How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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*Push for stricter gun control, or ban.

*Push for the legalization of drugs like marijuana, MDMA, and psychedelics.

*Drug dealers should have more lenient penalties if they are arrested.

*It is unethical to force prisoners to work since most of them are not Caucasian it would be racial profiling and it is no better than slavery.

*The government should pay for the abortions of women making a low income.

*Open up our borders to our neighbors.

*Higher welfare checks and unemployment checks for the people who need it, the economy is still in recession.

*Make immigration easier for foreigners’ over-seas, we are all the sons and daughters of immigrants.

*Homosexuals should be given the right to marry each other and receive all the same treatment and benefits as people married to the opposite sex. People should respect the sanctity of homosexual marriage.

*The government should pay for the abortions of women receiving low income.

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>Encourage gun ownership of mentally sound and law abiding citizens.

>Encourage the responsible use of drugs only if a licensed medical doctor states that you actually require them.

>Strict standards on how gang members and drug dealers should be punished by the judicial system.

>We should make room in the prisons by reestablishing “serving of the head” and public executions in combination with a quicker judicial procession.

>The guidelines for capital punishment (serving of the head in public) should be close to the following; anyone on death row, who has back to back life sentences, or who welcomes the death penalty and has life w/o the possibility of parole.

>Child molesters should also be given the chance to contribute something to society by offering themselves up for public execution.

>Respect the sacred bond of marriage between Husband and Wife. That is the man is the Husband and the woman is the wife.

>Better security on our borders and at our ports.

>The government should require men to have vasectomies if they father two illegitimate children while refusing to pay child support. Women on welfare should be forced to take a DEPO/or birth control of some kind after they give birth to a child for the second time in the welfare system, or file a religious complaint signed by the pastor/priest of their faith. The population of the world is estimated at 8 billion in 2013.

>Fight our enemies on their soil when possible, or when strategy calls for it (less US civilian casualties).

>Make ad nauseam and other methods of propaganda illegal in the media and try to correct some of our social dysfunctions to make the quality of life better for the family, and help individuals help themselves and be less dependent on the government, thus creating a stronger and more unified nation.

My husband’s ex wife refuses to get over the fact they are no longer together and refuses to respect our marriage. She is constantly threatening him that he will lose his son because of me. She whines how she wants to “share moments” over their son. She tries constantly to bond with him over their son. She has drug my name and my husband’s name through the mud for the last 4 years. She has been diagnosed bi-polar but unless you are harmful to your child custody is still split. She has made up lies saying I beat her child to gain sympathy from others. To us she rears her ugly head with demands and threats but to everyone else she plays the victim. How do we react? My step-son is with us 50% of the time yet she tells him this isn’t his real home. That he can only have one real home and it’s with her. He is young and wants to please his mother; unfortunately he is now carrying around this burden. Has anyone been through this and what did you do?
I did not have an affair. Let me just add that she constantly tells their son how I will never love him and how she wishes he wouldn’t come to our house because she is all alone when he does and misses him so much she cries.
I would be all for the 3 of us going to counselling together to see if we can do what’s best for this little boy we all love. She won’t do it. She thinks I don’t need to be involved at all and that I am nothing to this boy.

My husband’s ex-wife is a Christian. At least in the sense that she goes to church and actively believes that I am going to Hell for black hair, tattoos, and witchcraft books. She was really mad about using temporary Halloween hair dye on my step-daughter (Allie). And a few weeks back Allie told her mom about a magic book and she flipped out before finding out the whole truth and went to bad mouthing about me and my husband. It was a magic book about card tricks and Allie can’t even read yet. For a while Allie was scared that we were evil people.

I think that appearances are the only thing that this woman feels that she can hold against us. She overdosed on narcotics a month ago and was sent to a psych hospital. Her face is littered with scars from her heroin use. She never held down a job longer than a week with one exception which lasted maybe two months. She also has a bad attitude problem and curses frequently. Allie sees her rarely and only on her good days.
I also use to be an active Christian and written for my church newsletter. I just felt the need to move on religiously. Morally I am still the same. I don’t like the main curse words starting with f, c, and b. Especially the combination of m and f. I wouldn’t ever let my kids read my personal books or be influenced in that direction. They go preschool in a church and my son is morally and emotionally stable. Allie acts out a lot after being with her mom for any length of time. She has good days and bad days.

She has a 19 year old son from a previous marriage. His father is no longer in the picture and as a stepdad I’m limited as to how much I can do with him.

The only way I can describe her parenting is reverse positive reinforcement. Bad behavior is rewarded and good behavior receives nothing. He tells her he uses drugs and there is negative reinforcement of any kind- she’s worried if she threatens to kick him out of the house, or stops buying him things that he won’t tell her what he’s doing anymore.

He got evicted from an apartment my wife co-signed for after only 10 weeks and completely destroyed the place and spray painted graffiti all over the walls of 2 rooms and a door. The he quit his job and moved back in with us. Her response was to buy him a new skateboard and take him to the supermarket to pick out his favorite junk foods which she bought for him, then takes him to a festival.

We spent the last four days cleaning up the mess at his apartment and packing/unpacking/cleaning all of his stuff while he laid on the couch and watched television. She doesn’t see a problem with that.

How can I fix this before it ruins my marriage? I am about ready to give up on it here, but we have a new daughter and if I move out my wife will get custody and raise her the same way…

Don’t know any other section to put this in, so here goes….

Anyway – married for 12 years, 2 kids. Wife has had an alcohol problem in the past. She has gone to treatment (AA and other groups). This was about 5 years ago. For the most part its all good.

However, she seems to have a “fall-off-the-wagon” incident about once every 12 to 18 months. EVERY time it happens, I get the same “I’m sorry, it’ll never happen again…. I’ll do anything not to loose you….” speach. She gradually rebuilds the trust in our marriage until the next binge comes along.

Most recent one was this past Sunday at a neighborhood cookout. I didn’t even really know she had been drinking (thought it was just Coke – without the Captain…).

Anyways – I’m tending the grill and all of a sudden she is stumbling all over the place in front of many of our friends and neighbors ! I get her cousin to help me get her into the house and put her to bed.

I am left to “explain” that she’s not feeling ..
well to our friends and our oldest son. Also left to attend to the kids and clean up after the cookout / etc…. OK, whatever.

As we are finishing the clean-up (me and a couple neighbors) – who comes stumbling down the driveway?…. I quickly got her turned back into the house and into the bedroom.

After I got the kids in bed, I went to check on her…. There is blood on the floor and in the master bath ! From what I can tell she got up to either use the bathroom or to puke and ran herself nose first into the door-jam ! I just leave it for her to clean up the next day.

Bottom line – I don’t know if I can forgive this last episode. She has already lied to her family, our son and some friends about how she got the busted lip, black eye, and scrape on her nose !

She gave me the whole, “Never do it again” B.S. the following day and for the past 2 days.

I feel like it only happens about once a year, but also like ….
I’m with a spouse that cheats (with alcohol, not another person)…. then promises never to do it again, yet ALWAYS does it again.

I love her dearly, but no longer trust her… her words have very little meaning b/c I’ve heard it all at least 4 to 5 times before.

Does ANYONE – know of any couples that have overcome something like this?

Any ideas? Or am I just putting off the enivetiable by not leaving now?

I’m afraid to leave b/c of the kids…. her abuse is not frequent enough, nor severe enough for me to have a chance in hell of getting full custody.

So, she’d likely get the kids AND the house and I’d just be F’d in the end anyways by the family courts….

Just wondering what to do ?!?!

Cindy McCain and Michelle Obama have strong criticisms and are both strong, accomplished women. Which is a better role model for young people. Which would make a better first lady? Back up your statements with your rationale.

Cindy was John McCain’s mistress when he was married to his first wife. She was addicted to prescription drugs and admitted stealing them from her medical organization when she couldn’t get them from doctors. She was born into wealth and is a wealthy savvy businesswoman and heiress to a fortune.

Michelle Obama made statements about being really proud of her country for the first time in her adult life during the Democratic primaries, she said in speeches that America is a mean country. She is grew up poor in the South side of Chicago, graduated from Harvard Law School, was a professor and is now a successful business woman.
FYI, the info above about both of these women is documented, proven and a part of history. If you need sources, I can cite them.

Someone shared more info about Cindy’s resume. Below is more info about Michelle’s.

Michelle Obama:
Princeton undergrad
Harvard Law School alum
Corporate Vice President
1985 cum laude graduate of Princeton
University
1988 graduate of Harvard Law School, Former associate dean at the University of Chicago
Vice president at the University of Chicago Hospitals.
Sits on six boards, including the prestigious Chicago Council on Global Affairs, the University of Chicago Laboratory Schools and Tree House Foods.

My wife was told 5 years ago she had Bipolar.She has post dramatic stress disorder as well as adhd. We have two children. She has been on several medications and nothing has worked. She has recently came clean on many men she has slept with. She was addicted to prescription meds went to rehab.Since then I have discovered she is taking 12 different meds now. Not all are narcotic but she can not seem to cope with day to day life. Me two childeren cant stand to be around her and ask me why i dont divorce her. They are age 9 and 10 and im affraid if i do,she might get the kids half the time. She sleeps until atleast noon each day and im very concerened. Will she ever get better ? Need advice on what to do….