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(IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TH REASON FRO MY QUESTION THAT SKIP TO THE CAPS AT THE BOTTOM, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY READ IT TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THE SITUATION) my father and mother have been married for 30 years and had 2 children for about 28 of thos years they were very much in love and were great together, no lies, cheating, hiding money or abuse. my mom became very ill about 4 years ago she can not work and is in constant pain, the las 2 years my father has become a serious drunk and constantly lashes out at us, even tho we stick with him and try to help, we have been to several specialists and they have told him that he only ha 10% of his liver function left. but that if he stopped drinking and started eating better that he could still have a few more years, but if he continued behavior that he would only have about 6 to 9 months to live, this didn’t seem to phase him he continued to drink himself to death while his sick wife lay in bed helpless and beyond depressed, I (the middle child) had to drop out of college and move back home to take care of her and the home, first he just neglected her, then he began to verbally abuse her, we tried several times to beg him to stop or ask him why he didn’t care for his family anymore, but he just said he did care but would go out and drink and come home drunk and makes a fool of himself and say cruel things to his children and his wife and the following morning have no recollection of what happened and not understand why everyone was so upset or sad, in turn getting mad at us cause he felt like he was being mistreated and would again say rude things to us.he does have mood swings though one day he says hes sorry and that hes done with the bottle and that he will go to rehab the next day he says things like “whats the point im going to die anyway why not go out drunk and says horrible things to everyone in the family, when he isnt abusing his family he spends his time staring at the floor or the wall, he is completely detached. he has ben to detox twice, rehab twice, and many AA programs altho he skipped most of them to drink in parking lots. we have stood by him for a year through this and he wont let us help him and on top of that he lies abuses and breaks our hearts everyday, my mother is a very happy and wonderful person even with her horrible illness she finds a way to keep her chin up and a smile on her face and think of others first, she doesn’t deserve this, and anytime we try to get the law involved they always say they cant do anything and that even if they did something it would cost more money than we could afford sense my father refuses to get a job or even file for unemployment OR disability, and mother is too sick to hold a job, i am the only one with a job and we are running on my parents retirement fund, so needless to say we are not financially safe. . THE POINT OF THIS IS TO KNOW IF I CAN MAKE MY OWN CONTRACT THAT WILL DISABLE HIM FROM LEAVING MY VERY ILL MOTHER OUT OF THE WILL AND LEAVING HER WITH NOTHING. AS LONG AS HE SIGNS IT WILL IT STAND UP IN COURT? AND HOW WOULD THIS CONTRACT HAVE TO BE WRITEN? WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? AND IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE? IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME WITH AN ANSWER PLEASE RESPOND SOON. THANK YOU!!!

I love my sister but she is a nightmare when she has drink taken. She didnt drink for 2 years but she fell off the wagon at the weekend. mainly what she did was text and phone my other brothers inlaws and accuse my my brother and his wife of being basicially unstable – she also told a good few family secrets to these people who no one gets on with. She is now very upset, crying all the time – hates herself and is in dispair about her drinking especially after doing so well for so long. she is back at her AA meeting today. what can i say to her honestly that will help her. i hate her on one hand know she cant help it on the other and feel sorry for her. help please. ps when sober she is the nicest person one could meet. thanks all
is there anything i can say to put it all into perspective for her – she is so upset- and she hates herself so much. it was an embarressing stupid thing to do but she sure is suffering for it now thanks

i drink about 15 to 18 beers a day.i just sip them so i dont get drunk.my wife tells me im becoming a alcoholic,but i thought you were an alcoholic when you drink everyday to get drunk.im homebound right now so i have nothing else to do but sit around and drink.i sleep until late afternoon and stay up until 3 or 4 am drinking.i drink about 2 or 3 beers an hour,but i dont get drunk.do i need help?

My wife and I had a small party at our house the other night. I went to bed early and My wife and best friend stayed up . My wife came to bed in the wee hours of the morning completely trashed. I took care of her and got her into bed. After waking up she had a horrible feeling that something bad had happened. We drove to my “friends” house and confronted him. He confirmed that something had happened. I am completely disgusted and disappointed. My wife and I have an awesome relationship and no problems. I just dont understand how this could have happened? And now I dont know what to do.

to work. I have to drag him outta bed and rush him to get ready, and if im late for work he docks me an hour pay and expects me to work late and make up a full hour when i was only 5 or 10 mins late. I need the job, it pays very well, what do I tell him?
the boss and his wife has some dirt on me, i did something wrong and they have it covered up
its a private, family owned business, I am the only one thats not part of their family that they trust, my job pays very well but sometimes they take advantage of me, I stay cause someday they might give me part ownership of this business

Barney” had a few too many at the company cocktail holiday party and is intelligent enough to realize that he is in no shape to drive. But “Barney” does not want to leave his car at the office so he calls his wife “Betty” and asks her to drop off their son “Bambam” (who has a provisional instruction permit) at the office. The plan is for “Bambam” to drive “Barney” home.

On the way home, “Bambam” is pulled over for a minor traffic violation and the officer discovers that “Barney” is over the legal limit.

There are obvious moral and ethical issues here that could be argued for days, but what are the legal ramifications.

Could “Barney” be cited for drunk driving? Could “Bambam” be cited for some violation of the provisional permit?

On Saturday, I went to the pub for a post-ride beer.

After only 2 beers, I was finding it hard to keep my eyes open, and struggling not to fall asleep in my chair.

I attribute this to two separate issues.

Firstly I had, had an awful night’s sleep the previous night which culminated with my wife waking up with stomach pain at 4.30 am. I didn’t get back to sleep after that.

Secondly, I had been riding my bike for over 2 hours without ever topping up my carbohydrate stores. It would be reasonable to assume that my endogenous carbohydrate stores would have been depleted, and my blood glucose levels low. No doubt the intake of a couple of pints would have caused an insulin surge, which, once ceased, would have led to feelings of fatigue.

Funnily enough this happens to me every Friday night. I cycle home from work, and when I get home, I treat myself to a ‘Graze’ box which contain snacks full of natural sugars. An hour later my wife comes home to find me out for the count on the settee.

I left the pub (of my own accord) and started walking home, when I was challenged by a PC for appearing drunk. I told him, I wasn’t drunk, but tired, and that I lived a 10 minute walk away and wanted to go home and go to bed. I then started to walk off.

As I walked off the policeman shouted me back telling me not to walk off while he was talking to me. I turned round and calmly stated (didn’t raise my voice, swear or gesture) I had not broken any law and therefore he had no reason to be talking to me. Again I started to walk away and was shouted back. He said (aggressively) that he was in charge of the conversation and would decide when it was over. My response to this was that a conversation involves 2 people being involved in mutually consentual dialogue and that by definition nobody is in charge. I told him that the sort of dialogue he was referring to was an interview and, if an interview is what he wanted he would have to arrest me … but as he had nothing to arrest me for the discussion was over and I would be now be walking home. I should stress that during this time I never once swore, raised my voice or gesured aggressively.

As I turned to walk away he cuffed me and told me I was arrested. I asked what for and he replied ‘drunk and disorderly’.

On arrival at the police station I told them I was not drunk and would like to produce a sample of breath, blood or urine to prove it. This request was denied. Subsequently I asked for a container so that I could produce my own sample for independant analysis … in order that I could defend myself in court. This again, was denied.

I’ve made an official complaint to the police whose reply was that they don’t need a sample as it’s been passed by the courts that police officers are experts in subjectively judging the sobriety of an individual.

I find this incredulous. Why, if this is the case, do they need a sample to prove drink driving? What is the difference?

I was kept in the cell for 11 hours and despite requests, was not afforded an interview to put across my argument. When finally released, I was charged with drunk and disorderly. The reason as provided on the charge sheet was ‘when approached by a police officer, the offender became abusive’. I was not given a fixed penalty, instead I have to go to court in 2 weeks.

I’ve not yet spoken to a lawyer but from the research I have done on the internet, it seems that unless CCTV evidence is available (unlikely) … it will be my word against his and the magistrates will more than likely side with the police.
Just a comment on the first two answers here .. I really agree that I should get a solicitor .. unfortunately the cost might be too excessive.
Quizzard you couldn’t be more mistaken.

Belligerent suggestes that I was being aggressive/hostile. In actual fact all I tried to do was continuously walk away from a ‘hostile’ situation.

And also, surely the people I was out cycling with could testify that I had only had two drinks (not to mention the pub landlord)?
In the UK, Lisa.

I asked to speak to the duty solicitor at 6pm when I was locked up. I was allowed to speak to one, by phone, at 2am.

It’s not mandatory for them to conduct any test. Apparently it’s common law that police are experts in determing whether or not someone is drunk. That is evidence enough. In my opinion this fact is appalling, and leaves many ‘laws’ open to abuse.

These three guys got together one day and were talking about how drunk they got at a party the night before.
The first guy said, ”Man I was so drunk last night I went home and blew chunks.”

The second guy said, ”Man that was nothing I was so drunk last night I was driving home and I got a DWI.”

The third guy says, “Man that was nothing. I was so drunk last night I was driving home and I picked up a prostitute and my wife caught us in bed.”

Then the first guy said, ”No — you guys don’t understand! Chunks is my dog!”

These three guys got together one day and were talking about how drunk they got at a party the night before.
The first guy said, ”Man I was so drunk last night I went home and blew chunks.”

The second guy said, ”Man that was nothing I was so drunk last night I was driving home and I got my DWI.”

The third guy says, “Man that was nothing. I was so drunk last night I was driving home and I picked up a prostitute and my wife caught us in bed.”

Then the first guy said, ”No — you guys don’t understand! Chunks is my dog!”

Is Jeb’s daughter still robbing pharmacies for drugs?
Has G.W.’s wife killed anybody else while drinking and driving since the last time? We never hear about the familiy anymore.

And I later woke up and discovered that I had been so brutally raped. And I went down to the kitchen to grab a drink of water. And years of abuse passed through my mind, driving me to temporary insanity. And I grabbed a tube of superglue, went back to the bedroom and glued my wife’s va-jay-jay shut. Would feminists yell “Way to go!” and write a story in the New York Times praising my actions?
Thuper Duper: Marriage is inherently abusive for any man.

An honored judge was out at a bar drinking heavily when he checked his watch and saw how late it was. He decided to chance driving home to his wife ASAP, and only got about a mile in before he hit another car. Fortunately neither him nor the other driver was hurt, and the judge agreed to immediately pay him several thousand dollars if he would forget the incident. The other driver agreed, and the judge wrote him a check.

Later, the judge got home and found his wife asleep, he quietly took off all his clothes and contemplated what he would tell his wife in the morning and how he would explain the car damage.

Next day, the first thing he said to his wife, “I’m so sorry I was late last night honey, but you wouldn’t believe what happened, this drunk driver hit me head on and then sped off without stopping, and I had to talk to the police for several hours.”

After assuring his wife that he was not injured, the judge headed off to work.
Later that evening, the judge came home and decided he would alleviate the mood.

“Honey, you’ll never believe this,” he said, “The guy who did a drunk hit and run on me last night showed up in my courtroom and I gave him five years hard prison time.”

“You should have given him ten,” his wife replied, “I did the laundry today and apparently he puked on your shirt and pooped in your underwear too.”

We have only been married 18 months and she is very controlling and abusive. She wants to spend all of her time in the bar. It also doesn’t help that she works in a bar as a bartender. I could handle it at first but now she gets very mean. I tired to get her into counseling a year ago and she refused. For a while, she got a lot better and now she has relapsed again.
Yesterday she worked an eight hour day shift and I showed up right after she was done to pick her up. She wanted to hang out for a while so we ran into some friends and were having a great time. Then our friends left and she demanded that we stay for four hours even though I hadn’t eaten at all that day and it was now after 10pm. Then on the way home, I started getting screamed at and she hit me. She then kept screaming at me to give her the money she had given me and told me under no circumstances was I to give her the money. She was so drunk she fell trying to hit me again and then said “I made her fall”.
She has had a rough life and went through things as a baby and child that no kid should have to. She constantly ditches me for the bar. I drink too, but not near as much or as often as she does. I cried my eyes out most of the night and told her today that I wanted to separate. She then asked if we could finally try counseling. I really love her and want to find the woman I love again. She refuses to go to AA and refuses to even acknowledge that there is a problem. If I mention anything, I’m nagging and have to get off her case or get screamed at. Do you think counseling will even help? She is also very jealous and has driven away 90% of my female friends, yet she is allowed to have as many male friends as she wants. She does not drive, so often I am her ride and have to stay at the bar until she is ready to go no matter how tired or hungry I am.She can be very sweet and has had a hard life. I know if I do leave, she will be crushed. What do I do? Sorry for such a long post.

While driving to work in the morning when suddenly a elderly woman you used to see at the park feeding those disgusting pigeons falls and appears to break her arm but you just keep going because you don’t want to be late or have to explain to the police/ EMT’s why you are drunk in the mornign and driving a 83 Ford Fiesta oft considered the lamest of all cars while your terrible wife drives an Jeep Cherokee becasue of her heritage and casino money?

My wife of 5 years and I have 1 child together. Our son is 3 years old. Shortly after his birth my wife began to drink often. About a year ago she became what I considered an alcoholic. She drank most every day and drank a lot. She was always drunk but when at work. She works evenings so she got drunk before work but not wasted and wasted when she got home.

After some big problems eg. driving drunk with our son and passing out when she was supposed to be watching him, I was at the end of my rope. I had a professional intervention done and put her into rehab for her health and for how she was behaving with our son and how she was treating me.

She was in rehab for 30 days and got out 2 weeks ago. The day before she got out of rehab she told me she had had sex in the parking lot with 2 different coworkers on 3 separate occasions over a 3 week period in March. One she had sex with once and the other twice right after she got off work for the night. My wife that I knew prior to alcohol would have never done such a thing. She told me this before getting out of rehab because she said the alcohol made her a monster and she wanted me to know so I could move on or forgive her and start anew life with her sober. She swears she will never drink again as it makes her a monster. She says if it was not for being an alcoholic that she would not have been in the state of mind of wanting to do anything to make herself feel better about herself. She says she would not like a person or think very highly of them if they behaved as she had…she swears she is not that person. In the last two weeks she has signed a post nuptial agreement in which she gets nothing if we get divorced…I get everything we acquire in the future including the house, cars and savings that we have now. She is trying to prove to me that she will never do such a thing again. She knows I am loyal and would never hurt her as she has done to me so she trusts me not to leave her and use the post nup unless she does something in the future to deserve it. She has returned to being a sweet caring wife but this could be because of guilt. Can alcohol really make a person a monster like this even when not drunk?

The driver had been drinking, and he merged into me on the interstate going 80mph. Luckily, after spinning at least 5 times, I managed to avoid the steel light pole I was heading straight for. my car is most totaled. The police did not take the guy away, as when they got there, the driver lied and said his wife was driving at the time of the accident. We couldn’t prove it so they let him go. Before the police arrived the man’s wife transferred beer from his truck to another woman’s car.

The reason I want a case is because they had babies in the car. I do not want an irresponsible parent driving drunk with their babies in the car, but even if I take him to court and get them away from him, I will still be out of money to the lawyer. Would it be possible to win the case and get enough money to pay a lawyer and maybe help get another car?
I actually have experienced the whiplash symptoms and soreness. Also my friends are urging me to go to the doctor. I seem to have a depth perception issue.. I keep falling while trying to sit down on chairs and sometimes fall when just walking. I do remember a guitar amplifier hitting me in the head during the wreck, but I don’t think I had any swollen areas on my head or anything, could this be a problem from the accident?

I just don’t have the money to go to the doctor, I was moving back to my hometown since I lost my job and all my belongings were in my car when he hit me. Luckily my computer was not damaged.

Make the arrest, throw him in a jail cell and forget about him until they raid all over the news that Obama’s missing the next day before telling sgt that you had arrested Obama for DUI the night before or would you stand there kissing ass all the while allowing him to call for someone to come pick him up? In all honesty.

If you would allow him to call for a ride, then whats the difference between Obama, and your family, friends, your wife’s father, your wife’s father’s mother, your wife’s father’s mothers friend, your wife’s father’s mothers friends father, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughter, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughters pet rat?

I get them on weekends (court ordered) but I’m usually drunk when I go to their house. She won’t let them drive with me but isn’t that illegal? If it’s a COURT ORDERED joint custody, I have a right to take them, drunk or not. And don’t give me the whole thing about driving drunk is illegal too. It’s 2010 for chrissakes. People drive drunk now. Get over it. I usually let one of them drive half way home anyway (the oldest is 7). It’s a little travelled country road and we switch places in the city.

Charlene Lugar, the wife of Richard Lugar, who is a Republican senator from Indiana, got arrested for DWI.

Does this mean that if conservatives ran the country we would have a whole bunch of people driving around under the influence?

RAMBLE RAMBLE RAMBLE
Exactly Dan!

showed that no alcohol was involved?

Why would he try to slander a dead man?

“Let me tell you a little story,” The newspaper quoted Biden as saying. “I got elected when I was 29, and I got elected November the 7th. And on Dec. 18 of that year, my wife and three kids were Christmas shopping for a Christmas tree. A tractor-trailer, a guy who allegedly — and I never pursued it — drank his lunch instead of eating his lunch, broadsided my family and killed my wife instantly, and killed my daughter instantly, and hospitalized my two sons, with what were thought to be at the time permanent, fundamental injuries.”

http://delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080904/NEWS02/809040379

“Alcohol didn’t play a role in the 1972 crash, investigators found. But as recently as last week, the syndicated TV show Inside Edition aired a clip from 2001 of Biden describing the accident to an audience at the University of Delaware and saying the truck driver “stopped to drink instead of drive.”

The senator’s statements don’t jibe with news and law enforcement reports from the time, which cleared driver Curtis C. Dunn, who died in 1999, of wrongdoing.”

“The rumor about alcohol being involved by either party, especially the truck driver, is incorrect,” said Jerome O. Herlihy, a Delaware Superior Court judge who was chief deputy attorney general and worked with crash investigators in 1972.

“If it were some part of a cause of the accident, there would have been a charge, simply because if you’re driving under the influence and kill someone in the process — whether it’s the wife of a U.S. senator or anybody else — there’s going to be a charge,” he said.

And look at lovely ol’ Biden’s camp had to say when Dunn’s daughter became distraught over her deceased father being maligned:
To see it coming from [Biden's] mouth, I just burst into tears,” Dunn’s daughter, Glasgow resident Pamela Hamill, 44, said Wednesday. “My dad was always there for us. Now we feel like we should be there for him because he’s not here to defend himself.”

Biden spokesman David Wade said Wednesday that the senator “fully accepts the Dunn family’s word that these rumors were false.”

ME: apparently you do not.