How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

Don throws up all over himself.

‘Oh, no… Now my wife will kill me!’

Bob says, ‘Don’t worry, pal. Just tuck a twenty in your breast pocket and

Tell your wife that someone threw up on you and gave you twenty dollars

for the dry cleaning bill.’

So they stay for another couple of hours and get even drunker.

Eventually Don stumbles home and his wife starts to give him a bad time. ‘You

Reek of alcohol and you’ve puked all over yourself! My God, you’re disgusting!’

Speaking very carefully so as not to slur his words, Don says, ‘Nowainaminit, I

Can e’splain everythin. Itsh snot wha jew think. I only had a cupla drrrinks. But

Thiss other guy got ssick on me…he had one too many and he juss koudin hold hizz

liquor He said hes was verrry sorry an’ gave me twennie bucks for the cleaning bill!’

His wife looks in the breast pocket and says, ‘But this is forty bucks..’

‘Oh, yeah… I almos’ fergot, he shhhit in my pants, too.’

In many countries, especially in Europe, drunk driving is a serious crime with very harsh pentalties. In the United States, over 40,000 people die each year in traffic crashes. Alchohol is a factor in tens of thousands of those crashes, yet drunk drivers get very light sentences. My wife and I were almost killed by a hit and run drunk driver and he only got 18 months of work release.

Okay for a little more info….they have driven drunk with them in the car often. It scares my children endlessly, but they are afraid to say anything to them because when they are drunk they are belligerent. I have told my children to call me if they are afraid to get in the car with them or if they cannot get ahold of one of us, then to call 911. My ex is a detective and thinks he is above the law. I am definitely going to address the issue but do not want my kids to feel afraid the next time they go over there or get them in trouble for confiding in me. I just wish I could never let them over there again.

have my way with her? She is pretty freaky when she is wasted, and often doesn’t remember much, so I take advantage of that, and do….well, we will just say that I do some cool things…

is that wrong?

We got married two weeks ago. We went on our honeymoon. She went out of town for work for a week. While there, she got drunk every night and danced “on” the bar at several clubs. The reason I know this is I heard her telling her sister about it on the phone. I was in another room. Her story to me was “same old stuff, boring conference.”

My hubby walks up and announces that his friend is going to stay with us for a while cuz he got kicked out of his other friend’s house for playing peeping tom on her when she was in the shower.I can’t understand why he coddles this lush.He drinks all day,doesn’t work and doesn’t care.What the hell am I supposed to do to get rid of him?

Two men are in a bar getting drunk. Suddenly one of them throws up all over himself.
He says “Oh, no. Now my wife will kill me”.

His friend says “Don’t worry. Just tuck a twenty dollar bill in your breast pocket and tell your wife that someone threw up on you and gave you twenty dollars for the dry cleaning bill”.

So they stay for another couple of hours and get even drunker.

Eventually he reels home and his wife starts to give him a bad time.

“You reek of alcohol and you’ve thrown up all over yourself, my God you’re disgusting” etc.

Speaking very carefully so as not to slur, he says, “Wait. It’s not what you think. I only had one drink, but this man was sick on me. He’d obviously had one too many, or else he just couldn’t hold his liquor. He was very sorry and he gave me twenty dollars for the cleaning bill. Look in my breast pocket.”

She looks in his breast pocket and says, “But this is forty dollars”.

“Ah, yes.” says the man. “He pee’d on my trousers too”.
Everyonce in a while someone will ask me if they can copy the joke, hell please do whatever you people want to do with them, these are jokes that I have collected over the many years and written down, or were told to me, go ahead please.

We got really drunk and then I talked her into smoking weed with me.
Then we went out for some beers and she passed out on the way back.
I got bored babysitting her so I bent her over the table and did anal because she hates it.
Should I say anything if she maybe got hurt and asks? Maybe I should keep it to myself and delete the video I made. What should I do ?

My wife was on her way too work when a Drunk Driver hit her head on. Total her car but thank God She was not Injury too bad. I no i will get stuck with paying off her car what the insurances. does not pay, But I see this as not fair, for something he did. Should I try too Sue, I don’t like doing things like that but may half too ; But two she is with out away of going now.

I have been married for 30 odd years now

My wife has always liked a drink (can’t enjoy yourself unless you have a few drinks)

I can take it or leave it, but do enjoy a pint or a short
I have a cupboard of spirits and a case of beer

For the past 15 years, she has resorted to drinking in secret (hiding the vodka in various places) I have told her she can dink, but it must be downstairs, not in the bedroom, or other places, but she still drinks in secret, and denies she has been drinking

Sometimes I come home and find her wobbling around and I can smell the vodka on her, but say nothing to avoid the rows (and listening to her lies)

She went to the AA and they said she wasn’t an alcoholic as she wasn’t dependent on drink, she only went the once, anyway

I keep finding bottles in cupboards, drawers and the boot of her car, but she denies they are hers ( its only her and myself at home )

The kids don’t come over any more, we don’t have visitors any more (they say they don’t feel comfortable or feel they are intruding)

The kids tried stopping her from drinking by restricting her seeing the g/kids, if she wanted to see them, she had to drive there, (haven’t seen em in a year now)

Most of the rows have been about her being drunk and denying it, when she is sober, there’s no problemn

Do I have grounds for a divorce on unreasonable behavior ?

How much will this cost me ? (in the UK)

What claims does she have on my savings, pension, ? (she has her own savings, bank account, pension, credit cards, debit cards)

I pay all the regular bills, gas, electric, council tax, phone bill, satalite TV

The house is in joint names, so I assume this will be spilt 50/50, same as all the household stuff (furniture, and stuff)

I’m just sick of the lies and the drinking in secret, (if she wants to drink, do it in the open)

I dont know why she drinks, I dont think her job is stressful,(BAA security) I know she misses the g/children, but not enough to stop drinking

She never drinks enough so she can’t work or drive in the mornings (I think)

Any advice appreciated, especially a solicitor for advice
fainstl
The last time I had a drink in a pub was on the 11 December, I had a bottle of wine with Christmas dinner, the spirits are in a cupboard, open to everyone, she doesnt touch them, its just vodka she drinks
I wouldnt think I’m a social drinker, I don’t go anywhere to drink,
I have a case of beer from last Christmas,(unopened)
I have bottles of spirits given to me, all unopened
I had a christmas drink on the 11 December, 1 pint, then went home, I wouldnt say that is a social drinker
nope, no infidelity, I’m not intrested in anyone else, I dont think shhe is,

I just get depressed we dont have anyone come round any more, we got a nice house (I cant say I blame people though)

I’m not too worried about the g/kids, they got good parents, who will bring em up right

If she denies she is an alkie, what do I do trhen?
When I confront her wih the bottles, she denies they are her’s, even when they are found in her bag, wardrobe, car,

she was on a bycicle at the beach cop was ok but now she need to see judge what might happen to her ?

I remember seeing a fake commercial for this action figure on some show and I can’t remember his name! Can anyone help? It was such a funny clip.

I am about to leave my family I can’t do it by myself no body is helping me and I can’t take it any more.

She didn’t feel like walking 3 blocks to the car, but felt I was too drunk to drive once she was in the car.

Is this typical female logic?