin — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 19:01:21 +0000

My friend is trapped in a loveless marriage to a mean vindictive drug abuser. They have not lived together for two years. They have no children or property together.
If he files for divorce can he be forced to pay alimony and provide medical insurance etc. She has threatened to ruin him financially can she do this. They have been married for five years.

Thankyou.

Advice: fair to keep distance from alcoholic dad?

admin — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 14:00:49 +0000

My father is a multiple-regressive alcoholic who needs hospitalization or detox any time he is off the wagon. He has been sober, supposedly for a few months. I an a 34-year old with a wife and 3 little kids. He and his wife are not understanding why I am so skittish to re-enter his life, after over a decade of pain and heartbreak. We are on speaking terms, but I know he wants more, and wants to see the kids more. I am trying to insulate them from the heartbreak I have felt off and on for the last 15 years.

So I guess the question is, is it fair for me to keep him at arm’s reach and to insulate my kids from having any real bond with he or his wife (also an alcoholic, BTW). My protectiveness says stay away, danger, danger. My love for him says, he’ll be gone some day and then it will be too late.

I have honestly been so hurt by him, I am most comfortable just avoiding him, but I feel like I have to decide. Advice from adults appreciated.

My son is recently seperated from his wife and he is trying to work it out…?

admin — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 19:07:51 +0000

and she is going to counseling to.She cheated on him with her boss out of state at a meeting. He is in AA for alcohol due to stress and them both losing a bussiness. He has never cheated in his marriage and she says he is a good husband and father and she forgives him. But today she told him she wants to stay seperated and may want to see other people. She wants him to come home Saturday night to stay overnight with his 2 young children while she stays with her mother and goes out with her girlfriend dancing and drinking. She says she needs time away from the kids and needs a night out. They have been married for 10 years and at the begining of their marriage took in her young sister and brother for 2 years because her mother had issues. In the last year her father had a stroke and now lives in their home with them. What do you guys think about this relationship and is there hope?
Thanks everyone for answering me I am staying out of it as much as possible but she put him on my door step. Things are so hard right now because his step mother whom he loves dearly just died at 4:30 this morning.

My wife and her friend are both pregnant from me?

admin — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 13:13:31 +0000

About 3 months ago my wife talked me into a 3 some with her and her friend ( it didn’t take alot of persuading), after a few drinks at our place we became intimate, due to our intoxicated state we did not use protection, now both my wife and her friend are pregnant, I take full responsability for my actions and want to provide for my children, however my wife is filling for a divorce and wants nothing to do with her friend or her friends baby, I believe that it was all 3 of us who willingly went into this encounter and we should deal with it as a team.
Do you think I should divorce my wife and marry her friend, we are campatable and I think it could work.
Or do you think that I should not grant my wife a divorce and make her face the reality of the situation she helped create.
either way I will do my best to be a father to my yet unborn children

How long does it take to de-tox from prescriptions & alcohol?

admin — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 17:07:25 +0000

My wife took a lot of xanax and other prescription drugs while drinking a substantial amout of whiskey. She is bi-polar. She fell several times and has the bruises to prove it. We took her to her psychiatrist who sent her to the hospital for a minimum 72 hr stay. He says that she needs to be de toxed from all the prescriptions that she’s been on as well as the alcohol to which she has become addicted. Is 72 hrs enough time for someone to de tox? She has been on psychotic meds for 25 yrs. She keeps getting worse. At the emergency room she told the nurse that she was trying to kill herself. She had a full bottle of xanax but only took 16. Anyone with the misfortune to have experience with this type of trouble is asked to share what they know. Thank you.

Do you know a country song about a man who just return from the army and then finds his wife cheating?

admin — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:03:36 +0000

He then indulges in Alcoholic Drinks