I am out of work. I can’t hold a job. Don’t ask me why. I try to work hard. I am on time. I don’t do drugs. I can’t get out of this marriage if I wanted to. She is the breadwinner!

I NEED HELP!
She never wants me to cook for her. I have tried to give her food. She doesn’t want it. She says she will maker her own food.

When I do do chores she does not acknowledge them. I get silence. But when she does them she acknowledges how hard she works.
Even now she is calmly and respectfully talking to our child about her work situations. Yet she does not with me. She says I yell. Well I guess I do. But she yells too.

Benitez’s 2-year-old daughter and his wife were in the car with him at the time of his arrest.

In addition to drunken driving, Benitez was issued tickets for recklessdriving, careless driving, failing to provide a child-safety seat whenrequired, failing to keep right, possessing an open alcoholic beveragein a motor vehicle, DWI with a minor in the motor vehicle, failing toexhibit motor vehicle documents and slow speed impeding traffic.

Benitez’s blood-alcohol content level was 0.11 percent, or 0.03 percent above the state’s legal limit, police said.

A suspected illegal immigrant, Benitez was lodged in Cumberland CountyJail without bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

http://www.nj.com/cumberland/index.ssf/2010/06/bridgeton_police_blotter_inclu_132.html

And another illegal arrested…….Moises Mejia, 24, of North Laurel Street, was arrested Saturday nighton West Broad Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated afterpolice found the car he was driving to be blocking the entrance to theRiverfront parking lot.
Mejia apparently fell asleep at the wheel of the idling car.

In addition to drunken driving, he was issued tickets for driving whileunlicensed, reckless driving and refusing to submit to blood-alcoholcontent testing.
A suspected illegal immigrant, Mejia was lodged in the county jailwithout bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

“I’ve been to the pub,” slurs the drunk.

“Well,” says the cop, “it looks like you’ve had quite a few.”

“I shurrre did” the drunk says with a smile.

“Did you know,” says the cop, standing straight and folding his arms, “that a few junctions back, your wife fell out of your car?”

“Thank God for that” said the drunk. “For a minute there, I thought I was deaf”

I am a shy, quiet, easy-going “people-pleaser” and I really try to avoid conflict if possible. My wife is a fighter and a yeller. She has 2 emotions…happy and mad, and the switch can flip to angry in an instant. I’ve actually seen her get sad and cry a few times, but it takes A LOT for her to break down like that. She has this “tough as nails” attitude…it’s totally a front, and underneath it all, I know she’s scared and insecure. I hate saying this about the woman I’m supposed to be in love with, but it’s true.

This woman flies off the handle about every little thing. The house is a little messy? She’s probably going to yell. The kids are stressing her out? Yep, more yelling. Any time she feels stressed, her natural reaction is to yell. I guess that’s true for most people, but a lot of people know how to control their emotions and “cool off” before they explode. Lately, she’s been pretty good about apologizing after she rips me a new one for no reason. But the apologies are getting old quick…I keep telling her that I don’t just want an apology…I want her to NOT YELL at me in the future.

I hate being yelled at…I generally tuck my tail between my legs and back into a corner when people start ripping into me…and if it continues, then I feel the need to defend myself and retaliate. This doesn’t work with my wife, though. If I DARE say anything to defend myself, the situation turns into a very heated, very messy argument that I really have NO CHANCE of winning. She gets irrational at that point and begins just furiously yelling about every little thing, just trying to find reasons to be mad at me. She doesn’t even make sense most of the time. Even if my points are totally valid, it doesn’t matter. She will not ever let me win an argument, which is another reason I try to avoid them in the first place. I really don’t even bother fighting back anymore.

I’ve talked to my close friends, my family, and we’ve even been to counseling. Everyone seems to tell me the same thing…”you’re a good guy, you’re easy to get along with, she’s just mentally unstable and she doesn’t realize what she has”….I’ve heard it over and over again over the last 7 years (before we were married, she wasn’t always like this). It makes her furious when I talk to other people about this, because she feels like I’m just talking crap about her behind her back and making her look bad. That’s not really the case, though. I just want advice from other people, and I want help from my friends and family.

She makes a lot of excuses about why she’s mad. She’s going to school to get her Master’s degree, so she’s under a lot of stress. She’s a teacher and her workday ends about 2 hours before mine every day, so that’s 2 more hours she has to spend with our kids, which causes her to be in a terrible mood. Should those reasons be an excuse for her to yell all the time? I don’t believe so.

I watch the kids every Monday and Wednesday night, while she attends class. I feed them, bathe them, make their lunches, etc, etc. I don’t start yelling at her when she walks in the door, and I don’t ask her to help me with a single thing. I am not the lazy husband who sits around drinking beer and watching sports all night and all weekend. I scrub bathrooms, vacuum/sweep/mop floors, do laundry, clean messes, do most of the yardwork, etc, etc. I would love to be lazy and not do all of these chores all the time, but it’s easier to just do them instead of listening to her yell about it later. I also get yelled at if I ever want to go out with friends, which only happens maybe once every 3-4 months. She will usually give me the silent treatment before I go out, and then when I get home she will start the actual fight. Sometimes I just lie to my friends and tell them I have other plans, because it’s easier than dealing with the argument. So this woman basically controls my life, and my only option seems to be LEAVING, which I don’t want to do.

I want our family to stay together, but I really am at the point where I can’t stand this woman. I sleep on the couch almost every night, and when she asks why I didn’t come to bed, I lie and tell her I “fell asleep watching TV”….when in reality I planned to sleep on the couch all along. I feel very uncomfortable and stiff when she hugs and/or kisses me…I really don’t have any urge to connect with her in a sexual way…I’m just not attracted to her anymore. She’s a very pretty woman, but her attitude makes her ugly to me. I come home every night and the only thing I look forward to is seeing m

“No sir,” replies Ole, “I had no idea I was speeding.”

Suddenly, Lena blurts out, “Yeah you did Ole! You were speeding and you knew it the whole time!”

“Would you be quiet Lena, this isn’t the time or the place!”

“Well, you were speeding and now you’re trying to lie about it,” says Lena.

Ole replies, “Will you just shut up for once, I’m sick of you bossing me around!”

The officer, still standing at the window of the car is surprised at the way Ole is talking to his wife. He asks, “Ma’am, does your husband always talk to you like this?”

“No,” she replies, “only when he’s been drinking.”

http://www.thatwasfunny.com/why-england-will-never-win-soccer-world-cup/733

Check that out, it is really funny

The driver says, “WOW, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating.”

Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: “Now don’t be silly dear, you know that this car doesn’t have cruise control.”

As the officer writes out the ticket, the driver looks over at his wife and growls, “Can’t you please be quiet for once?”

The wife smiles demurely and says, “You should be thankful your radar detector went off when it did.”

As the officer makes out the second ticket
for the illegal radar detector unit, the man glowers at his wife and says through clenched teeth, “Woman, can’t you just sit there with your mouth zipped?”

The officer frowns and says, “And I notice that you’re not wearing your seat belt, sir.That’s an automatic $75 fine.”

The driver says, “Yes, well, you see officer, I had it on, but took it off when you pulled me over so that I could get my license out of my back pocket.”

The wife says, “Now, dear, you know very well that you didn’t have your seat belt on. You never wear your seat belt when you’re driving.”

And as the police officer is writing out the third ticket the driver turns to his wife and barks, “WOULD YOU PLEASE STOP TALKING??”

The officer looks over at the woman and asks, “Does your husband always talk to you this way, Ma’am?”

AND FOR THE GRAND FINALE!!!

The wife says, “Only when he’s been drinking.”

If you would allow him to call for a ride, then whats the difference between Obama, and your family, friends, your wife’s father, your wife’s father’s mother, your wife’s father’s mothers friend, your wife’s father’s mothers friends father, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughter, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughters pet rat?

Arana said his client, who has since pleaded guilty to the DWI charge, had been living in Austin with his wife and two children and working in construction.

His client, he said, is not a criminal.

“These are tough cases because there are families involved,” Arana said.

“The only difference is he was born on one side and we were born on the other side,” he said.

http://www.statesman.com/news/local/federal-judge-questions-immigration-prosecutions-216667.html

Alvarado-Barojas had a blood alcohol level of at least .393, about five times the legal limit, when he ran a red light on Hampden Avenue and hit Barben on the morning of September 14, 2009.

Paul A. Barben, Barbara Barben’s widower, said there would be no forgiveness.

“My grandchildren have had their grandmother taken from them. My sons had their mother taken from them,” Barben said. “And I lost my best friend.”

“The vision that I go through daily is knowing that my wife’s last moments on Earth were spent in anguish and in the indignity of being ground into the gutter by Mr. Barojas,” Barben said.

Christopher Barben, the victim’s son, called Alvarado-Barojas “an uninvited guest in my country” who “seems to have a flagrant disregard for the law.”

Another one of Barbara Barben’s sons told the judge that Alvarado-Barojas is a “thief.”

“He stole the soul of my family,” Paul Barben said. “He also stole a plethora of memories not yet made, memories that will never be made.”

Barojas, through his attorney, asked for a sentence of probation and spoke briefly through an interpreter.

“This was an accident,” Alvarado-Barojas said, directing his comments at the Barben family. “I ask for your pardon.”

Judge Shelley Gilman said Alvarado-Barojas was not taking responsibility for his actions. She noted that he had the highest blood alcohol level she’d seen in her 12 years on the bench.

A 9Wants To Know investigation reveals a warrant for Alvarado-Barojas’ arrest on a previous DUI charge was prematurely dismissed, eliminating an opportunity for authorities to arrest and potentially deport him a year before the crash that killed Barben.

The 18th Judicial District, Colorado’s largest by population, including Arapahoe, Douglas, Elbert and Lincoln Counties, accidentally purged hundreds of unresolved misdemeanor cases years before they were due to be reviewed for dismissal.

In each case, a suspect had a warrant for failure to appear in court.

Alvarado-Barojas’ original case was dismissed and his warrant cancelled along with 1,109 similar cases in 2007.

9Wants To Know has determined one in four of those cases, 285 cases including Alvarado-Barojas’, were not eligible for dismissal under rules established by the 18th Judicial District and District Attorney Carol Chambers.

Denver Police recorded contact with Alvarado-Barojas in 2008. DPD spokesman Sonny Jackson said no information exists as to the nature of the contact, only that Alvarado-Barojas’ name did not bring up any active warrants and he was not cited or charged with a crime.

http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=133672&catid=339

Are illegals guilty of ripping families apart ? Violation of human rights ? Do all the rights illegal aliens, supporters , La Raza and Mexico demand apply to Americans as well when an illegal rips a family apart ?

what should i do ?
i haven’t had any yet but i wont be driving.

“Well,” says the cop, “it looks like you’ve had quite a few.”

“I did alright,” the drunk says with a smile.

“Did you know,” says the cop, standing straight and folding his arms, “that a few intersections back, your wife fell out of your car?”

“Oh, thank heavens,” sighs the drunk. “For a minute there, I thought I’d gone deaf.”

He was driving home on Memorial Day with his wife, Dawn and their son, when a car slammed into them.

He says he did not see the other driver, only a shadow, because he was attending to his injured wife.

Prosecutors say that driver was Jorge Dominguez. Dominguez is an illegal immigrant with a criminal record. According to a criminal complaint, he told investigators he’d had 8 drinks on the day of the crash and had taken cocaine recently.

Glogovsky’s testimony was part of a preliminary hearing to determine if enough evidence exists to send Dominguez to trial. Prosecutors have more witnesses to call so the hearing will be continued later this month.

“We were thrown into the ditch all the way on the other side and probably 20-30 feet into the ditch,” he told a judge. The crash killed Dawn and injured Frank and their son.

http://www.620wtmj.com/news/local/96512089.html

Your opinion illegal driving drunk & has criminal record family’s life is forever changed do our families count in this debate ?

Police in Charlotte arrested and charged Jovany Morales with driving while impaired and felony death by vehicle in 2004. Frank ‘Buddy’ Cline III was driving to work in Charlotte on Feb. 22, 2004 when police say Morales was drunk and drove across center, hitting and killing Cline III.

Morales, who Immigration Customs Enforcement officials say is an illegal immigrant, posted bond in 2004 but never appeared in court. Authorities hadn’t seen Morales until last week, when Charlotte-Mecklenburg County police arrested him on assault charges.
Morales appeared in Mecklenburg County court Thursday to face his 2004 charges and his bond was raised from $18,000 to $200,000.

Angela Cline, Frank Cline’s wife, appeared in court Thursday to face Morales for the first time since the accident happened.

“I would love to have five minutes with him, just to ask him how he felt about it.” Cline said.

The district attorney told the judge that Morales was a flight risk, that ICE officials had a hold on Morales and that if Morales posted bond, he would be deported. Cline said she had asked the judge to raise Morales’ bond so that she had a better chance of seeing justice for her husband’s death.

“I just told him we have waited for six years, that I had to raise my kids without a father now and that my little girl was never able to lay eyes on her father and just asked that him not to put us in a situation to have to wait six more years and take the chance of him bonding out and fleeing again.” Cline said.

The district attorney says Morales had assumed the alias Carlos Lopez Estrada when officers arrested him last week.http://www.myfox8.com/news/wghp-dwi-suspect-bond-raised-100610,0,2157009.story

I recently learned that my EX-wife was caught driving drunk with my kids in the car. My Ex-wife and I don’t have the best of relationships, shes always trying to find ways to hold the children from me so I can’t visit them. The latest reason they can’t come over and visit is because my oldest son (10) has been doing bad in school and not doing his home work. She told him that he wouldn’t be able to come over to my house until he gets better grades in school and does his home work..
The last time she with held the kids I owned her a few months back child support. The time before that she didn’t like my new girl friend. The time before that I was living alone and she didn’t like me having a babysitter for them,, and the list going on.. I’m feeling like my kids are a pawn in the little games she likes to play.

The recent DWI scares me,, I learned through a friend that she got the Felony DWI with my kids in the car, she was with her boy friend and he also has been convected of multiple DUIs and doesn’t have a drivers license.
Why wasn’t I informed about this, I don’t even know how my kids were turned home or with who. My ex-wifes boyfriend does not have any custody rights to my children. I’m in awe that this has happened and I can’t find any answers to my questions.
I’ve been thinking about taking her back to court for not letting me see the kids but it’s so expensive I just can’t afford it… So she keeps getting away with it and holds it over my and my kids head that she can refuse me to see the kids when I know she can’t.
Does anyone have any answers that relate to my situation??

Mike R
I love my kids and have two girls other than my two boys that are with me. I love my children, and is why I’m even asking this tough question.
lillllbi.
I already tried CPS when I found out they were both using METH,, CPS went to their house and didn’t do anything,, In fact they came back on me and we were all drug tested for six months,, They cleaned up their act once that happened, and once again when she found out I called CPS she refused me to see the kids again!
I have to think this though clearly. I don’t want any other problems with her. I’d rather just show up in court some how and tell the story.
I’m sure my oldest son could talk for himself,, he’s (10) and my youngest is (7). They both say they’d rather live with me..