How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I’ve been using Vicodins at night because I’m nursing an injury, and last night the dreams were bizarre.

One was that my wife was seeing someone else, per an agreement we made to “open” the marriage,” and he and his whole extended family moved into the house, moving beds around and such, and, while I was larger than this guy and felt that I could easily “take him,” I felt powerless to enact any change.

The second was an old girlfriend was in on a meeting with a former female boss and I, and the boss was very aggressive sexually while the old girlfriend was crying. I had to leave on a business call, but when I got back, the old girlfriend was beside herself and felt “raped,” and, again, I was powerless to help. The old boss was very cold, saying to her that going to authorities would cost this former girlfriend her job. I felt really sorry for her.

The third was, at the last second, a student for a university I work for asked me to give an impromptu speech at an awards dinner, introducing her and others. But midway through the speech, I started feeling ill and fumbling names, and had to excuse myself. When I got back, the speeches were over and my coworkers were telling me how unprofessional I was and how my performance could be “career-threatening.” Again, my attitude was that I didn’t have the inner strength to fight back.

Now, in real life, I’m a bulldog, but perhaps the injury and the Vikes and my crazy work schedule are taking their toll?

it just seems stupid, to be fair,i blame them for any crime that is the result of drug culture/dealing. if they were made available to the public like alcohol is, it would be much cleaner, safer, ppl wouldn get shot over it n $hit. They complain bout ppl gettin popped over drugs which is jus stupid since they doin it over something less harmful than alcohol, which is legal. These drug laws are jus causin them stupid amounts of stress n money, why not put it all towards the wives gettin beaten and kids gettin abused thanthis senseless $hit?? Studies have proven that alcohol can even be more harmful than smack and every other form of narcotic.they even rated each kinda drug on a scale of 1 to 100 (100 bein tha most dangerous a drug can be) in terms of how dangerous it is, alcohol was rated 75 whereas heroin was given 55, same for crack and chronic was given a measley 20! fuc* knows why the hell they decided to bang up weed from a class c to a class b here in tha u.k. discovering all o this made me even madder at tha people that look down at ya for smokin a bit o chronic n sayin its dangerous…. anyways.. reckon that they’ll ever see sense and legalise drugs in the future? near or not.

Since then I am in two programs (suboxone) and one on one therapy and attend NA every sunday. Problem is wife has had 2 months to convince my 2 kids 13 and 11 that I am a bad man who will harm them and I am like my screen name Tony Montana who is a man to be feared.Im am the opposite man,quite and very,very lonley because my kids fear me and wont ans my e-mails or phone calls. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking how my kids hate me. Im about to be divorced soon now because of this and my lunatic wife wants 3/4 of my paycheck and stay away from her and the kids for life. Lawyer says kids have to see me but I hate to force them. I send gifts,notes and they dont reply?? My wife says I made my bed now lie in it…Well Im not going down without a fight.Kids may lose house but if they dont want to see me what can I do???? I will miss them but its the kids who will miss out on a good father. Dont I deserve a second chance???Her 2 sons from a prev marriage abuse my kids.LAZY GFN SLOBS!
Her 2 sons from prev marriage I raised,brought to 1st red sox game,wrest match,circus.Taught them to drive,gave them my old cars.They dont help out around the house,pay rent and have loud sex so my young kids can hear them. Mom does nothing because her babies are like god to her.They can murder me and she wld help them cover it up…

my son is addicted to heroin and a couple of weeks ago he got so desperate that he actually ordered some drugs over the internet. he sent someone he didn’t know from adam and who lives on the other side of the country $1500. needless to say, he never got the stuff in the mail. i found out about this because he went to my wife crying and said he got ripped off. i know my son needs help and ive been trying for years, but is there any legal action that can be taken? or because of its illegal nature, must this whole ordeal remain hush hush? im just wondering, but either way, he wont see a dime from me.

My younger brother struggled for years with an addiction to pain medications, alcohol and eventually heroin. My family tried unsuccessfully over the years to get him some help. He never wanted any.

Finally, after being hospitalized with renal failure and pancreatic insufficiency in 2005 he admitted that he had a problem and allowed us to check him into rehab. He will be five years clean next month.

He has trouble holding down a job for extended periods of time so my wife and I have been letting him live in our guest room until he can get his act together. He’s good with the kids and is useful around the house.

Unfortunately, I came home from my job at the supermarket only to find him with a needle in his arm. You can only imagine my disappointment. He came up with some cock-and-bull story about how the drugs were prescribed by his doctor and they help regulate the sugar in his blood. Does he take me for a fool? I mean what kind of doctor prescribes medication that you inject in your arm?

I flushed his stash, took his phone (to cut him off from his supplier) and kicked him out on the street. I will not tolerate drug abuse in my home; especially around the children.

We have a drug and alcohol counselor coming tomorrow. I will not let him live under my roof until he gets assessed. Am I taking the correct measures? Is there anything else I can to do to prevent my brother from getting sucked into that life again? I love him dearly and it would kill me to see him get sucked into that downward spiral again. Thanks and God bless.

My brother has drug addictions. The main one I know of is OxyContin and I suspect heroin is also an issue.
He went to the Holistic Drug Rehab (same one that “Intervention” uses) and was “fine” when he came home, it hasnt been 3 months and here is is again back at it. His wife has kicked him out and he is “homeless” aside from staying at users/dealers places. He has nothing anymore. He is 23 years old.
What I dont get is how a person can go through 120 days sober and all of the sudden be back into the drugs. How much will he lose before he quits? God only knows.
I am just scared he will die. I love him so much.
What can I do to help him?

About a year ago, I was married to a man who lived his life on the outside as if he were a bible thumping god fearing holy man, who, within the confines of his wall cussed, drank, used drugs, and talked as if the world owed him something. He blamed all of his transgressions on others or on his parents even though he has no idea what it is like to truly be abused like I was. I couldn’t take it after about 5 years of marriage because not only could I not stand the jekhyl and hyde persona, he would also try to tell me that the failures in our marriage was because I was not a good “godly” wife, and that if I would ask anyone in our congregation, they would tell me that it was my duty to obey him and wait on him hand and foot. I would take care of the children and keep them out of his hair completelly, I would clean the house and cook for him, bring him his food to the couch where he camped whenever he wasnt at work, which every 8 months, he would get fired because of his attitude, and it would take him another 6 months to find a job. He did quit using drugs 3 years ago when we found out that the child I was pregnant with was going to have severe problems., but the anger and selfishness didnt go away with the use. When I finally started trying to ask the women in my congregation what I should do, he would get pissed because he didnt want me to tell them about how he calls me name or about how he threatens to physically hurt me, or about the times that he actually did put his hands on me. He only wanted me to tell them about the very few times that I would get so mad that I would throw whatever was in my hand in his general direction. Not that that made it right, i was still in the wrong. I finally go so depressed and anxious that I developed OCD, and eventually began talking to a friend that he didnt approve of, not that he approved of many. That finally led to our divorce and I am happy, but im sick about the church and how they all turned their back on me and hail him as a saint. His best friend is a deacon and is a known coke addict. My ex has slept with many women within the church and they all just seem to be blissfully happy with the corruption within the church walls, while Im not only rejected, but also talked about amongst them, infront of my children, as if I were a whore and a wild, reckless drug abuser. I will admit that I smoked pot for a brief period of time, and have since developed a loving, functional relationship with the friend that I was not allowed to have. I do not attend church because I dont want to take part of something that is so obliviously self centered just so that I can feel better about my eternity one day a week. The way I see it, if I live my life within my morals and boundaries, then I shouldnt worry, because I know who I am and I know that I have nothing to be ashamed of. I have asked forgiveness for my wrongs, and feel that I have nothing left to answer for. Should I just not worry and continue on with my life?

Imagine a man (43 years old) who moved from the TN country setting to urban Baltimore 3 years ago. After about a year, his attitudes and behaviors started to change. He started compulsively lying. All the time. This person lies about even the small things. He’s not even good at it; he has a huge “tell”. He tells people what they want to hear and spreads rumors about his family. For months, he told his wife’s friends that she is bipolar and violent. He tried to convince her she was crazy. While he was off dicking around with his girlfriend, whenever his wife got suspicious, he convinced her that she was paranoid. He even took her to see a psychiatrist on several occasions.

This man bought a new car and said his rich, dying uncle bought it for him. He made up an elaborate story with great details. He bought a brand new Harley Road King and said a friend bought it for him. He made sure to play the scene so that none of his close family could question the friend. While his wife was working two jobs to help their son pay for college tuition, he was stealing $400/month out of his son’s bank account and using it to spend time with his mistress. Son caught on and is now pressing charges, $1,200 later.

He files for a fraudulent divorce through Mexico, which would take 2 weeks instead of his home state’s 2 year waiting period. He moves out one day while his wife is on a weekend long church retreat. He leaves her with nothing.

All during their legal divorce process, he calls her almost every day and every night and often cries, telling her they can salvage their marriage. He then goes off and has sex with his girlfriend. He lies to everyone in his family. He has lost all his friends. He has mysteriously come up with the $45,000 to buy a new Cadillac and a new motorcycle in the past year. He only works 30 hours a week.

I am not his wife, just a concerned relative. Do you think he may have a “mental problem”? Do you suspect drugs?

Who are any of you to tell anyone else what they can take in relation to recreational drugs, after all I was led to believe that this is my life, my body and up to me what I choose to do with such. I am pretty sure I do not need to consult any of you should I choose to throw myself from a tall building resulting in death, therefore why should some of you feel the need to restrict my choices when it comes to drugs. What does it matter to any of you if I choose to take some heroin on a Friday night and have sex with my wife all night, what harm to any of you does that cause, and more important what business of yours is it anyway. Perhaps those of you who think for some reason that I should not be allowed to take heroin might think about that when your down the pub doing drugs with your local dealers (Alcohol is a drug, just in case you have not figured that one out),
I would like to say that I would like to see the control freaks removed from the gene pool, this is just about my rights to take drugs, nothing else just drugs, please try to answer the question asked…

I abused weight loss drugs for the first 7 years of my marriage. Needless to say, I was thin. With alot of hard work and dedication, I have been able to kick the addiction. I have gained about 28 lbs in the last 6 months and my husband hates it. He always let me know he thinks I look bad. I think I look sexy and healthy. I also cut my long hair into a cute short style. I used to have blonde hair at his insistance, but I have recently gone back to my natural light brown and he is unhappy about that too! He expects the skinny wife he had to remain. There’s no way I can or would want to be that thin again. What should I do?

My marriage began to fall apart about 1 1/2 years ago. The main reason and still to this day I cannot even finish a sentace without being cussed at, snapped at, or him coming to an early conclusion of what I was about to say. There was no emotional support and I was not treated the way a woman wants to be treated. I ended up taking the kids and leaving in dec 2005. Recently, I found out he has been selling/doing drugs. Now, I am kind of furious because I believe this was the cause. Can someone please tell me other things that drug users/dealers may do behind thier wives backs. I am really upset about this and he will not listen to me about anything I have to say. It always seems to be my fault, or all I am doing is thinking about me so he says. Please help.
I assume he is also selling because he seems to get alot of private calls from people to get drugs for them too.

Jesus says to honor yourself and wait till marriage and gives the power to do it, i prayed Jesus im sorry for my sins-forgive me come into my heart and help me -be my friend.

Jesus said he stands at our heart door and knocks to come in deliver from sins and be our friend” Revelation 3 vs 19&20

sex out of marriage dishoners ones life and marriage for the future
drugs messes up the brain and it breaks the law
islam says in the koran Jesus is the only prophet without sin Muhamad married an 8 year old girl and said she was his favorite wife and also married and infadel – well Jesus said if you add to this book you will have plagues Revelation 22nd chapter muhamad destroyed his testimony and should have picked a tree or something to get his followers to believe in him- but Jesus forgives all sins as he says so its never too late and for my Jewish people read Isaiah 52 vs 13-53 vs 12 2 b exaulted but first marred more than any man and lays down life as a lamb
all religions are good for some for some reason alot of nice muslims i know

Jesus says to pray and let him in our heart to forgive sins and be our friend -so i did it and islam says he is a good prophet why not do what he says Revelation 3 vs 19and 20
Judaism is without a messiah why not believe Isaiah and Jesus born of a Jewish mother well why not i did -worked for me

our daughter is 14 now and in the 8th grade…10 months ago we found out that she had been smoking pot since the age of 12 (at least that is as far back as she will admit to)…she has step sisters that are 20 and 21 from my wife’s prior marriage…those girls didn’t live with us, but with her ex husband since we have been together…those sisters are in and out of jail…they are the ones that were giving our preteen pot…i told them to stay away from our daughter and if i heard they were giving drugs to our daughter again i would have them locked up!…well, our daughter a few months ago had used my home office computer for a school project…she left a pile of papers on my desk…one of the papers had drawings that she did of pot leaves “4:20 for life” get high, etc…it also had pictures of mushrooms she drew all psychedelic in style…i was very shocked, and worried…i brought it to the attention to my wife…we sat down with our daughter who of course denied that she was doing any drugs and that she just draws those things because, “i don’t know!”…i wanted to do a drug test on her, but the girl threw a tantrum, screaming and crying and the mom would not let me go get her drug tested…(i know, why don’t i grow a pair and be the man of the house right, but there is no harmony in this house if i do…?)…well, our daughters cell phone has been acting up, so i tried to fix it this morning…i got it to be able to turn back on…i looked at her pictures on the phone and i found 2 recent pics of her smoking a joint!…this just makes me sick to think she is doing this stuff at such a young age (well at all!)…are daughter does have school problems and definite behavior problems…how can i get her to stop doing drugs?…how can i get my wife to stop putting her head in the sand when it comes to our kid?…i tried before to get our daughter into counseling and get drug tested, but the kid throws tantrums and denies everything and the mom falls for it…what do i do?…i have to add that our kid has von willebrands disease which is a blood disorder…she is on medication for this…i am very worried that her doing drugs will harm her more because of this…plus, i really think the girls is prone to depression and is very moody, and defiant…how can i think that the drugs can’t be causing these things?…

My son has been having reoccuring bleeding from the nose at night and sometimes in the day. Me and my wife have rarely bleed from nose so i know it can’t be passed down. But in the other hand our “babysitter” has been having the same, bloody noses and i have found lots of q-tips in the bathroom trash can full of her blood. One time i caught her with q-tip up her nose and said “my nose was bleeding , and i don’t know why”. This raised red flag in my head but what is also bodering me is that almost everytime we make contact with her she always has the “sniffles” like whipping her runny nose on her hand and if she really sniffs drugs this will make contact with my son. This is why i think that my son has a reoccuring bloody nose. In fact i know for sure she is a heroin user back in her old days, but once a user always a user. there is much more i want to say but please can anyone help me? im thinking of drug test, but how can you when the babysitter is mother-in-law? i know you are saying “this is your son you are talking about” but what if i’am wrong i would feel bad. But what if i’m right? I’ll send her to jail or rehab program. and never let her touch my baby again untill i know she is fully CLEAN! I NEED ANSWERS!

Manchester, N.H. — Another key supporter of Republican presidential contender Rudy Giuliani suffered an embarrassment when he admitted the “serious sin” of at one time calling an escort service accused of being a prostitution ring.

Sen. David Vitter (R-La.), who is Giuliani’s most prominent Southern conservative supporter, was implicated when the so-called “D.C. Madam” disclosed that his phone number was found among the telephone records of the escort service, Pamela Martin and Associates, in a period before he was elected to the Senate in 2004.

This was a very serious sin in my past for which I am, of course, completely responsible,” Vitter said in a statement Monday night. “Several years ago, I asked for and received forgiveness from God and my wife in confession ..and marriage counseling.”

Vitter’s implication in a prostitution ring comes just three days after Giuliani’s former state campaign chairman for the crucial primary state of South Carolina was formally arraigned in a federal criminal cocaine-possession indictment.

After a town-hall meeting in New Hampshire yesterday, Giuliani called Vitter’s admission a “personal matter” for Vitter. Giuliani also defended his own record of appointing qualified people as mayor of New York, though he conceded some were disappointments.

That two of Giuliani’s key Southern supporters have become ensnared in prostitution and drug cases could revive concerns about some of his past New York associates, notably Bernard Kerik. He has pleaded guilty to two state corruption charges for accepting free renovation of his apartment.

This story was supplemented with Associated Press reports.

my wife has been seeing our family doctor since a work accident.the doctor reiazed her pain and prescribed her lori-tabs,for 10 months even though the wife sees her monthly.the doctor also made her sign a realease stating if she got addicted,that it releases her.now catch 22 here, the doctor then wrote her another prescription for the same amount of doseage,this has been like 3 months ago,now the doctor is saying the wife is abusing them,but isn,t the doctor suppose to know what and how many prescription she writes out for her patiants.and now she is cutting her off all togather ,which is like cold turkey.does anyone think that this is negelence on her part,and is there or should there be a recourse her.thanks for any information

My husband has been sober for several months, until he hung out with his “friends.” The main “friend” was celebrating his birthday…had HIS wife ask me if I was going to LET my husband hang out with the guys…and not to worry she assured me that they were his friends and wouldnt pressure him…. Well, it wasnt up to me wether of not my husband went…which he did. We talked about the drug and alchol use that would be going on prior to his leaving. He assured me he would be fine…etc…

Well, needless to say, he came home drunk and high. He broke the verbal contract. We have been going to marriage counseling due to his alcoholism and drug use…Marriage counsling seemed to work, as I know my husband didnt want me to leave and take our 2 young daughters with me. So, I dont know what to do now. I have a feeling this will continue to happen every so often…no matter marriage counseling or not. Should I leave him? He had been sober for 2 months…and is more spiritual…

but, I think that he secretely hopes to once again be a user of drugs in the future…and that this soberness is only soposed to last a while..until me his wife “gives in” and enables it too. B/c in the past I too drank but am NOT an alcoholic, and did smoke the weed…it was the way I could relate to him without being mad at him, or a way to hang out. But, I am past that. I am no longer a user, and am no longer going to dumb myself down to those levels!

i’m 16 years old.
my dad used to drink and use drugs for about 40 years.
until recently he started going to aa (alcoholics anonymous).
he has been sober for about 2 1/2 years now.
everything with him is going pretty good..
except that my mom does drugs and drinks too.
every time she starts acting weird, me and my dad assume that she is on something. (it’s kind of obvious)
she used to do meth with my dad, but now that my dad is clean, we think that she is hiding it.
my dad is extremely stressed about this because he doesn’t want to go back, and he doesn’t want to see his wife like this.
he just wants to be happy.
also, my mom doesn’t work,
for about 10 years, she has been saying that she’s going to get a job, but she never does.
my dad is supporting her cigarette habits and is paying her child support. (i don’t know why)
my dad is just about done.
he wants a divorce but is scared that it might just make it worse.
we, my dad and i, both don’t know what to do.
i’m serious, please help.
also, i’m doing very well in school right now and don’t plan on doing drugs or drinking.
another this is that we have told my mom MANY times.
she always runs away from her problems.

also, her parents died when she was 12, so that might have something to do with it.
she doesn’t have much family to live with if my dad was to divorce her.

and i have absolutely no money, seriously.
my dad either.
he can barely pay our rent and the electricity.
i don’t have a job because i work my butt off at school.

Today, my wife’s son would have been 40 years old, if he had lived. He died of a heroin overdose at 26, drug pushers in California convinced him to give it a try, and he suffered for it until he died. She cries on his birthday every year, and suffers from the memory. What do you think we can do to eliminate this horrible menace of our society and stop the killing of innocent children?

we have been married for about 6 years, have 2 girls together and one girl form her previous marriage (husband cheated). i am not perfect but do a lot around the house, never been unemployed, never cheated, no drugs, never go out with the guys, pay all the bills–including her failing business expenses. well 3 years ago after her best freind’s bachelorette party, i am looking for my pocket knife and find a bag of cocaine. thought i was going to pass out… i confronted her and her friend and both said it was the friends and then she turned it around on me saying I was snooping. I have nothing to hide so she can look through all my stuff. well over the years i have found some text msgs about friends who need pills and price quotes and then today i am cleaning out the new SUV i bought and found a straw about 2 or 3 inches long with some residue in it. WTF do i do. she is good with the kids and we get along except for this i don’t want a divorce but feel betrayed.