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My wife and I live in Illinois. We have had full guardianship over two boys ages 2 and 3 for over a year now. We had tried to work with the mother, and unwed father, but have found out the life they came from was unthinkably horrible. The mother is a known heroin addict, and is currently in jail for probation violations, related battery, and drug charges. She has been in and out of halfway houses for this whole year (escaping from 2 of them). Both children have had drug exposure, and a psychiatrist who is seeing the older one, believes that he was beaten, and has post traumatic stress disorder. The psychiatrist feels that considering what he has been through, that it would be best for any visits to stop. Our attorney says she believes it would be easy to terminate her rights, so we could adopt them.

The biological father was never on the birth certificate, and was never married to her. The boys do have his last name. However he has never paid any child support, and was only in their lives off, and on, being mostly homeless. The night we met the mother we had several people with us that saw a big shiner the mother said was given to her by him.

Now a year later he is in the Army, and says he has his mother moving on the base with him. He called the other day, after have very little contact with the boys. He said he wants to try to get custody of them. What rights if any does he have?
Also I need to add that the boys were born in Missouri, but the guardianship is in Illinios courts.
We have had constant contact with the father. We have a good relationship with him, but he is very irresponsible. He tells us he will do something, and has about a 20% success rate. He says he has presents for the boys. So far has never produced any. Lies constantly, and is very untrustworthy.

Yes he made it into the Army, and we are proud of that, but he and his family are a real mess. His mom is moving in because she can not keep a job. She was living in a trailer with three other families. it was a zoo.

We started out want to restore these folks. We do that as a ministry. I would however be very concerned for the boys well being. Just in case some of you thought we had wrong motives…

I have a 14 year old son and a 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We ended our relationship shortly after the birth of our second child and soon then after I met and married my current husband and have been married to him for the past 11 years. My ex was not actively involved in the childrens life for the first few years. And I had to constantly pursue him so that he spend sometime with them. In 2000 I found out that he had a heroin problem and limited the time he saw them of which was very little because he never came around. as of recently past six years maybe he has been slowly stablelizing himself and married someone himself although she did enforce his visitation of them from time to time during past couple of years he has dissappeared on both me and his wife. But all in all he has been a stable dad for the past 3 years. We have had a freindly relationship between all involved parties as well and I have made it a point to involve him as much as possible in his childrens lifes. As of recently he has been demanding without consideration of how it will disruppt my household and home, (I do have a child with my current marriage, which these two children are a very important part of.) additional time with his children. When I informed him that I could not just say yes take them without seeing what I can do as far as who is going to watch over my younger child during the time that their older brother watches them, he proceeded to call DYFYS (Division of youth and family services) on me making tons of absurd not founded allegations on me. May I add he did these anonymusly however admitted it to my son when he questioned him on it. The only reason he gave to my son for calling Dyfis was that he was tired of me being the only one who has a say in their lifes. The children are angry with him for what he did and are not ready to talk to him although I everyday tell them they should, it has now been three weeks since the allegations where made by him and he has not even as called his kids. He is requesting joint custody in court and is demanding unreasonable times he is requesting he gets them tuesdays and thursday over night during the school year with e/o weekend starting from Friday to Monday. And during school vacation he wants them every other week. I am not against my children spending time with their father in fact I have always encouraged it, but I feel what he is requesting is not reasonable and he doesnt see how for the past 12 years I have build a life and family with them and my younger child and this will cause a huge detremental impact to all my children not just his. I am afraid of what a judge would say because for the latter years he has been a responsible father except for the fact that he never paid me child support. I dont want to keep kids from him I just want to have a stable home where I do not have to be afraid that he will take me to court at a whim just simply because he wants more time with them. Any suggestions can anyone help me.

Ok, so here is a bit of background. My fiance was born in a pretty complicated situation. His father is a cheating, sleazy bastard (not just my opinion). While in his 30′s he and his wife decided they wanted to have children, but was told that he was shooting blanks. Bad news on the kids front, but great news because now he could stop using protection when he had sex with all the other women. Turns out he wasnt so infertile and he got one 18 year old mistress pregnant (my fiancee’s mother)

He was never really involved in my fiancee’s life, except when he came back and knocked my fiancee’s mother up again. Dont feel too sorry for her, because she was an abusive heroin addict, but this isnt about her. So, the father was an all round douche, he paid for my fiancee’s education but didnt make sure he had food to eat, and didnt do anything when my fiancee’s mother and step father beat him severely.

Fast forward to recently. I meet my fiancee’s father for the first time and he tries to hit on me. Me being nothing like my fiancee’s ex’s im not willing to jump into bed with a sleazy old man, especially if that man is my fiancee’s father. Once he gets the hint through his thick skull, he turns to my fiancee and says “you’ve found a nice girl here, but she could do with losing 10 kilo’s”. considering i am very petite and had just recently recovered from an eating disorder, i didnt take it too well and went into remission for a while (im ok now)

So, because of how he treated me, and more importantly how he neglected his son, I really truly despise this man and would be more than happy if I never saw him again. My fiancee is a great man and has forgiven his parents for being failures in the parenting world, and wants his father to be at the wedding. I understand, its his father, so he gets to choose.

My problem is, this man is a disgusting sleaze and Im worried about his ruining the day. He might bring drugs, hit on my younger cousins, swear around my family etc. I doubt that my fiancee will speak to him for me, but he will get mad if I do it myself.

Please help, what should I do?
To myth, Im really dissappointed in your answer because I usually think you give pretty good ones. My fiance has more backbone than he knows what do with, but he respects his elders, a trait I hold in high regard. He also knows how upset he would be if he wasnt invited to his sons wedding. I spoke to him about it, because I just ask questions on here out of curiosity on how other people would handle the situation, and he has already addressed the issue which is why he didnt want to say anything, by speaking to his aunt and making sure she would handle her brother. I have a tendency to be extremely rude to people without intending to, which is why he doesnt want me to say anything. Poke your nose out of my business, ok =)
And to the people who say that I am marrying into a bad family, I am not marrying into any family, we are starting our own. He has grown up to be someone who wants to be NOTHING like his parents, and was running a successful business by the time he was 19 and is the kindest, sweetest, most protective man I have ever met. People who behave like their parents are weak and looking for excuses, and he is nothing like that.

Ok, I’m in a tight spot and I need to get some thing off my chest. Any input is greatly appreciated. Well here it goes. I am 31 years old. My wife is 45 years old. She has a history of substance abuse. She used to shoot heroin and smoke cannibals on the streets 24/7 when she was my age.

To make a long story short, I took her from a small city and moved her up to my home town. She still continued to use drugs, but not as much. She has ran up all my credit cards without my consent to get money for drugs. She goes on binges, then stops for 10 months or so, before repeating.

We have a 7 year old son. He is autistic, but doing very well in school. The problem is my wife is very verbally abusive to him and me all the time. She has to be in control all the time. She can be sweet when everything is going her way, but when it is not, or I stand up to her, she goes ballistic. This includes physically attacking me, scratching me, throwing things at me, and punching me when I’m not looking.

Yet she is the one that always claims she is the victim. I have been with her for 10 years and I’m at my wits end, but she is a VERY vindictive, ruthless woman, and I am afraid to leave her. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I am literally afraid of her.

I have to hide in my room and do everything in secret. She can talk to whom ever she wants, but I can’t have any friends without her going into a jealous rage, and even threatening any friends I have had over the years.

My concern of leaving is my son. I do not know what will happen to him if I leave. I have to type really quiet or she’ll kick in my door to see who I am typing too. That’s how controlling she is. I feel like a prisoner.

There is a lot more but I am going to end this post now. I’m at a loss of what to do. I feel like my life is slipping past me and I am stuck in a miserable situation with no way out that wont hurt everyone drastically.

I’m literally considering waking my son up one night in the coming week and flying out to relatives in California just to get some down-time. As much as I’m depressed with it all, I really don’t want to get the police involved but there is a gun in the house.

In the past I shot rifles on a Thursday afternoon as a hobby with two friends. I have a license and all but I don’t know where it is. About three months ago I came home and the inventory room where I’ve kept it for several years was moved around. The rifle is gone and whether it’s in the house or not at this stage, I’m unsure but I haven’t mentioned it to her.

I better end this now. Any advice is much appreciated, thank you in advance for the replies. I’m sorry if this is not the right section.

Desperate Dan.

I need serious help. This is kind of a long story so If you don’t like to read you will not be able to help me. I am a 32 year old concerned step-mom. My husband and I used to live in New Orleans, unfortunately due to Katrina we had to move and start a new life in Houston where we both got jobs. Prior to Katrina, my husband had domiciliary custody of his son, back then he was 8 years old. The reason why he got domiciliary custody is because his son did not want to live with his mother. He was really afraid of her and exhausted with her mood swings. The court ordered a family psychological evaluation to be able to designate the domiciliary parent. All of us were evaluated. As it turned our, the evaluator diagnosed my husband’s ex-wife with a Borderline Personality disorder. In other words, she diagnosed her as an anti-social and sociopath. During the time we were in going to court, she was stalking us, she killed our cat, stuffed my car with rotten seafood, smashed her own son’s birthday cake on our porch (most of which she admitted in court) . She was following us everywhere and even filed a false report with Child Protective Services (the accusation was dropped). She was also a crack and heroin user and was in jail for that. To make it short, during Katrina she kidnapped my step-son and flew to New Jersey where she is from. She disappeared for two months and my husband had to get a court order from the judge to get his son back.. My indignation occurs because the judge knowing all these facts from the beginning he always had way too much leniency with her. He never granted us a restraining order, and even made my husband transfer domiciliary custody to her because we weren’t moving back to New Orleans (we had no money and were totally broke). We had just found jobs, we could not afford to go back. My husband has tried numerous times to go back to court, but everytime we had a court date, the judge could not show up and made us re-set the court date numerous times. The judge ( Sydney Cates) knows we live in Houston, and to be able to go to court we need to travel to New Orleans and that cost a lot of money, and he just doesn’t care. Recently, my step-son has called his dad crying telling him he wants to commit suicide because he is so unhappy. He is only 10 and I don’t really know what to do. Has anyone here been in a similar situation?

my son’s father is a pathalogical liar and uses his children as pawns in his chess game of…getting attention from women, lying, cheating, etc. he’s has a serious selfish problem. he and i were together for six years and in those six years he subjected his children to at least 2 other women and their kids. Now he’s attempting to subject my son to his “new” girlfriend who he met in AA. she’s a pediatric nurse mother of three and a Narcotics Addict. the last girl he cheated on me with thought he lived alone and had this little old dog, for a year he lied to her and continuously took his three kids (one of them, my 3 yr old son) over to her house. While in wal-mart one day, his oldest son, Jamesy asked him, “Daddy, why do you lie to lizzy about where we are going? Daddy why do you live with lizzy when you are seeing Dawn” he told jamesy, “i promise james, i’ll quit cheating on lizzy” at the same time he was buying flowers and asked jamesy to give them to dawn so it looked less romantic and cuter. she bought it. she and i met when he finally checked into detox. Alcohol is just one outlet of his manic ways. he’s up right now and living in vegas “acting” like he’s a changed man. But he’s left two voicemails in the last week and i can tell he has been drinking again. he’s now got his new girlfriend harassing me over texts. i want him to have “supervised” visitation if any at all. right now his eldest son is in counseling at school. he’s 9. he has panic attacks over his dad. he loves his daddy but his daddy has asked him to lie and keep quiet about where they go etc. he’s tells a good lie. i’m afraid the mediator will give him unsupervised visitation when he comes to visit from vegas. we’re in illinois. what are the chances that i can prove he subjects his children to immoral situations. what do i have to do to get my ducks in a row to prove his judgement is impaired. do i need statements from past women, his ex-wife, his eldest son’s school counselor? right now it just looks like we’re all angry women. but i’m trying to protect my child from being hurt like his eldest brother is hurting. HELP.

(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

I need a song about a father (preferably an alcoholic) who hits his wife for an assignment im doing. I have to make a soundtrack for a book I’m reading.

My wife has been keeping a secret from her family for years. When she was younger, like 11-14, her step father sexually abused her. I don’t know how far the abuse went because it made me both very sick and very angry when I heard it. But I do know that he touched her inappropriately and when her mother was working overnight due to her job he would almost always come into her bed at night and poke her with his penis. That’s as far as I got because I couldn’t take it anymore when she was telling me…….

But here is the deal. She has chosen to keep this a secret from her mother because she doesn’t want her mother to be alone. And she made me promise not to say anything. Unfortunately one time I was very intoxicated and the subject of her family came up and I slipped up and told someone about the abuse which I shouldn’t have done. I don’t even remember it honestly.

Well, now we have a problem. Word has gotten to the family that I said that and my wife has chosen to tell her mother that I made it up and she no longer will speak to me.

And her step father now has fuel to be an even bigger A hole and walks all over her. He says things like “the only reason me and your mother wouldn’t be happy is you” and the like. Basically putting the blame on her.

I’m sick of the lying prick and want to confront him and make sure my mother in law knows I didn’t make it up. My wife told me about the abuse on numerous occasions and has burst into tears when she has seen shows on tv about sexual abuse.

And because my wife has chosen to keep the secret my son who is now 2 and half still goes to his grandparents and sees him. I’m not comfortable with that situation.

Should I keep quiet or should I follow my wife’s wishes?

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Ok I know there are people worse off than me but here’s my story. I’m 21 and started to not wanted to see my father. My parents were never married and never lived together and broke up when I was 3. When I was around 5 I started to go to my dad’s every other weekend. My dad is a workaholic and has a super bad temper (or however its spelled). For most of the time i was there i did yard work there. A few years later he married some trashy lady he met at a bar. He was get in fights with her all the time and beat her. He got arrested a few times I was over at his house for DWI. One time he took me to a bar after he beat his wife. She left him after like a year or two. A few years passed. Then in 99 he married some rich doctor a few years his senior who’s super bubbely who he’s married to now and moved to her house. He acts like “Husband of the Year” to her and his in-laws. Everytime I’d go there i’d do lawn work. Its like a job. I felt more like his employee than his son. Also I don’t feel like I belong there. I can’t even call him “dad”. We’d never go places like father and son moments. Maybe to the hardware store or to his barber or to the 7-11 to get lottery tickets or cigerettes. When I was invited to go to out to eat with him and his wife all he’d do is complain and make a scene. Also he invited me on family trips to North Carolina. Which was hell. All he did was complain and we’d stay at the hotel all day. One time he claimed I ruined dinner because I didnt get a plate for the hamburgers quick enough to get them off the grill. I felt so bad. I just wanted to runaway. In recent years all I did there was work and nothing else. Like if there was no work to be done he said dont come over. In the summer before I last saw him he would take me to peoples house to do work for them. Like his mother-in-law. To do landscaping work for her for barely any pay. On the last day I saw him he made me do a ton of work. As I was doing it he knocked over the garbage can that i filled with leaves, then i saw a iteniary of a trip to Cancun that they were going on (one year earlier he said i’d go with them), then on the drive back from doing work at my grandma’s house he asked me if all college grants paid for my tutition and when i said no he didnt believe me and i was trying to explain it to him and he said “Whatever!” and didnt seem to care. Then when I got back to his house he offered me a $50 bill for all the work i did. He whipped it away and gave me a $20. After that day I decided not to ever see him again. Was this a wise decision? Thanks for reading. Sorry for the long paragraph but i had to get this off my chest.

So, my daughters father, is a dumb alcoholic, and just killed his wife while drinking and driving. So, he is most probably going to prison. I have been getting child support weekly, and that money is really needed in our family to stay afloat. So when he goes to prison can i still collect some sort of child support or is that impossible?
haha, i was young and dumb, only 17, didnt have any self respect!

Ok, i get it, no money. Just hopeful that there might be a way.

Mother is in a mental institution for a five-day evaluation. According to my mother, my brother informed her of his intention to send the baby home to be taken care of by my father, my husband and I and my mother while he is working (he’s a Coast Guard and has to be on the boat).

It has already been established by my brother and my father upon his arrival that the mother (19 years old, diagnosed with depression with suicidal tendencies and alcoholism, who has been hanging with people affiliated with gang members and my brother thinks she may have joined because is wearing their colors) is unstable and unfit to care for the child.

My brother also caught his wife cheating after coming home a day early from the boat.

She drinks Hennesey straight out the bottle and uses marijuana (we fear she may be on other drugs because she weighs about 85lbs – was always slim but now it’s very gaunt)

Question: Legally, can my brother send the baby to Michigan from Missouri?

2 weeks after conception he was arrested for assaulting me
he has dui (dwi) and posession charges
he abused my 6 year old son as well as his ex wife’s older child but there is nothing on record.
will he have to pay child support?
Will I have to fly the baby to HIM or will he have to come to CA for visitation?
Do I have to put his name on the birth cert even though he wont be there?
Whose last name should I give my unborn child?

My wife had an affair and is now pregnant. All calendars point to me as the father for timing, but there is a chance it is the other guys. We have decided to work out our problems and are NOT getting a divorce (please don’t even comment on this). This guy she had an affair with is wanting to have a paternity test done and we do not. If the tests show it is his, he wants his “rights”. We want to raise this child as it is ours (which it most likely is) and do not want any contact with him at all. Period. This guy is an alcoholic and has a DWI and multiple PIs (just getting one saturday night). He was on probation and violated that so he was supposed to go see his PO on Monday or Tuesday and failed to show. (he has six months left on probation). He will not leave my wife alone (comes to her work and calls her office). We want rid of this dirtbag! Is there any legal recourse (in Texas) to prevent this guy from getting custody or having a paternity test court ordered (please provide evidence of your explanation if possible)? We have been legally married for more than six years and have two daughters that are undoubtedly ours and want to protect them and the unborn child (6 wks along) at all costs. PLEASE HELP! Please refrain from making negative comments about my wife.
The way I see it is that it is mine and I am the daddy regardless of the sperm donor
Thank all of you for your input! We now understand that she should not have told him but did because she was scared to death. On the other hand we live in rural West Texas and he would have eventually put two and two together. He has no job (hasn’t for 3 years), lives with his mother, and has PTSD from being in Iraq with major anger issues (has not done anything to my wife).

How can I protect my father from his wife re: medical decisions?
My father has been in the hospital since the 2nd of January. There is various medical problems including: Prostrate cancer, possibly alcoholism, dehydration & malnutrition and various other maladies. I know for sure that my dad does NOT want to be there and his wife wants him to go to a rehab center (I believe for alcoholism). He has been sedated and in restraints for a couple of weeks. He has tried to leave the hospital but his wife is controlling what happens. He has asked me to contact a lawyer to begin divorce proceedings. He says he wants to live but on HIS terms, not on those his wife chooses for him. Tonight they transferred him to a geriatric psych facility against his wishes. My brother is boarding the plane now to get out there. All I care about is making sure that his wishes are granted because ultimately that is all that is important.

Help, please. We know that the wife has primary decision making power by virtue of their marriage but he does not want her to make decisions for him. What can we, his kids, do to make sure that we can have her rights superseded? I talked to a lawyer today but he was somewhat reluctant to get involved because of the muddy issues with the wife. There was also some talk about the hospital not letting him be released. So my questions are:
1. Can we get a power of attorney so that we can make the medical decisions (do what he wants) for him, instead of his wife?
2. Can we just walk him out of the hospital without the hospitals consent?

This is in Arkansas.
Any other information that you might have that you might have come across because of your own experiences would be soooo helpful. Thank you so much.
Douglas: Thank you so much for your answer, but I do believe he has the right to live out his life the way he wants. I would NEVER agree to restrain someone like that. He has detoxed now for about 20 days and I’m not convinced that alcohol is as big of a program for him as his wife says (not my mother, his 2nd wife). I just don’t think anyone has the right to choose for how someone else should live out the rest of their days. By-the-way, no inheritance so that is not a factor in my decisions (he’s leaving it in a trust for the grandkids education).

Mother is in a mental institution for a five-day evaluation. According to my mother, my brother informed her of his intention to send the baby home to be taken care of by my father, my husband and I and my mother while he is working (he’s a Coast Guard and has to be on the boat).

It has already been established by my brother and my father upon his arrival that the mother (19 years old, diagnosed with depression with suicidal tendencies and alcoholism, who has been hanging with people affiliated with gang members and my brother thinks she may have joined because is wearing their colors) is unstable and unfit to care for the child.

My brother also caught his wife cheating after coming home a day early from the boat.

She drinks Hennesey straight out the bottle and uses marijuana (we fear she may be on other drugs because she weighs about 85lbs – was always slim but now it’s very gaunt)

Question: Legally, can my brother send the baby to Michigan from Missouri?
Hex-Currently, the father and mother have equal custody. Baby is 2 months old. Mother still lives with husband. No divorce has been filed or seperation…
Hex-Been married for about a year and a half. Brother signed paternity papers. All are residents of Missouri. Brother is in USCG if that makes a difference.
Hex-Thank you for the info.

The Bible teaches that children are to honour their parents, but what if the father is an alcoholic and he deserts the wife and children? Should they still honour him?

My husband has twin boys from his first marriage. His ex wife has caused alot of hell and abuses drugs. Not to long ago he recieved a phone call that his children were in danger because she owed a drug dealer. My husband handled his stress the wrong way and got drunk and got into some trouble. Since then he has attended counseling and alcohol treatment to learn to handle this stress appropriatly, he does done very well with his treatment and has controlled himself well. His ex wife filed for sole custody after she found out he got in trouble and we have to go to court tomorrow. Even though he went through the treatment and has been doing good he still has to serve 60 days in jail starting Sept. 1. Here is where it gets complicated. We have finally have proof of her drug abuse through medical records our lawyer got. She went to the hospital and after she tested positive for cocaine and marjuiana she checked herself into the psych unit and then checked herself out because they wouldn’t give her narcotic. The hospital said that she defintily has a drug problem all throughout her records. Therefore the children are in danger with her and her parents because her parents kept taking her to the hospital to get narcotics. Our question is that since we have this evidence, and the children are already used to spending every other week with us, Can my husband sign over his custody to me while he serves his 90 days? They have joint custody, but she is a danger to them and he is very concern. He says that he knows that he needs to suffer the consequences for his actions, but he doesn’t want to have to worry about his children everyday. I have no drug abuse history or anything on my criminal record. After his 60 this issue with him is done. Can we do this so I can keep the kids safe?
He only has to serve 60 days not 90 sorry. And he doesn’t have to check into the jail until Sept.1 so he is out right now.
he wants sole custody, but with him having to go to jail she says that she will get custody. So he wants to sign over custody temporarily to me so I can care for them while he is gone and when he gets out he will fight for sole custody.