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My son has been married for 8 years and has 2 children with his wife. Their marriage has been horrible from the beginning and they have both cheated on the other. They’ve had child protective services involved in their lives twice because of drugs and abuse by the mother. My daughter in law is currently cheating again and my son found out recently that ist been going on for a while now. She currently stays out all night on the weekends lying about where she’s been. My son worked Sunday and she dropped the kids off with a friend all day and tried to say she was with a friend but was caught in her lie. She’s a stay at home “mom” if you want to call her that, although she doesn’t even wash my sons clothes or goes to the grocery store, my son does it. She’s very abusive to the children and has even threaten to kill them. My son has filed for divorce twice but she ended up talking him into staying both times. He tried to kick her out last summer but that failed also. I’m so worried about this situation because of the children and the violence. I have no doubt the woman has somekind of mental problem because I’ve never in my life met anyone like her and she is so much like Casey Anthony the woman who is being charged with murder that I’m afraid something terrible is going to happen if my son leaves her. The whole thing is a big mess but something needs to be done. My son said the kids are better off with him than their own mother, that tells me things are worse then we know. My grand daughter is careful about what she tells me because her mother has told her I will call child protective services and she will be taken away again. My grand daughter has lived with us 2 twice when CPS was involved but now this has become very stressful for my husband and the kids are hard on his nerves sometimes so I don’t know what to do. I can’t bare the thought of the kids going to foster care. My son could press charges on her for abuse but he won’t. I guess he thinks he’s not a man if he does, so instead he just hits her back, which now she has filed charges on him from laSt year which are still pending. So I’m not sure if the court would give him custody or not and she has no job, does not want a job and is abusive to the kids and does drugs and stays out all night. What am I to do, it’s awful and I’m so worried.
I didn’t mean I agree with the way my son has acted. I mentioned he has hit her so NO I don’t hate her and NO I don’t think she is only to blame, I said he cheated too. If I felt everything was her fault I would have not even mentioned him hitting her or cheating also. I chose the title lying cheating daugther in law to draw attention to my question which seems to have worked. Wow people I needed advice for a very sensitive serious situation, some of you are very rude.

About 5 years ago I met the man of my dreams 1 year later we married. He has 3 children and I have 2. One year after we married his youngest daughter decided that she wnted to live with us, everything was good for abou two months then i caught her smoking,doing drugs,drinking and having sex.. Now mind you that she was only 13 at the time. When I told my husband what was going on he asked her about it and she told him that I am a liar and I never caught her doing those things. And of course she is daddys little girl so he sided with her and told me that I need to quit attacking her with these accusations. I found her diary and showed it to him and in it she admits doing all these things and it also said how she was gonna make it miserable for me and my children so I would leave. And all he had to say was that she is only saying these things to make her feel cool in front of her friends. Now my husband is not a stupid man until it comes to her.
I asked him if she could start helping out a little around the house and maybe do dishes once a week and his response was that she is too young for responsibilities. My children who are 6 & 8 have chores. I dont think that I am asking to much for to do dishes.
Now she is about to be 16 and for the last 3 years I have had no say so in anything at all. She doesnt even have to tell me that she is leaving the house or where she is going. She doesnt even have to speak to me in my own home. And if I do try to ask her she tells me that I am only her dads wife. But I am the one who cooks, cleans,takes them to all the drs. appts.,buys her stuff but I am no one when it concerns what she is doing. but, that is bull because when she ends up pregnant or with an STD I am the one stuck taking care of it. I have tried to be the friend and I have also tried ignoring what she is doing but I can not take it anymore and I do not know what to do. If I tell her father that I want her move back with her mother he has already stated that he is not going to pick between me and his daughter. Where do I go from here?

My husband was previously married to a woman who had a daughter. He helped raise her for the 5 years they were together until she left him, moved out of state (from CA to WA) and remarried only days after their divorce was finalized. Shortly after her second marriage, she sent her daughter to live with the biological father who, previous to that, was a complete dead-beat dad. It wasn’t long before things didn’t work out with the bio-father and this poor little girl (who was around 8 or 9 when this all started) has since been ping-ponged back and forth between her mother, father and grandparents…mostly living with her grandparents.

In the course of all this, my husband lost touch with his “ex step-daughter”. He never adopted her, but her last name was changed to be the same as his and she always called him dad until she became a teenager. My husband has complete full custody his two sons whom he fathered with his ex-wife.

Well, the other day, my husband received a call from an old friend who told him that she was going to see Anna (the girl) and possibly bring her home to live with her because her mom (the ex-wife) refused to do anything about an alleged rape that happened to her daughter a month ago. She said that everyone is ticked off at the ex and when they went to pick Anna up, their living place looked like they were squatting in an abandoned house and the mother was completely strung out and had the daughter hooked and doped up on pills. They took Anna and offered to take her mother if she agreed to let them help her with the drug problem, but she refused.

Apparently everyone believed that my husband was Anna’s father and kept calling him to ask what he wanted them to do. THat’s when my hubby told them that he never adopted her and doesn’t actually have any custody over her.

So now my hubby is thinking about taking her in. We have four kids together and a very small apartment so it’s not really the most ideal situation, but considering the alternative, is this somehting YOU would do?? Please advise.

My boyfriend, who also happens to be the biological father of my oldest daughter, is going through a nasty divorce. Right after his ex left we started seeing each other. We have been ever since, it’s been almost 16 months. He still hasn’t got divorced because the ex is trying to get back with him, and keep contesting it over and over. Also he has been very back and forth on whether or not he wanted to give her another chance, so he didn’t really “rush” this divorce along. He was very naieve about the whole process.
It’s hard to put this all into a short lil composed story, but basically she moved 1 state over months and months ago and he’s been making the trip there so that she can see her daughter, even a couple of times towards the end he let his daughter stay the night with her.
All was well, until last weekend she called to say she was driving to town and staying in a hotel and wanted to see their daughter. My bf told her he didnt want their daughter staying in a hotel so she could have her the next day. He proceeded to drop her off with her in the morning, when time came to pick her up, the ex didnt respond to any calls or txts. We later learned she fled to another state with her and he could do nothing about it until he recieved a temporary custody paper.
Ok so onto my problem now… she still has the child and is telling him that I will never be allowed to be around his daughter, which is also mind you, my daughter’s sister. We will be getting her back once he gets paperwork, but when they have divorce court in a few months I’m wondering if she can try and break us up by not allowing the child around me. Obviously she has to have grounds for this, which are the following: I have been arrested, but before I was ever dating him, or around his child, and everything but 1 thing was dropped in court, which was resisting arrest, which I spent 8hrs in an anger mgmt class and 36 days house arrest for. Also before we were dating, or I was ever living with his child I tried to kill myself and spent 30 days in the hospital, 5 of which were in a mental facility, where i was cleared to go home.
Should I be worried? I have been raising his lil girl for over a year bc her own mom has barely been around. Now all the sudden she wants to keep her from me bc I was mad and txtd her that her daughter will know all about her mom one day. She feels that she is going to use my past against me.

Ok now onto her past:
While she was pregnant she smoked pot and took pills to get high, they drug tested the baby when she was born and she came up positive.
During their marriage she cheated on him with almost every single one of his friends, inlcuding his roommate while he was in the other room.
She has done every drug imaginable even after the baby was born, including smoking crack, and meth.
She would have family members come over to watch the baby every single day so that she can go meet up with random men and get drugs.
After she left him she started stripping at a local strip club.
She has repeatedily threatened to kill herself if he doesnt take her back.

Please, I welcome any and all responses. I want to know LEGAL stuff more so than opionions. Thank you in advance.
I am not a threat to her in anyway what so ever, but can she use my past against me? My past is in no way abusive or involving children.

Also, she is trying to claim that I am still suicidal, and that I am on drugs. Can she even bring this up in court or will they just realize she is a jealous ex-wife?

So my ex-wife and my 18-year-old daughter both suffer from a severe cocaine addiction. My adult son, who visits them often, informed me that every dime of spousal support goes straight up their nose.

I’ve tried on three separate occasions to get them into an addiction treatment facility without success.

I consider myself to be a responsible guy and I have no problem paying my wife the money I owe her, but I can’t help but feel that my money is bringing her and my daughter harm.

How should I best handle this situation?

So my wife’s brother lives about two blocks away from my family. We’ve always gotten along and he’s always seemed like a stand-up guy and a great father. Anyway, last night my daughter went over to his house to play with her cousin who is about the same age as her.

It got late and my wife went over to his house to pick our daughter up, only to discover both girls surrounded by beer and liquor bottles and obviously heavily intoxicated. My wife eventually found her brother passed out drunk in the backyard.

Anyway, she totally freaked out and brought both girls back to our house. When pressed, his daughter admitted that he not only supplies her with alcohol, but often forces her to drink to unconsciousness. What kind of monster would do this? I want to contact the authorities but my wife is holding me back.

What’s the proper course of action in these circumstances?

Thanks and God bless.
His wife passed away six months ago due to complications of diabetes.

He was often short, ugly and insecure. He would stonewall, and gaslight. He did three tours and Iraq. I have known him for seventeen years. I had no prior romantic interest in him and he put a tremendous amount of pressure on me after he was in divorce proceedings with his wife who asked for a divorce.
He only got married the first time because he got her pregnant after seeing her a month, and this baby I have by him was conceived in spite of birth control and condoms.

He didn’t speak to his mother for over a year after she kicked out his grandchildren over issues that involved control of grandchildren a few months after he got out of the Army. When this happened she focused her anger on me. She looked up my court history that was more than ten years old and mailed it to his ex. She spoke hatefully about me in a verbose manner in an e-mail she sent him and she made sure the pre-school his children attended got a copy of this. His (now) ex-wife had cheated on him and physcially abused him. She also assumed we were romantically involved when we weren’t when he was married and she sent me vulgar, hateful text messages and a year later starting harassing me via crank calls over a two day period. His mother had physically abused him as a child. I helped him care for his children and eventually he had to rent an in-law from my parents. His wife concealed an entire pregnancy from him and binge drank vodka when she was pregnant, and sought no medical attention. This was in part because of the fact she cheated -she didn’t know who the father is-we still don’t know and that child is almost 4. His children are troubled and he can’t see it. She is a very under-involveld/neglectful mother and yet he is supportive of this and intolerant of me. I feel that I am the only “safe” person to take his resentment out on. I no longer speak to him, but I find myself very angry at him for mistreating me. I am currently seeking counseling. I don’t worry about harming either one of my children. I just find myself withdrawn. I have read about emotional abuse and trauma. I have read that emotional abuse is sometimes more psychologically damaging than physical abuse because of its frequency. He was often so ugly and he would needle and needle and needle and I would finally say something hateful and ugly back to him. I don’t want to be that kind of person. My older child is fairly well adjusted. She is academically gifted, adults just love talking to her and she is personable and happens to be a successful child model. I gave a lot of attention to her when she was small-I nursed extensively and spent a lot of time bonding with her. I brought her to counseling when her father was no longer in our lives-the therapist was amazed at her vocabulary by three and after some time felt my daughter was ok to move on. I was always a single mother. She is now ten. I want to be able to give attention to my baby somewhat to the degree that I did my first child(which is impossible because now I have two). I feel as if I stayed there I would be further diminished with nothing left to give my children or myself emotionally. I don’t think it was wrong of me to leave the father of my child in another state. He wanted to get married-I said No. I just find myself so angry at him for mistreating me after knowing me so many years. Is it normal to feel this way?

We haven’t been able to find a lawyer that will talk to us about this without wanting to charge for a simple answer to the question… “Can we do this?”

My wife and I want to keep my parents and her parents from getting custody of our daughter should something happen and we die. We have people picked out to care for her should something happen to us.

I’ve heard that this is common, for the grandparents to get custody (we have no other family members) Neither of them have arrests, or anything that would pointedly show they are unfit. However, her parents are abusive and her mother is a prescription drug addict. My parents are neglectful, my father is an “functional” alcoholic and my mother is flat out crazy but has never been diagnosed (we suspect she is majorly bi-polar) and she abuses prescription drugs to an extent as well.

We have no documents, or major proof other than our experiences with them. We have Godparents chosen, but don’t know if a Will would set this in stone, and keep them from getting custody.

We are letting my parents visit on occassion, but we never leave them alone and they only stay for a day at a time. Her parents we have no contact with whatsoever and they don’t even know our daughters name (but they are spiteful and vindictive enough to try and get her if we passed away).

Basically, our parents are shitheads. My father is an attorney so I’m worried he would be able to find a way around whatever we try to do.

We haven’t been able to find a lawyer that will talk to us about this without wanting to charge for a simple answer to the question… “Can we do this?”

In late 2006, I had my car breakdown, and the father of one of my friends said that he would pay for it. He told me I just needed to do some lawn work for his wife. A couple months later, after I had been doing lawn work for awhile, I had a girlfriend who lived in Virginia who had become pregnant. So I left my home here to go care for her. In the time that I was gone him and his wife divorced. Then when I came back I was told by her daughter that she was irritated I left so soon, but eventually that passed. I had even been over to the house numerous times and she never said anything about wanting me to do more lawn work or giving her any money. Now that her daughter is trying to jump out of a lease with us, because her mother got hooked onto heroin and other drugs, blew all of her money, then tried to kill herself; and we are no longer friends, her mother is trying to say that I owe her $450. There was never any mention that I would pay any money back for his assistance, and if there was I would have refused it.

In addition, the other night, after she was yelling at my pregnant wife, she brought it up and I told her I would pay it back, just to get her to leave us alone because she was upsetting my wife so much that she was having early contractions and shes only 7 months pregnant. I don’t think that matters at all, but my wife was worried.
Here’s the thing, I make $700 a month and am going to have to find a new home, while I have no money for a security deposit or rent. I was never asked to pay the money back until now, and HE paid for the parts, not HER and they’re DIVORCED now. She has had plenty of time to ask me to do more yard work or pay, seeing as I’ve been back in Florida for 9 months now and over to her house numerous times, including living with her daughter for the past 3 months. If I would have known they would be wanting the money back, I never would have accepted the help. I believe it’s not fair to tell me I dont have to pay, it’s all right, then later, demand the money. When it’s none of her business.

I really need to know what to do here because I can’t seem to get the proper help from the state or from other places I’ve called. Main problem is money as well as the mothers ability to lie and deny.

The problem is me and my wife were married for 3 years, together for 5. We were on oxycontin for a year and I got off of it because I didn’t want to stay on them and continue being sick. I just got medicine and quit, and she was going to do the same. She did not, but she also had legitimate back pain and had a prescription. She did say she was weening her self down.

A year later she is still doing them and even more than before. she had resorted to shooting them up for a while. She then supposedly went into the ER twice, once in each county near here, for drugs because she ran out and then spent 3 days in a rehab type place because she was going through bad withdrawals before her prescription was filled. She was then removed from the pain meds in march she told me and had to go cold turkey and one month after that she is now back to shooting them up, but says she’s not addicted and is doing them recreationally. She has physically shown me the track marks on her wrist, not her bicep. They are on her wrist and totally visible if you look at them. Her own mother even seen and felt them.

Now I’ve called DCF twice on her about this because she will leave the child at home with her grandma and not say anything, or leave notes before the child wakes up. She spanks her with a 5 gallon paint mixing stick because she said last time she used her hand that she broke a blood vessel in her pinky. She lives in a bad neighborhood now and has told me that she knows the 2 people across the street deal drugs (surprise! she knows and I wonder why) and that she has heard 2 times of the back door handle being jiggled like someone trying to break in. She loans her car out to drug dealers because it’s about to be repossessed and she figures that if they get arrested in it and it’s taken who cares, she scored pills or money. I could go on for a while but this is the more severe stuff. Her grandmother is upset that she leaves the child with her and that she will loan her car out.

Now the problem is that she is a great liar and good at deception. I’m really starting to think she’s a sociopath for her behavior over the last year. I dunno if she was always this way but she has gotten worse over the year. She had me and her mother arrested for battery. With me she thought I was cheating on her because of her own cheaters paranoia and attacked me. The arrest is gone, never went to court because my lawyer dealt with the state attorney. She lies about stuff she has shown and told me because she’s so paranoid I’m recording everything in person or on the phone. She swore I had our house bugged before we moved out of it and wouldn’t speak of anything unless we went out in the yard that she could get in trouble in court for like lying in court or her drug use.

She told my best friends gf she was still doing the drugs and that if we broke up again she’d tell the state I molested my daughter. She did try it but it didn’t work. She lies and lies and lies some more and always seems to get away with it.

When she was on drugs and dealt with dcf, she had a prescription but did way more so she always had a reason for having it in her system. Now she’s clean and I know she’s shooting up and she still shows up clean but she also isn’t getting it as much but craves for it like when she first got hooked and said the other day to her mom she almost sold some GI pills that looked the same because she was desperate. However now that she isn’t addicted where she will get sick, she still has visible track marks on her but nothing seems to be done by the state about it and the state always seems to rush things and doesn’t let you tell them the whole story in detail as I can do here.

My 4 year old daughter never wants to go back to her mother when I bring her back. She immediately gets depressed looking and says I don’t want to see mommy, I don’t love mommy, mommies mean, mommy hits me, etc. She will not really talk about it with me much because she just gets really quiet when I ask or starts saying what she sees trying to change the subject. The most I ever got her to say was “Mommy is mean and she hurts me when she hits me and I don’t want to see Mommy” It’s a struggle to give her back to the mother and always results in me staying for hours to calm her down because she doesn’t want me to leave. My wife has admitted to hitting her at least every 3 days because she acts up.
She has even called her own mother and said that she doesn’t know what to do with the baby and I would only do things like go get groceries or take a trip to best buy.

Really the list goes on and on but this is a good summary of the situation. I’ve tried to
What can I do? nothing seems to work. DCF doesn’t ever do Sphit and the courts don’t seem to care without video proof. But I have about 50 pictures of her passed out all over from her drugs. She refuses to admit she has a problem still and says she’s a good mother. She has moved 3 times in under 3 months because of her drugs and being kicked out. No one can see this but me and her close family and I was told a march-man act won’t work because she can’t be proven a danger to herself or others. I’ve tried once with a baker act for her behavior since she admits to me she was bi polar. I really am clueless on how to stop her and get her help. I don’t want to take my daughter from her, she did it to me for a few months and it wasn’t a happy time. I just want to have at least 50% custody like now but have her a normal mother who isn’t running around for smack.
I am not with her, we got back for 2 months and that ended with the arrest because she was STILL on drugs and I confronted her about it.

The only reason the divorce isn’t active is because of how she lied to get more custody so I stopped that dead in it’s tracks and proceeded to get more evidence, which the judge didn’t care about. Pictures to a judge I was told don’t seem to work because it shows a small moment of what is going on. But the pictures of her passed out over months time span I guess don’t show she’s an addict passing out sitting up all the time and sprawled across the bed funny.

As I said the biggest part right this moment is the money. I’m so broke I can barely get by because of saturation in my market. I want to get a PI and find out. I would love to tell the cops about the drug dealings but I dunno if they’d stake her out for that. friend of hers called once and told them where she was once and they couldn’t pull her over cuz she drove perfect.
I am also not letting my daughter go back because I have to be tough and tell her to get help. I know at this point if I gave her back that she wouldn’t let me see her for a while.

It’s funny she can tell me no but I can’t say no.

She uses my daughter as a pawn claiming she’s all she has left. The truth is she has nothing because what I didn’t take in the split she sold and spent the money and then wants me to pay her more. Most of the stuff she sold was mine anyway while I wasn’t there.

My ex wife was pulled over while taking our 5 year old child to school for a dui here in california. Her bac was .381 5 times the legal limit. She also had an open container in the vehicle and was charged with I believe felony child endangerment. She has had to go thru a drinking/ drug program when we got divorced in order to get 50/50 custody of our child. She did and now this. She has proven she is inadiquate to be a good mother and I want to get full custody of my daughter and all parental rights. What are my chances?

showed that no alcohol was involved?

Why would he try to slander a dead man?

“Let me tell you a little story,” The newspaper quoted Biden as saying. “I got elected when I was 29, and I got elected November the 7th. And on Dec. 18 of that year, my wife and three kids were Christmas shopping for a Christmas tree. A tractor-trailer, a guy who allegedly — and I never pursued it — drank his lunch instead of eating his lunch, broadsided my family and killed my wife instantly, and killed my daughter instantly, and hospitalized my two sons, with what were thought to be at the time permanent, fundamental injuries.”

http://delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080904/NEWS02/809040379

“Alcohol didn’t play a role in the 1972 crash, investigators found. But as recently as last week, the syndicated TV show Inside Edition aired a clip from 2001 of Biden describing the accident to an audience at the University of Delaware and saying the truck driver “stopped to drink instead of drive.”

The senator’s statements don’t jibe with news and law enforcement reports from the time, which cleared driver Curtis C. Dunn, who died in 1999, of wrongdoing.”

“The rumor about alcohol being involved by either party, especially the truck driver, is incorrect,” said Jerome O. Herlihy, a Delaware Superior Court judge who was chief deputy attorney general and worked with crash investigators in 1972.

“If it were some part of a cause of the accident, there would have been a charge, simply because if you’re driving under the influence and kill someone in the process — whether it’s the wife of a U.S. senator or anybody else — there’s going to be a charge,” he said.

And look at lovely ol’ Biden’s camp had to say when Dunn’s daughter became distraught over her deceased father being maligned:
To see it coming from [Biden's] mouth, I just burst into tears,” Dunn’s daughter, Glasgow resident Pamela Hamill, 44, said Wednesday. “My dad was always there for us. Now we feel like we should be there for him because he’s not here to defend himself.”

Biden spokesman David Wade said Wednesday that the senator “fully accepts the Dunn family’s word that these rumors were false.”

ME: apparently you do not.

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Also during this time she was using my car which i gave her money to make payments and buy gas so she could come visit and drive our daughter places. But of course she used the money for something else (going out to the bars) and i had to make the payments again myself.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before.

Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

I am in the military and deployed. My wife told me she wanted a divorce a few weeks ago. While deployed I can’t do anything about it but I would like to know if the mistakes I made before marriage and my child was born will effect the outcome of child custody.

I have two children one by this cops wife and the other by his 19 year old daughter…..He’s aware of this and man he hates my guts he tried get my little brother sent up on a burgarly charge(he delivers newspaper) and he tried to give my dad a dwi when my old man doesnt drink he’s a deacon…..

I had my uncle talk to him because he’s tied into that community…now everytime either the wife or the daughter doesnt get to see me they throw up filing child support on me…..i have tried to ive them money since my son and daughters birth but they wont take it and i hardly ever get to see them……what can i do…?

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2009/11/19/sen-lugars-wife-charged-dwi-hit-run

Look at her mugshot, haha.

This is probably what will finally sink the Dems, this is pretty big news according to most news sources, fact.

away from the area she lives in to another part of the country? Usually my in-laws leave for Arizona in Septermber but this year they stayed in the area because my wife’s diagosis of breast cancer. They left in November.

Her aunt and uncle left too for Texas, and only her brother remained in the area but he works full time. It was easier for me when my in-laws were around because my wife would talk with her mom and dad. They would come by and keep her company and they would go out to breakfast together.

I felt ok to go to work and then they would leave when I got off work or stick around and we would talk together. I know they are retired and earned their right to travel. But I felt deserted when they left, I felt a huge burden upon my shoulders. Nobody would be there for my wife to take her to the hospital if she needed to go. She never did but the thought of her being alone scared me.

They left after my wife had her mastectomy and her mom helped empty her drain. When the left she started 12 weeks of Taxol and I did not know how those treatments would go for her, I was scared and feared the worse.

My wife now is on her last week of radiaiton. It is hell for her. She is taking two Percocet for pain (when she had her mastectomy she only took one and she hates to take pain pills). Yesterday she told me she wishes her mom was here. I told her they will be here in about a month. They don’t call to see how she is doing. I feel like they don’t care. If it were my child I would not leave the area until the doctors said she was through it. Am I wrong to feel like she has been abandoned?

It hurt me a lot to hear her say she wishes her mom was here because she is not and there is nothing I could do to make her be here. I have felt like calling them and asking them to hurry home their daughter needs them, but I am afraid to.

What would you do?

It just came out 3 years later. In 1999 I suffered a head on collision with 18 wheeler due to narcolepsy. After years of rehabilitation I got addicted with pain medication. Well when I was released I was already hooked and started on hard drugs and pharmaceuticals . I had severe head trauma and not to make it a cop out and excuse for what happened. I have been to 3 sleep therapies and EEG and nothing could be found. I have also been prescribed Mirapex for RLS and Lexapro. I am also prescribed xanax, somas, and hydrocodone. When the alleged incident happened I was asleep and according to my wife I have sex with her while I was sleeping so the children do not sleep with us…after some research I may have sexsomnia which is a parasomnia which I suffer the majority of the symptoms. I take my medication at night and do not recall any of the events that have happened. She said I raped her, bathed her, and dressed her. She is about 200 lbs and would have been to practically impossible for to not notice. While I was sleeping she stole some of my xanax which she is saying I gave her. Now here background is not so clean. She was on drugs and also dates older men which is illegal. I am terrified because I know that I did not rape her. Our family had communication with here and up till recently she babysat our daughter and would come visit. Now that I get arrested she is not going to sign an affidavit
that nothing happened but she added more things that could not have been possible. When it happened she was coerced by her then boyfriend. I am terrified. I am happily married, have a good job, and a 2 and 6 girl. Also since after my wreck is when I started using drugs and about to enter drug treatment and possible psychiatric help. I want my wife to enter but she refuses and I know it may help my case. Also sex toys were found when I woke up and believe she used them. DNA was taken and after 3 years then arrest me. I don’t have any evidence until arraignment. I am afraid that I may get many years. Also a little background on me, after starting drugs I have been arrested on drug and theft charges, but nothing violent. The bondsman said that if she would sign an affidavit stating that I did not commit the crime that it may be reduced or dropped. I need some advice or criticism. But since my daughters were born and got married I calmed down alot other than the occasional meds which I want to quit. Please give me some advice.

Oh… correction…. Biden said the driver was drunk but news reports have proven Biden wrong.

She will not seek counseling and is putting her children in danger by having undesirable characters at her house.