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Okay so for the past several days I’ve been asking you guys questions about commitment ceremonies, and weddings and marriage and here’s another question, I’m really struggling with marriage because my parents were pretty bad at their marriage. I’m 26 and this is the time in life that I’m thinking about getting married and what I want for the long-term.

My mom had 2 marriages under her that ended badly, and 2 boyfriends afterwards that I didn’t care for. One of them was a drug junkie and he went to jail for it. I was always worried and paranoid that I’d make the same mistakes that she did. Growing up I told her once how her drug junkie bf wasn’t a good guy and she just ignored me.

So I always had this fear that I would be bad at love and relationships like my mom was. btw I’m happy to say that she finally learned how to pick men, she found a nice man she’s going to get married to, about time she’s like 55. Third time’s the charm, lol. Anyway.

So I’ve been struggling with the fact if I should get married or not, or what should I do. I realize there are long-term couples like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell and other Hollywood couples. I really want to be with someone who I love and who is my best friend in life. It seems to me that no matter what, even if you don’t get legally married the law in many states in America considers you married…

as in common law marriages. I don’t know, I’ve been thinking, isn’t it better to just get married legally…I mean if you live together, share your life together, and then just do everything together and if the government considers you common law husband and wife then isn’t it a good idea to get married?

I also was thinking I don’t want to get denied legally if something happens to the guy I love, like what if they won’t let me into the hospital because I’m not legally his wife, just his partner. What then? That would make me upset.

Also there seem to be many men whom are against marriage, I mean is there any hope for those of us women who want to get married? btw I’m still going to have a career and earn my own money if I get married. I’m not rushing to get married because I want to take my time. I really do. If I have to wait until I’m 40 to meet the right person for myself then I will. I just don’t want to be like my mom about it.

I don’t want to be one of those people who gives up on the dream of a wedding and a marriage just because the guy doesn’t believe in them.
btw a lot of guys are scared that marriage will be the end of sex, the end of fun, the end of anything good. how can I convince a good man that it won’t be the case with us?
I’ve been realizing marriage is more than just a piece of paper and I’m not interested in my bf’s money, he doesn’t have any money, he just has a normal job and I do too.
its not just about a wedding either. I want to elope to hawaii and have a wedding there with my groom, just the two of us

either that or a very small family wedding with our immediate families and close friends. Maybe at most 20-40 people.
Tyed…thank you so so so much….I still want to keep my last name though, lol ;-)
Bella…no I can’t live with that anymore. I used to not want to get married but I’ve changed my mind and I can’t be with someone who doesn’t have the same life goals that I do.

Thanks. :-)
thanks again tyed, you are awesome, and to you too bella…yea I want to get married for lots of reasons. hehe. I’m going to take my time finding the right person.

I just felt so frustrated before with the guy not wanting the same things that I did. I realize I have to let him go because our life goals are not the same.

We were at his house for a small get together. His wife, who was pregnant at the time, was out of state, visiting her parents.

I had gone there with a mutual friend, a female.

At our male friend’s house (there were other people there), he kept pouring her drinks until she was extremely intoxicated. He and she had gotten drunk one time and made out before.

They both asked me to leave. I kept asking her to come with me, but she said she wanted to “stay and kick it.”

Feeling that I wasn’t wanted, I left. The others left soon after me.

My male friend claims to have slept with my female friend. She doesn’t consider it “rape” even though I do b/c she considers him a good friend and she does not want to lose his friendship but she claims that she is NOT attracted to him -that it was the alcohol.

Neither one of them seem to be too upset about it. But I am upset that it happened b/c:

1. He has a pregnant wife.
2. She has a BF.
3. He claims she “has a drinking problem,” and “is an alcoholic.”

If she’s an alcoholic, THEN, why is he getting her drunk to take advantage of her? What kind of friend does that to another friend?

My female friend does NOT find the male friend to be attractive and blames the incident on alcohol.

She says she ONLY wanted to stay and continue “kicking it” and wishes that I “had stayed.”

In the meantime, HE is bragging about it to EVERYONE except his wife.

But my female friend claims that “NOTHING HAPPENED.”

What do you guys think? Did something happen? Or was SHE so repulsed by his unattractiveness that she did not let him touch her? If something did happen, is it rape?
I think anyone of u people that do not consider this to be rape has no clue as to the criminal laws of the United States.

If a man deliberately intoxicates a woman in order to take advantage of her and her judgment is so impaired that she cannot say “no”, then IT IS RAPE!

You people are a bunch of morons.

I am in Indonesia, and the businessmen hosting me showed me to one of their lavish party locations. The whole scene was quite a spectacle.

The hosts almost forced me to receive one of their “endowements”. They called upon numerous “female friends” whom I believe were simply bargirls. There was a lots of talk in the local language therefore I could not quite understand much of what had been said.

Nevertheless, I ended up intoxicated returning back to my hotel with a bargirl.

I woke up naked.

I fear that I may have cheated on my wife. Can one really consider this, “cheating”.

while driving in washington my ex wife got pulled over while intoxicated. will she be charged with a felony ?

i have a friend who’s husband drinks about 8-9 beers every evening after he comes home from work. Although it seems to have no effect on him, his tolerance is very high.

My ex-wife, who likes her wine, doesnt drink every night, but when she goes out, about once or twice a week, she ALWAYS gets drunk, sometimes to the point of throwing up.

Both alcoholic? Or one just a binge drinker?

Worried, cuz kids are half the time with her