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A lawyer for the third, Victor Arana, said his client, Angel Hernandez-Garcia, was arrested on Halloween on a charge of driving while intoxicated.

Arana said his client, who has since pleaded guilty to the DWI charge, had been living in Austin with his wife and two children and working in construction.

His client, he said, is not a criminal.

“These are tough cases because there are families involved,” Arana said.

“The only difference is he was born on one side and we were born on the other side,” he said.

http://www.statesman.com/news/local/federal-judge-questions-immigration-prosecutions-216667.html

We have not been “intimate” since than. It’s always something, why she can’t or wont. I am trying to be understanding and patient, I do love and care about my wife but I am very tempted to hook up, “sex only” no strings attached, with a female in my same situation. I feel rejected, and hurt, and I just miss the human touch…what to do?
and yes I have tried talking to her about it, she just gets angry….

Everybody does it right? A few beers, You dont think your ability to drive will be hindered…I am representing a husband whose whole family, 4 little girls and his pregnant wife…killed by someone who just had a couple of beers….Do you drink and drive?
the drunk driver says only had two beers very quickly on way home after work, bartender only served 2 beers, tested just over legal limit…went over center line, drivers behind him said he had been weaving…no cell phone involved
Yes I am an attorney, and yes I have drank a couple of drinks at a lunch, or at a dinner and driven home..thinking 1 or 2 drinks, I can drive ok…what lesson is that for my kids…I can say I will never do it again, nor will my husband, never….

Just wondering how much people cared about theirs wives opinions

the video takes place at night and he holds her in his arms while she passes. she may live im not sure

She is serving a 10 year sentence. We have a son in which I am the step-father, he is ten years old, and the biological father is now wanting to get full custody. I reside in NC and he in PA. I have been the true father figure for our son since he was four years old. I love him as much as a biological son but now that his mother is in prison for the next 10 years, will I be able to get full custody?

She is 46 years old.She has two arrests for DUI.The third one will be a felony and have jail time.She has a commercial drivers license she needs for her good city job.She will lose her job, her license,her house and her husband.Yet she just continues to party party party drive drunk when ever she feels like it.

I feel like I’m stuck in one of those bad lifetime network movies.

Hey , I’m not perfect, far from it but I never have had a DUI.My job does not require me to stay licensed.

We both have our own vehicles in our own names, so I can’t just take her car away from her.We make about the same amount of money so its not like I have any control.

I cant do a intervention, as there are not enough family and friends in state anymore.

What can I do? Can’t beat her with a stick.That rule of thumb is no good anymore.Should I leave?

How can I make it clear to her that this is unacceptable?I’m looking for people who have resolved this problem and/or legal advice.

Can I force her to get a Psych evaluation?

Would it be a DWI? Losing your job because you showed up hammered? Your wife and only child leaving you?

Would any of those have impact on you, or would you continue to drink?
When I say “alcoholic”, I am describing someone who drinks a 40 ounce daily – and has such a high tolerance that they do not feel the effects until they have had 3 or 4.
Nes – If you don’t know by now, your boyfriend will never change. Please believe me when I tell you this.

My wife is has been treated for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from childhood issues and a prior abusive marriage. She is also on medications for bipolar disease.

We had an excellent marriage, except when it comes to her alcohol consumption. She is not a daily drinker by any means. She may go a few weeks without any alcohol, or may just have moderate alcohol when we go to restaurants and socialize. However, every few months she will have a very excessive amount of alcohol.

When she drinks to excess, she may, at the milder end, become flirty or excessively loud or boisterous. A bit more, and she may become inappropriate (e.g. frank sexual discussions with teens). At the higher end, her mother and I have had to drag her semi-consciously out of a bar and pour her into a car. She becomes belligerent; has picked fights with me or with strangers, demanded a divorce (then denies it or claims a blackout in the morning), has been in bed with another woman, necking with an old flame during a 30th year reunion, attempted suicidal gestures that ended in an inpatient mental hospitalization, told me she was in love with another man (then denied it when sober), told me she desired another man sexually (then denies it when sober), lied, fought with me over alcohol, etc. There’s just too many episodes to name them all.

It’s not a daily occurrence, but I’m not sure I can take these periodic crises every few months. She has been under the care of a psychologist and psychiatrist (who work together); she supposedly is better. However, she still tells me half-truths about her drinking and violates our agreements (given her actions and betrayals, we have agreed that her drinking would be minimal, and under my guidance in order for me to feel comfortable about it).

I think she loves alcohol more than me. Given the hurt she has caused me, I think she should WANT to just give up alcohol; if drinking causes her to act hurtfully, I would think she wouldn’t want to ever touch it again. However, she argues with me about this, insists she can control it, and says she wants to have a “normal” life with “normal” drinking.

Given her prior actions, am I being unreasonable to ask her to stop alcohol altogether? Even though she doesn’t drink daily, or even weekly, does her binge drinking and problem drinking mean she is an alcoholic?

He’s a binge drinker. I finally told him I was leaving him, and then he decided to seek treatment. I’m having a very hard time, since we are living together (in separate rooms); I am so angry at him for doing this to us. I’ve given him the summer to prove that he’s going to stop drinking. I don’t know when I should “forgive” him, and be the supportive wife. He says he can do it, with my help, but I feel too angry to support him right now. Is this a bad thing? We’ve been together 9 years, married for 3.

Can drinking too much wine or alcohol every day cause a female to miss regular monthly periods. My wife is 44yrs old.

As if the chlorine in drinking water wasn’t bad enough, now we’ve learned about drugs found in drinking water too. What else are we going to have to worry about?

The news reports and public health officials assure us that these drug traces are not health hazards. Yes, it is true; you don’t see people dying from those traces, but you also don’t see people dying from chlorine in drinking water. What’s worrying is the long-term effect that these chemicals have on cells in the body.

Natural health advocates have always maintained that chemical pollutants in our environment cause obesity, cancer, and various chronic health problems. Many of these chemicals act like hormones in the body, interfering with natural hormone production and increasing the risk of certain types of cancer.

One of the drugs found in drinking water is estradiol, a form of estrogen. It gets into the water supply through birth control pills. When women take them, some of the hormones are not metabolized by the body and pass through as waste. So, these hormones enter the sewage system and end up in wastewater treatment facilities where no steps are taken to remove it.

Environmentalists have been concerned about estrogen and other contaminants for many years, because of the effect it has on fish and wildlife. They argue that fish mutations in the Chesapeake Bay and the Mississippi River delta are caused by contaminants.

Regular people are often uninformed about today’s environmental issues; newspapers rarely publish environmental stories on the front page. But drugs found in drinking water make headlines all over the country. In one interview, an Italian researcher talked about the combined effect of chlorine in drinking water and drugs found in drinking water. Chemicals like these interact, increasing the toxicity of each. His wife was pregnant at the time of the interview. He said that they had agreed that she should only drink purified water, at least until after the baby was born.

In some of the studies that he had conducted, the combination of prescription medications caused interesting changes in cell cultures. They inhibited the growth of healthy cells and increased the growth of cancer cells.

Because of the chlorine in drinking water, we already have an increased cancer risk. This has been proven in a number of different studies. People that are not exposed to chlorination have a lower incidence of bladder and colorectal cancer. Luckily, we can protect ourselves from these risks. A home purification system is the solution.

Not all systems will remove the drugs found in drinking water. A dual stage system that specializes in chemical reduction is the most effective. Any carbon filter will remove the chlorine in drinking water, but other steps are needed to ensure your safety. Buy a system that thoroughly cleans your tap water. It’s worth it.

I like to drink whenever I can. My wife says that I probably have a drinking problem. It’s kind of depressing I must say. So in order to deal with this depression I have been trying to drink lots of booze. So far it is working alright. My wife is definitely a lot happier that’s for sure. But occasionally the alcohol wears off so I’m wondering exactly how much should I drink to get over this depression while still somewhat functioning?

He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him out anymore which lasted for 1 week only and after that they keep calling him out.
I just dont understand why he has to go out and drink with his friends. I have tried to stop him by blackmailing him to choose which he wants.. his wife or alcohol.. but still after few days he is back to drinking.
Can someone tell me some trick that i can use on him.

Typically I will have to drink a 6-pack or so for my voice to be deep the following morning. It usually remains deep at least until lunch time or so the following day. Although typically soft-spoken, some say I sound like Barry White. Anyway to keep that deep voice? My wife likes it!

I can go weeks if not months without drinking. Then I pick up, I have a good family, wife and kids but for some reason I relapse. I am tired of this. I am not upset or depressed about anything I just pick up. Anyone out there have a suggestion.
Thanks Dean

I drink just a little bit. I am a social, light weight drinker. Not a heavy weight. Just enough to make it merrier.
What kinds of drinks???? Maragaritas, wines, beers, etc.
For right now, I drink bud light or Miller lite or Natural light in a glass with ice cubes. Thanks guys

I’m originally from asia but currently live in the US and met the love of my life. I swear this girl and I were made for each other and have so much love for each other. We both want to get married but…I would like to raise my kids to be non drinkers (and she agreed to that but i expect her to not drink, at least at home or in front of them) and would like the possibility of either moving overseas or possibly even to another state, but she is completely refusing to even entertain the ideas. Will I ever move? I don’t really know, i just want to know that she would be ok with it.

All i really want to do is know that my future wife or wife when she is is willing to do whatever it takes and is willing to do anything for her husband and family, is that too much to ask? I must point that she is very close to her family, as i am close to mine but that is a big reason why she would not want to move, naturally.

Any and all thoughts are most welcome, thanks in advance.

I am a recovering alcoholic almost 2 years sober. I have been married for 15 yrs. I have never been physically abusive. I have been verbaly abusive and did not realize the extent of the damage that I caused my wife. I have always been a good provider but to my recolection looking back on it not much of a husband. I was self centered and took her for granted. She is a wonderful caring woman who stuck it out all those years. I learn now due to our two children. We are both educated middle income family. I put myself in rehab 2 years ago and have not drank since. She said I was like the man she always wanted me to be when I got out. After awhile I wasn’t drinking so I slacked on aa and the steps. I regressed back to my alcoholic personality. “a dry drunk” I did not realize this and she had gotten to the point of holding all her feelings inside. She loves me but she is not in love with me. She resents me to the point of hatred. I love her dearly and am dead inside for doing this to her. Is it possible for her to ever get these feelings back again? After this revelation I have put in place all the things that I need to continue for my further recovery. I have given her all the love,caring,understanding and patients that I possibly can. I am a good husband now. I am affrade it is to little to late. She wants to sepperate and does not think she can get her feelings back for me again. What can I do to help her with out pushing her further away? Please help!
My real question is weather or not it is possible for my wife to recover and heal to the point of learning from this experience and putting this behind us. I love her with all my heart. I dont want to make mistakes to further push her away.
We have started counseling 3 wks ago

I did it, I packed my crap and moved in with some frineds. For details on that, go to my past questions in my profile about my wife drinking in bars with other guys. She did text me that night from the bar and said she would be home at 1130. She didn’t invite me and didn’t call. When I called her and told her come home she said no. When i told her I am you husband and dont like you drinking in bars with other guys she said she wasn’t doing anything. So I said I am going to leave you. With that, I hung up the phone and packed my crap and left. I didn’t hear from her til the next day and she was begging me to come TALK about it. We have been talking about it 2 months and nothing has changed. I ignored all atemps to talk to her. She showed up at my work crying and telling me lets work it out she don’t want to loose me. I told her if she wants me back she is NEVER to go out drinking in bars with guys I dont know again. If she didn’t aggree to my terms, I want a DIVORCE!
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