How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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OK, so the media says it was an accidental drug overdose. How does anyone ever really know if it was intentional or accidental? Not everyone leaves a note when they plan on taking their life. Plus, families do not want to bear the shame of suicide and mental illness. They do not always volunteer the truth even to the police. After all, what good will that do for them?

The man was a Harvard grad, and was an attorney for a very brief time. Switching suddenly from that to comedy and then not ever wanting to talk about his brief stint as a lawyer says to me that there had to be some major issues in his life. At 44, no mention of a wife, a marriage, divorce. kids or a current girl/boyfriend. Nothing.

Any thoughts on the issue?

After 15 years of marriage, she has gone off the wall and seems to be not living in reality. She wants to move out away from me and our two sons and live on her own. She appears to be tormented by things she did in her past, but she does not want to discuss. She has had an online relationship with a divorced father of 4 who lives 3000 miles away, and she really likes him. Within the last two weeks she got a cell phone behind my back so she could talk to this guy whenever she wanted. She does not want counseling, doesn’t want to work on the marriage, yet doesn’t want a divorce. She has no intention to move closer to this man, nor he closer to her. She also listens to heavy grundge music, wants to get a tatoo, and wants nothing to do with her family and friends. She says she knows what she is doing is wrong, but it “feels too good to stop”. I believe Paxil is to blame. Anyone with experience with this drug with advice is welcome to respond!

If a guy has always lived in the fast lane and gone to all kinds of parties and had the hottest girls around him…when he gets married, will he not get bored with the calmer life of marriage and just one girl? I mean hes not some drug addict with no job, he actaully comes from a very good family, educated, and he is respectable. But his social life is pretty intense and he surrounded by a huge group of friends and hes invited somewhere every week. if he were to get married, would it mean that he wants to put all that stuff behind him. Will he always compare his wife to the hot dancers hes used to seeing at clubs. basically am i wasting my time trying to make him like me?

In Oct of 2005 she had my son and our marriage councilor diagnosed post partum depression. When my son was 3 months old she began partying like when she was single. This includes going out two to four times a week until 7 to 8 in the morning. In the Fall of 2006 her mother and drug addicted father moved in with us, into a 2 bedroom house, with my wife, myself, my son and step daughter. This was supposed to be temporary. Three months later the father had left the mother. Both mother and daughter were getting drunk at least weekly. They decided to take my wife and mine tax return of $4,000 and go to California for a vacation instead of paying off some judgments that my wife and I agree to pay with the money. Two weeks after they got back I left. In the following month she said she would change and things would be better. I came back. A month later I had to force the mother in law out of the house. My wife continued drinking eventually she got a DUI.
I went away on business and she wouldn’t even skip a drinking session to pick me up from airport when I got back. If see doesn’t have money to go out and drink she will borrow it from her mother. We spent 6 weeks going to a marriage councilor, but ignored the councilor’s recommendation in regard to the post partum depression. To top it off the councilor said she didn’t think my wife had a problem with alcohol.At times she displays remarkable paranoia. She has even gone so far as to try to use the kids to spy on my conversations between my parents and me. (She bribes them and will even use her step daughter to interrogate my son from a previous marriage.) Now she says she is pregnant, but she went out with her friends again last night (says she didn’t drink but came home at 1 am and immediately showered). The time frame for conception is “wrong” too; it was during a time when I was away for work.
PS. She offered to got to church counciling to “straighten me out”, but when I took her up on it she dropped it like a hot potato. She argues that I don’t help enough with the kids and house work. I work 10 hours a day, am pursueing an MBA, and come home to watch kids, do the dishes, maybe a load of laundry, and cook dinner. She works maybe 30 hrs a week, wakes up after 9 am or 10 am, and stays up till midnight even if she isn’t getting drunk at the bar. Before I met her I had a house 3 vehicles and good credit. Now we rent own 1 running car and have been through bankruptcy and our credit is still bad.
What is your impression of the situation?
What would you do?
She has also put on about 50lbs from when I met her. Do you think she would be able to cheat on me?

Over the past 9 years me and my wife have been together. we have both cheated and have gotten past doing it but the jealousy is still thier from time to time and when it is thier we fight like cats and dogs. i have had a problem with both using and selling drugs. she has told me time and time again that if i don’t stop its over . Well i didnt stop and she finally sdaid she wants a divorce. i am humble enough to admit that i messed up big time. she has given me so many chances to grow up we are 29and 28. so you know we both work regluar jobs and both make good money. we both take care of are son and make sure we do alot with him ( like vac, baseball football, everything. but with the drinking and doping i would also break promises. Well she left and said it was over. We had a marriage couns session set up but never made it do to a last week fight when she stayed out with a old friend till 4am in the morning then lied about where she was and admitted to lying. its been to weeks now and last night i forgot my sons book bag in her car when i went to her dads to get it she was not home. when i called her and she came home she admitted to staying the night at that same guys house but said they went tom a movie and then went back to his house and she just fell asleep. she said she just needed a friend. would you call this a date or just someone needing a friend? She also said she will not go to counsling.

15 years? I understand he was in many top grossing films as a child star in the 80′s, like Friday the 13th sequels, The Goonies, Gremlins, Stand By Me, The Lost Boys, The Burbs and several other comedies and movies that went right to video, but have you seen the new TV series called, “The Two Corey’s” Corey Haim is broke, unemployed and portrayed as a washed up ex-junkie loser, and he is staying at Corey Feldman’s beautiful mansion, and by the way, Feldman has a smokin’ hot wife with a great rack, are they real? How the hell has the guy been able to hold onto so much money? He was a heavy coke and heroin user in the late 80′s early 90′s, you would think he would’ve blown through the maybe 100 grand he got per film back then. Would he still be getting royalties off dvd sales of those 80′s films? I just don’t get it how he is living so large, but if you go to www.imdb.com and look at the movies he’s been in the past 15 years, they are all B movies, straight to video stuff, baffling
That’s a good point by the second poster, I have thought of that, perhaps you’re right, he could easily be living on Michael Jackson hush hush money, maybe 10 million, they were buddies in the 90′s
Oh, I just read that article, thanks for the link. I didn’t realize this show was filmed in Vancouver, BC and that really isn’t Feldman’s house. What a fraud. I’m not watching anymore. What a lie, and a crock of shit.

My wife cheated on me several times. At the time I loved her so much I told her I’ll forgive all of it if she promises not to do it again. We got back together. Then she went on a drug binge and wasn’t taking care of our children, so I left her. A few months later she told me she had changed and so we’re back together again. Now she still has lots of guy friends on the side. They only text occasionally and it’s usually just hi. But given that I’ve been cheated on several times I don’t think she should have guy friends on the side. Now I don’t want to be with her anymore, but I can’t leave her because I don’t want her to blame a divorce on me. And though I don’t trust her I can’t leave her because of the past things since I said this was a fresh start.

Well, here it goes; My wife and I have been together for about 9 years. throughout the years, I was able to support her, I busted my ass working and did what a good family man was supposed to do. She took my two children in from a previous marriage in and she took care of them as if they were hers. The last two years however, I became addicted to opiates and started to become “a piece of s***”. Needles to say, things got really bad and we decided that I would come back to my mom’s house and get my s*** together until I was ready to return home. I was on my way to detox and we had plans to move out of state and she supported my efforts of recovery by coming down with the kids about twice a month and taking care of my “sensual” needs. We were in the movies seeing “UP” with OUR two kids, ages 2 yrs (girl) and 10 months (boy). The person (Terry) that she had been seeing was a mutual friend of ours that lives 50 yards away from our house. In the middle of the movie, my fone starts receiving text messages from Terry which were supposedly forwarded texts from my wife to Terry. VERY SEXUALLY MESSAGES!, the last two where “The 10 month old is my baby” and “Dude, this is Terry, your wife and I have been F******”!

You can only imagine what happened…if interested, write an email and I’ll give you details :o)

But to make a long story short, my wife finally confessed to having an affair with him. However, she says that the affair had just started and that the baby is REALLY mine. I don’t know…Im Mexican, she’s white, and Terry is white. The kid has my ears and general looks, but he also has blue eyes like him. So, I don’t know how far back it really goes. My wife had broken up with him before coming down to the movies with me and that’s why he flipped, because she wanted to be with me and not with him. My wife also tells me that their “thing” was more about money than anything, he had money I didn’t have to give her and he got lucky. She didn’t really want to be with him. Again, I don’t know.

I do know that Terry was VERY angry at her and me because I didn’t just let her go like I was supposed to. Terry wanted her REALLY BAD!, but he doesn’t realise that we have a family together and there is NO WAY she would let me go with so much at stake. I think that Terry saw this as an opportunity to make up for lost time….He is almost 50 and my wife is 27 (I know, sick hu?) and I’m 34. He f****d up his own family before cause of drugs and here he sees a nice little family that he could maybe squeeze into..in the process squeezing me out. We r still trying to work it out, but I don’t know what to do. and then the baby? does their thing really go back for almost two years? Can I ever forgive her? Please, help me sleep :o)

Thanks for your time.

. We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.

This song is a man singing about going to aa and talks about people you hurt the most and at the end of the song his wife showed up at his aa meeting

lying all along. He and I have had a rocky 8 year marriage. This was his second marriage and my first. He treated me worse than he treated the first wife.. Well last year after he left every few months for a week are two during 8 years of our marriage. ( the longest we were together without him leaving was 9 months b/c he had a wreck and could not drive due to being disabled now) but as soon as he could get around with a limp he left to party again. Last year I divorced him and about 6 months later he came back crying going to kill himself b/c he realized how much he loved me and what he had done wrong and for a few weeks he treated me so good then here we go again. I mean it never stops.. He is 33 years old and we bacame engaged again in February of this year… I had agreed to trust him and start over and I did exactly that but later found out he was lying all along. While he is home and disabled and collecting a disability check I am working. I never say anything about it.. but he leaves and goes off with friends he promised to stay away from becuase of situations that happened in the past. ( i.e showing them naked pictures of me for beginners) and was again smoking and drinking and taking non RX drugs which he promised to discontinue. I had told him before we started again that I would not start again b/c I did not want to feel that I was taking things from him by laying out what I did and did not want in a relatinship.. He agreed and promised just one more time….. As of March 13 I caught him in so many lies and told him to come and pick me up from where he was or I would pack his things and we would be through. He said he was not coming to get me.. I knew something was up then… He blames me for ending out relationship b/c he was supposedly visiting his mother… That was not true either b/c he was already slurring his words when I chatted with him… Anyway… that was on a Friday… By Monday he had met someone and said he would never cry again and was moving on.. It hurts very bad that I have been there for him through so much… Legal battles, courts, fines, accidents, DWI’s and have always supported him and stood by him then he meets a girl and says in 3 days they have more than he and I ever had…. It hurts so much becuase myself and his children love him… He even went so far as to sign his rights away regarding his 12 year old daughter, his first child from his first marriage becuase he did not want to finish his 3 month jail sentence for failure to pay support. It makes me feel that now becuase this girl is so great he will treat her as he should have been treating me and our children…. Any thoughts on this are so welcomed….

While driving to work in the morning when suddenly a elderly woman you used to see at the park feeding those disgusting pigeons falls and appears to break her arm but you just keep going because you don’t want to be late or have to explain to the police/ EMT’s why you are drunk in the mornign and driving a 83 Ford Fiesta oft considered the lamest of all cars while your terrible wife drives an Jeep Cherokee becasue of her heritage and casino money?

Should I keep using her as my designated driver?

Should I invite her into the tavern and buy her a beer? I think she is getting bored sitting in the parking lot.

we did get back together about a year after the divorce but we were not re-married. She started drink again after receiving help for her alcoholism and I left her after being together for 5 years. Her dad paid for about a couple of months the bills and rent on our house. Her dad reminded her of that today. I believe I left for a good reason. My ex and I have talked and agreed about getting back together and taking it slow and easy. So how should I talk to her dad because I think at the time my ex and I were pretty immature and now since we are older we both agree that we have made mistakes and are mature. Hope this all makes sense and any replies will be helpful. Thank you.

I do not understand alcoholism, and want to help her, but I don’t know how. She is in Recovery.

She is serving a 10 year sentence. We have a son in which I am the step-father, he is ten years old, and the biological father is now wanting to get full custody. I reside in NC and he in PA. I have been the true father figure for our son since he was four years old. I love him as much as a biological son but now that his mother is in prison for the next 10 years, will I be able to get full custody?

My son was accused of child molestation by his ex wife ,but it was never taken to court and he has been picked up for pot smoking and dwi in his younger days. He is nearly 40 now and has had his life in order for 20 years. Now he wants to marry a filipino woman,Will he be able to get her her ,with this record of his?

Would it be a DWI? Losing your job because you showed up hammered? Your wife and only child leaving you?

Would any of those have impact on you, or would you continue to drink?
When I say “alcoholic”, I am describing someone who drinks a 40 ounce daily – and has such a high tolerance that they do not feel the effects until they have had 3 or 4.
Nes – If you don’t know by now, your boyfriend will never change. Please believe me when I tell you this.