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My husband is comtemplating divorce and has written a list of things that he want me to be, in order to continue the relationship.

On the list he mentions his needs as a woman “Not Being Needy” and a woman “Not being Manipulative” and as a requirement she has to “Be Purpose Driven”.

Here’s my situation:

I have been married for 9 years. I am a housewife(even though I held full-time job for 4 years of the marriage and made more than my husband).

My husband left me 3 times in the first 3 years of the marriage and then came back. I made the decision to dumb down, and take jobs making less money or sometimes no job at all. When I did this, my husband became happier and stopped leaving me, so I exchange a career for a happy marriage (6 years happy – so I thought).

I don’t have children(can’t get pregnant).

I have a bachelors degree in management but am unsure as to what, I want to do with my life (I lack real purpose in my life, I don’t know what to do about that – I prayed, I educated myself, I read self help books, I tried different kinds of jobs in different fields, I’m running out of options).

Whenever I work, If I am not content with the job, my husband says, “if you don’t like it then you can come off the job baby”. He also says that my attitude changes when I work. So I am confused , when he says that he wants a wife that is not needy!

Please help! When I dated my husband I knew how to conduct my self. I basically had the attitude that I could do anything I wanted and that I need nobody to support me for anything! But then I heard people saying that a husband needs to feel likes he’s needed in the relationship. When I started this behavior my marriage got way better but I lost myself in the process…

Isn’t a woman suppose to be “one” with her husband, and isn’t he suppose to take care of his wife needs? and isn’t it hard not to be needy, when you can only date that one man, for the rest of yur life(before I got married – I had lots of friends and some of them were considered to be friends with occasional benefits(but I stopped these friendships when my husband proposed to me)?

About 5 nights out of the week my husband drinks about a case of beer and stays up very late. (We’ve been married for about a year.) Sometimes I have to work nights and when I come home he is already very drunk. Other nights, like tonight, I try very hard to get enough rest, but he stays up and watches t.v. very loud and I end up staying up most of the night while he passes out snoring and hogging the bed.

Only when he’s drunk do we tend to argue and he slurs his words and follows me around sometimes picking a fight. I try to tell him about it the next day, but he never believes me. I tape record it on my iphone as evidence to back me up when i talk to him now.

It’s another sleepless night for me (he was watching “the hangover” and blasting it over our stereo system) and I have been doing research on how to help this problem and I have found that most people say it is the fault of the wife and that he probably doesn’t like his life.

I try to be good person, I try to have a good relationship with him. He has a job he loves and he makes tons of money. He seems to be escaping his life, but I’m not sure why. I’m not a nagging person by nature and I am very supportive of him and I work hard and I am very good with money. We do both work, but we spend as much time as we can together doing nice things.

I want to fix this problem and when I read that I could be causing it I was very hopeful, because if I am I want to make it stop, I love him and I want him to be happy and I don’t want us to fight or be exhausted all day at work. I love being married and I love him. Please help if you can or if you have any ideas! Thanks!

Hello, I am a 27 year old man who is having major issues with binge eating. My weight fluxuates between 185 to 230 a couple times a year as the problems come and go. I’ve always been a heavy eater but never gained weight until college. A few years ago I dropped down to 185 and that is when the rollercoaster began. My wife, whom I met a little under 3 yrs ago is Bulimic. She has fought the disease for over 10 yrs and is only 24 yrs old. As of now we are binging multiple times per week and cannot seem to get control of it. I find myself spending upwards of $10 per day at the snack machine. We are consuming close to 10k cal each per day we binge. There is much more to this but not enough char. to type it all. She went a whole year when we found out she was pregnant but it recently started up again. Our son is 6 months old and this is hurting us both emotionally and financially. I’m worried about my son’s future. Drs. have not been able to help. Suggestions please. Thanks
There is much more to this situation. I suffer from social anxiety. I take cymbalta for it and when I miss a couple days the urge is uncontrollable. My mind WILL NOT focus unless I binge, this does not mean 3 Lean Cusines but for example chineese take out, two cokes, four pop tarts, and a piece of bday cake ~4″x10″. All gone in less than 10 minutes. My wife is a fitness instructor and their is constant conflict regarding food. This goes much deeper but not going into it. I also suffer from depression Want to stop bad but much easier said than done. When the urges come they take over, you lose control. Control that does not come back from counting to 10, or snacking on something healthy but an annoying hyper, itchy, can’t focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard you try feeling – until you eat until you cannot eat anymore. I have to satisfy feeling this at work to do my job (IT). Then I feel like I’ve taken a step back. Also self concious over weight. 6’1″ 230lbs.
My wife and I both hide this well. We are both very attractive people, her body looks great, mine is slightly overweight. We both always concerned about our looks. We’re both very nice to everyone we meet and very well liked but it feels like we are wearing a mask. People think we are these perfect people but we hide our secrets very well. I know this sounds like I’m tooting my own horn but I’m just repeating what we’ve heard from others. I’m reaching out here because I’ve exhausted all avenues and am very desperate. As my son gets older he will begin to pick up our behavior. I’m confident if we can begin to gain control over this we will be able to start improving our relationship, financial situation and other areas of our lives that continue to degrade.

I have struggled with this disgustingly stupid habit/problem since I was around 16 probably, I am now almost 29, and currently I binge/purge twice a day. I am stressed, depressed, unhappy, all of that yes, but if I could just stop doing this I feel like I would be a thousand times better. I have said for so long, all I want to to be happy, and to make people happy… but I know I’m not, and I push everyone away from me. Recently I had some struggles with my marriage and was separated for almost a year, in that time I made some terrible decisions, and went dramatically downhill. We are now back together, been since last November-ish, I am a much better mom to my two little girls again, and a good wife…. but just so “blaa” would be the best way to describe it. I just can’t seem to stop doing this disgusting habit, it’s a huge waste of money, time consuming, and just mentally/emotionally draining and harmful. Physically I think I’m fine, just I think I have been losing a good amount of hair because of it. I just want to be happy, confident, and full of life… I literally feel like I’m crippling myself, like I’m my own worst enemy. My husband thinks I have over come this… but he never understood the whole concept that I eat-eat-eat then vomit (due to me being too embarrassed/ashamed to tell him what/how really it is all about).
Please help me stop this vicious cycle…. i just want to beat it and never look back!

Hi,

This is a silly questions. But my wife and I (33 yrs old) had someone living with us who went abroad for work. To celebrate our new privacy, we went out to restaurants or ate take in food probably 5-6 days a week. Lots of bad food, buffets, and alcohol. Huge, heavy meals. We both gained 5lbs of weight and water in such a short time. I am about 30-40lbs overweight and my wife 15lbs. We don’t visibly look that heavy or anything. My wife is size 3-4. I’m a size 36.

We happened to have a blood test lined up .

However, both of our cholesterol levels came back high! Mine total cholesterol was very high at 300.

My wife had an overly high LDL also!

I was shocked! Could that 3 week BINGE have caused the results to be high? I never saw a Dr. previous to this for tests.

Thanks!

My wife has finally admitted she needs to see someone about her “Bitchiness”. Two weeks ago she made an appointment for next week. Ever since this her making the appointment she has been off the charts bitchy.
Is this normal? Do people do this like they do when they eat a lot before going on a diet?

He’s a binge drinker. I finally told him I was leaving him, and then he decided to seek treatment. I’m having a very hard time, since we are living together (in separate rooms); I am so angry at him for doing this to us. I’ve given him the summer to prove that he’s going to stop drinking. I don’t know when I should “forgive” him, and be the supportive wife. He says he can do it, with my help, but I feel too angry to support him right now. Is this a bad thing? We’ve been together 9 years, married for 3.

31 year old married father of 1 child (toddler), he drinks 2-3 times per month on average. He usually drinks on a friday evening into early monring hours saturday and consumes between 12-36 beers in that time period. He spends the better part of Saturday sleeping it off and crying that he doesn’t want to drink anymore. On one occassion his wife came home from seeing a movie with her mother and nephew to find him drunk when he was supposed to be caring for their 17 month old daughter. Does this man have a problem with alcohol?
The reason I ask if because the wife tells me today that he’s been “sober” for two months and is talking about drinking tonight which will certainly turn into a binge session. She wants to leave with their child if he drinks and she wants to make sure she isn’t overreacting.