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She swore she wouldn’t get fat after marriage, but here we are, a year later and she’s tankin-up. I think she just trapped me to let herself go on an eatin’ binge.

My husband went away on a 3 week long drinking binge overseas, leaving his wife and one year old child at home. Affair is highly suspected, but impossible to prove in court.

My wife and I met in High School and “dated” for 8 years before getting married, and have been married 13 years.We have 2 kids in elementary school. We are both under 40 years old. My wife stayed home through the birth of our kids and then shortly after my second child, she decided to go back to school for her Masters degree, I helped out in every way I could while she went to school, I worked nights and took care of the kids during the day. This strained our relationship severely, but it was already not healthy. I feel my wife could be a “rageaholic” (she comes from an alcoholic family, as do I) and I had been dealing with alcoholism myself which seemed to get worse. Until now, I quit drinking 1 1/2 mos. ago. I don’t think I ever really “loved” my wife, and I think we’re in denial about WHY we married and whether or not we’re even in love. She said we should stay together “for the kids”, but I think this is not the best way. I hope someone has some insight or a story to share.
Schwinn…no girlfriend
Infritsk…I never said I was looking for another relationship
Janetrmi….My wife is religious, I am not
Sandie….What about her anger….that is still there, and she has made no apparent effort to resolve this issue
Paul M…What you say is basically what the book, Too Good to leave, Too bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum states, and I read the book cover to cover.
We have tried counseling several times and she never likes the therapists, I think she doesnt like hearing what they have to say.
In addition to all I’ve said already, I also do not get the feeling she really cares about me, unless she has a vested interest in the situation.

Robert F Kennedy Jnr files for divorce
Robert F Kennedy Jr had filed for divorce from his wife three days before she was arrested for drink driving, it has emerged.

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My wife told me she loved me on monday and on the following Monday wanted a divorce. she went out that saturday and came home at 5 am after she told me she was too drunk to drive

I try to accept her reasons , sometimes I’m close , then I seem to drift back trough all the hurt and dissapointment all over again. She says she truly loves me but because of my alcoholism she cant trust me and needs to have her own security. I pray to God for forgivness for us both, but I still have some resentment that is tearing at my faith …any advice would be appreciated.

and marry a rich step-ford wife who gets rich by selling the only legal drug that kills more family’s by mangling them in car wrecks as in drunk driving?
and do you think this is the most retarded question ever?

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my wife and I have been married close to 2 years. No kids together. No property together. Shortly after we got married, my wife started to drink too much and lasped into alcoholism. She went to rehab and goes to AA meetings. She has fallen off the wagon once. As if the wife’s alcoholism wasn’t bad enough for a new marriage to endure, my wife is financially irresponsible. She was self employed when we met and because of the economy had to get a regular job. But that has been hard to find and basically she barely makes enough to cover her own expenses let alone contribute to the community. I took her off my credit card because she runs up too much debt. Her car payment is way to high for somebody who earns so little but she wont sell it and get something else because she is upside down. Bottom line, I would have to pay for another car for her. No thanks. I have told her that if she cant make the payments and the bank is close to repossessing it ( its not in my name, like I said we have NOTHING JOINT), I won’t give her the money to make the payments. When we met she had gone belly up on her credit cards and just lost her house. I had some debt but she really racked it up until I cut up the cards. On principal, I think that both spouses should suppport the community goals and debts. Its not like when she stayed at home she was a perfect homemaker. That has true value. No, my wife did nothing around the house when she did not work. She would cook some though. Bottom line, I am frustrated. We see both joint and individual counselors but I am struggling with how long I give her to shape up before I file for divorce. The trust issue is gone because she lied to me so many times relative to her drinking and I don’t feel “safe” with her in the financial department. I feel like I will always struggle with her financially because of her irresponsibility. If something happened to my paycheck we would be screwed because she cant pick up the slack. Sometimes I think we are on the same financial page but ultimately she ends up not budgeting properly and i have to cover things like nail jobs and getting her hair done. Not to mention I pay for her gas to go to and from work which is a long distance from our home but it was the only job that she could get. And frequently she is out of spending money for food, etc., so I pump her up when I can. I know I am better off WITHOUT HER FINANCIALLY than with her. I believe ultimately her irresponsibility will be intolerable, actually it is now, and I am struggling with how much more I have to take. I was considering telling her in our joint therapy that I am giving 6 months time and then I will revaluate my happiness and security in the relationship and if its just not there then I am done. If anybody has any suggestions, I would appreciate some advise. Thanks.
no i dont live in san antonio. west coast. i have been to one al-anon meeting only to conclude that those poor people look like they have been dragged by horses because of their alcoholic. I don’t want to be that for sure. The sixth month goal is more about me being happy in the relationship. U cant change a person with addictions only they can.

we did get back together about a year after the divorce but we were not re-married. She started drink again after receiving help for her alcoholism and I left her after being together for 5 years. Her dad paid for about a couple of months the bills and rent on our house. Her dad reminded her of that today. I believe I left for a good reason. My ex and I have talked and agreed about getting back together and taking it slow and easy. So how should I talk to her dad because I think at the time my ex and I were pretty immature and now since we are older we both agree that we have made mistakes and are mature. Hope this all makes sense and any replies will be helpful. Thank you.

I am in the military and deployed. My wife told me she wanted a divorce a few weeks ago. While deployed I can’t do anything about it but I would like to know if the mistakes I made before marriage and my child was born will effect the outcome of child custody.

I just toldmy wife I wanted a divorce. We’ve been together for 20 years but her nasty attitude and her alcoholism have taken their toll on me. When I told her she began to cry and get upset. (unusual for someon who is usually a domineering, nagging b****. I know I want to go and I am. but I feel a bit guilty about it and her being alone. I have thought this out for years and I know it’s what best for me. But I feel a little bit as if I’m the bad guy. Any advice? Thanks

My wife who I met in college is becoming increasingly religious as I am becoming increasingly non-religious. We have two young sons and she wants to take them to religious activities.

Anyway, for the most part, many other aspects of our marriage are reasonably successful, but for the first time in 15 some-odd years I’ve started thinking of divorce and it’s largely the religion issue.

I pay for everything, she stays at home. I am a person who has risen above family alcoholism, extended family drug use, put myself through college, I work to protect the environment, and I actively support human rights … i.e., I have a REAL “morality” system that doesn’t depend on men with beards in skies.

The problem is I don’t want my kids taught by people that are going to teach them their father is a “sinner”, that he is “going to hell”, and that he is a “bad person” … this area is very religious and they definitely do this.

The religion battle doesn’t appear to be reconcilable.

Divorce or no?
Responder wrote: “If you are a faithful husband and a good father, why would your kids believe you are a sinner and a bad person????”

Look around you … people are stupid, including children. People believe what they are told and the bigger the lie the more likely they are to believe it.

40% of the country still believes Saddam was behind 9/11 …

… 130 million people still believe something to be true that isn’t even close to true simply because authority figures told them to believe it was true.

my wife is an alcoholic and doesn’t see that she is – so we’ve grown apart and don’t have much of a relationship now. Our son is now grown up and out of the house. If you have any experience with getting or trying to get a divorce in this situation I’d like your advice. My wife and I each have our own careers.

Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller sign divorce agreement
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller have started divorce proceedings by signing a 41-page agreement, which details the settlement of their split.

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For example, divorce rates have risen dramatically in the last fifty or sixty years. Fifty or sixty years ago, society seemed to run far more smoothly than it does now. Kids were respectful of their elders, they weren’t out getting really drunk or having sex with everything that breathes (of course, there must have been SOME, but mostly not, whereas now kids mostly are)!

In Britain now, women make up the largest number of binge-drinkers. Do you think this is down to the feminist mind-set that women should be equal to men and that they should be doing what men do?

I have also read in many places and heard from many men that Britain and the USA produces the worst wives – they do not feel that house-work or taking care of children is their job and strive to be “career women” all the time. They also want to be dominant and do not feel that they have to take care of or “spoil” their husbands, yet they expect that kind of treatment in return. This is apparently also why many older, British men who have been divorced (or even divorce their wives) for Asian brides or Russian brides.

Do you think this could be true? What are your thoughts?

Charlie Sheen – Charlie Sheen To Divorce
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller have started divorce proceedings.The couple – whose two-year union has been in trouble since the actor was arrested on Christmas…

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Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller’s Divorce Proceedings
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller have started divorce proceedings. The couple, whose two-year union has been in trouble since the actor was arrested on Christmas Day, December 25, after allegedly assaulting Brooke – have signed a 41-page agreement, which details the settlement of their split including custody of their 15-month-old twin sons, Bob and Max. While they [...]

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Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller start divorce proceedings
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller have started divorce proceedings, signing a 41-page agreement, which details the settlement of their split including custody of their 15-month-old twin sons, Bob and Max

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Sheen, Mueller to divorce
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller have started proceedings to end their troubled marriage.

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