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If a husband does all the handywork as well as works a full-time job, while your wife doesn’t — then there’s no reason for her or anyone on the outside to complain of her cooking and cleaning.

Men do their part. Women should do their part as well. Child-rearing, cooking, and cleaning is not “demeaning” and never was. It contributes to the household and is therefore important.

It’s beginning to look like a lot of women just want a rich Prince Charming man to sweep them off their feet so they won’t have to work or do any chores, so they can just eat chocolates and watch Oprah and soaps all day.

I think fairytale books about Repunzel, Snow White, Cinderella, and Romeo & Juliet should be banned from young girls. Seriously. They grow up to be women with Fairy Tale Complexes that think men were put on earth to bow down to them and worship their every movement and serve their every need. Then they get disappointed, depressed, and binge-eat when they face something known as reality.
Following this reaction, these women then turn into man-haters and femisandrists that then begin to question and complain that “there are no more good men”? Are there really no more good men? Or just no men that live up to your high fairy-tale expectations?
Carrie: Most people don’t “like” chores, but they must be done. Some do actually find cleaning and chores to be a form of stress-release. I know I enjoy cooking because I’m good at it. Men and women grow up doing chores. Deal with it.
Let me also state that these books are detrimental to young boys as well. They grow up feeling inadequate because most likely they will be unable to live up to the impossibly-high standards of being the prince charming that “rescues” women — and it’s intimidating to young boys who grow up trying to be that “knight-in-shining-armor” that rides over the hilly horizon on his white horse. Even though it’s 2007, and not medieval times, it still applies — the white horse is replaced with an expensive car with shiny expensive rims, and the “knight” status is a form of societal status and the “shining” element represents economical wealth and “bling” — all this is used to meet the expectations of today’s Western Woman, all which are nearly impossible standards a man must meet in today’s society.
Trish the Dish: Me stating that the books should be banned is merely “tongue-in-cheek”. I’m well aware that they won’t be banned and can’t be banned. Thanks for missing the point. The point is that parents have the power to not subject their children to such nonsense which unfortunately lays a groundwork for what children think life should be like in their future.

After all, the man was drinking and driving, assaulted his wife, and left the scene of an accident. This doesn’t sound like the type of role model that young believers need to be looking up to.

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LOS ANGELES (AP) – Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro to represent her as she prepares to head to jail for violating probation in a 2007 drug case.

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My wife has recently quit drinking. She is very angry and blames me for many of our troubles. She joined AA on her on but as a result of many train wrecks finally catching up to her. Selfish, angry, in denial, unwilling to talk about all of the problems she created over the past 4 years. She is both untrustworthy and untrusting of me. I am curious what I am in for if our marriage actually survives. Specifially, what are signs that we are on a better path and if there are any what are early warning signs to look for.

I didn’t buy my wife an anniversary present so she broke up with me and is now a police woman. Only problem is, shes trying to make my life hell for me. Everytime i drive she gives me a ticket for no reasson, and always tells the headquarters that I drive drunk. Plus, she turned Jewish just to make fun of my budhist beliefs! Should i run to Canada, Moscow or India? Please help!

DENVER – Courtroom spectators in attendance for unrelated cases were brought to tears as Barbara Barben’s family described the devastating loss caused by the driver who was so drunk he was nearly comatose behind the wheel.
Alberto Alvarado-Barojas, who is in the United States illegally, was sentenced to the maximum of 12 years in prison after pleading guilty to vehicular homicide. He is expected to be deported to Mexico upon his release.

Alvarado-Barojas had a blood alcohol level of at least .393, about five times the legal limit, when he ran a red light on Hampden Avenue and hit Barben on the morning of September 14, 2009.

Paul A. Barben, Barbara Barben’s widower, said there would be no forgiveness.

“My grandchildren have had their grandmother taken from them. My sons had their mother taken from them,” Barben said. “And I lost my best friend.”

“The vision that I go through daily is knowing that my wife’s last moments on Earth were spent in anguish and in the indignity of being ground into the gutter by Mr. Barojas,” Barben said.

Christopher Barben, the victim’s son, called Alvarado-Barojas “an uninvited guest in my country” who “seems to have a flagrant disregard for the law.”

Another one of Barbara Barben’s sons told the judge that Alvarado-Barojas is a “thief.”

“He stole the soul of my family,” Paul Barben said. “He also stole a plethora of memories not yet made, memories that will never be made.”

Barojas, through his attorney, asked for a sentence of probation and spoke briefly through an interpreter.

“This was an accident,” Alvarado-Barojas said, directing his comments at the Barben family. “I ask for your pardon.”

Judge Shelley Gilman said Alvarado-Barojas was not taking responsibility for his actions. She noted that he had the highest blood alcohol level she’d seen in her 12 years on the bench.

A 9Wants To Know investigation reveals a warrant for Alvarado-Barojas’ arrest on a previous DUI charge was prematurely dismissed, eliminating an opportunity for authorities to arrest and potentially deport him a year before the crash that killed Barben.

The 18th Judicial District, Colorado’s largest by population, including Arapahoe, Douglas, Elbert and Lincoln Counties, accidentally purged hundreds of unresolved misdemeanor cases years before they were due to be reviewed for dismissal.

In each case, a suspect had a warrant for failure to appear in court.

Alvarado-Barojas’ original case was dismissed and his warrant cancelled along with 1,109 similar cases in 2007.

9Wants To Know has determined one in four of those cases, 285 cases including Alvarado-Barojas’, were not eligible for dismissal under rules established by the 18th Judicial District and District Attorney Carol Chambers.

Denver Police recorded contact with Alvarado-Barojas in 2008. DPD spokesman Sonny Jackson said no information exists as to the nature of the contact, only that Alvarado-Barojas’ name did not bring up any active warrants and he was not cited or charged with a crime.

http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=133672&catid=339

Are illegals guilty of ripping families apart ? Violation of human rights ? Do all the rights illegal aliens, supporters , La Raza and Mexico demand apply to Americans as well when an illegal rips a family apart ?

It seams that everytime my wife and i go out and have a few drinks we end up fighting …the wife blames it on me and i think if she didnt drink so much we wouldnt be fighting everytime we go out.Its when i see that she has had to much she tells me shes not ready to go home and continues to drink more and in turn makes me mad and thats when the anger comes out……….HELP!!!!!
i should have added thats its not me who wishes to stay and drink more, its my wife and thats when all hell breaks loose

How can I protect my father from his wife re: medical decisions?
My father has been in the hospital since the 2nd of January. There is various medical problems including: Prostrate cancer, possibly alcoholism, dehydration & malnutrition and various other maladies. I know for sure that my dad does NOT want to be there and his wife wants him to go to a rehab center (I believe for alcoholism). He has been sedated and in restraints for a couple of weeks. He has tried to leave the hospital but his wife is controlling what happens. He has asked me to contact a lawyer to begin divorce proceedings. He says he wants to live but on HIS terms, not on those his wife chooses for him. Tonight they transferred him to a geriatric psych facility against his wishes. My brother is boarding the plane now to get out there. All I care about is making sure that his wishes are granted because ultimately that is all that is important.

Help, please. We know that the wife has primary decision making power by virtue of their marriage but he does not want her to make decisions for him. What can we, his kids, do to make sure that we can have her rights superseded? I talked to a lawyer today but he was somewhat reluctant to get involved because of the muddy issues with the wife. There was also some talk about the hospital not letting him be released. So my questions are:
1. Can we get a power of attorney so that we can make the medical decisions (do what he wants) for him, instead of his wife?
2. Can we just walk him out of the hospital without the hospitals consent?

This is in Arkansas.
Any other information that you might have that you might have come across because of your own experiences would be soooo helpful. Thank you so much.
Douglas: Thank you so much for your answer, but I do believe he has the right to live out his life the way he wants. I would NEVER agree to restrain someone like that. He has detoxed now for about 20 days and I’m not convinced that alcohol is as big of a program for him as his wife says (not my mother, his 2nd wife). I just don’t think anyone has the right to choose for how someone else should live out the rest of their days. By-the-way, no inheritance so that is not a factor in my decisions (he’s leaving it in a trust for the grandkids education).

My wife is has been treated for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from childhood issues and a prior abusive marriage. She is also on medications for bipolar disease.

We had an excellent marriage, except when it comes to her alcohol consumption. She is not a daily drinker by any means. She may go a few weeks without any alcohol, or may just have moderate alcohol when we go to restaurants and socialize. However, every few months she will have a very excessive amount of alcohol.

When she drinks to excess, she may, at the milder end, become flirty or excessively loud or boisterous. A bit more, and she may become inappropriate (e.g. frank sexual discussions with teens). At the higher end, her mother and I have had to drag her semi-consciously out of a bar and pour her into a car. She becomes belligerent; has picked fights with me or with strangers, demanded a divorce (then denies it or claims a blackout in the morning), has been in bed with another woman, necking with an old flame during a 30th year reunion, attempted suicidal gestures that ended in an inpatient mental hospitalization, told me she was in love with another man (then denied it when sober), told me she desired another man sexually (then denies it when sober), lied, fought with me over alcohol, etc. There’s just too many episodes to name them all.

It’s not a daily occurrence, but I’m not sure I can take these periodic crises every few months. She has been under the care of a psychologist and psychiatrist (who work together); she supposedly is better. However, she still tells me half-truths about her drinking and violates our agreements (given her actions and betrayals, we have agreed that her drinking would be minimal, and under my guidance in order for me to feel comfortable about it).

I think she loves alcohol more than me. Given the hurt she has caused me, I think she should WANT to just give up alcohol; if drinking causes her to act hurtfully, I would think she wouldn’t want to ever touch it again. However, she argues with me about this, insists she can control it, and says she wants to have a “normal” life with “normal” drinking.

Given her prior actions, am I being unreasonable to ask her to stop alcohol altogether? Even though she doesn’t drink daily, or even weekly, does her binge drinking and problem drinking mean she is an alcoholic?

‘Old dogs’ can benefit from new tricks
It is a very common story that John, 53, presented at his first appointment.

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MEXICO CITY (Reuters) – Cases of corrupt Mexican police kidnapping undocumented Central American migrants for ransom as they travel overland to the United States are on the rise, a United Nations official said on Saturday.

Jorge Bustamante, the U.N.’s special investigator for migrant rights, said extorting ransoms from migrants could be more lucrative for unscrupulous police than working for drug smuggling gangs.

“They kidnap migrants, ask them for information, relatives’ phone numbers; then they extort money from the families,” Bustamante said, presenting the conclusions of a week-long study of how undocumented migrants are treated in Mexico.

Bustamante told a news conference both federal and local police were involved in kidnapping rackets on Mexico’s northern and southern borders. “It’s an abuse and it’s increasing,” he said.

Tens of thousands of poor Central Americans make the long trek north through Mexico each year on their way to cross the U.S. border illegally. Many are mistreated and forced to pay bribes by both criminal gangs and police.

Bustamante said he met a Salvadoran man in the southern Mexican city of Tapachula who said his wife was still missing after police recently abducted and held the couple.

“It’s a big business that involves everyone from taxi drivers to police chiefs. It’s a business whose profits rival those of drug trafficking,” Bustamante said.

Bustamante, who was invited to carry out his study by the Mexican government, criticized Mexico for doing little to improve the lot of migrants on its territory while at the same time demanding better treatment from the United States of illegal Mexican migrants there.http://www.reuters.com/article/worldNews/idUSN1546851620080315

http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local-beat/Senators-Wife-Charged-With-DWI-70519417.html

This is the moral values that Democrats are always preaching about? Look at her face how funny it is, she is toast and Kerry’s out on his behind, fact.

http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local-beat/Senators-Wife-Charged-With-DWI-70519417.html

No I posted the wrong link. This one is simply liberal media nonsense. The real John kerry daughter DUI is the one you want to see. I’ll look for it now!

Idaho teen meth use drops 52% from 2007 to 2009 – Tue, 15 Jun 2010 PST
The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s latest youth risk survey shows methamphetamine use among Idaho teens dropped 52 percent between 2007 and 2009.

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For the sake of argument, let’s analyze this plot:

Augustine, a middle class German, he served in the army during the WWII, and during the war he saw many people get killed or maimed. After returning back home from the war, he has never again been the same; he’s gotten completely apathetic about everything in his life. That lead him to abuse alcohol, and the alcoholism contributed to his family problems, which shortly thereafter lead his wife to divorce him.

In the above example, the experience of seeing people suffer ruined Augustine’s life. The question – why exactly did Augustine get traumatized from the sightings that he had seen in the war? Why does the human mind work this particular way?
After thinking about it now for a moment, I’ve arrived at the conclusion that this kind of apathy is a manifestation of the Freudian death drive.

Why should Tiger Woods be exempt from DWI when he wrecked his car in a fire hydrant and a tree. Just because he is rich , a big sports star and ethnic, he was drunk and he could have killed someone. I can’t believe they just let him go. Maybe his wife should have hit him with a golf club instead of the a window. Just another example to show society who gets privileges.

Idaho teen meth use drops 52% from 2007 to 2009
BOISE, Idaho (AP) — The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s latest youth risk survey shows methamphetamine use among Idaho teens dropped 52 percent between 2007 and 2009. That’s compared to a decline of less than 10 percent among teens nationwide. Gov. C.L. “Butch” Otter says the finding for Idaho may be due to outreach by the Idaho Meth Project, whose graphic ads aims to …

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I have relasped and have been using heroin for a few months and hiding it from my family. i am what they call a functional addict.(not 4 long)i am a house wife who takes care of two boys.i was in a methadone treatment for two years and dont wish to go that route again cant go to rehab or go cold turkey must take care of my children and have no help i know it will not be easy but i would like to overcome my addiction. For the sake of myself and my two children before i fall any further down the dark hole. I know i should have thought about this before i started but we are way past the shoulda woulda couldas. My life my marriage, and my boys are at stake and i’m fully commited to sobrety. I just dont no were to begin.
thanks for any advice