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My sister has a 5 mont old baby boy. She wanted to breast feed but could not due to medical reasons. On Wednesday, when she went to church, I could not baby sit, so she took the baby with her.
(She normally does not take him, because she does not like one of the church nursery workers because she is a self proclaimed “boob nazi” and has talked down to my sister several times about not breast feeding. The only reason she left the baby was becase the pastors wife was slso minding the nursery that night.)
She took his bag, with 2 bottles, and made sure the nursery keepers new they were there. Halfway
thru the service, she went back to check on him, and CAUGHT THE WOMAN BREAST FEEDING HER SON. My sister rushed over to grab him, and the woman TURNED HER BACK to my sister and said
“You can have him when he is done. REFUSED to hand him over. My sister threw a FIT, went into the chapel and told everyone what had happened, and the pastor and many church members went back to
the nursery and got the baby, while my sister called the police. The pastors wife had gone to the office yo make some calls, which is why she was MIA when this happened, BTW.The woman was NOT charged, because the police were unsure what the complaint would be. My sister insisted they take down a report,
because she said she would call the DA personally and make sure the woman was charged, even if she had to file a civil suit and she wanted documentation.
Since then, members of the church as well as the Pastor himself have been harassing my sister to forgive the woman and NOT PURSUE THE MATTER!This woman is a reformed HEOIN USER. Who knows what she could have passed on to the baby.
My question is WHAT WOULD YOU LADIES DO IN THIS SITUATION? If a stranger did this to YOUR BABY.

Let me add: This woman is a “reformed” drug user. Her drug of choice was HEROIN, so who knows what needle bound illness she could have passed on to my little nephew.
My sister is sick over this, not only because of the prior drug use, but because now my nephew is REFUSING to take the bottle.

Thanks for your input/advice. I really want to give my sister some good advice on this. My gut reaction was to beat the he*l out of the woman, which is not a legally acceptable answer. (Even though it should be done).
Don’t know who reported my question as inappropraite, but as you can see, I appealled and won. The powers that be agreed this was a legitimate question and posted it again.

My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years and she’s not been pregnant during our marriage. She has a daughter from a previous marriage and the military gave her a depo shot and she’s not been pregant since. We’re considering fertility drugs and surgery and all that but for now we’re going to keep it simple. We’re trying a fertility cycle where we have sex when she’s ovulating etc. One problem we may have in trying to get her pregnant is that after I release inside her, the sperm leaks out of her vagina. Is this normal? If it isn’t, does this mean she can’t get pregant? If not, is there a way she can keep the sperm in?

Wife has been in rehab twice in past 3 years and has attempted suicide 2 other times. She was awarded temporary custody. I am seeking full custody due to wife’s addiction. She leaves baby with her mother who has also had drug problems. Wife’s mother also abused her severely her as a child. Consequently,she was in a number of foster homes. Wife is defending mother, stating that abuse occurred 25 years ago. Yet wife never allowed her 2 other children by a previous marriage, now 14 and 16, to stay with her mother. My attorney tells me that nothing can be done until our court date in March. I am desperate. Please help with any suggestions. Thank you.

He was often short, ugly and insecure. He would stonewall, and gaslight. He did three tours and Iraq. I have known him for seventeen years. I had no prior romantic interest in him and he put a tremendous amount of pressure on me after he was in divorce proceedings with his wife who asked for a divorce.
He only got married the first time because he got her pregnant after seeing her a month, and this baby I have by him was conceived in spite of birth control and condoms.

He didn’t speak to his mother for over a year after she kicked out his grandchildren over issues that involved control of grandchildren a few months after he got out of the Army. When this happened she focused her anger on me. She looked up my court history that was more than ten years old and mailed it to his ex. She spoke hatefully about me in a verbose manner in an e-mail she sent him and she made sure the pre-school his children attended got a copy of this. His (now) ex-wife had cheated on him and physcially abused him. She also assumed we were romantically involved when we weren’t when he was married and she sent me vulgar, hateful text messages and a year later starting harassing me via crank calls over a two day period. His mother had physically abused him as a child. I helped him care for his children and eventually he had to rent an in-law from my parents. His wife concealed an entire pregnancy from him and binge drank vodka when she was pregnant, and sought no medical attention. This was in part because of the fact she cheated -she didn’t know who the father is-we still don’t know and that child is almost 4. His children are troubled and he can’t see it. She is a very under-involveld/neglectful mother and yet he is supportive of this and intolerant of me. I feel that I am the only “safe” person to take his resentment out on. I no longer speak to him, but I find myself very angry at him for mistreating me. I am currently seeking counseling. I don’t worry about harming either one of my children. I just find myself withdrawn. I have read about emotional abuse and trauma. I have read that emotional abuse is sometimes more psychologically damaging than physical abuse because of its frequency. He was often so ugly and he would needle and needle and needle and I would finally say something hateful and ugly back to him. I don’t want to be that kind of person. My older child is fairly well adjusted. She is academically gifted, adults just love talking to her and she is personable and happens to be a successful child model. I gave a lot of attention to her when she was small-I nursed extensively and spent a lot of time bonding with her. I brought her to counseling when her father was no longer in our lives-the therapist was amazed at her vocabulary by three and after some time felt my daughter was ok to move on. I was always a single mother. She is now ten. I want to be able to give attention to my baby somewhat to the degree that I did my first child(which is impossible because now I have two). I feel as if I stayed there I would be further diminished with nothing left to give my children or myself emotionally. I don’t think it was wrong of me to leave the father of my child in another state. He wanted to get married-I said No. I just find myself so angry at him for mistreating me after knowing me so many years. Is it normal to feel this way?

Felix Benitez, 31, of Atlantic Street, was arrested Saturday night on Pearl Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated.
Police allege Benitez was swerving while driving along the statehighway and was observed to be driving about 15 mph less than theposted 35 mph speed limit at Pearl Street and Mulford Drive.

Benitez’s 2-year-old daughter and his wife were in the car with him at the time of his arrest.

In addition to drunken driving, Benitez was issued tickets for recklessdriving, careless driving, failing to provide a child-safety seat whenrequired, failing to keep right, possessing an open alcoholic beveragein a motor vehicle, DWI with a minor in the motor vehicle, failing toexhibit motor vehicle documents and slow speed impeding traffic.

Benitez’s blood-alcohol content level was 0.11 percent, or 0.03 percent above the state’s legal limit, police said.

A suspected illegal immigrant, Benitez was lodged in Cumberland CountyJail without bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

http://www.nj.com/cumberland/index.ssf/2010/06/bridgeton_police_blotter_inclu_132.html

And another illegal arrested…….Moises Mejia, 24, of North Laurel Street, was arrested Saturday nighton West Broad Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated afterpolice found the car he was driving to be blocking the entrance to theRiverfront parking lot.
Mejia apparently fell asleep at the wheel of the idling car.

In addition to drunken driving, he was issued tickets for driving whileunlicensed, reckless driving and refusing to submit to blood-alcoholcontent testing.
A suspected illegal immigrant, Mejia was lodged in the county jailwithout bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

My boyfriend just left me a little over a week ago. 2 weekends before this he got a dui. That night He came back to my house after he got pulled over and said he deserved it. He needed something to force him to get help. He had been taking like 18 vicodins (with alcohol) a day because he needs major hip surgery and he had become an addict. He told me he was going to detox and rehab. I was all for it. The next day he started to stay with his parents. He talked with the rehab place a couple days later and had been sober for 3 days. The rehab place told him to wait until he got his surgery to do the rehab if he still needed it. They said it sounds as if he was doing great with the detox. We had a long talk and I was going to be there for him. We talked about how much we loved each other and he even said he wanted me to be his wife. 2 days later his ex gf goes to see him with their baby and now he wants to be with her. He did nothing but bad mouth her when I was with him. She hasn’t even worked for years. He said the reason he was going to be with her was because he could see his child. He said I was too busy for him now and he told me he didn’t want me to have to bother with his problems. He told me I had everything in life. he told me he didn’t love her and he loved me. I know there is no price tag on a child, but he is going to get burned again. He thinks she has changed. When we met He said he always went back to her each time thinking she changed and it never worked. His sister even told me she knew it wouldn’t work this time too. I am so miserable and sad. It has barely been a week. I told him I would be there through his surgery and detox and everything.I told him I would change my schedule to work around his and help him thru rehab for his leg and drugs. Now he says he loves his ex and they are going to keep their family together. I tried so many words of encouragement to get him back and sent a card too. I’m lost with out him. Any advice?

Well, here it goes; My wife and I have been together for about 9 years. throughout the years, I was able to support her, I busted my ass working and did what a good family man was supposed to do. She took my two children in from a previous marriage in and she took care of them as if they were hers. The last two years however, I became addicted to opiates and started to become “a piece of s***”. Needles to say, things got really bad and we decided that I would come back to my mom’s house and get my s*** together until I was ready to return home. I was on my way to detox and we had plans to move out of state and she supported my efforts of recovery by coming down with the kids about twice a month and taking care of my “sensual” needs. We were in the movies seeing “UP” with OUR two kids, ages 2 yrs (girl) and 10 months (boy). The person (Terry) that she had been seeing was a mutual friend of ours that lives 50 yards away from our house. In the middle of the movie, my fone starts receiving text messages from Terry which were supposedly forwarded texts from my wife to Terry. VERY SEXUALLY MESSAGES!, the last two where “The 10 month old is my baby” and “Dude, this is Terry, your wife and I have been F******”!

You can only imagine what happened…if interested, write an email and I’ll give you details :o)

But to make a long story short, my wife finally confessed to having an affair with him. However, she says that the affair had just started and that the baby is REALLY mine. I don’t know…Im Mexican, she’s white, and Terry is white. The kid has my ears and general looks, but he also has blue eyes like him. So, I don’t know how far back it really goes. My wife had broken up with him before coming down to the movies with me and that’s why he flipped, because she wanted to be with me and not with him. My wife also tells me that their “thing” was more about money than anything, he had money I didn’t have to give her and he got lucky. She didn’t really want to be with him. Again, I don’t know.

I do know that Terry was VERY angry at her and me because I didn’t just let her go like I was supposed to. Terry wanted her REALLY BAD!, but he doesn’t realise that we have a family together and there is NO WAY she would let me go with so much at stake. I think that Terry saw this as an opportunity to make up for lost time….He is almost 50 and my wife is 27 (I know, sick hu?) and I’m 34. He f****d up his own family before cause of drugs and here he sees a nice little family that he could maybe squeeze into..in the process squeezing me out. We r still trying to work it out, but I don’t know what to do. and then the baby? does their thing really go back for almost two years? Can I ever forgive her? Please, help me sleep :o)

Thanks for your time.

I’m so angry right now I could scream, I was at the park today with my son when an elderly man, his wife and what appeared to be their grand daughter showed up. As soon as The man got out you could tell he was intoxicated the smell of alcohol was overwhelming. I was sitting on a blanket under the trees showing my son what a squirrel was when I hear a loud bang followed by whaling cries. The man who was holding the girl who looked no older then 2 had fallen down the stairs and landed on top of this little girl. I went over to check on the baby holding my own baby when he screamed “get outta here she’s fine”. I was sad that only me and one other mom had the balls to check on that child. I called the police to report this, but by the time they made it “the drunk” was gone. I don’t have a question, but if you really need one I guess I’ll ask what would you have done? I really hope that baby is ok.
Oh I know for a fact drunks have no business watching children. Their judgement is altered and I don’t understand how anyone would leave their child with an impaired person

Mother is in a mental institution for a five-day evaluation. According to my mother, my brother informed her of his intention to send the baby home to be taken care of by my father, my husband and I and my mother while he is working (he’s a Coast Guard and has to be on the boat).

It has already been established by my brother and my father upon his arrival that the mother (19 years old, diagnosed with depression with suicidal tendencies and alcoholism, who has been hanging with people affiliated with gang members and my brother thinks she may have joined because is wearing their colors) is unstable and unfit to care for the child.

My brother also caught his wife cheating after coming home a day early from the boat.

She drinks Hennesey straight out the bottle and uses marijuana (we fear she may be on other drugs because she weighs about 85lbs – was always slim but now it’s very gaunt)

Question: Legally, can my brother send the baby to Michigan from Missouri?
Hex-Currently, the father and mother have equal custody. Baby is 2 months old. Mother still lives with husband. No divorce has been filed or seperation…
Hex-Been married for about a year and a half. Brother signed paternity papers. All are residents of Missouri. Brother is in USCG if that makes a difference.
Hex-Thank you for the info.

My wife and I are trying to get pregnant and I was wondering if having a few drinks one night before we conceived would hurt the baby?

My wife and I are expecting our second child next month, its going to be another girl in addition to the one we already have. We are both pleased, and we are considering having one more child in a couple years….only problem is that we want to have a boy the next time. Is there any drug or herbal treatment on the market that will increase the chances of having a boy, maybe by increasing the Y Chromosone output or something of that nature. If there is something out there, i’d also like to know if it’s considered safe for the parents and the newborn. Anyone ever heard of anything like this? It seems like a very long time ago I did hear of something, but just can’t remember.
Wanted to add, i’m not disappointed in having the two girls I already have(counting the one on the way), but I think alot of people want at least one boy or girl in the mix. Eitherway i’ll be happy with what I get, but there’s nothing wrong with wanted a boy in the mix.