How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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I am ready to live I have a wife and two girls and I am going to detox off of percoset 30 ..I have been snorting 4 a day I have gone to get help with a counselor for the mental part ,but will be detoxing at home…please help with any important info .my wife will be helping me …and please leave the un-needed opinions to yourself this is hard enough as it is…thank you

My new in laws are addicted to weed total alcaholics and the grandmother abuses prescription meds and sleeping pills while drinking heavily. I married my wife and have a step son now we decided to pull him away totally and have no contact. My wife is suffering separation Anxiety but my son seems to be doing fne. did we do the right thing? should we continue this separation? and also she and my new son lived with these people for 5 the childs whole life. he is 6 years and autistic

I’ve made it clear to my friend that I won’t drink with him, or hang out with him while he’s drinking, or hang out with him at bars. I think that providing him somebody to hang out with where he knows there will be no drinking is a good thing. A mutual friend of ours insists that I should cut off all ties, as the alcoholic friend needs to focus on his wife and child and not losing his job. He submits that hanging out with him only distracts him from the severity of his situation. What’s the right course of action?

I have a wife that’s a real pain in the ass at times. More often than not actually. When she’s really bad, I drink myself into oblivion and her whining doesn’t seem as bad anymore. I don’t mind going on these little binges at times, it actually seems to strengthen our relationship.

**Also, all you “communication is key” people do NOT answer, thanks. Been there, and done that for years. Maybe she’s just a bitch…?

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Well I am 22 years old in college, and in the past 3 years or so my mother has developed into a really bad alcoholic. It has progressed from regular drinking, to every night, then every afternoon to night, and eventually to all day, every night for about half of a week. She lives alone with my dad, who works all day then comes home to her being wasted out of her mind every day. Obviously I feel horrible for my father, and I would like to know how people deal with this stuff. My dad is a very non-confrontational person and pushed her a little bit to stop, but she got absolutely furious when he asked her to stop. So after that he layed off of her because of things he had read, and he is basically just standing by hoping she will check into rehab sometime soon. She has been toying with the idea for the last 3 months or so, but always backs out. It seems to me, there is no way she is going to commit with the idea of rehab. I know everyone says you aren’t supposed to push alcoholics into quitting, but my father is just so non-confrontational I am really wondering if that is best. My dad obviously has to love her, because she has just been terrible to him. He goes to work, pays all the bills and goes shopping for food…all the while she is just sitting at home drinking. She has tried to quit on her own and made it about half a day until she got very sick. So what to do? Push her into rehab? Or just let the alcoholism take it’s course and hope she goes into rehab soon?
She thinks she is dying, and she might be right. She has bruises all over, the few hours of the week she is half sober, I can tell her liver is causing excruiciating pain. She has really hit rock bottom in my opinion, and I don’t think she will live 5 more years if she doesn’t quit soon.

My husband is a sober alcoholic now. I married and lived with the active alcoholic in him for 13 years. I’m still married to him now 15 years. Do you think a book about my life dealing with his problem would sell books or do you think there are enough books out there about the disease and nobody would care about how the wife of an alcoholic dealt with it.

I am writing a two person, one act play on the subject of a man leaving his wife after her recovery (from alcoholism). He is leaving because the recovery portion has been more difficult than life before recovery. I want to make sure that each of my characters are viewed in a good light. No one, as in real life, is at fault here…. Just two people trying to repair themselves.

Please, understand that I know this is a very difficult subject to deal with. (I have been researching for almost a week and it hurts me to know that people go through this.) My production company prides itself in presenting realistic presentations that both teach and allow people to learn. This subject is heavy, BUT, I KNOW it’s one that will get people talking and learning. Maybe even help someone.

If you don’t wish to tell me your story here, PLEASE, feel free to email me privately at tympany@excite.com. I promise I WILL NOT contact you, unless you allow me to. Thanks…

I have found that what upsets me the most about my wife’s behavior is not the behavior itself but her unwillingness to be honest with herself or her husband(me). It causes lack of trust and lack of confidence in our future together. She claims I judge her about her behavior but no, I am upset about her fickleness and dishonesty. After six years of this crap, she still wonders why I get angry about it and want to leave her.
She has been through treatment time and time again. Why does everyone assume she hasn’t?

ok this is just to much for me, let me start.. with i love my wife but i am so at my end of my rope.
my wife is an alcoholic.. she just got another dwi… and is now voulentary in 30 treatment..
this is her 5th dwi since i have known her.. her last one was 8 years ago…
k now… she knows shes a alcoholic. she wants to stop i go to alonon for support i would love for her to get well but i know i cant expect her to be cured just like that and i have been down this road to many times … this is the first time she has been in in pataint.. i know she suffers from some sort of depression and that is being addresed.. in treatment..
her drinkiing is ruining the relationship emotionally and financially we dont have kids but have been together 20 plus years.. i want to support her but i cant take care of her or be responsible for her anymore so it all just sucks
i know alot of folks are in simaler situation i dont know what to do
i cant trust her and thats not good , she has no job and no real skills and now no license or car… the road ahead would be along one i just dont know if i can do this anymore.. i need a life too
thank you all for you support and simaler stories and advice i hope the suggestions here help others as well in dealing with simaler problems i welcome and appreciate your comments and concerns and compassion greatly thank you
kev

I am almost 29 years old and I have been dealing with my mother who is mentally ill and psychologically abusive. She always yells at me, she is cruel, she is crazy jealous when I talk to my aunt thinking she is taking over as my mom. And all my life my family used me as a scape goat and never believed the treatment i recieved until recently. they told me my mom says bad things about me and they believed her because she is nice when she is well they say. That hurts :( My mother used to sexually abuse me as a child and when I grew up she knew she copuldnt get away with it any more and would verbally sexually harass me and now she stopped that a cpl yrs ago when I told her I wouldn’t tolerate it. Unfortunately my family will not hear about the sexual abuse, they choose not to believe me. The relationship between my mother and I is back and forth. My mom treats me terribly, then she will call me back all normal and try and offer me things. If I don’t accept gifts from her she says I am threatening her when i refuse to take her money, gifts etc. My family is of no help they don’t do anything and often take her side. Only recently after 28 years now they tell me I may be right about her because she isn starting to target them now. They have always had bad experienced with her illness so I don’t know why it took so long for them to realise how she is. But they all treat me like crap still to this day, they always have excuses for everything and have used me as a scape goat since childhood, blaming me for everything. My mom is like a bad crack addiction, I want to quit but I keep going back for more so to speak. I feel because she is my mother I should stick through this, but the abuse is very bad and she tends to act alot worse towards me when no family is around to witness it. any advice on what to do. My mother is causing too much stress for me and she knows I need money right now so she constantly tried to give me money but there is a price to pay. I refused this time and she is angry and says I threatened her when I only told her I want to fend for my self. My mom never paid for my education only hers at 50 lol. She will give me money for a huge big screen tv that would cost the same ammount of money tuition for college would cost, yet she refused to fund school. My mother wants me to rely and depend on her in a sick way. She doesn’t want to see me get ahead in life, she always competes with me it’s sickning. She can’t handle it when I get better jobs etc because she can’t due to her illness. I just feel so guilty to leave her and I don’t know how. When my ex girlfriend and I were together my mom seemed jealous in asick way she even constantly followed her into the shower always talking about her looks, boobs etc. and one time she tried to jump into bed with my g/f and i and she asked for a 3sum gross!. It was embarassing and sick!. she tried to say she was joking and she got angry when i told her off because she gets mad when she knows she did wrong or feels guilty. But everyone in my family says I am bad etc. and I have not done anything. Please help!. If I ditch my mother i will have nobody just my one friend and my dog. My wife left recently as well due to everything.
problem is my mom never voluntarily goes to the Mental Institution when sick. She either has to be forced by police or she ends up there on her own, some times beaten with blk eyes etc, it’s heart breaking to see your 50 y/o mother like this but theres not much I can do and the family always takes off when she’s ill. My mother constatly discharges her self from the hospital and there is no law to prevent her from doing so. She discharged her self two weeks ago and she is still very ill. I can’t take her to any dr’s she will freak out on me.

“Dear woman,” the voice of Grandmother Growth seems to float in the deepening twilight, echoing, reverberating, ringing in the ears. “Bring me your pain. Bring me your pain. Bring your pain to me. Bring your burdens. Bring all that you can no longer bear, can no longer bear, can no longer carry, can no longer bear, can no longer be responsible for. Give it to me. Put it on. Let us pass in council together and listen to the stories your pain tells. Menopause is a journey that requires you to travel light. Heavy things – bitterness, regret, vengeance, clinging to pain – will make your tiring journey you down. Take only the stories. Leave the rest behind. Burning pain in your hot flashes. Let it leave you. This is change. Let it change you, dear wife, let it change you. ”

Step 0: Do nothing

Dealing with fibromyalgia, women have less pain if they sleep in a dark room. If not possible, wear a sleep mask.

Step 1: Collect Information

Disorder in chronic pain I have called “all the ills on” when I wrote this article ten years ago, is now big news. Ninety percent of the 4 million Americans with this debilitating, frustrating condition – known as fibromyalgia – are white women, and many of them are postmenopausal.

Neither the cause nor cure for fibromyalgia is known. This is not a disease but a set of symptoms characterized by chronic widespread pain on both sides of the body, above and below the waist. (As one of my apprentices, said: “But I am not wrong in all these places at once. The pain moves. I never know where it will be next.”) Some women have a low fever in addition to pain. More than half of those who suffer from fibromyalgia also headaches, endometriosis, and / or irritable bowel syndrome.
The symptoms of fibromyalgia are quite variable, making diagnosis difficult. (Orthodox diagnosis is based on research of pain in trigger points). Fibromyalgia mimics aspects of multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, arthritis, hepatitis C, hypothyroidism, lupus, polymyalgia rheumatica, and early dementia. Many women with fibromyalgia, it is said, their distress is “all in your mind.”

It is not in your mind (alone). Menopause can leave the impression that you were beaten. Muscles respond to hormonal changes and feeling painful mood. Loss of sleep can make you pain. (Non-restorative sleep is a hallmark of fibromyalgia.) Lack of calcium (and other minerals) can make your bones pain. Whether you are facing these challenges, or the greater problem of fibromyalgia, why not give Wise Woman Ways a try? The remedies mentioned here have been remarkably successful in helping many women.

“People with fibromyalgia are not only sensitive to pain, but also find noises, strong smells, and aversion to light.” – Daniel Clauw, MD, director: chronic pain and fatigue Research Center, Georgetown University

Step 2: Engage the Energy

* Having a support group is one of the most important factors keeping fibromyalgia under control.
* Homeopathic Arnica is an amazing remedy for sore throat and muscle aches. Daily use of homeopathic Rhus Toxicodendron reduced pain by 25 percent in those with fibromyalgia.
* Make a list of things you have angina (anger, angry) about. Where do these things live in your body? With the help of an expert bodywork, loosen the scene. Women with fibromyalgia are very likely to be survivors of trauma (sexual assault or domestic violence, alcoholism).
* Return to your Mother. Floating in the ocean. Lie belly down on the earth. Naked. Let yourself ease. Let it heal you.
* Listen to a relaxation tape. Ask someone to show you how to do the yoga position called the “Corpse Pose”. Learn to put yourself in a deep state of mind calm and peaceful.
* Hypnotherapy can help you acquire a certain degree of mental control over their symptoms. Behavior of cognitive therapy is also useful.

Step 3: Nourish and Tonify

* The use of feed infusions, especially comfrey leaf and stinging nettle, instead of coffee, tea, soft drinks and is the only thing I know to effectively mitigate and overcome fibromyalgia.
* Gentle exercise – walking, yoga or tai chi practices – keeps muscles from weakening and increasingly painful. Experts suggest starting with as little as three minutes a day, and the gradual establishment of at least four sessions of five minutes each per day. Still, the reward is worth it.
* Regular consumption of yogurt also proves very useful for those who have fibromyalgia. Perhaps it is because yogurt to enhance the ability to feed and immunity, some suspect fibromyalgia is the result of a malfunction of the immune system.
* Magnesium is an essential nutrient for preventing pain in muscles and connective tissues. Legumes, whole grains, vegetables and feed the infusions – like nettle and Oatstraw – are the best sources.
* Moxibustion is also known as acupuncture without needles. Safe and easy to do at home by yourself, moxibustion gives fast relief from sore joints and aching muscles. It not only relieves pain but strengthens, the decrease in the future pain and gradually make a “cure”. You can buy a moxa “cigar” at a pharmacy or health food Oriental. Bring the glowing end of the moxa (after lighting it) near the painful area and move in small slow spirals until the heat becomes too intense. (This May take several minutes or more). Pain relief is usually immediate and often lasts for twelve hours or more.

Step 4: Stimulate / sedation

* Tinctures of willow bark or spirea (1-2 dropperfuls/1-2 ml is a dose) is strongly recommended that the green allies by women dealing with fibromyalgia.
* St. Joan’s wort tincture – not capsules, not the tea – is a powerful ally for women with fibromyalgia. He is one of the best muscle relaxants I have ever used. A 25-30 drop dose not only stops but also prevents muscle aches. I have used it as often as every twenty minutes (ten doses) when the occasion necessitated. St. Joan’s wort prevents pain when taken after exercise, and even better if taken before. I take a dose every hour while on an airplane to prevent muscle aches and jetlag.
* Regular massage from an experienced therapist stimulates the circulation of blood and energy, relieves pain, reduces fatigue and promotes rigidity. Avoid deep tissue massage, it increases the pain. The light and mild strokes Myofascial Release are most useful. Chiropractic manipulations are of little benefit.
* Massage with heated stones and other heat treatments work wonders for some women. For others, the treatments work better in cold (but not too cold, and not for too long, either, please).
* Ginger compresses, hot or cold, movement and encourage the mobilization of the body healing agents to act and to relieve your pain. I grate several ounces of fresh ginger into simmering water and cook gently for ten minutes, then soak a cloth in the liquid and use it as an application to the painful area.
* The National Institute of Health lists fibromyalgia as one of the few conditions that acupuncture can relieve.
* If an act of lying down to sleep the pain, slip into something relaxing: valerian, skullcap, or St. Joan’s wort tinctures, drops to a 1 ml of one, twice if necessary .

Step 5: Use Supplements

* A study has shown little interest from those who have fibromyalgia is taken SAM-e or 5-HTP (5-hydroxytryptophan – a precursor of serotonin). Do not use 5-HTP if you are taking St. Joan’s / John’s wort.
* Lack of sleep can rapidly aggravate the symptoms of fibromyalgia. (See Step 0.) Confused If you sleep, melatonin at bedtime, the lowest dose you can get help in May.

Step 5b: drug use

* Oil of lavender was recommended by several women who have dealt with fibromyalgia for many years. Dilute with olive oil or jojoba and use as a rub.
* Orthodox treatment of fibromyalgia relies heavily on drugs, primarily antispasmodics, antidepressants and muscle relaxants. But Celebrex, Vioxx, Valteran, amitriptyline (Elavil), fluoxetine (Prozac), vanlafaxine (Effecor), trazadone (Desyrel), alprazolam (Xanax) and cyclobenzaprine (Flexeril) can affect the liver and disrupt the system immune.
* Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs such as ibuprofen do not reduce fibromyalgia pain for most women.
* Tramadol (Ultram) is a drug that addresses both the modification of brain chemicals and the signals from the pain of those who have fibromyalgia.

Step 6: Break and Enter

* Beware of invasive diagnostic tests. Many women say sustainable endless series of tests to put a name to their pain, without success and at the cost of physical, mental and moral.
* The injection of lidocaine, a drug that temporarily numbs nerves, are effective in relieving fibromyalgia pain for some women. Injections of capsaicin (cayenne) relieve pain by destroying nerve endings.

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