How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I met my wife in 2006 summer. She asked me for my number. She called me for 3 weeks before I returned her call because I thought she was not serious (she is now 25 and I am now 39). We had sex the first night we spent together. She then started telling me how she felt that I was the best man she had ever met(even though she has 4 kids from her 1st marriage). I told her since she was married I cuoldnt have a relationship with her, so 2 months later she filed for divocre. She showed me the papers to prove to me that she was serious and i made me feel good at the time so i gave her a chance. The first 5 months went smoothly then, she started becoming dominant, bossy, controlling, verbally abusive,etc..when I paid all the bills took her and her 4 kids in, work 13 hour shift in the emergency room, come home to her every night etc… Then we married 1-11-2008. 1 month later she cheated on me with 2 men at different times. She spend all her money on clothes etc before she pays her bills. She gets little sleep, parties all night, hangs with her girlfiends who are not doing anything productive with themselves, etc. We have changed residences 4 times because she was bored staying there. I finally bought a 5 bedroom ranch home in a very good area. 3 months later she pawned her 2500$ wedding ring for a 150$ to put a deposit down on a apt in a run-down neighborhood(drugs crimes etc). She got back on the telephone chat line meeting men. She met one guy the next day she had sex with him by the way, she has cheated on me 8 time during our marriage. Now i need advice on if i should stand by my wife because of her disorder or get away and why/how without losing my sanity? She is very manipulative(says one thing does another). Very sexy and she uses her sex appeal to get men intrested in her until she feels that she s got them. I had several confrontations with various men concerning her, they feel like she is playing them too but im married to her. How do i get my self esteem up to face being away from her. Is she ill or playing games?
She was perscibed Haldol Lexipro Seroquel and Depakote 2 years ago but refuses to take them or seek treatment. I think that she is getting worse as far as her impulsiveness. She can barely take care of her bills so she talks to men on the chat-line to get money (looking for the bigger,better,deal) but there is not many men who would take in her and 4 kids just for sex(thats all she is bringing to the table). Thats why she keeps on rotating men in her life(i feel sorry and ashamed for her). She says that she wants to better herself but she never follows through. Its her habitual-ritual you cant belive anything she says.
How do I stop worrying about her? Its tearing me up on the inside. I feel like im in the MATRIX!!!(THERE IS NO SPOON…)I fell in love with a hoodrat but I know that there is good in her. She has been through alot and she seems to be scarred. But it seems to me that she blames others and myself for her shortcommings. I feel that one of the men she is involved with will physically hurt her and i wont be there to protect her.

My wife was just recently diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, also known as manic depression. We are taking it one day at a time and just trying to keep communicating. She told me last night about what she used to do in her manic episodes and that she goes in weeks or even months of binge drinking, partying, and promiscuous relations with men. I’m ok with this I married her for a reason and that reason is my undying love for her. I just am afraid for her and our relationship if she was to do this again. I mean what if she goes and does something she wouldn’t do normally that would hurt me very much? Or someone decides they want to take advantage of her in here manic state and hurt her?

I don’t know what to do or say I want to be there for her and I want to know how to react to this and handle the whole thing…

Please help and Thank you.
Oh by the way I don’t mind the partying and the drinking as long as its not too sever but being permiscuous that I cannot handle. I lover her very much and I will not give up but if she was to do that to me I wouldn’t be able to look at her the same anymore….

away from the area she lives in to another part of the country? Usually my in-laws leave for Arizona in Septermber but this year they stayed in the area because my wife’s diagosis of breast cancer. They left in November.

Her aunt and uncle left too for Texas, and only her brother remained in the area but he works full time. It was easier for me when my in-laws were around because my wife would talk with her mom and dad. They would come by and keep her company and they would go out to breakfast together.

I felt ok to go to work and then they would leave when I got off work or stick around and we would talk together. I know they are retired and earned their right to travel. But I felt deserted when they left, I felt a huge burden upon my shoulders. Nobody would be there for my wife to take her to the hospital if she needed to go. She never did but the thought of her being alone scared me.

They left after my wife had her mastectomy and her mom helped empty her drain. When the left she started 12 weeks of Taxol and I did not know how those treatments would go for her, I was scared and feared the worse.

My wife now is on her last week of radiaiton. It is hell for her. She is taking two Percocet for pain (when she had her mastectomy she only took one and she hates to take pain pills). Yesterday she told me she wishes her mom was here. I told her they will be here in about a month. They don’t call to see how she is doing. I feel like they don’t care. If it were my child I would not leave the area until the doctors said she was through it. Am I wrong to feel like she has been abandoned?

It hurt me a lot to hear her say she wishes her mom was here because she is not and there is nothing I could do to make her be here. I have felt like calling them and asking them to hurry home their daughter needs them, but I am afraid to.

What would you do?