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		<title>Need help with custody of step-children ASAP! Please read first.?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 10 Apr 2011 19:06:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ok a few days ago I posted a question about getting temporary custody of my step-children. I&#8217;ll sum it up real quick. My husband still has 30 days in jail due to getting overly stressed about ex wife doing drugs and not being able to prove it to DCBS, police or the judge. He got [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ok a few days ago I posted a question about getting temporary custody of my step-children. I&#8217;ll sum it up real quick. My husband still has 30 days in jail due to getting overly stressed about ex wife doing drugs and not being able to prove it to DCBS, police or the judge. He got drunk and pushed me around. At the time I didn&#8217;t know that it was his stress taking over ( the doctors told me a week later that they think he was &#8220;sleepwalking&#8221;) I told him I wasn&#8217;t going to take that and turned him in. I told him that he needed to suffer his consequences and work on other ways to handle his stress about her and not get drunk and hurt me, then we could work on his marriage. I immediatly tried to fight for his 2 children because I know their mother is unfit and I have been the only mom figure that they have had, I wanted to take care of them until he worked through his issues and got out of jail. I lost due to the fact that I am the step-mom. The mother won temporary custody and we finally got the judge to agree to random drug screens after 3 years of fighting. Well, last week she showed up positive for cocaine. Giving DCBS the right to charge her with 2 counts of neglect. Her parents can&#8217;t get custody of them because she lives in their house and they have been covering this up and letting her do it. My husbands parents can&#8217;t get custody of them due to some serious medical issues. My husband can&#8217;t get custody for another 30 days. They are not charging him with anything due to the fact that the children did not see this and don&#8217;t even know that it happened. I talked with my lawyer today and he said that since I am the only person left that has a very close relationship to the children then I should get temporary custody until my husband gets out of jail. Here&#8217;s the problem he wants me to try to find as much info and past cases were a step parent gained custody or something that I can bring to the judge to show that I have the right since I am not a blood relative. He charges me alot less than normal because I always due most of the research myself, but I have been on the internet all day and can&#8217;t figure out where to start. So I was hoping that someone here could help get me started. Here&#8217;s the info. We live in Kentucky. I have my own house that social services has already been in and approved. I have a full time job where I get all my hours done over the weekend and I am here with the children all week. We had the children every other week before she got temporary custody a month ago,  therefore I have a very close relationship with the boys. I also have parent teacher conference notes with my name on them because she wouldn&#8217;t show up. I will do every thing in my power to get these boys, but DCBS makes it sound like they just need to go into state custody for 30 days. I don&#8217;t want this to happen. Could someone help me find some info that I can use to make sure the boys come home and not to a foster home. They don&#8217;t need that, they have already been through so much.<br />
I have 1 week to get as much info as I can.</p>
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		<title>What do you think of this(Long novel) this is first paragraph, It is by Brack steina an ametur publisher?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Nov 2010 17:09:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Chapter One “Mr Buscetta, did you have any interest in the early sixties drug deal?” “No comment” Tommaso Buscetta replied in an accelerated manor. 1968,Tommaso Buscetta stood in the court room with a sincere yet respectful grin on his face, as he was being burdened with queries about the Tom Hewitt murder case. Tommaso Buscetta [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Chapter One<br />
“Mr Buscetta, did you have any interest in the early sixties drug deal?”</p>
<p>“No comment” Tommaso Buscetta replied in an accelerated manor.<br />
1968,Tommaso Buscetta stood in the court room with a sincere yet respectful grin on his face, as he was being burdened with queries about the Tom Hewitt murder case. Tommaso Buscetta was an average height man but a very stocky build. He had dusky olive coloured skin which was well suited to his greasy Black hair which strode finely down his polo shirt collars. Buscetta was wearing a navy Blue pinstripe suit made out of wool, with a golden chain hanging down his torso with a locket attached to it.  The gold-silver plated contained a picture of his wife and youngest son who he loved dearly.</p>
<p>Tom Hewitt a New York prime newspaper publisher was murdered December 1962 just after peace had been made after the first mafia war-Which had been caused by the tension due to the missing Heroin shipment which was coming into America. The heroin was to be shared out between the families who had contributed their assets into a 3.5 million dollar drug deal with some Columbians producing and distributing narcotics in the Caribbean. The mafia families didn’t take kindly to their assets been lost and floating around in the Pacific Ocean. Most of the families who had been involved in the Heroin deal were either part of the Irish mob that had come to America to ensure they had retained profit from this deal for future events that their family would go through or the families were part of the notorious Cosa Nostra.  Overall there were seven families involved in this deal and they had all lost their money because of some disturbance which had occurred on the Caribbean borders. </p>
<p>The war broke out in  New York in 1961, it was the first ever mafia war to occur in America since the olive oil war( massacre of Caruli family in Brooklyn Olive factory)-rumoured to of happened because they had not paid payments they owed to the Bastani loan sharks which protected the Caruli empire for years. The olive oil war had not been as blood-soaked as the first real mafia war was.  Thirteen back alley laundering rackets had been invaded by the FBI due to the fact so many mobsters where mobster from different mafias would come to embed their money into safe accounts. Ten other businesses which the various families extorted had been closed because of the number of shootings and explosions to take down other gangs had occurred.<br />
“Mr Buscetta, did you have any involvement in the olive oil war which started October 1959?” The judge gave a contemplative smirk as if she was warning Tommaso to start answering her queries or he would face saviour consequences from the magistrates.<br />
“No” Tommaso replied in an imperative manor as if he was the authority figure in the room.<br />
“Mr Buscetta, we have records here suggesting Joezi Buscetta, Santanio O’Veil, two members of your family faced the magistrates in 1961 because of involvement in criminal activity. They were supposedly involved in smuggling fire-arms into the USA” the judge gave a tender remorse of silence as the jury analysed Tommaso. Anthony Carter, Tommasos lawyer whispered into his ear with a cunning luck as if he had been in this situation for decades. Tommaso nodded, undoing his top button of his shirt he replied in a self-assured tone<br />
“So, you have a few facts you can present to the jury. Still you have nothing that can hurt me or put me in any state to be worried or even content to think. I’m going to take blame for the acts committed on Mr Hewitt, nothing” The judge thumped the wooden oak gavel onto her front Limestone desk.</p>
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		<title>EASY 10 POINTs!! FIRST TO ANSWER RIGHT!!?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 25 Sep 2010 17:06:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[TRUE/FALSE Augustus drives to Willy&#8217;s factory, intending to steal a barrel of chocolate syrup from the loading docks. When he arrives, he climbs up to the loading dock and tips over a barrel of syrup. Before he can roll it towards his vehicle, he is apprehended by the factory&#8217;s security guard, Oompa. Augustus has committed [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>TRUE/FALSE Augustus drives to Willy&#8217;s factory, intending to steal a barrel of chocolate syrup from the loading docks.  When he arrives, he climbs up to the loading dock and tips over a barrel of syrup.  Before he can roll it towards his vehicle, he is apprehended by the factory&#8217;s security guard, Oompa. Augustus has committed larceny</p>
<p>TRUE/FALSE Jimmie agrees to let members of a local drug gang use his trailer for one day to make drugs in return for payment of $1000.  Payment is to be made after the drugs have been manufactured. Jimmie is guilty of conspiracy</p>
<p>TRUE/FALSE Sipowicz, an undercover officer, approaches Kurt and asks him if he can buy some heroin. Kurt turns to his wife Courtney, and says, &#8220;I don&#8217;t know this guy&#8221;  Courtney replies, &#8220;He looks fine to me&#8221;  Kurt sells the heroin to Sipowicz and Sipowicz arrests Kurt, and Courtney. Courtney is guilty of conspiracy</p>
<p>What is the only inchoate crime for which both the inchoate crime and the target crime can be charged?<br />
First person to get them ALL right and tell me how you know the answers gets the 10 points(this is h.w&#8230;&#8230;..and yes&#8230;Ima lazy)<br />
&#8220;who&#8217;s being a nuaghty boy..go do your own homework!!!!&#8230;lol&#8221;</p>
<p>A boy??!! I&#8217;m no boy *cry*<br />
an lern yuor spelin! -tisk tisk-</p>
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		<title>What&#8217;s the story on McCain&#8217;s first marriage?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 25 Sep 2010 17:01:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Is it true that McShame cheated on his first wife with Cindy, and then left her to marry Cindy? I also heard that while Cindy McCain was recovering from drug addiction and a stroke, he cheated on her too? Is this true?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Is it true that McShame cheated on his first wife with Cindy, and then left her to marry Cindy? I also heard that while Cindy McCain was recovering from drug addiction and a stroke, he cheated on her too? Is this true?</p>
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		<title>VOTING AND MATCHUPS FOR FIRST EVER SFA WHO WILL WIN?!?!?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Aug 2010 11:04:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The match ups are Johnny Tsunami vs. Johnny Hurricane, these 2 brothers have been in rivalry ever since they were born i bet they are aching to fight each other. Next up Elmo vs. The Short Strudder. Elmo is was kicked out of sesame for drug abuse now hes mad as hell and ready to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The match ups are Johnny Tsunami vs. Johnny Hurricane, these 2 brothers have been in rivalry ever since they were born i bet they are aching to fight each other.</p>
<p>Next up Elmo vs. The Short Strudder. Elmo is was kicked out of sesame for drug abuse now hes mad as hell and ready to kick some ***! The Short Strudder, approximately 83 years old has been living in a boring old nursing home hes looking for a little excitement in his life and doesnt have much time to live so hes decided to spend his last few years FIGHTING!!</p>
<p>Brayden Crocker vs. Bignay! Brayden comming from the down under of Austrailia has been wanting to learn more about American culture so hes decided to join SFA to do so. Now Bignay what can I say about him&#8230; hes comming from the streets of Brooklyn, New York this kid aint scared of nothing his mom is a crack addict and his dad left before he was even born! Hes got a massive temper and hes ready to blow his top!</p>
<p>The Mad Russian vs.AISM whatever the hell that stands for&#8230; The Mad Russian has been beat up by his mom ever since he was a kid so hes going to take out his anger on AISM the only female fighter we have. AISM is known all around the streets of philly for her looks and hustling methods.</p>
<p>DJ vs. The Lone Wolf. DJ is from the city of Tacoma. Washington hes been slinging rock ever since his family was killed in a horrific car accident. The Lone Wolf is a jarhead is a war veteran thats been messed up in his head ever since he got out.</p>
<p>Last but not least The Amazing Adam vs. Al Coholica. There&#8217;s is nothing much to say about Adam except for that hes a great fighter and a good person. BOOO! who wants to hear about that??? Adam is a tough macho man who works out everyday. Al Coholica is a drunk middle aged man. He practically lives in AA. AA=Alcoholics Anonymous. Well i guess its not so anonymous anymore HAHA! His wife left him and took everything he had even his kids so now hes just been drinking his sorrows away.</p>
<p>OK EVERYONE VOTE FOR WHO YOU WANT TO WIN EACH MATCH AND FIGHTERS YOU CAN MAKE YOUR PROMO TO MAKE IT EVEN MORE INTERESTING. PROMO=TRASH TALK!!!!</p>
<p>Post your vote here or on any other of my posts. DONT FORGET TO VOTE OR ELSE&#8230;..</p>
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		<title>Who will make a better First Lady and role model for our children: Cindy or Michelle?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Cindy McCain and Michelle Obama have strong criticisms and are both strong, accomplished women. Which is a better role model for young people. Which would make a better first lady? Back up your statements with your rationale. Cindy was John McCain&#8217;s mistress when he was married to his first wife. She was addicted to prescription [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Cindy McCain and Michelle Obama have strong criticisms and are both strong, accomplished women. Which is a better role model for young people. Which would make a better first lady? Back up your statements with your rationale.</p>
<p>Cindy was John McCain&#8217;s mistress when he was married to his first wife. She was addicted to prescription drugs and admitted stealing them from her medical organization when she couldn&#8217;t get them from doctors. She was born into wealth and is a wealthy savvy businesswoman and heiress to a fortune. </p>
<p>Michelle Obama made statements about being really proud of her country for the first time in her adult life during the Democratic primaries, she said in speeches that America is a mean country. She is grew up poor in the South side of Chicago, graduated from Harvard Law School, was a professor and is now a successful business woman.<br />
FYI, the info above about both of these women is documented, proven and a part of history.  If you need sources, I can cite them.  </p>
<p>Someone shared more info about Cindy&#8217;s resume.  Below is more info about Michelle&#8217;s.</p>
<p>Michelle Obama:<br />
Princeton undergrad<br />
Harvard Law School alum<br />
Corporate Vice President<br />
1985 cum laude graduate of Princeton<br />
 University<br />
1988 graduate of Harvard Law School, Former associate dean at the University of Chicago<br />
Vice president at the University of Chicago Hospitals.<br />
Sits on six boards, including the prestigious Chicago Council on Global Affairs, the University of Chicago Laboratory Schools and Tree House Foods.</p>
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		<title>What do you think about McCain cheating on his first wife?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[for 8 months while he was seeing the current Mrs McCain and about the current Mrs. McCain having stolen prescription drugs from a medical clinic when she was addicted to pain killers back in 1994?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>for 8 months while he was seeing the current Mrs McCain and about the current Mrs. McCain having stolen prescription drugs from a medical clinic when she was addicted to pain killers back in 1994? </p>
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		<title>Do people &#8220;Binge&#8221; crazy prior to their first appointment with a mental health professional?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Jul 2010 15:46:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My wife has finally admitted she needs to see someone about her &#8220;Bitchiness&#8221;. Two weeks ago she made an appointment for next week. Ever since this her making the appointment she has been off the charts bitchy. Is this normal? Do people do this like they do when they eat a lot before going on [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My wife has finally admitted she needs to see someone about her &#8220;Bitchiness&#8221;. Two weeks ago she made an appointment for next week. Ever since this her making the appointment she has been off the charts bitchy.<br />
Is this normal? Do people do this like they do when they eat a lot before going on a diet?</p>
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		<title>Could you at least read the first paragraph of my story? Give your opinion! Thanks!?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[She sat across from me in the blank room, starring at the blank wall with fright in her eyes. Her mom was holding back tears that were trying to spring from her eyes. I sat calmly, but on the inside I felt like there was no hope left. My daughter was going to die. “Well [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>She sat across from me in the blank room, starring at the blank wall with fright in her eyes. Her mom was holding back tears that were trying to spring from her eyes. I sat calmly, but on the inside I felt like there was no hope left. My daughter was going to die.<br />
     “Well Mr. Flynn, we will treat her with chemotherapy, but that will only delay&#8230;you know,” Dr. Meeker carefully said hoping the teenager wouldn&#8217;t catch onto what he was saying. “Would you still care to even bothe&#8230;.”<br />
     “Oh yes,” my wife interrupted, “we do care to bother.”<br />
     “Okay then, I will prescribe the drugs she has to take while going through chemotherapy. Just to advise you, it would be a good idea to gain hefty weight before her first appointment for chemotherapy. While she&#8217;s going through her treatments, she will be losing large amounts of weight.”<br />
      “Thanks for the advice. I will do more than my best to watch over her eating habits, but do you know how hard it will be to tell a teenage girl to gain weight?”<br />
     Mr. Meeker slowly turned to the little girl I once knew as a cheery, happy, healthy child, now fighting for not her life, but time. She walked into the hospital with rosy cheeks and a smile on her face thinking she was just having a bad headache &#8230;well those rosy cheeks turned a shade of ghostly white, that smile faded into a look a sadness, and that “headache” turned out to be a tumor in her brain. Mr. Meeker starred at her. He swayed over to her and gingerly put his freezing, cold, left hand on her pale skinned knee. Mr. Meeker then walked back to his computer and finished up some paperwork and prescriptions.<br />
      “Now that I have finished the paperwork do you have any questions?” asked the doctor. He was tapping his pen to the beat replaying in his head. He hope that one specific question wouldn&#8217;t be asked.<br />
     My wife and I shook our head still in awe, but suddenly the ghostly face looked up and murmured something. The sound of her voice was scarce. No one could understand what she was saying.<br />
     “What was that Abigail?” the doctor asked. He was edging toward the tip of his chair hoping she wouldn&#8217;t ask him the question he was avoiding.<br />
     She held her breath. There was no sound in the room and everyone was anticipating what Abigail was about to ask. The teary, serene  face looked up at Mr. Meeker with a tint of curiosity in her eyes. “&#8230;if I&#8217;m going to die,” Abigail stammered, “&#8230;how much time do I have left?” Her lip began to quiver ever so slightly.<br />
     Mr. Meeker&#8217;s face turned a shade of white. This was the question he had been avoiding. He stopped tapping his pen and the room was in pure silence.“I was getting to that point next,” the doctor said ever so slowly. “You see a new invention called the Ticking Clock, a machine that is so rare that no other people in the world know of such an invention, is available here in this hospital. It is locked up on the third floor. The Ticking Clock  tells you how much time you have left before you die. For this situation, we are allowed to have access to it, but there are drawbacks to knowing when you are going to die. Your days will seem shorter and you&#8217;ll know time is running out. Your worst fear will be when the clock strikes twelve at midnight and you know a new day has come. For your own sake I recommend you do not use this machine and just live your life like you normally do.”<br />
I know I still have some editing and adding on to do&#8230;but could you give your overall opinion of the plot? Thanks again!<br />
Thanks everyone for your opinion&#8230;I am only 14 so I am still in the learning process&#8230;my idea is that the Ticking Clock will tell Abigail how much time she has left to live&#8230;through the events after she will live her life to the fullest&#8230;when it is a few moments before Abigail dies she state something that will get the themes further across to the reader&#8230;the themes are: to live life to its fullest, live everyday like it&#8217;s your last, time flies by</p>
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		<title>FIRST DWI offense&#8230;..pointers? NEW YORK?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jun 2010 08:03:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[last night i made what was probably the worst decision of my life. I decided to drive home from a party, after drinking a lot. On the way home, i managed a flat tire. An officer must have noticed my veichle moving awkwardly, and pulled me over. At this point, i was arrested for aggravated [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>last night i made what was probably the worst decision of my life. I decided to drive home from a party, after drinking a lot.<br />
On the way home, i managed a flat tire.<br />
An officer must have noticed my veichle moving awkwardly, and pulled me over. At this point, i was arrested for aggravated DWI.<br />
Its my first time, and my last time.<br />
My wife and i are low income and we cant afford an attorney. Can i get a public defender of no cost?<br />
Also, im expecting to have to pay a huge fine. Probably more than i have in my bank account.<br />
Do u have to &#8220;pay in full&#8221; immediately? Would the court offer structured payments?<br />
There is also the possibility of jail-time&#8230;<br />
Anyone have any pointers? Im terrified. In reality, however, i should have probably thought about all this before i decided to get in the car and drive last night&#8230;<br />
any info is helpful</p>
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		<title>first DWI (aggravated) New York State?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[some states have mandatory jail time for aggravated DWI, even if it is your first time. New York, however, jail time isnt mandatory, due to the overpopulated jail system, and other determining factors. Ive screwed up in the worst way. I was foolish, and drove home from a party, while drunk. I was trying to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>some states have mandatory jail time for aggravated DWI, even if it is your first time.<br />
  New York, however, jail time isnt mandatory, due to the overpopulated jail system, and other determining factors.<br />
 Ive screwed up in the worst way. I was foolish, and drove home from a party, while drunk.  I was trying to get home to my wife, because i didnt want to sleep in an unknown place.  There is no excuse at all, for what i have done, and im glad nobody was hurt by my thoughtless action.<br />
 I was arrested in Ontario County, New York (ontario county has the highest conviction rate for DWI in the whole state).<br />
  I AM SCREWED. I cant afford a lawyer right now because the money i have is spoken for (rent)&#8230;but according to the appointed council application i filled out, im not poor enough for a public defender?<br />
 I feel like im trapped and losing time, against my will.<br />
 The DWI conviction rate in this county is 98%.  My wife and i only make enough money to pay for our expenses, and if we hired a lawyer, and still ended up losing the case, we would surely be unable to pay rent, higher car insurance premiums, etc. MY fear is that what i have done will ultimately put us on the street.<br />
 MY wife has been greatly supportive throught this (i really dont deserve her).<br />
 I just dont know what to do&#8230;  (first court appearance june 18th)</p>
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		<title>first DWI (aggravated blew .18) New York State?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[some states have mandatory jail time for aggravated DWI, even if it is your first time. New York, however, jail time isnt mandatory, due to the overpopulated jail system, and other determining factors. Ive screwed up in the worst way. I was foolish, and drove home from a party, while drunk. I was trying to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>some states have mandatory jail time for aggravated DWI, even if it is your first time.<br />
New York, however, jail time isnt mandatory, due to the overpopulated jail system, and other determining factors.<br />
Ive screwed up in the worst way. I was foolish, and drove home from a party, while drunk. I was trying to get home to my wife, because i didnt want to sleep in an unknown place. There is no excuse at all, for what i have done, and im glad nobody was hurt by my thoughtless action.<br />
I was arrested in Ontario County, New York (ontario county has the highest conviction rate for DWI in the whole state).<br />
I AM SCREWED. I cant afford a lawyer right now because the money i have is spoken for (rent)&#8230;but according to the appointed council application i filled out, im not poor enough for a public defender?<br />
I feel like im trapped and losing time, against my will.<br />
The DWI conviction rate in this county is 98%. My wife and i only make enough money to pay for our expenses, and if we hired a lawyer, and still ended up losing the case, we would surely be unable to pay rent, higher car insurance premiums, etc. MY fear is that what i have done will ultimately put us on the street.<br />
MY wife has been greatly supportive throught this (i really dont deserve her).<br />
I just dont know what to do&#8230; (first court appearance june 18th)</p>
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		<title>Doctors Express Announces Its First Urgent Care Center in Metro Atlanta Area</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Doctors Express, a unique new urgent care treatment concept, plans to open its first Atlanta area facility in Buckhead by early December.  To be located on the ground floor of the new Piedmont West Medical Building at the intersection of I-75 &#38; Howell Mill Road, the facility is owned by local Atlanta residents and business [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Doctors Express, a unique new urgent care treatment concept, plans to open its first Atlanta area facility in Buckhead by early December.  To be located on the ground floor of the new Piedmont West Medical Building at the intersection of I-75 &amp; Howell Mill Road, the facility is owned by local Atlanta residents and business partners Chris and Theone Rutledge.</p>
<p>According to co-owner Chris Rutledge, “The Doctors Express concept has proved successful as a convenient and compassionate alternative to hospital ERs.  Our physicians and medical staff will treat patients with urgent, but non-life-threatening illnesses or injuries, utilizing the very latest in medical technology, including electronic medical records, digital X-rays and an on-site lab. We’ll be able to treat most common illnesses and injuries, from colds and flu to fractures and sprains and everything in between.  In addition, we’ll be a reliable, accessible source for drug screenings, employment and sports physicals, occupational medicine, and travel immunizations”   He noted, “Georgia has some of  the longest ER wait times in the United States – a typical wait time is often over four hours.  Emergency Rooms are overloaded, and this can be frustrating for patients, burdensome for ER staff, and costly for both patients and businesses.  Our Doctors Express Urgent Care Center will be able to treat many of those patients often in less than 45 minutes, and at a fraction of the cost.”</p>
<p>Theone, Chris’s wife, added, “As parents of young children who have spent too many hours in emergency rooms, we personally understand the benefit of having a nearby, convenient source for urgent care.  We want to offer the kind of quality care that people will trust and know they can depend on, seven days a week.  Our plan is to staff the center with the kind of people we would want to treat our family:  experienced and compassionate board-certified emergency and family practice physicians supported by a qualified, patient-oriented staff.”</p>
<p>Both Chris and Theone come from successful business backgrounds:  he holds an MBA from the University of Chicago and, as a partner at Accenture, was a management consultant for over 20 years.   Theone holds an MBA in Marketing from Emory University’s Goizueta Business School, and worked as a consultant in the healthcare industry and in business development for a technology start-up.  The couple thoroughly vetted several business opportunities before selecting the Doctors Express urgent care franchise concept.  According to Chris, “We believe that people requiring immediate medical treatment need another option for when their primary care doctor can’t see them right away and the ER is backed up.”</p>
<p>Their Doctors Express facility is nearing completion, and will begin treating patients in early December.  The center will be open seven days a week with extended hours.  No appointments will be necessary, and most insurance plans will be accepted.</p>
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		<title>Why do husbands move their drunk friends in the house without consulting their wife first?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[My hubby walks up and announces that his friend is going to stay with us for a while cuz he got kicked out of his other friend&#8217;s house for playing peeping tom on her when she was in the shower.I can&#8217;t understand why he coddles this lush.He drinks all day,doesn&#8217;t work and doesn&#8217;t care.What the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My hubby walks up and announces that his friend is going to stay with us for a while cuz he got kicked out of his other friend&#8217;s house for playing peeping tom on her when she was in the shower.I can&#8217;t understand why he coddles this lush.He drinks all day,doesn&#8217;t work and doesn&#8217;t care.What the hell am I supposed to do to get rid of him?</p>
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		<title>Was McCains 2nd wife addicted to crack when he left his first disabled wife???????</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Or had she already overcome that addiction????? You think her boobs are real???? Or you think McCain paid for her to get a boob job?????? http://bravennewfilms.org/blog39179-mcca&#8230; Boy oh boy, what kind of example do you think that sets for Americas youth???? Aren&#8217;t you happy at least one of the candidates still has some family values??????? [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Or had she already overcome that addiction?????  You think her boobs are real????  Or you think McCain paid for her to get a boob job??????</p>
<p>http://bravennewfilms.org/blog39179-mcca&#8230;</p>
<p>Boy oh boy, what kind of example do you think that sets for Americas youth????<br />
Aren&#8217;t you happy at least one of the candidates still has some family values???????  Obama 08</p>
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		<title>My wife wants to get drunk for the first time. She likes Wine Coolers, what is a good mixed drink like that?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[My wife wants to get drunk for the first time. She is a wine cooler girl, but no more than one. We are going to a bar. What is a good mixed drink she might like but will help her meet he goal? Please tell me the ingredients if you know them.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My wife wants to get drunk for the first time.<br />
She is a wine cooler girl, but no more than one.<br />
We are going to a bar.<br />
What is a good mixed drink she might like but will help her meet he goal?<br />
Please tell me the ingredients if you know them.</p>
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		<title>Is Alcoholics Anonymous Effective? Finally, Get the Real Facts Here FIRST Before Making ANY Treatment Plans for Yourself or Loved One</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Keep coming back, it works if you work it!” This is what is chanted at the end of every meeting, but what if you have “worked it” and you still keep going back and getting drunk or loaded? Now, most people in the program will say things like, “Well, you must not have really done [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“Keep coming back, it works if you work it!” This is what is chanted at the end of every meeting, but what if you have “worked it” and you still keep going back and getting drunk or loaded? Now, most people in the program will say things like, “Well, you must not have really done the steps right,” or  “You didn’t go to enough meetings,” or  “You didn’t pray to your Higher Power,” or  “You know you did something wrong or else you would still be sober!” But what if the truth was that you did nothing “wrong,” that in reality you did not fail the Program, but rather the Program was just not a right fit for you, and in fact, it fails for most people? Hopefully even this little bit of knowledge would start to alleviate some of the guilt and shame that many carry due to numerous relapses and going in and out 12-step programs for many years.</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>Since what you are told from your very first 12-step meeting is, “Your only options are to get sober using our Program, or it’s jails, institutions or death,” you tend to stop thinking for yourself, (since it was your “best thinking that got you here“), stop questioning, and just follow what other’s tell you to do. This would be fine if this is what worked… but unfortunately, evidence is proving otherwise.</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>The 12-step success rate is showing to be approximately 3 percent. Yes, that’s right… only 3 percent! (Brown,Treatment Doesn’t Work, 1991). Here are some more startling statistics (Based on Alcoholics Anonymous World Services&#8217; own statistics).:</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>          *45% of the people who attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings never return after their first meeting.</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>          *81% of AA attendees are gone after one month</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>           *90% are gone after three months</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>           *93% are gone (7% remain) after 6 months</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>           *95% never return after the first year.</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>So there is a 5% retention rate for the first year. Note that the claimed five percent of A.A. newcomers who are still coming back after one year (and sober, we hope) is exactly the same number as the normal rate of spontaneous remission among alcoholics. A number of studies have found that a small percentage of alcoholics improve to the point of remission of problems associated with alcohol consumption, and we call this spontaneous remission. The preponderance of studies suggests that a spontaneous remission rate for alcoholism of at least one-year duration is about 4-18 percent. Successful treatment would, therefore, have to produce rates of improvement significantly above this probable range of spontaneous remission. Alcoholics Anonymous comes nowhere near exceeding a 4 to 18 percent per year recovery rate. Harvard Medical Schoolreported that in the long run, the rate of spontaneous remission in alcoholics is slightly over 50 percent. That would put the annual rate of spontaneous remission to be around 5 percent. Yet the claimed success rate of Alcoholics Anonymous does not even exceed that much lower rate.</p>
<p>&#13;</p>
<p>If we subtract the usual spontaneous remission rate from A.A.&#8217;s claimed success rate, we get zero percent for A.A.&#8217;s actual effective cure rate. A.A. didn&#8217;t make anybody quit drinking — those who quit were the ones who were going to quit anyway. They would have quit anyway, no matter what treatment they were receiving, or even no treatment at all!  So, an alcoholism treatment program that seems to have a 5% success rate probably really has a zero percent success rate, and it is just taking credit for the spontaneous remission that is happening anyway. And a program that has less than a five percent success rate, like four or three, may really have a <strong>negative</strong> success rate — it is actually keeping some people from succeeding in getting clean and sober. Any success rate that is less than the usual rate of spontaneous remission indicates a program that is a real disaster and is hurting the participants.</p>
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<p>Yet even with all of this research, 93-97% of conventional drug rehabs and alcohol treatment centers are still 12-step or AA based, so those who leave AA to look elsewhere, such as conventional alcohol and drug treatment for solutions, are essentially rejoining AA!</p>
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<p>AA hardly sounds like a “proven method,” let alone one that works for most people. So, if only about 5% of the people are getting the help that they need, what about the 95% of the people who are not being helped? That is the purpose of this article… to provide much needed awareness to individuals, rehabilitation centers, hospitals, sober livings, and even 12-step programs themselves so that people with substance abuse problems can actually start be helped. The bottom line is this… is the goal to get alcoholics and addicts into AA or NA or CA, or is it to actually get them some help?</p>
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<p>Professor (and Doctor) George E. Vaillant of Harvard University is an enthusiastic advocate of Twelve-Step treatment, and is currently a non-alcoholic member of the Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. (AAWS) Board of Trustees. So he really wanted to prove the effectiveness of AA. To study the effectiveness of various methods of treating alcoholism, Vaillant compiled forty years of clinical studies. Vaillant and the director William Clark also conducted an eight-year longitudinal study of their own where Vaillant reported having followed 100 patients who had undergone twelve-step treatment. He compared those people to a group of several hundred other untreated alcohol abusers. The treated patients did no better than the untreated alcoholics. Fully 95% of the treated patients relapsed sometime during the eight-year period that Vaillant followed them.</p>
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<p>After initial discharge, only five patients in the clinic sample never relapsed to alcoholic drinking, and there is compelling evidence that the results of their treatment were no better than the natural history of the disease (spontaneous remission). What Professor Vaillant, a Trustee of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. — in other words, one of the highest-ranking A.A. leaders — is candidly, clearly describing is a zero-percent success rate for his A.A.-based treatment program. And it was even worse than no help: The A.A.-treated group, with the death rate of 29%, had the highest death rate of any kind of program, significantly higher than all of the other programs. And those five people out of the hundred in the A.A.-treated clinic sample who successfully stayed sober for 8 years are just the result of that same old five percent spontaneous remission rate at work, again.</p>
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<p>Remember that these terrible numbers were reported by a Trustee of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc., by a real true believer in A.A., by someone who loves A.A. and was trying hard to make it look good, not by some harsh critic of A.A. who might be suspected of bias, or of fudging the numbers to make A.A. look bad.</p>
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<p>Let me mention that I think 12-step programs are great for those individuals who it does work for, (or at least seems to work for—again, it might just be the work of spontaneous remission rather than the program itself that is working). I have seen it change many lives for the better, including my dad, who has now had 15 years of continuous sobriety, maintaining his sobriety from his very first meeting. It is also a great fellowship to share experiences, strength and hope. So, in no way am I anti-AA. However, it has become clear to me that substance abuse is not a “one size fits all” problem, and therefore, there can not be a &#8220;one-size-fits-all&#8221; solution. </p>
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<p>The National Institute of Drug Abuse, NIDA, has even gone on record to emphasize that no single addiction treatment method is right for everyone. They claim that matching treatment services to each individual’s specific needs is critical to success. In addition, research studies indicate that even the most severely addicted individuals can participate actively in their own treatment, and that active participation is essential for good outcomes. According to the NIDA, counseling, either individual or group, and other behavioral therapies are critical components of effective treatment for addiction. It’s interesting to note that participation in a 12-step program was never mentioned anywhere in this research based guide which discussed the principles of effective treatment. </p>
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<p>Reliance on outdated and ineffective treatment methods has created an environment that fully expects individuals to fail, and fail again until such time that rock bottom has been reached. It is often said that once an individual has reached rock bottom that there is only one way to go, UP. The problem with that philosophy is that for many people, the ultimate rock bottom is death. (Vacovsky, Executive Director, American Council on Alcoholism, May 12, 2005).</p>
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<p>Vacovsky goes on to write:</p>
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<p>“Many, (if not indeed most) alcohol dependent individuals have lost faith in themselves, and more importantly hope for the future. It is common for such individuals to have numerous attempts at sobriety, most often using 12-step methods. They have been programmed to accept themselves as hopeless and powerless, with their chance for recovery being slim to none… It is up to the individual to determine what the most appropriate treatment is. It is up to the treatment community to provide options that set up individuals to succeed, rather than be expected to fail.&#8221;</p>
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<p>Sadly, Americans are largely unaware that such options even exist. At least, the general public is. While the public is being told that “turning your will and life over to the care of God as you understand Him,” as AA suggests, is the only treatment for their illness, scientifically based research has been going on for decades. Results of this research are threefold:</p>
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We now have options for treatment that are based on science rather than fundamentalist religion;&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Gives back choice and a sense of control to the individual, which is proving to be extremely important and&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    We now have evidence that is in direct contradiction to the traditional view of problem drinking. &#13;</p>
<p>What, exactly, is the research finding? Here is what some of the experts in the addiction field have found: </p>
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Well-designed research conducted over more than three decades has conclusively demonstrated that problem drinking will not inevitably get progressively worse, and that this is one attribute of being a “disease” of alcoholism is simply wrong. Some problem drinkers “progress,” but the vast majority don’t.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    What most Americans believe about drinking problems and their treatment is substantially inaccurate.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Drinking problems do not occur as a result of a disease. It is a learned behavior, and additional learning can therefore modify behavior.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    For no other “disease” do so many physicians, psychologists and counselors themselves believe in the non-research-based myths of problem drinking, ignoring the research of their own peers in developing their treatment plans.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    “Problem drinkers in the United States are faced with a daunting dilemma when they seek help. They can either accept the prevailing myth that abstinence is the only effective means to resolve a drinking problem, or they can be accused of being “in denial…”&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Insistence by treatment programs to only offer abstinence has been shown to deter many problem drinkers from seeking treatment.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Individualizing treatment is crucial.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Chronic “relapsers” can actually be harmed by the 12-step model view that once a slip has started, you are powerless to stop; the stronger one’s belief in this is the longer and more damaging the relapses are.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    The confrontation and treating alcoholics and addicts like children commonly thought necessary to help them actually often hinders any change.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Many providers deliberately resist change because they have too much of an attachment to their own ideas of what should work, claiming, “I know what worked for me, and I’m sure that it can work for everyone else as long as they just do what I say.”&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    The only way to resolve a problem with alcohol is to abstain for life is wrong for the majority of people. A substantial proportion becomes moderate drinkers even when achieving abstinence is the primary focus of treatment.&lt;br&gt; &#13;<br />
    Dr. Patricia Owen, Director of Research of the Hazelden Foundation, who was a long-time supporter of abstinence-only treatment, referred to these individuals as “in recovery without abstinence” and acknowledged their presence in large numbers among a sample of Hazelden graduates. &#13;</p>
<p>Of course, not even all scientists agree on the nature of and best treatments for alcohol abuse. But this is the twenty-first century, and no one would disagree that all patients suffering with an alcohol or drug problem have a right, just like any other patient suffering with any other problem, to be fully informed of the available options, the risks or areas of uncertainty, and, after reviewing the relevant information, in consultation with one or more providers, choose a course of action. This is simply good, ethical medicine.  Should people struggling with substance abuse issues accept anything less?</p>
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<p>It is also important to acknowledge that recovery programs are not necessary to discover how to quit and stay quit. The following is from the Harvard Medical School’s Mental Health Letter, the August/September 1996 issue:</p>
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<p>Most recovery from alcoholism is not the result of treatment. Only 20% of alcohol abusers are ever treated… Alcohol addicts, like heroin addicts, have a tendency to mature out of their addiction…</p>
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<p>In a group of self-treated alcoholics, more than half said that they had simply thought it over and decided that alcohol was bad for them. Another group said health problems and frightening experiences such as accidents and blackouts persuaded them to quit… Others have recovered by changing their circumstances with the help of a new job or a new love or under the threat of a legal crisis or the breakup of a family. Support from a husband or wife was important in sustaining the resolution.</p>
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<p>Study results from addiction researchers, Doctors Linda and Mark Sobell, confirm Harvard’s 20% treatment statistic:</p>
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<p>Surveys found that over 77 percent of those who had overcome an alcohol problem had done so without treatment. In an earlier study… a sizable majority of alcohol abusers, 82 percent, recovered on their own.</p>
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<p> However, even though it is possible to recover on your own, you may want a recovery program, or at least a licensed professional for support.  The good news is that many more treatment programs are starting to provide more evidence-based options beyond just the traditional 12-step approach, and this list is growing everyday. You can find a complete, comprehensive directory of over 100 professionals and drug and alcohol programs all over the U.S. and abroad that will provide you with many options in Melanie Solomon&#8217;s newly released 2nd Edition of &#8220;AA Not the Only Way; Your One Stop Resource Guide to 12-Step Alternatives.&#8221;</p>
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<p> Leading U.S. addiction expert Dr. Marc Kern states, “I have long awaited this directory of addiction treatment alternatives. It represents what I believe to be the future of the field. It is a pioneering effort to organize this unique body of knowledge. A directory of this type was never available before.”</p>
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<p> Dr. Frederick Rotgers, another leading addiction expert explains, “The problem is finding treatment providers who provide these alternative, evidence-based approaches. Melanie Solomon has taken a wonderful step toward making that process, of identifying alternatives to traditional treatments, easier.”</p>
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<p> It is finally time to stop living in the dark ages of recovery, educate people about all of their choices and alternatives that are out there and maybe start making a dent in the alcohol and drug use problem that millions are facing each day instead of continuing to perpetuate it. If you are one of those people who still believe that the 12-steps are the “only way” to recover, I implore you to have an open mind. In fact, Bill W., one of the co-founders of AA said, &#8220;It would be a product of false pride to claim that A.A. is a cure-all, even for alcoholism.&#8221; Bill W. repeatedly said that &#8220;our hats are off to you if you can find a better way&#8221; and &#8220;If [those seeking a different cure] can do better by other means, we are glad.&#8221;</p>
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