How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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O.K. my sister has abandoned her family, including 3 kids, and only speaks to my dad because he gives her money. I am certain she is doing drugs. She is not a kid, 35, and used to be just fine; great mom, wife, sister, daughter. I just found out that she stole prescription medication, and money from my parents house. I’m looking for some website or group to show my dad that giving her money and bailing her out of her problems is not helping her, but actually hurting her in the long run. She needs help, but not the help my dad is giving her. Maybe I am wrong, but I truly believe handing money to someone on drugs for “groceries” or what not is not the best idea.

My son used to not drink or drug. when he went to college he started doing a litle here and there. It did catch up with him. Now he is not married no kids and lives his mother and I. He has a job. Works very well. He has been on a Meth. program for 2 years. He has stolen some of my drugs. In the last 7 years i have had to fight 3 types of cancer and problems. Many surgeries etc. He may could walk away after a detox i don’t know. His job may have medical benifits in about another month or two. Idon’t know if the benifit would be drug rehab. My wife and I are stable but have been sinking slowley because of dying mother in law and two grandchildren that we help over 70 percent in there finances. Actually i see no reason for him to quit. Her goes to work and when he gets home he lay’s in bed and watches t.v. He is paying off debts etc. for when he was away from home for a few years. He used to be everybody’s buddy but they all grew up and had families. he does have it made.

We were supposed to get married the end of this month.About 4 months ago he went on a drug binge, lost his job, went to court for possession and now has a warrant for another crime on his record.Everything just went to hell so fast. He has been in 3 rehabs since April & 5 hospitals to detox cause once he is is released he will go right back to using. I have stopped taking his calls I have finally realized that my being in his life is not helping. If he has love & support of me & his family he still messes up, so I figure why should I stay? All he does is lie & manipulate me & his family. We do have a child together & he has been able to stay clean for years at a time. I try not to wonder where he is for his phone calls have stopped I havent talked to him in weeks. I know he is alive. But do you think he just doesn’t want anything to do with me? It’s nothing worse then being rejected by someone who is “normal” but to be rejected by someone who is mentally ill & addicted to drugs can really hurt a girl. Also why do I fear that he may overdose because I pushed him away, or find someone else? I know pulling away is the best for me but why am I so afraid? I am trying to be strong and stand my ground if this is the life he wants then I have accepted that…but the fear wont go away. Anyone else experience this & may know what he is thinking out on the streets? Anyone ever get over someone who is mentally ill and a addict? Will he ever hit rock bottom & realize the loss of his future wife and daughter? Is my abandoneing him the only way for him to wake up? Please help…

My mom is 56 years old. Before all this started she was a happy normal successful woman. She worked tirelessly to help support me, my brother and my sister. She kept a spotless home and drove me out of state every weekend for gymnastics meets. My dad had a pretty tough job and worked long hours so it was mom that did everything for us. Things were great until I got to be about 15. My dad lost his job and started doing hard drugs. They’d always smoked pot but I’m talking about meth and cocaine. First it was a little here and there and then it got to the point they were both addicted to meth. My older sister was already out of the house. Neither of them were working, my dad had several little bullshit jobs here and there but he could never keep one for longer than a few months and whatever money they made went generally right to their drug habit. Eventually I moved out of the house at 17 just to get away. My brother was 14 and too young to do much about it so he got the worst part of it. We were never hungry or abused or neglected. They just did a lot of drugs and things were really crazy, I remember fights that left huge holes in the walls and lots of threatening divorce. Fast forward to now, that was about 8 years ago, they have both calmed down but have turned to prescription drugs instead. My mom is on so much medication for depression, fibromyalgia, she’s on anti-psychotics, you name it, she’s on it. My dad still drinks and takes stuff like Xanax ‘recreationally’ but it’s no longer the party it used to be. Mom is no longer able to care for herself, I really think her mind is just gone from all the drugs and stuff they did before and the pills just pushed her over the edge. She is no longer able to care for herself, my dad says he has had to wake her up and change the sheets and her clothes because she has used the bathroom while in bed. She cannot cook or do chores or even dress herself. I haven’t had a real ‘mom’ for a very, very long time. Today he called and told me he found her wandering outside in the road barefoot. I am 22 starting out with a new family of my own, we have a 2 year old and one on the way. My sister is 33 and has 2 daughters of her own, she is married as well. My brother is 18 and is headed down pretty much the same path our parents went. Dad informed me today that he was tired of caring for her and wanted to move out of state with his mother. He said “she can go live in a home or something.” My sister has nothing to do them, my brother is obviously useless, and I live out of state and am not in a financial position to really do anything. I don’t know what to do. I’m not sure if it’s just the medication she’s on now that is doing this to her or if her mind really is gone. I kind of have come to terms with the fact that I will never have my mom back. But I have to do something, she cannot care for herself, and I really think my dad would just up and leave her. I asked him if she would be able to care for herself and he said he wasn’t worried about that anymore. What can I do? How does rehab work, since she is over 55 does she get any kind of gov’t assistance? How would I even go about starting this process? Please help me. I don’t know what to do and I am scared for my mom. It seems like everyone but me has forgotten that she gave us the best years of her life being a good wife and a good mom and now she is just some crazy lady that is a burden on everyone. I appreciate any advice.
Please understand, her mind is gone. I doubt she even has competent thoughts.

On the Pineapple Express 2 disc DVD, there’s an extra titled “Red & Jessica’s Guide to Marriage.” I want to know who the actress is who plays Jessica? Cause she looks hella familiar to me and it’s driving me mad. And unfortunately, the character isn’t listed on IMDB so I have no clue where else to look. Thank you for any help!
The character of Jessica (Green/Greene) is not in the actual film (original OR extended version), and is just featured in an Extra on the DVD.

Here is a screencap of “Jessica” I made off of the DVD:

http://i44.tinypic.com/2vblqj7.jpg

Amber Heard played Angie in The Pineapple Express, Dale Denton’s high school girlfriend, so she is NOT the actress I am lookng for but thank you.

I’m in drug court in Michigan. I have been sanctioned with a week in jail for producing a false positve urine test from eating bagels that contained poppy seeds. The judge said I had extremely high levels of codene and morphine in my system the day of the false positve. However the following morning I tested clean. The judge will most likely count this as a relapse and I will then have to repeat a whole phase all over again.

I know i did not relapse, my probation officer and my counseler both strongly believe that I did not use any drugs. I am in a bind because in drug court I have given up my rights to seek any counsel. Is there a way for me to legally fix this. I am seriously afraid to eat because I do not want to go back to jail.

I want to know if I can move back to Chicago. I feel that this whole drug court is ruining my life. It is keeping me from succeeding. I have a little over a yr left in college I’m getting a BS in IT/programming, I have 2 kids and a wife. The economy is terrible here in Michigan there are no jobs. I feel like drug court has made my life worse instead of making it better.

I have never missed a drug test, i was only late twice. I have made every AA meeting, and attended every counseling meeting. What should I do?
I also have the reciept of when i bought the bagels which was the night before i tested positive for opium in my system.
ok let me clear a few things… the program is called sobriety court it deals mostly with alcohol misd. offenses. most call it drug court because it’s shorter and there are some cases with people with MIP’s short for minors in possession.

1. the reason I am in SOBRIETY/DRUG court now is because of 2 alcohol related offenses. i blew a .13 BAC and the second offense that lead me to this program was a .09 BAC.

2. i do not use drugs unless prescribed by my doctor.

3. do some research people!!!

4. Please i would like real and intelligent answers. Do not respond to this if you are here clearly to just judge. I was looking for more of a legal loop hole, to seek representation to fight a false positive while in drug court but i can’t
it doesn’t even matter anymore, cuz i squared everything my name is clear. TY for a complete waste of time and showing me that majority of people that formulate answers here speak without a validity, mostly just hot air out of their mouths.

His wife took the kids to another state.
He’s going to the District attorney’s office, but does anyone know if he can request a drug test so that he can go get them?
She might be considered a prescription drug addict, xanax, oxycontin, vicodin etc…

I’ve have been having a bit of a problem with trying to stop shooting up Heroin. I hate the feeling and I’m afraid of getting caught by my family, wife and kids. I’m so not happy with myself and I wanted to try quiting 4 years ago but couldn’t stop. What can I do without going to a rehab place? I don’t want the attention from others and I hate feeling sneeky around my wife. It’s so hurtful. =[

my husband was in rehab for 7 months straight out of prison. he was out only a month and a half until he relapsed last week. he had to stay in jail for 5 days. he told me the reason why he relapsed is because we always fight. we always fight because i don’t trust him. why should i? he’s lied to me numerous times in the past that he quit doing drugs and going to aa/nn meetings when he was still using. he also has a addictio to lying. i think he might be a pathilogical lier because he lies about anything and everything to everyone including his family. we fight alot because i always call him on his lies. he got kicked out of his half way house last week when he told me and his roommate he would be going to jail because his couselor sent his UA to the lab and the results will be coming back positive. his room mate yelled at me, told him he should leave me because my husband blames me for the reason why he does drugs and relapses all the time. i viewed his criminial record online jus now because he said he doesn’t know when he has to go back to court because he’s in drug rehab. this is what it says on the court minute text.

DEFENDANT ADMITTED TO COURT THAT HE RELAPSED AND
SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR HELP WHEN HE HAD ARGUMENT
WITH HIS WIFE. COURT ADVISED DEFENDANT TO CALL
SITC OR SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR ASSISTANCE. COURT
DIRECTED DEFENDANT TO SET UP CRISIS PREVENTION
PLAN, USE IT AND PROTECT HIMSELF WHEN THE SAME

see he blames me for his drug addiction. why can’t the judge and his councelor see that his drug addiction is his fault and not mines. i don’t know what he says about me to them. i had called his councelor 2 weeks ago and left her message saying to test my husband because i think he is using again. of course he died it. he said he wasn’t using at the time and the reason he relapsed is because i told his councelor he was using which he claimed he wasn’t using at that time yet. he tells people i’m crazy and i only say these things because im mad at him. he says i stalk him because i don’t believe him that he’s going to his na/aa meetings which is so not true. i’ve only been to one aa meeting with recently. the other times he says i can’t come because he doesn’t want me to come and we fight about it because i don’t believe he’s actually going because he’s lied about attending them in the past. he’s also been to a meetings before when he was high. if he’s really going i don’t know why he won’t show me his meeting papers anymore. when he first got out he would show me his paper that was signed by the person in charge of the meeting and now he makes some lame excuse he lost them when i found it in his bag when i was looking threw them. i knew he was lying because he said he lost wallet with his meeting paper, debit card and some cash that was in their because he called me from the store and said he was buying dinner. i told him i thought you lost it, he said someone sent it to him in the mail at the half way house. the only address in his wallet is his id from our house. their was no address with his half way house address on it. i can’t believe he blames me and the courts believe everything he says. they blame me too. should i jus divorce him. i don’t know how much i can take of this anymore. he told me the councelors said to get a restrianing order on me because i left a message telling his councelor to test him for drugs. i don’t know why they would say that since he won’t tell me what he told them.

after all this i love him still. we’ve been together for 12 years since i was 15. married for only 3 and our son will be 6 next month. i’m afraid my son wants to be like my husband because’s he’s been misbehaving in school alot and when i ask him why he says he doesn’t want to be good. he wants to be bad. what should i do? i’m avoiding my husbands calls right now.
i also have depression and social anxiety. i’ve always suffered depression but every since my husband started using drugs its gotten worse. i guess he blames me like how i blame his for why i feel sad and isolate myself all the time but its hard when someone you love abuses drugs, lies to you and blames you for the reasons why they do what they do. i can’t believe he would do this. his jus lost his dad in december due to drugs. his real mom and step mom also died from drugs. i don’t know why he is doing this. sometimes i jus want to end my life because i don’t have anyone only my husband, my son, my mom and my brother. i don’t have anyone i can confide in because like i said i have social anxiety. i don’t have any friends to talk to and my therapist can’t see me until june 3rd because he’s booked.

My brother, as well as his wife, are both addicted to heroin. They really need to get themselves treated. I feel sorry for their kids. I have already offered to take care of their daughters if they go through inpatient rehabilitation. I think that would be better for them. They already agreed to getting themselves treated. I just want to help them find the right drug rehab. How will I do this?

My new in laws are addicted to weed total alcaholics and the grandmother abuses prescription meds and sleeping pills while drinking heavily. I married my wife and have a step son now we decided to pull him away totally and have no contact. My wife is suffering separation Anxiety but my son seems to be doing fne. did we do the right thing? should we continue this separation? and also she and my new son lived with these people for 5 the childs whole life. he is 6 years and autistic

well i have two options i either go to rehab for 3-4 months for $27,000 being the only bread-winner in the household while my wife does nothing or i keep working do the outpatient thing and take methadone gradually reducing doses until the opiate addiction is gone. it is destroying my life financially and it’s destroying my life as far as my family goes too. oh and by the way my i have two children a 3 year old and a 4 month old. i know it’s my fault and i feel more guilt over the situation than you could possibly fathom but now it’s time to fix the problem so please don’t respond telling me how awful i am i just need insight on what others might do in my situation so the question is illustrated up above.

if a judge tells her that she thinks she should stay away from her husband

I am interested in others views on this subject. I personally think that these centres have a great plan of action. The flaws are that grouping lots of codependent individuals with each other in a closed ‘big brother’ type environment is creating lots of ‘relationships’ between patients who pair off and enable each other to drink/do drugs again.
I am amazed at how people enter services to do the detox for their husband or wife and kids only to forget them in a few days and start a sexual relationship with another user.
What is your opinion on such services and do you have any better ideas?

Cindy McCain story of drug addiction and illegally obtaining, possessing and using barbiturates (and who knows what all else), we cannot but think of the 2.3 million people in jail in the United States, record numbers that are the highest in the world, most of whose offenses were no more serious than the illegal drug-related acts of Cindy McCain, for which she was not punished at all.
“I had finally tracked down the public records that confirmed Cindy McCain’s addiction and much more, and the McCains knew I was about to get them. Cindy’s tale was released on the day the records were made public.

But the story I was pursuing was not so much about Cindy McCain’s unfortunate addiction. It was much more about her efforts to keep that story from coming to light, and the possible manipulation of the criminal justice system by her husband and his cohorts. The irony is that Cindy’s secret would have stayed secret if John McCain’s heavy-hitting lawyer, John Dowd (of D.C.’s Akin, Gump, Strauss, Hauer & Feld; his most recent claim to fame was serving as co-counsel for fellow partner Vernon Jordan during impeachment) hadn’t heavy-handedly pulled out all the stops to protect the McCain family.”

http://truth-about-mccain.blogspot.com/2008/02/how-cindy-mccain-was-outed-for-drug.html

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I have been lving with an alcoholic & prescription drug user. She is also severly depressed. She has always has to “rescue” others in her life, but she wont rescue her own. She is a very intelligent person, but I can’t live with this any more. We have so many issues between us, home (moving), intimacy, job issues, children. It has been so overwhelming. I caught her in several lies today and totally denied them all. I want and have tried to help, but I can’t rescue her. She has to rescue herself from this addiction. She never follows through with suggestions, always begs me to not leave, yet is trying to “fix”me. We have to move and I dont know if I want to move with her. She keeps telling me that she is worth it, but this has gone on since we got married 9 months ago. I want her to get the help that she needs. My ex wife does not know about this issue and I’m afraid of losing my kids/ I have threatened to leave but havent. She said if we seperate to work on us, we’re done
I did not know that she was like this when we got married. She blames wanting to rescue people since she supposeldy had a tramatic experience when she was young. We knew each other on and off for years before we got together. She has never drank in front of the children when they are here, but now my youngest is living here with us temporarily because of issues at his mom’s home. He doesnt understand because of his disabilities, just when she is “sleeping”. When she is sober, she is wonderful with them.
I do belong to alanon, and they have helped me to understand that I didnt cause it, I cant cure it and that I cant control it. I wouldnt have made it this far without them. I do love her, but I cant live with this.