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i dont have enough room for the details. wish i could. basically, i was a drug addict. she stood by my side. helped me to get into a rehab in california. we lived in chicago. we then got married,her and my three kids moved out here while i finished my rehab but continued to talk to this guy. and she said she “just kissed” him about a month before our marriage. then continued to call him from in california. what do i do..? i want my kids?

ok, he is a good person, he was married for 8 years, but his wife cheated on him and they divorced, they have two children. he went to prison for a few years for larceny and drugs, heroin, among other things, now he is on probation for however long, he has been clean for close to three years. he is devoted to his kids and works hard, and does what he can to make sure he doesn’t go back to his old life.he says he loves me and wants to get married, but i am a little leary about the who drug use thing. i have been around that all my life, watch my brother be a drug addict, then get clean and stay clean for a few years, then go back to the drugs, then get clean and so on. i am afraid if this guy does the same thing, it will me, but i do love him too, i am just not sure if i should take that risk. he says he won’t go back, but you can never be sure of that. would you date him?

I met this guy and went out with him a week later. We had a lot of fun and really hit it off. I really like him and was highly attracted to him. Two days after the date, he calls me, saying he misses me and asked me to marry him. I thought he was joking at first. But he was serious. Turns out, he was drunk and explains himself 2 days later after that. He says he is really embarrassed, but says again, he wants to get married, and that I fit the bill of what he wanted in a wife. He is extremely attractive and successful and went on to explain he’s lonely and marriage has been on his mind a lot lately. Now, the stunner of this situation is that he already showed me off to his employees and family members as “his lady, his future wife”. Is it really true that guys speak the truth when intoxicated? And now a week later, I havent heard from him after that whole fiasco. What’s up with this guy?

My wife and I are getting a divorce because she treats me bad and even hits me sometimes. The reason her attitude had changed after we got married is because I found out she was smoking black tar heroin. We have only been married for two months. I have supported her for more than two years before we got married even. The divorce is going to be finalized in about 20 days. We don’t live together anymore and I even got a restraining order on her because she is crazy. I’m just ready to move on. So in your opinion is it wrong to go out on a date with other women?

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

I’m a recovering alcoholic who has been going out with a guy for 2 and a half years. I’ve been in the program seriously for 1 and a half years. We are very much in love, and he doesn’t drink around me, but when he is not with me he will drink, and once in a great while smoke pot. We are not kids, I am 53 and he is 43. He also has been in an abusive (wife abused him)relationship for 22 years, and never has gotten help for the affects its had on him. What should I do? I really want our relationship to work, but he has had anger issues in the past with me, says he is willing to get help, but we can’t go any farther in our relationship until he gets help, or somehow quits smoking pot and drinking. What can I do? Please help me

My boss went out of town and asked me to take his wife out to dinner – just good company, friends, etc.

The problem is when we got home… there was this awkward chemistry between us – I thought we might even hook up. She went to fix us drinks, I went to the bathroom to urinate… that’s when the problem started.

She found my heroin in my pocket (madman stuff, from the Hartz Mountains of Germany) and mistakenly thought it was cocaine. So she snorted it up her nose and immediately blacked out – death was almost certain.

I took her to my friend Lance’s house and ended up giving her a shot of adrenaline directly to her heart which, luckily, caused her to wake up and snap out of it.

Anyway, everything is back to normal now, but do you think I should tell my boss what happened?

My wife and I had been having problems. As a result, she stopped all intimacy for about 7 months. One evening, out of the clear blue sky, she performed oral sex while completely sober (something she told me, in the past, she does NOT enjoy). A few days later I tried to be intimate and she refused. A couple of days after that she came home completely wasted and fell on me as I was sleeping in another room. When I awakened I attempted to be intimate and she accepted. We only performed “regular,” vaginal-only sex. Nothing out of the ordinary. When she remembered what happened about 24 hours later, she said that I raped her and to leave my house or she would press charges. Is this rape? We had relations in the past while she was under the influence and it was not a problem. She said she asked me not to have sex with her while she was in that condition before but don’t remember that at all. I definitely know she didn’t say that the last time this happened.
She was not unconcious or anything of the sort. There was no threat, assault, or battery. She was responsive and even “took over” to put it lightly.

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

…things didn’t go exactly as I had planned. As you know, I’ve been having some very mild domestic quarrels with my wife. Last week, I decided to mix things up a bit and have a date with someone new. I met a very enticing black woman named Rohandra, and I immediately felt a connection(despite my racist heritage). We talked for a while while walking along the beach, but she seemed to feel very uncomfortable at times. For instance, we were riding in my car when a mainstream hip-hop song came on the radio. In order to make her feel more comfortable, I immediately started screaming “You go, girl!” while “raising the roof” with my hands. That didn’t seem to work, so I decided to have her translate some of the unfamiliar slang terms from the song for me(I just assumed that she was a mouthpiece for several different cultures of dark-skinned people).

Later on, I began talking about how Tiger Woods changed the face of gold forever, as did the Williams sisters with tennis. However, this didn’t go over very well either, especially when I whipped out my case of Old English 40 ounce beverages. She got out of the car and ran away without saying anything. I guess some people still frown upon DWI, but if people in the 50′s did it and still survived, where’s the harm?

Basically, I just want to know what I did wrong that could’ve offended her?
**golf, not gold

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

My question is, since I can’t seem to meet anyone by telling the truth, should I just lie about my alcoholism?

I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.

I’ve been going to meetings for 3 years but I have still yet to find a single close friend. Lots of people know my name, but I’ve never been invited to a party or asked out for coffee.

I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:

1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.

2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.

I was just hoping someone could tell me why?

I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. I don’t think i’ll ever find a wife.

It’s been a few years now, and I find myself so lonely that I think of suicide alot.

My question is, since I can’t seem to meet anyone by telling the truth, should I just lie about my alcoholism?

My ex wife has a court date on 6/4 for probation violation for a o v i .She has been drinking worse than when she was caught and has stayed with six different people since it happend she does not see the kids or call them .When she found out that she had a court date she went into rehab to dry up for court. This is her fourth time in rehab in twelve months ,every time she gets in trouble she goes in to look like she is trying to sober up but it is all a show . She recieved her o v i in Morrow county and lives in Cuyahoga. She has never been tested for alcohol the year that she has been on on probation and has a year left . Does anyone know what i can do to get the court to start testing her ? She has no fear of getting caught . When she was caught she had my daughter and niece in her van and blew a 3.1but got off on the child endangering charge. I would like to see her get help so my children can have a relationship with her again even if it means her going to jail to dry up.