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Here are the facts: Wife and I married seven years and have been separated for eight months. During those eight months, I’ve had my boys over 60% of the time. I make $60,000 per year; she makes $52,000. We have two boys, ages 6 & 5; she also has two other boys, ages 12 & 14 from another marriage living with her about 90% of the time. There are no issues regarding abuse or drugs.

Currently, I pay all of the monthly $1,200 child care bill, plus the $400 a month med. insurance. According to various child support calculators, I’m paying much more than I should.

She says that she can’t afford to pay anything, yet she’s paying $200 a month for a housekeeper.

Those of you who have been before a CA judge, how has the judge determined child support? Is it strictly a numbers game, or do they take into consideration other more subjective things? Do they overly favor the mother?

Anyone that has been through this kind of thing, please share your thoughts.

Thanks!
Also, does a judge take into account a person’s standard of living prior to the separation? I am currently living with my parents and I’m unable to move out until she starts paying at least something. Will the judge take that into consideration?

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years we recently got married in Feb of this year. My husband has a 13 year old son from a previous marriage.In December of last year his ex wife got messed up on drugs and his son lived with us from December until September full time and she was still receiving child support during this time. We don’t have the money to hire a lawyer but she is spending the money on herself rather than my step-son.My step-son comes over daily since september and asks us for money to do stuff with. his mother lives with a man that pays all the bills and she recieves food stamps for 3 kids which two of them she doesn’t have custody of because their dad take over her rights when she was on drugs.$4 hundred dollars a month in food stamp which she sells.I don’t want to keep my step son from his mother its just i’m tired of having to support her.

This selfish drug-addict “B” is only interested in getting as much free money as possible without working for it. She has another daughter, “S” (from a previous marriage) whose three kids were taken away by CA because of her own drug addiction. “S” then moved with her b/f to Oklahoma. These kids were then given to B! It’s so obvious that she only wanted custody of them (and my husband’s daughter, “T”) so she could live on Welfare and Child Support. Now, almost three years later, she and T have moved to Oklahoma. We have tried on two separate occasions (Nov-Dec 2005 and July-Aug 2007) to move T in with us and change the custody order, but B has always had T brainwashed against us, telling her (just before the court appearance) she will kill herself if T decides to live with us. It was just her way of getting a “paid vacation”. The 2007 episode was at the time of our son’s birth, and I’m sure it was planned that way. T (then 14) was a complete BRAT both times, and I just know her mother told her to cause us as much stress as possible, and she sure delivered on that! Because of her screwed-up mother’s and half-sister’s influences, T has become totally uncontrollable. She has been in and out of school (and probably Juvenile Hall) for the past four years and I REALLY don’t see the point in allowing her around our now 2 1/2 year old son. My husband and I fight about this, because he has such a “guilt complex” about it. I know I’ve gone on and on, but I want to be understood, and there’s so much aggravation here.

I have a situation where my ex-husband who is newly remarried, and chose to adopt his new wife’s children, has petitioned to increase visitation with my daughter 60/40 in his favor because of his “new family”. He is away from their home 50% of the year (6 months of twelve), and this would put her in their home quite often while he is away. I am a fit, and consistant parent with no alcohol, drug or criminal history, employed full time, and up until this point the custodial agreement has been written 60/40 in my favor. Does her step mother have “rights”? or am I dealing with “control” issues.

My husband’s ex wife refuses to get over the fact they are no longer together and refuses to respect our marriage. She is constantly threatening him that he will lose his son because of me. She whines how she wants to “share moments” over their son. She tries constantly to bond with him over their son. She has drug my name and my husband’s name through the mud for the last 4 years. She has been diagnosed bi-polar but unless you are harmful to your child custody is still split. She has made up lies saying I beat her child to gain sympathy from others. To us she rears her ugly head with demands and threats but to everyone else she plays the victim. How do we react? My step-son is with us 50% of the time yet she tells him this isn’t his real home. That he can only have one real home and it’s with her. He is young and wants to please his mother; unfortunately he is now carrying around this burden. Has anyone been through this and what did you do?
I did not have an affair. Let me just add that she constantly tells their son how I will never love him and how she wishes he wouldn’t come to our house because she is all alone when he does and misses him so much she cries.
I would be all for the 3 of us going to counselling together to see if we can do what’s best for this little boy we all love. She won’t do it. She thinks I don’t need to be involved at all and that I am nothing to this boy.

My husband had a child and was married nearly 9 years ago. His ex wife left in the middle of the night nearly 8 years ago and took their daughter. She bounced around and then came back after he pleaded. She returned 4 months pregnant and stayed for 10 months, had the child which is not biologically related to my husband, but he signed the BC and tried to make it work. She took off 2 months after the birth and was awall for nearly 6 years, my husband paid child support to her last known address the entire time. He filed for divorce 5 years ago and completed divorce by publication because her whereabouts of her and the child where unknown. At one point they surfaced about 3 years ago and he found out she was a habitual cocain and heroin user and had been since she was 16 which explains her sketchy behavior. He found out that legal custody had been granted to a grandparent, we attempted to file for custody but had to enter the foster care program, at the time we were students in college and could not enter the program ( he was no longer considered a guardian since the office was told he passed away 4 years prior, even though he paid child support to that office)

Either way, one week ago the mother and children surface again and tell us they are going to be about 20 miles from our home this weekend. She says they want to see him, even though they don’t know who he is. She informs my husband that they call her new husband Daddy and not to freak out about it. I should mention she does not legally have the children, and while we reported that to the state inw hich they live they will not do anything until the legal guardian says they are missing.

So she wants to have this meeting. We both feel that this meeting should be set in a structured enviroment with a mediator, not over coffee and dinner. We’re thinking this could be very hard for the children to handle, a lot to take in. The mother insists we do this in a public place and is refusing to have them meet in a structured setting. We are going to speak to a psychologist in the morning to get their opinion, but I am curious how other parents might handle this very odd situation.

At first the thought of a nice meeting, where they can meet their little brother and sister ( we have twins) sounds so nice, but then the more I think about it, I think it needs to be in a more structured setting.

The other side of it is, I think it could be really hard to know you were 20 miles away from your father and didn’t see him.

I don’t put it past the mother to tell them exactly that as well.

Please don’t get upset with me about this, I know it’s messed up and sad, but really we’re trying to do what is best for the children.

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In addition, we have tried to gain custody of the children. At the time, we were told it was basically a legal adoption because custody and guardianship had been awarded to a grandparent. The court informed my husband that if he wanted to push forward we would need to have a home inspection in our state, when we applied for that we had to enroll in the foster care program and classes, we could not enroll as two unmarried students with part time jobs. The attorney in that state informed us it was going to cost around 12K which we didn’t have at the time.

We are working on building a case to gain custody rite now, it’s just not as easy as one might think.

where you married?
who filed for divorce if any?
how long was court?
did u provide any evidence? what was the outcome?
does any one have supervised visitation?
any details that will help me

Iv been married to a marine for 6 months now. IM about 5 months pregnant and he has anger issues and takes it out on me hes been physically mentally verbally abusive to me i have proof in pictures and texts. I dont know anything about divorce or child custody. He tries to control me and my money. We have tried counseling and it doesn’t work. He has a violent past i have proof of him admitting it in text. Even though IM pregnant he still abuses me iv been slapped pushed and fell hes threatened to drownd me in the shower and toilet shoved and pushed agaisnt walls tackled to the floor from high stools has tried to suffocate me w his hands and pillows hes been on top of me pulling my hair grabbing my face yelling at me hes been suicidal w pills and a razor hes hit me multiple times IM scared when he gets mad i try to go to the room and he insists all the time yelling hitting walls getting in my face screaming, i always have to conform to him if i want things to work out hes manipulative all i want is safety for my child and me. He keeps me from my family when we go visit. He has a daughter and has me doing everything for her while he plays video games or watches TV and tells me shes my responsibility. He demands respect even though he cant give respect he has packed my clothes and kicked me out of the house a lot! douring the night hes told me to leave if i cant handle it.hes admited to be bipolar.hes grabed me from the neck and raised me agaisnt the wall while my feet dangle, hes covered my nose and mouth telling me he wishes i was a guy so he can do more damage, hes said your lucky your my wife, hes piked me up and thrown me after he hits me he tell me hes going to jail and wants to go to jail and wants to take me to the hospital hes done this and more WHILE IM PREGNANT
what counts as evidence?
i have texts admiting he needs help ,that he wants to go to jail for hurting me , i have videos of his doughter at parties where there is alcohol, he rather come clean w the truth, he feels hes lossing it, hes afraid,b he saying that he might go to a mental hospital or jail if he says the truth, he doesnt want to keep hurting me or the baby, he admits hes wrong, hes going crazy in his dead, he feels fake and isnt proud hes tot this far, there is a text he sent me saying hes done cocaine at 7 years of age, addicted to cocaine, extacy, heroin weed, he inhailed fumeshes robbed and killed to get money.
would this help me in court?
my lil sister is witness of his doughter being at a beer pong party where there was weed. his baby mama was abused and she stated that when she filed for child custody and support.
i just want supervised visitation fo my child.

where you married?
who filed for divorce if any?
how long was court?
did u provide any evidence? what was the outcome?
does any one have supervised visitation?
any details that will help me

Iv been married to a marine for 6 months now. IM about 5 months pregnant and he has anger issues and takes it out on me hes been physically mentally verbally abusive to me i have proof in pictures and texts. I dont know anything about divorce or child custody. He tries to control me and my money. We have tried counseling and it doesn’t work. He has a violent past i have proof of him admitting it in text. Even though IM pregnant he still abuses me iv been slapped pushed and fell hes threatened to drownd me in the shower and toilet shoved and pushed agaisnt walls tackled to the floor from high stools has tried to suffocate me w his hands and pillows hes been on top of me pulling my hair grabbing my face yelling at me hes been suicidal w pills and a razor hes hit me multiple times IM scared when he gets mad i try to go to the room and he insists all the time yelling hitting walls getting in my face screaming, i always have to conform to him if i want things to work out hes manipulative all i want is safety for my child and me. He keeps me from my family when we go visit. He has a daughter and has me doing everything for her while he plays video games or watches TV and tells me shes my responsibility. He demands respect even though he cant give respect he has packed my clothes and kicked me out of the house a lot! douring the night hes told me to leave if i cant handle it.hes admited to be bipolar.hes grabed me from the neck and raised me agaisnt the wall while my feet dangle, hes covered my nose and mouth telling me he wishes i was a guy so he can do more damage, hes said your lucky your my wife, hes piked me up and thrown me after he hits me he tell me hes going to jail and wants to go to jail and wants to take me to the hospital hes done this and more WHILE IM PREGNANT
what counts as evidence?
i have texts admiting he needs help ,that he wants to go to jail for hurting me , i have videos of his doughter at parties where there is alcohol, he rather come clean w the truth, he feels hes lossing it, hes afraid,b he saying that he might go to a mental hospital or jail if he says the truth, he doesnt want to keep hurting me or the baby, he admits hes wrong, hes going crazy in his dead, he feels fake and isnt proud hes tot this far, there is a text he sent me saying hes done cocaine at 7 years of age, addicted to cocaine, extacy, heroin weed, he inhailed fumeshes robbed and killed to get money.
would this help me in court?
my lil sister is witness of his doughter being at a beer pong party where there was weed. his baby mama was abused and she stated that when she filed for child custody and support.
i just want supervised visitation fo my child.

this is a legal question I am posting. I came home from work to find all of my wife and child’s belongings gone. She moved out of state, several states away in fact, and took my daughter with her. I need to know what my legal recourse is here and whether or not it was in fact legal to kidnap our daughter. To answer any obvious queries: No, I do not have a problem with drugs or alcohol, No, there was never any abuse whatsoever happening in our marriage. She just wanted out and took my kid with her. I need to know what I can do. And is there any way I can get her and the child to come back to WA and not have to move all the way out to where they are just so I can see my daughter???

My fiancé and I are saving up money to hire an attorney to attempt to gain full custody of his 8 year old son from a previous marriage. I love my fiancé and his son, we also have a baby on the way in August and I know the best situation for his son would be to live with us. His ex wife screwed up his credit and somehow got full custody of their son while he was away in the coast guard. They were supposed to get joint custody and he signed some papers before he left, but somehow she got full custody and now he only gets his son every other weekend.

His ex wife is a stripper now, parties a lot, does drugs and is very selfish. She has no interest in spending time with her son or teaching him anything and has even hit him in the past, but wants custody because of the child support she gets (which I’m sure is not spent on her son because we have to buy him everything and spend what little precious time we have with him helping him in school because he’s falling behind, instead of getting to spend quality time doing fun things with him.) Their son doesn’t even live with the ex wife; he lives with her sister and mother. She refuses to stay in contact with my fiancé, we never know where she is and she even tried to move to another state a while back without telling anyone.

I want to know what I need to be doing now in order to have a solid case against his ex and prove she’s an unfit mother when we take her to court. I recently found out that she has not even been claiming the child support she’s been receiving for like 6 months in order to continue to get welfare benefits. His son needs to finish his childhood years in a healthy environment with loving parents and I’m worried that we might not win the case because I know his ex will fight it just because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself and is a child. Her sister, which is taking care of their son now, is a good person and doesn’t even like her sister so I think she might testify for us in court and I think she’d agree that it would be best for the son to be living with us. We haven’t talked to her about this yet because I don’t want it to get back to the ex wife what we’re planning until we can actually afford to make it happen.

Which one would you choose for your child? Any amendments – i.e. place X but in the coiuntryside, or place X if had XYZ?

If you were me, and you had a husband and a 2 year old, which would you choose:

Place A
Sunny and bright
Live next to beautiful beaches
There are lots of things to do
There are lots of children’s activities
Schools are good
Healthcare is good but expensive
Uncharacteristic place to live, urban sprall
Highly dependant on having a car
Neputistic – very hard to get a job unless you know “someone”
Very hard for me to get a job, easpecially part-time
On the other side of the world to all your family and friends
Culture different from own
Better paid job but no work for wife who studied for 5 years at uni and 5 years professionally
Here cannot afford to buy a house (which I need as love decorating) unless we live somewhere very isolated and husband has 1-1.5 hr travel to work and may be isolated
Childcare is very poor
Having to live in a rental in one of worst areas of a good suburb, which means that it is quite small and dark and there is distrubance from.. drunk people, parties outside someimes and some drug related crime, etc
The world’s most dangerous creatures liver here!
Very high cost of living and finding it hard to save enough to fly to see family

Place B
Historic country
Lots of lush green areas
Nearer to family and friends
Mild climate but rains a lot
Much easier to get a job part-time and continue wife’s career
Childcare is usually a great standard
Possibilty of living and working in a town that is mainly travelled by bicycles and public transport which is prefered by us as environmentalists and healthy!
Food is much more affordable, and easier to eat healthy and have own allotment
Here we could probably buy our own house in a good area
Highly muticultural population means you get to meet lots of interesting people
Shopping is great – clothes etc
Too many immigrants means that country is full to bursting and the welfare system is much abused so that people who do work are supporting a whole plethora of people who don’t
It’s colder and there aren’t as many nice beaches – if any
It may be very difficult for us to get jobs due to the recession
Place B has 4 seasons, very sunny in Summer, Autumn beings fall, Winter ofetn means sharp frosty mornings but still sunny soedays but FREEZING! And sometimes snow
Spring is sharp again but snowbless and dafodils come up everywhere and the leaves start to change colour.

I’ll try not to make this too long and drawn out. My boyfriend has been in a custody battle for his little girl for pretty much her entire life. We decided to go a different route since home visits and he-said she-said stuff really doesn’t prove anything.

Custody battle pretty much went as follows: She cheated on him with the baby in the room (and the court really didn’t seem to care much about that) and she got custody since the baby was so small. The next time, she admits to drug use because of her current felon-convicted boyfriend and loses her child who stay with her dad. Next, dad’s wife lies about dad in court and gets her taken away again, before the charge was dismissed completely by the court, but he still lost her and didn’t have enough money to go back for a fourth time.

He is working on getting enough money, and we’re actually planning to get married soon (I’m not pregnant, and it’s not JUST to take the child from her mom, we’re doing it the right way).

We went to take the little girl on an afternoon to his parents house where she had fun playing with her cousin. When we took her back at 9pm as promised. My recording caught the following:

First of all, you can clearly hear a roudy house full of other kids (about 3) and the mom of this child yelling at them, and actually cursing.

My boyfriend saying to his daughter, “Here, let me get your coat off, ok”.. and the felon-convicted boyfriend of mother saying “No keep your coat on, we’re about to leave.”
My boyfriend: “It’s already 9, isn’t it a little late for her to be out?”
Mother: “___, don’t even start that”
Felon: “It’s Friday night, no school tomorrow, we stay out as late as we want!” (Clearly intoxicated, and they had another adult that was intoxicated with them)

The papers clearly state visitation, and he asks her if it’s ok if he has the visitation which is stated in the papers for Christmas. He also mentions since he was denied his visitation from her for Christmas because she refused to let him take her. When he asks her about the dates she says: “Well I don’t know, I’ll have to get with my lawyer on that”, He mentions not being allowed to see her, and the felon says in the background yelling “and who’s fault was that?” And he says the mother’s name. The felon continues to say “You’re not even a daddy, she calls me daddy not you.”

The mother goes on to say that “___(child) has an ***hole for a daddy”. And the felon chimes in agreeing.

My boyfriend goes on to just say, “well I guess I’ll just have my lawyer contact your lawyer to get everything straightened out ok? Cause it says it clearly in your copy and my copy of the papers”, and she says to him, “___(his name), I’m not dealing with your s*** get the F*** outta my house”.. all this time you hear all the kids playing in the background and her daughter saying “mama, look…” and things like that, the whole time.

I stopped recording as soon as we started to leave because I figured that was it. And I left the door and turned around cause I heard her cry and say “daddy wait” and i tried to tell her bye, or even find her in the trash in that trailor and all the sudden I see the felon-convict lunge at the door which was then was slammed in my face so hard it made the wreath on the door almost fall off and the whole house shook. My boyfriend was also recording and this was caught this.

Next thing you hear in my recording is the mom yelling at the top of her lungs (obviously right in my face) saying “Oooooh, you’re recording? That’s just great, you know why!??!?” you can hear the daughter wimpering in the background, saying daddy, and she tells her drunk friend to get the kids back inside for a minute. She then proceeds to yell at the top of her lungs in my face about how I should get in her face about anything. I said, “but I didn’t get in your face”.

I remembered that she’d let the little girl watch freddy cruger the last time we were there and asked her on recording why she let her daughter, a 3 year old watch it, and she said “OH MY F**** GAW! Are you F**** serious, Dude?” And I just said “she’s three years old, why, she’s just three years old?” And she said “well! Cause she likes it!”

She then proceeded to say, “Well what about all this hickie s** on your neck” (pointing to a mark that wasn’t even there”. I didn’t say anything, but asked her about how she slept with another guy, cheating on the baby’s father, when her daughter was 2 months with the daughter in the room. And she said, “ARE YOU F*** SERIOUS, DUDE? SERIOUSLY?” I said “why” and she said “She wasn’t even there when we did it, she was at her F***** Grandma’s Ok?”

The entire time, both me and my boyfriend had calm voice tones, as we always do with them, and they were beligerant and screaming and cussing at both us and the situation.

That’s when I turned the recording off and just left. We called the cops and made a report about the situation and the cops went to that house, and w
we just went home.

I know no one here can make a 100% correct prediction. But we won’t see the DHS until Monday morning. And even then we’re just worried that she’ll get awaywith everything just cause she’s the mom. We both have good jobs, and can support her easily, and her mom and boyfriend work on minimum wage part time constantly having to move because they are always evicted and can’t find a place to stay.

I stayed up with him last night and he and I cried all night long. We’re just sick. And this was the worst thing I’ve ever whitnessed and he says it happens all the time. I don’t know whether to just keep recording if that will do me any good or if you think that it will make headway.

Please don’t flag this just because it’s long. I’m sorry, We’re just so upset about everything I just need some kind of opinion. I love her like she was my own flesh and blood, it seems like I love her more than her own mom does.

Any input would help so much.

Thanks!
I just reviewed the recording again:

My boyfriend: “the paper say.. (I won’t get into detiail), I’d like to see her on Christmas eve since I didn’t even get to see her during Christmas last time.”

Felon: “And who’s fault was that?”

MyBoyfriend: “Sasha’s, cause she wouldn’t let me take her”

Felon: “Well, there aint no way, dude” (talking about his court ordered visitation, he was trying to deny my boyfriend)

MyBoyfriend: “You aint her daddy, so I’m not gonna argue with you about it”

Felon: “You know what, she calls me daddy though.

Mom: “We’re not gonna do this guys ok?”

Felon: “Well she has an ***hole for a daddy”

Mom: (Very loudly in front of the kids) “Ya she DOES have an ***hole for a daddy”

MyBoyfriend: “well I’m gonna be bringing her back on this day, is that ok?” (stating exactly as he is allowed in the papers)

Mom: “Well, I don’t know, I’m gonna have to talk to my lawyer on that”.

MyBoyfriend: “Well if you want, I can have my lawyer contact
Mind you, I didn’t start a fight with her, she attacked me as I was being as sweet as I could. I’ve done nothing but be completely nice to her, and she’s actually had her friends call and harrass me and my boyfriend in texts and calls.

I need serious help. This is kind of a long story so If you don’t like to read you will not be able to help me. I am a 32 year old concerned step-mom. My husband and I used to live in New Orleans, unfortunately due to Katrina we had to move and start a new life in Houston where we both got jobs. Prior to Katrina, my husband had domiciliary custody of his son, back then he was 8 years old. The reason why he got domiciliary custody is because his son did not want to live with his mother. He was really afraid of her and exhausted with her mood swings. The court ordered a family psychological evaluation to be able to designate the domiciliary parent. All of us were evaluated. As it turned our, the evaluator diagnosed my husband’s ex-wife with a Borderline Personality disorder. In other words, she diagnosed her as an anti-social and sociopath. During the time we were in going to court, she was stalking us, she killed our cat, stuffed my car with rotten seafood, smashed her own son’s birthday cake on our porch (most of which she admitted in court) . She was following us everywhere and even filed a false report with Child Protective Services (the accusation was dropped). She was also a crack and heroin user and was in jail for that. To make it short, during Katrina she kidnapped my step-son and flew to New Jersey where she is from. She disappeared for two months and my husband had to get a court order from the judge to get his son back.. My indignation occurs because the judge knowing all these facts from the beginning he always had way too much leniency with her. He never granted us a restraining order, and even made my husband transfer domiciliary custody to her because we weren’t moving back to New Orleans (we had no money and were totally broke). We had just found jobs, we could not afford to go back. My husband has tried numerous times to go back to court, but everytime we had a court date, the judge could not show up and made us re-set the court date numerous times. The judge ( Sydney Cates) knows we live in Houston, and to be able to go to court we need to travel to New Orleans and that cost a lot of money, and he just doesn’t care. Recently, my step-son has called his dad crying telling him he wants to commit suicide because he is so unhappy. He is only 10 and I don’t really know what to do. Has anyone here been in a similar situation?

A young lady and her child were driving home when a truck with three construction workers, all intoxicated, hit her and killed her and the child. It was a hit and run since they drove off, but two cars kept pursuing them and led the cops to them.

Here it’s one of the hottest discussion topics now. It is their fault of course for driving drunk, but is it our government’s fault as well for not enforcing our borders and penalizing employers? Is it employers’ fault for hiring these people to attract them to come here? Is it also Mexico’s fault for turning a blind eye to the situation here?

The woman’s husband is suing the government because he says that if we enforced our laws, the illegal immigrant would not be here and his wife and child would still be alive.
“Me”: The young lady and child were Hispanic. This is not about race.

my wife has a history of alcohol abuse and intentional overdoses (6) resulting in hospitalization and addmission to psych. wards followed by psych. evalutions. She has also been arrested for domestic abuse, endangering the welfare of a child(babysitting while intoxicated) and threatening suicide.

He laughed when i yell at for smoking reefer, so I beet him with the walking stick, my grandpa beat with me. My wife say it is wrong to do to child, It cant bee bad he only bleeded out a little bit, and smoking the pot is bad for the soul, I don ot want to him be drunk alcoholic!
why swear at me?

My Wife was sitting and feeding our child when my brother walked in intoxicated threatening my wife, then myself. If he had assaulted her, would it be lawful for me to intervene?

Can some of the alcohol in his system be transfered to the women via his semen?

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

So, my daughters father, is a dumb alcoholic, and just killed his wife while drinking and driving. So, he is most probably going to prison. I have been getting child support weekly, and that money is really needed in our family to stay afloat. So when he goes to prison can i still collect some sort of child support or is that impossible?
haha, i was young and dumb, only 17, didnt have any self respect!

Ok, i get it, no money. Just hopeful that there might be a way.