How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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The last couple years have been a mess for my marriage and my wife. We have been married 8 years and have a almost 6 year old. A few years ago my wife was in car accident and had some back problems. She took pain pills for a while then I thought she had stopped since no longer saw the bottle around. But she had become addict to pain pills and was still taking them but buying them illegally. Things seemed ok but about 6 months ago. I came home from work and she was not home. She disappeared for about 4 months tell I got a call one late night from police that she was in jail. Come to find out that was arrested for prostitution and they believed she was strung out on drugs as well. When she was released we spoke and I got her into a inpatient drug rehab which she should be out of in a couple more weeks. I have been so confused and thus not contacted her much at the center but understand she is doing very well.

I still love her and both daughter and I miss her very much. But do not know where to go from here. Am confused, angry, upset you name it my emotions run the gambit.

Well I do, because I just say an advert with him promoting Heineken!

And (correct me if im wrong) doesnt beer kill more people than all the illegal drugs combined. and (again correct me if im wrong) isn’t beer responsible for half of the violent crimes in our society? and doesnt it ruin families, and make men beat their wives?

And arent most of brad pitts fans 12 year old girls? so wont it be them who is gonna want to buy the products that he promotes? So isnt he liek one of those guys who sells crack outside the school gates!

Dont get me wrong on this im not singling out brad pitt im just using him as an example!

But heres the REAL question here…do yuu think Beer is the worst drug in the world? and whys it legal when…other drugs like heroin and cocaine, drugs that dont do half as much damage as alchol, and drugs that have positive medical benifits are illegal?

thanks for reading
the reason they steal to get money for crack is cuz its illegal….if it was legal it would be just as cheap as beer and crime would half over night!

i have been married to my highschool sweetheart for 3 years now and we have 4 beautiful children together. we are both busy with full-time work and shifting gears in raising our kids. i look after them when she’s at work and vice versa. we have very little time for each other; a half day a week in which we sit on the sofa complaining about how we have no time. i feel completely alone and have turned to taking up to 16 motrin tablets a day just to ease the pain. i seem to have chronic pain that i don’t know if it’s imaginary or not but nothing is enjoyable. my wife has turned to hanging out with her ex boyfriend for the past few weeks after works (he drives her home) and i don’t like it. his name is jose and he is a big man. he says that i am not a fit father and my wife says nothing to defend me. they both laugh at me. i feel like committing sucicide because i just found out he will be staying on our sofa for the next month because he lost his job (his own fault). what do i do???

My husband’s ex-wife is a Christian. At least in the sense that she goes to church and actively believes that I am going to Hell for black hair, tattoos, and witchcraft books. She was really mad about using temporary Halloween hair dye on my step-daughter (Allie). And a few weeks back Allie told her mom about a magic book and she flipped out before finding out the whole truth and went to bad mouthing about me and my husband. It was a magic book about card tricks and Allie can’t even read yet. For a while Allie was scared that we were evil people.

I think that appearances are the only thing that this woman feels that she can hold against us. She overdosed on narcotics a month ago and was sent to a psych hospital. Her face is littered with scars from her heroin use. She never held down a job longer than a week with one exception which lasted maybe two months. She also has a bad attitude problem and curses frequently. Allie sees her rarely and only on her good days.
I also use to be an active Christian and written for my church newsletter. I just felt the need to move on religiously. Morally I am still the same. I don’t like the main curse words starting with f, c, and b. Especially the combination of m and f. I wouldn’t ever let my kids read my personal books or be influenced in that direction. They go preschool in a church and my son is morally and emotionally stable. Allie acts out a lot after being with her mom for any length of time. She has good days and bad days.

Well….between the ages of 13 and 17 i was involved with habitual drug use, i experimented with almost any drug i could get my hands on. i smoked pot on a daily basis. or whenever i could. i did ecstasy several times. cocaine a few times. meth once, acid like two or three times.xnanex, never did crack or heroin. this was a dark part in my life,before my 18th birthday i started to realize what i was doing to myself and stopped hard drug use.shortly after i turned 18 i quit smoking pot, with a few hiccups here and there it was a total turn around i mean it was maybe once or twice a year,the last time i smoked pot was about 5-8 months before i joined the army. now im trying to reenlist for a new job and i need a ts. i have a secret already will this help? have anyone of you been through the interview process? the drug use was Extreme i know but, drugs and alcohol were a normal thing around my family, my teenage years wasn’t the norm but that was a long and difficult time ago. i never got into trouble with the law, i always kept my hed low. i was a troubled teen down the wrong path i changed my life around for the better im a soldier now i have a wife and a baby girl on the way. do they account this stuff? or does it automatically deni me right off the bat. any help would be awesome, and greatly appreciated!!!! thanks again!!

my sister is in a very bad situation. She is dating a drug and alcohol addict and she is now 12 weeks pregnant by him. They are currently living together in their own apartment.

She is at our moms house every other day it seems… she goes there to get away from him because he hits her/throws stuff at her/argues with her for HER money (she works, he doesn’t!).. and all he does is do hard core drugs such as smoking PILLS off of tin foil, cocaine,and he is a known heroin user. Also, he was in prison for 8 years and got out 2 years ago.

He is CRAZY and even SHE knows it and admits it!.. she will text me and tell me everything is ok and then 3 days past and she is back at our moms house crying to her saying she can’t be with him anymore and that he is abusive to her and insane. Also, he is supposed to be taking medication for bi polar and anger management but he refuses to take it anymore.

He has pawned HER belongings such as her tv/xbox/etc for DRUGS and ALCOHOL money… when she gets paid he DEMANDS money (even just a $20 bill) and if she says no and they need to pay bills, he will go nuts on her… 2 days ago he threw a coffee cup with hot coffee in it AT HER all because she wouldn’t give him $20 for DRUGS!

She says she can’t even fathom the idea of sleeping/living without him and that she is so torn.. she says when things/days are good, they are really good, but when they are bad.. they are VERY bad and he becomes VERY dangerous and unpredictable.

she says she is thinking of putting the baby up for adoption, but he told her if she does, he wont sign over his rights/etc… and that if she has an abortion, she said that he will lose it and probably hurt her. (she is too far along for an abortion now.. she isn’t going to do that now)

SO, my main question is.. Is this psycho EVER going to change???? I keep saying he isn’t.. he is NO GOOD.. he is already 36 years old and acts like he’s still 20.

He is very controlling of her.. asks who she is texting or calling when its our MOM, or when she texts ME.. she also told me that he tells her that she has to leave the house and FORCES her to leave by threatening her at times when they are fighting…

I keep telling her she needs to get outta that situation, but she doesn’t listen to anyone.. and im scared for her safety…

These are the kinds of guys who we hear about on the news who kill/stab/shoot/beat up their gf/wife/etc.

any advice?

Oh, she says that when she tells him she is done and she is leaving him… he breaks down and crys and begs her to stay and that he promises he will stop the drugs and that he loves her and doesn’t want to lose her or his kid… she said she has told him she is leaving numerous times and every time he winds up crying and saying a few nice words and she goes right back to him..

Also, this guy has 3 other children by 3 different women and he has no idea where 2 of them are and the oldest one wants NOTHING to do with him (he’s 17) for unknown reasons.
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My sister is in a very bad situation. She is dating a drug and alcohol addict and she is now 12 weeks pregnant by him. They are currently living together in their own apartment.

She is at our moms house every other day it seems… she goes there to get away from him because he hits her/throws stuff at her/argues with her for HER money (she works, he doesn’t!).. and all he does is do hard core drugs such as smoking PILLS off of tin foil, cocaine,and he is a known heroin user. Also, he was in prison for 8 years and got out 2 years ago.

He is CRAZY and even SHE knows it and admits it!.. she will text me and tell me everything is ok and then 3 days past and she is back at our moms house crying to her saying she can’t be with him anymore and that he is abusive to her and insane. Also, he is supposed to be taking medication for bi polar and anger management but he refuses to take it anymore.

He has pawned HER belongings such as her tv/xbox/etc for DRUGS and ALCOHOL money… when she gets paid he DEMANDS money (even just a $20 bill) and if she says no and they need to pay bills, he will go nuts on her… 2 days ago he threw a coffee cup with hot coffee in it AT HER all because she wouldn’t give him $20 for DRUGS!

She says she can’t even fathom the idea of sleeping/living without him and that she is so torn.. she says when things/days are good, they are really good, but when they are bad.. they are VERY bad and he becomes VERY dangerous and unpredictable.

she says she is thinking of putting the baby up for adoption, but he told her if she does, he wont sign over his rights/etc… and that if she has an abortion, she said that he will lose it and probably hurt her. (she is too far along for an abortion now.. she isn’t going to do that now)

SO, my main question is.. Is this psycho EVER going to change???? I keep saying he isn’t.. he is NO GOOD.. he is already 36 years old and acts like he’s still 20.

He is very controlling of her.. asks who she is texting or calling when its our MOM, or when she texts ME.. she also told me that he tells her that she has to leave the house and FORCES her to leave by threatening her at times when they are fighting…

I keep telling her she needs to get outta that situation, but she doesn’t listen to anyone.. and im scared for her safety…

These are the kinds of guys who we hear about on the news who kill/stab/shoot/beat up their gf/wife/etc.

any advice?

Oh, she says that when she tells him she is done and she is leaving him… he breaks down and cries and begs her to stay and that he promises he will stop the drugs and that he loves her and doesn’t want to lose her or his kid… she said she has told him she is leaving numerous times and every time he winds up crying and saying a few nice words and she goes right back to him..

Also, this guy has 3 other children by 3 different women and he has no idea where 2 of them are and the oldest one wants NOTHING to do with him (he’s 17) for unknown reasons.
Also, She has 1 child aready whom is 4 1/2 years old and LIVES with our mother. He was diagnosed with FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) and our mom has custody of him. She doesn’t seem to care.. She says that this time “it will be different” because she is with (dating and living with) the father. Our mom has already told her NUMEROUS times that she CAN NOT take on any more (take in another baby) and that if (which I am SURE she will) winds up alone/homeless/he leaves her high and dry… She CAN NOT come to her (our mom’s) house with another baby.. and that this time she is on her own.

I am a 30 yr old recovering addict and I’ve been struggling with heroin addiction and alcoholism for over 10 yrs now. I was just recently hired at a construction company where there are more than a few drug users and on top of that I ride to work with my mothers boyfriend who is a pot head and he smokes the whole way there. I know for myself it’s a big problem but my wife seems to think it’s ok. It really bothers me but she thinks I should stay there. On the other hand I can work for this other guy for the same hourly wage without the problems. But my wife wants me too stay there I don’t get it am I wrong?

me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have two boys we both have drug problems i left her last year to quit i went back in hopes she would to but she hasnt since then we have had a terriable time seems we fight about every thing and i always have to be the one to swollow my pride and just make changes to make her happy and she does very little and expects me to be excited over it she said she is affraid to let me in her heart again because i left is she just trying to control the situation or what she is still using and said i am tryin to control her by manting her to stop

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I am clean and sober and keep my kids away from her drug use the best I can she said she wants to work it out but wont quit only reason i stay is for my boys

Think about it…

Ever hear the saying, “guns don’t kill people, people kill people?” Well I have, and it’s certainly true. You can’t blame inanimate objects for the actions of others when the actions themselves are what is really to blame. So banning guns merely because they may facilitate the killing of others doesn’t seem valid on its face…

Now parallel that with drug use. Aren’t people who do harm to themselves or kill themselves via drug use really just a victim of their own actions, and not inanimate objects? Even people who kill others (either intentionally or accidentally) while they’re all doped up, well… Aren’t they themselves to blame (i.e., through their actions), rather than the inanimate object (i.e., the drugs)?

So if you agree with the first proposition (guns), you must agree with the second (drugs), right? They’re both freedoms (or ought to be freedoms) that can be exercised insofar as they don’t do harm to others, correct? We jail the man who murdered his wife with a handgun as well as the man who killed a pedestrian while intoxicated just the same…
EDIT: I agree with the notion that the right to bear arms doesn’t imply owning war machines or bazookas, just the same as people should be allowed to use crystal meth (even under the scheme I’m suggesting). Those are sensible limitations… But isn’t my basic proposition still true?
jeeper_peeper321: My argument has nothing to do with the Constitution. It’s about the logical REASONS as to why one may or may not support this position. But yes, the Constitution does specifically grant the right to bear arms, and you’re right, it does not specifically grant the right to take drugs. However, does it specifically grant the right to get a tattoo? Drink alcohol? Own a pet? Get a weird haircut? etc., etc… No, the Constitution does not specifically enumerate these rights, but we are still allowed to do them. Take alcohol for example. Whats so different between that and marijuana? And so forth…

Stanton debates Bill O’Reilly on drugs on the O’Reilly Report on Fox News, April 22, 1997.

I would like one that teaches Dr. Stanton Peele’s Life Process System.
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My wife was prescribed high doses of Hydrocodone over a period of three years, due to multiple back surgeries. Now it seems as the pain management doctors are asking her to just stop her meds and deal with the detox. She is also a heart patient and can’t take normal stress related symtoms as others may be able to endure.

John Lennon cheated on his wife, dumped her and abandoned his 3 year old son ( a time when a small child needs their daddy) for some wacko opportunist to be a full-time heroin addict.
He didn’t talk to, even call his poor son for YEARS! “Imagine”, ditching your 3 year old son and not even talking to, seeing him until he’s 7 or 8 years old! then after that only seeing him a handful of times throughout his life?! That person is a piece of crap in my book. All you need is love?Call people you don’t know and say “I love you” was what jackass Yoko and John suggested, He couldn’t even call someone he knew! Now THAT’S a hypocrite!
Is that the liberal hero? Do as I say, not as I do to the core?
All my accusations about John Lennon come RIGHT FROM THE MOUTH OF JULIAN LENNON AND CYNTHIA LENNON.
Hey, I love John Lennon’s music, but I think to idol worship him is such a sin being as his true character was so lacking and faulted. I think people need to get back to reality, just because someone is a good musician does NOT make them necessarily a good person!
Cherry blossom: what a joke. you think that Julian Lennon is just making this up? His own memories from childhood are false, hah? That’s really amazing.

I helped him once by finding him a job buying him a trailer and vehical so he could work and take care of his wife. He lost his job and then traded the the trailer and car for drugs. He is now homless and blames me for not taking him and his family into my home. They are both alcoholics and heroin addicts. I have a wife and 9yr old daughter so thats not going to happen yet I feel guilty to the point of not being able to sleep. I saw him panhandling at the local grocery store. I went lost my temper and became terribly upset. I feel like putting him out of his misery yet feel sorry to see a family member this way and feel guilty for not helping . he has no self respect this hole situation is driving me crazt How do I deal with him?

ive been married to my wife 14monthes she was having a affair she promised she will never see him again she said if we move our marriage would be perfect i beleived her weve been there 3 weeks and shes been pilled up out of her mind 24 hours so i checked her cell phone and thers text messagesfrom i guy saying he loves her and buys her 100 per day on pills and she tells me shes not having a afair shes constaly texting someone so i cant hear and she claims she did nothing wrong

My family is planning an intervention on my older brother who is 31. He went through a traumatic divorce 2 years ago after admitting that he was having multiple one-night stands. They separated initially and were going to try to work it out but she filed for the divorce. Since then—-my family has watched him spiral out of control. He is a high school teacher and track coach—and he and his ex-wife belong to the same mutual circle of friends/associates and this group that meets weekly. He hadn’t taken a vacation/break of any sort since their divorce. We first started noticing his hygiene neglecting. He goes days without showering sometimes and stopped getting his hair cut. He also doesn’t brush his teeth. He loss a lot of weight about 6 months ago even though he’s always had a small frame. And he goes through bouts of binge eating, then not eating for days. He’ll cover his non-eating up by saying he’s fasting. Recently, his behavior has started to become irrational. He’ll sometimes be sullen, moody then after disappearing to the bathroom or outside—he’ll come back in chipper/talkative with blood shot eyes. I thought he was just smoking weed but it has to be more. He also makes grandiose plans and lofty financial promises that he never backs up. He had been borrowing money from all of us for the last two years, yet he makes MORE than all of us combined. We are worried, but because we never caught him in the act (smoking a crack pipe or snorting) we have been in denial. We have talked to him numerous times before about his appearance and personality changes but he brushes it off. He is also isolated from any real friends. All of his old mutual friends sided with his wife after the divorce making him an outcast—yet he still surrounds himself around them daily.

I desperately need advice. Due to personal reasons, I was forced to move into a friend’s house in PA. Her son got out of jail and moved in, and we continually find the evidence of his and his wife’s heroin use (aka burnt spoons, empty capsules, etc). How can we get him arrested without getting arrested ourselves? He’s currently on probation in MD for the jail time (armed robbery) and supposedly has a letter from his PO saying he can be in PA. When we tell him to get out, he just breaks in anyway. We don’t know what to do. Please help us!!

Why do alcoholic think it dosn’t hurt anyone but them when so many people care about them? My ex became an alcoholic also and he lost respect from many friends and does nothing but stay home with his wife and drink, get loud and make a fool of himself….don’t they know what they are doing to those who love them?

we have three daughters together and our youngest is 4 years old. I’ve been clean for about 8 years and I haven’t really looked back on it, Heroin is good stuff and I’m not saying Im immune to it because I can easily fall back into that old habit but I choose not to for my kids. I never told my kids about my drug problems ever, I was planning on telling them when they were a little older. We haven’t gotten into an argument like that in front of the kids since we divorced 3 years ago, she said something and I said some things that weren’t exactly nice and she said really loudly “I liked you better when you were shooting up heroin, now you can’t blame your stupid decisions on being “high” I left as soon as she said that and when I went to pick my daughters up from school my oldest asked me if I did drugs when I was younger and I told her I did and I dropped it. In reality I wasn’t that young, I was 27 and she was 7 years old when I stopped. I’m suprised she didn’t remember her mom and I getting into it when I came home at 5 in the morning high out of my mind. I haven’t really explained to her the full details do you think i should? I kind of have to , she’s getting to that age where drugs are the “cool” thing to do and I don’t want her to go down the same road I did. what should I say, oh yeah I did drugs for 4 years straight and I only stopped because your mom threatened to never let me see you and your sister if i kept doing it?