How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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My wife had a son from a previous marriage. Her son was 13 when he started doing drugs. At age 15, he died from a drug overdose in May.

I blame my wife for his death and I have told her this hundreds of times. She didn’t know he was doing drugs. But as a mother, she chose to work instead of stay home but yet she still insisted on having me pay for things for him.

Now that Jacob is dead, she uses that as an excuse to get time off from work. But yet she wouldn’t keep her behind home when Jacob was alive. I don’t feel bad for him that he died because he did drugs and I don’t feel bad for my wife because she’s trying to drag me down into her misery.

Now she’s begging me to buy her counseling sessions, but I’m not going to pay some idiot $100 an hour to listen to my wife whine. I love my wife, I respect her, and for the most part, I have been faithful, but she’s is just going to have to accept the fact that she is no longer a mother and that Jacob is gone.

How do I convey this to her nicely? Should I write her a letter?

About 5 nights out of the week my husband drinks about a case of beer and stays up very late. (We’ve been married for about a year.) Sometimes I have to work nights and when I come home he is already very drunk. Other nights, like tonight, I try very hard to get enough rest, but he stays up and watches t.v. very loud and I end up staying up most of the night while he passes out snoring and hogging the bed.

Only when he’s drunk do we tend to argue and he slurs his words and follows me around sometimes picking a fight. I try to tell him about it the next day, but he never believes me. I tape record it on my iphone as evidence to back me up when i talk to him now.

It’s another sleepless night for me (he was watching “the hangover” and blasting it over our stereo system) and I have been doing research on how to help this problem and I have found that most people say it is the fault of the wife and that he probably doesn’t like his life.

I try to be good person, I try to have a good relationship with him. He has a job he loves and he makes tons of money. He seems to be escaping his life, but I’m not sure why. I’m not a nagging person by nature and I am very supportive of him and I work hard and I am very good with money. We do both work, but we spend as much time as we can together doing nice things.

I want to fix this problem and when I read that I could be causing it I was very hopeful, because if I am I want to make it stop, I love him and I want him to be happy and I don’t want us to fight or be exhausted all day at work. I love being married and I love him. Please help if you can or if you have any ideas! Thanks!