How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

In many countries, especially in Europe, drunk driving is a serious crime with very harsh pentalties. In the United States, over 40,000 people die each year in traffic crashes. Alchohol is a factor in tens of thousands of those crashes, yet drunk drivers get very light sentences. My wife and I were almost killed by a hit and run drunk driver and he only got 18 months of work release.

Okay for a little more info….they have driven drunk with them in the car often. It scares my children endlessly, but they are afraid to say anything to them because when they are drunk they are belligerent. I have told my children to call me if they are afraid to get in the car with them or if they cannot get ahold of one of us, then to call 911. My ex is a detective and thinks he is above the law. I am definitely going to address the issue but do not want my kids to feel afraid the next time they go over there or get them in trouble for confiding in me. I just wish I could never let them over there again.

My wife is always willing to drive me to the tavern. Should I invite her in and buy her a beer?

I am driving through the following states:
New York
Pennsylvania
Ohio
Illinois
Indiana
Michigan
Illinois
Indiana
Iowa
Nebraska
Colorado
Wyoming
Utah
Nevada
California
My wife is 20 and I am 24, can my wife drink in any of the following states while I am with her.

She an alcohlolic been in several treatment just underwent cancer treatment but is clear . She now uses as an excuse to drink drive my child around she is extremely dangerous an can be quiet eratic. Any clear answers would help already tryed confronting her.

was it covered up